Femme Fatale Guide: How To Hold Your Own & Take Accountability In Life
I believe they're two types of accountability – introspective and interpersonal – that can exist separately or together, depending on the particular situation or task. Here’s how I would take accountability where an outcome affects either just me or others as well:
Ultimately, taking accountability comes down to being truthful with yourself about a situation, what lessons you can learn, the takeaways these lessons provide, and how you can apply these newfound solutions to resolve the issue – in the present moment and under future circumstances. I try to ask myself these 7 questions:
What happened?
How did I mess up?
What contextual factors (logistical, relational, environmental, communication gaps, self-management issues, etc.) played a role in the situation that lead to this outcome?
What lesson can I learn from this mistake?
How can I do better next time or prevent this outcome from happening again?
Who was affected by this situation?
Who do I need to speak to, and what do I need to do to make everything right – fix a project, pay a fee, apologize?
If the issue only affects me and my goals (i.e. I missed a workout or overslept), I’ll analyze the factors that lead to me missing this goal/promise to myself: Did I stay up too late the night before? How much screen time did I have after dinner? Was the food too heavy? Did I drink alcohol? Have coffee too late in the day?
Once I identify the probable cause, I’ll forgive myself and take this slip-up as a lesson. I’ll make sure to substitute the behavior that caused me not to follow through with this action. Maybe I’ll read before bed instead or switch to herbal tea by 6 pm. I could leave my gym clothes next to my bed to ease my resistance to helping myself achieve this goal.
If the issue has a domino effect and affects others (i.e. I miss a deadline and it sets back my entire team), I’ll first acknowledge the mistake to myself and see where I went wrong. Did I start the project too late? Did I have too many distractions? Was taking on this project too much given my already-existing workload?
Once I identify what went wrong, I’ll acknowledge it as a lesson. Then, I’ll apologize to the other affected parties, own what went wrong in the situation, work to fix the immediate situation or create a temporary resolution, and share how I’ll prevent this mishap from happening in the future. Initiate any action items or conversations you can to remedy the situation to the best of your ability. Sometimes, that could be notifying a team member for extra support shortly before the deadline when you realize your timetable was not adequate or working some overtime to remedy my mistake.
Don’t beat yourself up. Identify and own your role in the situation. Acknowledge how your contribution or inaction led to the current outcome. Apologize to any affected individuals. Execute tasks or have any conversations that could mollify the consequences. Share why the situation occurred and your plan to prevent the undesired outcome from happening in the future.
2K notes
·
View notes
lucien flavius x reader
warnings: pwp, blowjobs, finger sucking, mild choking, jerking off, dom!reader, sub!lucien, orgasm denial, begging
author’s note: ive never sucked a dick before unfortunately so i apologize if this is written weird. as always feedback and requests are very welcome!! i still have a nagging feeling that there are some weird clunky sentences and mistakes and/or i overused some words too much even though ive read this over three times now and sent it to two different people to read so i also apologize about that. however one of those people was a lesbian and she said “the fact that it kept me interested is extremely impressive”
“Why don’t we work on your training, Lucien?” As much as you wished he’d let you train him on more than one thing a day, you had to admit at least the days seemed to fly past when you were with him.
He looks up from the enchanting table, his face lighting up. “Really? Oh, I’ve been looking forward to this. What shall we work on this time?”
“Well.” You smile wryly. “Don’t take this personally, but I was thinking we should build up your stamina.”
His face pales dramatically. “Oh dear. You’re going to make me exercise, aren’t you?”
“Come on, come on, outside. You want to be able to hold your own in a fight for longer, don’t you?”
He groans, dragging himself dramatically toward the door. “I suppose so.”
You roll your eyes and walk out to the sprawling, vibrant yard of Tundra Homestead. Despite his complaints, Lucien is close behind you, as always.
“We can start easy,” you say, fighting back laughter at the look of dread he’s giving you. “15 push-ups. Make sure you count them.”
“Easy?! You overestimate me.” Resentfully, he lowers himself to the ground in the most dignified way he can and begins his set of very undignified push-ups. You fold your arms and watch him amusedly.
“One… two… three… f-four…” His strained, breathy voice gives you butterflies — and not in your stomach. To make matters worse, Lucien lets out a soft, broken moan as he reaches the sixth push-up. You tighten your grip on your arms, trying with all your might not to react visibly (or audibly).
His body shakes as he struggles to raise himself up and down, breathing heavily. You imagine what he would look like, unclothed and trembling beneath you, completely at your mercy-
You clasp your hand over your mouth, horrified at your own thoughts. Holy shit, this is so bad, he’s just your traveling companion, he probably doesn’t even-
Your train of thought is interrupted by Lucien exhaling loudly and collapsing on the ground. He looks up at you with forlorn puppy eyes. “Can that please be it for today?”
You nod stiffly. “Uh- yep. That’s fine. I’m gonna- I- I’m gonna- I’ll be right back.” You turn around and practically stumble back into the house.
You sit down on the side of your bed and stare at the wall, mind and heart racing. The attraction itself wasn’t even that bad- it had always sort of been there, ever since your first meeting when you asked if he was flirting and he got all flustered. It was cute. He was cute. But now, he’s hot, which is a completely and vastly different beast to deal with. And really, it’s the implications of the attraction that have you so frazzled. Also, how did such a short and simple thing drive you so insane with lust? Where did all of this come from? What if you accidentally change the way you treat him and then he feels bad or he starts treating you differently back?
The wooden rapping of knuckles against wood breaks through the deafening silence. Lucien poked his head through the door nervously. “Is- is everything all right?”
Gods motherfucking damn it. “Yeah, it’s okay, Luce. I dunno.”
“Were my push-ups really that bad?” He asks, the slight lilt in his voice and his concerned smile clearing the cloud in your mind a bit. You chuckle.
“Can I come in?”
You nod and pat the bed next to you. He sits, his knees tilted in towards you. “Do you, er… want to talk about anything?”
“I want you,” you blurt out. Lucien stares at you, mouth open.
“I’m sorry,” you choke out, quickly standing up. “I shouldn’t have- oh my god, I’m so stupid, I’m sorry. You-”
You stop as he grabs your wrist, not pulling you back but not letting you leave either. “Do you mean, like-”
“Yes.”
He lets go of you, putting his fingertips to his lips. A deep coral hue floods across his cheeks. “Oh! Well. That’s- certainly something!”
“Look, I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have said anything- I especially shouldn’t have said it like that- if you’re disgusted and want me to leave, you can just say that, I won’t-”
He gives you an incredulous look. “What? No! No, that’s not what I meant at all! I’m not- I mean, I’m not… opposed??”
Your brain seems to have shut off. “You… really?
“Well, I wouldn’t lie to you!” He says defensively. “Especially not about this, that would be cruel!”
A fiery sensation begins to burn in the pit of your stomach. “Lucien.” There’s a new deep, sultry quality to your voice, sending visible shivers down his spine. He looks at you, silently, expectantly.
“Would you want to? Right now?”
He swallows. “I suppose I wouldn’t-”
You don’t even allow him to finish his sentence before you push him down onto the bed, climbing on top of him. He gasps quietly, almost paralyzed.
You straddle him, placing one hand on his waist and leaning down to run the other through his soft blond hair. “Relax,” you purr into his ear. “You can tell me to stop at any time.” You move your hand down to palm the growing bulge in his pants. He lets out a soft whimper, and the fire in your stomach begins to burn brighter. “Fuck,” you whisper. “You’re so pretty.” You move your hand back to his waist and start grinding against him, eliciting more muffled moans from his closed mouth. You run your thumb across his lips. “You like this?”
He nods fervently. “Yes- gods, that feels- really good-” His high, whiny voice is like a divine symphony. Your hands travel slowly down his sides until you slip your thumbs under the waistband of his pants, causing him to stir in anticipation. You drag them down his slim, downy legs, and slide yourself back onto your knees. He whines at the absence of stimulation.
“Sit up, Lucien.”
He inhales sharply and slowly props himself up with his arms, which you can see are shaking with nervousness and excitement.
“Now take your shirt off.”
He nods and eagerly pulls it over his head, tossing it to the side. You allow your gaze to indulgently explore his exposed body. “Look at you,” you breathe softly. “So obedient for me.” He closes his eyes and tilts his head back, whining again and rolling his hips forward. You reach out and hook your fingers onto his loincloth, slowly and agonizingly pulling it down to reveal his rapidly hardening cock, dripping with precum.
“Hmm,” you hum appreciatively. “Already so wet. You want me to suck your dick, Lucien?”
“Yes,” he says in a quiet, choked voice.
“Oh, you’re gonna have to do better than that, Luce. I want you to beg for me. I want you to show me that you want me as much as I want you.”
“Please,” he mewls. “Please, please, I need you- I n-need you, please make me feel good, please-” His words dissolve into incoherence as you grasp onto his thighs, your fingers sinking into his plush skin, pushing his legs further apart. He lets out high, shuddering moans as you put your lips against his cock, swirling your tongue languidly around his tip. “Fuck- oh my gods- aah-”
You continue to suck teasingly at his tip, thoroughly enjoying his taste, the heat of his skin, the high desperation of the noises he’s making. You can feel him squirming, and you can see his hands grabbing fistfuls of the sheets in the corners of your vision.
“Please,” Lucien moans. “I need more- more, please-”
You laugh softly, the vibration of the sound making him sigh wantonly. You move your head down his shaft, sucking and caressing him with your mouth and tongue. His hips buck up involuntarily, his long cock hitting the back of your throat. “Ah- sorry- fuck. It feels- so good- so good-”
You smile and reach up, grabbing his wrist and placing his hand on the back of your head. His fingers immediately lace through your hair, holding firmly onto you. “Oh my gods,” he groans, and starts slowly pushing your head up and down. You relish in his pleasure, in how perfectly his dick seems to fit in your mouth. You shift your hands to his hips, and he whines loudly, thrusting forward.
You can tell he’s holding back, trying to keep his composure. You wish you could tell him it’s okay, he can let go, but you don’t want to stop. His cock is absolutely intoxicating, and you need more of it. You want to make him completely unravel. You increase your pace, bobbing your head up and down, and using your grip on his hips to pull him closer to you, farther down your throat. He cries out your name, and you can feel him quivering beneath you. Yes. Fuck. Oh my gods. Your hands curl into claws, your nails scratching at him in blind desire. His yelps and moans only make you more and more insatiable.
But suddenly, you have an idea that makes an evil smile spread across your face. As wonderful as it would be to swallow every last drop of his cum, you want to see him. You continue to suck on him, rapidly and passionately, coaxing him towards his orgasm-
-And then, you pull back. He practically screams in agony, thrusting hopelessly into the air. You look up at his face; his eyes squeezed shut, his mouth wide open, his features twisted together in pleasure and pain. “N-no,” he gasps out. It takes every ounce of willpower in your body not to pounce on him and finish him off right there.
He opens his eyes and looks down at you pitifully, panting and twitching, leaning back on his hands. “Please, please, keep going, please-”
You climb up on top of him and then swing around, pressing yourself against his sweat-slicked back and putting your lips against his ear.
“I’m going to help you jerk off that pretty cock of yours, and you are not going to cum until I say you can.”
He whimpers quietly, and you reach forward and place your hand on his, guiding it to his throbbing dick. He wraps his fingers needily around it, and you did the same between his. He starts moving his fist up and down, but you tighten your grip and force him to slow down, to which he lets out a heavy, drawn-out moan. You splay your free hand across his smooth chest, stroking his skin, slowly traveling upward until you clasp it around his throat.
Lucien lets out a depraved keening sound, his own free hand shooting backward and finding your thigh, then clutching onto it for dear life. You look at the hopeless expression on his face, completely lost in pleasure. “That’s my good boy,” you croon in his ear, earning yourself another sweetly strangled moan.
“Please,” he stammers out, hardly able to speak. “Please let me cum, please, I want to cum, please, I need it so bad-”
“Mmm, not yet, Luci.” He groans in pain, both at your response and as you remove your hand from his. “Don’t stop, now. Keep the same pace. Be a good boy.”
“I will, I will- I’ll be such a good boy for you, please, plea-” You cut him off by shoving two fingers into his mouth, essentially having him in a headlock now. “Suck.”
He moans again around your fingers, and does as you ask. Your entire body feels as if it might burn to a crisp at any moment, seeing the pleasure he’s in because of you. He can barely concentrate on jerking off and sucking your fingers at the same time. The beautiful noises he’s making are steadily amping up in volume and desperation, and he’s becoming sloppier and shakier the more his restraint fades into utter ecstasy.
You push your fingers further into his mouth. “Does my pretty boy want to cum?” You ask sweetly. He nods and whines in response.
“Cum for me, Lucien. Show me how good you feel.” You clamp your legs on either side of his torso, spreading your fingers out in his mouth, squeezing his throat in encouragement. In a few seconds, hot streams of cum burst out of his dick, covering his hand, his legs, his stomach, the sheets, even the floor. You press hard, passionate kisses against his shoulder, cheek, and neck, everywhere you can reach, as tremors rack his body and his moans reach a heavenly climactic chorus. He calls out your name, over and over, pushing himself into you as he orgasms.
Finally, he goes limp, breathing like he had just run a marathon. You let yourself relax in the blissful intimacy of this moment, before peeling yourself off of him and gently lowering him down onto the bed, pressing a final kiss to his lips. “You’re perfect, Lucien. You did so good.”
“You,” he answered breathlessly. “You’re amazing.”
You cup his cheek in your hand. “Let’s get you cleaned up, hmm?”
The you spend the next few minutes cleaning the mess off of him and his surroundings with rags from your bedside table, while he apologizes profusely no matter how many times you assure him it’s okay (and you actually think it’s very hot). He still doesn’t seem to have complete control of his motor skills back yet.
What a man. You already can’t wait for the next time you get to rail him senseless.
60 notes
·
View notes