#shes something ull never understand

[z0mbclit]

Tori is a fucking yapper.

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#eddsworld #ellsworld tori #tori x laurel #laureltori #laurel eddsworld #evil laughter #?? what is this tag #evil laugh #gay girls! actually #laurel isnt a girl. shes nkt a boy #shes something ull never understand #but she will die for tori #last night i had a dream i was a bowl of ketchup #and you were mustard #which is weird #torilaurel #girls who smoke weed #they did all the drugs #ew art #digital art #tori eddsworld #tori trans #penisworld

[belovedisaster]

the other blog i asked about this has rightfully refused to humour me by posting these ramblings but maybe ull be more understanding: darkstalker could have been something. namely, a critique of christianity for the modern world. beyond the sympathetic depictions of an unwilling christ like in the last temptation of christ or mystic interpretations of him like in the last days of judas iscariot. no no. he could have superseded all that. because think about it. he is christ if christ were only a man; if he was as the non-trinitarians and deists believe him to be. he is born with power. he is betrayed, he dies and is reborn. but he cannot bring himself to redeem. he is too terrified. he is not the anti-christ in a traditional sense; for he IS christ, but not. when he faces qibli, the nearly-penitent thief - this dismas, who is dying, who is afraid of God's judgement as he languishes on the cross. all figuratively, of course. as he faces him, he cannot redeem him. without the divine wisdom that our christ had, he is too terrified to redeem him. so he offers to this thief all the worldly comforts he can provide - but dismas has tasted death. he has tasted hell. he is still on the cross, a moment away from expiring. dismas wants to be penitent. it is his namesake, his destiny, to be a penitent thief. dismas denies these comforts. and he becomes the anti-anti-christ. a christ without any power supernatural, no, but with wisdom and with goodwill and with a burning compassion for all the gestases of the world, the impenitent thieves, who he cannot save - for he is not christ, but the anti-anti-christ. this is what it COULD have been. darkness of dragons could have been a mystic text, valued by fransiscans and shakers and quakers and perhaps even sufis and wiccans as an insight into christology that orthodox christianity could never provide, living proof of the efficacy and wisdom of seeing christ not just as pantokrator, implacable god, but as well a man who lived his life like any other, who could have been a far different man sans the cup which the father refused to let pass him over. this is what this book, this character, could have been. but they didn't lean hard enough into the MESSIANIC aspect of either character of darkstalker (the anti-christ) or qibli (the anti-anti-christ, dismas). actually, this solves another problem - a friend of mine (sort of; a mutual, more like) hates winter's epilogue in darkness of dragons. everyone does! but if they had leaned harder into qibli's messianic shtick in particular, he could have been a dismas unto his own - a gestas turned dismas, and this transformation could have been what his epilogue contained!! do you see? this is what tui t sutherland threw away! this fame, this insight into christology, this fanservice - if only IF ONLY she had leaned a little bit harder into the messianic thing!!!!!!! anyway there's a scene in darkstalker (the book) where clearsights flying over like a valley of housing?? you know what i mean. and its talking about how the houses are all under mountains and hills. well in isaiah and revelation (and probably elsewhere, too) it's stated that at the end of days all the people of the world, rich and poor, will hide themselves under the mountains. just thought u should know. sorry for being mentally ill in your inbox.

anon i just hope you can understand i took a moment to publish this because when i received this messge at 3am and the first sentence i read was "darkstalker is a modern critique of christianity" and i remembered i'm not getting paid to run this blog i turned my phone off and went to sleepb.ut now that ive sobered and ive actually read this i want some time alone just you and me

#I see your vision i see it with clarity #You are.you are one of few understanders left on the earth #I LITERALLY ALWAYS THOUGHT THE CAVE SCENE WAS. PROBABLY THE MOST FASCINATING SHOWS OF CHARACTER. FOR BOTH OF THEM #their opposites.. you said it all so much better than i ever could i wont even try. I understand you i comprehend you i want the masses #to see this absolute dissertation #wof #wings of fire #also i'm like. completely obsessed with the fact you got turned away by the first blog you asked and then you went #'huh i know what mentally ill darkstalker liking freak might let this into their house' #You were right ???!!??!?!

[lethimrunsonia]

Gender HC’s for @democracydiesindarkness and I’d Poly!Losers AU. Also gonna tag @ull-float-too

1. Richie is non-binary, and for him that means he is just Richie. He likes to blend feminine and masculine because it matches his need to hurt people with his fashion choices. He likes to dress in bright and blaring Hawaiian shirts, but he also likes appearing in the kitchen in ugly patterned short skirts and equally awful tights, and he LOvES make up (because your face can be an art canvass!) (also Richie wants to be pretty but he doesn’t think he is :( ) and now that his hair is the longest except for Bev, he likes to have Bev or Stan play with it and give him updos. Uses he/him pronouns but doesn’t mind other pronouns.

2. Bev is cisgender, but she struggled with her womanhood for a while, because it was so weaponized against her. It wasn’t that she wasn’t a woman, it was just it was scary and dangerous to be one. Once she understood this, she ran at it face first and embraced it. The others never made fun of her for doing “girly things” like make up, hell, she’s done all of their makeups at one point or another. They’ve all helped her do her hair, especially Richie and Stan, and she and Stan have always bonded over fashion and making designs. They’ve never treated her “feminine interests” as something stupid, or lesser, in fact, all the Losers have taken interest in her activities. Bev uses she/her pronouns.

3. Ben is cisgender, but has always been “accused” of not being a man because he likes a softer approach to things, feelings, writing, and art. The fact that’s he likes to be pretty, like art, and build pretty things, sometimes makes him think he isn’t a man, after all. But the others support him, and tell him he’s whatever he wants to be, and Ben knows how he is a man is his brand of masculinity, and he owns that. Besides, when the guys at work give him shit he just smirks, becaus their fear and projection doesn’t scare him. He has his family who understands him, and loves him. Ben uses he/him pronouns.

4. Eddie is cisgender, though he is the epitome of soft boy, and is constantly belittled and looked down on about it. Eddie is short, like 5’4, and slim, but he’s never felt more like a man than when he’s with his friends. He likes fashion, he likes looking cute and aesthetic, and he looks like he could be snapped in half, but at the same time, he’s the most ready to throw fists, Stan right behind him in that regard. After the Bowers gang really hurts Bill in high school, the three of them, Richie, Eddie, and Stan have a huge fight with them. Everyone at school stops saying shit, not only about Eddie, but about the rest of his family. They even stop saying homophobic shit around any of them, after the rumors of how Eddie gave Bowers two black eyes and a broken nose start to circulate. Soft is tough, and Eddie is both. Eddie uses he/him pronouns.

5. Bill is genderqueer, though at first he viewed himself in a similar way to Eddie. He can be very feminine, he likes to be pretty, he likes dressing up, and having Bev do his makeup, but it’s not until Richie accidentally calls Bill “baby girl” that he figures out that he might not always be a boy. The Losers are just like “yeah, of course you can be a girl? Are you a girl all the time? Should we call you something different?” And that is A LOT and Bill panics. Eventually, Bill realizes a lot of the time he’s just Bill, and gender isn’t important to him, sometimes he’s more masculine and feels very much like a he, but other times he’s Bill but he’s a girl. He wants to be called those titles and seen as that, but he also likes his name. He likes how his partners say his name, how much love there is for him in that name. so he doesn’t see a reason for another. Baby girl is good enough. Bill uses he/him and she/her pronouns, is okay with they/them.

6. Mike is cisgender, and he is the epitome of a cute farmer man holding a lamb with a cat on his shoulder with a big grin. Mike has to deal with the racism of Derry, and the fact that people viewed him as a broken man because he was black and pansexual, that he was not good at being a man because of his blackness and queerness. But Mike is positive masulinity. He is protective, and honest, open, hard working, and compassionate. Everyone should want to be like Mike Hanlon, a man of the might of the mind. (He becomes a professor and teaches history!) Mike sees his Losers’ expression of gender and just sees a truer expression of them, of his loves. Mike uses he/him pronouns.

7. Stan is agender. He uses masculine pronouns most often because his experience is kind of based on my experience where I am agender and I usually use she/her, but really like them/they pronouns. Stan likes to dress up, in skirts/dresses/suits, always tries to look professional and way hotter than anyone else except his Losers. Stan watches Richie and Bill figure out their genders, and how they want to express it, and realizes he relates, but he also doesn’t. He doesn’t feel attached to masculinity or femininity, he just sees Stan. Bill and Mike research for a while, and come to Stan with this label, and Stan cries because, oh, Stan isn’t broken. Stan is home. Stan uses they/them and he/him pronouns.

#poly!losers #poly losers #poly losers club #richie tozier #bill denbrough #it ch 1 #it ch 2 #it chapter one #it chapter two #it fandom #it hcs #beverly marsh #ben hanscom #stanley uris #mike hanlon #eddie kaspbrak #please do not send the terfs to me #i will not hesitate #kels speakeasy

[thearcana-junkie]

Love your blog ♡ may i request main 6 headcanon (or just lucio and julian if u dont feel like doing all the 6) for them reacting to a mc that really love theatre and is a very good actor?

HEY!

I know you! I’ve seen you in my notications a couple times!! (I try to remember everyone who pops up there. Please don’t think I’m being weird and stalking you)

Anyway! Yes of course I can but to be honest I prefer doing it with all six main characters (And courtiers if specifically asked) So that no one gets bummed that their favorite character wasn’t in the scenario. I love the all the babes and i wanna make them happy, I don’t want them not to ask me to do the scenario over with their favorite character because they don’t think i will. (Plus this keeps my masterlist cleaner) also thank you so much

Main Six With An Actor MC

—Nadia—

Truth be told Nadia has a thing for the theater. In fact she’s probably wanted to be an actor at one point but being the Countess doesn’t allow for such free time

(Plus she can’t act to save her life...)

She’s known you were an actor even before you both met. (Be it full time or pastime acting)

She saw you in a few of the plays done at the Theater in town, and can i just say, she LOVED you.

Your emotions on a whim, your attention to detail of your surroundings, the improv moments when someone messed up a line, your ability to remember your lines, the—

Oof! She can go on and on about how much she loves and adores your acting.

She goes to EVERY. SINGLE. SHOW.

She’s always bringing you gifts backstage or just singly waiting for you there to encourage you in between acts.

If your shy about your acting then she’ll simply encourage you more.

If you like to keep your work life and private life separate she can understand that and wont mention it that much at home (Because we all know she could go on forever about skilled you are)

—Julian—

To be honest you didn’t tell him. You figured it wasn’t that important or it never came up.

Well not until auditions at the theater where you both found each other wanting the same part.

At first he’s very surprised.

You both argue over who’s going to step out and let the other have the part when you realize you two are the only ones who made it to the finals.

The head man(? I don’t know theater talk) Decided you’d take one main character part, and Julian could ALSO play a main character.

When you guys are home you’ll probably do skits together a lot.

Maybe sing a few songs from musicals you were both in/have seen.

You guys are often in shows together and seen as the Theater power couple!

Be prepared for role play in the bed room

Make sure to punish him when he gets a line wrong ;)

—Asra—

Asra wasn’t surprised.

Don’t forget he basically raised you from when you were resurrected.

He was happy to see your love for the theater stayed even after death

He often takes you to shows, even after you’ve been together a while he’ll surprise you with tickets to the newest play/musical.

He’s probably the reason you started acting after he encourages you to go to an audition.

“If you don’t get the part, you don’t get the part but at least you had fun trying. You’ll never know unless you try.”

Definitely has helped you with your lines when you need someone to practice with.

He goes to every single one of the shows your in

You always know he’s there because he’s sitting in the front row and shushing ANYONE who dares make a sound durning your parts.

Brings you flowers, balloons, chocolates, hell its like its Valentine’s Day when he comes backstage to congratulate you after a show.

—Muriel—

You had mentioned once that you had been in a few plays/musicals to which he swiftly replied; “I know... I’ve seen them”

at your confusion he started to go red whilst also explaining that he watches them from the raptors sometimes and once saw you come on to try out, he thought you did great and started noticing you appearing in more and more of the plays.

Compliments you then continues to tell you that you should do more of them.

Though he will never mention it to anyone (Well maybe Asra) But the first time he heard you singing in a musical he thought you sounded like an angel.

Another thing he will NEVER admit to is how he kind of got excited when he first met you.

He still watched you from the raptors and refuses to sit in the crowd.

Once you started to get things backstage sent to you from the audience he started to get kind of jealous it after a little bit he got used to it.

If you do ever get famous because of it (As much as i hate to say it) It’s most likely a deal breaker for Muriel.

Not because he’s jealous or that he doesn’t want you get popular.

It’s just that with popularity comes people, and we all know people is the one thing Muriel cant take. I mean he might learn to be okay if it was just a few people coming up to you in town or something but if it turns into ull on crowds every time you go out or people following you back to muriels hut like creeps I don’t think he could take it.

He’ll still be your friend though and he’ll still worry about you and come to your acts!!!

—Portia—

Oh god she loves it

Brags all over town that your the best actor in the world

Comes to every single one of your shows. You always know she’s there because she’s the one clapping the loudest and wolf whistling at you in the crowd.

She once got into your fan-candy backstage and ate so much she got sick.

“I thought they were for everybody!”

Definitely shows you off to Julian first though!

Has hosted a mini theater show when you asked for help with your lines.

said mini theater show consistented of Julian, you, Portia, and Pepi being the actors (Pepi was always the bad guy) and Mezlinka being the audience. All of this done in the living room of Portias house.

Has nodoubtly cried over your actings before, even once or twice when just practicing the lines with her.

You made a mental note to not practice sad scenes with her.

—Lucio—

I’m sorry, WHAT!?

You had to preform a scene for him right away. After he’s whistling and applauding even if you chose to do one of you least favorite scenes off the top of your head.

“You know I’m something of an actor myself.”

But seriously, he does intend to tell E V E R Y O N E whenever he gets the chance.

Important meetings? “Hey did you know I’m dating an actor?”

Talking with any of the courtiers about the mascarde? “did you know MC is like the best actor? Like ever!”

Being yelled at by Nadia for not paying attention to said meetings? “Hey! Did you know MC was one {Play name}”

He donates a good portion to the theater because “My lover is NOT performing in some run down community theater!”

Always watches your plays from the highest seat in the theater.

Invites as many people as he can to your latest show.

You’ve single handedly gotten him into theater, weather your in the play or not (Though he perfers your acting over everyone else’s)

Stroke his ego by letting him practice lines with you and you’ll be doing the whole play with him.

Bonus points if you let him play the love intrest and it ends in kiss.

#the arcana #The Arcana Game #thearcana #the arcana portia #the arcana lucio #the arcana asra #the arcana julian #the arcana nadia #the arcana muriel #the arcana mystic romance #headcanons #slight spoilers #requests open #i also do fanfics

[reikiajakoiranruohoja]

BreaOk: The Wonders of the Wilderness

Summary: Brea witnesses something adorable. SkekSil ruins the moment.

It was a quiet day in the Castle of the Crystal, unusually so for Brea. Ever since she had been permitted learning under the Scroll-Keeper, she had been exposed to the true nature of the skeksis. Not the noble, dignified and aristocratic side they tried so hard to present. The side that whined, yipped and wagged its tail like a whouf.

There was a loud scrabbling of claws and growls outside the library, making Brea's ears perk up. One of the skeksis sounded like the Scroll-Keeper too, which was odd. He wasn't prone to acting as wild as the rest. Brea steeled herself and peeked out of the library door. Her ears twitched at the sight, trying to understand what she saw.

The Scroll-Keeper and the Ornamentalist were on all fours, their tails visible and wagging fast. They were pulling a piece of leather between them, one that seemed quite fresh. The Ornamentalist was bigger and stronger, so he barely moved as the Scroll-Keeper wriggled and pulled at the 'toy' with all his might. His claws were scrambling on the floor and his tail was wagging madly.

Both skeksis let out mock-growls, neither had their hackles or hair standing up. Brea smiled, quickly starting to take down the details. No one had ever seen or recorded skeksis play. Brea was witnessing something rare and unseen by gelfling eyes.

"Mhhh- WHAT! No, stop! Cease!" yipped the squeaky voice of the Chamberlain, the red-clad skeksis rushing into Brea's view. She backed away a bit, trying to stay both downwind and far from his gaze. The Scroll-Keeper had warned her about the Chamberlain, calling him an untrustworthy worm.

The playing skeksis didn't seem to care for the Chamberlain, continuing their play. That seemed to not sit well with him.

"Are you mad? Gelfling see gelfling hear!" Chamberlain whined, but Brea could see his posture was rapidly going from the faux-submissive one to a more dominant one. Ornamentalist and Scroll-Keeper still ignored him, which finally brought out the Chamberlain's lashing tail. That got a look from the Ornamentalist.

"Vo Kefflink Ulls, Kraivehkah?" he muffled, jaws still full of the hide. It didn't sound like gelfling tongue, hissy and growly. But the Chamberlain understood it, baring his teeth.

"Kefflink not of Castle, Ornamentalist. Kakoi!" he hissed and lunged.

He bit both the Ornamentalist and the Scroll-Keeper on their snouts, both letting go as they whimpered. The Chamberlain kept on growling as he dragged the hide off.

"Behave, or Emperor will know reveal to princess what skeksis are" he rumbled as he left. The Ornamentalist sneezed, shaking himself before loping off as well.

Brea was too enamoured by the scene to realise the Scroll-Keeper loped to the Library, rubbing his snout with one paw. Both froze.

"...uh, my lord. That was... interesting" Brea managed to get out, her ears flattening against her head in embarrassment. The Scroll-Keeper only sighed and stood on his hind paws.

"You got lucky, princess. He could have seen you" he muttered as he continued to nurse his wound. Brea nodded shyly, feeling a shiver go through her. As much as she had accepted skeksis were far from the civilized lords of her daydreams, she had never seen them -bite- one another.

"S-should I get something for the wound?" she asked, closing the library door as quietly as she could. The Scroll-Keeper tilted his head a bit, lifting his paw to show there was no blood.

"I'm fine, princess. It was just a nip" he tried to reassure her, tail tip wagging. 

"Do you bite each other often over play?" Brea asked, looking at the very clear bruise on the Scroll-Keeper's snout with disapproval.

"It wasn't over playing, skekSil...err, the Chamberlain is responsible for gelfling relations. We can't appear atavistic in front of you"

Brea had known the skeksis kept to their image obsessively, she hadn't considered just how deep it went. She supposed that a Lord of Crystal was less a title and more of an unnatural role a skeksis was forced to play to appear civilized.

That was the word she had heard the red skeksis say over and over again. Stay civilized, must be civilized, act civilized and so on. It was working, as even Seladon and mother were fully convinced that the skeksis were lordly. 

Only Brea knew the truth.

Beneath all that decorum, were creatures that ran on all fours, wagged their tails and purred. So different from the projected image.

"The Ornamentalist said something weird, Vo Kefflink Ulls? What does it mean" she asked, leaning closer in curiosity. The Scroll-Keeper looked away, coughing. His tail drooped.

"Merely asking where a gelfling was" he admitted, head and snout moving. Trying to catch any eavesdroppers, no doubt.

"You have your own language?" Brea exclaimed, trying to forget the danger the red skeksis presented.

"No, it is nothing like the gelfling tongue. Merely a constructed language for our animatic noises, before we gained the ability to speak"

"Can I learn it? Is there a way to-"

"NO!"

Brea backed off just a bit, surprised by the snap of teeth the Scroll-Keeper had done, nevermind his raised hackles. He was, however, quick to drop both signs of anger.

"Princess, please, don't try. I might be the Scroll-Keeper, but the master of that language would tear your apart for hearing one word of it" he tried to explain, resuming his nervous gestures.

"The Chamberlain made it?" Brea asked, ears moving before she tilted her head in mimicry of a skeksis.

"He put them into words, as his title wasn't the Chamberlain back then" the Scroll-Keeper explained, before slumping in his chair.

"Let this be our secret, for your safety?"

Brea had learned quite a bit in the Castle. The most important lesson of skeksis nature? They respected those who dared and did not back down. Brea might give up the hunt today, but she -would- decipher the language. One way or another.

"Sure"

#breakok #gelfskek #my writing #tdc

[someguy1023]

Nobody’s gonna care about this, but maybe someone will

i think it’ll help convey why im so stuck on this, and why i seem to be focusing more on Holly and, according to messages i kept getting, “white knighting” for her. I’m not gonna justify Holly’s behavior. thats not what this is about. I just want this off my chest.

(im gonna regret this)

also, just to preemptively defend myself, i know how cheesy all this is gonna sound. But its the truth.

so. i guess i should preface this by explaining when I first heard about Holly. Maybe it’ll help this make sense in context. Maybe not. I don’t know but it doesnt hurt to try.

I didn’t actually learn about Holly through the internet like i assume most others did. I actually first found her through TV. More specifically, through that Heroes of Cosplay show SciFi has produced a few years back. I enjoyed it, but found myself mainly enjoying the work Holly and Jessica did while on the show. They were my favorite team, and I always tried to watch whenever they were in an episode. After a while though, I, like a lot of others apparently, got bored and moved on, and eventually forgot about Holly.

It was a few years later that I would find her again. This time, like many others, through Grumps. More specifically, through Ross and Steam Train. I was surprised when it turns out that one of my favorite members of GG was also married to one of my favorite people on HoC. Small world. I stayed a more casual fan, watching the occasional playthrough or crafting episode on her channel. I was more of a fan of GG and Ross, so I tended to watch more of his stuff than hers, but I still made sure to keep watching her stuff. It wasn’t anything major, she just made me smile.

A few years later, it meant something more to me.

In 2016, my father died. Normally, that wouldn’t be such a big deal for something like this. It was everything leading up to his death that was the problem. I always had a very “problematic” relationship with my father. He was abusive towards me when I was younger, lashing out at me for really minor problems. (for example, one time he had lifted me up in the air by my throat and began strangling me when I was ~6. Why? Because I had used some money our neighbor gave me for cleaning up his lawn to buy a popsicle from an ice cream truck, ate half of it, then put the other half in the fridge. He found it, got mad at me, and then began to yell at me. I had a nervous tic when I was younger where I giggled uncontrollably when I was scared. Sure enough, I began to giggle and could stop it, and then he, enraged, lifted me up. I realize years later he was probably drunk, considering he smelled really weird. It isnt a good memory.) He eventually left my mom and I when I was almost 7, moving down to Alabama with this lady he met in a bar, and proceeded to do pretty much every major drug imaginable. I didn’t see/hear from him again until a few years later at his mother’s funeral. He seemed remorseful for what he did to me, and a year or two later, moved in with his cousin back in the state I was living in at the time. I began visiting him when I was 13, and he seemed to be better. He apologized to me for what he did, he tried to be a good dad, and I believed him. That was my first mistake.

Flash forward to January 3rd, 2016. I was visiting him for the weekend after staying at my cousin’s, and was sorting through my things to make sure i didnt forget anything. We had visited one of his friends to get something he borrowed (according to him) then got back to his house. He was sitting on the couch, watching TV, and I thought he fell asleep. I noticed he had a cigarette in his mouth he was going to light before he passed out, so I went over to put it aside. I figured out he wasn’t sleeping. It turns out, he was overdosing, and what I thought was snoring was his throat closed shut and the air escaping his lungs. He was dying. I told his wife (at the time) what what happening, she called 911, and I went upstairs to hide in my bedroom. A lil while later, the ambulance came by, and the paramedics gave him whatever that stuff is they give addicts who OD. (At the time, I didnt know what was going on. He had really bad lungs, and I thought they were shutting down or something. I was told it was from him overdosing later that night.) He woke up, and they drove him to the hospital to make sure he was okay. I went back to my moms house, and stayed there. That was the last time I saw him alive

As it turns out, my dad had been using me for over 2 or 3 years. He was not only stealing money from me under the pretense of helping him with driving for over an hour to pick up/drop me off from my moms place to visit, but had also been heavily manipulating me for years in order to control me. He had tried to turn me against my mother and her side of the family, claiming she had used me to verbally abuse and control him when they were married, telling me lies in order to keep me under his thumb. (like how she threatened to abort me if he didnt marry her after knocking her up, or how she had him steal from his sister during her wedding, etc.) I began to despise my mother, arguing with her constantly, and, on his insistence, never told her anything about what he was doing or what he told me. It wasnt until after that day that I learned it was all lies.

I was devastated. I felt hurt, used, and betrayed. (I realize now...its because I actually was.) I was a wreck. It didnt help that 4 months later...he died. Needless to say, it was a very, very tough grieving period. I locked myself away in my room, unable to summon the energy to even get up in the morning. I had suffered from mild depression prior to this, but it was much worse. I couldn’t find a way to get through this, suffering for months, and eventually, began to think about suicide.

Thats where Holly came back in.

Besided the playthroughs helping cheer me up a lil whenever I put them on, it was her advice that really began my path to healing. Her kind words and support to others began to help me sort through the baggage I had been dealing with about my dad. I began to follow her advice on how to deal with my depression, and began to slowly ull myself back from the edge, and, over time, began to pull myself back up. Eventually, with her help, I began to attend regular therapy sessions, and managed to fully come to terms with what my father had done to me, as well as properly manage both my depression and anxiety problems. I honestly don’t know where I’d be right now if it wasn’t for Holly. She helped keep me going when I really needed it. She, for lack of a better expression, helped save my life. I’ll always be grateful to her for that...despite all of this. Ever since then, whenever I felt my depression weighing me down, or felt my anxiety creep back up on me, I could rely on her to help keep me grounded.

When all this happened, I couldnt help but notice I felt the same way as I did all those years ago. Despite the fact that its just some random lady on the internet, and shouldnt have mattered as much as it did...it still hurt on a personal level. The worst part of this whole thing? I can’t go back to the thing that helped me out whenever I felt this way. Not without being reminded everywhere I go of how everyone thinks of her.

So...maybe thats why I’m doing all this. Not just to stop people from spreading hate and rumors based on speculation...but because part of me cant/doesnt want to believe one of the people I relied on and put trust in could be the bad guy. Because part of me just refuses to let go or lose someone who meant so much to me. Because part of me wants to believe that things will get better...even if I know they wont.

If you read through this, thank you. Maybe someone out there feels the same way I do. Maybe, if they dont, someone can understand. Its been a rough month for me. I just hope things will look up somehow. I dont know if I’m gonna come back to this. Im realizing it probably isnt healthy. The only thing I have left to say, then, if I dont come back; please, try to spread good. I know this is the internet, and even worse, tumblr...but i think people need some light nowadays. and constantly spreading hate and cruelty...that wont help anyone. I know nothing i say matters, that nothing i’ve done has changed any minds. but even if you cant trust Holly anymore, or dont believe anything she says...at least believe in one of her beliefs. That kindness is the greatest thing to spread to others, and the world can sure use a lot more of it.

Good night.

#atelierheidi #commander holly #heidi o'farrell #heidi o'ferrall #holly conrad #jared knabenbauer #projared #projared scandal

[fckbriannakingsworthy]

Arguments turn to I Love You

DATE & TIME: March 1st 2019

TAGGING: @whatifjeremy· and @fckbriannakingsworthy·

LOCATION: brianna’s apartment

SUMMARY: brianna and jeremy argue and end up saying I love you. 

WARNINGS: n/a.

Jeremy was staying at Brianna's for the night and he had never stayed there, it was always her staying at his but this time they decided to stay at hers, they pretty much spent most nights together now and he was happy about that. During the night Brianna had a nightmare but when she woke up, she wouldn't allow Jeremy to help her so he felt useless. So he woke up in the morning and decided to make her eggs on toast for breakfast whilst he waited for her to actually wake up.

Brianna wasn't used to sharing the bed with anyone and in all honesty she wasn't sure what to do if she was honest but at the same time she was happy he had offered to stay at hers as usually she would start work in the afternoon so travelling from his was fine but she was starting work early the next day and it was quicker from hers. During the night, she had a dreeam well more of a nightmare of the last guy she was with before Jeremy and the abuse she got and she couldn't even handle it that when she woke up, she wouldn't allow for Jeremy to help her because the touch of Jeremy just reminded her of her exes touch but she also knew it wasn't him but she couldnt do it. After she finally got back to sleep, waking up she smelt the food and she sighed, she knew Jeremy would want to talk about what happened but he didn't want to talk about it. Walking into the kitchen she sighed and smiled taking a seat at her kitchen table, "Morning."

Jeremy stood in the kitchen frying the eggs as he heard Brianna walk in, she clearly wasn't in the mood but neither was he, he wanted to be nice but he wasn't happy that the girl didn't even want to talk to him last night but he wasn't sure if it was just because of the fact it was late, so maybe he could get her to talk about it this morning. "Morning." He smiled as he plated up her food, "How you feeling?"

Brianna sat there fiddlign with ehr hair and answering texts on her phone, she really wasn't feeling like talking at all and she just wanted to be on her own for now but she couldn't kick Jeremy out, it wasn't fair. She tried to smile but she couldn't, "As good as i can be, how are you feeling." She sighed as she saw the food being plated up, "Thank you."

Jeremy looked at her as he placed the plates on the table and the coffees on the table and looked over at her, he wasn't understanding why she was acting so not talkative but then he could as well. "Brianna, do you want to talk about it? I am okay." He wasn't going to lie and say he was great when he was in a mood with her.

Brianna glanced over at him and sighed, she took a bite of the food before looking over at the guy for a moment and sighed for a moment, and shook her head, "Nope not really, don't you think if I wanted to, that I would have talked last night. I would rather just keep this too myself." She stated as she put her hand through her hair for a moment.

Jeremy hearing her words, he felt frustrated, how could he be a good boyfriend if he couldn't help her? "Brianna, you should talk about it, why won't you? It's going to be worse keeping it to yourself." He stated as he took a bite of his food.

Brianna sighed and stopped eating, she didn't know why she felt annoyed and irritated that she didn't want to talk, but she never talked about her problems or whath ad gone on in her life and she wasn't going to change that just because she was dating someone. She laughed a little sarcastically, "How do you know it'll make it worse. I just had a bad dream, everyone has them at some point. There's more to worry about then a bad dream. I thought you asked if I wanted to talk about it, I said no, it should be left there. You do not need to worry about me Jer."

Jeremy looked over at her, he never liked getting angry, the reason him and Freya stopped working was arguing but sometimes these things had to happen. He sighed rolling his eyes for a moment, "Well it's not going to make it any better with you bottling it up. Why are you being so stubborn? Why won't you just talk to me. You're my girlfriend Brianna and I will worry about you."

Brianna sighed as she heard his reaction, she didn't want this and she didnt want to argue but she didn't want to talk and she didn't see why she should have to talk just because he wanted to but it was her problems not his. "Well I am used to it by now and I will stay used to it. Can't you just leave it now and let me get on with my life. Because that's who I am, I am very stubborn. You should already know that by now, why can't you remember that. Because I don't want to talk about this. Well you don't need to worry about me Jeremy. I am fine, more then fine!"

Jeremy sat there and was frustrated, this was irritating him, he shouldn't be getting this annoyed by her, "Well just because you're used it, doesn't mean you should continue like that. Well i mean I want to make sure you are okay, and I don't believe that you are." He rolled his eyes again and sighed, "Brianna, you're being a child. Not talking about something that is obviously painful to you is just being childish. I am not going to judge you. You're not though!"

Brianna sighed, she was ready to just get up and walk away from all this, he was frustrating her and she was quite ready for him to just leave her alone now. "Well just because I shouldn't doesn't mean I can't. This is my life not yours and you should just accept that instead of being annoying and falsing me to talk if I don't want to at all. Just accept it and move on." She shouted before gettign up leaving her food at the table and walking to the fridge to get a drink out of the fridge and heard his words, "Don't you dare call me a child. You know what i have been through so don't you dare. If you are going to start you can just leave."

Jeremy shook his head, was he irritated with her or what was the problem, why was this happening when all he was trying to do was care for her. "Well I mean I know it's not my life but we're together, you should be able to talk to me about things no matter how hard it is but whatever." He stated before seeing her get up and hearing her shout, the shouting was something that shocked him but sighed, he knew calling her a child was probably not somethign he should have said, "I'm sorry. But why don't you want to talk to me about it?"

Brianna laughed a little, this was getting kind of pointless now, did they need to be arguing over this, no, it was stupid, "Well I am not like everyone else hwo can just open up with the person they're with, you should have known that before we even got together. but again whatever." She sighed and nodded, "Why are you so dessperate for me to talk. Why do you care so much about this?"

Jeremy heard her laugh and was a little confused as to why she laughed but he couldn't be bothered to comment on it and he sighed, "This is getting no where is it?" He sighed, was arguing worth it, he didn't know if he could do it, this was pointless, she'll talk when she wanted to do. "Because I care about you. And because you are my girlfriend. And because.... because I love you Brianna."

Brianna was standing there, she shook her head, "Nope, it was literally pointless trying to do this. One day I might talk about it but I don't want to now." She said trying to stay calm now and hearing his words, she stopped doing whatever she was going oto do, "What? You love me? What?"

Jeremy sat there for a moment and nodded, he couldn't be bothered to argue any more, "Okay, I will just wait for you to talk about it." He stated before looking over at her and then getting up off the chair and walked to her. Taking her hands he nodded, "Brianna, I do love you. I love you. I didn't want to say it at this moment because it's not the best but I couldn't help it. you need to hear it."

Brianna glanced over at him and nodded as he started walking towards her, she was a little shocked the way he was acting, hearing the words she was shocked, she knew how she felt but saying it out loud scared her. Putting her hand through her hair for a moment, she sighed holding his hands beforep ulling him closer, "This was a bad time to say it because of the arguing but i will put it this way, I am glad you told me and were honest with me." She sighed as she kissed him softly and then looked at him, "I love you too." She stated softly looking at him feeling the nerves run through her.

Jeremy stood there holding onto her hands for a moment listening to her talk, it sounded like she was trying so hard to avoid what he said and he could kind of understand that. As she kissed him he smiled although wasn't sure what to expect from this but hearing her say the words he smiled looking at her and kissed her softly again. As he looked the time, "I don't want to ruin this romantic moment of ours, but don't you have to leave for work?"

Brianna smiled looking over at him laughing for a moment, she smiled kissing him for a moment and then saw the time and laughed, "Well yes I actually do. Better get going I guess."

#para #whatifjeremy

[coughsyrupcowboy]

The umbrella academy sucks

As an abuse victim, i left the show a lil angry. Like if u like the show, thats fine. If u relate to the characters, thats fine. But the show and its premise and characters had potential and the whole thing kinda fell flat to me. This is just my general opinon and im not meaning to shit on any one that likes the show! The show just made me really, really angry and i kept watxhing to see if it got better. It didnt! I dont understand why its so popular. So spoiler warning im gonna have a lil rant lol its that kinda day

I understand being damaged by being abused, i can completely relate to that. But there comes a point in your life when you have to not let that define you. I dont mean u get over it. You never get over being abused. Its ultimatly your choice to eventually heal or continue to blame your abuse for everything wrong in your life. And honestly thats very hard to do. Its hard to get helo and getting help is beauriful. And if it was just a couple characters refusing to heal, thatd be ok. Atleast have one character thats healing or healed from their abuse. It felt like a cautionary tale for abused kids. Like dont get abused or ull end up sad and miserable and ur gonna be a dickhead!!

Growing and healing from abuse is hard and it takes work. These characters were assholes that were constantly bickering with each other about stuff that didnt even matter and were blaming everyone else but themselves for problems that were their own fault.

These characters were manchildren and couldnt grow up even if they tried.

Luther is a boring and bossy piece of shit thats still chasing the glory days of being a leader and takes away all of alisons agency near the end and doesnt even learn from it. He knows best so lets overpower every other character because they arent allowed to have a say in anything. His word is law and its very controllingand gross. Also like ew thats ur sister.

Diego wants to be batman lmao. And he kills his mom without consulting anyone else and then wants pity cuz his mom is dead wtf. And he keeps getting in fights like ur not 15 anymore, get some anger managment therapy.

Allison grew up to be a manipulative bitch whos sad that people dont like her cuz shes a manipulative person. She abused her kid and is sad about it.

Klaus....ugh....he was kind of...boring....he was a drug addict who was a complete ass and was just lol xd random im gay. Then they sent him to nam and killed the only other gay who had no lines. The writers were doing some blow and being like "klaus needs depth. Lets give him some man pain and make him a vet even tho that makes absolutely no sense for his character. This is the only way to make him interesting." Like why would klaus even fight in a war, willingly, instead of going back to the future. Why would he fight in a war he knew he was gonna lose???? He didnt even get character development from this!! Hes just got ptsd now. Hes still an ass and druggie. He didnt grow, hes the same. Hes one of the more likable characters tho cuz he has a basic understanding of compassion.

Five was kind of interesting but the potential was lost there. He seems to be the most well adjusted character but honestly hes kind of a cast away rip off. Hid motivations dont always make sense too. I dont have a lot to say about him

Ben is ok. But ghost. So like no real character. Hes a blank sheet.

Vanya got the worst treatment. She was treated the worst out of all the kids and is treated and portrayed as sad and pathetic. Everytime she tries to grow from what happened, apologoze, even talk, the rest of the cast shuts her down or gaslights her in some kind of way. She then gets an abusive boyfriend and then she becomes a villian. Her character goes from caring, compassionate, and hesitant to person who kills everyone???? It makes no sense. Itd make sense if she killed her family, but not the rest of the world. Like what??

And the abusive boyfriend was abused physocally amd became a serial killer??

The abuse victims in this show either become awful people, physciotic killers, or are just bland and 2d. It sent a message to me, unintentional or otherwise, that being abused defines you and youre never gonna heal. These people are 30 somethings and they are all adult babies who seriously need to grow up.

ALSO YOU DONT HAVE TO PLAY POP MUSIC EVERY 20 SECONDS JESUS FUCKIGN CHRIST I GENUINLY LIKE THE TROPE OF A FIGHT EITH UPBEAT MUSIC IN THE BACKGROUND BUT WHEN THERES LIKE FUCKING 58 POP SONGS WITH IN ONE EPISODE IT LOSES ITS SPARK AS A TROPE. ALSO THE SOUNDTRACK WAS SHIT. GROW UP AND PUT RASPUTIN IN PLACE OF INSTANBUL GOD!!! AND HIRE SOME MUSIC MAJORS!! THEYRE A DYING BREED!! THEY WILL LOVINGLY CRAFT YOU A BETTER SOUNDTRACK!! IF U DIDNT WASTE UR ENTIRE BUDGET TO GET THE RIGHTS TO 900 SHITTY POP SONGS THAT WERE ONLY GONNA BE PLAYED DURING 50 SEXOND INTERVALS WHERE CHARACTERS DO NOTHING AND INSTEAD OPTED TO USE THAT BUDGET TO GET A BETTER VIDEO EDITOR AND HIRE SOMEONE TO DO A SOUNDTRACK, ITD BE SO MUCH BETTER AND UD PROBABLY HAVE A BETTER BUDGET FOR UR SHIT CGI!! FUCK!

anyways thanks for coming to my ted talk

#but im coping!! #my rants #personal #i guess u can reblog #this is probably like swinging a bat at a bzzing bees nest lil #im gonna get like at least one person mad at me cuz im not coddling abusive assholes who use being mentall ill as an exuse #no u aint

[the-firebird69]

Zero Motorcycles SR/S

It's pretty pricey for a cheap motorcycle and basically it is cheap and they're asking for $20,000 the price of a decent sedan and we looked at it and said why are they asking so much they think electric is still a novelty ours is about 8,000 but it has all sorts of doodads on it that work and is very efficient and effective motorcycle and it's self-charging I'm already driving it's about 6 00 miles per charge at about 20 per 100 if you are including the self charging add-on which makes it about $700 or 800 miles per charge and that's kind of like I take a gas but it takes an hour and a half to charge still but if you have the extra battery that CAA always talks about you can drive almost indefinitely as it charges one while you're driving and you just switch back to it and the gas tank if you get the add-on doubles as a second giant battery and a lot of you don't care about all that you want storage and it sounds ridiculous because it is some people are like him and kind of cautious to ask if it is safe and it doesn't cause cancer so humidity radiation all that's not true in our bike it's shielded if something happens it would go a different direction it does not emit radiation because of the shielding and we actually specifically decided to collect emissions that are casting in that direction and at all and there aren't any and you don't understand that the bike is cheap I mean this one zero is a piece of junk and it's designed to make you not like electric bikes cuz it doesn't drive very far and doesn't do what it's supposed to I'll stop speed is about 200 mph and it can go faster if you wanted to you have a performance package you can add for about two grand it's as fast as one of the fastest super bikes that you people make that are gas which is very fast about 500 miles an hour and it'll go just as far no not at all it'll go a lot farther even it almost top speed it'll go 10 times as far as the gasoline bike will and you're ridiculous the technology is within your grass you just don't want to use it.

Hera

Zues

So we are and we're Mass producing them and if you want tons of them out there we'll get him a bike but our people say we don't want that many out there because we don't want you zooming all over the place without having to pay some money and go somewhere that we can keep track you with so sit there and suck on it because you'll never do it even that would be really miraculous idea for you but you're dumb rather have him sit there staring at you trying to figure out how to get rid of you when she keeps doing and he's really good at it. In other words you're not buying our electric bike it has this very high capacity and we can't really put how many miles it can go and that might be it because you don't understand what the capacity for miles is for charge but we should say is at maximum performance in max speed you need to charge every 1500 miles because that's about how many and we can put a power usage chart up once you understand that and we can put both and retarded people might have a little difficulty figuring it out and they'll lag behind no matter what you tell them I believe

Thor Freya

It's very simple corking company and screw Trump is just advisor and I expect something from you and you're not doing that badly in this department even though your wacko I want you to go out there corks I don't need to buy a million of these in area today and if you don't believe what Hera has said then stick it with the sun don't shine because our advertising is always truthful and you're going to have a bike that you can just drive around and not have to spend money on gas and it's very efficient and hardly needs to be fixed ever it's complicated technology and you guys need to sit down and look at it cuz you have no idea how most electrical things work of this nature and you need to know because not only are we selling it which is ridiculous but we're selling something that captures electrical radiation and puts it back in stores it or discharges it and that's exactly what you need for Galactus and even though Thor doesn't have confidence ull buy it I think you will

As most of you don't have money to go around buying gas all the time and stopping to gas up as a pain in the ass because everyone's a pain in the ass to you and you'll fool Thor by buying them. And your full mark because you should buy them because the technology is something you should learn about and it's more advanced than what Mac is doing in public and really it's something they're not good at and will and Bill looked at it and said wow that's quite a bike and it's his design for my primarily it is his bike and I copied it and I made one and Thor and I and Apollo and Arianna Nuada and others perfected it, and yes it's a racing bike and yes there is an electric racing bag circuit and yes it is acceptable bike and if you bought a ton of them you could clean up on the circuit or at least you'd be racing us and you leave Mac behind and you can get the high performance package and it goes just as fast. It's a stock Super bike race. Hera added the last two sentences but I want to see you guys out there pronto Green mountain boys and I want to see you with these electric bikes because you can afford them and it's a status symbol if you have more than mac they're going to sale sorts of stuff but they're not going to have these bikes that really are fast and they're quiet too by the way makes a whirring sound it's very quiet compared to a superbike and it doesn't burn any gas and I'm not doing any favors cuz you'd be investigated by us and of course we try and figure out who's buying them and so forth but I just think that someone has to show that you're smarter than someone else and these bikes are smart buy these bikes are smart buy because if the gasoline in your area goes out and you can't afford gas so you can't buy it you can use solar and charge these or you don't have to charge them you see can you buy a few spare batteries you don't have to charge the means if you go around at 100 mph all day long or less you won't have to charge it at all ever if you go around at 500 mph all day long you'll be going only 1500 miles then you'll have to charge it or you find a hill to go down and Hera says yeah you can start up again and go 50 miles an hour for 2 hours and you be fully charged.

Zues Hera

So we're in awe because he says he can sell it to us and it makes sense and we do understand it at a certain energy output the energy input is great enough that it can charge the battery and you can switch to the second battery if the output is too high you drain both batteries down and or the first battery and the second battery is how it really works and we do get that so we're starting to understand something it's very technical but it's not extremely hard to think of except if the other motorcycle companies were still around and we do understand something that this is going to be dominant in the market and the attack bike might take over but right now bja is proving that we need this one and so it's a big selling point you can use them off planet too and you can fly around on the moon or as it looks like we're going to have this fight up and one of the moons I think it's earths and no oxygen is required for it to work so are consumed is interest because he says we just have to put some sort of heat and cooling system on it make sure that the motor and the battery didn't freeze or heat up too much just like you are spacesuit and other than that you would have a machine that speed and accuracy is unbeatable off planet because of the nature of the motorcycle being able to traverse rough and difficult and impossible terrain versus a full four-wheel vehicle so we found the bike and he said this is impossible you could ride around the planet 10 times and a lot of is probably with and do nothing but just keep riding around it

Cork and bja

[people-leave]

Just reread the scene where Tamlin locked Feyre up, oh Tamlin. I can not and will not defend that but sadly I understand it. I was horrified the first time and heartbroken the second time I've read it.

Two emotionally unstable people gone through terrible horrors, one losing all his friends to lift a curse and the other killing 2 fae for some one she loved, trying to live together without communicating.

That's where all the issues lie just real bad communication. Both grieving so similarly that they cant even get themselves out never mind understanding or listening to the other. For Feyre she had that week where she was elsewhere and Rhys made her think- think beyond under the mountain. But more than anything it allowed Feyre to escape the one thing that caused her to lose herself. Is that that Tamlins fault - no. And for poor Tamlin he couldn't escape his responsibility to protect and Feyre saw that she even said it. I just wished she openly told him that they both need to make steps to heal.

I understand both of them sadly. I understand Tamlins only job in his eyes was to protect and never let harm come to his people and sadly he didnt even see that he could be the harm because the past harm was him letting his people sacrifice themselves. (He did the opposite keeping them close) And her just not being able to say or do anything that may further harm someone she loves. She battled for him and the courts and she lost something deep within herself.

The most heartbreaking point is they didnt give each other a chance. She never fully told him things that could have helped him understand her and himself. And he never did the same.

I said I would never defend his action of the terrible lock up. And I wont we all know it. And I understand why it was the breaking point for her I do. (Question:did she handle the aftermath in a good way?) Why does she have such horrible communication with Tamlin who she loves and yet let's Rhys in. And the sad truth is isnt this the case in real life u can tell strangers ur whole life yet ur own family ull shelter them.

The now me is defo not an anti-Tamlin or jumping the gun team Rhys. I'm just understanding people/charaters are complex. We cant just blame people for some actions without understanding them.

I also know some actions are to far and I would never condone them -the lock up was far for some and defo for me hence I wouldnt condone it. I'm glad Feyre could get out of a place that wasnt good for her then. I just wish Tamlin wasnt blamed for her emotional state after the mountain or her not eating and the losing weight.

(Its almost like an addict trying to help another addict while they both addicted- u just cant heal someone when u are not healed yourself)

And I wish he had someone anyone that would stand up to him and make him see, see the spiral and harm that he was creating to himself and especially those he loved.

[mangofreshmango]

After we had been vibing in an early morning bus to school this is a selfie that we took, me and my friend Xoli. And that's my son right there. I'm kidding that is the boy we used to take the bus with, amongst many other school kids. We were varsity students, there were primary and school students and the rest of the bunch we shared the bus with was people who worked at the varsity and surrounding places.

The year was 2012. Life was uncertain, challenging but fun and exciting, much to look forward to now it's just stale and boring almost like it's waiting to rot. I would be lying if I said I did not miss uni days.

Xoli was such a bubbly character who liked to laugh out loud and teasing us. Who u don't see in this frame is Mbeje, Thando and Menzi that makes up the whole pack. We were all doing our first year, everything was new and the friendship in between us was relatively new. Even thou we went to the same school we didn't actually know each other that well, except for Xoli yena we did not know her at all.

We got introduced to her by Mbeje. He used to courtship her, he was a ladies man that one. But she ended up as our friend and Mbeje stayed drooling on her the entire year😂😂😂 I don't blame him, Xoli was pretty, it was something of her skin, her eyes. But what tops it all for me was her bubbly personality,she was a breath of fresh and the fact that she was a girl from the hood made her a perfect fit to the pack. Espeshially because we had Thando who was hood hood uyayizwa lonto hood hood ucheri wase mpameni lowa (don't worry ull never understand that).

We're not as close anymore but I still love these people even now, maybe even more now because of a stretch of time that I have been not with them.

The boy on the picture by the way was a random boy from the bus who we liked. He was a twin with a girl, we used to call them girl and boy, they were a naughty duo those ones.

#01062020 #Reflections #Varsitystories #Friends #Love

[bartsugsy]

So you think Robert was attracted/lust for Rebecca is why he slept with her? I don't agree at all It not about her he not attracted to her

Nooooooope not what I said at all. Not even slightly. I’ve never once said that anon. I said he has issues understanding how to be faithful - even to Aaron. I think I phrased that wrong though - it’s more that he has an unconventional way of thinking about it??? That probably requires a lot more fuckin open conversation than he’s ever given it if it were to continue?????

I think with Chrissie, he just had no regard for her feelings and was more out to have a good time regardless, and then he obviously started a whole affair with Aaron and fell in love with him.

With Aaron, it’s more… ok it revolves around Robert’s understanding of how he uses sex - there’s sex with Aaron, who he loves, who he is emotionally intimate with. And then there’s flirting, kissing and ultimately sex that can be used as a means to an end - as a way to accomplish a goal? And to Robert, those are different things. So even when he’s cheating on Aaron, or doing something that Aaron wouldn’t want him to do, aside from the eventual one night stand, in his mind those things are completely separate from his relationship with Aaron because they’re not an expression of love or intimacy - in his mind the idea that there’s any comparison is hilariously absurd and so he himself doesn’t necessarily see it for what it is, or see it as particularly bad, because those actions are so much less than what he has with Aaron? I mean - he does see it as wrong (if he didn’t he’d be more open about it) but he doesn’t see it as…. like I don’t think, to him, it’s a sign that he loves Aaron any less? Because in his mind nothing can compete???? There’s his love for Aaron and then there’s everything else. It’s ridiculous and he’s an idiot ok, but I just…. this is what I’m always left thinking, when I think about this.

Here’s my reasoning behind this - let’s just go step by step through the instances in which Robert has physically cheated on Aaron:

The first Robert/Rebecca kiss:

this is the stupidest kiss because it makes no fuckin sense to me but hey - it supports my theory. We have Robert kissing Rebecca as a way to prove he’s not into her. He’s spent the days since her return flirting with her, which we know is to butter her up to try and get her to betray her family and help Andy. He hasn’t explained this part to Aaron, conveniently, but he has told him he brought her back and got her to slap him lmao.

ANYWAY, he eventually kisses her bc she keeps trying to get him to and then is immediately like “oh bless ty for proving to me that i only ever want to kiss Aaron for the rest of my life I’d rather not sleep with u I am a loyal person now because I’ve found the person I want to be loyal too xoxo” and then goes off, literally buys Aaron a ring and makes out with him in the pub hallway. Insane. Anyway, it was a means to an end (it should have done absolutely nothing to help him win Rebecca over but it turns out Robert knows her better than I do and understood that a little thing like “I feel nothing for you” would never stop Rebecca White) - it was a way for Robert to prove to himself that he had no desire to cheat on Aaron emotionally. Which. I guess. He didn’t. Sigh.

Naturally, everyone cheats as a way to prove they’re never going to cheat.

Why were we surprised this marriage ended in a surprise baby again?

Anyway.

I remember when this stuff was first airing and I made a post (that probably ended up in my drafts bc all my controversial meta at that time ended up in my drafts) that said that Robert seemed to be pushing the boundaries of how far he felt he could take things with Rebecca while still being loyal to Aaron in a way that sat right with him internally and that he was taking himself further and further out of his own comfort zone - and that it would all inevitably blow up in his face. (ok this doesn’t sound controversial but it was controversial at the time lmao) I stand by that even with hindsight, I think. It just throws up interesting questions about where Robert’s own personal moral boundaries are and how they might differ to another persons - Aaron’s in particular - especially without any open and clear conversation to Aaron to go alongside it. And the post also said that Aaron’s presence in Robert’s life complicated things because pre-Aaron, Robert would hella just sleep with Rebecca. Now in this age of needing to draw a lot firmer lines because Aaron is someone to consider, he was sort of… struggling to adapt a little, and floundering.

ANYWAY MOVING ALONG

The Second Rob/Rebecca Kiss:

So, obvs Rob is hella over helping Andy now, Andy who, he’s spotted an opportunity to make money and he’s gonna take it 🙌🏼 monay monay monay monayyyy (monayyyyy!)

He’s leading Rebecca on and doing his flirty thing blah blah and she kisses him and he kisses back but is then like UH NOT RIGHT NOW BABE HAHAHA whilst internally screaming and then he tries to hide it and it all comes out anyway and Aaron is the least surprised and Robert is literally like… LOOK HE BARELY EVEN SAYS SORRY OK

HE’S LITERALLY LIKE AARON HOW IN THE FUCK COULD U EVER BELIEVE I ACTUALLY MEANT THAT PLS HAVE U SEEN U??? MY LOVE FOR U WILL NEVER END ULL ALWAYS BE A PART OF MEEE AS LONG AS TIME KEEPS ON PASSING BY YOULL ALWAYS BE MY BABY BOOOOYYY~~~

HE LITERALLY SAYS TO REBECCA U KNOW I WASNT INTO IT SMH

WHY DOES HE JUST ASSUME EVERYONE INCLUDING REBECCA KNOWS THAT HE IS EMOTIONALLY COMMITTED TO ONLY AARON EVEN WHILE TRYING TO FUCKIN LEAD REBECCA ON WITH HIS MAGIC DICK he’s an absurd man absolutely absurd

HES LIKE AARON IF U KISSED SOMEONE I WOULD IMMEDIATELY BELIEVE U DIDNT ENJOY OR WANT IT it kills me this whole situation kills me but JUST LOOK AT HIM CASUALLY SEPARATING HIS CASUAL PHYSICALITY IN AN ATTEMPT TO GET HIS OWN WAY WITH OTHER PEOPLE AND THE WAY HE IS WITH AARON bc nothing compares to aaron? and that’s just the way the world is, according to robert j sugden.

The one night stand:

OK DIFFERENT BC HE IS USING IT AS A WAY TO HURT AARON BUT LITERALLY IN THE REVEAL HE SAYS AS MUCH AND HE SAYS IT’S EMPTY AND JUST it’s just a pattern ok he just sort of… uses sex as a tool in a lot of ways that come back to bite him and also in ways that he never ultimately seems particularly proud of

But also, it’s at least occasionally implied, in ways that work out really well for him - I think it just worked out better before Aaron came along and he had a reason to not fuck around? And reconciling those two things has proved an interesting challenge for him?

One that he has essentially failed so far lmao.

This whole post is so excessively OTT and i haven’t even gone into enough detail and obvs we could talk about rob flirting with the random lady ahead of the January fight too and his insistence that flirting to get business done is just how things happen aaron chill out son LIKE HE LITERALLY THREATENED TO BREAK UP WITH AARON OVER THAT

we could also talk about his relationships with larry and chrissie and bex in 2014 and before then - and with larry now, but we talk about that enough don’t we

Anyway, this is fascinating to me and slightly sad and I think it also fits the classic “depraved bisexual” trope if I’m remembering that correctly, but idk

I just don’t think this is necessarily the sex positive ~do what u want live ur life as u want it~ life and more just a ~robert has an interesting view on his worth and how that relates to his physical attractiveness and he seemed a lot more comfortable with that before aaron was in the picture but that still didn’t stop him after aaron did come along it just made things a lot harder and at least in terms of present day it certainly isn’t coming from a place of happiness~

and like i said earlier it makes me want to sit him down and repeat burt hummel’s sex ed speech to him idk

This is the stupidest meta I’ve ever written yw

#this meta deserved a lot more care than I actually gave it but I just wanted to finish and eat my cookie #answering anons #long post #how do I even... tag this.... #meta

[dangkinronpa]

positivity for ouma/angie whos trying to move on from grief

ur positivity is under the cut

death is always a hard thing to deal with, and i speak from experience when i say that u can still feel the effects that come along with it years after the event actually happens. i know that this is a little bit late and that ur sisters birthday has already passed, and im really sorry that uve had to go through something so tragic, but i personally think that u should celebrate it in some way, even if its just by remembering any good times that u had with her. try to associate her memories with positive things, and remember her if u want to. get emotional if u need to. its bad to try and bottle these kinds of things up, so celebrate ur sisters birthday if u can and try to actively grow from ur loss

as someone whos dealt with death and grief (though a lot longer ago than three years), i can tell u that simply trying to act as if the deceased doesnt exist isnt really helpful; instead of really getting over their death and moving on, ur just shoving everything away and not giving urself an opportunity to heal. to put it in other words, the best way to move on and feel better about this whole ordeal is to think and talk about ur sisters death, since it can help u get a sense of closure and really put urself in a better mindset about her death. the more that u feel u can open up about her suicide and talk through the good and bad parts of her life, the more u can really grow from whats happened and move on without forgetting her memory. if u just try to forget about her and pretend that she didnt exist, the harder it will be to think about ur sister without feeling the same grief u felt years ago and truly move on from her death, and ull be more likely to find urself forgetting little details about her

personally, i think one reason why ur mother might be trying to turn ur sisters birthday into a normal day is because of the fact that ur sister committed suicide; a lot of people think that there was more that they couldve done to prevent the person from committing suicide, and it tends to make them feel bad. in fact, i wasnt even allowed to attend a family members funeral because they had committed suicide instead of dying from natural causes. no matter what reason ur sister had for committing suicide, though, i want u to remember that u cant go back in time and change anything, and that at this point theres nothing that could have been done. instead of blaming urselves, try to remember all the good times and moments where ur sister seemed truly happy. if ur worried that ur mother might be blaming herself for ur sisters suicide and wants to make her birthday a normal day because of this, then it might do both of u some good to talk about ur feelings and work together to remember ur sister in a positive way and realize that theres no point in regretting what u might not have done and wishing u could go back

growing older than someone who should be older than u is, i imagine, something that can be really awkward at best. its probably a little weird for u to think about the fact that ur older sister never got to be as old as u are. while it might not be something that changes ur life much, it can still be a little hard to accept, im sure. however, another way of thinking about this is that u could try to lead a life that ur sister might have wanted to lead, or something that would have made her proud of u if she had stayed alive. even though shes dead, the fact still remains that shes ur older sister, and growing older than her doesnt change that fact. i know that it can feel weird, but trust me when i say that its going to be alright and that its natural to feel a little bit weird about stuff like that

as someone whos been in a similar situation as u (though my situation was also very different), i can tell u that simply trying to forget about ur sisters life and acting as if she never existed isnt something thats healthy to do. in the end, u really dont move on from the loss if u just bottle up ur feelings and act as if they dont exist, which i know because ive done just that, and i cant really think about that dead person anymore without crying because i never got those feelings off of my chest and moved on from them. talking about those feelings would be the best thing that u can do, and a good way to keep ur sisters memory in mind, but i understand if u cant always do that. making a trip to her grave every once in a while or writing down how u feel can help u feel a bit better though, and if u want to talk to ur sister while at her grave thats personally fine. coping in any way that u can is alright

honestly, through all of this, i just want u to know that ur not alone and that theres always someone u can turn to whenever u want to talk about ur sister and keep her in ur memory. i know that im personally alright with u talking to me, even if u cant talk to ur mother, and im sure there are plenty of other people who would be willing to talk about this with u as well. all in all, though, remembering ur sister and thinking about the good times u had with her will help u move on in a healthy way and keep ur sisters memory alive, so dont feel afraid to think about her, even if its painful for a little while. celebrate things that remind u of her and make u remember her, and be glad that she was in ur life to begin with. it can take years to cope with death, so dont think that u have to feel better about what happened to ur sister immediately. its okay

please stay safe, and im always here if u want someone to talk to

- mod kaede

#kokichi ouma kin #ouma kokichi kin #angie yonaga kin #yonaga angie kin #positivity #suicide #parent mention #sibling mention #parent ment #sibling ment #ask to tag

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Arplis - News: Your Comprehensive Guide to Online Dating Slang

Internet Dating Slang Terms You Need to Know in 2020

Though we're still meeting in bars and going to see movies together, dating today would be largely unrecognizable to people 10 years ago; changes in how we find our dates, how we treat them and how we describe ourselves to them have radically altered the dating landscape.

To many, modern dating can seem like a minefield of technical jargon; the phrase "My poly pansexual situationship ghosted me so I'm breadcrumbing this snack I had a half-night stand with last year, will you be my emergency call if he wants to Netflix & chill?" will be clear as day to some and unintelligible to others.

RELATED:All the Sex Slang You Need to Know

If you find yourself in the latter category, this gigantic glossary of 61dating terms is for you.

AROMANTIC

Identity / Celibacy

Pronunciation: ay-ro-MAN-tick

Aromanticism is pretty rare, but it is real: A certain portion of the population does not experience the feelings of romantic love that seem to come naturally for so many of us. While that might seem like either a blessing or a curse, depending on your take on love, perhaps the most significant hurdle for aromantic people is simply feeling left out and misunderstood by a culture for whom dating, love and marriage are not only the norm, but the de facto expectation for all.

Etymology: The "a-" prefix roughly translates to "without;" "romantic," here, means capable of having feelings of romantic love

"I don't know what's wrong with me. I just can't... fall in love." "You're not broken maybe you're just aromantic!"

ASEXUAL

aka Ace

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: ay-SEK-shoo-UL

Being asexual doesn't specify whom you're attracted to, unlike other terms on this list. It specifies you don't experience sexual attraction. But this doesn't mean you can't have sex only that you don't feel the need in the same way. Dating an ace person? Expect to check in regularly with them re: their desires and boundaries just as you would when dating anybody else.

Etymology: Knowing that "a-" means "without," I'm sure I don't need to tell you what "sexual" means.

"Patrick, are you dating Scott? I thought he was asexual, not gay." "Scott's asexual and likes boys! It ain't mutually exclusive."

BENCHING

Graeme Adams

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: BENCH-ing

Benching is when you're not into someone enough to commit to officially dating them, but you don't want them to move on and find someone else either, so you string them along juuuust enough to keep them waiting on the sidelines for you.

Etymology: You know when you're on a sports team but not actually playing, just waiting on the bench until the coach needs you? Yeah, it's the dating version of that.

"Rachel only ever seems to text me after I've given up on hearing from her. She's definitely benching me."

BIG DICK ENERGY

Dating / Identity

Pronunciation: BIG dick EH-nur-JEE

Big dick energy, or BDE, is something only a small amount of people possess. Its the quality of having supreme confidence without needing to be loud or controlling, a quiet understanding of who you are and what you bring to the table that doesnt require backtalk, bragging, or B.S. In short, someone with big dick energy is incredibly hot, and more guys should try to emulate that. The truth is, you can have BDE no matter what your penis size is as long as youre comfortable with who you are.

Etymology: The phrase was coined by Twitter user @imbobswaget in a tweet mourning the June 2018 death of TV personality and chef Anthony Bourdain. It implies that a person (or thing) exudes the confidence that must come with having a large penis and Bourdain's kindness, charm and humble swagger were just that.

Damn, look at that guy over there. Hes totally exuding big dick energy.

BISEXUAL

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: by-SEK-shoo-ULL

Bisexual persons are attracted to two genders. In the nineties, we'd have said "bisexual persons are into men and women", but we know a little more about sex and gender than we used to. Swinging both ways, flexible, cross-platform compatible, or rooting for both teams, a bisexual person can enjoy sex with or fall in love with the same gender as themselves, or a different gender from themselves. Bi people might prefer dating one gender and sleeping with another, but we still call 'em bi.

Etymology: A bisexual person is like a bicycle; both share the prefix bi, which means two.

"Mike, why do you call yourself bisexual? You've only ever dated women." "That's true, but I just haven't met a guy I wanted to call my boyfriend yet."

BREADCRUMBING

Graeme Adams

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: BREAD-crum-ing

Breadcrumbing is when you send flirty but non-committal messages to a person when you're not really interested in dating them but don't have the guts to break things off with them completely. The breadcrumbee is strung along for the sake of sparing the breadcrumber a confrontation.

Etymology: Think of the phenomenon of getting a small creature to follow you by laying a trail of breadcrumbs here, and you've got the right idea.

"Rene replies to every second or third message I send her but never wants to meet IRL. I think she's breadcrumbing me."

CASUAL RELATIONSHIP

Dating / Type

Pronunciation: KAZH-oo-ull ruh-LAY-shun-ship

Somewhere in between f*ckbuddies and going steady is the casual relationship, in which two people typically hang out regularly and have sex but don't partake in the hallmarks of a serious relationship, like exclusivity, ongoing commitment and spending time with each other's friends and family.

Etymology: This one's pretty straightforward in meaning: it's a romantic relationship that's not too serious or committed.

"I have a friends with benefits type thing going on with Emily, you know? It's a casual relationship."

CATFISHING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: KAT-fish-ing

Catfishing is one of those dating terms that has legitimately made its way into the mainstream, thanks to the TV show and movie of the same name. Messaging with someone who's pretending to be someone else? You're being catfished! These setups tend to end badly. But until then, move your conversation with your crush to the phone/IRL/video chat of some sort as soon as you can muster. If they're resistant, they might be catfishing you.

Etymology: The term gained popularity after the release of the 2010 documentary on the then-burgeoning phenomenon, Catfish, but the real reason for the name is harder to come by.

"She always has a different excuse not to meet up with me." "Sounds you're being catfished..."

CISGENDER

aka Cis

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: siss-JENN-der

Cisgender is a term for people who aren't transgender, or whose assigned gender lines up with their actual gender. But isn't that 'normal', you might ask? Actually, it isn't, it's just more common: variations in sex and sexuality are perfectly normal and occur frequently in nature (gender is a little more complicated, as we don't have a theory of mind that encompasses gender for nonhuman animals). While cisgender persons may outnumber transgender persons, it isn't a default setting; it's one of many.

Etymology: From cis-, meaning literally 'on this side of' in mathematics and organic chemistry.

"So what's the opposite of trans, then? Normal?" "Well, no, it's not that simple. But the term you're looking for is 'cis'."

CUFFING SEASON

Dating / Type

Pronunciation: KUFF-ing SEE-zun

Cuffing season is the period between early fall and late winter when everyone starts to shack up with the nearest half-decent single person to ward off loneliness and cold during the cooler months. Cuffing season typically implied a short term, mutually beneficial arrangement that's strictly seasonal, and it ends as soon as the leaves start turning green again. The term is African American Vernacular English (AAVE) and has been around at least since the early 2010s.

Etymology: Cuffing, as in "handcuffing", because you're chaining yourself to someone else at least until winter's over.

"Starbucks just brought back the pumpkin spice latte, it must be cuffing season!"

CURVE

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: KURV

Getting curved is being rejected, shot down, turned aside, said no to, dissed and dismissed. Yes, it sucks. When you get curved you need to take a moment to properly absorb all of the "no" that just hit you. But there's also something beautiful to a well-done curve; it's a memento to a failure, big and small, that you can carry around with you and use to prop up or tear down narratives about your dateability.

Etymology: A curve is often subtler than a flat-out no (think: Your text gets "Seen" but not responded to), so even if it hurts the same, it carries a name that implies a redirection rather than an outright rejection.

"I tried to ask out this babe at the bar last night and she curved me harder than I've ever been curved in my life."

CUSHIONING

Graeme Adams

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: KUSH-on-ing

As above, cushioning is the process of staying in contact with one or more romantic prospects as a backup in case things don't go smoothly with your main squeeze. The "cushions" are usually kept on the periphery, eg. texting rather than full blown cheating.

Etymology: Cushioning, as in, keeping a person or several people around to "cushion" the blow if your main relationship doesn't work out.

"I do really like Priya, but I'm still texting Sian just in case. Yeah, I guess I'm cushioning."

DADDY

Dating / Identity

Pronunciation: DAH-dee

Over the past few years, daddy culture has risen to become pretty mainstream. These days, its normal for teens and assorted millennials to use the word daddy in either a sexual or sex-adjacent context. You might call your partner daddy in bed, or you might acknowledge a hot older mans daddy vibes because of his muscles, body hair, facial hair, and personal wealth. Either way, yes, its low-key incestuous, but the people have spoken.

Etymology: From the word daddy, meaning father.

She keeps on texting me, choke me daddy. What the hell does that mean?

DEMISEXUAL

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: DEH-mee-SEK-shoo-ULL

A demisexual is a person whose sex drive is tied not to an immediate visual or physical attraction but to people's personalities once they've gotten to know them. As a result, demisexuals are poor candidates for one-night stands and casual relationships which may make them feel a bit alienated in our current dating climate. But they're no more or less capable of deep, loving relationships as the rest of us, so if you're prepared to take things slow sexually, demisexuals can make for great partners, too.

Etymology: Demi means half, or part positioning demisexuals between asexuals and people who do typically experience sexual desire.

"At first I thought I was asexual, but then I realized I can have sexual desire for people... just not until I really know them!" "Sounds like you might be demisexual."

DM SLIDE

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: DEE-em slide

A DM slide is when you direct message your crush using the private messaging functions available on all of the major social media networks, eg. Twitter and Instagram. You usually need to be mutuals first ie. follow each other to avoid your message ending up in an "other" folder, and DM sliding tends to occur after some public interaction, eg. liking each other's pics or @ replying.

Etymology: DM stands for "direct messages", and "sliding" is the process of entering someone's direct messages to flirt with them.

"Brandy just posted a selfie and she's looking hot AF! I'm about to slide in the DMs."

DTR CONVERSATION

aka DTR, DTR Convo

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: dee-tee-ARE con-ver-SAY-shun

A DTR conversation is a pivotal moment in a relationship: It's the moment you discuss what you are. Are you a for-real couple, or just friends with benefits, or a situationship? Timing is huge, here. Have your DTR too early and you risk scaring the other person away; too late and you might discover they've been casually dating around the whole time, assuming it wasn't serious.

Etymology: There's no great mystery here DTR simply stands for "define the relationship."

"It's been six months and I just don't know what we are yet?" "Well have you had a DTR convo with him?

EGGPLANT EMOJI

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: EGG-plant ee-MO-ji

There are other sex emojis the peach (a luscious butt) and the water drops (either wetness or ejaculate, depending on your tastes), notably but the eggplant emoji is doubtless the most suggestive. Why? Well, peach and water drops are actually used in other contexts. But when was the last time you needed to use a damn eggplant emoji to signify eggplant?

Etymology: People just noticed that the eggplant emoji was phallic-looking. The rest is history.

"Wow, did you see that bulge? Man, I'd love to see his eggplant emoji, if you know what I mean."

EMERGENCY CALL

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: eh-MUR-jun-see KOL

An emergency call is a fakeout that allows you to politely get out of a particularly bad date. If you can tell the night's going to be a trainwreck from the earliest moments (and you often can) but you're genuinely afraid of insulting the stranger you're sitting across from, a fake emergency call from a friend saying "Your brother's in the hospital" or "Your cat just died" early on in the evening can be a real lifesaver.

"Oh, God, thanks for agreeing to be my emergency call last night. What a nightmare date that was."

FIREDOORING

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: FIE-er DOH-ring

This is the dating version of the one-way fire door on rare occasions, someone will come out of their shell to contact you, but won't respond if you attempt to get in touch. It's a setup that only works in deeply unequal situations if you're getting firedoored, you're constantly feeling frustrated and only occasionally satisfied. If this is happening to you, get out and close the door behind you. There are tons of people out there who won't do this to you!

Etymology: A fire door is a one-way door it allows you to exit (on rare occasions) but never allows anyone to enter.

"She never responds to my messages, but texts me 'u up' at 1 a.m.? What's the deal?" "Sounds like you're getting firedoored, bud."

FRECKLING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: FRECK-uh-ling

Just as cooler temperatures bring out cuffing season and associated coupling up, warmer temperatures change peoples dating behaviors. If someone only seems interested in you during the warmer months, it might be a case of freckling. Maybe they got out of a relationship of sorts during the spring and now that its summertime, youre on their hookup roster. Unfortunately, theyre not looking for anything serious or permanent just like freckles, theyll disappear come fall.

Etymology: From freckles, small patches of facial skin that darken during the summer for some people with pale skin.

"Its been three weeks since school started and I havent heard anything I think she was just freckling me."

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

aka FWB

Identity / Dating

Pronunciation: FRENDS with BEN-eh-fits

Friends with benefits is the relatively classy way of saying you know someone and care about them and are regularly engaging in sexual acts with them, but not within the context of a relationship. It implies a certain looseness of arrangement. You probably don't see each other as often as a real couple; don't tell each other all the details of your lives; don't put each other down on emergency contact forms (or mention each other on social media profiles). That doesn't mean you're cold, unfeeling robots; it just means a relationship isn't exactly what you want.

"So what are we? Is this a relationship? Or are we just friends?" "I think we're friends... with benefits."

F*CKBUDDIES

aka F*ckfriends

Identity / Dating

Pronunciation: FUK-buh-deez

Isn't that... basically friends with benefits? Yes, arguably, they're pretty similar. At the same time, though, the use of the F-word in one of the terms (compared to the very euphemistic "benefits" denotes a very different sexual ethos. One is classy, old world, and stuffy; the other is crass, lewd and very present. So, arguably, one is for the type of people who are ashamed of such a sexual arrangement, and one is for people who aren't. Or maybe how you describe your setup depends more on who's asking. Whatever works!

Etymology: F*ck means sex... buddies means friends... should be pretty straightforward.

"I met this great girl. We've been seeing each other a lot... just for sex, though, no dates. We're f*ckbuddies."

GAY

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: GAY

This term is one of the more flexible on the list, but, generally speaking, someone who identifies as gay is exclusively attracted to, or exclusively dates, or exclusively has sex with, people who are the same gender as themselves but it's a term that's been reclaimed by many across the spectrum of sexuality so if you see a queer woman proclaim she's gay despite dating men too, it's not necessarily the contradiction you think it is.

"Carol, would you like to grab coffee with me this weekend?" "Sure, Jim, but as friends. You do know I'm gay, right?"

GENDERFLUID

Identity / Gender

Pronunciation: JEN-der-FLOO-id

Can be applied to people who feel outside the gender binary, or it can be applied to persons who feel that their gender isn't fixed, but variable changing from day to day. Unlike nonbinary persons, a genderfluid person might identify as male and female, on different days, whereas a nonbinary person will usually identify as neither male nor female. Someone's gender identity has nothing to do with whom they're attracted to, or what they look like on the outside, or what physical sex they were born as. Gender is a mental conception of the self, so a genderfluid person can present as any gender or appearance, based on how that term feels for them.

Etymology: Gender, as in, your gender. Fluid, as in flowing, non-stable, movable, changeable.

"Hey, could you ask Scout if I could have her number? I need to ask her about this chem assignment." "Hey, buddy, I'll definitely ask for you, but you should know that Scout's not a 'she' they're genderfluid."

GHOSTING

Graeme Adams

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: GO-sting

Ghosting is when you disappear out of someone's life because you're no longer interested in them, instead of telling them directly. It's more abrupt than breadcrumbing: the ghoster will suddenly stop replying to texts and won't answer calls, and the ghostee is usually left hurt and confused.

Etymology: You know the disappearing act ghosts are known for? That, but it's your crush instead of a poltergeist.

"I'm not really feeling Melissa anymore, but she's really into me. I think I'm just gonna ghost her."

HALF-NIGHT STAND

Dating / Type

Pronunciation: HAFF nite STAND

The traditional one-night stand involves meeting a sexually-attractive stranger and taking them home for a night of unattached sex: they leave in the morning and you don't see them again. Well, the half-night stand cuts out the staying over part: the late night guest leaves straight after the sex is over.

Etymology: A half-night stand is 50 per cent of a one-night stand get it?

"Joe was lazy in bed and wouldn't give me head, so I got out of there as soon as he fell asleep. I guess I've had a half-night stand now!"

HAUNTING

aka Zombieing

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: HAWN-ting

Haunting occurs when you think you have finished things with a date that didn't work out or even a serious relationship but then you notice signs that your ex is lurking your social media feeds, eg. they randomly like old Instagram pics or watch your daily stories. Often the notifications are a deliberate attempt to remind you that they exist.

Etymology: This is another supernatural dating metaphor but the meaning is almost the opposite of ghosting: in this case the offender lingers around rather than disappearing.

"Guess who watched my Instagram story today, of all people!? John! He's haunting me, and it's really creepy."

INCEL

aka Virgin

Identity / Celibacy

Pronunciation: IN-sell

Incel is a term that became popular on Reddit to describe men who can't get laid. The term, as a descriptor, is doubly demeaning. Not only is no one attracted to incels, but they also have a stupid name to describe them. Most incel problems could be sorted out by putting in minimal effort into looking better and having more positive interactions with women, but that's none of our business. Incel's slightly less embarrassing cousin is volcel the voluntarily celibate.

Etymology: Incel is a portmanteau of the phrase "involuntarily celibate" someone who's sexually inactive but wishes they could be.

"Ugh, I haven't had sex in almost three years. I'm such an incel."

KITTENFISHING

Graeme Adams

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: KIT-in-FISH-ing

Coined by dating app Hinge, Kittenfishing is when you portray yourself in an unrealistically positive light in your online dating profiles. We all do this to some extent, but kittenfishing crosses the border into dishonest territory: think photoshopped or very outdated profile pics, or listing "lawyer" as your occupation when you're really a first year law student.

Etymology: You already know about catfishing, when a person pretends to be someone they're not online. Well, kittenfishing is the lite version of that.

"Remember that girl I was messaging on Tinder? Well, we met IRL, and she was definitely kittenfishing."

LEFT ON READ

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: LEFT awn RED or LEFT awn REED

You send a text to your crush and wait for their reply, giddy with excitement. Maybe youre asking them out on a date, or maybe youre just trying to start a conversation. Regardless, rather than a reply, you simply get a read receipt. Read at 2:39 p.m. Then nothing. If youre watching the convo like a hawk, you might get the indignity of seeing them start to type a reply and then give up. Its a demoralizing feeling to be left on read. Its also a good reason not to use read receipts.

Etymology: From the phrase read receipt, a notification visible in a chat or text window when a person has seen a message but not responded.

"Is he still leaving you on read? You need to get over him ASAP."

LOCKERING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: LAH-ker-ing

If youve ever experienced someone ditching you by claiming theyre studying when in fact theyre just not interested, what you felt was lockering. For high-school sweethearts starting college at separate schools, this could be a prelude to a Thanksgiving breakup, better known as a turkey dump. Since the main feature of lockering is the claim that nothings wrong, theyre just focusing on their studies, it could occur at any point during your time in school.

Etymology: From the word locker, a small, typically locked space for your personal belongings in a large public building such as a school.

"How come youre always studying and you never have time to catch up? Are you lockering me?"

LGBTQ

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: ELL-jee-bee-tee-CUE

LGBTQ stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (or questioning), and its an acronym that's used to include the whole of a bunch of different communities of people whose sexualities or gender identities place them outside of the mainstream both historically and today. Some incarnations of the term include groups like intersex people, asexuals; and often the final Q is omitted in popular discourse. Nevertheless, it's a useful term when you're trying to refer to several, often intersecting groups of people at once.

"I love all my LGBTQ friends!"

LOVE BOMBING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: LUV BOM-ing

Love bombing is when a new partner shows extreme amounts of affection early on and expends serious energy in a deliberate attempt to woo you. However, once you've committed to a relationship with them, the love bomber will withdraw all that affection and let their true, ugly colors shine through, leaving you stuck in a nightmare relationship. This one's really not cute: love bombing is manipulative and abusive.

Etymology: Like its literal counterpart, a love bomb is awesome and spectacular at first, but ultimately very destructive.

"Graeme was so sweet at first, but now he's manipulative and jealous all the time. I guess he love bombed me."

MICROCHEATING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: MY-cro-CHEA-ting

Microcheating is a form of infidelity that stops short of the full-blown, overt cheating that occurs when a person sleeps with someone else behind their partner's back, but is low-level, cumulative dishonesty and infidelity that is intolerable in a committed relationship. Think heavy flirting, tonnes of secrecy, furtive kissy-face emojis and emotional affairs.

Etymology: If you think of cheating behaviors as existing on a scale, these ones are on the more minor end.

"I've never caught Imogen sleeping with anyone else, but she's constantly flirting with other guys and texts everyone except me. In my opinion, she's microcheating."

NETFLIX AND CHILL

Graeme Adams

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: NET-flicks and CHILL

In its original inception, "Netflix and chill" was a euphemism for a stay-at-home date that led to sex pretty quickly. The idea being: You invite your crush over under the premise of "just watching some Netflix and chilling" and then either abandon the movie pretty early or perhaps never even get to it, as hooking up becomes the main attraction.

"How'd it go?" "Well, I invited him over for a little Netflix and chill... you can guess what happened next."

NON-BINARY

Identity / Gender

Pronunciation: non-BYE-nuh-ree

A non-binary person isn't cisgender, they are transgender. But not all transgender persons identify as the 'opposite' gender they were born as; in fact, many reject the idea that there are 'opposite' genders at all. A non-binary person may identify as neither male or female, or both male and female, or as a traditional gender to their culture (such as two-spirited or third gender). It's polite to use 'they' as a default pronoun until instructed otherwise if you're unsure about someone's gender. Never assume!

Etymology: The prefix non- is modifying the noun 'binary', nullifying the idea that gender exists as only two options.

"I thought Padraic was trans? Why doesn't Padraic want to be referred to as 'she'?" "Padraic is trans, but they're nonbinary, not femme!"

OPEN RELATIONSHIP

Dating / Type

Pronunciation: OH-pin ruh-LAY-shun-ship

An open relationship is a committed, romantic relationship that contains an arrangement where both parties can sleep with other people. It's not cheating, because both parties are honest with each other and have the same freedom to engage in sex with other people. Open relationships often contain specific rules and boundaries, just like monogamous relationships, but "no sex with anyone else, ever!" isn't one of them.

Etymology: The opposite of a traditional, "closed" relationship, an open relationship relaxes the rules on monogamy.

"I love Max, but I think we'd both benefit from a bit more sexual freedom. I'm thinking of asking him for an open relationship."

ORBITING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation:OR-bih-ting

Unlike with ghosting or zombieing (a term you'll find if you keep scrolling), theres no text, call or other form of communication that initiates anything. In this case, you'll see a notification, get your hopes up, but find they never actually reach out.Just rememeber: if someone really wants to date you, theyd probably make more of an effort than tapping on a like button.

Etymology: Just as the planets revolve around the sun with no direct interaction, this person checks all your social media accounts without ever saying a word.

"Hmm ... watches my Instagram story, likes my photos, reads my DMs, but doesn't respond. Yep, I'm being orbited."

PANSEXUAL

Graeme Adams

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: pan-SEK-shoo-ull

Some people, for whatever reason believe that the term bisexual doesn't apply to them. Maybe they're a woman who's attracted to women, men, and nonbinary people. Or maybe they feel like their sexuality is too fluid for a simpler label. Some people have adopted pansexual because it doesn't reinforce the gender binary through its name.

Etymology: Pan-, meaning all; someone who is attracted to all persons and genders.

"So are you still bisexual?" "Well, ever since my partner transitioned I feel like the word 'pansexual' suits me better, you know?"

PHUBBING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: FUH-bing

Ever been hanging out with a date or significant other only to notice theyre paying too much attention to their phone? Thats a case of phubbing. Its a pretty ugly word, but honestly, its a pretty ugly act. With people using technology to stay in constant connection to their friends and followers, it can be easy to forget about the person right in front of you. A consistent phubber is sending a message, intentionally or otherwise, that youre simply not the top priority, their phone is.

Etymology: A combination of phone and snubbing.

"Man, every time me and Mark hang out, hes always on Instagram when Im talking to him. I feel so phubbed."

PIE HUNTING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: PIE HUNT-ing

As you can probably deduce, pie hunting is an unsavory dating phenomenon in which a person (the "hunter") deliberately dates "pies", or heartbroken, vulnerable people with messy dating histories, who are perceived to be easier and lower-maintenance.

Etymology: A "pie" is a person with a disastrous dating history familiar with rejection and heartbreak. It comes from "pied off", British slang for being stood up or dumped.

"Dave only ever dates divorcees. He's a real pie-hunter."

POLYAMOROUS

aka Poly

Identity / Dating

Pronunciation: paw-lee-AM-oh-riss

In its various forms, polyamory has been a part of human culture for millennia, particularly in the form of polygamous marriages, but it's enjoying a resurgence in modern dating culture as millennials (children of divorce faced with untold levels of choice) break with monogamous tradition and begin exploring their options. It's not a free-for-all there are still rules, and cheating does exist but consensually dating (and loving) multiple people at once could represent the future of dating.

Etymology: Polyamorous comes from the Greek poly (many) and amor (love), meaning many loves.

"To be honest, Camille and I are thinking of experimenting with being polyamorous."

QUEER

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: KWEER

The word has been reclaimed by those communities as a positive term. 'Queer' is often treated as the 'umbrella' term under which gay men, pansexual non-binary persons, and people experimenting with their sexuality can come together under. It's a term of solidarity to foster community between sexuality-and-gender-diverse persons. Queer is one of the more amorphous terms on this list, and is used by queer persons to describe themselves. So what does it mean? Basically, 'not straight', in any flavor you like, and usually with a slightly more radical edge.

Etymology: Originally meaning 'strange', 'queer' was used for years as a slur against non-normative sexualities.

"Not gay as in happy, but queer as in 'screw off.'"

REDPILL

Identity / Celibacy

Pronunciation: RED-pill

If you decide, once and for all, that women are bad and society is set up in such a way to privilege them over men at every turn, you're completely off your rocker but you've also had a redpill moment. You'll probably want to head to Reddit and swap stories with other incels and MGTOWs about how women are ruining your lives.

Etymology: Redpilling is named for the scene in The Matrix when Morpheus offers Neo the choice between taking a red pill and a blue pill with the red one representing the horrifying truth and the blue, blissful ignorance.

"Yeah, my brother totally got redpilled in his first year at college. Yikes."

ROACHING

Graeme Adams

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: ROW-ching

Roaching is a new dating trend where people hide the fact that they're dating around from a new partner and, when confronted, claim to have simply been under the assumption that there was no implication of monogamy to begin with. In today's more poly-friendly dating culture, this is a slick tactic to shift the blame to the person confronting them, but the truth is it's both parties' responsibility to be at least baseline open about seeing other people if that's the case. Roaching, as a result, deeply messed up.

Etymology: Roaching refers to the adage that if you see one cockroach, there are a ton more that you don't see just like this person's sneaky side-dealings.

"So it turned out he'd been seeing like, six other girls the whole time!" "Damn, Tina. You got roached."

SAPIOSEXUAL

Identity / Dating

Pronunciation: SAY-pee-oh-SEK-shoo-ull

Perhaps most infamous for the time Tinder CEO Sean Rad confused it with the word "sodomy," sapiosexual is a word that's gained increasing currency in recent years. Meaning someone who's turned on by a person's mind rather than physical appearance, it's a neat marriage of style and substance, as only huge nerds would dare self-identify as sapiosexuals. Not to be confused with any of the other sexualities, this isn't a clinical definition of an innate quality, merely a descriptor meant to state a preference.

Etymology: The "sapio" part comes from the Latin word "sapiens," which means "mind."

"What really entices me about a woman... is her mind. Yes, you could call me a sapiosexual."

SEVERAL-NIGHT STAND

Sex / Trend

Pronunciation: SEV-rull NITE STAND

If the one-night stand was a product of the 20th century's loosening sexual mores, the several-night stand is a distinctly 21st-century invention. For people who care about someone else enough to sleep with them multiple times but not enough to take it past that, it's an arrangement that necessitates the hyper-connectedness and smorgasbrd of choice that our phones now offer us. Your drunken hookup is just a text away; but exclusivity seems foolish when your next drunken hookup might also be just a text away.

"Well, we kept on texting each other 'u up' every evening and it basically turned into a several-night stand."

SEX INTERVIEW

Sex / Trend

Pronunciation: SECKS INN-tur-vyou

Have you ever had sex with someone before going on a real date with them? Then you've engaged in a sex interview, my friend! Sex researchers (yes, that's a real job) coined the term in 2015 to describe the practice, which is increasingly popular among millennials who are less shy about sex and more interested in weeding out incompatible lovers than so-so conversationalists. If you have high standards for sex, it makes a lot of sense the possibility of developing real intimacy and chemistry with someone only to discover you're nothing alike in bed is a real turn-off of its own.

"So what's the deal with you and Brandon? Is that happening?" "Nah. He's still messaging me, but to be honest, he failed his sex interview."

SITUATIONSHIP

Dating / Type

Pronunciation: SIT-chew-AY-shun-ship

In use on Black Twitter since at least 2014, a "situationship" is Facebook's "It's Complicated" relationship status come to life. Similar to a casual relationship, a situationship is a sexual relationship that stops short of constituting a serious relationship, but it's not nothing either.

Etymology: It's not a friendship, or a relationship, but something in between: it's a situationship.

"So what's the deal with you and Molly now? Are you together?" "I don't know, man. It's a situationship."

SLOW FADE

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: SLOW fade

The slow fade is the process of ending a lackluster relationship or fling by gradually reducing contact and response times. Like a smoother version of breadcrumbing, the person doing the fading will taper off contact, like gradually turning down the volume on a song and starting a new one without anyone noticing.

Etymology: Similar to breadcrumbing, the slow fade is letting someone down gently without actually saying so.

"I want to end things with Lee, but I can't stand the idea of hurting him. I think I'm gonna do the slow fade."

SNACK

Identity / Dating

Pronunciation: SNAK

A snack is a babe, a honey, a stunner, a smokeshow, a jaw-dropping vision. A snack inspires DM slides and thirsty texts. A snack is a powerful force in the universe whose mere presence can cause those in proximity to them to lose their minds entirely. In short, a snack is someone so attractive, you almost want to eat them right up. Of course, some snacks are SO attractive, you have to call them a full meal. Because let's be real, Beyonc is more than a handful of tortilla chips.

"God damn, did you see that babe who just walked by?" "Yeah, man, that girl was a snack!"

STASHING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: STA-shing

"Stashing" is when a person won't introduce the person they're seeing to anyone in their lives, and doesn't mention their existence on social media. The "stashed" partner is kept hidden from view and stashing is a classic move of the commitment-averse.

Etymology: Stashing a partner is hiding them away from public view, like a squirrel stashing nuts in a tree.

"Maria won't introduce me to any of her friends or family. I think I'm being stashed."

STEALTHING

Sex / Trend

Pronunciation: STELL-thing

With all the cute names, it's easy to forget sometimes that not all dating trends are created equal. Take stealthing, for example, which is just a form of sexual assault. Named for when guys surreptitiously remove a condom mid-sexual act, enabling them to finish the deed unprotected, stealthing is a horrifying reminder that consent and sexual health education are woefully lacking in modern society.

Etymology:Stealthing is necessarily a sneaky move, since it involvesremoving the condom and keeping it a secret.

"When we started, he was wearing a condom, but halfway through I realized he wasn't!" "Oh my God, he stealthed you?

STRAIGHT

Identity / Sexuality

Pronunciation: STRATE

Straight persons are attracted to, date, or have sex with only members of the 'opposite' gender. Some people might have crushes on the same gender as themselves, but never follow through, and still identify as straight. Sexuality is wild, man!

Etymology: Straight means heterosexual, mostly.

"I'm flattered you'd think to ask me out, Zander, but I'm straight."

SUBMARINING

Graeme Adams

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: sub-muh-REE-ning

Did you just get haunted, or zombied, but it felt even worse than usual? Maybe you were submarined! Submarining is when your old flame pops back up in your life after a lengthy period of silence, but rather than copping to the disappearance, simply acts as if dipping without warning is normal behavior. This person knows they have you wrapped around their finger, so why put in the effort to apologize or explain? They don't need to! If you're getting submarined, pro tip: Get out of there before the whole thing sinks.

Etymology: Submarines go underwater... and the occasionally pop back up to the surface! That's normal behavior for them.

"So after disappearing for two months, she just pops right back up!" "Damn... she submarined you!

SUMMER FLING

Dating / Type

Pronunciation: SUM-mer FLING

The counterpart to cuffing season, summer flings are casual relationships that end once the leaves start to turn brown again. Summer flings often start on vacations and end when the other person has to go home, and tend to be of the "short and sweet" variety.

Etymology: This one's not rocket science: a summer fling is a short, informal relationship over the warmer months.

"I had such a good time with Nicole in Cabo but it was definitely just a summer fling."

SWINGER

Identity / Dating

Pronunciation: SWING-ur

The de facto term for consensually sleeping with someone outside of your marriage while your partner does the same, swinging has lost some cultural currency in recent years as millennials opt for the "poly" lifestyle instead. Still, swinging is alive and well for Gen Xers taking advantage of increasingly liberal sexual mores as society shifts slowly away from the restrictive confines of absolute monogamy and towards something a little bit more flexible.

Etymology: Swingers are people who 'swing' from one sexual partnership (their spouse) to another.

"Yeah, this married couple asked us if we wanted to come to a swingers party with them."'

SWIPING

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: SWHY-ping

Swiping, swiping, swiping. For some singles, it might be difficult to conceive of any other way, but it's worth remembering that swiping didn't even really exist before 2012. Unless you've been living under a rock (and if so: congratulations, you lucky duck), you'll know that swiping is the physical interaction you have with your phone (a single finger moves intentionally across a thin piece of glass covering an electronic brain) when deciding whether you're attracted to someone's profile picture or not. From Tinder it spread to Bumble and a few thousand copycat apps. It'll be replaced eventually, but until then, swiping is how we as a culture perform love or at least our aspirations thereto.

"No plans tonight... I'm just going to stay home, re-download Tinder and swipe myself silly."

TEXTLATIONSHIP

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: text-LAY-shun-ship

A textlationship is a flirtatious connection between two people that works on paper but never seems to manifest itself in practice. For whatever reason, the chemistry between two people is just better over texts. It could mean one of the two is playing the other just for the attention, rather than both parties being shy or awkward. Regardless, if the passion is there in the texts but never translates to the streets or the sheets, its a textlationship.

Etymology: A combination of text and relationship.

"Shes always texting me but never wants to actually go on a date or hook up. Honestly, we might just be in a textlationship."

THIRST TRAP

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: THURST trap

In the natural world, spiders have webs, and millennials have thirst traps. They're intentionally sexually provocative pictures posted on social media in order to ensnare hapless scrollers-by. Often, such pictures will draw way more likes than their typical posts, as thirsty people rush to offer their likes as sacrifices to an uncaring god. These can be a great ego boost for the thirst trapper, but the high tends not to last. Then you're back on the timeline, thirst trapping again for your next fix.

Etymology: Thirst is desire, sexual or romantic, that tends to be unreturned; a trap is how you catch unsuspecting victims.

"Damn, did you see Sheila's selfie last night? That outfit was wild!" "Yep, that was a real thirst trap."

THRONING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: thr-OWN-ing

Throning is essentially another form of gold digging that extends beyond wealth. It involves someone using another person for their power and social status, and it's most common when one person in the relationship has significantly less money or influence than their counterpart.

Etymology: When you think of a throne, you think of a crown. That person doing the throning wants that crown.

"Every time we cross that rope, we get inside and suddenly it's like I'm not even there. I feel like I'm just being throned."

TINDSTAGRAMMING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: TIND-stuh-gram-ming

Tindstagramming is the process of contacting someone through Instagram's direct messaging feature after you have seen them on Tinder but not become a match. It's an annoying and generally poorly-received way of bypassing a left-swipe, and women in particular get fatigued by the messages that pile up in their "Other" folder when they link their Instagram account to their Tinder profile.

Etymology: A mashup of "Tinder" and "Instagramming," Tindstagrammers try to make the most of both platforms.

"I have 10 new messages in my Other folder on Instagram! These Tindstagrammers won't leave me alone."

TRANSGENDER

Identity / Gender

Pronunciation: trans-JEN-der

At birth, (even before, if you've ever been to a gender reveal party), pretty much all of us are assigned a gender, whether by our doctor, our parents, or society. Transgender or trans persons are those whose actual gender is different from the one they were assigned. Some trans people undergo surgery or take hormones to have their sex characteristics better match their gender, but not everyone does! Transgender, or trans, like queer is often an umbrella for those with diverse genders.

Etymology: Trans-, meaning across or beyond, plus gender

"So I hear Paul's cousin is transgendered now." "Actually, she's just transgender no 'ed' necessary!"

TURKEY DUMP

Dating / Type

Pronunciation: TUR-key DUMP

Another seasonal relationship event, turkey dumping is common among college students, many of whom are in long distance relationships with people they knew in high school or from their home towns. The turkey dump happens after one person in the relationship returns back to college after Thanksgiving and realises it's too difficult to keep things going.

Etymology: So-named because it's a breakup that occurs after the Thanksgiving break.

"I had such a good time with Jake while he was home for Thanksgiving, but he broke up with me as soon as he got back to campus. I got turkey dumped."

UNCUFFING SEASON

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: un-CUFF-ing SEE-sun

What sets cuffing season relationships apart from real relationships is the possibility that they came together at a specific time for a specific reason. You could link up with someone in the fall, because as it gets cold, you want something steady and dependable so you arent chasing a bunch of different people all winter. As a corollary, once those conditions fall away, it makes sense that the relationships would, too. The springtime can be considered uncuffing season because its the time for people to break things off with a semi-serious cuff and venture out into a sexy and flirtatious summer.

Etymology: A variant on cuffing season.

"Man, how many couples have broken up in the past few weeks? Is it uncuffing season already?"

VULTURING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: vul-CHUR-ing

Vultures can sense when a relationship is on its last leg. Their moves are selfish, and typically, they're going to do whatever they deem necessary to get what they want: you. Sure, having a bit of hope that your longtime crush will split from their wretched partner and fall for you might not be considered vulturing per se, but taking advantage of. someone in an incredibly weak and vulnerable state? That's a whole other story.

Etymology: Just like a vulture circling its wounded prey, some people swoop in to pick up the pieces out when they sense a relationship is on its last leg.

"Stop vulturing, it's just a rough patch. They'll get through it!"

WATER DROPLETS EMOJI

Dating / Trend

Pronunciation: WAH-turr DROP-lits ee-MO-ji

After the eggplant emoji, the water droplets emoji might be the horniest one out there. One notable benefit is that its unisex. Depending on who you are and who youre messaging, the droplets could be semen, female lubrication/ejaculate, or a bit of the comparatively tame (and universal) sex sweat. Regardless, throwing a couple of these into a naughty text message is a good way to visually convey the activities to come if you will.

Etymology: Anyone whos ever made a mess with their sexual fluids will understand.

Cant wait for later tonight. Im gonna make you water droplets emoji all over the place.

ZOMBIEING

Dating / Move

Pronunciation: zom-BEE-ing

This is ghosting to. the next level. After losing touch with someone who you'd been talking or seeing, zombieing is when they make a triumphant return as if nothing ever happened.Your zombie may get in touch with you via DM, text or by seeking you out in person. Hearing from someone who totally dipped out on you can bring up some conflicting feelings, but if youre looking for a positive, the situation does have the potential to offer some clarity or closure.

Etymology:A zombie is an undead person coming back from the grave. Need we say more here?

3 months of radio silence after we texted every single day. I can't believe he's zombieing me ... should I answer?

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