#why is being bi so weird

[pizzaqueen]

A snippet from a future fic I'll probably never write, where Steve is a widower with two teenage kids, and he and Eddie randomly meet up, rekindling their old flame. This is when they've been together a while:

“Thank you,” Steve says, coming up behind Eddie at the bathroom sink.

Eddie pauses, catching Steve's eye in the mirror. “What for?” he asks, mouth foamy with toothpaste.

Steve slips his hands along Eddie's hips, hooks his chin over Eddie's shoulder. “For loving my kids.”

“You don't—” Toothpaste dribbles down Eddie's chin and he stoops to spit what's left in his mouth into the sink, gathering his hair to one side. He rinses his mouth out, wipes his face with a towel, then turns to Steve. “You don't have to thank me for that. Of course I love them.”

“Not everyone I've dated has.”

“They're idiots.” Eddie grabs the hem of Steve's shirt, pulling him close. “I mean, first of all, they're part of you, and I don't think I could love you and not love them. But...” He trails off, a small smile tilting his lips. “They're amazing kids.”

Pride swells in Steve's chest; he slides his arms around Eddie's waist and says, “They are.”

“And I'm pretty damn honored I get to be part of their lives,” Eddie says, “so thank you,” and he butts his head gently against Steve's.

Steve huffs and slides his hands up Eddie's back, pulling him into a tight embrace. “I love you.” He presses a kiss to Eddie's neck.

“I love you too.”

“And they both love you as well.”

Eddie lets out a shuddering breath. Steve knows how nervous Eddie was, when they started dating, that he wouldn't be welcomed, but it's almost like he's always been part of their family now. “Good to know,"”Eddie says.

Steve holds Eddie a little tighter. All those years ago, back in Hawkins, when they ended things, Steve thought he'd never see Eddie again. But here they are, together—a family—and Steve's never letting him go this time.

#Steddie #Steve x eddie #Steddie fic #Steddie fanfic #this is soooooo sappy I’m sorry 😫 #anyway I don’t have names for Steve’s kids yet lol #but his son is bi too #his daughter is more like him otherwise though #also Steve takes a while to accept his sexuality so he’s only just come out to his kids because I like stories like that #even though I know some ppl in this fandom have found them offensive?? #but yeah when he comes out his son gets upset because he then feels like he can’t come out without it being weird haha #and Steve is like what??? no??? when he eventually tells him #(I watched a lot of soap operas growing up :P sometimes it comes out in my writing lol) #that’s why I’ll probably never write this fic but it’s fun to dabble in the verse #pizzaqueenfic #pizzaqueenwrites #tsofverse

[dazzlerazz]

I should play CF again with a fresh clear head just to see if I actually like it without fandom bullshit clouding my mind

#razz plays fe3h #I thought I'd forever not be an edelgard lover yet here I am #it is so weird #I'll admit when I'm wrong cuz I was wrong for things I said in the past #I allowed fandom bias against women to cloud my judgement while playing the game #I was never one of those 'booo edelgard was a terrible character she should die' people but I was like tolerable of her #I didn't believe in harping on others for a character being their favorite and I still don't #as I take a step back and realize just how toxic fandom culture is I start to realize that I was actually really wrong #adjacent to this topic I think is that this is sorta half involved with how I felt about her feelings towards byleth during cf #seeing everybody ship their byleth with edelgard made me feel like it was canon #and me playing as m!byleth trying to romance jeritza put me WAYYYY off when she expressed her feelings towards byleth #her feelings that could also be platonic #that still stands I think because I felt very very very awkward and I thought I was mlm at the time #but it's been almost exactly 2 years now and I'm bi and nonbinary #I wonder what my experience will be like this time #idk why I'm rambling about this #I suppose I just want my besties to know that my mind is changing without wanting to make a big diddly darn deal about it

[theragamuffininitiative]

I watched the doctor donna specials and I have emotions. Also I kinda love fifteen. Also none of those plots made sense but they were still good lol.

I just love the Doctor and his bestie Donna so so much. 😭 she got a happy ending after all 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 and so did he alkdlrfkleldd 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 ok I'm normal I'm fine.

#ragamusings #the doctor donna #doctor who #tenth doctor #fourteenth doctor #donna noble #also how many times was the doctor mortally wounded/dying while wearing that face #bc i feel like it's an alarming number of times #partially bc of his whole crisis about not changing lol but still #anyways if you're david tenant why would you want to change fr #THE HUG FIFTEEN GAVE HIM #like kinda weird to be hugged by yourself but also like fifteen is not himself really? #the bi-regeneration thing is hurting my brain #but it's like the doctor knew he couldn't keep going with all that history and pain holding onto him #so he shed that part of himself in the kindest way to let fourteen heal slowly #albeit while fifteen got the fast track on therapy bc of it lol #don't even look at me about donna i love her so much #i'm so glad she is back to being whole both with her memories and with who she made herself to be since #and now she's made a home for herself and her bestie #also mel???! mel coming back what joy mad auntie mel #and wilf 😭😭😭😭😭😭 my beloved #ok normal normal i'm normal #i was so mad when nph showed up though lol why

[txxxciii]

*pointing at people who ship bi-han x kuai liang* see kids? this is why you never put siblings as active characters!!

#tox talks #god i hate people so much sometimes #like you cannot have a franchise with at least two named siblings without fandom being weird about it #do you guys like???? not have siblings???? wtf #things were somewhat fine before mk1 because bi-han was never such an important character #not only that #new fans now state that sub-zero and scorpion were always brothers and get confused whenever kuai liang x hanzo show up! #for old fans it's not that difficult to identify one another - for new fans? HELL NO #i get why nsr gone this way but it only caused more sub-zero and scorpion confusion when we all thought it couldn't get worse #i honestly think sub-zero and scorpion could just work as nameless jobbers like it was in the old movie at this point #mortal kombat #mk #sub zero #scorpion #tw inc*st #bi han #kuai liang

[theguardianace]

i have this whole aroace wxs fic saga like completely planned out with various themes and experiences of being aroace and the different ways each of them would view their own identity but also i cannot for the life of me figure out the plot of any of the stories.

#minus rui ive already finished and posted that. #but emu being so secure in her identity but everyone (her family?) being really aphobic to her bc how could someone like EMU not fall in lo #(but they learn and come to accept her even if they don't really understand) #and tsukasa confidently identifying as bisexual because he doesn't really think gender has anything to do with liking someone #but then being confronted with the fact he's never actually had a crush and what he confused for attraction was admiration instead #but that bi label is something he really does value and he does think both guys and girls are nice looking even without being attracted to #so bi aroace tsukasa KING #and nene who was like “why is everyone being so weird about sex and romance im the only normal person here” #but then realizing “wait people aren't choosing to fall in love like this is a real thing that happens” and being like “ok well not me” #no internalized aphobia or anything just straight to acceptance #yeah. all these ideas. too bad i can't write.

[thrilling-oneway]

Also shout out to the person who said in the tags of that airi post who said that half the debates in this fandom are over gender or sexuality because that’s true and it pisses me off immensely

#all the debates over whether VBS is gay coded or not and that their fans are biphobic if they don’t like m/f vbs pissed me off enough to #make me leave the fandom one of the times i left it. it’s also the reason I dont really like interacting with the fandom anymore LMAO #the thing is I don’t think it really matters lol #like mizuki is canonically trans but no one else is and I genuinely don’t get why people get so heated when ppl don’t have the same gender #hcs as them like it’s a HC not everyone has the same one as you. obviously this happens with airi a lot but with the boys being hc’d as #tfem as well? like I’ve seen people get SO up in it about them being called boys and it’s like full respect for your HC but #…they canonically are? #sexuality is a bit more complex bc while nothing is canon there definitely ARE things implied and since nothing is canon I don’t think it #really matters what ur HC is but at least be able to recognise what’s in the game? like kohane and minori showing attraction to multiple #girls but never to any guys. or an being canonically interested in kohane romantically or bad dogs being implied soulmates #and like it doesn’t matter what you ship or HC but loads of ppl try to claim this doesn’t exist for the sake of winning internet arguments #which is just So stupid #specifically i see this in the wxs fandom a lot over ppl HCing them as not mspec. especially with rui like ive seen loads of arguments #caused by people pointing out that he is actually gay-coded and then people trying to counter that. usually with shipping as evidence lol #and like sure ship him with emu or nene who cares but the coding is there so maybe don’t pretend it isn’t #this fandom is weird there’s like two sides to it of ‘everyone is bi and if you don’t HC that or like m/f ships ur biphobic’ and then #there’s ‘every character should be exclusively gay and if you disagree ur homophobic’ #both of them are wrong #also i doubt clpl gives a shit about any of this #tag ramble over this fandom annoys me

[cold-neon-ocean]

While the Baatar/Asami friendship is everything I want, I also love the idea of Korra fixating on becoming Baatar's friend partially because she feels guilty for how she kind of had to abandon the non-bender's social crisis and also just because of what was done to him in particular, both by her and his family, so she just laser eye locks him in her sighs like "YOU. I will be your friend." and Baatar is just *kermit looking around in bewilderment meme*

#LoK Thoughts #[ and then after some time they do actually become friends lol #and they're very weird friends like no one gets why #Kuvira is so mad oh she's so mad LMAOOOO #Korra joins Bolin in being the only two people (other than Kuv ofc) who will spontaneously hug Baatar and he's just #not used to it lol #he's like trying to hug a horse like he'll stand there and accept it but doesn't *really* know how to hug you back #remember what I said about him being horse coded #also I just love to imagine Korra intently following him around because she's determined to earn his friendship #and Baatar is just SWEATING trying fast walk away bc he's like 'does she wanna kill me or something???' #Baatar at Asami when they're having bi-weekly brunch 'did I do something? why is Korra so suspicious of me?' #Asami: I'm not allowed to tell you #Baatar: ???????? ]

[curiosityschild]

I want to be rich enough to buy a racehorse and name it Trans Rights

#and win the Preakness #other good racehorse names: #Queer As In Fuck You ( can you swear in horse names?) #Gayliness Is Next To Godliness #Let's Go Lesbians #that's a good one #Stop Being Weird About Intersex People #Abortion For Fun And Profit #Horseracing Is Animal Abuse #Kill All Billionaires #wait no just Eat The Rich #There Are So Many Gay Animals #I can't think of any for Bi or Ace or Aro #most of these are super lame but you get the point #why don't more people do like slogans #Buy My Son's New Cryptocurrency It's Not A Scam I Promise #Birds Are Dinosaurs #*announcer voice* #“and now it's Trans Rights! Trans Rights and Let's Go Lesbians are right together into the first corner #Birds Are Dinosaurs has third behind them then it's Eat the Rich trailing behind!“ #is this anything I have no fucking clue how horse races work

[nachosforfree]

I'll be real w you. I think most yaoi jokes currently being thrown around this website are extremely unfunny

#the ONLY funny yaoi joke is the naruto ''yaoi couple yuri couple normal couple? i see no difference love is love'' one #idk i guess i just went through so many years of people critizing yaoi for the fetishization of queer men #and the romanticization of abuse of queer men. that i cannot find majority of the jokes treating it like a fun silly thing funny #this site has gone through a weird phase lately of hating queer men. idk why. i hate it. #not ''hating men'' in the ✨girlboss✨ way but specifically. being mean towards or about gay bi and trans men #specifically.

[negativepeanuthoarder]

Looking at twitter has me all:

#“Oh Karl is only friends with S.NF bc he HATES Dream” how about you shut the fuck up? #“Karl is weird and scary he's loud and he moves weird!” He's neurodivergent dumbass #“Awww Dream has autism!” how the fuck are you going to deny one man his nd while insisting someone else IS?! #“Karl isn't diagnosed!” Neither is Dream #“Yeah well he said he's only KIND of ace so he's not REALLY lgbt!” You are bi by that logic YOU'RE not “really LGBT”. #“I hope banter live flops because I hate Karl being friends with SNF!” why are you so obsessed with the dteam having another close #friendship dissolved after what happened with Q I thought you LIKED them?! #“There's so much mysoginy in this fandom!” Yeah and there's a shit ton of homphobia and transphobia and aphobia and ableism stfu #“I'm going to go hide all of my bad takes on Tumblr so Dream won't see I hate his friends!” how about you just learn how to be a good perso #God these people make me hate this fandom. The worst part is that people actively support their behavior. #discourse

[astxrwar]

having so many poly stevetony x reader thoughts,,, idk idk it’s just something about being the counterbalance to their deeply homoerotic rivalry,,,,

#‘i want to punch you in your perfect teeth’ or whatever he says in cacw #i want to write tony pov bisexual midlife crisis #like maybe it was weird of u to be obsessed w cap since childhood #let’s unpack that huh??? why r u so mad he’s nice and polite and pretty? #steve being absolutely unfazed by the pretty obvious fact that stark has a crush on him #whether he denies it or not. in my hc steve has known he was bi since 16 #steve Knows the signs. he was a traveling performer at 6’4 240lb w a sweet face. #im sure he got very used to men being like ‘ah. i’m having a crisis rn’ at the sight of him. #thinking abt tony denying it even when he lets steve suck his dick. skfnfkfk #the internal monologue of ‘no this is normal. he’s so fucking attractive nobody would find this unappealing it’s captain america #i have ideas for how each part of the triangle sort of like. gets together but idk how i want the poly thing to occur. #like ik probably one person A walks in on pair BC. but who’s A and who are B and C. if you know what i mean #anyway this got long and kinda rambly #steve rogers #tony stark #steve rogers x reader #tony stark x reader #stony x reader #yes im using tags. the dopamine is simply necessary for getting me back into writing again #im in my ‘acknowledging and accepting my hedonistic tendencies for motivation’ era

[vulpixelates]

GOD AWOFEIJAOWIFE

i just got distracted looking through my writing tag and it's so unfathomably heterosexual????? this was only started in like 2017, that doesn't even feel that long ago. i really wrestled through the comphet in record time lmao

#THERE'S SO MUCH C*LLEN SMUT LORD HELP ME WHY DID I WRITE ALL OF THIS #AND WHY DID I CHOOSE HIM TO LATCH ONTO #okayokay i know why: i fucking hated myself so his hating himself was relatable and i was mostly writing him being completely and totally - #- enamored w a hot lady. okay. fine. yeah i get it BUT I DON'T HAVE TO LIKE IT #i have this horrifying realization every time i look at my old writing lmao aoweijfaoiwef i have deleted most of it but god #it's just aoiefjaoiwf so weird that i'm the same person that wrote all of this #and before anyone talks shit about me calling it comphet when i thought i was bi/pan: IT WAS COMPHET LEAVE ME ALONE IT'S MY EXPERIENCE TY #negative #delete later probably #*dykeposting

[shopcat]

i do wish there was more complicated exploration of steve’s sexuality that wasn’t just ‘well i’ve always liked girls so it can’t be both -> oh it is both’. and maybe this is something i have to solve for myself. but i had a journey of like lesbian? -> bisexual? (still a girl?) -> bisexual (boy now) -> gay man (complicated microlabels aside bc i was like 13-16) and i know a lot of other people don’t have a straightforward ‘i thought i was straight turns out i’m not and this is what i am definitely’ process. so i think it would be cool if we explored that more. with steve. (and not just in a throwaway ‘eddie and steve switch sexualities wouldn’t that be fun’ kind of way. which i have seen). this fandom would not do that i think because they are so attached to tropes and not real examinations of characters like they are human people but i like to imagine. anyways i love gay steve i love gay eddie and i love you

hehe i love you too and i agree 💖💖 i think the most fun part about liking fictional works is being able to at whatever depth of your choosing think about a character and the traits they may or may not possess and something as fun + varied + personal as lgbt identity could be immensely satisfying to explore in a creative world where something like that doesn't get typically explored SO! to each their own but personally i think we have had enough "Oh i'm bisexual now by the way because of eddie yeah did you know you can like both i'm so silly aren't i because i didn't know that" stories. in every possible format and headcanon and what the hell ever.

#asks #honestly like i get it and i know why ppl hc him as bi again For Sure... #i have a couple posts around here about what i think he would In my interpretation like act with this in mind #and could probably talk about this until i shrivel up up and away but AGH tbh i just can't relate to what a lot of ppl put out #re his bisexuality and i Love his bisexuality but they're doing boring lame biphobic or otherwise harmful bisexuality. a lot. and why can't #he be gay....... why is this genuinely such a minority opinion that's kind of crazzyyy he's existed as a character for like 8 years #sts #honestly i just don't find it as cute or charming when there is so much repetition like maybe i'd be open to it more if there was genuine #variety but there ISNT i feel like people aren't creating to create they're creating to make content and they want that content to be the #Next Big thing that is a clone work of the 15 thousand other things #like r u telling or showing an actual narrative story with satisfaction ... with thought to character work... Or are u just doing what's #safe bc u know that's what gets attention and breaking out of that mould = being a hater?! or something... #ANYWAY. WHAT. #um yeah he could be bisexual for sure.. partial to it... partial to him being gay... I think he's gay. like many... beautiful world #think he's bi too... #also i'm not actually intending to come off callous or mean spirited here at all esp about soemthing as close to home and heart as this 😭😭 #like i said i'm bi this is just what i feel.. what many of my other bi friends feel. and others. and again if u think he's bi Well yeah #but some people are annoying . and that is what my initial frustration was about . SIGH #unfortch being the guy with the url means i get a lot of unintended and intended weirdness in my direction in general #Everyone hates gay little steve ........ And at what cost

[hotsugarbyglassanimals]

i feel like there's a stark difference between criticism of specific labels (which do not form or exist in vacuums) and denial over your material reality (the experiences that you have decided a specific label fits) and people online could really learn the difference between these two scenarios

#saw someone awhile ago say 'sexuality is NEVER problematic' #as a reason for why it was ok for them to label their sexuality as 'everyone EXCEPT -AMABs-' which is so.... #i criticized the split attraction model for being used outside of aro/ace communities and everyone on here reacted like i shot their dog #'hey maybe consider unpacking why you feel this way and the potential harm these labels may cause for everyone else in the community' ... #... should not be seen as inherently bigoted ? #idk the major focus on validity above anything else was such a weird time #the ignorant biphobe telling bi people to 'pick a side' is different from someone who is telling you -- #-- that you should reconsider using a label that sounds like a symptom of extreme trauma as an identity

[calyaer]

me: is physically attracted to women and falls in love with multiple women (real and fictional)

also me: what no i'm totally gay (mlm) there's no way i could be bi huh what are you talking about

a couple of days ago, i was gushing about a classmate of mine to my cousin and she was like "you sound like you have a crush" and i was like "wait NO don't make me question my sexuality!!!" by the next night, i came to terms with the fact that i was bisexual and came out of the closet again to my cousin. it went well :)

i actually prefer the term omnisexual for myself since, to me, it encompasses the non-binary nature of my sexuality, but i'll be using both omni and bi since bisexual is more recognizable. aka the same thing i did when i identified as pan lol

#not writing #coming out #bisexual #omnisexual #shoutout to gaby from the four of them for having the same character arc i just went thru and guiding me thru it lmao #i feel silly that it took this long to come to terms with my sexuality considering everything #one of the fictional characters i relate most to is bi in my headcanon lol #idrk why i was so deadset on being gay bc... if it was a gender dysphoria thing you'd think id be deadset on being straight right? #but idk. gender dysphoria works in weird ways #anyway cal out

[burymeinblack2022]

Don't ask:

- a man, his salary

- A woman, her age

- And a tumblrina (gn) who they voted for in the nge/moomin poll....

#Releasing this from the drafts bc the poll ends at 9pm today #It's been real y'all we go down gracefully it's been an honor fighting with y'all in the Eva trenches 🫡🫡 #Also why are pitting 2 bad bitches against each other #Like do ppl realize when they say 'moomin is for queer people' the lead of Eva is also literally a depressed bi like! #He should be doing numbers here on the depressed gay site come on. Yeah it was doomed by the narrative #But what is Romance without tragedy. Like man. What a trope (only talking abt the story not the authors obv) #Imagine hearing 'maybe I was born to meet you' from a divine being who sees all your faults #And how much you hate yourself and loves you unconditionally and intensely from the moment he lays eyes on you... I'M GONNA BE UNWELL #Regardless. Times are tough but we stay silly :3 let me be silly for a moment with u it ain't serious #Wow anna said something #Anna's shitposts #Nge #Eva #I just think they're wildly different in how they approach themes and it's weird and complicated to even compare them #One is lighthearted and comforting the other feels like being crushed by a thousand elephants both are important #We got far we deserved better than to lose bc of a bit everyone was committed to but. It's respectable. It all returns to nothing or smth #Edit: the sidenote is to differentiate between the fact one is not known for being queer media but it does have that #Despite it being so small in the story (the show at least but it's significant) and the other #Is obv queer media bc of the author and it's not in the story as far as ik but it's an accepting/inclusive story #Why do u think it got so big and a character that appeared once became one of the biggest*. It obv meant smth to ppl #*to the point he appeared more in the rebuilds and is all over in merch. ANYWAY SORRY FOR RANTING IN THE TAGS I GOT PASSIONATE OK