#struggle Olympics

[vizthedatum]

You know what I hate?

Me: *shares something vulnerable*

Them: “oh but I’ve also been through that and it's not so bad”/“I’ve been through worse”

—

Like no, I’m not sharing stuff with you to play the struggle Olympics… I’m sharing with you to explain my reactions and feelings. I expect listening and understanding instead of self-serving defensiveness.

#healing #trauma #neurodivergence #struggles #prose #struggle Olympics #being vulnerable #empathy #friendship #parallel sharing is different and ok #lack of empathy

[viagra-gargler]

intersectionality

we need to stop treating intersectionality as the "struggle olympics", our individual challenges as marginalized groups can be empathized & sympathized with while not having our different struggles minimized because they are all terrible in their own ✨unique ways✨

they wanted us divided and pitted us against each other so that we don't all come together and take down their systems of oppression and so far we've done exactly what they wanted us to do. they have done this throughout history (especially in America) so we all need to unionize and fight to protect each other cause in this time in the world, we won't be alive if we don't start now

#intersectionality #struggle olympics #lgbt #grsm

[thisisadonaldduckblognow]

the way i rewatch any part of rottmnt and once again come away from canon leo wondering where the actual heck are people getting this “oohhhh he only thinks he’s good for self sacrifice or as a tool, he has absolutely zero self worth whatsoever” instead of the canon version who’s kind of a manipulative lil stinker and KNOWS he has stuff to bring to the table but isn’t sure how to be Seen

it’s not that he thinks he’s worthless or not wanted. i fuckin promise you that about rise leo. he does not seriously think he is unloved or unwanted or ~one mistake away from being dropped by his own family~ or whatever

what he IS is rejection-sensitive in the way that makes any time he fails feel like the end of the world to HIM (setting aside that time he messed up and it did literally trigger the near-apocalypse and near deaths of him and his family lol), so he’d rather not try than risk messing up

#rottmnt #if i woobified raph the way ppl do leo itd be like 3k word essay on how #idk #the ms cuddles prank was actually extremely cruel and insensitive and CLEARLY why raph had so many trust issues #esp w his dad laughing at him etc etc etc etc like #i dont get it i really dont!!!! #like even as far as the movie goes raph kinda. suffered.... more. yk. #im not big on suffering olympics but like. #raph also self sacrificed and got physically beat up in the big alien fight #AND tortured AND mutated AND mind probed AND controlled into hurting his own family #raph literally starts the movie trying to explain to leo how it is HIS JOB to keep their whole family safe and ready for the next struggle #his entire finale arc is about how tied into the identity of protector and carrying them all he really is and how bad that is on him #fandom makes me so mad when the canon material itself i always enjoy and want to pick apart even for leo #(who frankly im burnt out on! bc of the overwhelming attention he always gets!)

[queerplatonicpositivity]

I think it's really interesting and important to think about and talk about the solidarity between groups that experience different forms of oppression.

Neurodivergent people and physically disabled people can both experience ableism, but it can look different. People find out about some of my mental health diagnoses and decide they wouldn't trust me with children (regardless of how I actually act) or they wouldn't date me or hire me. But this can be different than some of the opression I face as a cane user, when people assume I am faking being disabled or that I only use a cane because I'm fat (the intersection of ableism and fatphobia). And yet they're still connected.

We also see this in racism -- there are specific and unique kinds of racism that different groups experience. For example, an Asian person in a non-Asian majority country being asked, "No, where are you really from?" is different than a Black person being followed around a store because they are Black, but these things are still connected.

We also see this in religion and spirituality -- for example, antisemitism is real and important to acknowledge, and so is islamophobia. For example, Jewish people being targeted with violence while trying to come together in houses of worship is different than people seeing a Sikh person and assuming they're Muslim and therefore a terrorist, but these things are still connected.

The discrimination and oppression I face as a bi person is different than the discrimination and oppression I face as a genderqueer person, and both of those are different than the discrimination and oppression I face as a demi aroace person, but they're also all still connected.

We see this with transphobia -- there are specific and unique kinds of transphobia that transfeminine people face and that transmasculine people face. We see this in the kinds of stereotypes we come across about each group, and the kinds of hate crimes that are committed, and the challenges each group faces when trying to date, have sex, get access to health care, or just go out to buy groceries. These things are different, but they're also still connected.

We see this with so many different things that I can't begin to cover here. And we see that many people are part of multiple communities affected by several of these forms of oppression at the same time.

Talking about this requires thoughtfulness, nuance, and balance. True solidarity requires us to be able to be aware of the different ways that we face oppression, to be cognizant and respectful of the differences, but to also resist the urge to position these differences in some sort of persistent hierarchy.

Harsha Walia says this more eloquently than I can:

"I think allies and accomplices have become identities in and of themselves, when in fact they are meant to be verbs—to signify ways of being and of doing, of relationship and relationality. It is impossible for any one person to be ‘an ally’ because we all carry multitudes of experiences and oppressions and privileges. Most people are simultaneously oppressed and simultaneously privileged, and even those are always specific and contextual.My paid work is in one of the poorest neighborhoods in the country. Unsurprisingly, this is a disproportionately racialized neighbourhood but there are many older cisgender white men. A straight white cisgender man who is homeless faces a harsher material reality than me on a daily basis—with minimal to no access to food, shelter, health care, or income. Reductively, one would say that I have class privilege in relationship to him. But it goes beyond that. Even taking into account that I might be able to count off more forms of oppression, the entirety of my material reality is more secure.For me that is where intersectionality falls short; it has become a static analysis and one of fixed categories that leads to oppressed/ally dichotomies. Anti-oppression analysis becomes rigid in its categorizations when the question becomes who is more oppressed, rather than engaging in a dialogue of how oppression, which is relational and contextual, is specifically manifesting. Oppression develops a strange quantifiable logic, a commodity that can be stocked up on. This isn’t to say I don’t believe in anti-oppression allyship, but rather that I question its reductionism in place of a fluid, contextual and relational practice."

Harsha Walia, “Dismantle & Transform: On Abolition, Decolonization, & Insurgent Politics”

#op #oppression #oppression olympics #ableism #racism #antisemitism #islamophobia #biphobia #exorsexism #discrimination #quote #Harsha Walia #allyship #intersectionality #am I the only one who remembers when people used to tag discrimination against mental health as saneism? #we have always been looking for ways to talk about the discrimination we face #we have always faced discrimination that manifests in different ways #we have always tried to find ways to honor our shared struggles but also articulate the ways our struggles can be different

[radley-writes]

everyone talks about executive dysfunction as in ‘not being able to perform tasks despite desperately wanting to do them’ 

or ‘not being able to figure out the first steps of how to tackle a task’

but I haven’t seen nearly enough people talk about executive dysfunction as in ‘not being able to perform tasks because you are incapable of caring about future goals despite them being of the utmost importance to your life, which is in turn because you struggle to conceive of any time or situation but the present as being ‘real’. And even if you DO see the end goal and think it is ‘worth it’, the depressing torture of doing a task that is not interesting to you in the present is so great that, because the negative consequences of not doing it feel so utterly unreal, you let your life spiral out of control again and again in entirely predictable and preventable ways’

anyway I think we should change that

#just a li'l vent #I suspect this is adhd specific??? maybe? maybe not??? #obviously the first two types of executive dysfunction suck a lot too this is not an attempt to play olympics etc #it's just that I feel like 'wanting to do the task but not able to' and 'can't figure out how to approach task' #are more palatble to nt people who think executive dysfunction = laziness #than 'I really really struggle to care about or predict consequences because of dissociation and extreme time-blindness' #'and this task is not interesting so why would I want to do it' #'as someone whose sense of reality is mired entirely in the present' #i dunno just ramblin'

[serethereal]

greys anatomy is so funny bc anything could be happening n meredith would be like yeah well my mom didn’t love me so. and everyone would be like yeah fair enough

#you were NOT winning the struggle olympics with meredith grey in that room

[borealopelta]

DON HUME WAS A GEOLOGIST ❓❓❓

#i knew he worked in petroleum research and mining but i didn't know he had a MASTERS IN GEOLOGY #motivation to finish this fuckass degree unlocked. also. incredible stuff #finally someone whose academic struggles i can realistically write about. AND it's blorbo from my olympic games. #1930s geology you are the funniest shit ever i will abuse this knowledge so much #the boys in the boat #there are many disadvantages to being a geologist #<- my geology tag

[totally-not-an-awkward-okapi]

Fuck it what if not all ripped 6 pack abs. What then.

#honestly Halsin could have a bit more meat on him but I was really struggling with him so I’m taking him as he is #I do not know how to draw Gale. #frankly though him looking like he wandered out of an illuminated manuscript is too funny to redraw him #I switched La’zel and Astarion’s heights #(because yes everybody’s height was taken from lining up the party from the composition screens to get their rough heights) #because it’s fucked up and evil that Astarion is not a short king and that La’zel is only a little bit taller than Shadowheart #speaking of her I love big fuck off weight lifter Shadowheart and you can’t stop me #Wyll is now no longer the only one wearing period appropriate(ish) braises because the weirdly modern underwear weirds me out #I based everybody’s* body types off different Olympic athletes #*accept Gale because he’s a wizard and Halsin because I forgor #I settled on rock climber for Wyll because it felt the most fitting for him #La’zel is a mix of runner/basketball player because Gith are supposed to be tall and thin but she’s also one of the strongest party members #Astarion is a very dehydrated featherweight boxer #because again the man is short I will die on this hill it’s just the vibe #and finally Karlach is actually based on body builders but less in the superhero way and more in the. #has muscle but also really isn’t eating enough or the right stuff #way #making her La’zel and Astarion are the only ones who keep defined 6 packs #(La’zel gets one because Gith are canonically thin and so presumably naturally very low in body fat) #(and also because it draws attention away from her not having a belly button) #(I understand in some birds/reptiles it’s where the yolk sac attached but also that’s a cop out) #also she gets her facial scars from earlier versions because why the fuck doesn’t she #her body is so messed up and her face looks like she stole it #sketchin’ #but only barely because I am not cleaning this up #Karlach and her scars AND tattoos can go back to hell

[femcelmikasa]

the loudest “ACTUALLY BLANK” mfs be the most toxic insufferable exhausting and cruel individuals on this app and i need it to be known. why do you dedicate so much of your energy to being shitty to others. do you care about mental health or do you just want attention for being a fucked up loser with no life outside of stupid useless discourse. have you considered we are all alive. smile. go outside. stop dedicating yourself to shit that has nothing to do with you. learn to block out things you don’t fucking like .

#not endo but even if i was what business is it of yours to care #is it bc you’ve based your entire life off of an arbitrary trauma olympics on who’s had it worse? #great! your life sucks and your struggle is legitimatized by *reads hand* an echo chamber of equally lame losers online #dedicate yourself to having a full heart and loving authentically and to the betterment of your mental health

[reginrokkr]

Now that I've been slowly incorporating myself back into the RP field, there are a few things that I want to make a note of, more than anything as a means to establish my own boundaries after realizing my tendencies of doing more concessions to others than I can handle for multiple reasons. So here we go:

✧ In my awareness of the implications of what Dain can do and lacking confirmation (directly or indirectly) that it's in the realm of plausibility, I've been toning down his possibilities except for those who I know that it's okay to throw everything in without problem. I want to change that, as I realized that I'm clipping my own wings and sometimes I struggle with feelings of dissatisfaction that are partly rooted in that topic. As for what his possibilities are, obviously linked to his abilities: it suffices to have a look at the implications of Irminsul and being genuinely connected to it, the fact that he wields a power from beyond and what he's seen doing on screen.

✦ On the topic of tagging content that was released recently, I'll give it one week. If it's something concerning leaked content, that will always be put under cut.

✧ Lastly, and perhaps the most controversial point: I'm a patient person and an advocate that speed reply doesn't measure proportionally the interest other people have. However, I reached a point where I can discern details that point towards a potential lack of interest and this is specially if I keep approaching someone and I don't receive any kind of feedback. If I consider that I spent all the options I have to make a situation better for both ends and the situation is the same, I'll take it for what it is: I did what I could. It isn't on me to come to anyone's IMs and say "hey, I think you should do this" and I won't. So if that point were to come, it'll end with an unfollow from my part. No hard feelings, maybe we just don't mesh and that's okay, it happens.

#◟༺✦༻◞ what lays behind the mantle of faux stars ┊ooc.┊ #I could've gone in more detail #about what he can do #but besides the fact that I've written headcanons about it #I don't want to get into any OP olympics #these are points that I found myself struggling with #specially the first and the third #and didn't get to verbalize them #the third was the most prominent to me #as it made me spiral down in a pit of guilt and powerlessness #but in those cases it's better to let go #and I plan to do just that

[virtchandmoir]

Priscilla's Instagram Story (May 27th)

#tessa #morgan rielly #off ice #special olympics #appearance #marathon of sport 2023 #tessa struggle bussing

[hyperfixationsstation]

the vibes id like to see today

murphy

foxy girma cook vignola becky somewhere in there

sonnett horan/coffey

demelo/ sanchez

rodman fishel/hatch alyssa

#uswnt #we have no coach its a friendly going into the olympic year it's important too see as many different players on the field and try to figure #out what works and how to get goals bc thats where they are struggling #defensively they are solid but they need goals

[arts-i-enjoy]

Another artist lost to rancid opinions about transmascs ◡_◡

#why do we gotta compare struggles? why do we gotta figure out who has it worse? #youre not gonna win any favors by competing in the oppression olympics youre just going to end up hurting people #this post brought to you by: me

[vizthedatum]

A personal boundary: I will step away from the conversation if the conversation ends up being a comparison of traumas, in order to gain some sort of superiority or authority over the other person. All our respective traumas are valid and don’t need to be compared. Parallel empathizing is completely different than playing the comparing struggles game.

#comparative struggles #trauma Olympics #healing #neurodivergence #trauma #prose #thoughts #personal boundary #personal boundaries

[tea-and-charcoal]

Can we queer folks just like... stop beating each other up for like... i don't know, 5 minutes?

#even though its often critiquing it #ive seen SO MUCH oppression olympics today and ive been up for an hour #ffs we're all struggling and i cant stand how many people in our community are acting like other members arent #and its EVERY DIRECTION #(given ive mostly been seeing the “trans men aren't really oppressed” takes but I know some of us do it to transfems too) #im about to start unfollowing people

[naynic]

felt like sketching out some of the major turning points in Yuzuru's (early) career

#yuzuru hanyu #figure skating #my art #i really love looking back at his career and follow the incredible achievements as well as struggles #does this make sense to other people? its how i see his first 2 olympic cycles