#lack of discipline

[exiledintoascension]

3 reasons to do this

Heir to success. If the child becomes successful in adulthood, he/she could be your retirement plan...or maybe a portion of this.

Could be the difference maker between the child helping or destroying the family.

Impart bloodline items to the niece/nephew

Reasons to NOT do this

No consequences for the single mother. Just another free ride with no accountability. Thus, giving her the leeway to do it again.

Sorry ass children may not want to listen to you.

Fradulent use of money gifts (give money to the kids, the mother will just take it for stupid purchases.)

Still connected with her baby daddies (Usually the case 70% of the time)

If baby daddy is of the Pookie/RayRay/Brad mindset, rest assured they are connected with people of similar mindset, thus, having your life in danger.

Her Close family members will see you as an Attack dog and ATM.

False Allegations regarding anything.

In theory, this would be a decent idea, depending on the family dynamics and the single mother's mental space. In opinion, this works in the 1980's and 1990s. For current times, the cost-benefits analysis does not favor men in this. You did not help create the child, so, you should not be obligated (forced by society or family) to aid the single mother (family relatives or random women)

#critical thinking #meditation #mental health #single mom #books #old school #the communitah #fuck around and find out #lack of discipline #liberty #learning #mob culture #modern women #drizzledrizzle #you get what you fucking deserve #internet #Youtube

[world-prayers]

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[metalomagnetic]

I just realised I forgot to include a pretty important scene in my last update of 'It runs in the blood'.

I guess this is what happens when I write without structure or drafts or too many plans, thinking 'I'll remember to add that when the time comes'.

Well, I didn't remember.

I don't know how I'll get myself out of this one 😂

#writing troubles #when the author doesn't get enough sleep #when the author lacks discipline #it runs in the blood

[scintillyyy]

anyways, i definitely agree with the need for fandom to treat child characters as the children they are meant to be & be far more understanding of that which can be explained by their age, but it is also very interesting to me that this shift in mindset aligns almost completely with the diluted parenting influencer friendly version of. hm. explaining why the behavior is the way it is in a way that focuses on the incapability of children given their age whereas the science itself on that all of those explanations/reasoning for why behavior is the way it is is actually meant to be utilized and focused in on then working with the age-appropriate *capabilities* of the child in question.

like. okay, so. a Lot of the ideas behind understanding children's brains and working with the understanding of the child's brain come from dan siegel (a psychiatrist who focuses on the neuroscience of the development of the human brain through their life and the need to understanding how the human brain integrates as it ages to be able to understand the why of childhood behaviors and brain development to be able to manage them) and magda gerber (a child development expert who pioneered RIE & the idea of respecful care for the infant and young children by childhood educators, who janet lansbury, a former actress and educator has taken her tenets and since evolved into them into idea of respectful parenting and the push towards there are no bad kids, just infants, toddlers, and kids who experience normal, age appropriate behaviors). and these people's works are fascinating (even if i don't wholly & completely agree with any one philosophy myself) & are generally the go-to pop psychology when it comes to understanding why kids are the way they are. the things about "oh, x character is only y age and is reacting as a child would because they have the brain of a child & are still learning how the world works" absolutely comes from the base concepts of these people's work! and that's a very good thing! greater understanding of kids in fiction is my jam.

but, like. the pop psychology version of these ideas that are spread by parenting influencers & eli5 articles like a game of telephone until it hardly resembles the original spirit of the science is super rampant & is basically diluted down to mainly trying to tamp down personal *frustration* with the behavior in question by recognizing where it's coming from (ie/ they are a child and you have to recognize the limitations/incapabilites of the child to get rid of your personal upsetness about it) & an extreme focus on how *you* can manage *yourself* and *your reaction* to the behavior because they are selling something to you. the focus is on you having to manage the child's incapabilites.

however, that's not the spirit of the actual science they they were laying down. honestly the very work itself often does acknowledge & affirm parental frustration with challenging behaviors & and doesn't diminish the very real feelings behavior provokes. it's not about "well don't be frustrated because they're kids & kids are going to be kids" (after all, diminishing or ignoring your own feelings is exactly antithetical to what you're trying to teach them about not diminishing their own feelings), it's about "we know the behavior is frustrating so here's how you can use your kids' age level capabilities to reduce the frustrating behavior". the work is about parenting modeling behavior to teach kids how to exist in the world, yes, but it's most definitely not about how kids are incapable because of their age or what they can't do. the science itself is incredibly focused on what they *can* do and how you can model your behavior & teach them in a way they will be able to learn from! the entire point is recognizing their innate ability to learn, you just have to teach them in a way they're able to learn from! the point of recognizing the limitations of age/the current state of the child's brain development is not to dismiss the frustrating behavior as just to be expected for their age, it's so that you know how to connect with what they can understand and do to help manage the unwanted behavior. it's a small distinction, but it's there. to me.

#sorry i'm just thinking #like there's a lot of 'remember they're a child' ! #and that's great but that's like. only a small part of what it's all actually about #idk. #anyways. you should actually read the whole brain child by dan siegel before you start using his ideas. #magda i got u and ur 'lack of discipline is not kindness it is neglect' #anyways i do think fandom does need to work on hey remember they're a child #but. idk the focus on the incapabilites 'they can't know or do this they're a child' is somewhat against what the point is #which is 'what can they do then & how do we work with that'

[garuye]

I'd like to get to a point where I can draw again and not be completely overwhelmed or underwhelmed by the attempt. I guess I'm just in a messed up place mentally, I miss drawing but any time I sit down to do it, it. Doesn't happen.

#it's a lack of discipline I know #everyone has art blocks and you have to make active efforts to push through them #but with work eating up most of my day and my meager social life and the video game that's #much easier to play than art is to draw #think the depression is winning this one #if you read this thank u for listening and sorry for venting on your dash #I wanna have art to share but I just do not #maybe just maybe I'll start trying harder again soon

[unopenablebox]

i'm fighting demons but the demon is making biweekly posts about how perfect 🌸 is

#i hear your objection but right now those posts are weekly at MOST. #girlfriend tag #box opener #does everyone else have really good impulse control to only say things online that have content or are interesting #or is the intense degree of my interest in and emotional responses to my girlfriend itself some kind of weird problem unique to me #they're just. so charming and great. yesterday i got really excited #because after about two hours of being apart i walked to the location where i had arranged to meet them #and they were there‚ in the location. #not like doing anything. we didn't have plans. they were wearing a jacket? and sitting on a ledge swinging their legs cutely? #but i also sometimes get that excited if they're just standing still and not wearing a jacket. so idk. #i know other people have blogs and also partners they like! am i just discovering that i lack the facet of self-discipline that everyone #else uses to avoid inventing the tumblr version of a wife guy

[onlyfangz]

it's actually so insidious how insomnia can disrupt and ruin your life and we're all expected to just pretend like it's normal and not worthy of accommodations just bc its not an uncommon disorder.

ive lost nearly a week of valuable study time because im playing sleep catch-up. i havent hoovered in so long because you cant do that at 3am without being a dick. i cant hold down a job properly bc there isnt a guarantee ill be awake in time for my shift, and if i am, im exhausted and prone to mistakes.

i'm on 9mg of melatonin per night. ive been on melatonin since i was 11. ive tried every tip and trick under the sun. i cut caffeine, screens, i meditated, i counted sheep, i tried every dumb sleep remedy every tom, dick, and harry could throw at me, nothing works. it's just not treatable, i was even like this as an infant.

ive been sleep-exhausted my entire life, how is that not considered a disability??

#charlie.txt #insomnia #hint: its bc people think insomnia is a lack of discipline

[bride-ofquiet]

been writing a fic in my brain for weeks now “have you put any of it on paper” on the paper in my brain

#fixed the ‘lacks inspiration’ part now i just gotta solve ‘lacks discipline’ #and then maybe you get one more stevebucky outta me! #h.txt

[objectssolitaryandterrible]

i feel like a gigantic loser at the moment. and like a ridiculous and useless sort of person. when i get this way, i like to think about the professor who reached out to me after i dropped out of this college. a typical compliment from a professor i guess but it really moved me--continues to move me.

#not my queer lit professor #this one was a poet and a very intimidating person honestly... #but i'm afraid my 'strangeness' is now turning to ugliness #because of severe mental illness symptoms / financial instability / lack of discipline / complacency #'you must take care of it' i will try.

[johnslittlespoon]

i’m dead at ur pet play disclaimer cause i meant metaphorical leashes 😭😭😭😭😭😭

I'M SCREAMINGGG the way i even read it three times and i was like... i think... they mean actual leashes DUDE I'M SO SORRY LMFAO

tbf i've already mentioned leash–related stuff with buckbucky so it wasn't too far of a stretch for me LOL i more so put the disclaimer because i was a little bit worried i'd get asks trying to delve further into pet play because of the usage of collars/leashes so i was trying to nip it in the bud before anyone got a chance HSDJGHS

#my deepest condolences anon #if it helps i've got at least six more curtgalejohn asks some of which involve discipline #so you will get some non–leash related content LOL #i'm still fucking giggling i'm so sorry i'm blaming it on lack of sleep okay #johnslittlespoon asks #johnslittlespoon spicy

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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#it's an old frustration. an old pattern of thought. #i just feel that i have a brain that doesn't hold information. that lacks the discipline to gain knowledge. that is incapable of deeper #thought. and i cant teel you how maddening that is. to sit in a room and listen to other people discuss a paper you read in depth 5 times #like it's the 1st time you ever heard anything about it. how is that possible? how do i work with that? i read and nothing sticks. #nothing stays with me. how??? i was talking to a prof recently who ive heard is hard on her students with disability accommodation. and she #was saying how she doesnt see these things as a disability. how we're just different not disabled. ive heard the phrase differently abled #a lot of times. and i get what she's saying. i do. ad i get why she's hard on them. she wants to push them. but there comes a point where #you are quote unquote differently abled and you run into a wall that other people dont have. then what are you supposed to do? work harder? #but what if that doesn't help? what if that just compounds the hurt that's always been there? what if that leaches away all the wonder? what #then? at what point does a thing become too much of a barrier? i think there's a reason i dont run into many other dyslexic grad student. #everyone has adhd. it's a place where those with adhd prosper. but dyslexia not so much. at least not with the level of hanicap i have #and everyone's really nice. they want to help. but there's nothing anyone can do for me at this stage. it's up to me to compensate for my #leaky head. and i kno im not stupid. ive got a piece of paper stating my iq is above average after correcting for uneven intelligence. but #i dont feel very smart most of the time. i feel more like my uncorrected iq score that comes out at just below average even with me trying #my very best. iq is bullshit but there's something to be said for that gap. im smart if unconstrained by language and time. but were bound #by language and we're bound by time so what am i supposed to do? is there anything i can do? im stuck with this forever. theres no getting #better or making it easier. my brain is wired in a way that gives me the reading skills of a child. forever. and i just have to accept that #and im trying to swallow around that idea easier because the only other option is to choke on it. but maybe i chose the wrong career path. #one of my lab mates said she wants challenges all the time and ive chosen a path that's challenges all the time but im jsut trying to do #what everyone else can without a second thought. it's deeply demoralizing. yet here i am. trying to be easier abt it. #maybe im just nit cut out for this. doing a job im not built for. #unrelated

[girldewar]

this assignment for my lit class is to come up with like, interview questions? for a character from one of our novels and i'm having such a hard time using my literary analysis brain instead of my 'wow that game was crazy you guys took five penalties in one period -- how do you guys keep your heads when there's so much happening on the ice like that? and to score three goals while all of that is happening too' brain

#this assignment: please ask about specific narratively relevant events #me: your marriage seems to be falling apart -- how would you say your lack of penalty discipline is affecting your relationship? #bees speaks

[thenightmareinyourcloset]

Yknow what constantly occupies my mind..how much better would I be if I had discipline? Smarter? Skinnier?

#just a thought #I really lack discipline

[vermillioncrown]

at the risk of sounding butthurt for talking about not being butthurt: going through quals really prepared me for trawling through fandom meta and research while keeping my zen

#redglyphs #opinionated verm #i have not seen another fandom as salty and divisive as the dc one #all the interesting meta and summaries come with this implicit ''you illiterate idiot'' vibe (exhausting) #or the ''we do what we want and fuck canon'' mindset is taken to the extreme end (simplistic and lacking nuance) #personally the visual style of a lot of western comics grates at me so it's hard to get into #but i do like the wack and fucked up dynamics of canon + trying to imagine a world/chronology around that #i like calibrating what i write around canon -> thus those meta&summary posters are very valuable and interesting to keep up with #i just gotta do 🙈 whenever they start to lambaste ''''fans'''' for not reading the comics/despised fanon reinterpretations of characters #''mmhmm yep. okay okay. i'm stupid. but let's get to why my blorbo is so fucked up bc of [whatever issue/run]'' #like whatever they say they cannot roast me as hard as this one prof from my quals panel did #that prof is basically the successor of the academic lineage that established his discipline #and man utterly destroyed me during the exam #''you have no idea what you're talking about; you didn't even read taylor's hypothesis from 1941'' and i just let my soul evaporate lmao #anyways. i feel like fandom (all fandom and esp ones w sprawling canons) would benefit from two things: #1) willingness to learn (you gotta try to absorb some of the canon to transform it; ''know the rules to break them'') #2) willingness to accept limits (ppl are allowed to pick and choose; ''you gotta tolerate other ppl on the playground'') #and like. fucking chill out. we're all literally writing about some fictional dudes doing fictional things #rarely is a thing you dislike actually harmful rather than just distasteful (to you personally or broadly w/e)

[rotisseries]

saw a tiktok yesterday of someone's "unpopular st opinions" and the very first one was "max takes lucas for granted" and I'm still seething about it YOU'RE SO FUCKING STUPID AKNNCNZMBMZMXNXNXKXOS FUCK YOU

#IT'S AN “UNPOPULAR OPINION” BC YOU LACK MEDIA LITERACY #they were also clearly a b*lly stan bc a. one of the other “opinions” was that the scene with neil was abuse‚ not discipline #which is something only b*lly stans think is an unpopular opinion #and also they had him as a pfp and their url was something about dacre montgomery idk #stranger things #max mayfield #byler #<- hi guys just like talking to you