#not to be a bitch but sometimes i think there are a lot of people who just reblog these photos for the aesthetic quality

[olderthannetfic]

Since we're back on top/bottom wank again: One sentiment I see a lot from readers venturing into fics without any top-bottom tags is that they were tricked into reading – to continue with the MCU example* – Top Bucky. Which means they saw an E-rated fic, usually with tags for explicit sexual content or even anal sex/fisting/fingering but no tags for who tops and bottoms, and assumed it'd be Bottom Bucky. And instead of realizing they made an assumption and quietly exiting the fic, they comment. Sometimes, it's a polite request for a tag, which is fine to ask—though I see very few of these compared to rude demands. Most of the time, it's some passive aggressive crap about "hey can you tag this top bucky so people don't get tricked lol" or outright nasty insults and accusations. Why are they assuming shit instead of doing their own checking on an untagged fic?

If you're reading a fic tagged with CNTW but can't handle noncon, you'd be expected to either vet the fic yourself or just stop reading. Top-bottom isn't any different. The lack of tags is telling in itself. More importantly, it's an author's choice to tag or not. I know "but shouldn't you want to attract people who want to see Top Bucky" is the usual question when this comes up, but...I don't. Many people don't. I don't tag for maximum visibility. I only tag what I find important. I assume other authors who don't tag top/bottom have their own reasons, and I doubt any or many of them are attempting to trick anyone, considering how heated people get about this shit in the comments. A polite, neutral request would get those who don't mind tagging to tag it. Anything else will likely get you blocked, deleted, or bitched out.

*I'm not sure stucky is the best example ship for this. Back when I was in the fandom circa 2014-16, it seemed like mostly Top Bucky. I heard that changed to a more even split later, and from what the anons say, I guess Bottom Bucky is more common now, but several classic stucky fics and authors I used to see recommended were Top Bucky.

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Usually, I just haven't thought about the top/bottom tags, and when I do, I'm not sure whether they'd be more misleading than helpful.

I love dynamics where the top (in whatever sense) is more of a woobie or their interior life is more of a focus, but I'm not necessarily changing anything up from standard fanon in terms of who's on the bottom. I'm often writing OT3s. I'll pretty often have the characters do different things in different sex scenes but there's still a trend towards one configuration, and I don't usually write pure PWP where I feel it makes sense to tag really minutely for sex acts.

Sure, I could think of a pile of tags that describe all that, but it's probably more helpful to just not tag top/bottom and then write the first few paragraphs in a way that makes it clear what my take on characterization is.

[around-your-throat]

my ass is not getting into heaven with these pink haired pete wentz pictures on my computer dawg 🤣

#sorry if ive been psycho posting for the last few hours #<- actually i have noooo idea what ive been posting maybe i made 3 whole posts but it feels like a lot #was supposed to be working on my resume but ive just been on flickr the whole day #now im on smugmug which.. didnt know people actually use that site #feels like a photospam website. the quantity of pictures from 1 show is more than i see ever #which i guess flickr is like a portfolio thing and smugmug is for posting on your silly blog spot yadda yadda who cares #do you sometimes feel like you can/have to talk constantly and you notice that youre being annoying but you cant stop it from happening #like yesterday i noticed i was just starting a convo every 3 seconds and annoying everyone else. im like that dumb fairy from loz #hey look at this hey did you know hey do you ever think about hey hey hey. like shut the fuck up bitch damn

[lucydacusgirl]

‘Bitch isn’t a slur it’s just a curse word’ only if you don’t believe in misogyny lol.

#like obviously I understand that for a lot of people bitch doesn’t carry a lot of weight #but at the same time some people are wayyy too comfortable using it #why do you as a man I barely know think it’s okay to call me a bitch like we’re besties #it’s less that I don’t like being called a bitch in a friendly way (I do it and I’m happy for friends and like. women. to do it) #and more that I don’t appreciate the assumption that I would be completely fine with it. it’s been used against me really a lot in my life #and sometimes when men use it cavalierly as if it’s just a funny little word it really grates me. like you don’t get it. #ESPECIALLY when you’re not even my friend. #i had to tell a friend of a friend not to call me a bitch once and he was like oh that’s just how I talk. ok.

[unicornsaures]

if i see one more person characterize dally as someone unable to love im actually going to go batshit insane

#LEARN HIS CHARACTER PLEASE. #unstable relationships and not being able to love are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS #and even then #i still think its possible for him to have a stable relationship #its just more 'rare' #and takes more work and whatnot #what about his character do you guys gen not understand #tough does not equal being a bitch to everyone #HE CAN BE SOFT SOMETIMES. #HE DOESNT HAVE TO BE TOUGH ALL. THE. TIME. #did you guys like #forget those times during the book where he let that facade drop orrrr??? #cause i thought it was pretty obvious #i have a lot to say about the hcs ive seen on dally but yk. ill keep opinions to myself #i dont openly hate on hcs unless i see ts #dni people who say dally cant love fuck u guys🩷 #dallas winston #dally winston #dolirants

[obisamya]

(problematic) faves PENDING TRAIN, EP 2

#pending train #jdrama #jdramaedit #kotone furukawa #furukawa kotone #yamada yuki #yuki yamada #jdramasource #gifs. #continuing my agenda of only gifing the interesting ppl in this show (them) #sorry to a. eiji and one of the kamishiraishi gals but u are boring #i think we should let bad ppl/morally grey slash ambiguous ppl be leads. we have surpassed the need for #main leads that are kind and nice and boring #sometimes ur main character can be a nail artist who is a bitch who steals and isn't sorry about it #and also a man w complex trauma who carries scissors in his backpack to threaten ppl w #also i didnt have access to subtitles for these first two episodes so i am missing a lot but from what i could get. contextually #this show kinda funky in a bad way. the extended cast of train people i severely do Not care for #like i wish i cared about the mystery (but i dont) and i wish i liked most of the ppl on the train (but i Dont)

[dr3amofagame]

You’ve heard of awesamdream Stockholm syndrome relationship now get ready for dreamity killing stalking

the main thing abt c!dreamity for me is that it's frankly p straightforward compared to awesamdream ... but you know sometimes i do think abt how the mechanics of the prison torture both means we have no idea what actually happened in specifics in that box, and that minecraft allows for really practically anything with the existence of instantaneous healing items, and how c!quackity was literally dripping with blood down that prime path, and. you know. sometimes i want to get a little silly with it (read: remind myself that the only Real thing limiting the prison torture is ur own imagination)

#my asks !! #c!dreamity #it's rather straightforward but i think there's a degree where people will turn a blind eye to some matters #such as you know. our bitch and sir and the whole sam and quackity convo that really read like an allegory #and quackity's /involvement/ in that bc we've talked abt how weirdchamp sam was there #and the confrontation about quackity /liking/ torturing dream and how what dream is explicitly bothered by is quackity's sadism #like there's stuff there. and also in general when it comes to the prison torture there's honestly a whole lot less limiting it in canon #than is commonly accepted based on more 'realistic' interpretations of the prison and all #anyway. point of the matter is that sometimes i do wanna talk abt c!dreamity even tho it's less interesting to me...bc. c!dreamity. huh

[paging-possum]

was going to start writing an essay about the possible overlap between christianity and OCD and then I remembered im on Tumblr dot com and also a fucking idiot when it comes to putting things into words

#idk man I just think about it sometimes #because I feel like one of the biggest steps in the direction of ocd treatment/management/recovery is to acknowledge that it exists #and recognize your obsessions and compulsions are becoming detrimental #and it becomes so much more difficult to do that when the obsessions are around gods perception of you/your own moral standing #because it just feels like a normal religious thing to be thinking about and worried about #and compulsions like repeated prayer just feel like something you're supposed to do #so even the thought that they could be bad feels blasphemous and it becomes a vicious cycle of ocd and IDK!!! IDK!!!!! #I still feel very weird talking about it with other people but its something I think about a lot because the worst part of it is that #no matter how bad it is breaking the cycle is maybe the most terrifying part of it and on top of that if religion is a big part of your lif #then it can be harder to find support for it as well because everyone around you doesn't see it as a problem either #idk im just rambling a little bit. anyways. hi guys religious ocd is a major bitch I kinda want to write something about it

[emero0]

Tsukasa doodle :P hes so cuteee <3

Also another doodle thing i made because HS by Tom Cardy is just on loop in my head sometimes

I love his outfit but god its complicated TvT

#i mostly just wanted to post the first one #but the i figured #hey- not enough people know this song (apparently) and also why not #:P #project sekai #prsk #doodle #pjsk #tsukasa tenma #wxs #wonderlands x showtime #wxs tsukasa #hes my favorite #clearly #sometimes i think man i wish i could be a nene fan #and i do like her a lot #but this bitch possessed me i guess so here we are #love my obnoxiously loud blonds

[roseworth]

the only people that say that comic books arent hard to get into are the people that have been reading them since they were a kid. and the only people that say that comic books are too hard to get into so you shouldnt try are the people that have never bothered opening a comic book.

#as a bitch that got into them like 2 years ago. its fuckin hard #especially if you dont like not knowing things #however its not as hard as some people want u to believe #like one of the first books i read was batgirl 2000. fantastic entry book #first of all its amazing second of all you dont really need a lot of prior knowledge to understand it #but even then. it gets confusing. #since i didnt know a lot about other big events i didnt know what was going on in any crossovers #like ok um why is bruce wayne being convicted of murder rn. #like when i was getting into comics i had wikipedia open for like half the comics i read #i think the hardest part is finding a starting place #then continuing to expand from there. like there’s so much and it’s HARD #and sometimes saying ‘just use a reading guide for a character you find interesting’ um. does not work #my rose reading guide is my baby but it is NOT a good starting point for people that haven’t read comics #anyways i’m sorry this is not meant as a slight to anyone #i just love to give my two cents all the time

[jamiethebeeart]

:D (I ramble in my tags about this)

#shuichi iguchi #shigaraki tomura #mha spinner #bnha spinner #spinaraki #spinneraki #ok now that the tags are out of the way LETS TALK #i was reading a webtoon when female lead did that whole laugh and cover it with your hand thing and i do it sometimes too #and i got to thinking about WHY and why its usually girls depicted as such and i know some people dont like their teeth/smile #and im like well shut the fuck up! im thinking fem spinner!!! like being self conscious about how she looks and developing it on accident #and shigaraki never really noticing until one day she DOES and wow spinner looks really pretty when she laughs and why does she hide it #like damn!!! i have a lot of thoughts about what spinner but female and the changes that would have on the character and why and agdjfkflg #ANYWAYS someone stop me from regressing to the old way i used to do hair bc its too damn time intensive but its so easy to zone out during #fem shigaraki #fem spinner #was going to properly do the background but i got done after forgetting the texture for spinner for the 4th time + went eeeh good enough #also!!!!!! the last “”panel“” made me realize how weird that angle is to draw spinner with his major proportions and also keep the soft 1/2 #2/2 smile reading as a smile and agdhfkfl am i adding “looks like a resting bitch face” to my spinner headcanons? maybe. #but imagine spinner trying so hard to look approachable and give a little smile but his face just????? doesnt do that very well (at least #not as easily as more human looking humans) and how that might play into his ostracization and then him leaning into that #as a defense mechanism (like if they think im an ass then I'll look like an ass on purpose) ahdndn he was so grumpy in the bar in the bg #mha jbee

[stinkrascal]

its so impressive the places i can develop an infection at like theres got to be a degree of talent to the infections i can accrue at once

#in other news my fucking #you know how your nails have cuticles?? and sometimes the skin comes up a bit #well i rip my cuticles a lot and the bed of my thumb nail where i rip the cuticle skin is INFECTED #BITCH WHAAAAAAAT i didnt even think you could get infections there like wtf #literally just the side of my thumb?????????????? #how can i be mad at this like i just have to laugh because it’s that absurd right #now i can tell people i do have a collection of course. a collection of fucking diseases 😭😭😭😭 LMAO #my poor sickly constitution. sucks to know i could never survive the events of bg3 irl

[obstinatecondolement]

I am very sad today, largely because I had my three month performance review yesterday and a lot of the things that I am supposed to work on can be summarised as "who you are as a person."

#a lot of stuff specifically and intimately linked to my anxiety and autism #I have not felt this fucking lousy about how I come across to people in literally years lol #and like I do actually disagree with some of the criticisms and do not think they are all fair #or that customers have actually complained #e.g. my manager believes that sometimes I am abrasive and patronizing when I give advice about crafting projects #which I really do not feel that I am #and I think that it's kind of rich coming for her when she routinely talks down to people who want to have curtains made the 'wrong' way #but also like... so many things that are like... #'you ask for clarification about obvious things too much and when you don't ask for clarification you get things wrong' #or 'you did this thing I told you to do but actually didn't want you to do and you should have known that' #and like... how do you fucking win? #werq bitch

[genderfluid-druid]

like is there a word for "romance is NOT for me oh my GOD it's such a bad idea for the way my brain is built, BUT HOWEVER not every part of my brain has gotten the memo about this and nature still thinks it's funny to kneecap me with a crush every now and then."

#trying to find resources or stories about like. how to COPE when this happens #how to honor the way i feel without suppressing it but also without feeling the need to turn it into a romantic pursuit #also i know labels as strict boxes are only worth thinking about as long as they are helpful #and “im aromantic” is easier to say than “i have a complicated relationship with romance and a lot of emotional baggage and” #well i never feel justified using the word trauma especially because a lot of it was my own doing but #yes a lot of trauma i guess! #anyway #i still have this fear that calling myself aromantic is just a cheat to get away with not wanting to put in the work it would take to build #a real functioning romantic relationship #like is it cowardly of me to say “i am not gonna push my relationships past a certain point with people”. like am i depriving myself of #something i will miss? #sometimes it feels that way #but also #some of my strongest friendships are with people i actively chose not to romance #and i love those people and i am so glad to be friends with them #whereas the people i was most romantically involved with are now invariably bitter strangers #i don't want that. i don't want that with any more people i love #BUT. I DO WISH TO HOLD HANDS!!!!!!! #MY GOD A BITCH IS TOUCH STARVED

[zero-a]

people will go all "just be yourself and love yourself! :)" and then go "if you don't act the way i want, you gotta reprogram your entire way of thinking then reach into the very core of who you are and what makes you you, discard it, and replace it with this better, friendlier, more empathetic version that's coincidentally far more convenient for me to deal with than any other possible compromise we can make that you can do for me but doesn't stretch your mind to nothing but thin bands of what you'd consider 'You' :))))))"

#mine.txt #just thinking about all those 'think positively!' and 'romanticize your life!' posts #like on one hand i can see their merit cause self-hatred though instinctual is ultimately detrimental to your mental health #but on the other hand...some of them (a lot of them) are really just unashamedly asking other people to completely change themselves huh #all in the guise of ''positive thinking'' ''self-love'' and ''betterment'' no less #i suppose i shouldnt be surprised considering most people can barely grasp the concept of someone who Genuinely has muted emotions #as a natural state instead of a depressive symptom #not to mention the human quality of escalating things #so ofc tumblr which seems to currently be in its mental health recovery phase would naturally lean in so hard towards ''radical happiness'' #but man sometimes i really do just wanna shake the person from behind the screen and say #'no! dont you understand! this is just how i am! stop implying that everybody who doesnt feel joy at simply waking up is a miserable hag!' #sometimes they dont even imply it they just straight up say it 💀 #im honestly fine (as in idc) with seeing them but they remind me so much of those toxic positivity bitches that sell you random hoaxes #and tell you that youre ''ruining their vibes'' when youre not just beaming like the sun every waking second #well idc most of the time that is #sometimes they just trigger my szpd (and my dpd weirdly enough) #with the szpd obviously i dont like being told what to do and what to feel and having some rando assume things about me #but with the dpd its like #oh i must be doing something wrong ofc this stranger on the internet knows more about emotions and feelings than me #cause im a dumbass who doesnt Feel things therefore i must do what they say even to my own detriment #this mainly applies to those guilt-trippy ones so ive learned to steer clear of them #possibly even block the op

[lucy-ghoul]

one thing that must be said about coriolanus and katniss is that they both share such a snarky inner voice that despite the seriousness of thg saga (especially mockingjay - the last chapters almost reduced me to tears, it was that heavy) it made me chuckle more than a few times

#coryo is such a petty bitch tho sjehdhdh #there are interesting similarities but also very stark differences! #1. they both have an obvious fixation on food and their growth was somewhat stunted by malnutrition #2. they both have a special memory token from one of their (dead) parents and are emotionally distant from the other #3. they're both survivors (katniss even describes snow in mockingjay as 'the consummate survivor') but coryo relies on his charm and cunning #(a lot of what he shows outwardly is a carefully trimmed performance) #while she's a born hunter and also quite smart but not a planner (actually i'd say katniss can be quite impulsive sometimes) #but she's also forced to perform (in completely different circumstances and a life or death situation) #and i think that's one of the reasons snow thinks everything that comes out of her mouth is a lie. he's projecting #the major difference so far is obviously that coryo is such a snob asshole lmao #but... unpopular opinion: he doesn't start as evil incarnate and i don't understand how people could come out of tboas with this take #that's the point! he gets corrupted by his own choice #but the boy he used to be (as much as he was a capitol born and bred elitist not exactly endorsed #with a huge capability for emotional depth and human warmth) would be horrified by a lot of the crimes he committed later in his life #so far he's just an annoying teenager. emotionally stunted and not very sincere but not an evil guy by any means #anyway both his and katniss' sarcasm are a++ #val rereads thg #val speaks #val rambles in the tags #txt

[zoppzoop]

GAAHAHHHHH

#venting in the tags #maybe its just past darkness and the Bad Thoughts which i shouldnt listen to are clouding my brain too much #but i feel so fucking weird and inadequate over everything rn #im unable to work on drawings as i usually would have and its kinda plaguing everything which it should like yeah i love drawing but #i cant let just one aspect of me ruin everything. right? the fact that i havent been able to draw as well as i usually can should make me #feel sick to the stomach and unsure about everything i do but it happening and i hate it. #plus i got the ipad id saved up from the comms to buy and its fun and nice and all and maybe i just need more practice with it but i feel #like im not able to draw on it even more? and i spent the whole day trying to get used to it but its just not as good?? and then when i went #back to the no screen wacom i couldnt get a hang of it becuase idek its just not happening #and also the fucking art block wants me dead i swear i want to draw so bad and i have so many ideas but the moment i start anything its just #crumbles down into nothingness and i hate everything i do and gods fuck i want to cry but i can because there are people at home and #usually im a big 'crybaby' when im at home but i dont fucjing wanna be like that anymore like i can handly my shit myself im fine. #i dont need to just fuckinf cry abiut it becuase thats not gonna fox anything but also i feel like crying might just make me feel better #but then id have to hear shit from my family and i know theyre just teasing in a /pos way but i dont wanna fucking deal with that #plus my brother iust talking to him os annoying sometimes like he talks about things so condescendingly and fucking hel dude shut #the fuck up i dont need you telling me that my art is something people can 'just do' and the fact that i was able to get the ipad #'basically for free since i got that money from the little drawings i make' as if they dont fucking mean anything to you like #shut the fucking fuck up dude i worked hard on those and even though i dont like my own shit sometimes i still fucking work hard on those #fuck you you bitch #i think a lot of things are just piling up and i need to sleep #tomorrow will be a new dawn and a fresh start and maybe ill hate myself less #ps. note to anyone reading the tags #im fine i just needed to yell out and express my frustration a bit. some sleep will help surely.