#my parents are horrible people

[lessendless]

Feel ya Britta

#britta perry #community #how did your parents mess you up #my parents are horrible people #I'm being dramatic tho

[lpsgirl109]

It always astounds me when people call characters who are victims of abuse dumb and terrible for not hating their abusers and still listening to them. "Ugh why would Peril want to keep working for Scarlet after book 1 she's so stupid, she should just keep her!!" "Harry’s so awful he keeps wanting to avenge Norman despite knowing he was criminal he's such a bad person" They Were Manipulated Jennifer their abusers raised them in such a way that made them idolize them and have a hard time seeing them as bad people I don't understand how you managed to miss that important aspect of the character entirely it's starting to feel you like you are ignoring it intentionally because you don't like them

#I've seen this happen more with Peril than Harry but my point still stands #And listen as much as it would ROCK to see Peril personally rip Scarlet apart because she hates her that much #Or to see Harry get in Norman's face about how awful of a parent he was #It takes time for them to even come to terms with the fact that their parents who they've been manipulated into idolizing are bad people #And I'm so sick and tired of seeing everyone acting like characters like them are stupid and horrible for not IMMEDIATELY recognizing that #harry osborn #spider man #raimiverse #raimi trilogy #raimi spider man #wof #wings of fire #wof peril #peril wof #wings of fire peril #peg speaks

[uncanny-tranny]

Two things that are simultaneously true:

1. Gender and sexuality are complex and can be fluid. An identity isn't always fixed and can change with time for many reasons

2. It is not acceptable to force others to change their gender or sexuality and the mantra that they (queer people) can change if they only "try hard" is both cruel and homophobia and/or transphobia

#queer #lgbt #lgbtq #homophobia #homophobia tw #transphobia #transphobia tw #when i first came out as trans i was told this story about how my dad's therapist had a lesbian client with homophobic parents... #...how her parents were *so close* to coming to terms with her lesbianism and she got a boyfriend and look! she changed so why couldn't you! #the thing that was so fucked up about that story was that it was presented as 'oh you don't know who you are! you'll change!' #and i was never listened to until i went 'so far' in my transness that changing was impractical... #...it never enforced that my sense of self is dynamic but that who i was is something to be 'fixed' #i think a lot of queer people are hostile to the idea of gender/sexuality fluidity because it's framed in such a way... #...that tells them that their queerness will eventually be 'cured'... #...so any notion of 'identity can be fluid' reads like 'your queerness is a flaw and a horrible thing'... #...but that's not the solution to people whose identity has fluctuated and changed... #...it isn't their fault that queerphobes latched onto them as 'case studies' to prove that queerness is curable... #...a queerphobe would latch onto ANYTHING in order to prevent you from living... #...'oh lesbians married men in order to protect themselves? why can't you do that?! why must you insist on marrying a woman?!'... #...that's an example of how they'd just latch onto something else if 'identity is dynamic' didn't exist #the context of 'identity is dynamic' is often one of the most important factors in if it is meant as queer-afirming or not ime

[satorhime]

people who vent underneath every video that shows a healthy relationship between parents and their children are so annoying “i wish i had a mom” “my dad is abusive” “if only my dad didn’t run away” SHUT THE FUCK UP

#like not having a good rs with your parents is horrible and i feel sorry for people like this #it’s eerily common #but i want to talk about how great my dad is without hearing your fucking trauma story gtfo

[troybarnesbabygirlconfirmed]

i love insane people sooooo much

#annie ‘we love the idea of being loved (or whatever she said)’ edison #britta ‘my parents are horrible people’ perry #jeff ‘italian faucets’ winger #abed ‘that entire nic cage ep’ nadir #troy ‘:D whenever someone compliments him’ barnes #my insane friends #community #annie edison #britta perry #jeff winger #abed nadir #troy barnes

[mashkaroom]

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/01/22/us/gender-identity-students-parents.html

SO many thoughts about this article, but ultimately it comes down to the fact that extreme parental control over children is so widely accepted even in liberal and leftist circles, and that’s intensely disheartening. A lot of what’s presented as neutral in this article is stuff like ‘parents should be involved in all major life decisions for their children’, which, frankly, is deranged. Parents should not be everything for their children -- it’s bad for both parties. Most parents are not perfect -- which is fine! you cannot expect them to be -- but a child with even the most perfect parent might not want to share everything about their private life with their parent. Oftentimes, you want to share things with someone less close to you because then, if you change your mind or realize you made a mistake, there’s basically no consequences. Also, god, is this really that hard to understand? Children are their own people. A lot of people in the comments are saying things like ‘well of course parents have the right to know information about their children, but in the case of gender identity, it’s a matter of safety’. Really? Do -- or rather should -- they have the right? Is safety where we want to draw the line? If your boss was revealing details about your behavior at work to your siblings or parents or spouse without your consent, would you be okay with that, even if it didn’t jeapordize your safety? This is not something we should be ceding any ground on. No privacy guarantees, fears of mandated reporting, and lack of clarity on where administrators and teachers drew that line is exactly what prevents many from disclosing things to adults in the school and why you, as a high schooler, were often the primary point of support for a number of your peers at any given time. This isn’t even particularly a secret, like this is a widespread and well-known phenomenon. I really struggle to give people the benefit of the doubt on this at this point, because, frankly, for most, it’s not that they just haven’t considered the potential harms, it’s that those harms are acceptable sacrifices if it means keeping children in a state of extreme societal control.

#also this intersects with so many things #a lot of the parents in the article are horribly ableist. many say that the fact their kid is autistic is part of their concern #a lot of it is the same rhetoric. 'well of course i respect people's right to live the lifestyle they choose it's just that MY kid is #autistic/too young/didn't tell me/depressed/stupid/has too many friends i disapprove of/isn't behaving exactly the way i want them to' #like dude at that point just be openly transphobic. what's the point of all this posturing

[altruistic-meme]

once again thinking about how the fandom treats Kristina like she’s the devil incarnate and often refuses to see the same amount of depth in her as they do the other characters

once again thinking about how there are less than 25 fanfics on ao3 currently tagged “Good Parent Kristina” and over 100 tagged “Bad Parent Kristina”

once again thinking about how i can hardly ever find a fic, even that isn’t under the bad parent tag, that doesn’t have Kristina acting like a horrible terrible villain

once again thinking about how just because the way that Kristina behaves isn’t “Perfect Ideal Mother” this means that she must not love her children at all and will actively never choose their happiness or ever consider their feelings 

once again thinking about how Linda’s problems parenting are constantly ignored just because we do see her show affection to her kids, and apparently that’s the only thing that’s needed to make a good parent and any absence of this makes you a terrible parent and person

once again thinking about how Ludvig shows little interest in understanding Wilhelm, actively ignores what he says at the table, never speaks up for him, and yet the fandom would constantly rather make him a perfect and loving parent over Kristina, who we see doing what she thinks is best to protect her son, implying that she fought with the royal court to make sure Wilhelm would stay heir (something that, despite his outbursts, Wilhelm has said he wanted, if only to honor Erik), and specifically stating that she loves him and has no problem with his queerness, or with him liking Simon, aside from the scandal of the video.

once again thinking about how people will give August the benefit of the doubt, talk about how his character is deep and complex and how much they love that about his character, but absolutely refuse to see any deeper meaning or possible feelings in what Kristina does because clearly she’s just a horrible person and there is no depth to her at all 

once again thinking about how much of my own mother i see in Kristina and how much it pains me to see people saying that Kristina is an irredeemable villain who only exists to bring pain to her son because i know my mother loves me even when she makes mistakes and says things that hurt sometimes, because i know my mother is also human and thus not perfect. 

#once again thinking about the rampant misogyny of it all #sorry im just in my feelings #like i said i will personally fill the good parent kristina tag by myself if i have to #but i wish i didn't. i wish more people would contribute. #some of these points come from avie who i have had a logn conversation about this with sdhfskdhgksh #ily #anyway back to writing #i won't tolerate hate on this post btw everyone is entitled to their opinions and i respect your right to HAVE an opinion #but quite frankly i don't respect the opinion that kristina is a terrible awful human and a horrible mother so #i will be blocking you if you bring that to this post #i AM however willing to have a conversation if you wanna message me about it and we can talk #anyWHO #young royals #queen kristina #prince wilhelm #shh ac

[wisecrackingeric-2]

More than anything right now I wish I had somebody to turn to. I wish I could cry to my parents about this or get a hug from somebody or just have SOMEONE believe me and he on my side. I really don’t know how to continue on from here

#looking at any re content rn makes me feel so sick #which has been my worst fuckimg nightmare #like I’ve had panic attacks over this idea kinda worst nightmare #my absolutely biggest nightmare has been that skmething horrible will happen in this fandom that’ll make my stupid autistic brain associate #re with that horrible experience #and that’s exactly what’s happening #my biggest fear is coming to fruition and it’s so so fucking awful #Luis has meant more to me than any other autistic special interest of mine evr has. and just the THOUGHT of loosing that love and devotion #makes me sick to my stomach. #why did these people do this to me #why me #what the fuck did I ever do to them #what did I do to deserve this #I want this to be so fucking over #I wanna go back to shaking my friends over Luis and pretend this never happened #I just want a hug from my parents or someyjing man. I wanna be told it’ll be alright and this shit will be done with #just #what the fuck did I do to deserve this man

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

I'm at a point in my life and where I feel the way I feel about my parents and I refuse to let anyone guilt trip me or shame me for it.

#abusive parents #venting #my parents had NO business being fucking parents #legit wish i was raised by my grandparents #they were always better parents me and my siblings than our actual parents #yeah I'm ungrateful #i don't give a fuck what my parents did for me and my siblings #They're disgusting horrible people who irresponsibly had three children and then abused and neglected them all their life #you people who blindly defend parents can kiss my ass

[tblsomedoodles]

Me playing Rimworld like a scifi family simulator? never.

anyways, i've been playing far too much Rimworld so have some little doodles of my main couple's four kinda creepy kids lol. I will admit, "Feral" is technically his nickname, but i can't remember what they actually named him and i don't feel like booting up my game just to check.

Sandy and Feral are very close in age. Timothy is pretty close behind them, and Alice only just hit toddler stage recently. I was sooo worried about Timothy when he was tiny. B/c he was born sick, recovered from that only to catch malaria. Recovered from that and immediately caught the plague. he's alright now.

Sandy and Feral will sit on their dad's research desk to watch him work in game, and i think that's just the cutest thing, so i doodled that too.

fun fact! According to Alice's genetics, she's supposed to have purple hair, but she, instead, matches Timothy with his grey/white hair.

there's a lot of other kids running around my colony too, but they belong to others (one being just a clone lol). no joke, i think i have 5-6 adults and about 8 kids running around the place. it's chaos. i love it lol : )

#rimworld #my doodles #i haven't drawn in like 5 days because of this game #so it deserved some doodles #the adults are pretty horrible people #but their kids are all creepily adorable : ) #i'm so sad only Sandy got the ears! #I might let their parents have more kids just so Sandy doesn't feel left out #after some of these ones get to adulthood that is #b/c i have some work spots in desparate need of filling #and they'll be perfect for it #but if i put them to work now they're learning will suffer #and their traits will too when they grow up #i had a kid that i ignored the learning rate too #and b/c of that he ended up with a slow learner trate #but also had a similar genetic trait slowing his learning speed #that dude could NOT learn anything to save his life #it literally brought his learning speeed down to i think like 16 percent #always let your kids finish school if you want them to be productive people

[starswallowingsea]

thinking of that post that's like being a picky eater as a kid just means i get to experience the joy of trying so many foods as an adult. i have some new foods planned for this week after i move including stir fried sweet and sour veggies + rice and omurice (really simple fried rice... may add veggies to it later if i like it but one step at a time). will let you guys know how it goes

#shay speaks #i want to try and eat healthier and its going to start somewhere on god #i tried doing this last year but living with someone else really hindered my mental ability to do that #mostly bc. she took up so much space in our fridge #having my fridge and freezer 2 myself is going to help a lot i hope. and no other people to walk in on me cooking #it's going to be a slow process but i want to have a better relationship with food #my other goal is to have at least one higher effort meal a week. if not more but at least one #higher effort than making like maccy cheese or pizza rolls yeah? #also i was in the middle of typing my tags when my parents called me up for dinner and then served smth that makes my arfid #flare up. which is meatballs. they marinated the meatballs in the sauce which does wonders for my brain thinking smth is inedible #meat is still a hard no most of the time for me so uhm. not fun. #too many awful memories around that in particular. same with alfredo lmao i've briefly mentioned why i hate alfredo here before #horrible horrible sauce do not put me in the same room as it please and thankies #anyway.

[lunathewafflelord]

Sometimes it seems like the anti fandoms are more toxic than the actual fandom that the anti fandom people hate on, it's actually really sad.

MLP fans will know what I'm talking about

#I saw a post saying that they wish Taylor Swift's private jet would crash since that'd be upsetting towards her fans and people were saying #it's cause mass suicides which would be a good thing since Swifties are toxic #look. you can dislike a group of people/a fandom due to their behavior but that does NOT make it okay to say they should kill themselves. #I've seen lots of nasty posts about furries too #saying that people should kill furries like you would a deer (hunting) and saying that they should all die #just because you find something “cringe” doesn't mean it's okay to wish death upon people #someone pointed out that oftentimes hate towards furries (and other groups) is partially rooted in ableism (mostly towards autism) and LGBT #LGBTQ hate #since furries are oftentimes associated with those two groups #people hate on furries due to their hate on those other groups #there's really a lot of small forms of hate which cause even worse forms of hate #you can find something “cringe” but that does NOT make it okay to wish death towards people. especially those in groups oftentimes victims #victims of oppression #autistic lesbian here and I've heard many stories about autistic people being killed by their parents or caretakers #and sometimes I'm genuinely scared for my life #I loooooove my parents they really take good care of me but I've dealt with some absolutely horrible teachers #ramble over. I just had to get this off of my chest #I've been seeing a lot of negativity lately

[vagueiish]

i don't vibe with astarion as a father for a host of reasons

i do vibe with him being a 'grunkle stan, if grunkle stan were played by bayonetta' type of relative, tho

#i say this as someone who fuckin adores kids but wants 0 of my own #the bat boy would make a terrible horrible father. as he is now. maybe in a few centuries if he worked on himself more? #i dont want to yuck yums but i also kind of wish i could see what some people are seeing because... #im not seeing it #he's the cool uncle/childless wine aunt combined in my eyes #i say bayonetta specifically because of that post with the gif of her and jeanne dressed in foxy santa type outfits and walking cuntily #about to bring on the toy reckoning for christmas or whatever #like. yeah. astarion comes to spoil the fuck out of the young ones and get them hyped up on sugar or whatever #and let them run around with knives. and then he leaves his friends who are parents to deal with the aftermath! #that shit's more fun anyway..... #more power to you if you can see him as a papa i suppose #the beauty of art - people get different things from it #to the void with love

[rinrinlovee]

I hate you modern aesthetic I hate you monochrome I hate you rose gold I hate you painting kids’ toys to be joyless I hate you soulless white kitchens I hate you stainless steel I hate you exposed framing I hate you pristine white sofas I hate you parents who force their children to live in environments with no colour I hate you organised houses I hate you echoey houses I hate you perfectly cut emerald grass I hate you biscuit cutter houses I hate you conformity I hate you modern aesthetic I hate you modern aesthetic I hate you modern aesthetic I hate you modern aesthetic !!

#MAKE IT STOP #I WANT COLOUR #I want lived in houses !! #I want to trip over dolls and have blankets all over and have a painted kitchens I love you homely homes #I want to hear laughter and see footprints and little height markers on door frames I want to see that splatter on the ceiling #from when grandma dropped that pot of spaghetti I NEED to see signs of life and happiness and love #If I don’t see a thriving household with toys on the floor and chew marks on the furniture and dents in the walls and dishes in the sink #I AM GOING TO COMBUST #This aesthetic is the definition of soulless! A terrible threat to humanity! It needs to be eradicated immediately!! I directly attribute #how rude people are nowadays to the stark and complete lack of colour and soul in stores and jokes alike! #Whoever thought of this so called aesthetic is the devil’s best pawn!! #If I see one more house with children especially drowned in white and black I’m calling every child protective service imaginable #Few things boil my blood more than a parent forcing their child to live in such a horrid non stimulating cold freakishly clean environment #If I can hear my quiet breathing in your house #It needs to be cleansed if it’s modern aesthetic sin and injected with the borderline holy rays of WARM #Yes I did just watch a HORRIBLE VILE TERRIBLE video of some trendy yummy mummy painting her child’s lovely lavender play kitchen #BLOODY BLACK AND WHITE #to make it match her aesthetic! #what the fuck!! I call child abuse !

[iloveyouitisruiningmylife]

when will people understand tumblr is my safe space and if i wanted to see news i would just look it up on the three news apps downloaded on my phone

#maybe im wrong but idk i don't want to know and read about the war all the time yk because i can't fucking do anything about it sitting in #my room thousands of miles away??????? #i am informed alright and horrified and sad i GET it #but so sick of these people saying you're horrible and have no compassion and are a baby for not keeping up with every news event #and not spreading information all the time #just saw a post that was like 'ppl saying uwu i have mental illness i can't talk about this all the time bc it makes me sad need to grow tf #up' #like oh please what 18 hours a day im awake and between everything else im supposed to keep up with the news 24/7??? #sometimes i hate living in this world of internet sometimes i wish i could get my news from the newspaper in the morning once a day like my #parents

[skitskatdacat63]

I forget how comfortable my life is living w just my parents, in terms of being comfortably out, then have to listen to my brother go on a homophobic rant, that I can't tell if its a joke or not, but was really hurtful :)

#twas very uncomfortable to sit thru #the words 'what if i told you i was gay' on my tongue 'am i disgusting?' #i dont understand straight white boys #you do all this gay chicken w your friends. say all this weird stuff that makes me 🤨 #(<- ex. joking abt sucking dick bcs theyre eating a 12 inch hot dog. circa cota gp lol) #but then say these horribly homophobic things #i dont understand men #i can never tell if hes joking when he says things like this #bcs he likes to be argumentative and inflammatory. and knows we'll get pissed at him for this #so its like. are you saying this bcs you truly believe it or are you just being irritating. or both #he randomly said smth abt how the romans and greeks did gross gay things #and im like. should this not make you think 'wow homosexuality has existed for centuries. ig its pretty natural!!' #<- thats always my takeaway. theres been records of it since basically the beginning of recorded history #and i look at it and feel comforted :] this has always been a thing and always will be thing #and then people like him basterdize it completely misinterpret it ;;;; #i like him but when hes back living w us I remember how horrible his views and opinions are #ugh i live w my parents and theyre so accepting abt it and willing to learn more and change #and then i remember how fucking shit the rest of my family is #well ah dw i got back at him by calling him gay sjkfkglg #catie.rambling.txt