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guy who posts ‘I LOVE MY FRIENDS’ everytime he gets back from hanging out with his friends: I LOVE MY FRIENDS

#well i do

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Reblogs were disabled so here you go

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People don’t owe you their downtime! And I don’t mean this in a harsh way, but in a “quit breaking your own heart” way.

It’s so easy to see a friend “active” and reblogging on tumblr, or maybe making a status update on Facebook and feel hurt they haven’t replied to our messages.

Different things take different energy. And someone being “online” but not actively talking to you does not mean they no longer love or care about you.

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reblog for something t4t to happen to you this summer.

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i know pk definitely has a post abt this but. sam complaining abt dean flirting with the bartender ("use your upstairs brain!") instead of doing something useful (flirting is literally a technique to get info sammy) while dean literally got them their first and only lead (the strange symbol in the blood splatter). and then sam "punishing" dean into pulling his own weight by putting him on research duty while sam stalks meg and literally watches her undress from "downstairs" after dean had just been ribbing him abt how maybe sam's just into meg and maybe he's "thinking too much with his upstairs brain" (which dean says in a way that implies sam's downstairs brain is into her) like. sam is a hypocrite what's new lol

(also the way dean literally gets ALL the info and lore on this case. yet sam still has to make digs insulting dean's intelligence. as if dean hasn't been working solo for years and doing his own research)

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Sometimes I put my face up against my dog while he's sleeping to feel his little lungs expand and his little heart beat and I am struck by the beauty of of life and the miracle of nature to evolve for thousands of years just to create one little guy and put him in my house

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you came back wrong and i am racked with guilt because i cannot bear to see you like this and i should have let you rest. i loved you so much that i defied death itself but i do not think either of us are happy

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I wonder how different society would be if the abuse schools commit was officially acknowledged as abuse.

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i love tcock and strap as much as the next tranny but y'all gotta be more comfortable w people having bottom dysphoria and wanting bottom surgery. including phallo. like why can't we have the same excitement we have for top surgery? why is it that whenever someone talks about wanting a cock there's this pressure to come to Any Conclusion other than phallo. & being genderqueer it especially sucks because it makes phallo seem like smth that's only done by super cis passing binary guys (esp het guys). sorry maybe i don't want to suffer in my dysphoria for no reason! maybe having a phallo cock can be silly and fun and desirable. if a trans person says they want a dick and your first response is "oh but you can just use a strap–" maybe stop. and ask why you have mentally decided that getting a penis is functionally impossible.

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Some gay men have also described being praised by people who know that they are gay fathers, as they react with astonishment over their capacity to take well care of a child without a woman in the household. Likewise, the participants in the present study described how they were recurrently praised, simply for taking care of their children. Such praise was given in situations where they had been read as fathers, i.e., presumably passing as cisgender men. One participant described a huge difference in how he was treated by people who presumed him to be a cisgender man, compared to when he was known to be a transgender man. As soon as people knew that he was transgender, and that he was the gestational parent, he was expected to be the main caregiver, and no one would praise him for his daily duties. Thus, caretaking engagements, which is often taken for granted when performed by women, seem to be similarly expected to be performed by transgender men who are gestational parents. The gender assigned at birth and/or the role as the gestational parent seem to trump the present gender identity when it comes to others’ expectations of a person’s parenting role.

from the study Transgender Men Forming Two-Father Families with Their Cisgender Male Partners: Negotiating Gendered Expectations and Self-Perceptions by Anna Malmquist

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In the end, if children bother you for sensory reasons and that's why you don't want them to be in the same public spaces as you, there are disabled adults who can and would cause the same sensory issues for you. Adults who are loud, who vocally stim, who have poor boundaries, poor hygiene, who cry in public, etc etc etc. And they're already socially ostracized for all of this.

So actually yeah, it's the bare minimum you can do for the group with the least human rights on the planet to figure out how to accept children as part of your public community without hating them for it, even if you are child-free yourself.

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On related note, a few years ago, the Entomological Society of America officially discontinued the use of "gypsy moth" and "gyspy ant" as common names for Lymantria dispar and Aphaenogaster araneoides. L. Dispar is now known as the "spongy moth," so named for the appearance of their eggs, but I don't think a new common name has caught on for the ant species yet.

These changes we brought about, in large part, by the advocacy of Romani people in academia. You might not think that bug names are a very serious issue, but I believe that language matters. These species became known as "gypsies" because their attributes were likened to certain stereotypes and negative perceptions of actual Roma, so the continued use of those names reaffirmed those negative associations in the public consciousness. Slurs and pejoratives can never be truly decontexualized.

In my mind, one of the biggest obstacles that Romani people face when we are trying to advocate for ourselves is a lack of recognition as a marginalized group that deserves the necessary consideration. Even for seemingly trivial matters, like bugs or comic book characters, the way that people talk about us-- and talk down to us, when we get involved-- is telling. So, I always think that changes like this are a win, because it means that people are willing to learn and grant us the dignity we deserve. And there's nothing wrong with wanting to effect change in your own field, even arts and science.

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As a kid, when your parents are poor, you're poor. If they don't have money, that means none of you have money. But if someone's parents are rich, that doesn't necessarily mean the kid is. Sometimes rich peoples' kids aren't rich kids, they're just some rich freak's exotic pets that can talk but aren't allowed to.

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it really is so uncomfortable being a trans man in cis centric conversations of feminism. I just wonder. do they know about people like me? do they care? if I brought it up to them, how would they react? Do they expect me to be their human shield?

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hell yeah guys who take T in the stomach

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