#and cultural conformity or something

[squarebracket-trickster]

Sorry guys, rant incoming. I considered deleting this but I put too much effort in.

"girlboss" "girl dinner" "girl math" "boy math" "gen z are making fun of us for wearing x" "here's how to dress like gen z:" "girlies" "girl's night" "boy's night" "me and the boys" "90s kid"

"I don't feel like an adult" "I'm 34 and I can tell you, I still don't feel like an adult either." "My parents seemed like real adults when they were my age." "I still feel like a teenager."

Maybe you'd feel more like an adult if you started calling yourself one. Maybe you'd feel more like an adult if you stopped trying to dress like a teenager. Maybe you should move your bed out from the wall and get a wallet. Maybe find a calendar app that works for you.

You are an adult. Even if you live with your parents. Even if you do part-time shift work at minimum wage. Even if you haven't graduated college. Even if you are single. These are adult things to do. Because you are doing them. And you are an adult. Start treating yourself like an adult. Fake it 'till you make it if you have to.

In other, writing-related, news:

That trend on TikTok of 20-40 something women authors (and writers yet to be published) promoting their books like,

"Omg! I can't believe I've sold X number of copies!! I never thought I would!" "Ahhhh imagine publishing your book and all your dreams come true and now you get to meet famous authors and work with big names in the industry!!" "Would you read a book where [proceeds to list a bunch of oversaturated tropes that tell me nothing about the actual plot]?"

It reeks of infantilization. If you didn't believe anyone would want to read your book, why should I? You made it on the NYT bestseller list! Stop acting like a mega-fan who got to meet a celebrity. You are their peer! "Would you read a book--" What if I wouldn't? Why does it matter to you what I think of your book? And for the love of god stop hiding behind tropes you know are already popular. "Here is my book: This is what it is about." Have some goddamn confidence.

It is fine to mention in passing "this idea was really far-fetched so I didn't know if it would appeal" or "I was struggling with self-esteem when I wrote this". It's fine to fan a little bit. It's fine to discuss the tropes in your book. But why are you building your brand as an author off of your inferiority complex? You are using your poor self-esteem as a marketing tactic to seem "humble" and "relatable" but it's coming across as unprofessional and desperate for reassurance. You are an adult. You are competent. The more you act like it the more you will believe it.

And of course, I haven't seen a man promote his book this way...

On another note, do any of the 20-40 something women writers who do "write with me" videos on TikTok actually enjoy writing or are they just doing it for the aesthetic?

They all have gorgeous minimalism writing spaces full of white and pink and a macbook beneath a window. Their makeup is done and they are conventionally pretty to start with. But their entire video is just them talking about how little progress they made, how many pages they deleted, how often they got distracted, how frustrated they are. And like, yeah. We all have those days. But what about the good lines you can't wait to share? The days when the words just flow? The cool stuff you learned while researching? Why don't you ever make videos about that?

Is this some other attempt to seem "relatable" by only talking about the "bad" side of writing? Because again, it's coming across as lacking confidence at best and, at worst, that you don't actually know how to write. And that is not the brand you want as an author.

Again, its always women. Why must women market their self-esteem issues in order to sell their art? Why must we be perpetually awestruck children (girlies, book girls) in over our heads?

#also why do I get the sense these women are selling a lifestyle more than they are actually promoting their own books? #I feel like someone more qualified than me could link this to modelling good christian gender roles #and cultural conformity or something #it isn't lost on me how much of this is about trying to seem humble #and how much validation is tied to protestant success and hard work ideas #is this where the indoctrination starts? #give us 'role models' as influencers #also Alex Aster of Lightlark fame is the WORST for this #her content makes me physically sick to watch #and again interesting that it is pretty widely agreed on at this point that she is an industry plant #interesting that the industry plant is leaning so heavy on the humility and infantilization of women tactics #as though appealing to protestant christians is a major concern of the industry #what's that about? is it just sales? or is it related to those evangelical groups trying get books banned? #how much influence does conservative christian america have within the trad pub industry? #maybe I am really reaching here idk #I don't have any sources #it's just speculation I am open to be proven wrong

[calpalsworld]

been pissed off for a while how 3 of my characters have sameface so i redesigned 2 of them

#i want to redesign a lot of the characters rn because they arent the right style / level of exaggeration that they should be!!!!!!! #i really want OU to be more reminiscent of cheap/experimental 50s animation (like UPA or something) #i also want all their character designs to easily translate to paper cut outs because i am heavily considering doing it in that media #i want it to be reminiscent of 50s cartoons because in USA culture the style is very ingrained with the image of conformity #and patriotism UGH #and i want to contrast those themes with.... THE EPIC HORROR? #plus the art style is pretty cool and surreal lookin lol #oregon ultimatum

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is almost having a panic attack over the subtle pride design of your jacket (a triple moon, with the grayro flag bordering the full one) even tho most people don’t know what aromantic even means let alone the micro labels but being out is SCARY

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#mcr-and-musicals #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod alexander #honestly my main yikey vibe is dealing with bus drivers in my area #the city as a whole is chill about pride and queerness #but bus drivers are often from the extremely conservative cities nearby #and they don't know or care what the flag is just that i am NOT conforming to something

[gynkgobilobo]

Something something, the drastic difference of "gender nonconformity" prevalence between heterosexual women and homosexual women is that said phenomenon in the latter category is excused via homophobic remarks that point towards sexual orientation as determinant factor for so-said nonconformity. Sexual attraction towards females being wrongfully categorized as something "inherently male" is what drives the dismissal of gnc traits found in lesbians as something to be expected based on this brand of homophobia, casual or otherwise. The excuse does not do causation, it merely pardons its happenings

Heterosexual women however, as unable to hide under the "veil of anomaly" (which I am not at all claiming is an advantage) find themselves in the position to either delude themselves into thinking they could ever alter their sexual orientation, force themselves into conformity ("growing out of it" isn't used correctly in the context of what actually happens, i.e. coercion) or to "transition" (as in forcing conformity in a different font). It should also be mentioned that some weaponize this concept of conformity as something that determines them to be the standard of normalcy against women who do not perform up to the same standard in fear that all their shitty gendered martyrdom must've been for something (it's not, yet captains die with their ships and polly wants a cracker)

In truth, gnc culture in LGB spaces is in fact a mirror into the untapped potential of heterosexual society should they renounce the laws of "gender"

#I got a bigger wordvomit on this but that's all you're getting for now #gender does not exist (gigachad radfem edition) #and also there is no such thing as male or female traits based on the laws of universality and exclusivity #←but those can exist also on their own and still speak volumes #something something pressure to conform #no i don't believe all of you tomboys were having 'just a phase' #←perhaps some of you were genuine but i don't believe the other yous made that decision on your full will #←because if you were homosexuals you WOULD have used that as an excuse to be gnc #what does heterosexual culture do but come up with laws of inhibition and reductionism?

[heroselect]

🐖 i am not necessarily a fan of the new haircut on mako, but

damn, if that jacket ain’t THE COOLEST THING

#(OOC.) #i like to HC him either part or fully maori #and long hair is a big thing in the culture so idkkkkkk #plus it feels like he's conforming to junkertown culture and that is just??? something he would not do #the long hair was the one thing that made his appearance softer imo #you're allowed to like the new design of course! #but i have... thoughts(tm)

[aceaceace144616]

How am I supposed to be bisexual AND trans?

Someone please give me instructions

#ive watched several a video essay #about how bisexuals dont have a concrete community #with well defined history and culture and societal expectations and norms #and i got my ears pierced today #and i got them both done because there isn't a bisexual ear #and there aren't bisexual clubs #and there isn't a way to exist simultaneously in both queer and straight communities #being trans im already part of the queer community #and thus can just conform to that society expectation #but then am i too queer to have a girlfriend? #do i just want to not worry about feeling disconnected from my family and peers and act as straight passing as possible? #is any relationship im in automatically queer because of my transness #and i hoping for something that will never be possible for me? #is the act of hoping this betraying the queer community? #but similar to that. is the act of wanting to pass as cis betraying the trans community? #is the ceaseless pressure to fit neatly into a predetermined box of social expection n #ot the point of the queer community coming together? #i dont know how im supposed to exist #i dont know how to live my life #i have never seen anyone like me get old before

[greengrassandcyansea]

Sometimes you have to go off your phone/computer and go outside. The reality you’ve created in your head is not what’s happening in the real world you have to log off for a while I’m so serious

#i saw a post and was kinda shocked #not shocked but more flabbergasted #ohhhh you live like this? like you are soooo ingrained in tumblr/internet culture that you literally think this is an issue #like you think you are a victim. when all you do is conform to societal standards #regarding your gender. #do you want praise? do you want a gold sticker ‘i conformed to what society wants me to’ ? #do you want to be praised for being a ‘real girl?’ compared to the other ones? #what are you doing? who are you doing it for? why are you doing this? #it reminds me of those asks like ‘but blah blah character would love a skinny girl right🥺🥺🥺🥺???’ #are you hearing yourself. are you. #it’s just baffling to me #just take a moment to think before commenting something like that or like ‘oh thank you for saying it’s okay to enjoy wearing makeup- #because sooo many people don’t wear makeup now it’s like we’re a minority of women wearing makeup now we’re basically oppressed’ #of course I’m exaggerating here but you all know what I mean here we’ve all seen post like this #(the post that made me type this was not about makeup btw) #At a certain point ​you HAVE to wake up because this is embarrassing

[screenviolense]

thoughts on atsuko + childhood/"childish behavior". now i will preface this with the fact that it's been a hot minute since i watched the movie and i've never read the novel (?) but i think in a way her story can be seen as like. she's someone who's repressed her childish self so heavily for whatever reason that her dream self is someone entirely different from her and is someone who's a lot more carefree and fun and regularly wears silly costumes in dreams. and her love interest in the end is the guy who everyone makes fun of for being unapologetically more "childish"

again, just going off what i remember about the movie, i think atsuko was probably a bit of a dork growing up and maybe even bullied for her interests which resulted in her pushing down those nerdy hobbies away and focusing on more serious and "adult" things until she ended up where she is now. as herself in the real world, she definitely has a difficult time engaging in things like video games or toy collecting or even reminiscing about her own childhood.

#✦ ooc #✦ atsuko 「paprika」 * headcanon don’t you think the internet and dreams are similar? #also the idea of conformity in japanese society is probably also something buti don't really have all the cultural context to write about t

[amerasdreams]

I am NEVER doing anything just to satisfy a stereotype of what my gender "should" look like or do.

I'm never doing anything just to surrender to cultural pressure.

#why don't you just-- #Everyone is an individual #The more free a society is the more diverse it will be #Because the more people feel comfortable enough to be themselves #And no one is exactly the same as anyone else #No one should feel pressured to do anything #Unless it's something that genuinely hurts others. #This is the ideal society. #An individual must have complete freedom #If they're also to obey their conscience and not be #The more you deviate from the norm= the higher the cultural pressure #The more you conform= the less you feel the pressure and the more comfortable you are #Maybe it does fit you #But don't come to others and say guided #By higher authorities #However. There will always be bad apples #And the vulnerable MUST be protected #This is what government is for.

[jimmy-dipthong]

I’ve been having trouble putting this idea into words so you’ll have to bear with me, but I was struck when I saw a Japanese news program interviewing foreign tourists in Japan, and some australian women were dubbed over with a stereotypically feminine speech register (lots of のs and わs), and my first thought was “they weren’t speaking that femininely in english”.

A friend of mine from the UK recently mentioned that he noticed that australia has a generally more masculine culture than england - he felt that everyone is a bit more masculine here, including women. This kind of confirmed to me that my impressions of the dubbing were right - the tourists were speaking in a relatively (internationally) more masculine way. Yet their dub made them sound so much more feminine.

It made me wonder. When translating something, do you translate the manner of speaking “directly”, or “relatively” in terms of cultural norms? Maybe this graph will help me explain the question.

A direct appoach in this case might appear to a Japanese person to result in an unexpectedly masculine register, but preserves how the speaker's cultural upbringing has influenced their speech.

The news program translators chose the relative approach - I think I would prefer the direct approach. I think I prefer it because I believe translation should be a rewriting of the original utterance as if the speaker was originally speaking the target language, and the direct approach compliments that way of thinking the best.

Actually now that I type that, I’m second guessing myself. Does it? It does, if for the purposes of the “rewrite it as if they spoke japanese” thought experiment, we suppose the speaker magically learned japanese seconds before making the utterance, but what if we suppose the speaker magically grew up learning japanese - then maybe they would conform to the relative cultural values. But also, maybe they would never have said such a thing in the first place - their original utterance was informed by their upbringing and cultural values, so how could you possibly know what they would have said if they had known japanese from birth? Maybe my initial instinct was right after all?

If you work in translation, I’m very interested to hear if you have come across this problem and how you deal with it 🙏

Further reading: I think this question also ties into this problem I’ve been struggling to answer for a while.

#linguistics #language #langblr #japanese #japanese language #translation #jimmy blogthong