#undiagnosed autistic feels

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Undiagnosed Autism

Autism Parenting + Wellbeing

#autism #actually autistic #autism awareness month #autism acceptence month #undiagnosed autism #how getting an diagnosis can be helpful #self diagnosed autism #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #feel free to share/reblog #Autism Parenting + Wellbeing (Facebook)

[marzipanandminutiae]

I miss people using non-medicalized terms for other people's passions

like. well and good to talk about "hyperfixations," "special interests [in the context of an autistic person's favorite subject]," or "infodumping" if you have ADD/ADHD or autism, or are talking about someone who is, but...that's not everyone who feels strongly about something, obsesses, or loves talking about their interests. those words mean specific things, associated with specific forms of neurodivergence

don't assume everyone is comfortable with that language

"rambling" is a word; so is "ranting." "obsession" is a word. "passion" is a word. learn them and use them

#mini-rant #it makes me really uncomfortable when people use that language to talk about my fandom activities #because those are fine and useful words! they just. don't apply to me. #also the weird assumption that everyone who like...has a hobby is autistic? or feels passionately about any activity? #at least in this case it's coming from a more positive perspective and usually from autistic people themselves but #I see people claiming that X character with a hobby they love is 100% Confirmed Autistic and if you disagree you're a bigot #you are free to headcanon that! but. #neurotypical people also have hobbies sometimes! #just saw someone saying that the character Daria was 'undiagnosed autistic' and therefore criticizing her behavior was Bad #my friend. she is a fake person.

[uncanny-tranny]

I'm going to preface this by saying that I have really complex feelings about this, and much of it is inspired by my personal experiences and a bit of learning about what other trans people experience. If I come across as messy, it is because of these reasons.

There's this unshakable feeling I have that when allies and even other trans people talk about trans people, transition and motivation for transition, and anything related to such, that there's only certain things that x type of trans person can (and should) experience and talk about.

Like, when people talk about FtMs/trans men/transmasc people, a common idea is that we're motivated to transition to game the system, to manipulate people into treating us better because we're now seen as men. A huge reason I never even bought into that idea is because, since transition (especially medical), I have been treated worse than I ever have been. Since transitioning and being on testosterone, I've been catcalled, had people insist I hand my number over, and I have to emphasize that I've never experienced these things until a couple of years ago (to clarify, this was in my real, corporeal life). I honestly can say that, while transition has saved my life and soul, I am treated worse by others than I ever had been pre-transition. However, because the idea of transmascs is that "they were victims of misogyny and they only want to escape it through transition" is popular even among some trans people, I feel like it's almost... taking something away by acknowledging that. Add to this that I'm white and that TPoC have so many experiences that intertwine with race, and that race absolutely goes into how trans people are treated.

I am not saying that my experience is the only valid or true one. I am very aware that I'm probably an outlier. However, I just notice that, time and time again, people hear what they want to hear about transness, and if people have even slightly different points of view from their experiences, it doesn't matter, or worse, those people are duplicitous and conniving.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #misogyny tw #i just feel like there are very few spaces i feel safe even talking about my experiences with #because it's either ending up in transphobia ('see? you'll NEVER escape!!!') or downplaying or denying my experiences (men don't face that) #i just wish you could talk about the good and the bad without people picking at your carcass like vultures y'know? #because that's how it feels. it feels like i've been laid out on the ground to be *picked* apart and torn #making this after being harassed once again. catcallers get the boot. #it's just amazing to me how pre-transition i was almost... immune to that shit #the worst treatment i faced was being an undiagnosed autistic kid in school (which was ableism and not applicable to the conversation)

[honeypleasejustkillme]

it’s just my touch of the ✨tism✨

#actually mentally ill #bpd shitposting #undiagnosed autism? #autistic things #autism #autistic problems #actually autistic #autistic feels #autism spectrum disorder

[dollyboned]

i should relate more to my giftedness but it's so damn hard when the only part of it that really applies is "i got good grades without studying don't fucking ask me how"

#like what am i supposed to do when i relate a lot more to my undiagnosed and treated as fake by my parents audhd? #i feel like i am faking my giftedness and not my autism or my adhd!!! #at this point academic stimulation makes me mad bc i don't feel like i need more #in fact i need people to listen to this really large amount of knowledge that i've got from these 2 strict and selective topics #and to be loved by infodumping since i was a kid #i was just a kid. #giftedness #actually gifted #autism #actually autistic #adhd #actually adhd #audhd #actually audhd

[ambientbroth]

First poll :) repost are welcomed!

#actually autistic #autism #self diagnosed autisic #autisic traits #autistic feels #autistic adult #autism in women #late diagnosed autistic #neurodivergent #actuallyautistic #undiagnosed autism #autistic experiences #self diagnosers #self diagnosis #autistic spectrum #autistic

[wildflowercryptid]

thinking about kieran again... particularly about how i feel like he struggles with a weak sense of self and how him identifying so heavily with ogrepon, (or at least the version of ogrepon he originally knew,) probably helped him stabilize how he saw himself, only to have something he considered so core to his identity essentially ripped away from him. not only that, it was by someone he seemingly wanted to trust and open up to, (which i doubt he does very often.)

i definitely think that the way he's handling things is far from healthy, but i can get why he'd have such an intense reaction to losing something that was so important to him and basically being betrayed by someone he wanted to consider a friend.

#i'm saying this as someone who has also struggled my sense of self and used to use characters to help feel more of a person #basically what i'm is that kieran is autistic-coded as hell and i see bits of myself in him #they aren't the prettiest parts but being a teenager with undiagnosed mental illnesses was never meant to be beautiful #also kieran's autonomy constantly being undermined by the ppl around him is a big fuckin mood #oh and the toxic chain possession theories are making me go 🤔 #i can't wait to see how things turn out for him... #at the end of the day i just hope things end well and that florian & kieran can be friends again... #ideally they'd still have a friendly rivalry that helps both of them improve for the better (like may & wally) #pokemon #pkmn scarvio #rival kieran #chara : kieran hinoki #<- kiddo's got an mjverse surname now 😏 #(it's from the japanese cypress who's wood is used to create masks for noh theatre performances) #mj.txt #scarvio spoilers #sv dlc spoilers

[alanaisalive]

Everyone on the Stardew Valley subreddit:

"I don't hate Demetrius because he's autistic coded! I love autistic people! I just hate him because he takes things too literally and he has black and white thinking patterns and he is resistant to changing his mind and he doesn't seem to understand social norms and he talks too much about his extremely narrow interests..."

My dude, you are describing autism. You hate him because he's autistic.

#stardew valley #demetrius #I only try to explain this to redditors when I feel like being downvoted to hell #he is an especially good representation of an undiagnosed autistic adult with little self-awareness #I have known plenty of them in my own family

[apology-or-marcus]

Please boop me 🙏

Me if you don’t give me boops:

#boop #boopometer #boop o meter #boop me #danganronpa #kiyotaka ishimaru #scott smajor #smajor1995 #dangthatsalongname #smajor #ride the cyclone #genloss #huskerdust #generation loss #heathers the musical #villain #austin show #joey is convinced scott was jealous that xornoth got a boyfriend so he made one up #when phil gets back he always feels extra cold #coral kids #jane doe ride the cyclone #milo witchcraft smp #witchcraft smp smajor #undiagnosed autistic #noel gruber my beloved #another kind #god i love democracy #witchcraft smp scott #s l u r p #these are literally just random tags that I’m adding so more people see this 😭

[ace-dodo]

Low functioning day? What about a low functioning week!

#ive been so dizzy this week oml #i barely do anything and i feel like fainting all the time #make it stop 😭😭 #im okay tho #i think #I HAVENT FAINTED SO THAT MEANS IM FINE 😁😁 #autism #undiagnosed autistic #autistic #autistic things #actually autistic

[beemers-hell]

when I saw you posted another chapter to bfta, I literally DIED . it was genuinely moving enough for me to reread all the chapters before it (since I had in the past and was waiting very happily for the newest.) i HAVE TO SAY I ADORE how you portray every single character you write: they are all loveable and feel undoubtedly in character/lifelike to me it's insane. mind blowing. I've had genuine massive bursts of just HYSTERIA BECAUSE OF HOW HAPPY SOME OF THE INTERACTIONS IN THESE FICS GO!!! it's genuinely crazy and has been pretty much ruining my life/POS ever since I first read through. IM SO REAL AND HONEST RIGHT NOW I'm hanging on to every fucking word within an inch of my life and I swear I feel some of the struggles that are being dealt with in my bones;; they are so relatable and it's lead me to start trying to figure myself out further. I'm so excited for more chapters and I do know you're going through it so I hope you recover well 🩷

hey what if i just started fucking crying all over the place HELLO!!!!

#beemer asks #slash pos #genuinely comments like this about the fic mean SOOOO so much to me #cause like im very passionate about and proud of my writing and i wanna share that passion with yall and see it pay off and all that #but like sharing my autistic ass experiences with people is so important to me so others like me can see themselves in the shit i make #so the world feels a little less lonely bc you know someone else out there understands what you're going through #bc i sure as fuck needed something like that growing up undiagnosed and not knowing why the fuck i wasnt normal and couldnt be #anyway. #WZHAHSDAAHEFGWVJHBSDNCAHAHB!h!w!h!!!!!! #YOU CANT BE NICE TO ME IT MAKES ME SOB

[currently-getting-a-diagnosis]

Black Autistic Culture is learning about meltdowns and thinking about how you were often called a crybaby as a child.

#now you're older and numb #autistic black girl #actually autistic #autism #autistic problems #being autistic #autism things #autistic feels #autistic things #black autistic culture #black autistic #black and autistic #autistic black people #autistic #autistic culture #autistic experiences #undiagnosed autistic #jay's tism thoughts #autizzy #meltdowns

[themichaelsheen]

this excerpt from "Autism and Masking" is the best way to sum up the feelings of masking being neurotypical for most of your life.

#neurodivergent #autism #autistic adult #undiagnosed autism #actually autistic #autistic burnout #autistic masking #the dangers of masking #mental health stuff #i need a diagnosis #if anyone knows how to help feel free to send me a dm

[ambientbroth]

Gatekeeping culture is like: “don’t get your information online it’s too easy😡!!!” Then offer “find research papers online it’s really easy🙄”

Then block you.

Self diagnosing isn’t TikTok videos and random blogs. It’s literally months to years of research. There’s a lot of reasons why someone can’t get professionally diagnosed.

Misdiagnoses happen a lot

People aren’t taken seriously

It’s expensive asf

Its inaccessible

People want to adopt

People want the right to their bodily autonomy

I’m disappointed when I go online and see my bullies are now nurses. That’s kinda the same thing when I go on here and see professionally diagnosed people who shit on undiagnosed for posting coping mechanisms.

Stop calling people “the problem” for coping. The real issue is people who post any “if you have these… you might have” THATS DANGEROUS. what isn’t dangerous is:

Finding coping mechanisms

Find organization tools to function

Therapy

Talking about experiences

Researching extensively on traits

Documenting

Unmasking

Printing off quizzes or research articles from well established resources (Embracing Autism, ASAN, AIM, awn network, A4A)

Stimming (if it isn’t harming)

Advocating for diagnosis is one thing. Being a bully online is another. It’s a disability not a quirk, a lot of self diagnosed people know it’s a disability. We can identify the actual problems in the self diagnosing community but a lot of us aren’t those.

We’re valid

#self diagnosed autisic #self diagnosers #self diagnosis is valid #autism in women #autism in girls #autisic traits #late diagnosed autistic #actually autistic #autistic feels #gate keeping #executive dysfunction #neurodivergent #undiagnosed autism #coping mechanism

[nemmet]

question: who is your favourite scooby doo character and why?

in a similar vein to my how did you get into scooby doo post from last month, i'm now interested in hearing who your favourite character from the franchise is! are they a member of the core gang or a side character? which iteration/version of theirs do you like best? do you have any specific memories associated with them? do they mean a lot to you personally, or do you just think they're neat? it's time to gush about them in the tags/replies!!

#if you don't know me: hi i'm nem and when the scooby doo hyperfixation beam hit me back in 2021 i was cursed to forever think about #fred jones more than everyone else on the planet combined #i just think the evolution of his character is so fascinating #especially in the way that they made him more engaging by just exaggerating his core traits a whole bunch over time #my favourite iterations of his are mystery inc (for the canon autism and generally how emotionally affecting he is) #and what's new (for just how plain silly and sweet he is) #however now that i've seen the whole show be cool's version of fred is now a firm favourite as well (his focus episodes are amazing!!!) #there's just so much that can be done with him and there's never a dull moment when he gets quality screentime in an episode or movie #he makes me laugh he makes me cry and through relating so much to his character he essentially tricked me into loving myself #i grew up with undiagnosed autism and struggled with self-hatred for things like my intense interests/social struggles/hyperempathy #things that i now know are just. fundamental parts of me and the way my brain is #so seeing fred be his unapologetic autistic self (canon in mystery inc/coded in everything else) made me feel less alone & gave me hope #which eventually led me to seek out & obtain my formal diagnosis at 17 and generally just feel so much more secure in who i am #so yeah!!!! this silly goofy cartoon character means a whole lot to me and i'm glad to have a place to express that :) #i look forward to seeing everyone's responses to this question!!! #scooby doo

[kirby-the-gorb]

#kirby #daily kirby #my art #digital #hal laboratory #nintendo #it seems our gas furnace was contributing to my flare up so my wife went out and bought a space heater. #(mcas is an illness that can react to literally anything regardless of how safe a thing probably is for most people) #(and yes I am vaguely aware twitter was arguing about natural gas but I've never liked it personally) #(it smells bad which usually means that it's bad for me) #(which like convenient that that one single safety system works! glad things I find unpleasant turn out to be things I should avoid) #(cuz I know that's not the case for everyone) #(and like growing up undiagnosed autistic I was really pushed to just put up with unpleasant sensations) #(so it's good to have double justification for not forcing myself to eat foods I know I don't like and so on) #(but I'd turned it off yesterday cuz I had a hunch) #(and I turned it back on this morning cuz I didn't want the cat to be cold) #(and I hadn't had a flare last night) #(but I started feeling worse whenever it kicked on.) #(so.) #(pretty straightforward answer there.) #(whoops left half of the thought shared with twitter in the post body -n-)