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inkskinned · 1 year

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there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

#this is objectively bad advice #don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this #but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries #.... it IS fun #i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him.#bc i used to get SO fucking upset #i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it #and now i just LITERALLY do not engage #instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation #i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection #they like the rush they get from arguing #but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me #so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru #NORMAL CONVERSATION #he doesn't get it yet #i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?''#'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''

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ryssbelle · 3 months

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Brozone reunion concepts for this little thing based on this ask

As stated in the ask idk fully how this moment would go, this concept was mostly building off the premise presented within the ask :D

Bonus:

#my art #trolls #dreamworks trolls #trolls 3 #trolls au #n2 au #trolls john dory #trolls clay #trolls poppy #trolls branch #trolls bruce #trolls floyd #brozone #look at them so silly #in the original script i had accidentally wrote John calling Bruce by his preferred name and i was like #he dont know it yet smh #and had to change it back to spruce #which is where the line 'its bruce but imma let it slide'#comes from #i dont think John in the movie and within this purposefully misnames him #i think its just like a force of habit #and its just harder for him to realize hes saying it wrong until hes corrected #cuz you see he doesnt really get mad when corrected he just gets confused the first time #and then just keeps forgetting after #which i think also was from his mindset of #'im the oldest im not allowed to change' so its like #his brains blocking out the change of spruce to bruce #this is unrelated to the comic as a whole it was just the on the spot thoughts i had while typing #but yeah #itd be a touching reunion for sure!

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spacedlexi · 5 months

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"sounds nice... having a partner"

#the walking dead game #twdg #violentine #clementine twdg #violet twdg #MAANN when clem says this in s3 JUST WAIT BBY #people who say clemvi has no basis like ep2 isnt just them working as a team for 2 and a half hours regardless of player choice #like be fr #clem telling louis that violet patching up the back wall is ok because she needed something to keep herself busy. married behavior #vi asking clem to help check in on everyone while she deals with the wall. their shared smile when she comes back outside :)#and then they sit in the leadership spot together overlooking the yard and everything theyve planned together coming to fruition :)#sorry i just think their romance set up in eps 1 and 2 is obvious as FUCK and im tired of (Some) people pretending it isnt #'i havent seen her warm up to someone in a long time' brody literally tells clem that vi seems to like her after its been 24 hours #after shes been a block of ice for a whole year. and clem just melted those walls down immediately while they fought walkers together #violet is so devoted to clem post ep1 its embarrassing for her #'i saw she had you pinned and i- shit i got So crazy...' sorry if you dont think shes in love with clem idk what to tell you #'i'll tear that boat apart before we leave without you' i know you would girlie!!!#the animators went CRAAZAYAYAYAY the way they look at each other... their little smiles at each other....even before the belltower #the way clem looks at her while they dance.... the way she puts her head down on her shoulder so contentedly....#and then she keeps her head on violets shoulder as she pulls away so clems chin gets dragged with it like she doesnt want to let go #'so you never forget that night' 'i never will' they are DISGUSTINGLY in love with each other it makes me physically ill #its 2024 and im still hearing 'i just didnt see it :/'. lazerbeams you #spaced art 2024

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eve-cower · 16 days

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Sans has reach on you.

IJAG Sans belongs to @htsan

Clean ver

#ramble here #im not usually draw ijag because whenever i draw him that will make me cry #but this... im actually drawing him. which it was my second/? time drawing ijag bcs the first one was came from his birthday.#im drawing him while im at worse mental. emotionless feeling. i rarely draw sans for quite long time this month bcs of stress burn out #sans personal drawing i mean. drawing sans that makes me happy whenever im drawing him. thats what i meant #but seeing this back again.. now i feel like i want to cry #i have no idea why i draw him reaching in me. i have no reason why i draw him that so suddenly #and seeing this actually helps me to feel better.. not happy #at least.. that makes me feel relief. makes me feel less stress. just want to see him #eve cower art #ijag!sans #he is sans.. sans undertale.#i love him #after done this drawing i just realized that i should've draw him using his casual outfit #so it feels like he's coming back only want to see us #i dont have time to revise him so i'll let it pass

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lelelego · 10 months

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he says, it's mine to give, but it's yours to choose you're gonna sink or swim, you're gonna learn the truth

no matter what you do you're gonna learn the truth

#fallout #fallout new vegas #courier six #i've had this on the backburner for a while and now its out because i want a new banner. LOL #moray eels aren't his symbolism animal but they are representative of Something #this illus is me getting feelings out about eli finding clarity about himself after getting killed and coming back to life #he was stuck in a rut about something and after this... let's say he gets new perspectives about it #original #oc: eli #doodly thingy #fallout tag #me weaving insane shit in my head about my oc in a fallout game: i can tag this as fallout right. right? right

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giantkillerjack · 8 months

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I saw a post complaining about people acting like Betty is some kind of poor little girl taken advantage of by her situation. And while I haven't seen this happening myself, it does make me laugh to think about because like,

Ma'am, that woman nearly killed everyone in the world *TWICE* trying to save her husband, INCLUDING TRYING TO MURDER ICE KING.

That woman has a body count that nobody asked her to make! She is just! So good! At crimes!! And we love that for her!!!

#girlboss #golbboss #God-Forbid-Women-Do-Anything

#betty grof #original #hey babe what if we took turns being Twisted into beings of Madness beyond our recognition and then changed again???#hey babe let's explore the horror of changing into something even less familiar after that #hey babe how come you're the one who's less recognizable to yourself when you changed back into you while i became chaos?#hey babe why are you crying? babe?#petrigrof #simon petrikov #at #fionna and cake #fionna and cake spoilers #adventure time #let this woman destroy the fabric of reality GAWD #That's what I call fake feminism #oh you're pro-choice?? but do you support a woman's right to choose THE DEVOURING OF WORLDS??? No? I didn't think so you faker.#I support women in STEM.#I support LISTENING TO WOMEN (about their right to fucking merc a motherfucker)#i genuinely adore the flaws in Betty's character. i think she is so fantastically written.#like you wanna talk the opposite of a passive perfect bland female character you gotta talk about Betty Grof #the cw could NEVER #the mcu would sooner DIE #also we have the same taste in twinks #oh he's nerdy and clumsy and mentally ill and kind to children and funny?? i would like to see him in Situations.#[gestures emphatically at my agender any-pronouns wife that i adore]

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halfagone · 1 year

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I see your vivisection/dissection fics. I see your Identity Reveal Gone Wrong fics. And I offer you: Fenton parents who can accept that their son and Phantom are one and the same, but don't like the fact that he's a hero. Look at his grades, they're atrocious! He doesn't have a sleep schedule to speak of. Heroism is dangerous, what would he have done if they'd actually gotten him? At the end of the day, he's still their baby boy after all.

It doesn't matter that Danny is Phantom. But the Fenton parents are willing to do whatever it takes to stop him from being a hero.

#dpxdc #this is part of this whole au i'd come up with #where the fenton parents practically trap danny in his own home #and refuse to let him come out #while amity park is being overrun with ghosts #because they refuse to let him continue with heroics #and it gets so bad that the justice league get involved #eventually they ask about phantom #because really #this seems like something he would have handled by now #and they brush the league off #at first the heroes think it's because the fentons are back at it again #with their diatribe about ghosts #only to find out they have their son #aka phantom #locked in a ecto-proof bubble down in the basement #because he's still their baby boy after all :)

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monarchisms · 2 months

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she doka on my kingdom til i pon 🏰

#matt bragg #axialmatt #chibidoki #ray narvaez jr #nagzz21 #10% of the reason i drew these was just for this caption #man................#coming back to drawing after a while is really nice #but the period of not finishing any drawing at all sucked sooo bad man #life has gotten so busy and i'm just mentally checked out #so i forced myself to make progress this past week #and these lil icons turned out much better than i expected #now let's see if i can keep this momentum up for a bit longer #e's art

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italeteller · 2 months

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I love Undead Unluck and genuinely think if it stays course it will end up being one of the greatest shonen manga of all time, but fuck me I wish some arcs were a couple chapters longer

#Das OP #undead unluck #it's particularly noticeable after chapter 132 #I know it's likely the fear that the axe will come back #but damn tozuka give us a couple extra chapters per arc this shit is fire let us enjoy it a while longer

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giurochedadomani · 6 months

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@taroschain

Obsessed with this, because, what if it happens this way? Romance dawn trio getting together because some teacher wanted to do a group project and they were the three kids that no one wanted in their group so Luffy says: mine 😁 and convinces them to stick together? (Luffy had already counted Zoro as his bestie since he saw him throwing hands with helmeppo to defend a little girl and Zoro's reluctantly warming up to this goofy, little, talkative, hyperactive, 'troublesome' new kid. Nami's trying to do the project alone right until the very last moment due to --Arlong drama--)

And this project is special! It's for the local newspaper, it's a children literary contest! Helmeppo had already talked with his daddy, one of the teachers, to be the winner with koby, but aaaaah. At the last moment Garp intervenes, not realising that he's giving the victory to Luffy's group until it's too late.

Hence their little 'why is the bettle the most free animal in the planet', with wonderful illustrations, ends up being printed in the local newspaper.

(and well. Now Mihawk has the perfect excuse to show up in Shanks' place. Not that he's been thinking about it since they stumbled upon each other last time Garp called zoro and luffy to his office)

#Mishanks #Zolu #roronoa zoro #monkey d. luffy #akagami no shanks #dracule mihawk #One piece #One piece live action #Opla #I'm thinking maybe the oro jackson is a bar #And Shanks has come back to town and is now helping the actual owner (makino) after losing his arm #Because Mihawk needs to make Incorrect Assumptions and be sad for a little while #And also I'm just picturing the split second in which Mihawk. Hesitates #After giving shanks the newspaper piece #That lets shanks know that Mihawk wanted to catch up with him #That it isn't just about the newspaper and their kids #Not that Mihawk is actually going to admit it

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dazais-guardian-angel · 6 days

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Okay but forreal, now more than ever I desperately NEED Aya to eventually wreck Fyodor's shit somehow. I already wanted her to get her revenge before, but I didn't think Fyodor would even remember or know who she was, and would massively underestimate her for that reason (just like Jouno knew that Fukuchi would underestimate her). But now the story has instead created this twisted, fucked-up dynamic between them, where Fyodor not only knows her, but is protective of her for reasons that are not his own: he has taken the pure, noble, kind, fatherly love motivating Bram to protect Aya and warped it into something horrific, vowing to protect her body only while not caring how much her heart and mind has been scarred, and claiming to be doing it for her own salvation, when he cannot possibly understand the selfless feelings Bram had that made him want to protect her and care for her — feelings that he does not have. He may genuinely have some sort of affection for children (the way he treated Karma, "blessings for the children", this), but it is twisted and hollow and is quite possibly only him unconsciously acting out the motions due to behavior instilled in him from the feelings of all the people he's subsumed in the past.

All this is to say that, now the narrative has specifically pitted Aya and Fyodor together as direct enemies: she not only had reason already to hate him because he killed Bram, but because he's also taken Bram's love for her and defiled it, dishonored it and him and all that he was; meanwhile, Fyodor has given himself an arch nemesis that he no doubt takes great pleasure in seeing how much she hates him/how much despair he's brought her, but paradoxically at the same time feels a compulsion to "protect" her that draws himself to her and that he can't ignore. Aya has to defeat him somehow (not permanently, mind you; Dazai will undoubtedly be his final end), and the setup for Bram being able to fight back enough to stop Fyodor from the inside with her help is all right there, too. Their love for each other is still enduring, stronger than ever, Fyodor is proof of that right now, and they will be able to defeat him together, at least enough that Bram can be freed and come back to Aya. Dazai told Fyodor that he would lose because he doesn't understand and underestimates the power of friendship bonds and love, and there is no better a time for that to happen than here, when he is literally using someone's strong love for and connection with someone (acting as that person and claiming to know how they feel and to be the same as them) in a way that he cannot understand, which will be his undoing.

#bungou stray dogs #bsd 115 #bsd spoilers #bsd 115 spoilers #this post brought to you by me spamming two steps from hell songs because i need to be hyped up and to feel something #the lyrics to 'star sky' are very bsd (especially right now) okay just listen to it #anyway aya is gonna fuck fyodor up i see the vision LET ME COOOOOK #I SEE ASAGIRI'S COOKING AND I'M STIRRING THE POT #PICKING UP WHAT HE'S PUTTING DOWN #BOY THAT WHOLE PART MADE ME FEEL LITERALLY ILL AND WANTING TO KMS BUT THE PAYOFF IS GONNA BE SO GOOD JUST WATCH #i had the copium after last chapter but IT'S FORMING NOW WE SEEING IT COMING TOGETHER TRUST #GIVING FYODOR AND AYA A TOXIC FUCKED UP FATHER DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP OOOHHHH............ PURE EVIL BUT I'LL GLADLY BE SICK FOR A WHILE #IF IT MEANS THE REUNION AND RAT SMACKDOWN IS ALL THE MORE SATISFYING!!!!!!!!!!#AYA AND BRAM GET HIS ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS #THAT RAT BASTARD COULDN'T RECOGNIZE A LOVING PARENT CHILD RELATIONSHIP IF IT HIT HIM IN THE FACE #(narrator: this statement would come back to haunt her)#HOW DARE YOU STAND WHERE HE STOOD AND TRY TO BE HIM!!!!!!!! YOU WILL NEVER!!!!!!!!!!#BRAM'S LOVE FOR HER IS STILL IN THERE AND I'M MORE THAN A LITTLE EMOTIONAL OVER IT #HE'S GONNA COME BACK SHE'S GONNA FUCK FYODOR UP THEY'RE GONNA DO IT TOGETHER WITH THE POWER OF LOVE BABYYYYYY #*kingdom hearts 3 woody voice* because hE KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT HEARTS AND LOVE!!!!!!!!

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yasmeensh · 1 year

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Finally got to paint something a little more proper for my project. Paleolithic kids see a dragon come down from the sky 🐉

a few more doodles of my OCs Tam Kujo below >>

drew this one in the span of three days during class time :p. A few lines here and there while I wait for the prof to set up the slides and start the class. Kept going until I felt like not adding anymore.

two more

#personal project #OCs #stone age project #paleolithic #neanderthal #I don't know what to tag this project tbh #Tam and Kujo #I can't believe I've settled for final names #but believe it or not.... no final story #my google docs is full of story ideas that I can't commit to #I can't decide on one and make it the fate of this project!!!!#There are so many alternatives!!! So many things that COULD be done #so I decided to forget about having a concrete storyline and just get back to drawing fun things that spark my imagination #I find myself getting more ideas while I'm drawing #I'm drawing the mountain and then I think ah... there will be a very mysterious cave here. yes #I'll probably need to continue writing different ideas until I find one that sticks for a very very long time #ALSO THE NINTENDO DIRECT?#I couldn't breathe after #I had class right after the direct and i couldn't focus #totk is coming lets goooooooo

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forthesapphicsonly · 7 months

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Multiverse of madness

Peggy: *waking up* what?

You: oh, hey. Welcome back

Peggy: *looks around, sees the other members of the illuminati unconscious but intact. And alive. She puts her hands on her stomach, where she clearly felt the shield cutting her in half* How? who are you?

you: Wanda's girlfriend. Not that she knows yet *pouts*

Peggy just looks at you confused

you: I just go around undoing the things she does. She kills people, I bring people back. *you lean closer to her whispering in her ear* so she doesn't feel so guilty later. Not that she knows…yet.

Peggy: why not just stop her?

you: Stop? Wanda? Oh no, darling, it's impossible. Nobody stops Wanda, she needs to figure things out for herself. *you laugh* Stop her, funny. Anyway, nice to meet you. I really appreciate you more than Steve. I'm going now, they'll be fine *you wave to the other members as you leaves*

Carter just watches you walk away processing things. You understand. Coming back from the dead has this effect

#because I love peggy carter and i can't just let her die like that #i'm also supports wandas wrongs #you know #as a good girlfriend.#I would totally go after her cleaning up her mess while I wait for her to come to her senses #no one in the MCU is mentally stable and we know #dr strange multiverse of madness #wanda maximoff #peggy carter #marvel incorrect quotes #I'M BACK BITCHES #wanda maximoff x reader #reader insert #captain carter

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zappedbyzabka · 4 months

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