#and be better off and happier for it

[theminecraftbee]

okay, so in a rare moment for me, there's a discourse thing i want to bring up, and that thing is. okay. so on iskall's stream there's this thing that can happen where someone brings up a criticism of his content or vault hunters. frequently it's self-evidently wrong, but sometimes it's not. and then iskall spends the next thirty minutes shadowboxing this guy, explaining himself, and completely derailed. and this is an iskall trait we all know and sigh bemusedly about, because he cares about the community and wants people to understand his intentions! he wants the community to understand his decisions!

however, it's not the community as a whole he's fighting; he is in fact, arguing with One Guy, who often doesn't represent the wider community, and who normally won't have their mind changed. hell, sometimes it's believable that they're satisfied having just managed to upset iskall, and they'll leave, no change to their mind, perfectly pleased that iskall's responding at all (that's what i firmly believe the people who poke at the 'you don't upload enough and that means you're falling off and a bad person' wound are trying to do, at least).

in the vault hunters community, we refer to this as iskall getting One Guyed, and it's typically viewed as bad, because it ends up focusing an entire moment on a single guy's negative opinion as opposed to on the larger picture. and it's an understandable thing to have happen! but it's frustrating to watch from the outside.

and so now i am looking at that cat poll. and the way everyone is still shadowboxing someone who has since apologized. and the way i would have never ever known about any of the negative comments about jellie if it weren't for fellow mcyt fans constantly putting them on my dash to dunk on them. and it's like. if you look through the notes most of them are just... normal? it's only a tiny few of people (and the pollrunner, who has since apologized) who were being dicks. it's a very, very ignorable demographic.

but. well. there was One Guy. and we had to correct them.

and folks, i don't know how to say that i almost never see "lol mcyt is cringe" type comments unless one of you puts it on my dash. both because i don't go looking through the notes of things that are likely to have them or go looking for reasons to be upset and because it's just... not that common! very frequently these days it is, in fact, One Guy!

i have almost never seen that poll on my dash without at least one instance of the One Guy. instead of being for fun, it's mostly become about explaining ourselves to someone who will not listen and will not change their minds, and treating this as a the whole of the Other Side of that poll, when most people are being... fine. they're fine! the majority of the people voting for the other side are doing it for perfectly normal reasons that don't require fighting about.

and man. let me tell you. after spending as long as i have watching vault hunters development? it can be just as frustrating to watch a fandom get One Guyed as it is to watch iskall.

#discourse #i am immediately turning notes off for this post as a heads up because i HATE discoursing but #man. i feel like i need to point this out. #sometimes you'll be happier if you go 'that was One Guy huh. better just block them and move on. i won't change their mind.' #one day this fandom will learn. #cat of the year poll #<- for those also trying to block it #also i know in many ways this is just me contributing i'm aware of my flaws #but sometimes i think this fandom needs to step back and realize it doesn't really need to fight the world. #sometimes someone says a mean thing. that sucks! you do not need to fight them for two days about it though. #and we do this with polls but also other people's innocuous comments SO MUCH. #so here i am.

[plutonicbees]

in distress. stuck in universe city. send help.

last drawing for ace awareness week! i always say that aled last is so gender but i am also enthralled by their hints of demisexuality throughout heartstopper/radio silence and the fruition of it in his coming out scene with daniel. love aspec representation in the osemanverse, ty alice <3

[id in alt text]

#hand doodles are definitely via frances #tumblr makes it look shit but click on image for better quality and glimpse star freckles :) #this was supposed to be a happier aled bc they've got their post-depression post-coming-out era pink hair #but i was listening to the radio silence audiobook while drawing and it was the second half of the book.... #bg is based off of aled's tattoo from a drawing alice posted on instagram a few months ago ⛤<3 #aled last #aled last fanart #radio silence #radio silence fanart #universe city #osemanverse #osemanverse fanart #radio silence alice oseman #heartstopper #aled heartstopper #aled radio silence #fanart #art #drawing #artists on tumblr #my art #aspec #demisexual #aspec character #asexual awareness week #ace awareness week #alice oseman #digital art #heartstopper fanart #heartstopper comic

[pinkd3mon]

Redrew this illustration from the novels

#kirby #kots #kirby of the stars #kirby fanart #hoshi no kirby #dedede #king dedede #meta knight #i just find their dynamic in the novels extremely charming #it started with Dedede thinking he's besties with Meta Knight or something and Meta being fed up with him #and ended with Meta Knight enjoying his time with Dedede so much specifically because he likes to piss him off #meta knight enjoys seeing dedede being a dumbass so much it fills his heart with joy #and mine #if you read the novels chronologically you can actually tell Meta Knight starts being happier by the last ones and I love that #he's just giggling and laughing and king dedede is confused and wants to be offended but also proud #i also love how their dynamic changed around the middle #right around the strongest warrior in the galaxy #everyone was like 'noo Meta Knight wouldn't do this he has to be possessed' and Dedede is 'he would totally do this' #and then he's proving right by the end i love that for him #dedede knows meta knight better than anyone and he knows that man is an ASSHOLE /pos #i loved their dynamic in the rtdl novel a lot too truly the adhd vs autism of all time

[front-facing-pokemon]

#absol #they look happier than umbreon which is strange to me. umbreon being all sad and angry while absol #known widely as The Edgy pokémon‚ is like. smiling a little bit. they're vibing they're totally fine #they're glad they got to be in rescue team #you go girl. go off‚ absol. even in rescue team they didn't feel like they had a Super cohesive tie to the story besides Being There and #helping and whatever but maybe that's just rescue team being my least favorite pmd game. but maybe that's part of *why* #if i'm right. i might not be right. maybe i just didn't pay enough fuckin attention in rescue team. there's *two of them*. someone out there #must like them enough for there to be a remake. and i know the general pmd community considers rescue team better than the 3ds games bc they #'re all nostalgia-driven like all pokémon fans and think that the older games are OBVIOUSly better even though the 3ds titles are #total masterpieces just like the rest of pmd. i'm not gonna complain abt this here bc i think the general pmd fanbase on tumblr are like #generally pretty nice and appreciate the 3ds games. y'all are nice here. elsewhere it gets scary. luckily everywhere else is crashing and #burning before our eyes. score. although apparently tumblr is also trying to given the whole “collapse reblogs” thing they're doing?? #big yikes. hope that doesn't happen. anyway

[strawberry--scribbles]

ive got to admit, it's getting better! (a little better all the time!!)

#it cant get much woorse 🎵🎶 #this was supposed to be a doodle of an oc w an outfit i wore one time. what happened. #strawberryscribbles #art #ibispaintx #I FORGOT HER EYEBAGS. EXPLDOES #its fiiine its fine. this is her if she lived to 22 and was happy. idk if shed still be using she/her exclusively if she was happy though #'beware the pipeline' and its 17 yr old evie she/her -> 22 year old evie she/they #newly fixed cherry they/them -> pre rr cherry he/they -> 43 year old cherry he/him. and he just gets happier and happier. #lyrics from getting better by the beatles off sg peps. not reflective of the character just seemed like a requirement for this one #im just yappin at this point #does anyone even read this far.... on this blog....... #hi hello for the love of god hello #go listen to oingo boingo i am the walrus and thank me later #wooo hooooo #the beatles #< for blacklist purposes SORRY #oh aaaanfd full version in the rbs #eyestrain

[cowboyshit]

it could just be because I am in a bad mood and because I (personally) like hangman a lil thick, but the minute the body shaming line hit I mostly checked out

#same with mjfs barrage of body shaming comments earlier #I was already a bit ticked off about those comments #I’m sure I’ll get into it more as it develops #hell maybe even watching it back when I’m in a better mood I’ll feel happier about it #just so Tired of the cheap heat #ashleys talking again

[inkedmyths]

Alright team! Let's Sa-SQUASH the competition!

#splatoon #splatoon 3 #splatfest #team bigfoot #nessie vs aliens vs bigfoot #art #ink arts #my art #splat team posting #WAY happier with this one than i was with last fest's #dynamic poses are just better and also I felt like everything was just. off. with my last art #anyways i live in bigfoot territory so its only right yknow?

[detransraichu]

broooo not my ex making posts abt how hard it is to come to terms with being conventionally attractive while having low self-esteem issues and how wild it is to get compliments randomly on their appearance when they go out and how they're worried that their new transmasc boytoy is only into them bc they're hot -_- i'm tired... meanwhile i'm just seen as a gremlin now that i'm not hyperfem... they truly have the biggest issues in the world lol

also they were like "omg turns out i'm not ace i just needed a bf lol" and i'm like yeah. i know. you've been lusting after male characters for years. you were horny as fuck just not for me bc i didn't transition. you only made moves on me when you were bored, lonely or drunk. i always asked if that was the case and you were like no baby it's just your insecurities i don't need you to transition uwu. for 5 years. my trust issues are thru the roof now yayyyyy /dies

#lay text #i'm being mean and petty ugh #my heart kinda hurts but talking w my counsellor abt it helped #it rly helps to have a neutral third party to vent to #also i still think my ex is a good person i don't actually hate them i love them as a friend. but i do hate what they did to me #i hate that they went along w us dating bc they're too much of a doormat. i hate that they thought abt breaking up w me for years #but never told me bc they were worried i wouldn't survive without them financially or emotionally #feels so fucking infantilizing #now i'm so much better off without them despite being broke #that was my first and only real relationship my first time my first everything. i'm so embarrassed wtf i was RIGHT i was right all along #i was right it wasn't just insecurities they straight up never wanted me they wanted future transitioned male-passing me #it was all lies!!! from the get-go!!! meanwhile i did so much romantic bullshit and i was wearing rose colored glasses!!!! #and i was a big dyke. being with a woman who identified as a woman would've made me 2000x happier anyway. we could've just stayed roommates #i'm so bitter guys. i feel so jaded but i'm trying not to be :/ #and now they have so much luck in their love life #and i'm just a lonely gremlin dyke who only attracts polyam/casual girls who only want me on the side #where tf is my love story :'( i've been trying SOOO FUCKING HARD to gain my ex's affection for 5 freaking years i was the most loveydovey g #i deserve a love story i think i've really earned it by now!!!!! #so much love to give #now they have it so easy wtf. feels unfair ngl. i'm happy for them obviously they deserve happiness too. but i am still bitter >:/ #trying to process these feels instead of repressing them for once. i have a tendency to bottle up angst bc i think i'm bad for being mad #but nope those r healthy emotions!!! i can work thru this #it just sucks #if you read all of this bs i give you a cookie 🍪 <3

[angelnumber27]

I’ve been so much more just.. idk happy I guess in general lately and I am so beyond thankful

#ive been making sure I do things throughout my days that I enjoy. things that make me feel good and make me smile #I’ve been working on changing my mindset- ie when I automatically think smth negative about myself out of habit I make myself aware of that #and then change the narrative. by reminding myself those things are not true. #I’ve grown to see I have so much more control than I realized. I think that’s the way it is for lots of us #I get to choose when I wake up if I’ll let the awful trauma nightmares consume me for my whole day and ruin it #or if I will say hey they’re just nightmares. I’m okay. I’m here I’m breathing and it’s another day #i could go on forever about this so I will stop lol #I’m just very very very very thankful #and working my ass off to create a better happier life for myself

[freakylilnutjob]

I can’t believe I was sitting on my couch looking for something new to watch, happened upon Heartstopper, read the synopsis and said “that sounds cute, let’s try it out” and here I am two and a half months later, finally accepting myself, getting more involved/informed with everything LGBTQIA+, reading again, creating again… this show is literally life changing. I don’t know that I would have ever truly accepted me for me if I hadn’t seen it. I wouldn’t be so inspired like I am right now. I am forever grateful for this show.

#literally life changing #< idk how many times I’ve said that since I watched Heartstopper for the first time #it just makes me so happy #I just feel so much better #don’t get me wrong #I still have plenty bad days #and a lot of growth to go through #but I am happier #and it is because of Heartstopper #sorry for a sappy post but I had to get it off my chest… #I could literally like write a dissertation on this show and what it means to me #I love it so much #heartstopper #might delete this later idk

[aflockofravens]

Holy fuck I just finished Attack on Titan and Jesus Christ did Mikasa get the short end of the stick

#i know i know #I'm so far behind but at least it's done now #seriously though #the rest of the gang got a little epilogue that sums up what they're doing/done #even Historia who hasn't really been present for a while #and Mikasa gets a tiny thumbnail during credits where the only thing you can really make out is her body at the end of her life #I'm actually so mad about it #don't get me started on how she spent her whole life pining after the toxic ass shit head that is Eren Jaeger #but to know that SHE ends up being the reason for everything Ymir does because of her love for Eren #and then doesn't even get a proper ending? bullshit #i would have been happier if it had ended just after she walked off into the desert #after Armin talks down the Marleyan commander #fade to black roll credits #but that's my own personal opinion I guess #spoilers #attack on titan #aot #mikasa ackerman #deserved better

[alexa-crowe]

i know it shouldn’t bother me when people say that dad!gale enjoyers are ignoring gale’s characterization but i can’t help it. it’s not hating gale as a dad that gets me, it’s the idea that “one side” is right and the “other” is wrong. like did the idea that the lines where gale says he’s not father material were written specifically to go both ways simply not occur to some of you? that seems to be the logical conclusion and yet i keep seeing people (mind you, only anti-dad!gale people—not once have i seen a dad!gale enjoyer shame someone for not liking the idea) claim that there’s a correct interpretation! like what happened to live and let live? 😭

#personally i think it has less to do with him thinking he’d be a bad dad #and more that he literally has never thought about having kids bc he’d never found someone to settle down with #and then i also have him and my tav taking yenna back to waterdeep with them #bc gale does camp cooking and yenna says she’ll cook so i like to think they bonded over cooking dinners #and then in the fic gale’s fam runs a restaurant and yenna will go into that #and it’s simply the fact that it seems like a really good environment for yenna so gale’s like well. #we’re taking the kid with us and we’ll figure out the rest later! spontaneity can be good sometimes! #tbh if there’s a character i think would absolutely not want kids it would be astarion i think he’d have his fun babysitting and coming over #but i think he’d be better off—and happier—without them. free to explore himself unburdened. #rambling

[nightfallsystem]

u guys ever think about killing urself for everyone elses sake.

just so people wont have to go thru the annoyance of talking to me or the disgust of seeing my face so they can be happier by talking to their other friends instead of me so they dont have to deal with my actual fucking stupidity

#tw vent #tw suicide #ingnore this. btw. or dont i cant stop you lol #imsso close to cutitng off everyone i know so they can be happier i alreadyblocked a few people i knewnow ionly know one person irl #imf so glad she found other people so she'll be completely fine if i disappear out of her life her life sounds like its going great actuall #ruining my life ^_^ #i dont want to talk to people but for their sake #IM GENUINELY SO FUCKING STUPID AND UPSETTING TO TALK TO . #does anyone even love me anymore #im probably doign this for my own selfish reasons #i dont go outside anymore for everyone else sake. so they dont have to see my ugly face. or deal with my awful speech #at least i can still draw.... only way i can mkae people happy.. #im mean to myself more than anyone else is mean to me at htis point. why #im not even capable of becoming mentally well at hthis point. im a lost cause #tell me what you rlly think . just tell me to shut the fuck up. just call me annoying. whatever u say cant be worse than what i do to mysel #pleasee im just dragging u down and making u feel worse whenever u tlak to me DO YOU NOT REALISE IT #i dont want to feel better for myself i want to feel better so i can be useful to others #i fucking hate people but i love them a lot . i gues i just hate how i affect others. social outcast i guess

[dreamiara]

his stupid baka life.......

#my poor baby :( #im really glad that he got it all off his chest #and i think the video was brilliant #even though it made me so so so sad so many times #poor baba.... #but. onto better and happier things! #i believe that the future is bright and that the following year will bring good moments :) #love you guys

[gideonisms]

to the many people who saw my router modem griddlehark yesterday and said "yes you are crazy," you will be happy to note that I spoke to multiple people in person today and it DID make me less insane, unfortunately

To the people who said "abi, you're absolutely right," I am baking you bread. It's not MY locked tomb brain rot it's OUR locked tomb brain rot

To the one person whose only comment was that my modem and router should be farther away from each other, I'm obsessed with you. However I can't separate them! That's griddlehark

#i'm lying i put them a little bit more distant #okay actually. i'm lying again i didn't but it's because i forgot and as soon as i get up off this couch i will (truth) #anyway you know what i think? i think failing to adequately interact with people irl should have no mental consequences #i think god (hypothetical) should give that to me for free #i should not be struggling to eat and do basic chores then participate in a class discussion and come home eat lunch and write 2k words #that shouldn't be how that works #i shouldn't feel better after spending time with family. you know that's the thing i have complex emotions about! #you know i am struggling to decide how involved i want them to be in my life and it does not help that every time i go home i'm like #this is great! this isn't that bad! why did i move? we get along so well my brain says it's happier the jesus thing isn't even that big a-- #no that is the devil talking!!! #that is the devil talking

[golden--doodler]

I know I posted four times today but OH MY GOD I actually got my first Commission request

#SCREAMING #i’ve never been happier in my life i think #better than freaking christmas i tell you #two weeks of promoting finally paid off 🥳🥳🥳