#and idk if that means I’m a trans guy or

[lotshusband]

i got dumped by my bf (we’re both trans) bc the fact that neither of us are amab makes sex dysphoric , it’s not his fault and it’s not my fault and I’m just trying very hard not to blame being trans or born afab etc , yknow it’s not guys faults that i like my body how it is and how it is isn’t super attractive or masculine , ,,, idk if you have any advice but if you did i’d appreciate it

idk how long you guys were together & if it was a “i thought it would be okay but it wasn’t and i’m sorry” after a month kinda vibe (a little more understandable, while still suspect) or if it was a longer relationship, but i still think this is a fucked up reason to dump somebody for no matter how long you were together. anybody can end a relationship for any reason, obviously, but what this tells you about your ex is that he is an immature person with deep-seated issues who was not ready to be in an intimate relationship with you— you do not need to take on his baggage as your own, and your body has no bearing on your worth as a partner or as a trans person.

blaming his boyfriend’s body for his own dysphoria is an insane thing to do, i hope you know that… saying you’re too feminine and that makes him dysphoric is a childish & selfish reaction that raises a major red flag, imo you are lucky to no longer be involved with somebody who so clearly Cannot hang!!! what a cruel thing to express to someone he supposedly cares about.

in my experience, dating another trans person has been a source of nothing but peace and rest. both of us have our own dysphoria issues to work on, but when we’re together it feels like relief from societal expectations, and sex is euphoric because we get to reinvent sex from the ground up— being trans means we get to rewrite the whole script. that’s what T4T is supposed to be like… loving the things that make your partner trans and glorying in trans sexuality, in all the different possibilities and permutations it offers. i hope you get to experience that with your next partner :-/

#nathaniel.txt #replies #anon

[flickering-starlight]

note to self—googling “is it ok to buy a binder if I’m not trans” may actually mean i have some self reflection to do

#haha. hahahaha. #anyways I’ve been using he/she/they pronouns at school and it’s been pretty great #but I was watching umbrella academy last night and #well without spoiling too much #I was watching a scene where viktor comes out to some of his family #and it made me so #so emotional?? #like I felt so seen #and idk if that means I’m a trans guy or #if I just relate because I’m non-binary or gender fluid or whatever #so I’ve got thinking to do for sure #if anyone has experience on this journey I’d love to hear stories and/or advice #but uh. yeah #love to all #ps. the answer to that question is yes #if you want a binder then you can buy one :)

[chialattea]

watching one piece with your father is so humbling because one moment you’re monologuing to him about how incredible Arlong Park is and next thing you know he’s looking at you with a poker face and goes “you just want to marry Nami.” Like okay dad yeah fair but like, THATS BESIDES THE POINT

#chia’s life #one piece #nami #nami one piece #both my parents still can’t believe I am bi #by which I mean they keep asking me whether I’m sure I like men #I came out when I was 11 except my parents always knew I was gay and they just couldn’t imagine me with a man #don’t know what that says about me #also my mother has the most bullshittily good gaydar #one time she he/him-ed this one friend of mine and I was like mom they’re a girl #then next year he came out as trans #and my mom was like he just… felt like a guy #again idk what that says about her but it’s the truth #wlw

[codgod]

i’m always scared that someone is gonna tag my art of guys with boobs as genderbend because like it’s happened a couple times before and i cannot emphasise enough that that’s Not what that is

#.txt #nothing wrong with genderbends it’s just that like #outside of at fanart it’s not something. i’m into drawing #jimmy and tango are no op trans guys slime is a genderfluid shapeshifter they’re not genderbends #<- genderfluid but always uses he/him because i’m not actually a huge fan of changing characters pronouns xD [personally] #[as always other people can do what they want] #[i mean i do have exceptions to this but its for like. specific stuff] #[idk my brain is weird you know how it is]

[floralstorms]

they’re dads..

@sludgemetalsnufkin

#No I did not get emotional while drawing this whatever do you mean /s #bfhgjegdfj.. #Snufkin #Snufmin #Moomin #and their kids #snail and dandelion #dandelion and snail #My art #Dandelion has little patience for fishing #little patience in general #Snail doesn’t understand by gay do crime free nature etc. #The pink one is around after Dandelion’s birth I think #Little my #Moomin loves his partner #Trans Snufkin #by the way #Snufkin’s gender is just vibing I’m not going to specify Idk if he would either I mean he’d probably not label but he’s not cis #Am I projecting yes but that’s not new to me or the fandom so like #Bihvsdbjksdv these little guys are everything #Doodles

[fawn-paws]

The dolly trans women are honestly gonna have to get comfortable with the fact that some trans women are just Some Guy

#i don’t mean trans women are guys btw. I mean like. sometimes a trans woman is like. I’m just some guy (but they’re still a woman) #this probably only makes sense to people it makes sense to. idk how else to word it. #this was spurred on by something that made me ANGY. truscum/transmed people not liking when a trans woman doesn’t ‘pass’ basically #and they don’t want them to be visible as trans women so they invalidate them. and act like THOSE people aren’t real trans women WE are #like we should be appealing to cis people and their ideas of gender and fit into their binary like it’ll make them hate us any less UG #people can be silly with gender. again. gender is a concept made up to oppress us. we don’t have to play by its rules. #SORRY UGH I just. I’m angry. sorry if this is upsetting. I’m just going insane going feralllll

[roaringroa]

oh shit just noticed the only boy i’ve ever been into and who made me question for a long time about being lesbian or bi is liking a suspicious amount of wlw posts on twitter…

👀👀👀👀

…egg?

#not to speculate about his gender/sexuality but… #going through his likes and it’s a lot of sapphic anime fanart (the non overly sexualized ones) a few tweets from sapphic accounts etc #and like it doesn’t necessarily mean anything but i’ve always thought there was something queer about him #and i did ask once or twice if he was gay or bi but he said he thought about it but came to the conclusion that he was only into women #which tracks like he always seemed to genuinely be into girls #like i was his first kiss and it was real cute and he seemed to like it a lot and i did too #even though we never kissed again after that #again not to assign him a gender or whatever but IF he is trans it would explain a few things… #anyway he’s studying abroad so i haven’t seen him in a few years and only keep in contact via twitter so idk how he’s like irl rn #but really wish him the best either way! #also it’s funny that i noticed his likes now cause yesterday i was talking about sexuality with the girl i’m seeing #and i mentioned how he was one of the only things that kept me wondering about being bi until recently #my post #also as as addendum: by only boy i’ve ever been into i mean like after the age of 12 cause before that i had crushes that are prob comphet #OH MY GOD #i was looking through his tweets cause i was trying to see if he's been using any pronouns/gendered words to refer to himself lately #and he doesn't tweet much just likes stuff but a year ago he made a thread about going to a convention and in that thread he said: #'a guy got into the bathroom saw me thought he was in the women's bathroom let's goo' #and then complained about wearing heels for 12 hours for his cosplay #oh yeah #again not to assign a gender but it's looking like trans woman to me #will start adressing them as they/them in my head for now until i see them refer to themselves by gendered pronouns/words again #also their twitter name is their surname and not their given (dead?) name?? yeah... it's looking sus #don't wanna talk about this to anyone i know irl for fear of possibly outing them but dbsoafpdsnf #i wish i could let them know somehow that even though we haven't talked for a while i would support them 100% if they were to transition #it's not my place to do so so i won't but dsaoças sending them good vibes!!!

[mars-ipan]

god i wish this website understood nuance and individual situations better

#marzi speaks #not gonna say too much on it #but the phrase: #‘not every cis gnc person is trans and you shouldn’t conflate gnc with trans’ #and the phrase: #‘a lot of people realize they’re trans after spending some time being gnc’ #can coexist !!!! #those are both true statements !!! #idk. i’m a gnc person who later realized i was trans #my mom is a gnc woman who is not trans. #she’s not an egg. we’ve talked about gender stuff. shems fully comfortable as a woman #i was technically an egg- though due to my genderfluidity i was ok with being perceived as a girl. smth just felt missing #neither of us ‘did it wrong’ #idk i see really intense arguments on both sides of this debate and like . guys it is not that deep please calm down :( #you shouldn’t harrass people and assume their identities for them. there’s also nothing wrong with a silly joke #just PLEASE stop equating people who say ‘hey someone presenting differently doesn’t always mean they’re trans’ to fucking don’t say gay!! #it isn’t ABOUT that stop stop stop !!! #be fucking nice to each other please i’m losing it

[sadiecoocoo]

Kinda crazy that I just had the realization that I am the gay (bi) cousin. Like… shit.

#funny story one of my cousin’s tried to out me #infront of my very Christian and homophobic grandparents and aunt #he was talking abt how he had a trans teacher and stared at me for a second and went #‘what do you think of that’ #I was quiet for a second #and then just said ‘idk 🤷‍♀️’ #I honestly dk if he was asking from curiosity or if he was trying to sort of out me #cuz like idk his stance on all that stuff #but he was home schooled until abt 8th grade #so I’m guessing he has a similar opinion as my aunt #also I jsut don’t like him #he’s kinda an ass #I mean you guys could probably guess with him trying out me but yk

[oatmealmika]

bro i might be a comphet lesbian 😟

#not a bad thing! just am really confused if i actually like men or not #i THINK i do #i mean no lesbian would view aki hayakawa the way i do lol #so… idk #it’s so confusing #send help lmao #i’ve switched back and forth so many times it’s painful #first i’m a cis lesbian (2020) #then i’m genderfluid and bi #and THEN i’m a trans guy and bi #oh maybe i’m nonbinary #yeahhhh #nonbinary and bi (pref for men) (current labels) #oh wait #girl crush is only irl crush i’ve ever had #oh my GOD i think i’m a lesbian #pls read the last tag in a jaiden’s animations voice since that’s how i imagined it sounding while writing it lol

[yeekachu]

💀

#hey guys just a reminder that i’m nb and my partner is a trans man so uh. #seeing anti-trans rhetoric being retweeted on my tl and realizing it’s an irl mutual #sure is something else #🙃🙃🙃 #like you know me!! we’ve been friends for years!! you KNOW me!! #I shouldn’t be surprised bc the friend group was always so mean-spirited for no reason and yet. idk what I expected #(also being very clear that this is happening over on Twitter and not here 💜) #about me #don’t rb

[sharkieboi]

why do my guy exes get so upset when i even suggest i might wanna date a girl

#shhh sharkie #i guess it’s just that most of the guys i’ve dated have been like Gay gay #and not interested in women at all #which ngl is slightly validating as a trans guy but also like #dude i’m bi. i like women. i like everyone! not just men #just cause most of my dating and fucking history is with men doesn’t mean they’re the only ones i’m attracted to #this tangent inspired by my most recent ex getting bent out of shape about me going to a butches event tomorrow night #like??? he started getting sad and was like ‘oh you wont want to hang out with me once you have a girlfriend’ #like mf im just going to a social event for the other gender side of queer that i am it’s not like i’m getting engaged #(i am going with a date but that’s beside the point cause he’s getting weird about it without even knowing that part) #idk why do gay men get insecure about bi men???????? it’s literally not about you at all #and who i choose to date or sleep with has nothing to do with my previous partners’ genders

[pachimation]

redrawing my very first chiscara comic/art i ever did for chscr day!!

old comic under the cut!!

lol a bunch of sappy semi serious stuff below bc i cant help but be a bit genuine about this ship today :’3

i cant possibly put into words how important this silly little ship and its community mean to me haha,,,, this comic was made in 2021 but i didnt really get serious about chscr until late 2022 after a bunch of pretty bad interpersonal stuff happened and i needed an outlet,, COINCIDENTALLY a certain someone was announced to be playable around then and i was already thought chscr was Pretty Neat™️ so i ended up diving headfirst into the ship. it also gave me a good excuse to work on more comics too!! i’d done a pretty big zhongven comic earlier that year in the summer, but in terms of lore there was only so much i could have worked with at the moment.

childe and scaramouche have that perfect combination of silliness and angst and violence that could be explored or expanded in so many ways and i love love love seeing other people’s interpretations of their dynamic and relationship. they’re so complex,,,,they’re narrative foils,,,they’re narrative parallels,,,they’re trans allegories,,,they’re flies in the spiderweb of the games lore,,,they’re my stupid little meow meows,,, they’re just two losers i want to see make out,,,

in a nutshell, they’re everything to me. well, i hope i get that kind of sentiment across in my own comics,,,,

and i cant get started on all the people ive met through chiscara or the way that having something i can call “my thing”, as in, the thing that i like and that i will spend a lot of time and effort (and money, but lets not talk about that) to surround myself with because it makes me smile. its stupid to say, but being a nerd about these two stupid guys who have never had a single canon onscreen interaction in some random game has made me a much happier and confident person that i could have ever imagined back in my freshman year of college,,, when i say i dont know who i’d be if i hadnt gotten into chiscara, i really do mean it lol

i’m actually surprised i’m making it to over a full year of regular-ishly making art, especially for the same game and ship! thats never happened before and my art has improved so much over this past year!! more than anything else, i’m happy! i get to be excited talking about these characters with my friends and i love to see art of them pop up on the tl. i make stickers of them and decorate my phonecase with them and have little figures of them in my room that i look at when im up late at night working on schoolwork. sometimes just the thought of finishing a comic or daydreaming about a scenario or seeing what my mutuals are up to are some of the few things getting me through a tough day.

,,,,so believe me when i say, to both childe and scara and to everyone else as obsessed with these pathic losers as i am, thank you! i’m having a lot of fun!!!

(also i just found out tumblrs copy/paste doesnt work on my ipad??? idk if this ends up legible i may or may not have deleted smth by accident and im not in a mood to proofread haha)

#genshin impact #childe #tartaglia #scaramouche #chiscara #scarachilde #my art #comic #no super long rant in the tags this time bc i already made a chscr rant haha #happy chiscara day everybody!!

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

(This is a resubmission. I sent my original ask I think back in November and I haven’t been able to find it so I reread your FAQ real quick and deduced Tumblr must have eaten it or I won’t find it)(sorry if it has been posted and I missed it)

AITA for kind of leading on my friend who is now my boyfriend back when he thought he was my girlfriend?

(also this isn’t a fandom at all if it got mistaken for that, this is my life somehow)

I dont remember the fake names I used so let’s go with TJ for technically partner, and El and Leo for my sister and her boyfriend.

The long and short of it is, I’m a gay man. Always have been and probably always will be. TJ, Leo and El and I are all pretty good friends even before this.

What basically happened was I had bought tickets to see a movie with a guy I liked, who cancelled on me last minute. It was a movie TJ (at the time identifying as female and had not realized he was a trans man) really wanted to see, so I brought TJ. On what I assumed was a friendship thing.

That’s kind of where it started. From there, there were several events that this guy I liked kept cancelling on me, and as total coincidence I swear, were things TJ liked doing. Movie, zoo, Italian restaurant one time, etc.

(Honestly it got to a point that it was obvious the other guy and I weren’t going to work, so there weren’t any hard feelings there)

This went on for a few months before Leo mentioned how cute we were together. I wasn’t sure what he meant and he and El admitted that they thought that TJ and I were dating, that I was actually bi and had decided to go out with TJ. (Who just for the record is Leo’s brother so he saw how happy TJ apparently was lately)

Anyway all that freaked me out and I didn’t realize that TJ and the others thought I liked TJ like that. I mean at the time I thought we were just really good friends, and it’s not like there’s anything about TJ at the time that would have made him a bad girlfriend, just that I wasn’t interested in girls.

Until TJ came out to me as trans. I hadn’t known whether to tell TJ the truth or not, and then when he came out to me I realized how much he trusted me and I couldn’t. Hurt him like that.

But now he’s like, literally the hottest guy ever and I’m honestly really glad I stuck it out because now we’re definitely dating and I’m the luckiest guy ever.

But I still wonder if I was the asshole for never being honest, and if I still am for still not telling him the truth. Like, if I WAS honest, maybe I wouldn’t be dating him now. Idk.

Am I an asshole?

(ps: @throw-it-out-boys is my throwaway sideblog for this, so I’m tagging it so I’ll get a ping if this one is posted. In theory)

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[waiitwotworkshop]

*ahem* gaang headcanons? very specifically, transfem zuko headcanons?

YAYY

Zuko goes by Lin and everyone thinks that’s her new name so they try not to deadname her, so when anyone refers to her as zuko they all cringe and try to defend her. Only for her to be like ‘idk why you guys kept calling me Lin, we’re not in public”

Zuko is sm more sensitive abt her hair. She is crying inside when she cuts it off at the end of s1 when it starts growing back in she’s so happy. It grows back a little wavy and it’s such a cute cut that makes her look feminine even w short hair.

Somehow attracts guys while working at the tea shop. This includes jet (ugh) but ultimately they don’t go further than some weird flirting which is actually just insulting each other. Jin still has a crush on her but she doesn’t go on a date with her because iroh just assumes she’s straight(it’s debatable)

Sokka rlly likes girls who can beat him up so naturally he gets a crush. This hot girl is mean to him but sometimes laughs at his jokes he’s absolutely falling for her. And he loves to treat her delicately even though she can clearly handle herself. This is where we get into some divergence from canon (other than the obvious lmao) canon zuko would not want someone to treat him so fragile but Sokka does it so lovingly that she can’t help but love it. Like ‘omg a puddle let me carry you over it so you don’t get mud on your shoes :3’ just being such a gentleman and zuko is so in love with it because she’s never been treated so gently. Ugh just imagine him being so lovesick over zuko, like ‘yes darling, anything u say darling ^^’ this is basically canon do u see the way he treats suki lol. I just love the thought of this grumpy loser doing a complete switch when it comes to zuko.

She wouldn’t go back to the firenation with Azula because she /can’t/ her father would definitely not accept her like this so this is a hypothetical but she would hate being expected to be Mai’s bf again. And she tries to give her a seashell bc she thinks it’s nice and /she’s/ a girl and likes it so why the hell doesn’t Mai like it too. She’s definitely jealous of the girls getting attention so her and azula r just pissed together.

Zuko is 10x more nervous around katara bc she desperately wants them to be friends. She just thinks back to how Azula made friends so easily and how zuko was so bad at it/didn’t want to hang out with guys that she just tagged along like a loser. She’s so desperate to finally make her own friend that she also tags along to wherever katara is and cringes at herself every time they interact. When suki joins the gaang and three of them hang out she’s secretly ecstatic.

I will literally go on abt trans girl zuko forever I’m so happy to have an excuse to talk abt her someone please ask me more

#transfem zuko #trans zuko #atla #atla zuko #zukka #waiitwotmyart

[mars-ipan]

had a bit of an epiphany but idk how to word it nor who true it is

#the way i WANT to phrase it is as follows #‘guys…. am i the yaoi mutual?’ #but that doesn’t quite convey like. the full thought process behind it #i was thinking like #ok i value m/m and w/w ships equally obviously. like ofc #that being said. the things that end up appealing to me more when i get into fandoms tend to be m/m #and i was wondering why #like. maybe it’s bc i’m afab and even though i’m genderfluid being able to see myself in a male character is very refreshing and comforting #it has nothing to do with sex or anything bc i’m ace and narrative homoeroticism is equal among all genders #(although tbf m/m homoeroticism tends to be written differently from w/w homoeroticism but that doesn’t mean too much in fanspace) #i do not understand why this trend happens in my brain. especially considering i’d call myself sapphic before i call myself mlm #(but labels are tricky and contradictory when ur gender is incapable of staying still) #but. idk it’s there #and then we throw the trans hcs in there #did you know i hc maeda as nb transfem. he/she/fae specifically. bc that feels right to me #idk i am def thinking too hard about it #this thought pattern is probably left over from me being 13 and liking yuri on ice #without understanding why it appealed to me so much #(i didn’t know i was queer yet) #and so i tried really really hard to be as normal about it as possible because i was NOT a fujoshi #and ig i still have that impulse to go ‘i’m not fetishizing!! i don’t have a preference!!!’ #but i mean like. most of my favs are m/m. ofc they’re not ALL i like but they’re the ones i tend to go crazy about #i also read more fic abt those ones but i’m pretty sure that’s just bc of popularity factors #idk where i’m going with this. 100% overthinking it’s late n the brain has been acting up #maybe the real yaoi cocaine was the generalized anxiety disorder we were diagnosed with along the way #anywho. i still haven’t fully parsed this thought into words but that’s ok #i think i may just be feeling genderweird rn #the question still stands though. mutuals i’m not the yaoi mutual right. am i. i’m not right. right