#parentblr

[ahedderick]

You're beautiful

Both my kids (one boy, one girl) were almost ridiculously cute when they were toddlers, and they got a lot of compliments. I, personally, was working on the complicated relationship my family/parents had with good looks. I didn't want my kids to grow up vain, NOR did I want them to feel - complicated and slightly uncomfortable about their looks.

My solution, and it was very intentional, was to compliment every good thing. Every type of good thing. Did they work hard on something! Compliment! Learn a new skill? Compliment! Getting physically stronger (specifically my girl)? Compliment! (It is solidly hilarious how proud a three-yr-old can be of their tiny li'l biceps) Thinking BEFORE acting. Kind to others. Helping me. Getting PISSED and then coping appropriately. And, yes, their looks. But as one small part of the overall picture.

It has worked. So well. I was such a mess in many ways when I was their age. I love seeing them at the brink of adulthood, with strong personalities and good character.

#parentblr #parents #families #momblr #by god you need to dress well and keep yourself just-so #but don't think you're pretty! don't act like you think you're pretty

[sjonni33]

hi parents, guardians and child carer's of tumblr! i am currently illustrating some child illustrations (animals!) and i want to start writing a book to go with it! i'm here to ask what some things are you look for when picking out a book! think themes, messages etc. if you can, please fill out this form!

thank you!!

#sjonnie speaks #parentblr

[case-study-of-parenting]

Inspired by "wine mom culture", I wanted to make a poll about parents' alcohol consumpition when their kids are present. Please read everything before voting!

For this poll "kids" means children under 15 years AND the one answering the poll must be considered their guardian. "Present" means in the kids are in the same house and awake. (If them being asleep makes a difference for you, feel free to comment that in the tags)

#for the sake of simplicity the scale goes from 1-2 drinks to drunk. i dont think the 'level of drunkness' is important #pls answer honestly #mun posti #mumblr #wine mom #parenting #alcohol #poll #parentblr #dadblr #idk if those are a thing #mom life

[joellesolo]

Lil started preschool this week, which has been great! except she wasn't routed in time for the bus (which is in her iep) which sucked. So there was a lot of farting around, Peanut being late to school, and grandparents stepping up to bat to help get Pea to school while I took Lil to school because their schools are twenty minutes apart.

But she starts the bus on Monday, and I'm just... super nervous, and worried, and anxious. Because she'll be on it in the morning for almost an entire hour! I feel like that's a lot of time to be stuck on a bus in a car seat with no one you know at three years old?! The ride home is only a half hour long, which is much much better, but still... just super worried.

She is totally loving school (even though they don't attend Wednesdays) and is only there for two and a half hours but, with this bus stuff, will be gone from the house for four hours. That's a long time for a little bun! So now I'm frantically researching airtags and stuff just because I'm so nervous and like... yeah. I don't know. If you use an airtag to keep track of your bus kids (or something similar) what do you think? Is there a better way?

I'm just nervous. An hour seems like a long fucking time to be stuck on a bus. And I can't give her like, a book or something, because she's too young to guarantee putting it in her backpack at the end of the drive you know? And that's obviously not something the bus driver needs to be worried about, with a bus full of preschoolers that are all on ieps... ugggghhh.

I'm just so nervous for her. Hopefully she's fine and I'm worried about nothing.

#joelle's life #lillian gabriel #bus #preschool #bus kids #airtag #airtags #an HOUR IN THE MORNING #sounds brutal to me man #parents #parenthood #parenting #parentblr #momblr

[v-tired-queer]

My goddaughter: *gets up from her spot and starts walking sway*

Me: Where are you going?

GD: *points out of the room*

Me: Can you use your words?

GD: Yeah! 😃

GD: *says nothing more and just walks away*

Me: . . .

#i can't tell if i walked into that one or not #unfortunately when i ask her what she wants for dinner she says 'food' but i know she got that from me #she's a four year old smarty pants and that is very much my fault 😬 #but ya know she doesn’t swear; she loves to learn and explore; she uses her manners; and she's a very sweet kid #so i think we're doing something right #for those wondering: #i low-key co-parent with her mom #soooo that being said #parenting #parents #being a parent #co parenting #co parent #parentblr #we're an odd little family but it works for us #i have never been with her mother nor do i ever want to but i am so glad that i've gotten to help raise this blessing since day one #literally--i was in the delivery room #she genuinely knows me as her other parent and i love her SO MUCH #words literally cannot describe it 🩷

[ourlordandsavior-celinedion]

Nothing can prepare you for parenthood. My 3 year old told me, "In the morning, I'm gonna go to the moon and KICK THE SUN OUT!" She's an unstoppable force and knows it.

#my baby #parentblr #shes so wild #i do not envy the kids she bullies when she starts school

[chin-chillax]

Me watching this baby shove away his bottle at every opportunity just to excitedly suck on his own hands.

“I had a craving only hands could satisfy”

#llamas with hats #parentblr #ponies with hats #lyra heartstrings #Lyra heartstrings energy #I’m trying so hard to feed this baby

[nycfoodieblog]

Watch "Starting baby food | Unbelievable baby weaning solid food for smart brain & metabolism| Baby foods" on YouTube

#mumblr #babyblr #baby food #parentblr #parenting #weaning #Youtube

[ahedderick]

Become

Rather random thought. I read a lot as a child (still do) and ended up Having Feelings about the vast number of stories where kids/teens end up on some kind of magical adventure while a) concealing it from their parents or b) telling parents who didn't believe them. It was maddening. Shout out to Madeleine L'Engle, who wrote parental involvement in her stories!!

I made a lot of mental notes as a kid about the kind of parent I wanted to be. Those were remembered and often legitimately helpful when I did eventually have kids. One of the biggies, of course, was "who cares if the house is spotless, let's go play in the creek/in the forest together!!" But another one, somewhat less urgent, was "I want to be the kind of parent whose kids would immediately and fearlessly tell me if there was a magical portal somewhere. Or a dragon showed up on the mountain."

That one, of course, was a little hard to test. But one time when the kids were gradeschool age, we watched a movie called Dragon Pearl. I asked A and K, "If you found a dragon, would you tell me about it?" Their instant affirmative was very heartening.

There's that one, cliff-y rock overhang up on the mountain. Haven't seen a dragon there yet, but. Maybe someday.

#parentblr #parenting #momblr #here there be dragons

[gwyneirastorm]

As a mother to a toddler, FUCK YOU, UNIVERSAL. FUCK YOU AND YO MOMMA AND THAT LAME ASS SHOW YOU RODE IN ON.

GET. FUCKED.

#cant stand that shit #we dont watch that shit in my house #parenting #parentblr #toddler #cocomelon

[alixathome]

Homemakers discord is now up!!

#sahm #familycore #tradfem #traditional femininity #tradwife #domestblr #traditional family #trad #trad wife #tradblr #stay at home mom #stay at home mum #stay at home wife #expecting mom #parentblr #momblr #sahmomlife #young homemakers #homemaking

[creatures-that-wont-die]

I wish there was a parent fandom on tumblr 😫 like i want people to think its as hilarious as i do, that Child is not even 2 years old so she has a limited vocabulary but she says Yeet every time she throws something

#tianatag #alectalks #parentblr

[callmebliss]

I got really really lax over the summer about bedtimes for the Spawn. Then we hit the beginning of the school year and everybody kindasorta buckled down. I was still playing it kinda loose though, giving Eldest a lot of leeway to finish a thing without me waiting, letting SALM and Daughterchild do their ferrets-and-toothbrushing routine together, getting Youngest to bed most nights with lights out but letting the screens stay in his room. Letting everyone’s screens stay.

It was a mistake.

They have all been staying up late most nights, sneaking extra screen time. Youngest missed a day of his remote learning because he’d stayed up all night and then when classes started they weren’t as interesting as his game and his bed was Right There... Daughterchild has a bunch of friends both in meatspace and electrospace that she does a lot online with, and folks being in different time zones (not to mention the crises that happen in your teens that you share with other teens) are a big draw for staying up. Eldest is all about the multiplayer gaming and Discord contact. I’ve talked with each of them about it individually. But, last night?

Last night I stayed up past bedtime with DC and YS, who both needed to eat, and had fun chatty hangout time (“tax fraud is my kink” is not a phrase I ever expected to hear one of them say, but). It was almost 11 by the time I collected laptop and Switch from YS (part of a previously agreed-upon plan to reduce temptation and help him sleep), said good night to DC, and told ES it was time for lights out. I went upstairs and zonked out.

Two hours later I was awakened by a noise, and shortly thereafter a door slam. SALM was already (still?) awake. He’d already gone down an hour before, he said, and found everybody still awake and all the lights on. He went down again and found Youbgest up in the living room, watching TV with his headphones plugged into the Roku remote.

I was so pissed it was hard to fall asleep.

When I got up five hours later I showered, and thought, and thought, and dressed. Then I woke everyone with sharp knocks on their doors and instructions to get dressed and come to the kitchen for A Talk. They all filtered in one by one, sleepy and glum, while I made oatmeal and eggs, and I talked.

I pointed out that getting up after bedtime had been a violation of my trust; Eldest had said he was going to finish a game and go to sleep, Daughterchild said she was going to do ferret water and brush her teeth and sleep, and Youngest had already done the good night and hugs and lights out. They had all broken their word. Worse, I said, this isn’t the only time it has happened; they’ve all been getting back up, sneaking time, exhausting themselves and lying to me. It was a pattern, maybe even a habit.

So, effective tonight, I’m collecting all their screens at 9pm sharp. Computers, switches, phones, everything will go into my space for the night so they can wind down away from the blue light that tricks their brain into thinking it is still daytime and they need to stay awake. It will force a break from all the things that are so much more attractive than mere sleep.

I get it, I told them. Being awake late at night just hits different, especially as a teen. It feels a little taboo and a little grownup, and it’s exilhirating to stay up late. But not only is all their schoolwork suffering, but it’s damaging their physical health, and mental, leaving them tired and suffering difficulty focusing.

I asked them if they had anything they wanted to say about it, and discussed stuff like adjustments in self-directed scheduling to account for not having a phone or laptop right there to check time or take notes. They ate breakfast. They scattered to their rooms to start getting set up for their first Zooms. I took a deep breath.

It had gone well.

I was prepared for intense pushback, for yelling, for tantrums and resentment. Instead I got understanding and agreement that was reluctant at worst. And a few minutes later DC came back to the kitchen to tender an apology, and ask if there is anything she can do to start repairing the trust she broke or is it gone forever.

“It isn’t gone forever. You just need to do the things you say you are going to do. Be as good as your word - that’s how you rebuild the trust. The fact that you want to already means a lot to me. I love you.”

We hugged - she doesn’t hug much, so that felt enormous - and she went off to class. A little while later I got a text from her thanking me, and telling me she’s glad we’re doing this because she thinks it is going to help her physical and mental health.

Off I went, then, to my errands of the morning: to the credit union to fill out fraud paperwork and get a new card; to the grocery store to do the week’s shopping; to JoAnn’s for pins and some pendant bails; to the high school to pick up a book for Eldest; to the town hall to drop off my ballot. Now I am home, groceries away, lunch eaten, and ready to embark on laying out cloth to pin and cut and sew a homemade Princess Bubblegum costume because Halloween is coming.

Through all of it I’ve been mentally picking away at why this morning’s meeting went differently than I expected. It is because, I think, I have stopped parenting the way that I got parented. I don’t just yell and say a behavior is unacceptable and punish unilaterally. I explained the problem. I pointed out how it was hurting them, and the aspect of it that also was hurting me. The change we are implementing is reasonable and seeks to rectify the problem.

Getting better at parenting feels pretty great, y’all

#parenting #parentblr #children are people too #boundaries are healthy

[ourlordandsavior-celinedion]

Me: im not giving them my money. Im not seeing Mario.

My 3 year old daughter: MARIO?! I WANT TO SEE THIS!

Me: 3 tickets, please.

#listen. she was so excited #parentblr

[bemineunderthestars]

Can someone tell me why there’s so many parents who are anti sensory toys? “My child isn’t autistic they don’t need stupid sensory toys” (that’s verbatim btw) erm. Yes they do. Sensory toys help with learning and mental development whether or not someone is neurotypical or neurodivergent. As a parent I don’t say a lot because I don’t like to judge other peoples parenting but I think this is a really negative and toxic way to think about sensory and stimulation toys.

I mean hell they’re even good for adults; I have tons for myself due to anxiety. My favorite are these motion bubble things you can flip and watch the colors fall to the bottom. Come on people.

#me #personal #conversations #parenting #sensory toys #parentblr #anxiety #panic #adhd #autism #depression #ocd