#//aphobia

[nyancrimew]

ace aro people stop derailing and being annoying challenge. we should bring aphobia back

man shut the fuck up ur lame as hell

#anon hate #aphobia

[redysetdare]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.

#text #aro #ace #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #acespec #arospec #ik i made a similar post to this recently but i feel this one better words what i wanted to say with that one #ill leave the other posted but heres a more worded version ig #basically stop theowing repulsed and non partnering ppl under the bus #dont only validate favorable and partnering experiences when fighting aphobia #we are here too

[yagikidd57]

#tw acephobia #tw aphobia #lgbtqia+ #asexuality #asexual #asexuality is valid #ace community #ace space #lgbtqia community #queer community #queer #aroace #aromantic #asexual struggles #aspec #arospec

[sullina]

told someone i was aroace today and their immediate response was "how terrible!"

like, i've read from others that things like this happen, but ngl, actually experiencing it myself was a little surprising.

I wasn't really all that offended tho. I've only known this person for a few days.

But still. my first response was "how is it terrible?"

I'm not exactly "missing out" on anything. How could I miss out on something that sounds like a nightmare to me?

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #aphobia #tw aphobia

[aromantic-pantyanarchy]

It's me. I'm the cis, heterosexual, aromantic man. I will never marry, I will never be married, I will grow into middle age and elder age and I will die unmarried. I will be forced to support a household of myself on only my wages alone for the rest of my life. I will be asked about women and marriage and children by my family for the rest of my life (or men, the progressive ones might say). I may not ever come out to them. I feel like I burned my coming out on something stupid. I don't want to explain it. I don't want to run them through the definitions and intricacies. I don't want the acceptance without understanding, placating me with ceased questions and poor explanations to other, drunk adults.

I like my hair to be long, I spent a year with it dyed a golden blonde with dark roots because I like the trashy party girl aesthetic. I want to dye it again with pink tips. I like painting my nails, black and blue are my favorite colors. I like wearing chokers. I also like wearing baggy jeans and ratty hoodies. I like having stubble. I like having chest hair. I like having a square jaw and broad shoulders. I wish I had a flatter stomach and a thinner profile frame. I don't know what this makes me, perhaps this is something no more GNC than Machine Gun Kelly. I think about this a lot, how queer my appearance truly is. I should think about it less. I have thought long and hard about if I could be trans or if I could be non-binary or if I could be genderqueer and the conclusion I ultimately came to is that I most enjoy being a man open to whatever self-expression I want.

I don't date, but I've thought about it. I would like to meet people, and I would like to have sex with them. But I don't want to hurt them. I fear if I explain what I am beforehand it'll scare them away. I fear if I explain after they'll feel manipulated or abused. I don't know how many people in the dating scene want what I want. I fear my own lack of experience will make me a bad lay, an embarrassing story to tell to confidants in hindsight. I fear my own virginity, a boundary to those I wish to be like. All of these fears are baseless, as I've not been able to even begin a single relationship in my life. Despite this I still heavily identify with terms like "slut" and "manwhore" and "thot" because my interests lay so deeply within casual sex, sex without great intimacy or emotion. This may be some form of stolen valor. I hope the true sluts are not too mad at me.

I made this blog several years ago because a mutual of mine reblogged memes making fun of aro and ace people, making fun of the concept of aphobia, and in addition well known aphobes. I didn't feel comfortable talking about aro stuff on my main blog, for as little as I talk about it. Living through the ace discourse of the 2016 era has largely caused me to cringe in embarrassment any time I am forced to discuss my orientation with people who aren't aro or ace themselves. I no longer follow this person. I unfollowed many people I was mutuals with from that time, most of them because they posted too often about how much they hated men and I didn't want to see that, some because our interests simply drifted too far apart, only one for explicit aphobia reasons. (Also one because they became a "both sides are bad, any vote is wasted" libertarian, but that's unrelated.)

I guess at this point I don't care deeply about what strangers on the internet think of me. If a trusted friend told me that they don't think I'm truly queer that may hurt. But I am going to continue to use the word for myself. I take up no resources. I go to events that are open to me. If an event was not open to me, I think I'd not want to go anyways. I am not a hypothetical, I am not a strawman, I am a person with lived experiences both within and exterior to the queer community. If you hate me, I will permit you to continue to do so. But ultimately, I am who I am, I cannot change these facts, and I would not choose to do so even if I could.

#aromantic #aro #aro positivity #reference to aphobia

[aropride]

(ID: two memes using the "it's 2023 i'm done arguing / if you hate X i'm straight up murdering you" meme format. the first says "asexuals" and has a picture of the ace pride flag, and the second says "aromantics" and has a picture of the aro pride flag. end ID)

#text #I LOVE U ACES I LOVE U AROS #aphobia mention #peer reviewed banger

[kiwinatorwaffles]

every aromantic person who has to witness someone say “there is no non-romantic explanation for these characters” should be financially compensated

EDIT: if i see another one of you fuckers arguing “but sometimes they ARE just super romantic” i’m tired of being nice. i’m just gonna let you know that 1. amanormativity has rotted your fucking brain and 2. it’s people like you that are the reason why aros are suffering. other aros you are not absolved of this. just fucking listen to us for once and stop denying our experiences and pleas.

#turned off reblogs because people can’t behave LMAO #there is always a nonromantic explanation if you opened your eyes wide enough #like just say arospec people don’t matter to you and go #aromantic #aspec #kiwi’s aspec posting #kiwi’s calls #had to add an edit because i got too many stupid comments #aphobia

[ayspec]

“friendships are not lesser forms of relationships than romantic ones!” yeah!

“the idea that there’s a relationship hierarchy is bs!!” precisely!!

“you don’t need romance to be a good or ‘full’ person!!!” yes, yes, yes!!!

“because instead you can have friendship!!!! because aros still love, they just love their friends!! it’s not like we’re heartless monsters!! <333”

…sigh.

#every. single. time. #“relationship anarchy!!” until that includes folks who don’t want any relationships at all #try educating yourself on what aplatonicism and lovelessness is ffs #aplatonic #aromantic #aphobia #aplphobia #✨

[bloggingboutburgers]

Yeah, I know "not all aro/aces" and all, but please don't use "not all aro/aces" as an excuse to not explore anything exclusively aro/ace ever. Otherwise any trace of aro/aceness might end up effectively lost to fandom osmosis.

To sum up... If you wouldn't be homophobic that way, please don't be aphobic that way.

#no one can know i don't like sex #aspec #asexual #aromantic #tw aphobia #aspec erasure #my art #nonburger #am i gonna get bazooka'd for this #i think i'm making a good point others also have made before but i'm bracing to get bazooka'd for this #because... experience #anyway here goes nothing

[aaaroace]

aphobia is so funny to me. like. you’re mad just bc i refuse to have some bitches and just wanna do my thing?

#it’s so incomprehensible to me #and the ‘that’s how it works. you’ll be lonely blah blah blah’ comments. #how abt u shut up #i could’ve had written something coherent and actually serious but I’m too tired to think abt aphobes rn #aromantic #aroace #aro #asexual #ace #aspec #aroace memes #aphobia

[analogconstruct]

its all "aros can still date!" and "aces can still have sex!" when youre talking about canon aro/ace characters until someone headcanons a character as aro/ace and then its "but they've dated before?" "but they've had sex before?" "but they can't be aro/ace???"

#unsigned #queer #aphobia #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #im kinda tired of the whole aro/ace shipping discourse bc people are just saying the same things over and over #but i wanted to say something about this double standard

[silvermoon424]

Honestly as much as I love Tumblr now, I’ll never forgive this site for the “ace discourse” era that nobody has ever fucking apologized for. Irreparable damage was done to aro/ace people and our communities and now that shit is being recycled on TikTok. And then aphobes have the gall to say “well it’s not like you guys have ever faced any hardship in your lives” as if they still don’t bully and discriminate against aro/ace people to this day.

Go rot.

#aphobia #asexual #aromantic #not even tagging this with anything else because when I do I’m guaranteed to gross bigoted anons #I probably still will #1k #5k #10k #most popular

[yagikidd57]

#oversexualization #wtf #lgbtqia+ #asexuality #asexual #asexuality is valid #ace community #lgbtqia community #ace space #tiktok #acespec #aspec #aromantic #aromanticism #queer #queer community #aroace #arospec #lgbtqia #tw acephobia #tw aphobia

[our-arospec-experience]

In light of recent asks,

Cishet aro men are valid. This blog will not tolerate arophobia.

all asks containing hate of any sort will be reported and deleted.

💚🤍🩶🖤

#Tw hate #tw arophobia #tw aphobia #aromantic #our arospec experience #arospec #aro

[aropride]

(ID: two memes using the "it's 2024 i'm done arguing / if you hate X i'm straight up murdering you" meme format. the first says "aromantics" and has a picture of the aro pride flag, and the second says "asexuals" and has a picture of the ace pride flag. end ID)

#text #scheduled #aphobia #arophobia #acephobia

[agrebel18]

saw someone on here the other day say that we don’t need aromantic and asexual representation in media because that’s a “sanitized” identity like BITCH WHAT????? IF YOU CAN ONLY SEE ASPEC PEOPLE AS CHILDREN THAT IS A YOU PROBLEM.

#also. these people should know that sex isn’t the ONLY THING being queer is about. same for romance. #it IS something but it’s not for everyone nor does everyone have the same feelings on it #just. ugh #tw aphobia #aromantic #asexual #arospec #ace spec #aspec representation #aspec rep #aggie posts