#but for bi women they have to be subjected to endless discourse about their identities if they so much as look at a man.

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actually no i think the MOST insulting thing is when people are like 'ok fine bi women can be butch or femme but not if they have boyfriends!!' as if a woman is unable to have her own identity once she's dating a man

#like . so you can be a butch bi woman but as soon as you get a boyfriend your entire identity belongs to him? #wow thats such a feminist pro woman take. its SO true women cease to be individuals once they have a man to serve. (/s) #its very weird to me that i never seem to see complaints about bi men using 'gay' terms. even if they're dating women. #but for bi women they have to be subjected to endless discourse about their identities if they so much as look at a man. #i wonder if maybe misogyny is a factor in that or- no? just me? ok #avpost #anyway im just internet complaining but this is such a dumb thing to get overly invested in #like. trying to police what words strangers are and aren't allowed to use for themselves. #its just kind of. a huge waste of everyone's time and usually betrays some really backwards and close minded logic #(not always but. i'd say at least 90% of the time or more. like anything outside of 'hey dont appropriate this closed cultural term' yknow) #you dont know other people or their lived experiences you dont get to tell them what they can and can't call themself. yeah