my issue with bi lesbians/mspec lesbians isn't the idea that it will lead to men being even shittier to lesbians, because shitty men will always be shitty men, they don't need that excuse. it's that these people and their supporters are saying that lesbians can be attracted to men in any capacity. if you can't understand how gross it is to push that narrative all on its own, and you can't understand what a fundamental misunderstanding that is of the lesbian sexuality, then idk what to tell you but you're stupid at best, hold malicious intent towards lesbians at worst, and it's also likely there's a lot of internalised biphobia and/or lesbophobia at work. there are also the biphobic and transmisognyistic aspects to the label that i've mentioned in past posts/reblogs, but my point rn is it is completely reasonable for us to want to avoid you and keep you from interacting, because you do not respect lesbians or bi sapphics at all. yes, even if you are also a lesbian supporting these identifies. idk why people think just because it's not the most important issue in the world that they can avoid criticism for a genuinely harmful idea and opinion. identifying this way and supporting these types of identities implies certain opinions and worldviews.
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yo “straight or bi” doesn’t mean straight girls lmao! if you equate bi women with straight women then pls examine your biphobia
i was specifically talking abt women who identify as lesbian despite being aware of their attraction to men, and then later come out as straight or bi. like I mean the lesbian until graduation phenomenon. not bisexual women who just initially thought they were lesbian. the other instances I listed on that post are only applicable to straight women, which is why I only mentioned bi women in the last line.
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What are you trying to say with that screenshot? Are you anti-febfem now?
I'm all for bi women being female exclusive.
I'm against how the febfem label seems increasingly like a panic response to not be called a "bihet" because they have absorbed the idea that bi women are not meaningfully different from straight women and deserve to have their experiences ridiculed and mocked.
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cannot emphasise enough that some of u need to put the term ‘queerbaiting’ back on the shelf until you know what it means. i saw someone in a youtube comment yesterday accusing genshin streamer zy0x of queerbaiting because he *checks notes* jokes and talks about finding men attractive. this comment had a lot of upvotes. like please do explain to me how a Real Human Being joking about wanting an anime husband is bad or harmful to the queer community in any way. some of you think queerbaiting means ‘this person acts queer sometimes but i can’t tell if they mean it or not and that annoys me’ and it really shows
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Frustrated rn at all of the denizens of this site who are starting to critique the endless posts urging lesbians to "stop being so close-minded and just fuck men already!" because it's clear that they only care about people avoiding calling themselves bisexual (though I agree that's part of it) but don't give a shit about the entire ideological basis those posts have in condescension and cruelty directed towards lesbians because they fundamentally agree but just use different language and ideas to convey it
yeah I honestly agree with you and the same with the bi lesbian thing I feel like it's this balancing game to never suggest one thing affects one of us over the other. now I think it's worthwhile to point out that these things are also not in the best interests of bi women in order to prevent it turning into a "lesbians vs bi women" thing & point out that our needs are almost always aligned BUT it's really frustrating when people only care because it's like someone's saying they're too good for bisexuality like it's corrective rape rhetoric towards us at it's core and they are also bisexual people doing it. bisexual people with internalised biphobia, sure, but people acting like they're a secret third thing when ultimately its people who aren't lesbians that don't want lesbians to exist like can we talk about that 😭it's very much not the idea of attraction to multiple genders that they have a problem with in this case
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Boy golly nothing like seeing bisexuality discourse in year 2024
The ol' 'if you mention you might be bi and we only see you dating one person are you really bi?' with an added twist of 'where is the 'payoff' to the character mentioning they're bi if they only date someone of the same gender?'
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This is new sexier anon then the others and this is coming from a place of good faith, or at least what I consider good faith, but it feels like there is a dissonance between your hating people who call lesbians sapphic and being ok with lesbians being called bi or vice versa. Most of the reasoning I see behind don’t call lesbian character bi is that it’s seen as people thinking lesbian is a bad word, and again vice versa. (Sorry if this sent twice??)
well for starters i'm definitely speaking with a significant degree of hyperbole here and while someone calling a lesbian character 'sapphic' is something i personally hate sooo bad i wouldn't ever actually like. make any kind of stink out of it. i'm bitching on my blog because that's what i do here but at the end of the day everyones preferences for language are gonna be different and i do not actually wish ill will on anyone who has a differing opinion from me on the subject.
but for me it's kind of like i don't see these as equivalent things at all. when a lesbian or bi woman says they view a character as lesbian or bi. it speaks to me as interest in the specific experiences this character has with their sexuality, even if it's not what's 'canon'. bi and lesbians experiences are wayyy too similar and historically intertwined for us to pretend that they are fully discrete when appearing in fiction.
whereas calling something sapphic when the characters have explicitly stated orientations already feels to me like stepping away from anything specific so it can be dropped into the greater amorphous pool we call 'representation'. it feels almost like a rebranding of discussing sexuality in media using terminology that has as many corners filed off as possible. if the whole point of sapphic is to use as an umbrella term when using a specific identity label wouldn't be accurate or appropriate, then using it when something else would be accurate or appropriate feels like a copout to me.
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reading the responses to the post about biphobia is exactly the thing i was talking about in my tags. i didn't want to derail the post, but the fact that some bisexuals think that bi and pan ppl can't coexist is crazy omg.
like it's not biphobic to prefer one label over the other.
it's not biphobic to define the labels differently and recongize that difference as the resoning for your decision of label.
it is NOT biphobic to validate and coexist with pan people.
and all of these are true, ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE BI YOURSELF/THE PERSON YOU'RE CALLING BIPHOBIC IS BI.
anyway, the existence and support of pan people is not biphobic.
bi pan solidarity and all that <3
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