#when will she stop giving gender

[forlorn-crows]

yall

she. she had little heels.

mist had little HEELS how did i never notice

#also living for the chipped nail polish and short finger nails girl #when will she stop giving gender #the answer is never #mist ghoulette #mist my woman #the band ghost

[lobotomyladylives]

I was reading some aspiring authors personal excerpt about how furious she is with the pervasiveness of misogyny in society & mens refusal to take it seriously, & it resonated so I was considering giving her book a try for a minute but then I get to the end of the post and the fucking tags are like "reminder that I am non-binary and use they/them pronouns so don't get weird in the replies"...I just can't deal with these people they're like a bad joke that came to life and gained (partial) sentience

#how can you be that aware of sexism & how it affects you personally & then still go ''not a woman tho lol!'' #be so real do you think men will stop being sexist towards you once you give them your pronouns #you think youre unique for not liking the role they cast you in? most of us dont join the fucking club #the seven layers of cognitive dissonence clouding your view of yourself on such a fundamentally basic level when #your entire job is dependant on being insightful about these things. #as a writer/poet who is very selfward facing the way her stuff was the ONLY way to be great is to be brutally honest about yourself #like dig deep go to places you dont want to go make yourself uncomfortable & give yourself a mental breakdown levels of self psychoanalyzin #this is what she should be doing. and homegirl cant even admit shes a fucking WOMAN #like its funny honestly but also quite sad. gender ideology is literally melting the minds of the masses

[punkeropercyjackson]

"We need more m/f ships that aren't heternormative or enforce gender stereotypes!!!"You guys couldn't even handle Todomomo

#NAH CAUSE Y'ALL NIGGAS REALLY THREW THAT WORD AT THEM NONSTOP WITH LITERALLY NO BACKING #point to me at a point in the story-i'll even let you use noncanon stuff-where shouto and momo's genders are brought up to their dynamic #you're gonna be searching forever because that never happened even once.SO MANY scenes of them being good best friends to eachother #and not a single one of them indicated they're in love because he's a boy and she's a girl.they don't give a FUCK about that stop projecting #we're literally told and more importantly SHOWN they're close bc of mutual admiration what sweeties they are to and fun they have together #and that they make make eachother feel understood and NORMAL.'heteronormative' my ass tdmm is the most t4t and autistic4autistic ship ever #lower your voice when you speak about them-especially if you stan hawks' dudebro cop ass and think dabitwice or minajirou are platonic #todomomo my darlings i'm so sorry the bnha fandom treated you so horribly because they couldn't accept that not every m/f ship is cishet #or that not every same gender relathionship is realistically queer instead of stereotyping and f*tishization #todomomo #t4t todomomo #todomomo protection squad #todoroki shouto #momo yaoyorozu #half bangladeshi rei agenda #blasian latina momo #trans todoroki #trans momo yaoyorozu #autistic todoroki #autistic momo yaoyorozu #adhd momo #momo yaoyorozu has ocd #momo yaoyorozu has anxiety #goth punk todoroki shouto #pastel punk momo yaoyorozu #agere flips!todomomo #tea blend crew #bnha geekery #💌 #summerposting

[autisticaradiamegido]

hi thank you for all the aradia love this blog

do you have a favorite headcanon about her, even a very small/niche one?

day 284

well i assume u mean aside from the one in the blog title lol

a fun one is this dumb imaginary report card i imagine sometimes

obviously i interpret her as autistic, but i also think shes asexual, sssomewhere on the aro spectrum? and agender! which is all fun because her name also starts with a. call that a straight-A student

#day 284 #year 3 #aradia megido #homestuck #tbf i dont think she thinks too hard about gender? like idk that shed DESCRIBE herself that way necessarily #but i think if you pressed her shed be like 'idk do most people FEEL their gender? yes? huh. well i guess i dont have one! interesting!' #and then not think too hard about it ever again #i think she truly does not give a shit #as for the aro stuff idk. its another thing where i think shes very affectionate but has a hard time distinguishing like #romantic vs platonic attraction and what the difference is? esp since the dividing line between some quadrants is like #'well do you want to have sex with them or not?' and for her the answer is 'no' regardless #even in my biggest ships for her i kind of imagine the relationships to be a bit more on the queerplatonic end of things than like #strictly romantic in the more traditional sense #and again im not sure that she thinks too hard about it! #but when you bring partners into it who maybe Do care about defining it a little more clearly i think she does have to stop and THINK hard #about the nature of her feelings and what words she wants to use to define them #wow this got long maybe this all shouldve been IN the post itself. well oops im not gonna retype/reformat it all sorry its past my bedtime

[kneworder]

angry at the oscars barbie nominations but in an annoyinger way (i think nominating ryan reynolds makes sense but the best picture and best supporting actress noms are ridiculous)

#sorry but the more i think about it the more i really dislike the movie #ken was funny! he was silly and campy! i really did not care for the rest of the movie! #i just think the more you examine its take on feminism the more it falls apart! #it's inherently about a product! it's inherently personifying a product and making you feel sympathy for and relate to a product! #they are generating hype and engendering sympathy for something they are trying to sell you! #regurgitating second wave feminism without nuance doesn't make it groundbreaking it makes it like. fine i guess? #verilybitchie has a great video that put a lot of my feelings about it into words #idk it did not resonate with me at all and also made me kind of annoyed with how it contributed to the ongoing trend #of gendering things that aren't gendered and focusing on a segregation of gendered perspectives #tired of i'm just a girl! tired of girl dinner! tired of men are always thinking about the roman empire! #sure there are experiences more common to and relevant to women but i get so uncomfy with those kinds of generalizations #even when they're just jokes because after they get repeated enough they stop sounding like ones #just like. when you try to examine it in terms of any kind of intersectionality it falls apart #and i know it's not that serious but like come on. they literally do not once touch on any kind of intersectionality. #you can't be like 'it's a groundbreaking feminist movie!' because they said 'women struggle with misogyny' in 2023 #like i know it's barbie but i don't understand why there's this impulse to say that that's something that's never been said before #just because the president is black doesn't mean you've acknowledged like. racism at all. #just because you have two fat barbies with like four lines doesn't mean you've said anything meaningful about body image #and when you take an openly lesbian actress and give her short hair and make her strange and then have all the other characters #essentially socially exile her and still think she's weird after the resolution!!! #i would say that's like!! implicitly a pretty weird way to write gay people! #i don't want to rain on anyone's parade! it's silly! it's not that serious! i just also think it's not that good! #it's fine! it's fun! but i DO think ken is the best part of the barbie movie and for that i apologize

[beetrootsoupdragon]

hmmm.

#vent in tags #turns out my only friend is actually really ableist and queerphobic #like i guess i should have realised that when she called me a slur #but i just excused it #like i excused her being really mean to me #like theres a line between playful joking and trying to insult the other person #and she made a joke abt me being autistic (bad joke to make) so i told her i actually was autistic and she was weird around me the rest of #the day but then near the end she started beingreally rude to me #including saying something like “i have too small of a mental capasity to be a good friend” or something #and like #shes never said anything like this until i told her i was autistic #plus she has always been weird abt me not using excact labels and just referring to my gender and sexuality in general terms #and she was really really weird abt me being trans #and she was so weird when she found out abt my sh #and i actually hate being around her #she makes me feel so bad abt myself wtff #i put up with it bcs i have no other friends #we're not a good friendship bcs she wants so much more from me than i can give and she refuses to give anything back #idk what to do abt it bcs there is. no way ill be able to just stop talking to her #shes really good at forcing me to spend time with her #idk shes actually really manipulative

[lesenbyan]

There are few things worse, I think, than reading a call to action memoir that is so close to right but really should have been shelved for at least 5yrs before going to print so the author has time to learn enough to see all the false equivalencies that really hinder the point

#personal; #yeah fatphobia is bad but dont you dare act like people aren't asking disabled people to medically alter themselves every day??? #you compare bariatric and gender affirming surgeries in such a way that makes the latter sound easy to get?? #and in fact don't at ALL go into the struggles for transition care except for a nod at FL while comparing us (trans people) #to fat people like our lives are Much Easier instead of /oppressed by the same white colonial structures that enforce fatphobia/ #but go off i guess #i was giving a lot of leeway when i was just side eyeing the comparisons with racism bc i'm not fat and i've not experienced enough racism #to say either way on those #but the MOMENT she started using trans and disabled comparisons i about lost it #and also randomly started calling it antisemitic (sure as much as it's violnt to all poc) in the last chapter with nothing supporting it #like you can tell it was written over the course of the last like 2 maybe 3 years without enough space to breathe #i have listened to a book on writing memoir so often i've got some of it all but memorized #and i agree that if it's more recent than a decade you're probably too close to be writing it #and this author's writing mostly about during pandemic times. this is more a journal and call to action than memoir #but its not polished enough to be a proper call to action bc there's not much it gives you to do other than 'stop dieting & dare to be fat' #which isn't an effective call to action when only those most harmed by fatphobia can act on it you know??? #lots of complaints #3/10 #edit: reiterting that i'm not saying it' #*it's not anti-semitic; just that a good published work of this kind doesn't make last second claims and certainly not ones #they haven't already explicitly supported in the text #i feel the need to clarify with the very very vocal rise of anti semitism esp in the left #like yes there are anti-Semitic ties. she didn't name them. just said 'they exist lol' and this went to print #great study in poor research slipping onto shelves bc topic matter is relevant

[welcometogrouchland]

Also in the replies of the Steph concept art on twitter announcing she was gonna be in a new project at DC (posted by Travis Mercer), there were at least 3 comments saying "will Tim be there?" I don't care how hard you ship timsteph I'm exploding you with my eyeballs if you do that on my girls post again

#ramblings of a lunatic #taking a step back to acknowledge that my stanning may be getting overzealous #but then again I'm not in ppls quotes or replies I'm vagueing on an entirely different website with no relevant tags. it could be worse #anyway I know tims had it rough these past couple of months ever since zdarsky shifted focus of the batman title to have less tim #but it still feels. idk. just a wee bit uninspired to act like steph can't go two steps without tim being behind her #im ngl i like timsteph when they're cute but timsteph twitter has been. pissing me off a tad lately #the refusal to acknowledge the sexism in dixons robin run and how it impacts stephs writing and their relationships writing #the refusal to acknowledge tims occasional condescension and hypocrisy when it comes to stephs vigilantism #seemingly only wanting her to be spoiler when he wants her around and telling her to give it up most of the time #also the constant disrespect of stephs batgirl era on there weirdly enough? #I've harped on about this on main and in drafts but despite it's flaws it's a good turn for stephs character #she's the focus she gets development (an upward trajectory! which had previously been unheard of for her! bc she did have flaws as spoiler- #-its just that both writers and characters alike seemed to arbitrarily decide she didn't have the capacity to grow past them! but she did!) #hell i saw a BIZARRE take today i just have to bitch about #which was them saying that Batgirl was a ''heteronormative mask'' steph put on #with spoiler being her more authentic self (and this being paralleled to gender expression with stephs isolation from the batfam as spoiler- #-showing how she ''wasnt like them'') #which. I'm not denying you the view that spoiler has a certain genderific swag to her but the needless dragging of her batgirl persona #steph got treated badly as spoiler bc she was A Girl. it's genuinely that simple dixon felt batman and robin would never stand for a girl- #-running around doing the things they did and would need to chivalrously stop her. he's gone on record saying this #she's constantly getting belittled by mostly men (cass also dismisses her but it feels distinctly less gendered) #and in the end it's barbara who learns to give steph a second chance despite her mistakes and they have a positive relationship #something ppl are quick to dismiss as being in and of itself sexist bc they're pairing the two girls off together #as if batgirl isn't a legacy and as if babs and steph don't have parallels in their resilience and refusal to accept when ppl tell them no #for better and for worse!! #like. idk how you took the strongest feminist element in that comic (bc there are elements of sexism here and there! 2009 n all) #and somehow turn it into ''heteronormativity'' YOU PPL ARE JUST SAYING WORDS AT THIS POINT!!! #anyway. someone take away my internet access

[featherfur]

A lot of times in fandom I find myself looking at lesbian ships and I’m like

Are they really lesbians or are these two women just the only ones left not paired off and y’all are allergic to aro/ace characters and believe that bi people in m/f relationships are still basically straight?

#danny talks #no but seriously #not only are they paired off and people lose their mind if they’re shipped w a guy and insist ‘no she’s CLEARLY A LESBIAN’ because you don’t #like the ship #to the point that people get genuinely threatening (looking at the WQ and JC haters here I don’t even like it but the haters are too much) #but that also lets you push them into a tiny corner where the only way they’re accepted is if they’re uwu perfect girls in a soft pastel r #relationship* #sometimes gay ships that are gay just to pair off are worse #don’t get me wrong I’m not saying everyone is doing it rarepairs and crack ships exist for a reason #I’m saying that the need to push two ppl of the same gender together just to pair everyone off is obnoxious #and it’s additionally obnoxious when you do it to WLW because y’all never give #a damn about actually fleshing out the character just pairing them off so they can’t get in the way of your mlm ship #you can have your ‘these two are the only girls in the room so clearly they’re lesbians’ but for the love of god pls treat them as well as #you do the male characters #I’m dying out here #also stop being fucking aro and bi-phobic or I’m coming for your knees

[burning-thistles-bt]

idk what gender Blossomtail has but i want it

and so does his husband <3

#this is a joke btw #sort of. idk. lmao. fem Blossomtail is growing on me #i love herrrr she so she #i think im partial to a he/she transgirl Blossom maybe? #and before anyone is like 'bUt isnT BaDgeR gAy??' #Yes he is and he still can be #he fell in love with Blossom when he was a guy but he's not gonna suddenly stop loving him cause his genders a little more feminine now #some people fall out of love when genders/appearances change and others dont its just how it works man #also why does Badgerfang give me like. Florida man trucker vibes. idk #lolling art #bt art #badgerfang #badgerfang lives au #blossomtail #blossomkit #badgerblossom #burning thistles #burning thistles au #bt ships #art #random #silly

[longagoitwastuesday]

The way Haemon acts has reminded me a lot of Romeo and Juliet

#I was thinking how Haemon has perhaps more the women perhaps more typically have in these plays #And then it made me think how I read a paper many years ago defending a similar idea in Romeo and Juliet #Which made me recall the scene in which Juliet sees Romeo as if alive in a tomb #Juliet is alive in a tomb #but thinking her dead Romeo kills himself. And then Juliet kills herself #seeing Romeo dead in her tomb #And how ominous that scene is. How she can see him already dead #Then is Juliet the one alive in a tomb‚ and thinking her dead Romeo kills himself #And then Juliet kills herself seeing Romeo dead in her tomb #I don't know... In general I think Antigone was pretty interesting when it comes to gender and it does so quite explicitly #Haemon is a character I didn't expect to like as much as I have #He appears two seconds but I love him #Creon also tells Haemon that he'll never marry Antigone while she lives. And then he kills himself #Creon had taken Haemon's words as a threat against his life‚ but Haemon was warning him he'd kill himself #I don't know‚ I found all this very interesting #I talk too much #I should probably delete this later #Idk I just finished Ajax but I can't stop thinking of the concepts in Antigone ironically even though perhapas I liked Ajax more #It's super interesting how marriage/death are linked here and how the gender roles all things considering are played with I think? #And it's so ironic that Creon kind of gives Haemon and Antigone the marriage and house they wanted #I don't know. I adore it haha #Also. Heathcliff. Again xD

[ronanlynchbf]

diversity loss! those ppl correctly gendering u assumed you're straight..

#well 'correctly gendering' they genuinely just saw me as Some Guy i think so automatically referred to me as he #anyway there are a group of usually four to five ppl at the train station nearest to me who stop u and talk to you about sj stuff and/or as #you to donate. so stuff like immigrant rights lgbtq+ rights the environment et cetera & they were eyeing me when i was approaching (to #potentially be stopped & talked to etc. i get stopped like. 80% of the time around there) but then turned back towards each other and said #something along the lines of 'oh this is so scary this is so hard he's so scary' and then didn't stop me to talk and literally as i walked #away (i was JUST past them some ppl rlly do not wait for someone to be out of earsight to tall abt them) one of them said 'his face looked #good (as in approachable & a potential Person To Converse With) but the rest of him....straight man. look at that blouse.' #the previous sentence loosely quoted but it was smth like that...........WTF DO U MEAN STRAIGHT MAN??? TAKE THAT BACK PLEASE I BEG 😭🙏 #<<<<<< also they meant cis straight man specifically i'm pretty sure...which is the absolute worst part of that whole assumption. #ALSO what's wrong with my blouse......... #thanks 4 the gender euphoria though. much obliged 👍 #double also i don't think i'm using this meme setup thingie in the way it is supposed to be used but it makes sense either way. to me. #TRIPLE ALSO we're just assuming that if someone is a straight man they immediately don't gaf about social justice stuff?? okay..... #i mean i get it but also big generalization. but also i get it. but also big generalization. anyway. in other news i found out my grandma #used to write my grandpa actual poems. like ACTUAL actual poems of the professional sort that she made up and wrote down herself to give #to him <3333 #& more news though this one is not very surprising and in fact very predictable I AM SO SLEEPY TIRED. ZONK TOWN I'M COMING DON'T U WORRY❗❗ #just need to read the newspaper (the mutuals' posts of 2day) and then i am going to bed IMMEDIATELY u best believe.

[maschotch]

I forgot that they usually get a room each. One day the BAU accountant is going to lose their shit. Never got a single room for a work trip if it was a group trip. The hotels, the jet, the Gucci? What is the budget?

honestlyyyy im so fucking certain they’ve had to double up many times before. the only exception is rossi, who usually buys his own room at a nicer hotel

#leaving five of them.. one of them gets a room to themselves #hotch almost never takes it and insists on one of the others #morgan really doesnt mind sharing a room so he doesnt usually get it either #same for emily as long as she likes whoever she’s bunking w #so its usually jj/reid who get the room since theyre the ones people dont like to share rooms w akdhkahdhd #asks #in pre-s1 the pairings were either hotch/gideon and spencer/morgan or gideon/spencer hotch/morgan #w jj getting her own room bc she’s a hashtagGirl #so when elle joins the team they keep the rooms divided up by gender so elle and jj share a room all the time #after like the fifth time tho elle storms up to hotch and says she’ll quit right now if she has to share a room w jj again aldhkshd #so after that they dont really worry ab that so much skdhskhd #everyones kinda thankful when jj gets pregnant bc now they have an excuse to give her her own room #and they just… dont stop sldhskhdj and she likes it bc she likes having more space to herself

[boydykedevo]

Victeazer is f/f AND m/f hashtag bigender rumpleteazer rights

#my final message… good night #look I know I talk a lot about Teazer being butch or masc etc when that’s not how she’s usually portrayed #my secret is I know her personally and I pretend I do not see it when canon contradicts me #until they stop giving all the girl cats bright red lipstick I will elect to ignore canon re: my blorbos’ genders #also I am simply projecting here get off my dick akshksksndhdkd #icarus is talking #victeazer #cats musical

[gaylotusthatexists]

the temptation to start going by any pronouns.

#it’s like. they/them will always be a good and safe fit and i enjoy using them #but also mmmm he/him. it/its. xe/xem. fae/faer. what if. #idk the only problem is that i have a complicated relationship with she/her and i don’t know if it’s just like. i’m so used to people using #she/her on me that i really don’t give a fuck about pronouns anymore. so really what is the difference if like someone uses pronouns other #than she/they. like i’ve stopped caring so why would it matter. #but at the same time neos are in fact cool and also i used to get a surge of gender euphoria whenever someone he/him’d me when like playing #games online or whatever so like. hmmm. #idk this is something i’ve been thinking about for well over a year and like no matter what they/them is always comfy. #i will probably continue to think about this for many years to come #tho also if anyone wants to try using other pronouns on me i wouldn’t be mad. that would be cool maybe. idk.

[fideidefenswhore]

There is at least plenty of ­Cromwell, though he remains a puppet, jerked about to display this or that prejudice of his creator. The rest of the characters are disappointingly one-dimensional, and there is a comfortingly old-fashioned division between the goodies (almost all the Protestants, with the exception of Anne Boleyn) and the baddies (almost all the Catholics, with the half-exception of Catherine of Aragon). One might as well be reading Charles Kingsley. By the time one is halfway through The Mirror and the Light, moreover, one is wondering whether there is a genuinely sympathetic female character in the entire opus. (To be fair, there are one or two, in modest walk-on parts as wives or lovers.) The author may betray pity for ­Catherine of Aragon, but certainly not liking. As for the queen’s daughter, Mary Tudor, she staggers through the novel like one accursed: plain, ugly, stubborn, deceitful, ­timorous, sickly, stupid, bigoted, clumsy, ill-dressed, unloved and unlovable. . . . Rarely, one feels, has any human creature been so ­ill-favored.

THE MIRRORS AND THE SMOKE by Richard Rex

#i feel like i don't really like richard rex but idr why #smth he said once pissed me off tho i can remember that #anyways.... #*can't remember what #yeah the way mantel writes women and mary in particularly is pretty gross #it was one of the things that made me queasy reading TMATL #altho idk if anything tops her thinly-veiled animus for AB what she seems to have mostly for mary is disdain #for her 'weakness' or 'feminine' (lol...transmisogynists and their weird gender binaries) weakness and idt mary was weak at all #(whereas for anne she seems to have this sort of begruding admiration for what she perceives as her 'male' aggression/ assertiveness.. #somehow while insisting that to call her a victim is an insult or inNacUrAte bcus she for much of her final years had agency and power ) #(and also portraying h.enry as being like. henpecked by her into cruelty. it's a very outdated take that critics seem to have lapped #up as erudition simply bcus it was wrapped in purple prose #) #she wrote so nastily about her crying upon being reunited with her father #'mewling' and #when j.ane gives her a ring and it stops crom's inner narrative is #'is reminded of lady bryan holding out a teething ring for the lady bastard' #which was also fdshfjs. i mean again. i can't pretend to know his inner thoughts. it is fiction #but that sounds way more like chapuys... 'lady bastard'? #in dispatches he referred to her as the lady elizabeth or the late princess