Dangers of Social Media: The Link to Sadness and Depression
Social media, designed as a platform for connection, has become an inseparable part of our lives. We scroll, we like, we comment, we share. Yet, beneath the surface of memes and status updates lies a more complex web of emotions, including spikes in dopamine, our brain's reward chemical. But when these dopamine spikes fade, many users are left feeling emptier than before, and in some cases, this spirals into feelings of sadness and depression.
Understanding the Dopamine Effect
Dopamine is often referred to as the "feel good" neurotransmitter. It's released during pleasurable situations, stimulating feelings of pleasure and reward. With every like, comment, or share, dopamine is released, making the experience of using social media inherently rewarding. This is similar to the gratification felt when eating a delicious meal, receiving a compliment, or even gambling. Over time, our brains begin to seek out these frequent dopamine spikes, creating an addictive loop.
The Downward Spiral
The problem arises when the initial euphoria from these dopamine spikes starts to wane. The highs are soon replaced with lows. As we continue to engage on platforms that offer selective highlights of people's lives, the inevitable comparison begins. This “compare and despair” effect can lead to feelings of inadequacy, envy, and low self-esteem. After all, everyone else seems happier, more successful, and more fulfilled, right?
Moreover, the quality of our connections on these platforms can sometimes feel shallow. The genuine, deep connections we, as humans, require for emotional health can't be replaced by virtual thumbs-ups or heart emojis.
Breaking Free from the Dopamine Loop
So, how do we break free from this cycle and use social media healthily?
Digital Detox: Start with a short digital detox. It can be as brief as a weekend or as long as a month. Use this time to engage in activities that nourish your mind and body, like reading, exercising, or spending quality time with loved ones.
Set Time Limits: Once you reintroduce social media, establish boundaries. Set specific times of the day when you'll check your apps, and limit the total time you spend scrolling.
Turn Off Notifications: Each ping can be a distraction and a pull back into the dopamine loop. By turning off non-essential notifications, you can decide when to engage, rather than being at the beck and call of every update.
Curate Your Feed: Follow pages, accounts, or groups that uplift you, inspire you, or truly resonate with your interests. Unfollow or mute accounts that make you feel anxious, inadequate, or negative.
Engage Mindfully: Instead of mindlessly scrolling, engage with intention. Comment genuinely on posts, message friends to catch up, and remember that it's okay not to document every moment.
Seek Genuine Connection: Remember, human connection is vital. Instead of texting or commenting, perhaps make a call or meet up in person. Real-world interactions provide emotional depth that online platforms can't match.
Remember Real Life: It's essential to understand that social media showcases selective realities. People often share their highlights, not their everyday struggles. Recognizing this can reduce feelings of inadequacy.
Seek Help if Needed: If you find that your social media use is negatively impacting your mental well-being, don't hesitate to seek professional guidance. A therapist or counselor can offer coping strategies and insights tailored to you.
In conclusion, while social media has its perks, it's crucial to recognize its potential pitfalls. By understanding the dopamine-driven highs and lows it can introduce, we can navigate these platforms more healthily, ensuring they enhance our lives rather than detract from our well-being.
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um
i'm not dead
(despite my best efforts)
sorry for being gone for so long
although i guess since my queue never stopped running it didn't really look any different except there were no original posts so you couldn't really
tell a difference whether i was here or not
but to the people who were concerned enough to send messages and um
think that i was successfully dead
thank you for the concern + i'm really really sorry for not being back sooner to reassure anybody about it
i['m really horrifically sorry for being unable to say anything sooner
&& i would um
prefer not to talk about anything that happened or why i Was gone for so long cuz i'm not necessarily like
better
but i'm definitely alive
and i guess back now
even though. the queue really made it look like i never left
(i should maybe consider tagging queued posts)
and again i'm really really sorry for worrying or scaring anybody i'm not dead and i really would like to not talk about it in detail
but i would really like um
some emotional support or something i still got a bad heavy pit in my chest
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i have some thoughts i can't put into words well but the more one decides that like [assorted relatively minor things, interests, reactions] are evils the lines of which cannot be crossed, and the more specific the thoughts and opinions that need to all every single one be in alignment for one to like or just tolerate someone else, the more isolating one's experience is, and lonely, and dimmed, because more and more peope out of everybody else seem threatening, stupid, malicious, or just unworthy of one's respect or any real connection. which is a shame from a lot of standpoints. and i think it's quite easy in a sterile online space to critique things, which isn't bad in and of itself and is sometimes urgent and useful, but can quickly move to 100% condemnation and "cringing" in small social circles over just about anything whatsoever. and sometimes my roommate is like hozier has such fae vibes and it's like fine actually. it's literally totally fine and it isn't that deep at all and there's no harm meant by it.
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You know how there's people you only ever saw once, but still remember years later? This one time like ten years ago, I was travelling by train and sitting opposite of me was some dude with one single streak of silvery white hair on his forehead. He could not have been over 25, and it wasn't just a few grey hairs but a distinct white forelock, something that I had not even known can actually happen in real life. And it was not bleached, it was definitely real natural hair. I've been dying my hair since I was 12 and mine has been everything from black to white and red to green, I can tell when nordic hair is dyed vs natural.
And he didn't look like the type to dye his hair. He was the type that would wear a fedora with cargo pants, socks with sandals type of guy that you wouldn't be surprised to hear owns a katana. Long hair on a ponytail, but with that distinct white streak running through it. I did my best not to stare while I thought, how fucking cool is that? This one specific type of a guy who would know how cool it is to have a trait that only happens to characters in fantasy books just naturally has that, and keeps his hair long to show it off.
I was still living with my family at the time, and once I got home I told them about this guy I saw on the train. Like yeah I had been to university entrance exams and that didn't go well, but I wanted to tell them about the cool anime hair of this guy I saw on the train. And my family's first question was: Are you sure? No way that would actually happen, specifically not with some guy like that, he would have dyed it just to look cool. Eventually I got tired of childishly insisting that I Know What I Saw, and just gave up and let them convince me that maybe it wasn't real after all.
Until years later, I discovered that it is a real thing that happens to people! It's called poliosis and the there's plenty of pictures of people online who have it, whose hair look just like that. I was right all along. And I don't know if he'll ever hear it, but if the dude with the Main Character Hair, who was reading a fantasy book the size of a brick travelling by train in sothern Finland somewhere in the early 2010s, I hope you still know that your hair is cool as fuck.
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There are a lot of post taking about how trans men don't owe you masculinity and are allowed to be femmine. Which fine, very vaild, but we also need to start reminding people the opposite.
Trans men don't owe you femmine just to be approachable and suitable for your taste/pallette. Trans men who present masculine shouldn't have to water down who they are just for your comfort alone. If that is something you can't handle that's not a trans men issue, that's a you need to get of the internet issue.
Like fr if one more person walks up to me talking negatively about Trans man joking or not one more time and act shockingly upset when grill thier ass about. Is really going to see the big scary men they whine so fucking much about. Because unlike most trans men on the internet I'm not going to step down when you're the one swinging and begging for me to react/give you attention.
Like I'm too old for this fucking high school behavior.
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