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serenagaywaterford · 4 years

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@volatilelovers replied to your photoset “ok so like i had a totally other purpose cos it was about me walkin...”

Ok 1) bra deets 2) I want ur dog I'm sorry I just I want to steal him 3) is this like no make up challenge? Hashtag real lesbian bodies? The airbrushing drives me nuts and soooo much so called lesbian content on tumblr is not realistic and therefore kinda lame imo but it's better than nothing. An embodiment person I follow started a series where ppl send in photos of different parts of their own body and idk this remind me of that. That and thirst trap obviously lmao

1) Puma! from Winners lol. It is SO comfy, ngl. The cups are those annoying bikini type removable ones and they can shift a bit but it’s nice and tight, but not too tight. I mean, Puma don’t make the most long-lasting, durable undies but they’re nice while they last.

https://www.amazon.com/PUMA-Womens-Seamless-Graphic-Crossback/dp/B07XYGGLWM

Puma fits small tho. Like this was a medium, and it’s a bit small. And I’m just a regular 34-B/C (depending on the damn company ofc).

I actually bought it cos of what we were talking about the other day and I was like “i need more sportsbras. sore boobies need gentleness, no more underwires.” (and i gotta say it has helped a lot it seems.) i honestly haven’t really worn sportsbras regularly since...like high school...... so this is all new haha. altho i’m now in the state where if i don’t have to wear a bra at all i won’t. (very different to even 5 years ago when i’d never NOT wear one, even to bed.)

2) he is stupid you can have him lol he has bad breath and won’t stop snuggling and licking toes. he’s a toe licker. he won’t give kisses anywhere else but if you have bare feet watch out. it’s disgusting lol

3) honestly i think that should be a hashtag. i mean so much of the “lesbian content” i post photowise is these perfectly shaped, photoshopped, etc women. probably most of whom aren’t even gay half the time. (the older ones i believe, and they tend to show more real bodies in older women. cos older women aren’t meant to fit in the ~tumblr aesthetic~ anyway.) but with the exception of one or two selfies, i don’t often see actual lesbian bodies here. lots of heavily filtered, posed, aesthetic photos of 18 year olds with perfect bodies. which is like... not most of us? and to be totally frank, it took me so fucking long to be ok with my body and it wasn’t until i really accepted who i was (AND be around other women consistently naked and had it not matter to them) that i even was comfortable with it. like i’ve always been so, not ashamed, but shy. (and i know if you saw photos from when i was 19 and walking around in like no clothes you’d be like “are you sure? cos you look pretty confident in that teeny bikini or dress.” but inside i was very much not confident. i did it to fit in and be popular lol. sweet sweet (fake) validation, babey!). the self love that comes with being with other women is incredible. anyway yeah so like i know how my body DOESN’T fit into the ideal aesthetic (and i’ve had plenty of comments in the past irl about my lack of “womanly”/”child bearing” hips, skinny arms, etc etc. the hip thing always kind of made me laugh tho cos i am always like “well, nature knows! good thing i never want kids then if i don’t have the hips for it!!”) but i think it’s important for people to see regular bodies around. like yeah? a little tummy? i used to be devastated by that (and doctors thought i had an ED cos of it) but i’ve come to accept that it ain’t going anywhere cos i’m a female and that’s just how it’s meant to be. esp as we get older. (and my wife insists it’s cute. cos i was skinnier when i met her and she’s like “you look so much better now”, which is similar to the time i lost a lot of weight to get rid of that tummy specifically cos it’s used to be a Big Thing I Hated, and once i put back on some weight my granny was like “oh thank god. you looked really sick before”.) and esp when you come from a culture that doesn’t have more body acceptance. like the first time i went to iceland and to the pool and all the women were just wandering around naked, in all ages and forms, and with zero shame, i wa slike WHAT IS THIS WORLD??? it was baffling to me. cos even in change rooms here it’s quite i dunno hush hush (altho not men’s locker rooms cos i’ve spent a lot of time in those when i was the only girl on the hockey team and they’re just boldly naked and don’t give a single fuck. but women’s lockerrooms? always a bit more...i dunno.). except old ladies who don’t give any shits whatsoever. but all ages there, just going about their business--and i STILL felt insecure which is crazy. i was stared at more for NOT being buttnaked. even the kids were like “wtf”. i want that sort of casual, easy body acceptance and lack of fear of judgement. and i didn’t even shave my pits here (it’s been weeks)... and i forgot until i posted the photos... and then i realised, it seems really obvious to me irl but then i look at the photos, and i’m like “shit, it’s not really noticeable is it? i’ve been freaking out all this time over nothing???” that was pretty stunning tbh. i didn’t realise til i took the photo that it’s not this massive deal. anyway i’m just sort of sick of the “young, thin, hyper-feminine so-called lesbian with long straight hair and sexy undies” ideal (esp when softly touching other young, thin, feminine so-called lesbians). my god just searching “lesbian” on this hellsite is 95% that exact content (that isn’t a comic or illustration which is the only way to see real bodies lol how ironic). god forbid there’s a butch in sight, even a soft butch, or normal body, or natural bush/hair, or tomboy that isn’t super feminine. (the only tomboys allowed are the cute ones with the hipster shirts and backwards ballcap with long hair and perfect eyeliner). we get the occasional professional athlete but that’s it. (where are the regular athletic women, the sporty, muscular women, not hyper-feminine tomboys? where are the stone butches and big old ‘i don’t give a shit bout anything’ dykes? the women who exist outside the ideal BMI and age range? nowhere. cos it doesn’t fit the virgin tumblr aesthetic. it’s not “pleasing” to the majority of users here cos they’re so accustomed to only seeing one type of “lesbian”) but beggars can’t be choosers. and so i reblog the slight bit of shit we do get lol. i dunno, if i was an 18 yr old lesbian i’d be so worried cos i don’t look anything like these girls and no one else i know is either. so just a regular ole boring lesbian body here and it’s imperfect by social standards but it’s fine by my own. tbh i think it’s pretty cool that normal people send in photos of their bodies, just regular, imperfect, everyday people to counteract the mass of bullshit on social media where everyone is so fucking fake. (i assume that’s what you mean by the blogger you mention. i’m guessing it’s not photos of perfect, filter-heavy body parts etc.) and i think in a weird way, being seen --not necessarily validated for it tho-- helps your own ability to appreciate yourself. like not hiding it. just taking that step and posting “this is my leg” esp if you’ve been insecure about it. and you don’t even need the “omg what a beautiful leg! leg power!” sort of social media cheap validation stuff. just the act of posting it. (and i mean...i don’t mean porny, thirst photos to get likes. just... you know normal shit. although i would TOTALLY post my bush if it was allowed just to knock it home that it’s natural. and NICE. and we need to see it more. and i don’t mean in a porn way either. but in the way we see women in art or science books. nonsexual. like that goop episode LMAOOOOO) just as a “this is what it is”. and we all need a little more bodylove i think. and it’s hard to do that when all you see is the insta and tumblr ideal aesthetics absolutely constantly. but i mean i really did just want to show off the bra ...which then turned into showing off the dog lolololol cos he’s ridiculous.

#volatilelovers #not to be a bitch but sometimes i think there are a lot of people who just reblog these photos for the aesthetic quality #and have never actually even been naked with another woman before #and this bombardment of this 'ideal' only propagates that dangerous ideal and isolates anyone who doesn't 'fit' it #which is ... i'd say #at least 80% of tumblr users.#i used to follow a few girls who were the walking tumblr lesbian aesthetic so they do exist... just not en masse.#there's nothing wrong with appreciating beautiful things and lovely aesthetics... just it's become a little too pervasive??

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patriciavetinari · 6 years

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I’ve been naturally thin all my life but I also have anorexia and all my life ppl have always asked me how I’m thin. When I was a young teenager older mothers would fawn over my body and ask me what I eat and how I do it and it always made me sad that full grown women with kids would have some idea in their mind that they should look like a 14 anorexic girl :( I’m healthy now but people still want to know only the unhealthy methods I used to lose weight and never how I learned to accept myself

Tw: eating disorders; anorexia; diets

I’m very sorry you went through this and, in a way, are still going. I can relate, because I was fat pretty much as long as I can remeber myself, or at least fatter than other kids, and then in high school I got ‘enough’ and went on a crash diet and overexercising regime. I lost drastic amounts of weight in very short time, and it did such damage to my body that I stopped having periods for 6 months. While my mother and even my doctor were aware of this, they dismissed it and praised my efforts with the crash diets. My mother allowed herself to make a comment how my diet of ‘3 apples a day’ saves the family budget so much money. I was sick, I lost hair, fingernails would not grow, I had memory loss (I barely remember my final high school year), at some point I started wetting the bed at night because my body could not manage this basic function. All that on top of it fucking up my mental health. I never managed to go to college because of a bouquet of dysfunctions from being bullied for being fat and then from anorexia.Yet, I was not seen as anorexic, because I was, what is sometimes called ‘skinny fat’, like some tissue was there, so no bones poked out much, but I was destroying most of my muscle tissue, and so on. So noone bothered to talk to me about that, people wanted only to find out my secret, and when I said it’s three apples a day people would be praise my strong will rather than be horrified.

This is diet culture. Being skinny and dieting no matter the means. The mass media pushes crash diets, and cleanses, and fasting often under the guise of ‘healthy lifestyle’. Romanticising the lifestyle of ‘being too busy to eat’; ‘forgetting to eat’, or ‘having coffee for lunch’ and that horrible J*llian M*chaels screaming at people to exercise until they pass out. Body positive movement tried to counter that, but was taken over by ableist skinny people equating health and thinness, and putting emphasis on impossibly expensieve ‘clean’ diets and ‘sexy’ exercise regimens, completely ignoring the lack of science behind the BMI and the ‘average required 2000kcal’. Ignoring the role of genetics, that could be as recent as your living ancestor suffering a hunger.

I hope you have the strenght to hold on to your beliefs of actual acceptance of your body and countering the huge corporal machine of diet culture. It’s not easy and even now I sometimes find myself thinking that it would be so simple to go back to something like ‘an apple, a black coffee and a can of tuna per day’. I have to refer back to my past suffering I described above and remind myself that now that I’m older the blow would be harder, I would damage my body even more, it would be harder to bounce back this time, I could seriously fuck up my heart and my immune system, and that has already happened last time, it took me years to recover and, in a way, I still am. In a sense I’m too scared to diet (which is ironic since the fatphobes love the fearmongering with the threat of early death, which nearly already happened to me because I was dieting like they wanted).

Stay safe, stay strong, I hope you’ll never go through anything like that again and would find the wisdom to talk to people to warn them about your experience and the diet culture in general.

Upd: since someone asked: this post is ok to reblog

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mosshugs · 7 years

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"Even if you dislike what the former critical person said, please at least be willing to turn a critical eye" The way people react just makes people apathetic not critical though. Tumblrs way of criticizing things is fucking moronic. (though yes I agree on your stance of genderbending fat men into fat women and how making them skinny is wrong.) So yeah the straight comment (completely ignoring that majority of lesbians were fine/loved the genderbend fanart) just made ppl apathetic more so...

I’m not defending the former commenter.Allow me to explain a little, I did go back on the reblog chain to avoid a mile-long post, but I’ve seen this post with countless comments below the criticism saying the artist did nothing wrong and that to have any issue at all with the picture was just Tumblr being ridiculous.Which isn’t true!I definitely agree that making a comment not related to the problem (i.e, straight ruin everything) is more likely to bring about apathy and defense of the work rather than actually bringing to light what’s questionable about the work. I’m with you there.I was more meaning to comment on all the reblogs you can find in the notes that were saying there wasn’t a single problem with it. I’m not condemning the artist or pretending to know their intent. Perhaps Dahlia is a trans woman and the protag is a woman so it’s a lesbian simulator. (I think some people were worried that the protag would still be a man.) Perhaps they didn’t think about how making Brianna skinny could be an issue.Genderbends are questionable on their own merits but that’s a conversation for another day. I’m not shooting down the artist or defending the random straight people comment, I’m just hoping people can see some of the things that might be wrong with the depiction, y’know? So they can better understand how changing certain attributes can be harmful.

#drama #asks #anon

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