Trans Resources/Info Masterpost
I dedicate a lot of time to helping fellow trans men, answering their questions, etc. and I've noticed a few very common questions in every trans group I'm a member of. I want the information within these resources to become common knowledge in our community. This information has been extremely helpful to me, my friends, and/or other people in the community, and they're things that everyone should be aware of...
Changing your name and/or gender marker:
-The National Center for Transgender Equality will tell you exactly how to change your name and/or gender marker in each state.
HRT:
-This map shows organizations that offer HRT following the informed consent method.
-Testosterone HRT changes and timelines: source 1, source 2
-Testosterone myths
-Bottom growth info (CW: this resource contains illustrations of the anatomy that will grow, before and after growth)
Injections/Syringes:
-Syringes and needles can be annoying to buy at the pharmacy. Before I started buying in bulk, I had to go from pharmacy to pharmacy searching for ones that were the right size (they always ran out or didn't buy enough or something). This is a problem that many people experience, so a lot of us buy our medical supplies in bulk online. It's cheaper, easier, and you never have to worry about the pharmacy running out of your syringes. Here are a few popular websites that people buy syringes from: allegromedical.com, westendmedicalsupplies.com, bulksyringes.com, healthykin.com, https://www.vitalitymedical.com, https://www.gpzmedlab.com, etc.
-Trans Needle Exchange is currently on hiatus, but they provide needles/syringes to people who can't afford/access them for free.
-Search relevant subreddits for more, if those websites don't meet your needs.
Surgery:
-topsurgery.net has the answer to almost any top surgery question you might have (the process, finding a surgeon, insurance, before and after pictures, etc.)
-There are top surgery grants that you might qualify for.
-The GALAP (Gender Affirming Letter Access Project) is a group of independent medical professionals dedicated to providing free letters of support to people seeking gender affirming surgeries. Make sure these medical professionals meet the requirements of your insurance/surgeon though, since they all have different requirements.
-Plume also provides letters of support for gender affirming surgeries. Letters are included for members, but they can also be provided to non-members for $150 and one appointment. (Note: they are provided by a medical professional, not a behavioral health or mental health professional. Each insurance has different requirements about who the letter needs to be written by)
-The Gender Confirmation Center has a lot of information about gender affirming surgeries, how to take care of yourself before/during/after surgery, a huge gallery of before and after pictures for different incision types, etc.
-T4T Caregiving is a group of "traveling trans caregivers for all of your post-op needs". I know how hard it is for some people to find someone who is willing to take care of them after surgery. The caregivers at T4T Caregiving will provide you with care 24/7, with prices on a sliding scale that ranges from $150-250 per day.
-You can find information about different surgeons here (top surgery - search by location, whether they accept informed consent, insurance, etc.) and here (several different kinds of surgeries - search by procedure, location, insurance, etc.)
WPATH's Standards of Care:
-It's also a good idea to be familiar with the WPATH's (World Professional Association for Transgender Health) Standards of Care! Here is the most recent version, SOC8
Other:
-Refuge Restrooms is a database of gender neutral bathroom locations. You can search for, add, and rate different locations.
Unfortunately, a lot of this information is only applicable to trans men (or AFAB NB people wishing to transition) in the US. That's what I have the most experience with (and knowledge about), as I'm a trans man in the US. Feel free to add your own favorite resources (especially for trans women) if you want!
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Character Profile: The Smiling Man [Small Spaces book series by Katherine Arden]
**Note: This character profile contains direct spoilers for books 1-2 in the Small Spaces series. Read at your own risk!**
Name
True name unknown; he may not have a true name. One of his servants notes that he has as many names “as people have words.” He is primarily known as “the smiling man,” by the characters in the series, but he takes various disguises over the series and also gives the names “Seth” and “Don Voland.”
Age
Unknown. Likely as old as the world. In the series, he offhandedly comments about playing chess with knights, being around when there was plague in Europe, and referencing a time before Europeans were in North America.
Appearance
Varies throughout the series. It is unknown if he has a true appearance or he simply chooses his appearance as it suits him. In the first book, he appears as an attractive young man with light blonde hair that falls somewhat over his face, and light colored eyes. In the second book, he appears as a man of unknown age with brown hair, glasses, freckles, and two different colored eyes.
“What’s a face? Just another kind of deception.” --The Smiling Man, when told that he looked different the last time they saw him.
Basic History
An otherworldly entity of unknown origin who is from the “world behind the mist,” a supernatural world where things are sideways, strange, and often scary. Characters in the series typically enter the world behind the mist unknowingly, but its appearance is always marked by a thick mist or fog. Another sign that the smiling man is on his way is flickering lights, whether they are candles or electric lights.
The smiling man often appears when people are desperate for something. He makes deals with people, and offers them the thing they want most in the world, in exchange for something he wants. That “something” may include servitude to him, a group of souls delivered into his grasp, destroying an object, etc. His agreements seem to also include the caveat that a long time from now, he will return, and the person will have to ‘let him in’ and do what he says. It is implied that he brings these people to the world behind the mist and keeps them there until their souls are used up.
A local legend in East Evansburg, where the series takes place, notes :”When the mist rises, and the smiling man comes walking, you must avoid large places at night. Keep to small.”
The smiling man has two known servants behind the mist: a Hound without a name, who is barely fed and sometimes given dried-up souls to eat; and a black cat who can easily travel between worlds and is used to spy on people. He also uses people he’s trapped behind the mist as his servants, including people that he’s transformed into scarecrows. He can make them do his bidding; they are used as his eyes and ears when they are in the sunshine world, and they keep the doorway between the world behind the mist open as well.
Powers/Abilities
The smiling man is supernatural and presumably immortal. He has immense powers and can do seemingly anything he wants. He can raise the dead, he can alter memories, even making everyone forget certain people existed; he can make it so people are happy or sad. He can control their bodies and their ability to perceive reality. He can trap them behind the mist, even if they don’t make a deal with them.
He has some power over technology and can make technology cease to work. Notably, the technology will have nothing physically or noticeably wrong with it (ex: car engine will not work, but will appear 100% fine) but will still be unable to work.
He can interact with ghosts and it is implied that he can free ghosts from their in-between state as well. Although he can interact with ghosts, he has no power whatsoever over the dead, and they can do as they like.
The smiling man is implied to know things about people without being told. He may not know the exact details, though this seems to vary from character to character and how confident he is that he knows them.
In Small Spaces, a book written by a woman named Beth Webster details how her husband Jonathan made a deal with the smiling man to bring his brother Caleb back from the dead. In exchange, Jonathan agreed to be the servant of the smiling man one day, when the smiling man came back for him. Jonathan noted that he felt as if he’d know the smiling man since the day he was born, reinforcing the idea of the smiling man having some type of innate connection with people that allows him a window into their soul.
"He smiled,“ Jonathan told me. “He didn’t tell me his name. I don’t think he has a name. He had long fingers. Long, thin fingers, and oh, I can’t remember the rest. I felt as though I’d known him since the day I was born, and I felt the most indescribable horror at the sight of him." --Beth Webster, in her book detailing the history of her family
Personality
Seemingly kind, polite and gentle for the most part.
He sometimes uses this outwardly kind personality to make people trust him and not suspect that he is anything but a nice person. He also appears kind and sympathetic when attempting to convince people to make deals.
But he can also be cruel and spiteful and wicked, especially if you beat him at his games; he detests being beaten. He doesn’t hesitate to use someone’s personal weakness--such as the death of their parent or their fear of being abandoned--against them.
He is somewhat refined in terms of his manner. He bows theatrically in an old-fashioned way, uses old handkerchiefs, and reminds characters throughout the series to mind their manners.
He is very confident in his ability to get one over on anybody, and is displeased but also somewhat pleasantly surprised when someone is able to beat him. However, when someone beats him, he does not let it alone and promises to return for a rematch.
He enjoys scaring people and has great fun doing so. His go-to method for scaring someone when facing them in person is stretching his smile until it reaches from ear to ear, like a twisted version of the Cheshire Cat.
Above all, the smiling man is tricky, manipulative, and will say and do just about anything to get what he wants from people.
"See, girl, you say you want to get home. I know you do. But it's not the thing you want most in all the world. I know it. Tell me what you want most, Olivia Adler. I'm not in the business of granting second-rate wishes." --the smiling man, confronting Olivia Adler in the cornfield.
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