#Yes “get help” is ableism

[millionsofbooks]

life is about accepting that while i may want to be quincey “hot smooth cowboy” morris i am in fact, to the ver y depths of my soul, jack “sat on his hat and brought his emotional support scalpel to a proposal” seward

#dracula daily #dracula #honestly jack just gets more relatable as the book goes on #like obvs warning for - he is a victorian running an asylum #but when i first read dracula i knew that going in and had my guard way way way up #and he then was not nearly as bad as what my expectations were #so i was v able to fall in love with him #(but yes i might make a post at some point on what to expect from seward’s sections irt ableism and institutional abuse - #ik someone’s made a list of when his entries are but ik i’d find it helpful to have a good idea of what exactly to expect #and if i can cope with it)

[live-love-laugh-lesbian]

I've seen a few people now argue that being neurotypical isn't an actual thing, and that we're all neurodivergent in some way. Generally I see this in regards to autism, as an evolution of "we're all a little bit autistic". A similiar evolution include (and I saw this on this website) "I'm neurotypical but I'm weird and geeky so does that count [as neurodivergent]".

So for the "we're all a little autistic" people.

Autism is a developmental disability. It is, I repeat, a disability. It's not being "weird and geeky", it's not social awkwardness or being shy or struggling with a 40 hour work week or otherwise not handling capitalism and our modern life. It's a disability coming from not developing in the same way as allistics.

That's why, as a small example, you might find a noise irritating whilst I might be screaming, crying and banging my head over it.

Obviously not every autistic person gets meltdowns, and mine are typically only that severe if a lot of other stuff is going on too, but the point remains. If you do not have this developmental disability then congratulations on not being autistic, now shut up about how teehee nobody's really neurotypical :)

#ableism #actually autistic #like yeah yeah there's issues with systems and getting a diagnosis and getting the right diagnosis #but some of you need to accept that for many (if not all of us tbh) autism is disabling in a variety of ways #and the argument of everyone being autistic #makes it harder for us to get help #disclaimer that yes of course autism is not the only neurodivergence but it's the one I am talking about #so deal with it

[musical-chick-13]

Regarding the whole "Fandom Is An Escape, so why should I have to care this much about misogyny/racism/ableism/transphobia/etc." thing. Idk about the rest of you, but it gets kind of hard for me to "escape" when I keep seeing people say the same vile things about characters who share aspects of my identity that I hear all the time in real life.

#gotta say: it doesn't make me feel any better getting ignored/disparaged on account of my gender irl and then seeing every fictional woman #also get ignored/disparaged when there is no material difference between her and popular male characters other than her gender #how do I escape from irl misogyny if y'all keep willfully ignoring and flinging gendered insults at 99% (<-lowball estimate) of #female characters? how do I put aside the ableism I face in real life when y'all discuss disabled/mentally ill characters in the most #absolutely out-of-pocket way? how do I forget about biphobia when the 'arguments' you make 'for fun' about bisexual characters #in fiction sound EXACTLY the same as the things people say about my bisexuality outside of the internet/fan culture? #and then obviously this gets compounded if you are trying to even simply EXIST in fandom as a poc or a trans person or an intersection of #any or all these varying identities/life experiences #like yes caring about fictional characters is not the same as caring about real people OBVIOUSLY I can't BELIEVE I have to keep clarifying #that. and at the same time!! because multiple things can be true at the same time!!!! engaging in behavior that enforces pre-ingrained #societal biases and prejudices!!!!!!!! does not help dismantle those biases and prejudices!!!!!!!!!!!!!! in a real-world way that DOES #involve caring about actual people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #it's also. interesting. when people go on & on about how some newest show about thin cis white (male) gays is So Important & Revolutionary #So We Must Do Everything To Keep It Relevant And Visible and then act this way about women/poc/trans people/disabled people/fat people #in media. so like. you DO agree that seeing a variety of life experiences represented in fiction is beneficial. you DO believe in the #value of depicting marginalized people. interesting that that only seems to apply to a VERY narrow and specific category of marginalization #(ugh remember when I talked about this and someone called me a straight person good times)

[technoxenoholic]

"adhd paralysis" is a ridiculous term. i, too, get Stuck in the hell that is being unable to task switch or task initiate under my own power. but guess what? i can "hack" my executive dysfunction. if i need to go to the kitchen, and i'm Stuck, i can ask my sistling to meet me in the kitchen. then i have an Obligation, and i can Obey The Obligation to go to the kitchen, and then i can get what i need from there.

and you, too, CAN hack your adhd task-switching and task-initiation! it is possible! it may take lots of thought and effort to find the right strategy that even works for you, and there may sometimes be limitations to the strategy that mean you're still going to be Stuck for a long time sometimes (for example i can't call my brother to meet me in the kitchen if she's asleep), but you CAN work at it and figure out a method that works for you and your situation and your brain!

but you know who can't fucking hack their disability limitations to just get up and do the thing? you know who doesn't have a potential method that works that they can figure out, no matter how much effort they put in? you know who this isn't possible for?

people who are actually paralyzed.

#stfu blue #discussion of ableism #cripplepunk #adhd #actually adhd #disability #my sistling/brother uses she/he pronouns please do not they/them him on my post thank you #anyway i'm physically disabled but not paralyzed. hoping to get through to some of these physically abled adhd folks and help #on the idea that maybe they will actually listen to someone who they perceive as less of a threat to their validity or whatever #also yes i use the term Stuck with a capital S to describe this phenomenon. you are all free to use that term for this as well

[parkore]

six months after kicking out my gf now my roomates moving in her gf qt the end of the month im going to kill myself GET ME OUT OF HEREEE

#i kinda hate this house i just feel like shit the whole time im here #and yes ofc im still bitter abt leila being gone esp since the whole reason she was in cali was to GET HER BETTER ACCESS TO HELP #but also im still not over abt the ableism like ughhhghgggggg #god i dont wanna be here anymooooore i hate cali reeeent #i just want my wiiiife

[sluttish-armchair]

Ok but thinking back to how I was in elementary and middle school: I had such disdain for other kids who broke the rules, that I irrationally hated a whole bunch of kids — kids I would have made good friends with — all because I couldn’t stand the fact that they engaged in conflicts with, and affronts to authority figures or standards.

It even went as far as internally mocking a kid my age — calling him “Mama’s Boy” in my head — over the fact that his mother whispered comments into his ear, which he mumbled unintelligibly into the mic, and then would fall asleep as if dead on her arm. I perceived his inability to give comments on his own, and his sleeping, as moral failings of both mother and child; because I wasn’t raised like that. And maybe, those feelings also came from jealousy. I was expected to fight off sleep all the time because I could read at a college level in third grade, and could theoretically understand the material presented at the meetings despite it still being inappropriate for my age group.

I was so far deep into the “bad associations spoil useful habits” mindset that it made me hate my fellow neurodivergents — kids I would have been friends with — who maybe couldn’t hide it as well as I could. That is beyond fucked up. Now, I work with those very kids I disliked so much as a child, and guess what? They are my absolute favorite people to be around; and many of them remind me of myself.

#exjw #ableism tw #I’m also just very uptight about rules anyway; so the whole cult thing did not help that part of me At All #I often find myself more concerned with doing things “correctly” than I am with doing the right thing in non-serious scenarios #and it’s kind of scary because like… how much of a sheep am I? #Would I torture someone if an authority figure I trusted ordered me to because it’s what I’m “supposed” to do? #Most of it comes from a desire for consistency: If [x] happens; then do [y]. So every time [x] happens; [y] is the correct response #and this — like the laws of physics — Cannot Change #Except of course the real world is vague and variable and there is a lot of grey area to work with in coming up with solutions #so doing [y] when [x] happens may make things worse than if you do [z] instead #This makes a lot more sense when you consider I was taught how to play chess at a very young age by my father #who bragged about being a “chess player” with regard to real world problems #Yes chess is strategy; but you’re also playing on a grid and your movements are entirely restricted by the rules of gameplay #My father can’t leave the cult that traumatized him because he loves Jehovah #he can’t go to the meetings to serve the god he loves because it triggers his trauma #he can’t talk to a therapist about his religious trauma to get over it because he would be defaming Jehovah #If life is a game of chess then he’s checkmated #But here’s the thing: the game is imaginary and the rules are made up #Viewing real life as a chess board is extremely unhealthy for your free will #Which is why in this essay about Nineteen Eighty Four I will—

[riverofrainbows]

Watching copaganda shows really makes you appreciate your rights just so much more. Right now they're investigating some guy on a hunch from one fbi agent, illegally, hacking his personal information and violating soo many laws because one of the fbi guys had a dream and he just decided to do this, off the books, and his colleagues of course supported him both personally and with government resources. And of course, because it's a copaganda show, they were right in the hunch, and uncovered the details of a heinous crime. But all i can see is some cop investigating a random person because he found them a target of his bigotry (and i know this already blatantly happens with people getting picked up for ""loitering"' etc and worse). But copaganda shows really do try to sell you that as good and righteous, and it makes me feel like I'm being gaslighted by a clown that is trying to convince me that rights are overrated.

#own post #copaganda #criminal minds #i already notice the copaganda and military propaganda and ableism #but sometimes they really do get so blatant and think we're too stupid to notice #'i had a dream please hack this innocent mans bank information' 'ah yes this is perfectly reasonable and legal how else can i help you' #'you don't need privacy actually if you're innocent because otherwise why would you protest - criminal minds' #suddenly when cops get killed they pack out how many kids they have and how much their grandma loves them #also they occasional bouts of christian church propaganda they channel through rossi are so fucking ridiculous

[tony-andonuts]

God i love weed and Im so fucking thankful its legal where i live so i can get it cheap

#i could and did manage before it was legal butlike #i can justlike #go to the dispo and get cheap dabs without having to suck someone off everyday for a month to get that price #and then i can come home from work n do a dab and then suddenly the pain is dulled n i can eat n enjoy things <33 #it needs to become federally legal though. like #i get a healthcare workers discount at some dispos but at the same time my job would love to fire me if i had to get drug tested #and they dont hire people who have previously worked in dispensaries #which is so fucking dumb bc healthcare is the only job i can think of where they can legally tell you *during your shift* that #your 8 hour shift has become a 16 hour shift #if i couldnt smoke weed after my doubles i wouldnt be as good of a worker #and it also helps me cope with the death and systemic ableism i see constantly #yes i did take my post-work dab for anyone wondering #tony speaks #stony tony

[throwmeinthebinpleasejeeves]

One thing about having been really sick or disabled or constantly dying as a kid is that you end up with this feeling that you have to justify being alive. All the money, all the work, all the resources...just for me to be what I am right now?

It takes time and constant reminding but you are actually allowed to just be alive. That is plenty. You are enough exactly as you are.

Those doctors and nurses? They didn't want you to be Einstein - I promise they wanted you to be alive and have the potential to be happy however that looks. Success is you are alive now to be going through whatever that is now.

#something i struggle with a lot #all of thtat dedication just to be a depressed adult? but actually YES because i can get help and still have amazing moments #i can love things and people and be loved #i am enough a d so are you #ramble bamble #ableism #disability #i am not coherent an dno idea how to tag this rip

[the-lunar-system]

Hey you guys know that making fan content of someone with a canon disability having a *different* disability instead is a form of erasure right. like if you headcanon them as having an additional disability cool. but if a character is canonically a non ambulatory wheelchair user and you draw them walking around on crutches you *are* still erasing their disability.

#yes this is about Tavros Homestuck #I know he gets the robot legs in canon but you know what that is. canon erasing his disability #cuz how are some new prosthetic legs supposed to help with whats heavily implied to be a SCI #man I could make a whole post about homestuck's Ableism. I probably will at some point.

[indigodawns]

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#whew you know when you've been Going for a while and then you get a break and you're still tired but you're also so so jittery #S WHERE IM AT OHHH MY GOD #luxury problem and it's totally fine but i am crawling up the walls my friends #also update time ig!! took my family to the autism group meeting thing on tuesday bc it was a meeting esp for that #and they kept throwing me glances throughout the info part like lol it's you JDFHJDFH it was v interesting #bc throughout it all it's like... here i have info about autism and here i have my 25 years lived experience without thinking i had autism #and since i wasn't diagnosed as a kid i wasn't as ~obvious about it and i find it hard to reconcile examples with myself if they #don't fit 100% (it's . the autism) so anyways it was v helpful!!! #and my mum was like ah yeah i always had moments where i thought so?? but then it didn't fit the cold white boy stereotype bc i #am empathetic and i have humour etc so she never mentioned it to me bc it's a big thing etc and tbf i wasn't ~ready pre-this year #but now it's like... ah yes i was always upset on holidays and they never got why (the change in Everything)... i was picky with food #and with new shoes and i HATED shopping and it overwhelmed me so much (still does) #i would ask my mum what tf i was feeling and why i was crying and i would analyse social interactions #and i'd have obsessions with media and horses etc. was big know-it-all. was so slow with some subjects at school #like yknow when you had to copy letters 80 times? that'd take me ages and i'd get a fail bc i was being so precise #anyways. enough signs methinks dfjhdjh so now im just trying to see where stimming & eyecontact come in? #i never noticed a problem with eyecontact but im trying to let myself not do it and it's kinda nice?? but idk #and stimming idk i used to suck my thumb for a long time but?? i wanna try things but whew internalised ableism etc #so see then im like so ARE YOU ACTUALLY-- but anyways it seems i am #and my mum made me realise that'd. explain why i suddenly developed depression around age 11 and never got out of it again #so lots of Thinking!!! and wanting to shelve things like ok great figured it out NOW WHAT but noooo #also stupid to do this on tumblr and not rly talk about it with irl friends but what do you say like #hello im autistic? yeah it surprised me too. no i can't really explain how it works for me. no that's not how the spectrum works #so here we are yes #<3

[bytebun]

ok does anybody have tips for ending a conversation when you are abt to melt down... i don’t want to be evil but in the moment i find myself incapable of saying much more than ‘i need you to stop talking now’

#AND THEN THEY KEEP TALKING... #i also want to appear 'normal' for what it's worth like yes yes it's on everybody else to work through their ableism #but i don't need to unleash that on some poor retail worker #why don't ppl take me seriously when i say 'give me a moment' or 'i need time to process that' #-_- they somehow hear that as 'i can tell you just one more important thing' like no i need you to be quiet now or i am going to explode #and then my choices are walking away immediately or going SHUT UP FOR REALS both of which are considered 'rude' (despite being better than #the actual other meltdown options) #it uh. doesn't help the closer i get to melting down the more i am non-verbal #bytebun rambles #sensory overload makes me so so so evil but can you really blame a cat for swiping at you. when you have ignored all its other signals #i have been able to endure it so far but i don't want to anymore. why should i have to spend 2h after emotionally regulating when u could #just respect my needs. yeesh

[mythvoiced]

@clemencetaught | ♥

Later, a little later Hyun, will curse herself out for wincing, however minutely as she does, when her concentration is disrupted by the voice of a person she had very much known to be there.

She doesn't like being caught off guard. The only thing saving her from chewing on this until her gums hurt is the fact that one thing she likes even less is chewing on issues until her gums hurt.

Call it indifference. Hyun prefers 'respecting my own energy'. Call that one a lie.

Either way, there is a minute wince when her focus is interrupted, and her gaze flickers as though expecting to be dragged into a tussle of all things. She has gotten her fair share of close calls with hair-pulling and screaming matches, and she can't claim she's always come out of them wholly unscathed.

But the gentleman who's cane she returns - almost begrudgingly, she'd enjoyed the weight of it in her hands - doesn't look like the kind of person who'd get her into trouble. Look at him. He's too... average might not be the right word.

Fine features, handsome enough, perhaps not as impressive as a queen or a king but... certainly not a pawn. A rook, maybe. A bishop. A knight. One of those pieces.

"Well, I didn't mean getting into it physically," she leans in, blocking off bystanders with a show of her palm to them, the back of her hand supposedly meant to cover her mouth as she speaks. "Unless you know what you're talking about, I'm not about to refuse good intel."

But it's only a joke, and the idea alone would be more detrimental to her brand than her being her brand, imagine how awful executing it would be. Still... an almost-girl can dream.

A heavy sigh. And then... focus.

Concentration.

She turns to stare at him.

"Is that what you're here for? I've never seen you at one of these. And I do make a habit of noticing."

#clemencetaught #the model;hyun #the model;blood guts and angel cake;celebrity verse #YES THE RUMOURS ARE TRUE I AM REPLYING TO THIS VERY FAST #i couldn't resist whenever i get such fresh opportunities to tap dance towards your characters Ferre #and kickstart new plots I CANNOT BE STOPPED #myungdae going: what street is suki picking these people up from- IS ONE OF MY FAVOURITE THINGS BY THE WAY #SO YES PLEASE THANK YOU I LOVE THIS ALREADY #i didn't want to lean too far out the window in terms of what myungdae is up to BUT IF #HE'S DOING RECONNAISSANCE AT A TYPE OF GALA EVENT HYUN IS DOWN TO HELP #myungdae: is up to something vaguely criminal #hyun: oh word? #KLDFJDHDFLJGH had to full cycle it it was just too funny HEHEHE~ #the borderline ableism in hyun's going 'this cane is sick i want one too' when myungdae actually nEEDS it and does not use it for aest-- #;queue

[heartshapedcreaturefromcriptoon]

Going to some bitches blog via someone else's Hazbin blog, because I tried to like/reblog their meta but tumblr wouldn't let me, and then I find out the reason why it wouldn't let me is because the OP of the meta apparently blocked me, but I've never seen or interacted with them before, but OP has like a video game icon and a fucking moving gif video game graphic of like a damn nuclear explosion for a header on top of that going off anyway, and I'm trying to read through her other Hazbin posts but I can't focus, because I'm distracted by a goddamn fucking nuclear explosion taking place above me that won't stop and just as I'm thinking "OP, that was such good meta why would you hurt my eyes and brain like this? Alas, you have a video game character for an icon, I should've known!" and in all my disorientation from that seizure trigger waiting to happen, I happen to glance at the upper right corner of her blog and clock there's no follow button for me, and it's just like, "Alright, your loss, Toots! Have fun endangering disabled people by being yet another person in this fandom obnoxious enough to keep some tacky moving gif as your header and actually think that looks good in the year of Our Lord Alastor Hartfelt 2024, I hope you make your Journey To The Light soon! ^_^ <3"

... It was probably my posts tagged with ace discourse god knows these gamer bitches never actually have any, l o l...

#Hazbin Hotel #Helluva Boss #hazbin hypocritical #ace discourse #Like pro tip turbo virgins just get any moving gifs you may have as your headers and any reference to any real life wars happening right no #off your blogs anyway cause you know serious activists hate Viv and hate fandom and don't think you're helping unless you're boycotting and #I know I'm not boycotting besides symbolically not eating McDonalds when it's offered and I know *the rest of you* 4 sure aren't boycotting #and you're probably still eating McDonalds but at least I know the best way I can help is to know when my help is wanted or not ... #What I'm telling you right now is to get anything to do with the real world right now out of your bios cause paying lip service while I kno #you're still paying for that prime video subscription right now is performative and cringe #again... as cringe as actually having a moving gif in your header... #actors can be a little bit performative and cringe as treat because they're actors... it's kind of their job. #But if you're a fan who's still mixing real world politics in with your fandom blogs right now and think real boots on the ground #activists doing real activist work (which includes boycotts) are gonna appreciate you for that ... They probably don't want it or need it. #So the best way u can really hope to help right now is to buy that little keychain or something else where proceeds go 2 help and be quiet #for the rest of the time! <3 I'm not sorry cause it's true! <3 #Yes this *IS* indirectly vague blogging about another someone I've blocked thanks for asking! <3 #ableism

[slipperyslideyday]

fix it fic for d4y of the tr1ffids where the newly blind aren't immediately dehumanized or I get to gouge out the narrator's eyes personally.

#ableism #i have a hw assignment that puts me in a bad mood and i genuinely hate reading it #hate old scifi that shows the Worst Worst of humanity and is like. this is a critique!!! #esp with how its presented #people! do not IMMEDIATELY act like that!!! #for my own sanity: let it be known im a hater #ill be a good and professional little student before midnight #but tumblr and tumblr personally gets to know i seethe #slipspeaks #we're not even getting started on the sexism #which definitely isnt helping. ye old scifi just puts people through shit and is like 'this is a critique!!!' yeah sure #suuure it is buddy. just like when its any other minority #anyway

[thebibliosphere]

Whenever I talk about the medical neglect and ableism I've encountered as a victim of the healthcare system, there's always some cockwaffle who feels entitled to come into my inbox and make the argument of "not all doctors" while talking about how "people like them" (because it's always someone in a field of medicine who does this) are doing their best and it's really hard because so many people fake being ill to get on welfare (Yikes), but like, yeah, obviously #not all doctors, because if all doctors were negligent, bullying scum bags, I'd be dead.

But here's the thing: while I truly believe that the majority of doctors are doing their best in a system stacked against them and their patients, their presence does not negate the mass harm caused by the bad ones. And there are far more bad ones than you realize.

Fuck, John Oliver literally did a segment on this last week:

Yes, the truly bad, malicious doctors are in the minority. Most are just horrifically burned out and fighting a losing battle against a system, killing both them and their patients through a lack of funding and resources and profound overwork.

But the malicious ones do exist, and they will go out of their way to harm patients who don't kowtow to them.

I almost lost my life because when I was in my early twenties, I told a doctor I didn't think she was listening to me, and I disagreed with her assessment of my mental health (she was not a mental health doctor, and I was there for heart palpitations and chronic pain). She retaliated by putting "non-compliant" in my file.

There was also a fun little "doesn't show respect" note too that lives rent-free in my head because I know I wasn't rude. I was polite. I just didn't agree with her, and my refusal to accept her off-handed comment that "you probably have bipolar or BPD" (again, I was there for heart palpitations and chronic pain) meant I was "refusing care."

I wasn't. I just refused to be slapped with a mood/personality disorder when I was there because I kept fucking fainting when I stood up.

(Spoiler alert: it was dysautonomia)

That "non-compliant" marker followed me around for years. It followed me across an ocean and effectively ensured that any doctor I saw was going to treat me like absolute dogshit because no one wants to help Difficult Patients. It wasn't until I was so undeniably ill, literally on the brink of death, that anyone helped me.

I'm alive because of a good doctor. And all the good ones that came after him because of him.

So, I know they exist. You don't have to tell me that.

But I really fucking need you to acknowledge the bad ones and that you're part of a system with a long, long history of abusing minorities and vulnerable people. I need you to acknowledge that because it's the only way we're going to survive this godforsaken nightmare and make things better.

So yeah, #notalldoctors, but if you feel the need to say that because someone talking about being literally left to die by the medical system hurts your feelings, I'm going to have to ask you to take a step back and ask yourself if you're going into medicine for the right reasons.

Namely: do you want to help people, even the "difficult" ones?

Even the ones who might disagree with you?

Even if they're on welfare?

Even if they'll never get "better" in a way that means "cured"?

Just a thought. But hey, what do I know. I'm just someone who experienced hemolytic anemia because doctors kept telling me I was anxious and needed to exercise more 🤷‍♀️.

#chronic health tag #medical abuse #medical neglect #medical #ableism #to all the good health care workers who follow me and leave supportive comments: I appreciate you so much #but you need to come get your fellow drs #and idk #give 'em a shake or something #Youtube