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Mono-spec (mono- spectrum): an umbrella term for identities related to experiencing attraction to one gender [plus affection/relationships involving one gender].
The spectrum includes those who are exclusively attracted to sole one singular gender only (suptilic), and those who are fluid (i.e. abro-, novo-, amplusic), multioriented/centrioriented, varioriented/variangled, also mspec (multispec), cupiospec, orchidspec, or otherwise a-spec (e.g. arospec, acespec, aplspec, etc.) [along with other possible combinations].
For example, someone who is both gay and bi could consider their homo attraction as monospec. Lesbihets/straightbians could be monospec as a result of being multigender/genderfluid (could be a form of novosexuality). Anattractional viramorics or feminamorics could be monospec because of their affection or relationships, instead of their lack of attraction.
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shk0lstun-flagz · 9 months
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QueerStraight/Het Flag
For any queerhets : transhets, enbyhets, a-spec hets, gnc hets. Queer and het as in not in the standard cis-het or allo normative way
Queerstraight Symbol
Represents all queer straight ppl
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viric-dreams · 4 months
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💫💫💫 (one for each oc)
Ockham couldn't really be in a relationship because as much as heshethey enjoys the company, the fixation with the Fingerkings will always take precedence. The Greater London Polycule works well because Ockham can join up whenever heshethey has a moment and slip out again when it becomes a distraction.
Elias has never been in a romantic relationship, and probably has only slept with a small handful of people in his life. He may go through the motions, but any partner would soon realise that he doesn't truly care for them and would always put himself and his own goals above that of theirs and this would be the end. That isn't to say he doesn't love. He's absolutely not emotionally intelligent enough to recognise it (especially outside of romantic contexts), but he does very much love and is devoted to the Commodore.
Not really knowing who you are is bound to give you a "I'll try anything once" type attitude. For Nicholas, this has both worked out spectacularly (newfound love for rubbery lumps) and not so (spraining his ankle after a jump from Hater's Bridge sent him into shallower waters than expected).
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patriarchy and biphobia really go hand in hand
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thelostgirl21 · 11 months
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A celebration of Joey Batey offering TV show writers a pure masterclass on how to write a queer character with a queer audience in mind.
Can I just say how much respect and appreciation I have for Joey, that he went above and beyond in term of queer representation, by bringing some much needed attention towards people on the aromantic spectrum, and making gender a complete romantic/sexual (and even queerplatonic) non-issue?
I mean, imagine that you are part of a show with a young and powerful canonically bisexual lead, Ciri, who is at an age where people might start exploring their own sexuality, slowly figuring out who and what they like, etc.
And suddenly, you're offered to also be playing another queer lead character, with a male love interest - while knowing it will be the very first time that the audience will be officially introduced to the idea of Jaskier being queer...
And, instead of going with the more familiar, and often expected:
"A man that's always been with women before, now finds himself romantically and sexually attracted to a man, and starts questioning his own sexual identity..." coming out story...
You find yourself with a unique opportunity to go a bit further, to explore more specific and lesser known LGBTQ+ themes, and to delightfully surprise your queer audience!
You can take a full dive into the wonderful world of Queerdom, by exploring a different - yet just as equally important and significant - coming out story!
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"A usually aromantic person, that has always experienced squishes, smushes, and possibly meshes before, finds himself experiencing a (sapio)romantic crush for the very first time, and starts questioning his romantic identity..."
Of course, a lot of people in the audience will probably miss this.
The monosexuals that have been conditioned to believe that gender must always play a role in how one experiences romantic and sexual human attraction - will likely be paying more attention to how Jaskier is showing an interest in a man.
People that are used to equating "falling in love" with "romantic attraction", might miss the significance and importance of Vespula specifically using the word crush to refer to Jaskier's current attraction towards Radovid.
People that typically see non-gender-related orientations as "mere preferences", or have simply never heard of them, might miss how Jaskier goes on and on about how "emotionally intelligent and insightful Radovid is" , with a look of vulnerability and wonder, putting emphasis on how different he feels about him.
People that were taught to see emotional relationships according to the "platonic vs romantic" binary - with a strict idea of what each means and implies - may not be familiar with what queerplatonic relationships are, and will interpret Jaskier saying that he loves Geralt "platonically" as meaning that he's not as deeply and strongly in love with him as one might usually expect a romantic partner to be.
They'll be unaware that there are committed life partners out there - that would go to the end of the world for each other and perhaps even share sexual intimacy together - that don't have any romantic feelings for each other whatsoever.
Romance does not mean "being in love", romance means "being in love in a romantic way".
And it is not the only way.
To aromantics and greyromantics - and even to romantic people that also have the capacity to fall in love in non-romantic ways, such as yours truly - queerplatonic and alterous relationships aren't "lesser than" romantic ones, they are different.
And Radovid... is different.
Radovid is no better, nor worse, than a hammer...
But he's a spoon.
He's a romantic connection that is completely new, exciting and intriguing to explore for Jaskier!
According to Joey Batey, as a sapioromantic panromantic pansexual, Jaskier finds himself developing a strong sapioromantic and sapiosexual connection with Radovid.
Jaskier is representing people that aren't romantically or sexually affected by a partner's gender in the way that they experience sexual atttraction, and people that experience a lot of tertiary attraction when falling in love, while very seldom ever being able to love others in a romantic way (sapioromantics / greyromantics... ).
Jaskier is a queer character that was truly created with a queer audience in mind!
He was created so that all of us that don't see or experience love according to the platonic vs romantic binary.
All of us that are hyperaware of those other forms of attraction (tertiary, aesthetic, sensual, etc.) that one can experience for another human being.
All of us that don't see or experience romance or sexuality as something that ties into their partner's gender.
Could finally see themselves in a character on screen.
Of course, you still need characters that experience their sexuality while feeling like the gender of their romantic and sexual partners matters - including those that love all genders... Desperately so!
First, because all members of the queer community matter and are equally as important and valuable. Rejoicing over Batey diving into lesser known and familiar representation doesn't mean that familiar and better known representation should not be encouraged and celebrated as well!
This is not a "there should be less gay character on TV to make room for more aromantics and asexuals instead" post.
This is a "we need queer identities people are less familiar with in addition to proper gay, lesbian and bisexual representation" post.
And second, because you still need characters that don't stray too much from the platonic v.s. romantic binary, too - and the usual social conventions tied to romance and sexuality - so that non-queer audiences can more easily connect, and empathize with, the queer community.
Because, when the existence of bisexuality already is something that monosexual people often have a hard time understanding, acknowledging, or even believing in...
Well, going:"By the way, I'll have you know that you can totally want to have sex with, live, and raise children with someone you've got platonic feelings for, too!"
You might accidentally lose them.
And if you try to explain that some people are unable to romantically connect with anyone, unless they get specifically attracted to their intellect (often combined with their aesthetic looks)!
That's likely going to be even worse!
And this is where Batey's pure genius comes to light.
Because he's just shown that you can find a beautiful and organic way to explore queerness more in depth - totally stepping away from the usual relationship conventions and specifically addressing your queer audience - simply by using a vocabulary that said queer audience will understand and connect with.
You can make it clear that the character is on the greyromantic spectrum, by having Vespula state that she's never ever seen him with a crush before!
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You can put the emphasis on him being more specifically sapioromantic, by having him dreamily go on about how Jaskier perceives Radovid's intellect.
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And, if Batey is to be believed - and he's been exploring the idea of Jaskier being queer since the very beginning of the show (without any clear response from the writers or producers regarding Jaskier's sexuality) - then, by making it clear that he loves Geralt platonically in Season 3, he's also allowing us to revisit all the scenes between Jaskier and Geralt from Season 1, while enjoying them through an aromantic lense.
Someone on the aromantic spectrum watching that scene might thus find themselves deeply connecting with the strong platonic squish (although it could also be a mesh) that Jaskier immediately experienced the very first time he saw Geralt...
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You can see Jaskier as specifically believing himself to be Geralt's best friend in the whole wide world, and instinctively reading into Geralt allowing him to physically/sensually touch him (rubbing chamomile onto his lovely bottom) as him possibly desiring a queerplatonic connection with him also.
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And, the scene where he's suggesting to Geralt that they could get away for a while, head to the coast together...
Where he mentions that life is too short not to do what pleases you, and admits that he's trying to work on what pleases him...
Look, the fact is that there's always been aromantic and greyromantic people experiencing tertiary forms of love and attractions for other people long before we had any words to put on those emotions, desires and needs.
So, it's rather easy to see Jaskier as someone that is experiencing a powerful alterous attraction for his best friend, and realizing that what pleases him the most, is the idea of them sharing a queerplatonic or alterous relationship together...
It makes sense to interpret what Jaskier is saying as him trying to express and articulate the love he feels for Geralt the best he can - implying that Geralt is what pleases him - while trying to ask Geralt if he also feels the same way...
Sadly, Geralt doesn't quite get it; likely because he's also romantically and sexually attracted to Yennefer and, when he loses her, instinctively throws all his own hurt and heartbreak at Jaskier - blaming him for everything that (he believes) lead to that loss!
And just because the break up Jaskier experienced wasn't a romantic one doesn't make it any less devastating.
Poor loving bard was making plans for them to continue to travel and enjoy their time together as the platonic boyfriends he believed them to be, and Geralt told him that all Jaskier had to offer him was a giant pile of shit that he kept shoveling his way!
There's been a lot of alterous and/or queeplatonic subtext since Season 1 (that could also read as romantic, but should never be used as evidence or proof of romance if we were talking about a real life partnership).
And, while I do acknowledge that queerbaiting has been messing with our ability to perceive and appreciate those relationships as such, I do think that, canonically establishing Jaskier as a sapioromantic, at the very least, clearly addresses the reasons why Jaskier was behaving in such an amorous way with Geralt without being romantically in love with him.
For once, instead of mocking the queer audience for "having mistakenly read two same-gender close friends as being romantically attracted to each other" (while doing as much as they can to suggest romance to keep them hooked!), they are canonically establishing Jaskier as a sapioromantic, with him experiencing his first romantic crush with Radovid.
The show's dialogue is telling people on the aromantic spectrum that "Yes, Jaskier is one of you. He gets squishes, meshes, lushes, and can desire a queerplatonic relationship with a best friend he's got strong platonic feelings for also."
You can speak to your queer audience, without fully risking alienating your non-queer audience, by simply using clues, and a language that your queer audience understands.
And I will forever be grateful to Joey Batey for having understood it, and having so skillfully managed it.
As someone who is ambiamorous, panalterous, panromantic, demisexual, and pansexual, all the nuances and details he brought to Jaskier's queerness was a pure delight, and spoke to me in a way that no TV show character has ever spoken to me before (except, perhaps, in "Sense8", but the whole show itself was about what it meant to love and be human, with main characters sharing a supernatural psychic bond making them more likely to open themselves to all the queer forms of love... whereas shows like "The Witcher" is of a more mainstream fantasy show).
I wish I had a way to contact him to tell him thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for breaking gender boundaries, and "platonic vs romantic" boundaries with Jaskier, and offering us a character that is one of the purest, most beautiful, and most perfectly balanced love song to queerness that one could have written and sung about!
Jaskier is a queer representation groundbreaking masterpiece on a show such as this.
That representation is as intelligent, insightful, and sharp as Prince Radovid himself.
And Extraordinarily Things said more about Jaskier's feelings, issues, and vulnerabilities than any piece of dialogue ever could have, and had me weeping my eyes out by the time Jaskier sang about how he finally felt like he was enough...
Well done Joey, you absolutely brilliant and deeply empathetic real-life bard and poet, well done...
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lunentity · 21 days
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𓉸✙ mirrattract ┈ a term under the aromantic spectrum in which, due to not understanding attraction, one mirrors the attraction others hold for them. for example: if someone experiences platonic attraction towards you, you experience platonic attraction towards them. platonic can be replaced with any attraction type. this may or may not modify one’s sexuality or affect it, such as a monosexual identifying as m-spec due to being confessed to by the same gender, etc. a recoining of mirrattract, original coining post can be found here.
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muddledbabbling · 6 months
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radical inclusivity is integral to the lgbtq+ community.
we are all in the same boat of otherness in the eyes of cishetnormative society, it does no good to infight over labels deemed contradictory or embarrassing.
it hurts no one if a man identifies as a lesbian or if someone uses neopronouns. it does not ‘make us look bad,’ it does not ‘bring down the movement.’ it is unabashed queerness.
those who wish harm upon the lgbtq+ community wish harm upon ALL of us. there are no exceptions for those who bootlick or attempt to conform.
a multisexual spectrum gay looks the same as a monosexual gay to those who want gays dead.
peace to old and new queer folk, peace to faggots, dykes, and transsexuals, peace to gays, lesbians, and transgender persons, peace to those i don’t understand and those i do, peace to the lgbtq+ community for ever and ever.
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engagekiss · 1 year
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🍓 𓈒𓈒𓈒 mirrattract
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╴ a term under the aromantic spectrum [ as well as a sexuality / attraction modifier ] in which, due to not understanding attraction, one mirrors the attraction others hold for them. for example: if someone experiences platonic attraction towards you, you experience platonic attraction towards them. platonic can be replaced with any attraction type. this may modify one’s sexuality or affect it — ex. a monosexual identifying as m-spec due to being confessed to by the same gender, etc … or it may not affect it at all
strawberry as i associate it with all love.
tagging @cocajimmycola
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[ id: three seven striped flags. the first and third are identical, but the second has an icon of a strawberry of it in the center. the colors in order of top to bottom are dark red, reddish pink, pale pink, pale orange, orange, warm orange, reddish orange. / end id. ]
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transgenderpolls · 1 month
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*Monosexual is someone who is attracted to one gender, so lesbian, gay, hetero, etc.
** Mspec stands for multisexual spectrum, and it includes bisexuality, pansexuality, etc.
*** for example pre transition you were a lesbian, and you're still exclusively into women, just now you identify as a hetero transmasc/transman
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olderthannetfic · 7 months
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I'm gonna throw out two cents about the allo thing. I think a term for non-aces makes sense, just like for monosexuality. I think the problem is that allo is used in a way that can and does exclude people on the ace side of things though, it doesn't seem to be a term that mixes well. What if someone is asexual but does feel x-romantic attraction? What if someone is aromantic but is x-sexual? There are tons of aces who'd also fall somewhere in the middle if we go by the spectrum, gray aces and demi? What are they? Are you going to call a demi in a relationship allo because they are experiecing the sexual/romantic attraction that seems to mean allo? Problem is basically that people say the ace spectrum is a spectrum, but the terms ace and allo are a binary. You don't really have that with other terms like cis and trans+nb. Monosexual and bisexual (+w/e else sexuality falls on the other side) also has more wiggle room because bisexuality itself is the spectrum, with monosexuality describes being the "singular" idea of attraction.
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genderstarbucks · 8 months
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Is there a term for only being comfortable dating mspecs? For any reason, but could be for being trans/transitioner/gnc/nonbinary/etc
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Plurephilian is a sexual orientation meaning a multisexual person (bi, pan, poly, omni, abro, etc.) who prefers to only be romantically and/or sexually involved with other multisexual people due to having faced bigotry, stereotyping, exlusionism, and general unwelcomeness from monosexual people/the monosexual community.
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Mspec4mspec
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Mspec4mspec is an identity, where one chooses prefers or prioritizes their relationships with other multisexual individuals, for a variety of reasons including, safety, support, and understanding.
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Amphic is a term for mspec loving mspec.
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Mspec4mspec is a term for someone who prefers to seek out relationships/encounters with other mspec (multi spectrum; multisexual/romantic/sensual/aesthetic/platonic/qplatonic/alterous/etc) people. Mspec identities include but are not limited to bi, pan, omni, ply, abro, pluralian, tri, quad, quint, ambi, etc.
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Pluralilium is a term for mspecs who date other mspecs.
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undergiants · 1 month
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I want to explore the issues that I had growing up as a non-monosexual queer woman because I know they have effected the relationship I have with my own gender identity greatly; yet for how many multisexual women there are in the queer community and have been in queer history there is so little that explores our relationships to gender (whether that be identity, expression or roles).
There plays this idea that if you are a masculine queer women then you are likely just a butch lesbian or if you are in a relationship with a man then you must secretly be more feminine, or will eventually overtime conform to become more feminine for your male partner. That it means you will play a passive and receiving role with that partner whether in gender or sexual roles simply because you are a woman and they are a man. Regardless of the queer relationship you have with your sexuality and by extension gender.
The amount of times I've seen only feminine women headcanoned as bi/pansexual and only masculine woman as lesbian in any and all media. Or canonically masculine multisexual female characters headcanoned or re-interpreted as solely lesbian because of course a bi/pansexual woman couldn't be this masculine or have a complex and very queer relationship with their gender and the roles they wish to embody.
On a much more personal note, for so long I felt like I had to either be a butch lesbian oy queer trans man if I was to ever be respected in my more masculine gender and sexual expression by both my own partners and the greater queer community. Pigeon holing myself into one or the other because my own identity and personhood is constantly erased, suppressed, mocked, and completely forgotten.
We need more queer theory and culture around what being bi/pansexual can actually mean and how it genuinely isn't just "gay-light" "50/50 gay and straight", that it is and always has been it's own unique queer identity. A different way of viewing yourself, your relationships, and your role in the greater world.
I can't speak for the bi/pansexual men but I know they also have their own relationships to this that I would also love to hear, share, and celebrate. <3
*this is also inclusion to any and all trans folk, while I ID more as a women nowadays I also consider myself on the enby spectrum and definitely very gnc, I know what gender expression and roles greatly effect anyone and everyone
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fyodorloveclub · 30 days
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Even if you like women more than men you can be a bi sapphic cause bisexuality isn't half het half gay or 50/50 it's fuild....Its a spectrum of multi attraction so like even if you're attracted to men a 5 or 2% you can still be bi....cause your attraction transcends gender and it's multisexuality (mspec) Not monosexuality...its all about the potential to be attracted to more than 1 or 2 genders that makes you bi...There is a bisexual manifesto and some related stuff that might help you which helped me when I was confused about if I am a lesbian or bisexual....Bi women can have a extremely high attraction and preference for women mamy do and still be bi yk...doesn't make them a lesbian as along as they are attracted to people regardless of xnot just men....men are just a small aspect of the multisexuality (bisexuality is trans inclusive always has been will be)
interesting!!!! all this introspection makes my fuckin head spin LMAO but this is some really good info thank u. i have a hard time with the label bisexual i think bc i slapped it on myself for so long not quite agreeing with the definition i had placed on it so i think i just need to sit with it some more with it framed this way and try to reconsider. ily :)
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Queer Dictionary Carrd
I ran a poll a week or two ago about the carrd I’m working on, and the majority of people said they wanted to see it!
Updates as I add things will be posted on this blog under the tag #queer dictionary (feel free to block that tag if you’re not interested)
You can submit any suggestions/glitches/errors through this blog’s ask box as well!
Moving on…
Here is the link!
Here is a list of what I currently have finished:
Everything under the sexuality tab (juvelic orientations, multisexual spectrum, monosexual spectrum, asexual/aromantic spectrum, and miscellaneous sexualities)
The binary section and non-binary sections under the gender tab
I plan on working on the fluid gender tab next!
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vlada-slavik · 11 days
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Hey! I just wanted to ask you something cause in your dni/byf you say this:
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And I was wondering if that's an error? Because m-spec means multisexual spectrum, so bisexuality, pansexuality, etc.
And I assume you mean 'm-spec mono', like bisexual lesbians? :) (monosexual means sexual attraction to only one gender)
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OH YEAH, I didn't notice that I said just m-spec without mono 😭😭 I also feel like changing it to just supporting because it's not even as confusing as other identities,,, and yeah, I meant stuff like bi lesbians and other ones (either fluid sexualities/romantic attraction or those who use split attraction system)!!
Thanks for noticing!!!! /pos
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Here’s some positivity for mspec mono systems and headmates!
Plurality, sexuality, and romantic attraction are all vast and complex spectrums! For many systems and individual headmates, identifying as both mspec and mono allow them to express themselves to the fullest and live their best lives. This post is for all the mspec monos out there!
Shoutout to systems and headmates who are mspec lesbians, gays, straights, or otherwise monosexual/romantic!
Shoutout to bi, pan, omni, or otherwise mspec systems and headmates who are also mono!
Shoutout to systems and headmates who struggled to come to terms with their identities as mspec monos!
Shoutout to mspec monos whose sexualities and romantic attractions are heavily influenced by their plurality!
Shoutout to systems and headmates who identify as stellian, solian, lunian, mesrien, or another another lesser known label!
Shoutout to mspec mono systems and headmates who have coined their own terms to describe their experience!
Shoutout to those who experience mspec mono attraction, but don’t label their sexuality or attraction at all!
Shoutout to mspec mono systems and headmates who have been harassed, fakeclaimed, or not taken seriously because of their identities!
There is nothing wrong with having contradictory labels - you and your system are not harming anyone by identifying as both mono and mspec! We hope you will be able to find peace, love, and happiness in your future, with ample acceptance by those around you. Rest assured you will always be welcome here, and are an important member of the queer community just as you are!
Please take care of yourselves and try to show yourselves some kindness! Thanks so much for reading, and take care!
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(Image ID:) A pale orange userbox with a cluster of multicolored flowers for the userbox image. The border and text are both dark orange, and the text reads “all plurals can interact with this post!” (End ID.)
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