You know I stated it before as a response to this ask, and I know a lot of people hate it, but Kendratello is unironically a fantastic ship imo.
Kendra is Donnie’s type to a T and then some. She’s “cute, but mean”. Her color scheme is purple. She’s into tech. She’s cool and is a “bad girl.”
Like it works way too well for there to not be something there. Whatever it is, it’s chaotic as all hell and at least pseudo toxic, but it works for them.
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“Kill all men” (and variations) isn’t feminist.
The goal of feminism is not to reverse the gender hierarchy. The goal of feminism is not to eradicate half the population.
The goal of feminism is gender equality.
If you legitimately believe that men, as a group, are uniformly and unequivocally bad just on the basis of their identity, something they cannot control, and that, due to that, they cannot be trusted, ever? If you believe that only women are trustworthy or good and men and inherently bad, then you do not believe in some of the very basic foundations of gender equality.
And like. The belief that women are inherently trustworthy and good is also bad. Like, I kinda thought it was common sense that putting somebody up on a pedestal is bad because it has one of two possibilities: a) the possibility to set them up for failure (because no person is perfect, always good and pure, and everyone makes mistakes), and b) the possibility to provide abusers with shields; if you believe women don’t abuse people, even if it’s not an explicit belief, guess what you’re more vulnerable for?
And these thought patterns aren’t just anti-feminist. They’re pretty bad for multigender people, too. I’m genderfluid, but on average I am usually somewhat a man and somewhat a woman, just in varying degrees. So when you say that all men are evil, am I to assume you think people like me are, too? If yes, that seems pretty cold-hearted. I am not benefiting from the patriarchy; I am intersex and transfemasc. I am androgynous in a visibly trans way. In a misogynists’ mind, I’m not a man or a woman, I’m a thing. If no… why make an exception for me? It feels like you’re erasing my identity as a man— just because I am a woman does mean I am not a man.
If what you mean when you talk about these things is that men have to be aware of their societal position with respect to the patriarchy and vigilant for unconstructed misogyny? Then say that. Don’t say you wish men would die, don’t make fun of gay men and bi women’s attraction to men, don’t say vile shit about trans men just because you think it’s ‘punching down.’
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I get your point and I also think tropes have done an outrageous amount of damage and have saturated the market in such a weird way. And I also understand the frustration about there being so many great stories that people aren't reading because it's not what they like. (I personally don't really read romance but this applies to books in general.) I think the way I deal with it is just understanding that people have preferences and that those likes and dislikes are valid. I'm sure there are stories that are great that I'm never going to read because of one thing or another. People are allowed to be picky when it comes to what they read. Additionally, I think working at the library and seeing what circulates at my branch vs what me and the other staff read has also helped further that acceptance. Am I ever gonna be happy that people read James Patterson, Stephen King (I just read The Shining actually), or Colleen Hoover over XYZ author? Who knows? Am I going to be glad that they're reading? 100x yes
Oh totally, agreed on every front! I’m mostly frustrated with the attitude toward books that I’m seeing on social media lately (specifically tiktok) which seems very dismissive of anything that doesn’t fit into a very narrow conception of what you might think you “like”—it’s not so much the concept that people have preferences, but the way those preferences are being used to influence others’ reading and consumption habits if that makes sense.
Basically if you’ve discovered that you’re only into xyz niche genre, good for you, but I’m bummed to see the over-saturation of the lit market with tropes that might discourage people from branching out. Like, I saw a Tweet yesterday where someone was asking if The Poppy War had any romance and it confused me; I guess I’m mostly frustrated by the idea of someone who’s otherwise interested in that book potentially not reading it because it doesn’t contain whatever trope/subplot they’re thinking of.
Edited bc I realized: I’m also reading a book rn featuring a shitty love triangle that undermines the (very important) point of the story so maybe it’s personal for me lmaoooo
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Dude you're fine. Honestly, my experience in fandom has been a whole lot of me going "... Did I miss an episode?" and then realizing that, no, it's just that fandom is wrong.
Hahah thanks 😂 yea sometimes I hear people talk about it like it’s canon & then I feel like the weirdo for not seeing it but tbh we should be able to like & enjoy whatever we want, guilt free ♡
That said I don’t think any side of the fandom is “right” or “wrong” for thinking what they want ! It’s a great show with great characters & I love that we can still enjoy it even years later !
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Haaaa… I’m fucked 🙃 so I’ve been trying for the past few hours to buy all dlc for fire emblem fates, played through chapter 6, calculated the cost of all dlc… then that’s when hell started. I spent like 2 hours or so figuring out my Nintendo network ID, passwords and whatnot; I even went on my old Wii U to check my ID and stuff. Then I worked on linking all of my systems together… then I merged funds… now, my funds aren’t showing up on my 3DS. It shows on my switch and on the my Nintendo website… I hope by tomorrow, the funds show up on my 3DS before 5pm cuz that’s when the eshop closes and I’ll be hella fucking sad if I can’t even buy fe fates revelations… this is what I get for procrastinating and overthinking shit
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