#literally rewired my brain forever

[hamartia-grander]

do you have any serennedy fic recs?

Omg of course I do stranger, here are some of my favourite serennedy fics ever, in no particular order, that you should absolutely read and leave kudos and comments on right now:

I've Got Dreams Again by MooseOnAHunt (best serennedy fic ever written btw)

Life's Simple Pleasures by MooseOnAHunt

Let There Be Light by MooseOnAHunt

I Carry All My Sins by MooseOnAHunt

Overflowing by MooseOnAHunt

Straight From the Heart by MooseOnAHunt

And others also by MooseOnAHunt on ao3 <333 go check 'em out

#screaming crying sobbing over all of these #idk how IGDA isn't winning in hits and kudos it's a damn shame #literally rewired my brain forever #serennedy #resident evil #Luis Serra #leon kennedy #resident evil 4 #resident evil 4 remake #resident evil fanfiction #re4r #Luis Serra Navarro #leon s kennedy #serrennedy #serrenedy #leonluis

[toontownportraits]

SPUNCHBOB ‼

#the bagel draws #fanart #inside job #inside job netflix #inside job fanart #reagan ridley #spongebob the musical #plankton spongebob #saw some art of reagan as plankton and ab as karen a year ago and my brain was rewired forever so im sharing that. through my art #(the og artist turned out to be a weirdo so im yoinking the idea. mine now 💥 #anyways this is effectively spongebob the musical propaganda because it's SUCH a good musical and did NOT deserve the hate it got back in- #2018 or so. it;s literally so good #stephanie tsu was in it as karen in the original cast recording #(i found out bc awhile ago one of my ij mutuals on twt posted a pic of the spongebob musical and i recognized stephanie tsu INSTANTLY) #really shows how bmc has affected me #kinda slay actually. #(not to sound dumb but PLEASE reblog if you like. i'm really proud of this and i want more people to actually see my art) #tumblr better not fucking kill the quality.

[coldshrugs]

i see them bow down when you sing i heard the wind run

not over this art so. here we are...

#azia gposes #io laithe #io/estinien #listen. i'm sorry #but messy bun marked up esti rewired my brain! #it's what he deserves! #i wasn't gonna post this but HER ARM and HIS HANDS #also i think io is the epitome of that one tiktok like ;skldjfs #'when i managed to pull a 6'8" dragoon that could literally get any girl he wants' #'does this girl know she looks like she was built in a lab to date a 6'8 dragoon' #also lets all pretend the elezen neck seam is not that bad #okay goodbye forever. i'm wiping your mind men-in-black style 💥🖊😎

[that-house]

joan in the garden my beloved........

#song that rewired my brain literally forever

[caffeinatedopossum]

I just noticed that I no longer perceive things like facial hair or deep voices as being gendered. Which is honestly pog. The world is way more beautiful this way

#slowly rewiring my brain by being around exclusively gender queer people 😎 #i actually dont normally notice facial hair at all though for some reason?? like idk it depends #if you had very distinct facial hair when we first met then ill probably remember you that way forever #but if you shave semi frequently i literally wont notice you have facial hair at all ever #its like regular hair im not gonna notice your hair growing an inch or you cutting it an inch because its hair and thats just what it does #the voices thing is different i think. i still associate speech patterns with gender kind of #but like for funsies if that makes sense? like i will change my speech pattern instantly based on wether im being perceived female or not

[the-acid-pear]

Guy who is very normal about men and the sound they make when in pain: I really Willem Dafoe's performance in 12 Minutes :)

#luly talks #cons of most of the characters Willem plays dying: fucking bummer man #pros of most of the characters Willem plays dying: 👀 #i mean for the love of god john wick 2014 marcus death scene #that shit literally changed me forever i was 9 years old watching that on the cinema my whole brain got rewired it was radicalizing

[trainsinanime]

Your favorite fanfic writer doesn't know (but would like to)

Let's talk about comments on fanfics. This is not meant as a guide or call to action, just a bit of observations. Personally, I always saw it as impolite to ask for reviews or kudos or comments or likes or reblogs or whatever. That's not a rational point of view, it just reflects how I am. And people actually telling others that they have to leave any of this feedback? I've blocked folks over that. In my mind that's not okay. I'm not announcing a change of that, this is not a policy, just some deep-seated mental issues, but I want to write down some more things that have been going through my mind, from the perspective of someone who occasionally writes fanfics. My previous suggestion in this regard was mostly to write some fanfic yourself and see what happens and what you'd like to happen, because it's genuinely fun and I think you probably have more to say than you realise.

But there's also another point here, and that is that your favourite fanfic writer has no idea that they are. If you're anything like me, then it will seem like the great writers in your fandom are obvious. Also, the last time you bought Blåhajs, it ended with you having to flee a smoke-filled subway tunnel. The great stories and great writers in your universe are facts of nature. You read a story and you think, "this is the greatest thing I've ever seen." A story rewires your brain chemistry forever. You keep coming back and reading that one fic whenever the mood hits you. It feels obvious that this story is great. How could it not be?

It feels trite to say that the author of that fic doesn't know that unless you tell them, but it's hard to really understand the feeling unless you've been there yourself. You write a story, but is it any good? Maybe you get a lot of kudos, or maybe very little, but what does either of that mean? Kudos can mean literally anything from "loved this" to "didn't close the tab in disgust". Maybe you just got unlucky. Maybe you just got lucky. What do these numbers mean? What is a good number of kudos? 1? 10? 100? 1000? Should I calculate ratios? How do I know whether people like this?

In light of this, a comment where someone just said, "I loved this", has an almost incalculable worth. A comment where someone says they read this over and over again, or quotes lines they loved, or something? You can't imagine how valuable that is. A while ago someone told me "a couple of us are talking about this on Discord, we love it and we keep repeating our favorite lines". I thanked them, but I was too polite to say, "really? What are they saying? Which are your favorite lines? How many people are there who love it? What are their names? Which lines are the favorite ones, please, tell me!". Part of me still regrets that, because I so desperately want to know! I don't think it was a public Discord and I never heard from the others on it, but just the idea that they're out there and they like my story was so powerful. (By the way, it's not on any account that's linked from here, please don't try to find that comment.)

Now, I firmly believe that you, as a reader, don't have to care about any of that. I know there are people who disagree with me on this point, very strongly in fact, but I don't think it's necessarily your job to care. It's great if you do, and I think a lot of you do in fact care, that's why I'm writing this. But if you haven't thought about that or don't feel comfortable leaving comments or whatever, that's fine, that's normal, and you are in fact part of the majority. Any well-adjusted fic author has found ways to deal with this. They have learned to love writing for its own sake, or they love re-reading their own fics, or they have a couple of trusted friends who like their work, or ideally all three. Personally I was scared of Discord for the longest time, but it really helps with that. One person who you sort of know going "hey that's neat" can outweigh just about anything else. (Still, there will be days when you post something and you won't get a response and that just plain sucks, no two ways about it.)

But if you do care, if you think it's important that a fanfic writer knows what they mean to you, not because of any concern about the wider unpaid fan creator economy but just because of the way their work affected you, then this is important. Your favorite fanfic writer probably doesn't know and/or believe that they're anyone's favorite, and even if they do, a reminder or learning that someone knew found them will make them incredibly happy. And obviously, all of that applies at least just as much to all the beginners with potential that are out there. So if you're wondering whether it's worth it leaving a comment that says how much you enjoyed something: It probably is. And if you shared this with others and they loved it, or if this is your favourite fic, or if you enjoy how original it is, or how well it does your favourite tropes, or anything like that, the writer is going to be so happy to hear that.

A final aside: This obviously applies even more when it's about fandoms, pairings, subject matter and in particular ratings that are considered a bit embarrassing. Writers who write stuff that, say, happens to be E-rated for whatever reason, doesn't matter, will probably get fewer kudos and comments just because people are embarrassed to have their names show up in the Kudos and Comment sections. If that's you, just a note that it is perfectly okay to comment anonymously, or to create a second separate account for leaving kudos on, commenting on and maybe even posting the somewhat more risqué stuff. Now I'm not saying I have one of these second accounts, at least I'm not saying that in public, but it is an option worth considering.

#fanfic #comments

[mo49ko]

hiii first of all i love your art so much! it’s so pretty!!! secondly you give off the vibe of someone with superior taste in fan fiction so i wonder if you have any good fqmq recommendations? long modern aus have a special place in my heart but honestly i’d read pretty much anything about these two. anyways thanks for posting so much your art always brings me joy ily 🫶

omg thank you so much for your kind message!! 💖

i want to believe that i am someone with superior taste in fan fiction and will now wear this message as a badge of honour forever!! 🥹🥹

there are sooo many good ones but here are a few of my favourites with my thoughts on them!! please check out the fic pages for the actual summaries. there are a lot of modern AUs but no one is surprised!!

also i cant stand angst and refuse to read it so i hope u like happy endings 🤭🤭 there is literally nothing more exciting to me than reading about fengqing trying not to kill?? kiss??? each other while sharing a flat

NSFW ones are under the cut. i put the ones with no explicit sex under SFW but do read the tags/warnings!!

🏹 SFW FIC RECS

bound by destinies thread by muqingssaber

AU where mq is a tailor and fx works at the palace and gets a crush on him THEYRE SO SWEET!! there is also a lovely art that goes with this story so do check it out

mollycoddled by wanningcore

(modern AU) mq is sick and fx takes care of him. their interactions and reactions to each other are sooo well written...enjoyers of mq learning to let himself be loved this one is for you 🫡🫡

a drive to the heart by evan_dumpling2137

(modern AU) i love mq finding the most convoluted excuses ever to hang out with his...c...crush...

i crash into you (head on) by dreamagain

(modern AU) fengqing getting together by third wheeling hualian. i read this multiple times and threw my phone across my bed over how cute it is. i am OBSESSED with the last scene in particular but i don't want to spoil it so pls read🤭

take a piece of my heart and make it all your own by ruilian

THIS ONE IS HILARIOUS obsessed with the concept of mq asking hc for definitely-not-love advice

little beastie by Annabec

mq turns into a little kid and there is only one person who can...should...will take care of him and love him!!! guess who!!! it's so sweet and makes my heart warm

god of love, pei ming by jagaimocchi

(modern AU) for wingman pei ming enjoyers ITS SO FUN

Stuck Into Memory by tsuki_dango

(modern AU) mq with nipple piercings 👀

⚔️ NSFW FIC RECS

or you just saw me with my equations up by decis by xiaolongbaobei

FENG XIN/FU YAO !!! this fic rewired my brain i am so serious... i have not stopped thinking about it mostly because i am obsessed with the slight difference in personality between mq and fy in canon and i went into this for the nsfw but it's so well written and explores mq's complexed very well

not how i turned out to be by brosnyaa

(ABO) I rec this to everyone i know who even remotely knows who fengqing are!! for enjoyers of fx getting jealous over a misunderstanding but still wanting to respect his boundaries, pei ming being there, and most importantly... the 🔞🔞🔞

fengyao threadfic by doordaash (twitter)

hehe... more fengyao...

#moko recs #moko replies #ohmoonmybeloved #fengqing #if any of the authors are reading this.........i love u... #THIS GOT QUITE LONG i tried not to....rec every single thing i ever read........ #this is like my fengqing syllabus...........pls read them all and also tell the author they are the best..... #long post #IF ANYONE KNOWS ANY MORE SIMILAR TO THESE... U ARE ALWAYS WELCOME AND ENCOURAGED TO SHARE TO ME

[thermodynamic-comedian]

i have a headcanon that elias is like, very literally the beating heart of the institute. like, he can feel things going on, is more place than person, etc. and i just wanted you to think about that in the context of parasight & jane worming it up in the walls

OHMYGOD. ok i am never going to stop thinking about this. holy shit. this is amazing. you have just rewired my brain chemistry. i am going to be so normal about this. no wonder he was so hesitant to do anything about that too soon. like he essentially got the same experience as the people that got wormed, it just left no physical marks on his body. and idk mayyybe he enjoyed it a bit. perchance.

anyways that also makes me think like. everything else that happened to the institute. like when martin started burning statements, did that feel like someone was burning something inside of him?? damn. not fun. also if the tunnels are a blind spot for the eye, then i bet someone entering the panopticon feels like a sudden sharp pain in your chest that wasn't there before. the type of pain that makes you go "oh shit, am i about to die?"

overall, absolutely massive brain concept, will be thinking about this forever now, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

#tma #the magnus archives #tma headcanons #tma spoilers #parasight #janelias #jane prentiss #jonah magnus #martin blackwood

[teyamsatan]

Yeahh !!! 🥰 There were already a lot of fanfics on tumblr ! I remember loving the hype 💕 But I think I mixed the other fanfic of "always forever" tumblr (one of the first Neteyam x reader fanfic out there) And it's later on that I came across your first illicit affairs chapter "Willow" 🥰🌸

Honestly the best Stories of Neteyam ! 💥💞

I am gonna cry too 🥺Time went by so fast holy crap...

I found this Art on Twitter 💙 It's so cute 😌🥴 Neteyam's love language is definetely physical touch 💕

this art rewired my brain i've been thinking about it since you sent it omgggg

also not you calling illicit affairs the best neteyam story i will LITERALLY COLLAPSE!!!!

#i love you #:((( #adria bb 🥰 #my asks 💕 #˚ ༘♡ ⋆｡˚ ꕥ andra's mooties

[poetic-mac-n-cheese]

Look at this Gideon the Ninth inspired embroidery my sister made for me! I fell in love with the locked tomb series this year and then bullied her into reading them too - best decision ever!

This line literally rewired my brain and it was the moment I knew I would be obsessed with griddlehark forever <3

#the locked tomb #Gideon the ninth #fandom gifts #one flesh one end #tlt #embroidery #freehand embroidery

[quietwingsinthesky]

Ninerose (and/or tenrose if you have different opinions about it)

ninerose

how do i put this. i dont think it's an exaggeration to say that ninerose taught me what love looks like. like yadda yadda broken childhood home and all that, but whatever, i had my doctor who discs. and these two. oh, these two. there's so much about s1 and them that i return to again and again because it's so messy and so sweet and so. hopeful? you know? like here's the doctor, broken, and here's rose, glowing like the sun. and he becomes a better man for her sake. he makes himself worthy of being saved, yes, but she would have saved him anyway. because she loves him so, so much.

like, i know people get annoyed nowadays about how much rose there is in the fandom, how she can get a spotlight other companions never can, but like. god. she really did show up and rewire my fucking brain, and i can't even be mad about it. she's all that and more. and nine, obviously, nine's my. second favorite now, but the doctor closest to my heart forever. there's nothing that can improve my day like watching an episode from s1 and seeing the two of them interact, there really isn't.

tenrose

i do actually have different thoughts on these! simply because all variations of the doctor get slightly different thoughts. i mean, i don't really ship specific doctors with specific characters, if that makes sense? if they win the hearts of one doctor, then to me, they've won the hearts of all of them. so, i do ship rose with every doctor lol. but ten we got on screen so let me talk about that.

i think tenrose, the way it's written, is a perfect follow up to how ninerose set them up. you know, you've got a kiss on the doctor's side that killed him and only he remembers happening, and on rose's side, her doctor just exploded into a twink. i love how upset rose is by it. i've seen people talk about how unfair she's being or how unreasonable she is, crying because she thinks the man she was falling in love with is gone when the doctor's right there but. he exploded in front of her. she has no information on this, except to hope that it really is her doctor. god, the children in need special where they reconnect immediately post him regenerating is so important to me for this reason. this is upsetting! this isn't something that we should judge rose for not simply rolling with it! but in the end, that is her doctor. changed, slightly, to be loved is to be changed. but it's him.

and yeah, can we talk about the whole ten literally rebuilt himself to be for rose and how that fact fucks him up forever and ever <3 literally a disaster of a man, you can't do that, sir. that's not healthy!!! but i love him for that. it's so doctor-ish of him. in the wake of her becoming a goddess of time and space to save him, how could he not remake himself in her image. to be someone he thinks she will love, that can love her better. i just. sorry going to speak briefly on nine again, but i think about how the majority of the bad wolf scene is framed with every shot of him on his knees, looking up at her. how he only rises back up at the very end to kiss her and save her life in return. that's what i think ten is born out of, more than anything. that moment of terrifying, awestruck devotion, and then the choice to rise again and hope he's enough, know he's enough, to save her life.

and that is always ten. that's him in the satan pit jumping without knowing where the bottom is and then yelling in the face of the devil that he only knows of one goddess, and it's her. that's why when rose is in danger, nothing on this earth can stop him. that's why he burns up a star to say goodbye to her, because that's the only thing in the universe that could be worthy of being exchanged for even a glimpse at her. and it's him when he tries to snuff himself out during the runaway bride, and it's him when he spends so long not being able to see martha for how fantastic she is because all he can do is mourn rose, and it's him when he's so distracted by her finding him again that he gets himself shot by a DALEK.

insane to me, actually. he was literally born wrong out of love.

and not even to mention rose. let's not pretend she's not equally on this train. hello: woman who would have been okay with being trapped with him on the other end of time and the universe from home? woman who was going to ditch all the people she knew and loved in another dimension to stay with him? woman who started blasting herself haphazardly across dimensional barriers with a cannon to find him again? she's as bad as he is. i love her.

[put any ship in my ask box and i’ll give my brutally honest opinion]

#ask #tenrose #ninerose #im realizing. see the thing is the appeal of 'brutally honest opinion' might be to some people for me to tear shit apart #but like. there's only about four ships in the history of ever that annoy me enough to hate them. #and everything else im easily invested in or don't care enough to hate. #so like. i hope yall like gushing <3

[kaeyapilled]

hey! your kaeya takes are so real!!! I was wondering if you had any good fic recs?? I want to read something that has good kaeya characterization (+bonus if it's ragbros that isn't just them crying and hugging it out like you were talking about) and am tired of scrolling through tags

!! omg thank you im so honored to hear that people like my takes lol

fic recs huh!! i have some!! do you mind it if most of them are about child kaeya? (i hadnt realized how many of my bookmarks focused on his childhood until i went through them all lmao) hopefully it isnt all stuff youve already read before! here goes:

A Horse Makes for a Stable Life by FollowerofMercy – Wanting to test the boundaries of his host’s goodwill, Kaeya asks for a pony for his birthday. He didn’t expect Crepus to deliver. Or, the story in which things get uncomfortably real for young Kaeya.

do you like kaeya and crepus interactions!! because this fic explores their dynamic in suuuuch a nice way that felt very refreshing to see portrayed!! perfect ratio of hurt to comfort in my opinion. overall quite lighthearted compared to my other recs though lol. good exploration of kaeyas inner conflict since a young age. yeah i love it and recommend it

I'm gonna miss your love when it's gone by imaginarypasta – A selection of scenes from Kaeya's childhood related to his relationships with his fathers, and all they have led him to be.

this one is so good!!!! i feel like its rare to see kaeyas biological father portrayed as anything other than a heartless asshole, and this fic explored kaeyas relationship with him in such a nice manner that makes for a very melancholic and. i guess bittersweet story that takes into consideration the nuance of the situation in a way that i really dont see super often. the parts about kaeyas relationship w crepus are also really well done i love it. oh and the khaenri'ah lore the author takes some liberty with is really really interesting!!

not bad for a walk on death's doorstep by b_attery – Fear is a knife’s edge. Fear is a killer. Fear is how you know you’re still alive.

my bookmark of this work said "literally the best kaeya character study ive ever read" and honestly i still stand by that. the word flow is great and the exploration of fear as such an intrinsic part of kaeya's life and as the driving force for most of his actions and feelings and responses. it's so good!!! this one contemplates kaeyas childhood both before and after his arrival in mondstadt and goes until after diluc's return. absolutely recommend it!!

Hundred-Watt Light by pepperjuice – A story about ten years of contingency plans and holding your own hand. (Because how else are you supposed to live with a weight too big to hold all alone?)

this. this rewired my brain forever. this holds the title of best kaeya character study ever along with the previous one i talked about. definitely mind the tags because it primarily deals with suicidal ideation and thoughts so, if that's a trigger then it's best to not read this one lol but still it is SO good and it explores kaeya's inner conflicts and awful coping mechanisms after having such a heavy burden thrusted upon him at an extremely early age with no good support of any kind. i absolutely love this fic it's very dear to me and i think about it sooo often it truly altered my brain chemistry

things fall apart by kernsing – Happy eighteenth, Diluc.

finally some ragbros content! sadly it isnt the reconciliation you asked for it's about when things fell apart. this is one of my favorite ever renditions of how it all went down on That Day - it reshaped some of my own headcanons, actually. this one is more from diluc's pov than kaeya's, and it's written really really well, and explores diluc's grief over his father's death in SUCH an amazing and interesting way!! and the way it parallels kaeya's own emotions and that is exactly what causes them to fight is extremely tasty i loved it. read it it's good

okay i can probably find some more but this is enough for one post i think. deeply sorry for not delivering the good ragbros reconciliation content.. i tbh haven't gathered a lot.. but i hope you and whoever else reads this enjoys these! thank you for the ask <3

#sharing fic recs on tumblr.com isn't just a hobby it's a full time job and a lifestyle. #anonpilled #kaeyaposting #kaeya #kaeya alberich #diluc #ragbros #brothers tag #genshin impact

[defeateddetectives]

9 Fandom Peeps to Get to Know Better

thank youuu @coquelicoq for the tag! yes this is an entire month late because of who i am as a person :'D

3 ships you like: actually gonna give some real estate to the ones i have NOT been rotating nonstop on this space like a rotisserie chicken lately to mix things up!

1) hiyakawa/mikado (the night beyond the tricornered window) - a plug for my tiny, spooky, hilarious and obscure af manga series that blindsided me with its pathos (and because i want everyone to read it and then create some very niche fan-content for me specifically! :D wait who said that!) emotionally oblivious loser 4 emotionally oblivious loser!!! except they're emotionally oblivious in fun, complementary ways! their whole journey is absolutely bonkers and unexpectedly heartfelt, and yes, exorcism should be this hot always!

2) natsume/tanuma (natsume yuujinchou) - i know that no one will believe me when i say that this is still THE natsume yuujinchou ship to me at the end of the day! something something if i loved it less i might be able to talk about it more! but lonely kids finding one another and making each other's lives SO MUCH BETTER solely for existing in each other's orbit and being such a paragon of healthy, functional communication and trust and growing connection that still floors me to this day (and with such courage and eloquence that most adults still cannot manage...i say...sideeyeing two v specific adults)!!! theirs was the thread that pulled me into the series to begin with (i literally just watched all the tanuma eps on first pass) and i'm still so grateful for them and everything about them

3) jack rackham/anne bonny (black sails) - platonic/queerplatonic/romantic/whichever combo or other nebulous way you slice it! THE soulmates of all time that haunt me on the regular and really said to the audience: watch us take your expectations and definitions and parameters of love, joyfully smash it to smithereens, and create something so tremendously unrecognizable and beautiful. truly partners till they put us in the fucking ground!!!

first ship ever: the first fanfic i stumbled upon in my life featured taichi and yamato from digimon adventure. i still remember this because it was interspersed with an edit of yamato in a dress and posted on ye olde personal webpages and shown to me by a school friend, both of us looking like the :o face incarnate. we were Babies. it was a Time. i don't even think i knew what a ship was at the time but hashtag formative things!

last song you heard: it's been a grimes & janelle monae - venus fly kinda day

favourite childhood book: soft spot for whitechurch by chris lynch forever. i think i read it maybe in high school? it rewired my brain and is probably a huge part of why i am the way i am/write the way i do subconsciously.

currently reading: does vi bullying me into danmei count? in which case, global examination....at snail's pace. in this house we love and appreciate a good arson!

currently watching: recently started rewatching the original a:tla for the first time since it finished airing after trying and failing miserably with the live action :( only a few episodes in but augh its still so good and some things hit even harder with foreknowledge. there will never really be another character arc like zuko's ever again.

currently consuming: a smoothie! i've discovered i am a fan of almond butter when dunked in a blender with berries, yogurt and milk. 11/10 would recommend!

currently craving: earlier today i was daydreaming of bbq so let's go with that

super low pressure tagging @endless-season @half-infinite @argyros @fadedclxssic @caroline-hill @kastellaran @doubleboyfriend @constastan @spookirou and as always, everyone is welcome to steal

#memetime

[ghoul-haunted]

literally the way this rewired my brain forever

#ITS THE CIGARETTE. hi!!!! i love! anachronistic juxtaposition and the existence of the stage!!!!

[spacedykensfw2]

if you want men to fuck you then you're not a lesbian you moron. you're a bisexual, you just hate the idea of bisexuality too much to call yourself that. that's your problem, keep it that way instead of fetishizing about actual lesbians being raped.

Damn, you again? For fucks sake dude. You really need a hobby. Unfortunately for both of us I sort of enjoy arguing with idiots on the internet, especially when the stakes are this low.

I am not bisexual. I say that not because I hate bisexuals for some fuckin reason, but rather, for the millionth time, technically, I am asexual. I do not experience sexual attraction. (Or, at least, very, very, very rarely.) For me to be bisexual, sexual attraction would have to be part of the equation. It is not. Whatever attraction I do experience is to women and dykes and other queer people to a degree that I feel lesbian fits me better than any other label. (Also, I identified as bi or pan for a good 7 or 8 years of my life, and it ended up not fitting me after some major life changes made me realize some things about myself. Trust me, I’ve considered it, and it doesn’t fit.)

Let me ask a question: If a lesbian wanted to go to an amusement park with a friend who happens to be a man so they can ride roller coasters and experience that thrill and adrenaline high together, does that make her bisexual? No? Then why would this make me bisexual?

Because this is literally the same thing, just a different package.

You people have this weird (and extremely false) idea that sex is this pinnacle of intimacy, that it’s somehow sacred and needs to be protected or used sparingly and only in the right ways, and any way you do choose to use it will define you forever. The thing is, sex can be, is, and has been just a thing people do together because it’s fun. No other reason.

You do not need to be attracted to your partner(s) to have sex with them.

All you need is ongoing, enthusiastic, informed consent (or discussions and planning beforehand if you’re doing something that inherently makes one of those things impossible—think certain cnc scenes, somnophilia, intox play, that sort of thing).

Anyway, all that’s to say, I’m still not sure what your goal is here, pal. Because no rude anonymous message with poor grammar is going to rewire my whole ass brain and make me not into the kinks I’m into. Stop being weird and trying to invalidate people’s sexualities on the internet and maybe try like… idk, cross stitch? Hiking? Pottery? Literally anything else

#asks #anonymous