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Do you know why I advocate for legalizing sex work and protecting sex works rights? Because it is the frontier. It is on the Frontier of Autonomy, Freedom and Truth. If we go beyond the frontier, we venture into the Grey. If we retreat from the frontier, we lose grounds. Real morality will not condemn sex, sex work or sex workers. Or it will always be a morality of oppression.

#sex positivity #sex works rights #sex positive feminism #sex workers’ right #Pro legal sex work

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Logic: If you you say someone having sex with 100 other persons is ok, but if even just a bit of money changed hand it suddenly isn’t ok, Don’t you see the problem here? Given that absurdity, then promiscuousness becomes a curse word, then sexual freedom becomes a curse word. This is always aimed that way. If we give up those on the frontier of Truth and Freedom, we give up our fight on Truth and Freedom.

On the topic of promiscuousness. Lol each time I saw some self-proclaimed “righteous people” to ridicule someone for being “promiscuous.”

I do not want to personally have casual sex in real life. This is my personal choice. But if someone thinks that makes me morally superior to someone who had casual sex, I’d laugh in their face. I do not abhor casual sex or think it demeaning. I indulge in plenty sexual fantasies. As long as they are not truly abhorrent, as-in inhumane, I’m all okay with it.

Those who use sexual oppression as actual moral condemnation, not ironic mocking mind you, are laughable. They aren’t fighting for freedom, they are fighting for their own “right” to be superior.

#sex positivity #sex positive #sex works rights #pro legal sex work #sex positive feminism #feminism

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Legal prostitution fundamentally is not a moral problem, it is simply whether a dominant patriarchy ever felt threatened by it in the development of the patriarchy’s traditions.

For example, legal prostitution existed China throughout history before the modern time. Unfortunately even the high-class courtesans of ancient China were still classified as a lower social class, along with actors, entertainers and merchants (yes businessmen and prostitutes are among the same disrespected low nine classes. They and their off-springs were forbidden from taking the civil official exam to enter the political system). Still, in many cases, courtesans do enjoy more freedom than “decent” women who were confined to the households. As a result, there were many famous courtesans and courtesan stories in history (one prominent literary example is Li Xiangjun, who was depicted as a hero in a famous Qing dynasty novel.) There were also at least two historical courtesan-poetry waves, written by courtesans themselves. Considering that poetry has great cultural and political value to ancient China, this is quite a feat. This feat is probably more possible for courtesans than ordinary women because the ordinary women of the old times were mostly kept illiterate, and those of aristocratic families with a more “liberal” upbringing who did become capable of writing often destroy or hide their works out of shame, as it was considered taboo for women to engage in the art of writing. It was not as absurd as it sounds that anyone should be ashamed of writing if you are aware of the political and cultural importance linked to writing: It was not something a woman should aspire in those times. A standard good woman were to be politically insignificant, married, belong to one male, bear offsprings to continue his family line, and confined herself to the household and house chores only. Courtesans, because of their status already out of the Confucian values, are not as confined by such indoctrinated patriarchal values, alongside their possible economic independence.

But even with all those patches of freedoms, the courtesans of ancient China never enjoyed any collective political importance. Thus they never threatened the patriarchal order. Comparing the legality of prostitution of ancient China to the west, it is clear that on a fundamental level, legal prostitution is not a problem of morality, but simply a matter of Power in the development of traditions. In a patriarchal society, when the freedom of autonomy did not threaten the patriarchy, it was relatively allowed. Once the freedom of autonomy did threaten the patriarchy, like in the root of west, the patriarchy will try to oppress it. Making it illegal is just an attempt to use the establishment power to cement their forced will.

Once indoctrinated, even no longer with reason, forbidding legal prostitution simply became a way for those in power to hammer the mass into submission, by forcing an unreasonable discriminative rule onto people who naturally doubt such a rule. If you can even control what people can do with their own body, out of their own consent, then you basically own them. Threatening patriarchy or indoctrinated will, either way, here comes the question: is the answer to oppression, just obey?

#sex works rights #sex positivity #sex positive #Sex positive feminism #legalize prostitution #unionize prostitution

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Everything about Bailin is just so fake and boring. I’ve really got enough of that pos’ hypocritical crap.

#Ranting #Get rid of Bailin please

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I’ve seen people making metaphors of LnD:

LHJD=revolution

Sifeng=reform

Bailin/HC=oppression

and the ending of LnD is reform taking over and appeasing revolution to subside. That is a nice kind way to conclude the plot isn’t it?

So for the metaphors, then what does Xuanji represent? Perhaps, the deceived public.

Deliberately kept in a maimed state, with their intrinsic ability to anger, hate etc amputated away(attempted anyway), to reduce the possibility of resurgence from the root without having to fix the real conditions that led to the negative responses.

So that’s why although I like the way LnD concluded its plot, I see that it could totally go the other direction. If reform failed, what comes should be revolution, or else an evil order will be perpetuated.

Until its eventual self-destruction (what a grander scale firework that would be).

So no matter how much I love Sifeng, I totally disagree that Xuanji should follow Sifeng’s words as order if he died. It would be a farce if Xuanji just become someone holding over memory of past good times but losing the actual person she loved so much. It would means the world had taken away too much from her/LHJD, and played her like a fool by killing innocent to destroy her will to fight. It would mean to perpetuate a ‘peace’ built on the back of endless ‘virgin sacrifices’. I’d hate for her to fall for that. If that, she absolutely should tip over the Cauldron of Primeval Chaos and let the order of three realms reset.

That would be a much better path than the alternative, in every sense.

#love and redemption

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This is really hilarious some are using ‘anti-capitalism’ to advocate economically persecuting sex workers.

What, anti-capitalism means cutting off peope’s income and make them starve?

How fucking stupid do you think we all are, that we’d fall for that shit?

Economic oppression is exactly what confined women to their husbands or fathers’ households.

This is what they are doing to onlyfan. They cut off payment. Is this your anti-capitalism. FUCK OFF.

Ask yourself this question: What major online payment platforms allows payment to sex-explicit contents?

Surely not PayPal. Not Square. In fact, the anti-sex-work capitalist league has cut off most independent online sex workers’ paths for income. If you are so keen on ‘anti-capitalism’ maybe you should take on them or those behind them.

In the end, it always come to this:

money buying power to force a few people’s will onto all people.

So yes money is fucking important and anyone who want positive change must focus on making it flows to librate the oppressed.

#sex works rights #economic right #sex positivity #sex positive #sex positive feminism #politics #capitalism #money #oppression #power

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In both Ancient Greece and Ancient Rome, the temples of the Goddess Aphrodite(Venus) were said to receive sponsorships from both courtesans and the public and there were many. This means sex work was not only legal but also blessed. And yet, sex is viewed as a horribly bad thing by the later western patriachy. One must wonder if there exists some logical connections between the two almost opposite states.

It is power at play isn’t it? Sure, high status courtesans, along with lower end ones, must have existed throughout history everywhere, and those courtesans surely have their own personal influences, but perhaps, very seldomly were they actually Represented and even had a claim to be blessed by the divine like in the temples for Aphrodite. Which suggests the possibility of independent collective political-economical existence of the sex workers at the time, like a trade union but instead under the name of temples to divinity. Which, come to think of it, probably played a part in the dark age’s vehement, systematic attempt to eliminate both women and men’s body and sexual autonomy. Through both frigid religious rules and waves of abhorrent violence against women. A majorly powerful patriarchy perhaps had never felt as threatened by those sex workers at the time of the patriarchy’s conception, as Christianity’s development from the time and culture of the Ancient Greeks, where the Greek gods and goddesses’s following still had much influence. The misogyny in Christian religious rules started right after Jesus was persecuted, it prescribed roles for women to be quiet and submissive. Those early Christian patriarchs definitely experienced women followers asking for their own power in their own churches. They could totally also have seen the sphere of influence of Aphrodite’s temple, as well as other female priests of the ‘pagans’ goddesses. Fearful of male authority being challenged, they subsequently tried particularly hard to put down women and any form of female path to economic and political independence, reducing them to exist only within the confines of households and serve as a vehicle for child-bearing.

Alone that line, they also attempted to destroy male alliance to women’s freedom, by stamping down their inherent desires and real self-expressions and assigning them an unattainable “superiority” standard in exchange. This “superiority” is also turned around to tame women by putting them on pedestals of fake perfection, be it morality, modesty, innocence, etc. Either way, it’s all ways of control.

There is no doubt sex workers will continue to exist, as human nature still exist. It’s impossible to really ban something so basic, and the rich and the powerful will of course have their ways to get sex as a service, no matter if it is considered legal or not. The only difference when sex is too stigmatized to be considered real work, is that those who don’t have power further lose their ‘say’ over it. It in effect seeks to remove a path to economic freedom, suppress political representation, and deny the complete right to body autonomy, and that affects everyone. Which, I suspect is exactly what the patriarchy was after at the start: not really to eliminate sex work, but to destroy people’s will, so as to keep women(and men and non-confirm) in their place.

#sex positive #sex positivity #sex positive feminism #religion #patriarchy #oppression #Sex works rights

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TBH every time I see someone on screen accusing someone of “being seduced” I lmao. I consider each time anyone being seduced to spare another’s life or limb to be a WIN for humanity.

Not like it doesn’t need all the help it can get lol.

#Seduction #I consider it a major fault of society to exclude so many organic things due to usage of rules #there is nothing shameful about being seduced to soft your heart #it’s a fucking privilege that it can even work #You’d have to still possess your humanity #many had already lost it #sex positive #Be whole

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Big improvement! I’m not posting the other portrait I painted before but trust me when I say it’s a huge improvement over that!

Btw, watercolor, hot press paper.

#love and redemption #yu sifeng #my painting

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I realized anti-sex-work is really a majorly colonial position.

Sure, denying women’s body autonomy is a patriarchy theme around the world, but legal sex work is definitely the wide-spread norm before western influences took over. Consider the case of Ouled Naïl, as well as how the more open-minded Native American societies were destroyed by white settlers, the western Christian colonial forces removed women’s say over her own boy by violent oppression and subsequent legal oppression in multiple lands around the globe.

Whence they have established the norm, they didn’t need to use force to spread it anymore. The pressure of the dominant western norms are now seen as the only acceptable and dignified ways of doing things. Taiwan used to have legal sex work up till pretty recently, before it got banned. Why? Most likely because it does not seem “civilized and dignified” to the dominant global culture set by the west.

Which is funny considering in Ancient Greece and Rome, Aphrodite(or Venus), the Goddess of Love, Beauty and Procreation, is a patron god for prostitutes high and low and she is considered one of three major Goddesses of Ancient Greek Mythology, one of the root of the western culture.

But maybe that’s exactly why the western patriarchy tried abnormally hard to stigmatize sex and sex work. It was probably a path to both economic and political power for women of that time.

#sex positivity #sex positive #ancient greece #ancient rome #feminism #sex positive feminism #legalize prostitution

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*So about the dreams in the fic, I didn’t mention it, but those were pretty NSFW dreams, and that’s why Sifeng hesitated to ask. It was because he was a naturally shy and proper person, and asking why that particular one that hadn’t appeared would seem like asking for *more* (like he couldn’t wait)… That’s why lol.

#love and redemption #My Fic #Note

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"Blessing of Dream" (On a certain day after marriage)

Translation of my Chinese ficlet 祝梦（婚后某日）first published on 2023Jun12

Chu Xuanji❤️Yu Sifeng

～～～

两人成婚已久，璇玑偶然得来了控梦与入梦之法，便要与司凤尝试。

After being married for some time, Xuanji stumbled upon the art of entering and controlling the dreamscapes. She eagerly tried it with Sifeng.

一开始只是日常甜蜜的用法，待用得熟练了，便忍不住有些过分起来。

Initially, it was just sweet and ordinary usage in their daily lives. However, as she became more proficient, things took a slightly excessive turn.

第一次在梦里见到揽月时，司凤可是吓了一跳，但然后…就这样璇玑的前九世几乎每一个都在梦中出现过，每夜一个，每个都对他诉衷肠…实在无比甜蜜，他渐渐地也投入其中，心里又酸又胀，仿佛一一满足了久未释怀的遗憾，只是觉得奇怪，怎么其中某一世从来没有出现过，但醒来之后他也不好意思再问。

The first time Sifeng encountered Lanyue in a dream, he was quite startled, but then...just like that, Xuanji's previous nine incarnations almost all appeared in his dreams, one on each night. Each one poured out their feelings to him, and it was incredibly sweet. He gradually immersed himself in it, feeling both sour and swollen in his heart, as if long-suppressed unresolved regrets got fulfilled one after another. Yet, he found it strange that a certain incarnation had never appeared in those dreams. Still, he hesitated to ask upon waking up.

璇玑自然是有意为之，她知道，这十世以来，司凤虽然爱她爱得无悔，却并非全然无怨无恨，而她也对自己曾那样深刻地伤害了他九世，而第十世也让他承受许多苦楚而耿耿于怀，便想着以这法子来弥补一些以往的缺憾。

Xuanji of course did it intentionally. She knew that, in these ten lives, although Sifeng loved her unconditionally, there were still grievances and regrets in his heart. She too regretted deeply hurting him in nine of those lives, and that in the tenth, she still let him endured countless sufferings and pains. She wanted to use this method to mend some of the faults of the past.

那九世时，即使被抹去了魔界和天界的记忆，心中不灭的痛恨仍使得她一次次冲破束缚，打破常规，而她每一次登临顶峰，都顺带提升了人界女子的地位，不论是登位女帝，成为第一杀手，还是当上掌门…也许每一世，她的存在也都有其独特的理由和深意。

In those nine incarnations, even though the memories of the Demon and Celestial realms were erased, the deep-seated hatred within her broke through the constraints persistently. Every time she reached the pinnacle, she elevated the status of women in the mortal realm by consequence, be it as the empress, the top assassin, or the sect leader. Perhaps, in each life, her existence held unique and profound meanings.

而只有锦衣卫那一世，她彻底不愿去回想 

But only the time as a Royal Guard, she completely despised to recall.

某次醒来后，他们梳妆时司凤忍不住谈起那一世…她闭上眼睛，“司凤…对不起…”

After waking up one day, while they were dressing, Sifeng finally couldn't help but bring up that particular lifetime. She closed her eyes, and said, "Sifeng... I'm sorry."

自古特异的杰出难免引妒，年轻的女锦衣卫生徒过于出挑，挑战了前辈的权威，于是众语纷纷，先前拿来标榜的性别成了反向谈资，各种细碎议论皆提女人生来就该去相夫教子，本就不适合干这行。

From ancient times, outstanding talents from unconventional places always drew belligerent envy. The young female Royal Guard disciple was too outstanding, posing a challenge to the authority of her seniors, which spawned much gossips and whispering. Her gender, previously touted as a token point, became a subject of derision. They suggested that women were meant to be wives and mothers, naturally unsuitable for this profession.

可他们越这样说，便越激发了她铭刻于心底的怒与恨，更使她决心登顶，俯瞰众人。

The more they spoke like this, the more it stimulated her deep-seated anger and hatred, making her determined to reach the top and overlook everyone.

“司凤，那时候我只想着怎么证明他们都是错的，却遇见了有着一腔痴情梦的你…我那时，维持着冰冷…可其实…正是因为你的存在已经动摇了我的心，所以才愈加…”

"Sifeng, at that time, all I wanted was to prove them wrong. But then I met you, with all your softeners and dreams of love. I maintained a cold exterior, but deep down, because of your existence, my heart was already shaken, and that's why..."

他看着她痛苦悔愧的表情，他想安慰她，想说璇玑，别多想了，错的是那个时代，是封闭你六识的柏霖，不要太责怪自己了…可她会听信吗？

He looked at her pained and remorseful expression. He wanted to comfort her, to say, "Xuanji, don't dwell on it. It was the fault of the era, of the incomplete senses imposed by Bailin. Don't blame yourself too much..." But would she concede?

她不会，更何况那时锥心刺骨的痛苦，又怎么可能轻易抹去呢，所以他只能默默握住她的手，陪着她。

She wouldn't, especially considering the unbearable excruciation of that time. How could it be smoothed over by words? So, he could only silently hold her hand and accompany her.

她闭着的眼睛再睁开时，泛红的眼缘包裹的目光已然沉冷又坚定，“但那都是借口，那样的恶行与当初点睛谷五大派何异？无论如何，我都不该那么做，更何况是你。

”When she finally opened her eyes, the red-rimed gaze had already turned into steely determination. "But those were just excuses. Those wicked deeds were no different from what Dianjing Valley and the other major sects did. I should not have done it to anyone, let alone you."

司凤喉头发哽，但还是勉力说道，“璇玑，你有想去的地方，这本并没有错…”璇玑起身来到椅子后面弯身抱住他的头颈，亲吻他的额头，并不停歇地呢喃“我不会再抛开你了。”司凤笑着，闭着眼睛的睫下渗出些许湿润，曾经他的确总是被抛下的那个，璇玑继续说道，“司凤，今后不论去哪儿，我们都一起。

”Sifeng's throat tightened, but he managed to say, "Xuanji, you have places you wanted to go. There was nothing wrong with that..." 

Xuanji stood up, went behind him, bent down, and hugged his neck, kissing his forehead, murmuring without stop, "I won't abandon you again." Sifeng smiled, moistures seeping from under his closed lashes. Indeed, he was always the one being left behind. Xuanji continued, "Sifeng, from now on, no matter where we go, we go together."

司凤抬手握住她的手，“好。”

Sifeng reached up and held her hand. "Okay."

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爱人间的甜蜜也许掺有苦涩，但只要心向彼此，便没有过不去的难关。

The sweetness between lovers may be mixed with bitterness, but as long as their hearts are connected, there is no difficulty insurmountable.

#love and redemption #yu sifeng #chu xuanji #chuyu #cdrama #fanfic #ficlet #translation

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The Ouled Naïl, an Arabic nomadic/semi-nomadic people of Algeria, North Africa, were once most famously known for their tradition of Nailiyat dancers. The city they frequented were known in the Arab world as “Place of Happiness”.

The women of Ouled Naïl were traditionally trained as dancers and entertainers, Nailiyat dancers. They enjoyed freedom of movement and economic freedom, as they travel to nearby villages and cities to perform dance and music for earnings. They return to their home after they establish enough independent wealth and would marry for love and settle down into married life. Their society do not view their careers as anything less.

In the 1956 book Flute of Sand, author Lawrence Morgan quotes one man as saying, “Our wives, knowing what love is, and having wealth of their own, will marry only the man they love. And, unlike the wives of other men, will remain faithful to death. Thanks be to Allah.” (Source)

There were also women who chose not to marry and instead t establish a career based on dancing/entertainment.

The tradition of Ouled Naïl, preserved throughout their initial conversion to Islamic, beautiful and free, was destroyed by the French colonial occupation in the name of eradicating “moral corruption and prostitution” of the women dancers. At that time, the French ideal of womanhood was higher-class ladies confined to the inner chambers, while a woman taking a walk alone in the street was considered a bold move. The French used legal enforcements to destroyed Ouled Naïl’s female-centric dancer collectives which was crucial to ensure their safety, and the women were subsequently subjected to abuse and murders for their money and the jewelry they often wear. They destroyed their cultural tradition by a hundred years of colonialism, wars, and authoritarian rules.

It’s interesting their history and the destructive French colonization of the Ouled Naïl people were not included in Wikipedia.

As I searched for their history, I come across a BBC video titled “barbaric beauty under starlight.” Put aside the romanticism, I wonder, who is the barbaric?

The beautiful and free Ouled Naïl people, or the French colonial government that destroyed and murdered their culture?

#Ouled Naïl #colonialism #french colonialism #Sex positive feminism #Algeria #North Africa #Culture #We Shall Not Forget #cultural genocide #sex positivity #sex positive #Dancing #art #intersectionalfeminist #intersectionality #intersectionism #feminism

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happy belated birthday @aheartfullofjolllly!!!

#ChuYu #Love and Redemption #There aren’t enough fics about them #So far I’ve seen many fics on the second reincarnation like people are really into that one #my favorite is the first and the fourth #I hate the torture-prison one the most #Like what the actual fuck XJ? #So naturally the first reincarnation ficlet I posted was that one lol #Like I gotta have to find a way to fix it #and dissing #definitely dissing

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Have seen people posting their fics here. Since I’ve accumulated 12 chapters already, I’ll link my fic here too! It’s on AO3. We really don’t get enough ChuYu fanfics here lol.

Warning?: Xuanji has a dick here, and Sifeng is pregnant. It’s kind of a female alpha male omega situation without actually being an ABO. Xuanji is just unique because reasons and Sifeng is naturally able to get pregnant because Golden-Winged Birds can (makes a lot sense if you consider Lize Palace’s no-marriage no-outsider policy when they have only male disciples).

#love and redemption #chu xuanji #yu sifeng #ChuYu

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I mean Sifeng is definitely BOTH! Pouting and throwing a temper with pretty tears on one occasion and sword-fighting while cooking Xuanji’s favorite dishes on the next.

#yu sifeng #love and redemption #Perfect man #✨will not confirm to the standard of Perfection✨

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The more I encounter it, the more I feel like hypermasculinity is a male sexual fantasy instead of a female one. Moreover, it’s a self-gratifying-fantasizing of unbridled power, whichever angle you’re coming in or out of it.

#Which reminds me the reason I got off Danmei #After years and years of reading it I just got enough of the rampant dick-worshiping and couldn’t stand it anymore #not that there’s anything wrong with dicks #but if you worshiping it too much it became a problem #Just love it a regular amount please #lol