#it sucks bc i used to have twitter for this. & used to actually get help there in the days before e|0.n. but w the way the site is now…

[thedroloisms]

just an essay bc it's been on my mind but the way that victimhood becomes a weapon on social media is so fucking stupid and counterintuitive to actual advocacy. people wielding "im a victim" as a defense not only in situations actually involving their specific case but also in basically every damn situation in the world is so ???? even in cases involving dream, for example, i will see people using his history as a means of defending him (it's really fucked up that you would accuse a victim of ___, he's an abuse victim i'm sure he won't defend ___ and that he'll ___) and while i understand where that sentiment comes from, the base assumption it's making is...nakedly untrue. and assuming its truthfulness can hurt victims moreso than it helps them.

being a victim isn't moralizing. being a victim doesn't make you a good person. suffering isn't absolution, and going through fucked up shit doesn't make someone "good." people equate abuser = bad person and victim = good person, and then assume that victims are incapable of abusive behavior or "problematic" internalized ideas. an abuser can't be neurodivergent, or mentally ill, or part of a marginalized group, and most importantly an abuser can't be a victim. the boxes of victim and abuser are strictly defined with no overlap. once you've been through something truly, verifiably, Fucked Up (tm), congrats! you get a certificate of eternal victimhood that prevents you from ever being a Real Bad Person ever for the rest of your life.

only that's not how real life works! it's just not! generational trauma leads to cycles of abuse that perpetuate themselves over whole generations of people! the kids that think that it's perfectly fine and a-okay for a parent to physically punish their children don't tend to be the ones with parents that don't lay a finger on them! and you know, it sucks. it sucks that you get nothing out of being hurt, that there's no fucking prize, that there are no suffering vouchers for you to cash in because of the abuse you suffered that can give you good-person-points. it sucks to endure all that shit for nothing. but the opposite idea of suffering making you a good person is the exact reason why some people preach about the miles they walked to school in the driving rain to excuse taking out their shitty temper on their small children.

being abused generally doesn't make one "better." if anything, trauma tends to fuck you up in ways that hurt you...and others. going through shit tends to make people worse. working to get better is something that requires actual conscious effort, not something that you are given as a side effect of going through hell. over and over again, traumatized individuals who are made to feel powerless and given little freedom and ability to change their circumstances, when in a situation where they are given power to some degree over some person, may choose to abuse that power while they're in their own abusive situation or after. part of being a victim of abuse often means having a distorted view of the abuse you've been through! it can mean normalizing fucked up behavior! looking at shit and treating it lightly because you've been taught that it's "not that bad," if you've been taught that it's bad at all! victims aren't granted perfect ideologies from god because they walked through flames--cult survivors usually have to unlearn all sorts of messed up beliefs that were drilled into them--beliefs that many people on twitter would then damn them for, because obviously if you've thought something like that in the past then you're a bigoted hateful individual.

i can only speak from my own experience, but i can't fucking count the number of people i've heard of or met or known personally who have been through some kind of trauma in the past, who are undoubtably victims of abuse, who then go on to act in toxic, manipulative, and abusive ways to others. oftentimes, these people are aware of the fact that they were in abusive situations in the past and make quite a big deal about the fact that they care about victims, as a victim, and want to advocate for them. they're the same people who react extremely negatively to anyone alluding to the idea that they could be abusive--they're not like that, they've been abused, how could anyone accuse them of abusing another person, don't they know how much that hurts with their history. and so on and so forth.

and...i have a lot of sympathy for these individuals, generally speaking. because as mentioned above, being abused in the past doesn't necessarily make it harder for you to be a perpetrator in the future. sometimes--oftentimes, even--it's the opposite. and i feel for them, because going through trauma and being hurt makes you scramble for ways to not be hurt again, and oftentimes the easiest answer for that (and the ways of solving problems as modeled to them in the past!) is control, and controlling another party can very easily slip into manipulative, abusive behavior. especially if you still have internalized ideas mixed in with the fear that surviving abuse entails, internalized ideas that are often left unexamined by people who believe that their victimhood absolves them from any further responsibility. i feel for people who are deathly afraid of ever being seen as terrible people, oftentimes because of the shit that they went through, who seek explanations for their abusers' behavior that make it so much easier to simplify the matter into "they're something separate from me, something that i can never become." i sympathize with the anger and fear and frustration and grief that might never had had a healthy outlet while in a past situation that ends up poured out into places where it shouldn't be in the present, i sympathize with the desire to find reason in being hurt where it doesn't exist, to want there to be something to make the whole damn thing worth it instead of having nothing to take with you but your pain.

but at the end of the day, that's not how life works. that's not how abuse works. yeah, there are abusers who are cruel for cruelty's sake, who are aware of the harm they do and desire to cause more--and there are just as many who genuinely believe that they're doing the right thing, that they're doing good, that they care for the one that they're hurting unselfishly and wholeheartedly. there are many, many people who hurt others because they have been hurt before, and this isn't an excuse--of course not--but refusing to acknowledge the ways that pain can perpetuate itself and blinding oneself to the possibility of their own actions ever being abusive can literally be how this pain continues. it's good to be self aware, it's good to want to do the right thing, but assuming that victims are good people because of the suffering they went through not only means that so-called "bad victims" (or anyone that's not yet Acceptably untangled the thought patterns and actions that have been normalized to them, or anyone who lashes out in quote-unquote appropriate ways as judged by whatever social media council is handing out social justice tickets for the week) get overlooked and ignored, but abusive patterns of behavior are allowed to continue to exist, just in a repackaged form with different language. it's not fair to victims to nail them to this standard of so-called righteousness that is also inextricably connected to their experiences, allowed to be revoked if they're too "abuser" to be "victim" anymore, or to overlook the victims of their behavior because their inherent suffering-borne righteousness keeps them from crossing the line into bad behavior.

at the end of the day, no one deserves abuse, victims deserve to be advocated for, and people who have been through horrific shit didn't deserve to go through horrific shit. but you don't get handed get-out-of-jail-free cards for being treated badly, you know?

#abuse #like ugh it's complicated #but i need people to stop using victimhood as a catchall excuse #and this isn't criticism of like. dr eam btw #who really hasn't ever used anything re: his experiences as an excuse as far as i can remember #it's one thing to say that 'these situations affected my actions' which is half of what this essay is abt #because yeah. going through shit affects your actions ... and not always for the better. #now the other ccs whose opinions ive been unwillingly subjected to over the last few weeks ? lol. lmao. #like look this idea of victimhood earning anyone anything is inherently damaging and completely untrue #sympathy and understanding extended towards abuse victims shouldn't be dependent on the morality points that they falsely earn #as a result of going through fucked up shit

[filmbyjy]

TWITTER SUCKS! > twenty-four! is that ENHYPEN?

synopsis > who knew you could become famous overnight for paying $8 for a single blue checkmark? however, it does come with consequences…what happens when the actual BELIFT Lab comes knocking at your door. all because you simply impersonated your bias.

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a/n: this is a small filler written chapter but it’s as important for the story bc this has y/n’s background story and stuff so yeah👍🏻

ENHYPEN were like saviours of your life you’d say. you found them at the lowest point of your life. you started college when ENHYPEN first debuted. you also so happen to have broken up with your ex-boyfriend, who was also your childhood sweetheart.

— placing this so the read more doesn’t mess up —

you caught him cheating on you after dating for a total of 4 years. you thought he would be the one. clearly that was a joke. who knew he was capable of cheating on you? to explain, your ex-boyfriend was a typical nerdy guy with glasses. you gave him a chance because you knew guys like this wouldn’t hurt you. clearly, you thought wrong.

subin was the first to know about this since you didn’t get to know Mae when you were still a freshman. she had comforted you a lot, seen you at your worst as you cried on her shoulder. complained about how you shouldn’t have given the nerd a chance. to which subin just said that ‘not all nerds are like this, rather the idiot you dated got too cocky thinking he could get with anyone he wanted.’

subin knew you needed a distraction so she decided to introduce you to ENHYPEN. she watched I-LAND so she knew them before. she thought that maybe they were the best group you could be introduced to.

“here, these are the k-pop boys I listen to. this is jay, jake, sunghoon. oh and that’s-”

“who is that?” your eyes caught with a particular doe eyes. it reminded you a lot of your ex but he was way prettier and definitely way more hotter.

“that’s heeseung. oh! unnie, he is the same age as you.”

“heeseung…”

“wanna listen to their debut album? oh right and did you know they are vampires?”

you were thankful for subin for introducing ENHYPEN. their songs helped you get over your ex. their content always made you smile and laugh and you eventually started to call yourself an ENGENE because you wanted to support them.

one day, you bumped into Mae. she was intimidating at first but when her earpiece accidentally unplugged and you heard a familiar song play, you uttered…

“is that ENHYPEN?”

the rest was history between you and mae.

to bring it back to current situation with heeseung…

you knew dating an idol wasn’t the best ideal situation. moreover, it’s an idol you admire. you thought you were insane to think you’ve fallen for him because what if you were delusional. what if heeseung just flirted with you the way he did with other fans. it was probably just fan service.

when mae said you were in love with heeseung, your whole world came crashing down. no, there was no way you were in love with him. you had to back off, you can’t fall for him. not when you were a broken record. you can’t let heeseung’s reputation get tainted by some girl who got cheated on.

his fans would’ve loved for him to date someone pure, beautiful and amazing. you weren’t any of those. you were bawling your eyes out. hands shaking to pick up your ringing phone.

your voice quivered, “mae, can you come over?”

mae came over in a heartbeat, she sent subin a text too letting her know. she comforted you as subin makes her way over. subin bursts through your dorm door, a worried look all over her face.

“hey, what’s wrong?” she says.

“(name) hasn’t told me anything yet.” mae says as she rubs your shoulder. you were in tears, weeping next to her.

“did ‘he who shall not be named’ text you?” subin asks.

you shook your head.

“(name), you need to tell us. I know it hurts to say it out loud but I promise we can help more if you tell us.” mae softly says.

“I-”

they nod and egged you further so you could finish your sentence.

“I think I love heeseung.”

both subin and mae stared at each other. they knew they had to do something. something to get you to realise maybe it isn’t so bad to date an idol. they needed help.

and maybe mae knew just the right people for it.

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(to be added please send an ask or click here)

#sad chapter again😪 #I should stop💔 #but it’s either you have sad or chaotic so… #pick one #enhypen #enhypen imagines #enhypen imagine #enhypen angst #enhypen smau #enhypen fluff #TWITTER SUCKS! #TWITTER SUCKS! smau #heeseung #heeseung imagines #heeseung imagine #heeseung angst #heeseung smau #heeseung fluff #lee heeseung #lee heeseung imagines #lee heeseung imagine #lee heeseung angst #lee heeseung smau #lee heeseung fluff #kpop #kpop smau #smau

[transenbyconfessions]

Tw // Queer infighting, slur mention, suicide bait

I’m so sick and tired of how people treat trans guys. Just guys in general.

I have a classmate who, when I first met them, was still closeted so a gay “guy” (they’re nonbinary). I was out as transmasc, still nervous about it. They hadn’t known very many trans people, but they did really well about it. We chatted occasionally, they apologized and corrected whenever they misgendered me, they put effort into not calling me ‘girl’ bc it was a filler word for them like how I use dude, gushed over my top surgery. Early on it was a lot of “ohymgosh I’m soo sorry I don’t want to offend you!!” And me going “nbd, it takes a bit to get used to! Thanks for putting effort into it :)”

And then they came out as non-binary. I was really happy for them at first, but the way they act towards me (and honestly also everyone else) has just.... gotten so much worse since then. They call people - people they’ve been friends with!! Other trans people!! - transphobic for accidentally misgendering them even when the person immediately apologizes and corrects themselves. Like I totally get being sensitive about it, but when you’ve been out for less than a month.... there’s an adjustment period. It sucks, I know, but they’re not doing it on purpose. One time I disagreed with them, I don’t even remember what it was over, it didn’t even have anything to do with gender, and they got huffy and said “I’ll post on Twitter that you’re nonbinaryphobic!” Like???? My good person I am Also Non-binary. And they always pass these things off as jokes when people call them out but like. It’s really obvious that they’re not.

Even worse, they’ve completely fallen down the “kam” hole. They talk about how “all men are shit/need to die” just.... in front of everybody!! They’ll say it straight to the faces of the guys in the department, especially the ones they know won’t say shit back. They’ve been particularly targeting one of the freshmen (a cishet guy) they’re constantly saying shit about him being “stupid worthless man” and even called him a faggot???? Like Hello what the Actual Fuck do you think you’re doing????? They’ve said shit like that to him and one of my best friends, both cishet guys, both some of the most respectful people about me being trans that I’ve ever met. It makes me so furious that I start physically shaking.

And on top of all that, whenever I try to steer the conversation or defend the guys, they start talking shit to me too. It got to the point they looked me dead in the eye and said “all men should die, and you’re a shitty man too.” Which is especially fucked because I’m not!!! Even a man!!!! And they know that!!! But transmasc is close enough to tell me to die with the rest of the men, I guess. It was such a slap in the face that I couldn’t even respond, I stare. But they went on later, chatting and acting friendly as if they hadn’t told me straight to my face they think I should be dead.

We’re going on a school trip soon, and I got roomed with them, presumably because we’re the only two trans people going. Just thinking about it makes me so nauseous, I’ve already had a panic attack over being alone with them for that much time. But I don’t feel like I can intrude on asking to switch with anybody, because I’m trans and I could make them uncomfortable. and I just can’t make myself prioritize my comfort over others. Anybody else who rooms with them will get shit too, and as another trans person, I can defend myself against the bullshit they say better because it’s all amateur radfem-lite rhetoric. And I‘m probably the only other student who knows enough about queer theory and infighting to fire back. So i guess I’m just.... the sturdiest punching bag. After everything they said about being excited to talk to me about being trans!!! After all the effort I’ve put into being the first to come out in the department and help my professors and peers not be uncomfortable and tip-toe around me being trans!!!! I feel angry and betrayed and sad and scared and it’s so, so fucked up. I can tell they’re doing this because they’re scared and angry but it’s making things so much worse. And now I’m stuck playing both damage control and emotional meatshield. I hate this, but I can’t stand by and just watch either. I’m so tired.

Submitted July 13, 2023

#trans #transgender #trans masc #transmasc #trans masculine #transmasculine #trans man #trans boy #transgender man #transgender boy #trans guy #transgender guy #ftm #afab #transphobia #misgendering #enby #nb #nonbinary #non-binary #non binary #enban #misandry #transmisandry #homophobia #f slur #slur usage

[cursedpinterest]

the thing that makes me so annoyed about pinterest is that its made up mostly of kids who were regarded as so funny in kindergarten for whatever reason and internalized that as their only personality trait and later saw tumblr screenshots and because they didn't have any actual natural humor they decided the real way to be funny is just to be insanely hostile and #random to complete strangers. if I have to see one more kid repeating the "theres a headless corpse in the dumpster behind payless" joke on random comments from people who don't care, i'm gonna explode. please. please just look into how to develop social skills. there are worksheets free online I promise its okay to use them.

part 2 of what makes pinterest annoying is that nobody on that website knows what bait is and takes everything completely seriously and at face value and has absolutely no critical thinking skills and doesn't know how to absorb information and create their own opinions based off of that, they just believe everything they're told as long as it makes a little bit of sense to them. it doesn't have to make sense in the real world (ex: people identifying as animesexual or furries demanding litter boxes in school bathrooms), it just has to be ridiculous so they can react strongly to the idea rather than the actual reality of it. its also a dangerous mindset when you get real deep into it because it means they take whatever bait they can - and that's a tactic. there's tons of people who comment stuff on tiktoks like "fat women can't pull off short skirts or crop tops" or "you can't dance i bet you can't do this provocative dance" and they take the bait so easily because they've been taught that its funny to #own bigots and idiots online, and being funny is more important being safe. its genuinely horrifying.

omg the bait thing is so real. like people just farm outrage clicks and comments to get more traction and views, you see this a lot on facebook and twitter too, like someone saying something very obviously egregious and millions of people flood the comments in a huff. or they do that thing where they're like "omg people are so stupid how do you not know that miami is the capital of florida", which is just BEGGING for people to go into the comments to correct them like "ummm actually the capital of florida is tallahassee so actually you're stupid", falling into the OP's engagement trap hook, line, and sinker. its very competitive, people don't know how to let things go, they HAVE TO correct and one-up others and feel smarter than them, even when other people have commented the same thing already. they have to let their voice be known, even if its saying the exact same thing as thousands of others. individualism at its finest.

and honestly, i get it. it's hard to pull away, see something batshit and not respond. its hard bc people on pinterest are so naïve, but that's just a symptom of having a userbase consisting of mostly older conservatives and very young teens that happen to intersect at times. it ties into whole the #owning bigots thing too, like they'd rather make fun of obviously terrible people then help or support people that are being targeted. like ok, you hate terfs. now what do you do to support trans people outside of making memes about how terfs suck? this is why that stupid harry potter game is still trending, bc people refuse to block, ignore, mute stupid terfs who are chomping at the bits for a fight and have to argue with them and make memes, which is only aggravating it's notoriety.

#and yes the whole humor thing #a group of ppl trying to be the funniest in the room is so exhausting #like theyre always going into the comments of like art or poetry and so quick to make a joke or reference a meme #like when is the last time you stepped back and consumed art deeply and unironically. quickly.

[briefcasejuice]

daredevil headcanons!

a giant list of comic, live action, etc. daredevil headcanons i've been growing in a twitter thread since april. or march, i think.

COMIC/LIVE ACTION AMBIGOUS: • matt knew all the college gossip bc of his super-hearing and he'd tell it all to foggy who'd bride people candy in exchange for gossip/rumours. • on his way from class matt would pass a fruit stand where he'd examine each strawberry for the perfect one and bring it back to the dorm for foggy. • foggy can solve a rubik's cube really fast and he's incredibly proud of it. he always eventually does it in front of a new friend & it's kind of like a functional version of the butcher story. matt used to be able to solve one really fast before he lost his sight & he continued to try solving one with the help of his powers but it never worked until foggy got him a braille one; then he got intimidatingly good at it again and foggy regrets indulging him. • matt doodles - like gibberish but for drawings? because he gets restless during late afternoons and when he's not around foggy takes them and adds his own stuff. sometimes matt will run his fingers over the ink and notice that foggy's turned his nonsense into a cat or something and take it home to stick it on his fridge just because. karen also hates it because they leave them all over the office and it gets into her files, her bag or in the pages of her books. • matt and karen use wired earbuds; foggy has airpods. • matt fucking loathes carbonated drinks. • matt loves wheat thins. • matt spouts sun tzu lore when he's drunk; foggy talks about hamilton. • in college, people thought foggy was gay but since everyone knew matt was a whore they all expected it to also extend to other gender identities. • foggy is pan; matt is bi but only 'cause he rushed to pick a label and he can't be bothered changing it. • matt has bpd.

COMIC: • matt has a bunch of weighted blankets bc the pressure blocks out external stimuli (it's canon that he filled his bathtub with water and floated in it when his senses were too sensitive as a child). • kirsten is black - matt used to straighten her hair for her because he knew the perfect temperature to get it really well done but without heat damage. • blindspot had to leave the country because he's an illegal immigrant but matt has a part of his salary set for monthly trips to wherever blindspot lives. • when matt was in prison in zdarsky’s first run he only sent and received letters from 4 people - foggy, kirsten, elektra and sam. sam (blindspot) would give him a rundown of everything happening outside the us because prison television only showed national news. • matt taps his foot to music he hears blocks away sometimes without noticing and it annoys the hell out of foggy but he doesn't tell matt to stop because it's rare that he doesn't have self control over bodily movements like that 'cause y'know - ninja stuff. • sam taught matt bits of mandarin whenever they were on breaks when he was working with matt at the da's office. • sam would tell daredevil about his day and mention how much be looks up to matt and daredevil would often go silent whenever he's talking about matt. (this is live action canon) matt sucks on his lip when he's comfortable enough in any environment to be visibly nervous. • matt and mike both doodled idly. they weren't really cool drawings, mostly just scribbles but matt was getting pretty good at drawing inanimate objects before he was blinded, now he just scribbles. mike still scribbles but at one point in high school he took an art class and actually liked it so he kind of tried enough to get 80s. he does a full fledged drawing or two every year now. nothing exciting, he drew butch this one time and someone in a waiting room another time but he still scribbles.

LIVE ACTION: • matt's laptop doesn't work all that well bc it's second hand but he knows just the perfect amount of pressure needed to make this specific key on the keyboard work just right. • matt's hair in nwh was a product of foggy and karen messing with him or that was just plain mike murdock. • foggy takes photos of matt like all the goddamn time and matt hates it & they're awful but he's conventionally attractive so they all look fine. in college foggy used to sign him up for dating sites as his Wingman™ and used some of those photos. • foggy reads fanfiction and so does matt but he only listens to what foggy recommends while foggy is the one that searches for fanfics when he gets really into some kind of fiction. • foggy set aside some of all the money he'd made in big time lawyering (in defenders and s3) for matt's therapy and first aid supplies.

masterlist -> AO3 -> part II

#ok time to start a new thread #daredevil #daredevil comics #marvel's daredevil #netflix daredevil #matt murdock #foggy nelson #karen page #kirsten mcduffie #blindspot #sam chung #mike murdock #mattfoggy #stick my head down the canon #i think those r all the characters i mention #other than elektra but i only mention her :(

[neotrances]

there’s definitely space to criticize beyonce - and i’m saying this as a palestinian - but the article was not good at all. what the bds and palestinian activists want is for the film not be shown in israel or to at least hear a declaration from her distancing the movie and her work from the country since a lot of israelis are using the movie and her music in their videos and chants - there are clips of people in the theater waving israeli flags and singing it as a national symbol of resistance. while it’s not beyoncé’s fault, the fact that her work is being appropriated by them is a fact and to ask she speak out at the very least to distance her artistry from zionism and anti-palestinian discourse. by talking about her uncle and the release of the film and it’s relation to aids it ends up completely taking away from what most people have had an issue with and redirecting to something completely unrelated. the article sucks ass. it feels like they wanted to criticize her and used palestine as an add-on, it’s written with no nuance about either issue.

exactly and it’s ugly that israelis are using songs about celebrating blackness and queer identity for their ugly ass occupation but they feel the ability to do so BC of her silence which is what ppl need to direct their criticism towards instead of random shit like the article was doing her making a statement publically is the bare minimum, bc unfortunately she no longer owns distribution of the film which is why i was saying earlier we need a general amc boycott bc they own distribution which is why it’s even playing there but if she atleast said anything about it it would send a clear message, its just irritating that ppl keep making up things to get angry at instead of her direct inaction bc it takes away from the point and someone on twitter said it as well but it’s a distraction to discuss petty shit like not showing enough xyz of her family in the movie instead of boosting more ways to help gaza and directly asking certain celebs to speak out, i feel like the buzz around stupid critiques generally drowns the actually sensible ones and makes it harder for everybody

#✉️

[sovpologist]

something that’s been on my mind with all the recent twitter stuff is how it sucks that twitter is so important to bungie news/dev interaction. i don’t want to use twitter, i think the twitter d2 fanbase is a toxic cesspool, but i basically have to use it or i’m missing out on dev updates, twabs, or fun community events like the recent telesto thing. in addition, twitter is so unstable as a platform rn that it makes you wonder if they even have any alternate plans in place for pr and community interaction if the site goes down.

personally, i think they really need to invest in the already existing forums. they push people that way for bug reports and game feedback, but otherwise there is no incentive to use the forums bc bungie themselves dont utilize them and i think that’s a major missed opportunity. benefits of forum communication over twitter:

no character limit and less immediacy leads to more nuanced and complex conversations; people can actually explain their viewpoints and ideas in a way they can’t via 280 characters

can hire moderators (or get volunteers although personally i think that can get exploitative) to keep things civil as opposed to just hiding offensive replies (which kinda just makes it easier to find them). mods can also clean up spam or help people with minor issues so that cms aren’t getting slammed with 100 dms a day from people who can’t figure out how to reset their password on bungie.net or something

gives devs a way to connect with the community in a moderated, professional setting as opposed to them having to cede personal space (like a personal twitter where they talk to their friends and family). this added layer of safety could help them do things like q&a’s or ama’s on the forums instead of having to use personal reddit or twitter accounts and open themselves to direct harassment if they say something some players don’t like

i genuinely just think it would be better and healthier in the long run (both for the game and it’s employees) if it wasn’t so dependent on twitter for community and social aspects. i would love to see more of a push for forum engagement that isn’t just “post your bugs here.”

#would love to know what other ppl think tho #is anyone a dedicated forum user? speak now and make yourself known!!! #chatter

[honeyxgang]

im slowly being forced outta retirement bc nobody is writing the fic ideas i have in my head so to start here’s some waka headcanons. mostly sfw but gets spicy toward the end so yktv mdni

Short King Waka Headcanons 🤲

SFW

doesnt just like trolling people, he can also be very playful

actually did really well in school just didnt like going relatable

shit almost went left in his youth with alcohol but his friends helped him through shoutout to the final timeline

loves kissing and his favorite feature on a potential love interest is lips so hope you’ve been hydrating. bonus points if you have on a gloss instead of lipstick. the shine catches his attention

is eternally grateful to rihanna for fenty gloss he’s now willing to go to war for her

if he really likes someone he gives them a nickname

is very physically affectionate. hugs, cuddles, holding hands, etc he doing allat

since he has an oral fixation he actually takes really good care of his teeth + makes sure his lips are always moisturized

aka straight, white teeth + and a literal perfect smile 😩

wears cologne. he smells delicious. probably the mixture of the cologne and pheromones

doesnt enter into romantic relationships often instead being more likely to flirt casually with absolutely no intention of it going anywhere/the occasional one night stand

believes in letting girls down gently if they do catch feels though

team his parents are alive. no sibs though

gets mistaken for a child me too

has a motorcycle and a car (i see him as a man with money idc idc idc)

deflee into rap, hip hop, and r&b

comes off very very very aloof until he gets to know someone. he’s not shy through

some girls are disappointed to get to know him and find out he’s not even the stereotypical bad boy/fuckboy. dude watches documentaries and enjoys learning new things and is completely unashamed of that and would probably be first to apologize in a fight. his version of netflix & chill is him putting on a wwii documentary and you not being there

that’s one way to pique his interest though teach him something he didnt know before

wears other jewelry too (necklace, bracelet)

the type of bf who would lose his mind if you got a necklace with his name or initials

very laidback and slow to anger

he fought in his youth because he was targeted for his height. then he kept fighting bc he liked throwing his weight around 🤷‍♀️

hates bugs to the point where he might make you go kill whatever has got in 😐

could use some work with verbal communication (“im glad manjiro died” cmon bruh. ik that happened in one of the fucked up timelines however im sure he still sucks bc he only talks to 3 people)

by that i mean he can come off sounding harsh af when that’s not his intention. unfortunately he’s a straight arrow. hope you have tough skin

NSFW

keeping in line w black twitter’s “dudes w the best d” ranking since he is both skinny and short he is hung like a horse that’s where his height went and knows what he’s doing when laying pipe 🤌

high school was a very horny time for him

you would not fucking guess that just by looking at him and idk where he tucks his third leg

seriously theres always a moment of silence when he gets his pants off. whoever is about to have their spine realigned is like 👀 and he’s just sitting there like 😏

tripod is long and thick good luck sis 🫡

doesn’t do one night stands often or at his place bc once somebody gets a taste they’re ready to commit to his dick marriage

uses condoms bc he’s not ready for fatherhood. if he doesn’t have any he’s not penetrating. yall can do oral though

1000/10 in bed because he likes eating pussy AND will fold you into the mattress 🧎‍♀️

loves getting his dick sucked and he 100% believes in dsl’s 🫦

they gotta look natural though. he has a grudge against kylie jenner for influencing so many people to get botched lip injections 😒

he’s gonna watch bc the way somebody lips stretch to fit him + get all red and plump from putting in work? >>>>>>>

100% the type to grab hair

and the headboard

also will push your knees to your chest if yall in missionary seriously he’s small but man’s is strong

comes to the slow conclusion that he’s an ass man and therefore loves anything from behind

if you’re sending nudes gon head and send something in a thong or g string. if you haven’t heard from him in a few days he might call you

will spank you. just be ready for that

believes life is too short for bad sex and therefore is permanently on demon time 😮‍💨

you’re going to question all of your life choices once youve survived finished. also good luck walking

maybe take a day off work

in conclusion i am down bad

#waka #wakasa imaushi #tokyo revengers #headcanons #i love you short king #this was fun #cant wait to hyperfixate on one of my other faves and do one for him #to the like 5 waka stans that are still active this is for you ☝️ #imaushi wakasa #TokyoRev

[zaritarazi]

okay i know i just ranted about this on twitter and i know that everyone tells me kendra and carter aren’t getting back together in the comics and i know that we’ve already gotten them live action once and will likely (🧿) have them again and i am so fucking excited, but like-

okay longish rant about kendra and carter and dc continuity under the cut

i wasn’t entirely sure what was going on with kendra and carter until last month’s hawkgirl #1, where we get this

where like. okay so then if we like, pay attention to how dc’s been trying to merge these canons, gd help us, kendra told carter she loved him when she died in blackest night. and then shayera was there for a while! and like, if kendra’s aware of that, i feel like that fucking sucked! and then metal happens and wonder woman literally used kendra’s love for carter to save her from being lady blackhawk. and then we get another fucking shayera, and starman is like “i took the soulmates part out of kendra and put it into shayera”

and to sidebar for a second, i’m gonna be honest. the only hawkmates at this point that has any appeal to me is carter and kendra. because once you have soulmates who don’t want to be soulmates, who fight, who break up, who struggle but still love each other in ways that always pull them back together, it feels so fucking cheap to just slot in shayera as carter’s nice and tidy soulmate again.

like, it’s boring!!! and it’s fundamentally like, okay so this isn’t even romantic anymore. like they’re soulmates, okay, but all of the struggles and challenges are still in kendra, too, and shayera and carter have felt so fucking hollow for years. because there’s nothing to keep them together but the soulmates clause. like okay here’s them going on adventures together! sure! whatever? don’t you miss the fucking thrill? don’t you miss being challenged to be better? 

and now we know, apparently, that kendra does still have some kind of feelings for carter. and we know jadzia has mentioned hawkman and hawkwoman will be mentioned in this. and right now, it feels like from kendra’s perspective, carter just kind of... left. like she says “that’s over now” and yet she’s clearly so fucking sad and alone and like. what happened? where the fuck is this man? like i know everyone tells me they’re not getting back together and okay, sure, but who the fuck ever knows what’s going to happen in comics i could end up being right!!!

and this might be because for most of my life kendra has been the contemporary hawkgirl in the comics, but like- she’s the more interesting one. she’s the one who keeps getting put in live action for that reason. and i’m not saying shayera isn’t interesting, i’m saying that she hasn’t been given nearly enough to do since her revival. and i don’t really feel like going further into that, because this post isn’t really about her!

what i want is that kendra and carter and shayera reunite and kendra and carter have repeated and incredibly painful confrontations. and i will not rest until they have those and then engage in deeply problematic sex.

and like, until i get isabela and aldis on the big screen, i’m going to be over here being difficult about this. and i will never change and i will never improve and that is a FUCKING PROMISE!!!!

and i’m not just saying i like kendra and carter more bc they’ve always had an age gap. but when it comes down to it, who’s side do you really fucking think i’m going to be on here

highkey also did carter actually break kendra’s heart in the longrun because i’ll disown him in a second. this is just like dickkory. i love this ship and i love the man in relation to this ship but if you hurt her, you are fucking dead to me and i mean that

#dcu #hawkmates #kendra saunders #carter hall #long post

[breathplayed]

12 - do you ever have trouble focusing on writing? how do you get around that? 

I need tips! xD

YES i have severe adhd it's been real fun trying to function in a society

what i do (some tips are replicable maybe some r not lol):

write when i Want to.... ofc this urge doesnt always strike, sometimes u do have to go force urself through a block, but i will listen to a fic playlist or daydream about the fic and it will make me Want to write down what im thinking about. having that actual desire helps lol. bc then, even if my brain is having trouble focusing My Heart/Dick still want to write so im more likely to keep pushing instead of give up

borderline sensory deprivation honestly, i can't listen to music or watch tv or anything when i write or read or think, so i blast white noise in my headphones and get completely sucked into the doc lol

i make a separate desktop on macbook that is just two windows, the fic outline on the left and the doc or writing program on the right. that way if i go to open a tab to google something for the fic i dont see other windows/tabs of Fun Stuff i was doing before that might distract me lol

i use the Forest extension with all social media blacklisted so that when my attention wanders and i open a tab to go to twitter or whatever by muscle memory, the extension puts me back in my place with the big "Ur gonna kill ur tree if u proceed" screen and im like "UUUGGHHHH thats right im supposed to be writing FIINEEE ill go back"

know when and how to give up..... sometimes writing rly isnt working but it's still good to try, if the words arent coming out right i try to settle for like. ok well i'll open the outline and i'll read over that, or reread earlier part of fic, to see if it reinspires me. if its really not working (if ur too tired/frustrated that will show in the writing style ukno) ill at least add bullet points of what the next parts of the scene should be. maybe i dont feel like writing fancy pretty sentences right now, but i can come back tomorrow and see the quick idea i jotted down on what i was thinking of doing next and that gives me a good jumping-off point

it helps to have external accountability!!!! write with a friend holding each other to a certain time period of Working on it, or just open a sprint site that has a global sprint bc then u can see other ppl working and it feels like ur racing them. body doubling with adhd helps with this too, if u go to a cafe/library and see others working it keeps u focused (like im not gonna open youtube and start watching some stupid shit with others able to see over my shoulder, im gonna Open My Doc)

this last point is only applicable if u have a stimulants prescription for adhd (or buy it somewhere i guess lol) but i definitely am 20-1000x more productive when i take my meds. the hyperfocus is way easier to kick into. sometimes when i pop my silly lil pill i can write like 4-7k average in a 3 hour sitting

Best of luck... Never give up........ also helps i think to pay attention to what conditions work for u and replicate them, like where u write best!! last summer i got one of them fancy clicky raised key keyboards + a riser for my laptop and that made typing fun, ill probably return to it eventually i just have it packed away atm

#ask game #writing tag

[kickassfu]

Regarding Eddywow. Bc I just really need to get it off my chest and it's been bothering me all day. So firstly I cannot find a single primary source about this infamous fic posted on 8/30 aka a copy of the fic or even a screenshot of the tags so everything I can find in response to or accusing the fic of is a gd moot point. However, what I can see from previously posted fics are pretty fucking tame kink wise frankly and very clearly tagged not only in tags but in beforehand notes. Thusly I'm led to believe from what small evidence that I can uncover that what occured in the last 24hrs was a witch hunt against this author, who even at this point if they did something wrong, has been harmed completely out of proportion to their supposed crime. It's absurd this is still something that happens in 2022 and greatly distressing how many people are willing to just jump onto the bandwagon of destroying someone without a scrap of first hand evidence. From what I can find the person on Twitter who initially brought up disliking this fic has even backed down from their opinions and stated they harbor no ill will against eddywow (for all the good that does now). On the one hand I hope this doesn't destroy Eddywow's enjoyment of this fandom, but on the other hand if they never step foot in the fandom again I can understand. Verbally berating and threatening someone will never teach anyone anything but fear and contempt and does nothing to address or help real issues.

So I only noticed this when i went to bed at like midnight and didn't reply 'cause i had to wake up at 6am for work and had no brain power to actually write words lol anyway sorry for being late

Feel free to get it off your chest, you're not the only one upset and if it helps it helps! And well I don't need to find any screenshots because I did read the fic, and I did see the tags and the warnings she wrote, so it might be a he said, she said sort of thing but I still know it was there and so do a lot of people (and tbh even if there were no warnings, for the situation to escalate the way it did is fucking stupid and ppl need to quit the internet if they can't behave). But ok that's fair, it's a moot point 'cause you can neither confirm or deny with your own eyes.

But as you point out she has a history of tagging things properly and even giving warnings in the notes, so it'd be fairly strange if she just decided not to do it this time. And *ding ding ding* you said it exactly right, it was a witch hunt taken to the extreme over something fictional. I'll tell you something, I think it got to that point because her writing is popular and maybe some ppl were jealous. Yes there's still the anti mentality and the purity bullshit thrown in there, but it wouldn't have blown up if people didn't love her writing as much as they do.

Either way it's fucking weird how everything went down tbh.

Oh yeah that this shit still happens is mind boggling. But I think it's only gonna get worse not better, because the anti and purity mentality is growing more with time not going down. And people don't seem to realize that harrassing a real person will always be worse than reading or writing something fictional that's fucked up.

Yeah it seems they've talked it out and they're cool with each other now, but it still blew up regardless and reached shitty ppl that blew it out of proportion.

I agree, it sucks that they took something they love from her and pushed her to a point where she needed to step away but it's completely understandable and she deserves all the time in the world to feel better. And if she never feels ready to come back, it'll hurt because i love her and her writing, but again it'll also be understandable. It still sucks that they ruined something good and i honestly hate them for it.

Well they don't wanna teach or be taught. They just think they're right and that all of us are evil, disgusting ppl that deserve to rot in hell and to that I say I'd rather go to hell than be in heaven with you fuckers <3 godspeed motherfuckers.

i'm sorry for the long reply i still have so much to say about this. I'm still so fucking angry. Thanks for the message love <3 hope you're feeling better after saying this!

#stranger things #eddywow #i am so normal about this #she says seething angry and ready to bash some assholes with a fucking chair #ask answered

[nochiquinn]

campaign 3 episode 35: one piece will be on hiatus next week

I'm late (ish) bc I really desperately needed a nap. I still might not make it all the way through the episode.

put ashley back where she came from or so help me

jrusar is just fine 😎👍

"fuck your gold" "well wait, how much"

"I'm so proud of you" "you taught me!"

"I have a tummyache"

"that is how mathematics works, yes"

"she's on the moon"

scary imogen >

"you're going to mold storaaaaage"

"I refuse to acknowledge you guys"

everybody pretending to take notes about whitestone

rocks fall, chetney dies

me: mostly asleep liam: "get dorian back" me: sits up so fast my spine pops

"shit sucks, help"

I love matt's keyleth

PICK A TREE

now imagine her doing that with her face all screwed up counting syllables on her fingers

for maximum canon compliance

"that's the best use of wood I've ever heard of"

"is everybody just fucking evil??" welllll

"it's a spectrum"

"it's the poo rumble face"

"okay, JESTER"

"ashton has a friend who died - we're proud that he has a friend - "

fcg :(

loudna

"I wanna be happy bc you're making me happy, and you make me happy when you're not offering yourself like a piece of meat" you liiiiike him he's your friiiiiend

"are you going soft on us?" "NO. yes. fuck, I need a drink."

"I've been trying to do it for 20 episodes"

"I MADE a spell for it"

changes my twitter bio to "really strange and a little intense"

"a light just went off behind you" the set is also crashing

"I'm just a little halfling"

oh NO

OOF

suddenly: gravoids

the sound of Hot Cross Buns on the wind

GRABOIDS

I demand animations of all of orym's dope fighter shit

piss in her pockets

chetney on a fifteen-second broadcast delay

sometimes I put on nail polish specifically to peel it off, it's a nice stim (that is not picking at my actual nails)

fearne give them their Coin

"I'm begging you. Orym is begging you."

oh thank you for answering that liam

I am Sad but thank you for bringing it up

eshteross: I'm in Danger

"I think we're too deep to pull out now" LAURA

"fuck you laura bailey"

oh my heart

trap it for checks

jehezus

multiverse!

what the Fuck

chronic pain be like that

this is also how I wake up from nightmares

THE CURSE

squishy ashton??

chetney did you kill santa

you have to tell me if you killed santa or it's entrapment

"I sit cross-legged in bed by myself" cries

imogen

iiimogen

marisha's gonna pop sam

happy autumn equinox

he's trying not to out laudna to the others, bless

wait

wait

WHITESTONE???

WE'RE GOING HOME BABYYYYY

"I'm sure you guys are on vacation" they have like eight kids they forgot what that word means

#critical role #spoilers #crititag #liveblog #reaction post

[c0rpseductor]

ok god help me i can’t go into this on twitter but the more i sit on it the more im kind of pissed bc like of ALL the phrasing in Fandumb that actually does pose a legitimate issue to groups with real problems people are spending their goddamn time complaining about “selchwife??” like are you fucking kidding me?

nobody is ready for THIS take but maybe instead of being upset with a silly joke word people should be more upset with the VASTLY inappropriate and WILDLY popular use of “mommy” and “daddy” in sexual contexts. like i get that nobody on earth has ever used their brain and everyone parroting these things does not think but this is LITERALLY incest fetishism. genuinely. and it is so fucking pervasive it’s near impossible to avoid. do you have any fucking idea how exhausting it is to hear this “oh he’s such a daddy” shit having been through that? like some days I want to commit homicide. if someone called me a selchwife I would laugh so sweetly but if someone tried to engage me in that daddy talk I would kill them and then myself. like there are real problems on this earth and you think you’re oppressed for liking a video game man? Please kindly suck me from behind

#I JUST GET SO MAD SOMETIMES LIKE I SEE IT WAY TOO OFTEN #like it is bad enough I already have a ptsd reaction to that word #but then I see it used in basically the same context like ALL THE TIME #and it just gets worse and worse #people don’t even think about what they’re implying and don’t even stop to consider that incest victims exist irl #it is so fucking dehumanizing

[yongislong]

i’m in senior year of highschool and where i’m from ‘tutoring’ is more like extra classes you take to get ahead of the lessons before you actually study it in school,, it’s just to help you do better and it’s optional whether you take it or not,, i take it bc i don’t want to fail my test at the end of the year which is much like SATs,, and they separate us into either science or socials studies classes, i chose science bc i’m not very good at my native language and out of the science subject i’m doing the worse at math which sucks bc math matters the most out of them all :< but i’ve been encouraging myself by saying i have 10 more months left so hopefully things works out by then

oh my gosh ur school works so differently than when i was in hs! granted it was only like two years ago LOL but damn... sats are wild... i would aay dont stress to much but ik its kind of inevitable! i do know that colleges now are not as harsh with scores and sometimes dont require it tho! i got into a good uni and my score were laughable HAHAAA and omg yes 10 more months is practically forever away! try and keep all your important notes though!!! keep it all in one place as a reference folder and try and write stuff if you can rather than typing bc it helps you retain info better for the test! ik time goes by fast but as long as you take it day by day and be productive and not overwork yourself, you'll succeed! its so cool though that you're taking extra classes to get ahead, thats rly admirable! my ap classes were awful in hs so im sending you lots of love and support! if you ever need help with anything lmk! my twitter user is the same as my user on here so hmu!

[advancewarsdaysofruin]

Hello life update

Haven’t been on this site in years and I like posting life updates years after I leave a website. Not sure when my last posts were but I got major life updates, sometimes I still think of y’all.

Anyways:

I don’t go by Vince anymore but don’t mind being called Vince still. I don’t ID as a trans guy anymore. I’m agender now. He/they pronouns are good. She/her only if you think I’d be getting hatecrimed in public. I’m a boy in a girl way and I’m a girl in a boy way. Sometimes I’m both sometimes I’m neither.

1 year anniversary of me working full time in research. Turns out I hate research actually and am thinking of switching careers idk when but it will happen. Got a guy willing to help me out with it.

Went to therapy Aug 2021 and it’s been a journey. I stopped going not because I think I’m normal now but lol that shit cost money. Might go again bc for years I’ve been thinking whether or not I have ADHD or Autism or both.

Been learning Korean since 2020 but my 4th semester isn’t certain bc as it stands we probably don’t have enough people available to join the class. Kinda sucks man :/

Still in Overwatch/Splatoon brainrot mode lol this year I’m totally gonna get fucked up playing OW2/Sp3. Ya I still kept my shitty OCs as well as making new ones. I love Overwatch League and stan Houston Outlaws.

I don’t draw everyday anymore. In fact, I hardly draw at all. Sucks but what can you do. I might try to pick back up again.

Got my own (used) car.

Moved out of my folks place in Feb 2022. It’s been very good. Sure I have less spending money but my mental improved dramatically. I was in a really bad spot mentally living with them. 

Gave dating apps a shot and I’ve been on plenty of dates. Rn I’m seeing 3 guys with another one meant just to be casual. Idk if I wanna get married but if I did, it could very well be with one of these 3 guys. I got a thing for engineers apparently.

Met friends on these sort of apps too. Y’all heard of bumble bff?? Met some poggers people and I feel far less lonely in this city now. I basically have plans almost every weekend.

Got my Gaming PC built. I can finally play Overwatch and not mald (as much)

Found a love for badminton lol.

Twitter is: https://twitter.com/AdvanceWarsDS

[nikethestatue]

Hello!

I'm sorry I am here to rant it's just why are people shaming us for reading sjm books? I mean, I get it. I'm not so familiar with her issues but I loved all her books. I really enjoyed it and helped me when I was in my tough days, and it's not like it's the only author I read. It's just acotar/tog holds a vvv special place in my heart. So seeing these people monthly shaming sjm readers.. I'm so afraid of talking abt her books in public for this certain reason. Are we not allowed now to enjoy the books we love? Why are these people making fun of us so much. Idk. I wanted to ask them what they will get for shaming a reader on her preferences, we all have rights, right?

I'm not really educated with the palestine issue, but I've read somewhere that people misunderstood it? And as far as I know, sjm's trying to improve as an author. Is it because she's white? (Sometimes it hurts everytime I see people calling white people dumb and names, bcs.. well, I am too:( sometimes I wish I am born to another race.) Or maybe bcs she's popular? If that's the case, they can hype their own fave author w/o dragging another. It's literally so embarrassing for them to always do this monthly for a hit tweet. It's as if they can't move on.

And I also see people calling sjm names and dropping her works bcs of this issue. Then they also go on shaming sjm readers.

It's so low of them, but it's still hurtful for me or the other readers.

Why is book community so toxic? Shade won't make them look cool.

Unfortunately, we live in a society which likes to shame people for things that bring them joy. And I get that it sucks. But ultimately, find joy in what you like, because frankly, society doesn't actually matter. No one's opinion about what you like, what you should/shouldn't enjoy matters. If SJM brings you joy, then who the heck cares about what anyone else says??

Also, and I recommend this to everyone--don't expose yourself to channels that make you feel bad about yourself, or your likes. I think it's very important to care for yourself and your mental health and be concerned about what you allow to enter your space. So if BookTok or Twitter or whatever else make you unhappy or uncomfortable, just disengage.

I think it's absolutely disgusting that we live in the age of this weird mental censorship, where people claim that you are somehow failing morally if you are enjoying certain media, or certain books, or writers.

If you enjoy someone's writing, that's it, that should be enough of a reason for you to continue reading them. If you personally find something about them disconcerting or at odds with your personal beliefs, thats when you make a decision. Because some fool on Twitter is being loud and screaming something isnt the reason to be ashamed or to stop reading something.

There are way bigger problems in the world than reading SJM books. Read what you want and if it feels good, then it's good and that's all you should worry about.

#sjm books