#to date a 30 year old

[saetoru]

i feel like some ppl need to realize ppl in their 30s are not old it’s just that ppl in their 20s are just young 😐

#⚠︎︎ tw: tee is talking! #i saw this tik tok about age gap relationships #and while i am heavily against the idea of a 30 year old dating a 20 year old #i don’t think the reason that’s bad is bc a 30 year old is actually old #bc they’re not old #the reason it’s bad is bc their life experiences and maturity levels are very different #at 20 or early 20s #most of us are just stepping to adult responsibilities #and there is a lack of understanding of the real world around us #so #to date a 30 year old #almost always means being taken advantage of in one way or another #so yes if my friend dated a 30 year old i would be very very alarmed by their intentions w my friend #but they are not ‘old’ #like we need to stop pushing this agenda that once u hit ur 30s u have become ancient #it’s ridiculous and creates a lot of insecurities in other aspects of life #okay rant over my bad #fjskmfkekakf

[heavenpierceher]

i think discourse on this site would rapidly become significantly less annoying if we replaced “fandom purity culture policing” or whatever the fuck it is people call it with “moral scrupulosity” which is the actual term for that behavior

#which would also broaden understanding of it as a symptom—not a harmless one mind you but still a symptom—rather than like #People Ruining My Fun For No Reason #if someone’s going on an unhinged rant about how 25 year olds can’t date people over 30 or whatever #it’s likely that they’re… like… dealing with some internalized shit that’s hurting them as much as the people around them #not just randomly being malicious for no reason #people’s behavior exists largely as a reaction to their environment #i suspect like a solid 80% of truly unhinged discourse along these lines is literally just people with unchecked scrupulosity issues+ #+taking it out on everyone around them #op

[genericpuff]

Under normal circumstances I would never rock up to the ask box but it feels like Smythe ghost wrote this

https://www.thecut.com/article/age-gap-relationships-marriage-younger-women-older-man.html

ok first of all, rock up to my ask box more often >:3

second of all, jesus CHRIST what am i READING-

I had to do some CTRL + P trickery to get around the pop-up window because no way am I giving this site my contact info LOL but yeah just- just read this shit y'all, what the fuuuuck-

as soon as i saw the word 'partners' in quotes like that i knew i was in for a treat /s

it's wild how they can be so close to the point of toxic masculinity and the conclusion they come to is "well clearly age gap relationships are superior and the women in same age relationships are just intellectually inferior to me"

ngl i know this is gonna come off just as misogynist as what i'm claiming this article to be (and let's please acknowledge that a lot of criticisms of female characters in media ARE rooted in misogyny), but the POV of the writer comes across like those insufferable indie movie love interests who try to sound deep over the most basic metaphors-

honey it's not your job to fix him no matter what age you are 😔

#i'm obviously the jaded 30 year old man in this story #but i'm also not solving that by dating borderline teenagers LOL ??? #like damn that's a whole lot of words that could have been saved for his therapy session ngl #anon ama #ask me anything #ama #anon ask me anything

[ctl-yuejie]

a taste

#only friends #only friends the series #ofts #mark pakin #papang phromphiriya #i am obsessed with how good papang is #trust me to read too much into it but to me he clearly has an idea who 30 sth year old Dan is #seemingly out of the dating scene since at least his graduation so doesn't know the current lingo #feeling a bit too old but also unsure how he likes being called old but hot #very charmed by this junior but not used anymore to getting butterflies in a club #lowkey knows that the boss thing might be a bit hmm... #(listen: i love that again the show doesn't give us a clear line of 'dan is a creep' because there is a lot of room for him to essentially #be a good option for nick as well as the possibility of accidentally acting unethical) especially within the community it is worth to #observe whether the power imbalance on its own speaks against the person #he's also a bit shy wondering whether this cute guy would actually be interested in him because he is sweet and obviously aquainted with #going to bars so surely he must have options #and mark is also so wonderful ;A; even before he spots boston you can see that there is still some heartbreak lingering #but also that he liked the kiss but it was a very different feel to boston #also: somehow papang in mlc and papang here kisses absolutely differently and it makes so much sense to me that he at this point in his #life would kiss like this?? idk how to explain it better #this show continues to bring out the best acting out of everyone #(to derail: maybe why i want the writing for top to be that he's still in the grey so badly because i think that is the kind of difficult #acting force is actually mastering in this series)

[junglejim4322]

The older I get the more incomprehensible it gets to me that that people significantly older date 18/19 year olds and I don’t mean that I believe in some kind of all age gaps are problematic I’m a 25 year old minor uwu kind of shit I would date someone ten years older than me no second thought because after you hit a certain age gaps like that really stop mattering but it’s the proximity to adolescence and also the fact that’s an age where people typically have NO idea how immature and underdeveloped they are emotionally but tend to have essentially a worldview identical of that to underage people but are suddenly told they’re a big grown up and everything is different now. And all I can think is if I wouldn’t date an 18 year old and I’m only 25 how the fuck do you ever justify dating an 18 year old when you’re 50

#i 100% would have felt I was mature enough to date a 30 year old when I was 18 and it 100% would’ve ruined my life

[random-lil-illing]

coloured versions of the girlfailure <3

#my art #art #digital art #finished art #fanart #sir ermine #lady ermine #tabitha prey #carmen sandiego netflix #carmen sandiego vile #carmen sandiego team red #carmen sandiego #carmen sandiego 2019 #carmen sandeigo #carmen sandeigo 2019 #vilesona #carmen sandiego oc #oc #original character #oc x canon but you dont see it (yet) #so im still figuring her lore out but i can tell you definitely that she has a shitload of trauma + shes disabled + shes lesbian/genderqueer #shes a 30-40 year old loser but she has her girlboss moments trust #also yes her hair is supposed to represent an ermine coat at different times of year how could you tell /hj #her real name isnt even tabitha but im still figuring out what i want her old name to be so bear with me here #also team red finds carmens mom without the help of acme bc of her. since she used to date carlotta and allat #so yeah carlotta is found in like season 2 when tabitha joins team red. she sees carmen and goes 'holy shit i think i used to date ur mom' #anyway #enjoy the burnt food #<3

[ultipoter]

A (late) Valentine's day art, I've been meaning to do some Tokimeki Memorial art for a while now and this was as good an opportunity as any.

The snes version was ROBBED of the very sweet scene in Sega Saturn at least where Rei gives you chocolate on the third Valentine's day

#ときめきメモリアル #tokimeki memorial #rei ijuuin #伊集院 レイ #Tokimemo #mine #fanart #why make art of popular things when you can make art of 30 years old dating sim #like!!! #I played his route on sega saturn version of tokimemo #and on the third valentine's day ALL the girls hated me #Rei came by to offer half of the truckload of chocolates he got as usual #left #my character commented how he didn't get any chocolate #REI CAME BACK! #And as far as I could translate with apps #asked if the mc would genuinely take a chocolate from him #mc yells at Rei for making fun of him and Rei kinda awkwardly says that's not his intention at all #he'd just really like if the mc would accept the gift from him #that's when the mc points out the bandage on Rei's hand #and Rei flustered says that he burnt his hand but it has nothing to do with you!! anyway bye!! #it's so sweet wtf it took me by such surprise #so many tags #enjoy the storytime yall

[heich0e]

i'm going to a club for a friend's birthday tonight and you would literally think i'm going to the guillotine the way i'm moping around morosely in the lead-up

#sorry but my club days are BEHIND ME #i was like 'what if we went to a fun BAR that has good cocktails and music??' #but unfortunately this friend is having a rly hard time admitting she's 30 years old and she was like 'that's no fun i want to meet guys' #no girl u wanna meet BOYS #she keeps trying to date 21 year olds the situation is dire fellas #she's technically a friend of a friend so i don't get to have a say but i do fully plan on irish exiting at some point in the night

[pcktknife]

shame everyone rushed to pair ingo with melli or volo when laventon was a cuter option

#i think melli would gag at the idea dating anyone that much older than him but to be fair it was before we knew he was 30 or 40 years old* #* referencing athf bro could be older than that #no offense to the melli and voloheads i just think we should explore our options if we're pairing folks up #cogitas a personal fave. cyllene. not kamado fuck him 🖕🏾🖕🏾🖕🏾💥💥💥💥 #i like zisu as a one sided thing #im having pla visions again hold on #kae.txt #anyway my point is lavingo u will always be famous to me

[mylas-stash]

FINALLY made a new and improved ref sheet for my watchdog oc, Larry! + a bonus doodle i was proud enough to post with @joeyprotozoas two woy ocs; Bert and Sherri Jr ^_^

#i will never shut up about my woy ocs ever #and yes i know bert isnt technically an oc...but still he counts...... #also to clarify. hes dating norman rn and has a crush on westley #btw I BETTER not see anyone infantilize this man for being neurodivergent. He's not innocent and he's nearing 30 years old #Ok? ok. #wander over yonder #woy oc #watchdog oc #mylas art

[menelaiad]

Did you know that Antilochus was among Helen's suitors?

peleus: my son cannot be a suitor. he is only 6. far too young.

meanwhile nestor: [presenting helen with what can only be described as a fresh out the womb baby] a great husband, no? a real charmer.

#yes i did know that!! he's a suitor is apollodorus and hyginus #but not hesiod (correct me if i got those mixed up though SDFGHJ) #obsessed with these children tryna date helen #14 dio WILL throw hands with 30 year old ody #menelaus: oh fuck that baby's gonna win #aga: i SWEAR -

[emmuhhhhhhhh]

if you bitches start sexualising ollie bearman i swear i will rip out my jugular THAT IS AN 18 YEAR OLD

#F1 #ferrari #idk how to tag this but #I SAW A TIKTOK EDIT MADE BY A 30 YEAR OLD #YALL HE WAS A MINOR A FEW MONTHS AGO #formula 1 #saudi gp 2024 #obviously i feel this way about all drivers... like get out of people's dating lives and stuff #but there's a difference between thinking Leclerc's photoshoot (that specifically shows off his abs or whatever. designed for clicks) #is sexy #and taking a BOY who just drove an F1 car for the first time and making an edit of him #btw if youre a minor or within a few years this doesnt apply to you - not that randos on the internet (me) have a say in this #but if youre the 30 year old woman?! FROM TIKTOK??? HUH????

[iwonderwh0]

If there's one thing to thank anti hankcon discourse it's for the folks around their thirties gathering to tell the teens that they are, in fact, adult enough to decide for themselves who to fuck with and that they do, in fact, find older people attractive.

(And also collectively asking folks in their teens-to-early 20s to stop using the word p*dophilia when talking about literal 30+ years olds.)

Like really, throwing this words in relation to adults downplays its actual weight in its actual fucking meaning, and this is really scary. Age gap might be a controversial topic but not anywhere near it is a matter of comparable scale to what the word ped*philia stands for. Don't turn this word into a buzzword, I'm begging you.

#I think it's like when you're 5 years old #all the 8 years old feel like they're just infinitely older #then in your twenties 3 year old difference is absolutely nothing #The further you're away from being a kid #the less of a difference it makes #10 years difference between 10 and 20 years old is abso-fucking-lutely not the same as between 30 and 40 years old #even though it's the same amount of years #and the same way it's hard for a 5 yo to comprehend that for adults three year old gap is barely a difference #(as it is literally 60% of their life) #here it's perhaps something similar. #I'm in my relatively early twenties and I too feel like I wouldn't date a person who's X years older than me #but in ten more years I don't expect myself to think the same way anymore #as it wouldn't make that much of a difference when it's not 50% of my lifespan anymore #I still don't think I'll find myself in a relationships with someone significantly older #but it would be wild to think that people in their 30-ies aren't old enough to make their own decisions. Let's be real #in this day and age #after you've been an adult for some time #there isn't this much of a power imbalance anymore between you and people who are X years older #or #the same kind of imbalance can be found within the same age category but not due to the age anymore #but things like social class. #Hell #in this sense 30yo can be the one overpowering 50yo.

[lacefuneral]

i hate posts on here like "in REAL life, 18 year old gay men have sex with 50 year old gay men"

yeah predators exist. do you want a cookie or something

#without fail i constantly see posts from ppl late 20s early 30s. sometimes even early 20s sayinf #''yeah i was so blinded by the attention i was getting from this older man #that i didn't realize i was being used until it was too late #and that i was just another twink sidepiece to him'' #i am 27 years old myself. if you asked me if i'd date a 20 year old i would vomit on the spot #maybe it's because i was groomed at 14 by a 24 year old man or maybe its because i'm Normal #anyway sorry to deliver the bad news but you /are/ going to regret fucking that DILF in a few years #when you realize that from his perspective you are essentially a child #i see it constantly. all the time. regret from queer men

[queenlucythevaliant]

The church I visited today was lovely and Biblical and I have very few criticisms, apart from the fact that it reminded me intensely of the (very messy) church where I grew up.

#i already have a breakfast date with someone i met this morning and an invite to come to a dinner to plan this year's 20s/30s group #and resemblance to the Old Church is heavily superficial #but it Is the same denomination and I'm all too familiar with the failures of its inner workings #the pca church from a few weeks back was great too but I have a few issues with their polity #so i guess i continue to pray meet people and ask questions #church hunt #new adventures #pontifications and creations

[centralnart]

new rarepair acquired kakashi and shizune date for about a year while kakashi is hokage it started when shizune got tired of seeing him overworked and stressed and tired and went LORD HOKAGE SIR I AM TAKING YOU OUT TO DINNER and they have dates and sneak off to make out on the roof at night and kiss when no one is watching them in the hokage office and they literally act like teenagers with their first love because kakashi didnt get to be a normal kid much less a normal teenager who gets to do stupid stuff and probably neither did shizune so now they're in their 30s and ordering expensive take out with the hokages money to eat in their pajamas on the living room floor

#they break off after a little over a year but its mutual and literally no venom or bad feelings #they were just ready to move on to other things #namely kakashi has a crush on iruka #shed probably help him with it too #like even after theyre not together they remain besties #overall it is very healthy and light and they both needed that #also shizune would probably be kakashis first real girlfriend #bc here are the hc we came up with me n abbey #obito was his first crush #then rin was his first kiss #tenzo was his first love and his first time - they didnt really date but they had some sort of relationship #he tried kissing gai when they were both drunk. the conclusion is that the kiss is good #but they're just besties #and then shizune #qnd after shizune theres iruka and theyee old and gay and narutos dads #these ttags got long. its 1:30 am