#irl crush vs fictional crush

[grantspectortrash]

why is it that internet crushes on fictional men is so easy and fun and makes my heart all fuzzy and having irl crushes makes me sweat and overthink and makes me want to rip my heart out

#this isn’t fair #crushes #fictional men #vs real men #irl crushes are hard #how do I flirt

[starjaeyun]

vlive confession

summary : you used to have a crush on park sunghoon back in highschool and that didn't change even though you both were now idols who did not want dating scandals, so imagine the shock when during a vlive, park sunghoon confessed that he had a crush on you back in highschool

pairing : park sunghoon x fem! reader

warnings : fluff, crack, slight angst, hate from fans D:, scandals, drama, issues, suggestive themes, shy! hoon and y/n, cliché stuff, highschool drama 🤨, swearing, kim chaewon will be used to visualize y/n, idols not following rules and doing other stuff that just doesn't make sense

featuring : ive's wonyoung & yujin. le sserafim's sakura.

status : on going STARTED 052922 | post regarding my update schedule

taglist : open, just comment or send an ask

(block the tag #[vlive confession : starjaeyun] if you do not want to see posts related to this smau)

important note : this au is purely fictional, any romantic relationships between enhypen members or other kpop idols are not true and does not represent the idols' personalities or behavior irl. the purpose of this au is purely for entertainment only!

ETHEREAL | ENHYPEN

zero. "are you the cute girl from highschool?"

zero, filler chapter. "and that kids, is how i met your mother"

one. so this is love? yikes

two. Y/N ALL BARK NO BITE LEADER

three. #YNWON

four. VLIVE CONFESSION⁉️

four, filler chapter : THE confession

five. face this like real men!

six. sunoo's brilliant idea

seven. y/n go to your wonnie 😂

eight. never doing the first move ever again #neveragain

nine. #YNKI

ten. what are we?

eleven. y/n's secret boyfriend

twelve. #SUNYN

thirteen. sunghoon vs maknae line

- titles of unpublished parts are subject to change adding and deleting parts are also expected to happen

#[vlive confession : starjaeyun] #enhypen au #enhypen social media au #enhypen smau #enhypen socmed au #park sunghoon x reader #park sunghoon smau #sunghoon smau #sunghoon x reader #park sunghoon social media au #sunghoon social media au #kpop smau #kpop social media au #sunghoon crack #sunghoon fluff #park sunghoon fanfic #sunghoon fanfic #enhypen fanfic

[catholic-character-tournament]

Round 3 - Catholic Character Tournament

firestar art by @kudossi

Propaganda below ⬇️

Firestar

NOTE: I have to note that Firestar is kitty Anglican NOT kitty Catholic

Kitty jesus, he believes in starclan which is the kitty version of heaven/god and yea. All the warrior cats characters except those outside the clans or those that are atheist believe in the kitty heaven and would irl be bri-ish and christian as hell so. The authors are all older british christian women and so the way starclan is written is like undoubtedly that.

The main religion in the series is extremely catholic coded. Most clan cats believe in Starclan and the Dark Forest(or heaven and hell). There is a set of rule they must uphold and follow, where following them leads to heaven and breaking them leads to hell. Their religious leaders are sworn to celibacy, and the punishments that "code breakers"(or cats who break the rules) face are extremely similar to situations people with religious trauma have gone through.

OP notes: apparently converted to avoid getting his balls cut?? Idk. The discord yet wild for firestar so I had to include him because it's hilarious hehehe

OP new notes: I have learned so much about warrior cats. Do yourself a favor and go down this tag and see the Firestar discourse.

Harrowhark

I'm pretty sure you've already got plenty of submissions for her so I'll just say she was raised in what is basically a cult (technically a nunnery but let's be real) dedicated to keeping the body of the thing that will kill God behind the rock. One of their prayers is actually "I pray the rock is never rolled away". Harrow is extremely devout as penance for her earlier heretical actions in the tomb as a child (spoiler!) so the Catholic guilt really comes through

imagine being a catholic nun and you meet god, but it turns out he’s a twitch streamer from new zealand who became god because everything got a little bit out of hand. and just before you met him you gave yourself a diy grief-fuelled lobotomy with the help of your best frenemy. imagine how insane you’d be. now multiply that insanity by nine. that’s the fictional love of my life right there.

she meets god. she’s not inspired

she’s number one practitioner of space Catholicism. The locked tomb is chock full of Christian (catholic) imagery themes metaphors etc. just look at her she’s got a bone rosary

They're Catholicism with extra bones. Everyone is a nun. They have what is basically a rosary made from knuckle bones. They technically worship the same God as everyone else, but they're waaaay more focused on The Body in the Tomb (Mary) and we get a moment where we find out that while everyone else prays the equivilent of The Lords Prayer, they're doing the equivilent of Hail Mary. And they paint their faces with skulls.

She thinks leaving dry bread in a drawer is taking care of someone. She's in love with a 10,000 year old corpse (the same one they worship). She spent ALL NIGHT digging with her bare hands to make sure a field had bones every 5 feet so she could fight her girlfriend - I mean, greatest enemy. Spoiler territory: She's been puppeting her parents corpses since she was 8 years old. Instead of grieving her dead girlfriend, she gives herself a lobotomy. She makes soup with bone in it so she can use the bone IN THEIR STOMACH to try and kill them.

The author is/was Catholic and the entire series had heavy Catholic overtones. https://www.tor.com/2020/08/19/gideon-the-ninth-young-pope-and-the-new-pope-are-building-a-queer-catholic-speculative-fiction-canon/ A good breakdown of how it's Catholic

Anti-propaganda (spoilers)

I love the Locked Tomb series but Harrowhark has daddy issues with God, had a childhood crush on God's cryogenic partner, and is in love with God's daughter, not to mention that she's essentially a bone-bender. The religion on her home planet exists in a way that is technically against the will of the canon in-universe God, even. All of this to say, Harrowhark is heretical at minimum if not an outright witch. Terrible Catholic. Burn her.

#harrowhawk #harrowhark nonasigmus #tlt #the locked tomb #cct polls #tumblr tournament #tumblr bracket #tumblr polls #polls #r3 #firestar #warriors #warrior cats

[monstrouscrew]

Aromantic Awareness Week: aro vs emo ???

back then, i liked that type of music, too. but i felt clearly not fitting into the subculture related to and built around it, because a shit ton of lyrics and imagery revolved around romantic love and heartbreak. and i found it ...boring, to say the least, although i experienced a few crushes (ofc unrequited, and dated a person only twice in my life, tried my best to use the stereotypes i knew about romance).

what i want to say to 2005-2008 me: hey dude, this is bullshit, there are a lot of strong emotions which let you both break and grow, in addition to your perfected self-hate, and instead of these attempts to get some warmth and safety from others you like aesthetically and physically only.

what i want to say to everyone now: not experiencing strong affection (romantic, platonic, simply emotional, whatever labels exist) to anything is normal (if you can do daily routine, otherwise better check your brain for depression at least). not experiencing romantic feelings and not having the slightest idea of what it is is normal, and it doesn't make you more or less worthy/human/whatever they call it and teach you to call it. enjoying or not romance in fiction, in song lyrics, games, etc - it's normal, regardless of how you feel about it irl.

as for me, the closest thing to romantic feelings i can experience is what i feel when i listen to my favourite music and when i dance, jump and scream my whole being out to it in the clubs. no human, eldritch horror or ancient deity can have this power over me, making this brain switch "self" off and becoming a damn conduit for these waves. singing... yes, it has similar effect on me.

no human, though. yet i have a few ones dear to me. and one of them is what i can call qpp, but labelling anyone but me irl feels uncomfortable and distorting their own truth. however, for me and me only, for (us) four, in our personal universe - fuck romance when it tries to grab me. fuck this addictive shit, and may others who don't suffer from it enjoy it irl.

and a drawing. because fuck at least a few stereotypes, too.

(ID in the alt text)

#k's wave #k's art #aromantic #aromantic awareness week #angry aromantic #emo #cw: self hate #fuck amatonormativity #'death of peace of mind' playing rn fits the mood actually #because this sort of love really is you get it folks #hot fucking take #i'm evil and i know it #everyone's experience is unique ours is this

[koishua]

10 QUESTIONS FOR U - valentines edition

favorite color of roses?

favorite flowers?

you can send a love letter to anyone. fictional/idols/celebs. who?

which idols have the best rizz?

most rizzful mutual?

favorite petnames/nicknames? giving or recieving?

fictional characters you're in love with?

have you ever had an online crush?

songs that you want to play at your wedding?

fav breakup songs?

fav love-themed kpop song?

mutual with beautiful themes?

pink vs red ? coquette vs old money / preppy?

favorite sweets?

DRINK WATER + YOU ARE LOVED <3

aww thank you!! you're super lovely and loved too :((

blue roses, but i really really like light pink ones as well. the flower shop i used to work at had a bunch of colours hehe

i really really really like carnations and freesias and also there's a magnolia tree close by and its pink flowers are to die for

girl bye im way ahead of you im sending one to yoshinori lmao but like not in a romantic sense like i have never thought of him that way but i really do want to send him a love letter of sorts to express how much he means to me!! platonically!!

rizz... i would have to say for me personally heejake, jiwoong, jimin bc he's an actual people magnet, sunwoo omfg sunwoo goodbye?????? but the thing is san imo too?? i also kind of wanna add ningning too bc i would fold in point two seconds... also yunjin bc as much as i have always been a loyal chaewon ult, i would quite literally pass out if she looked at me like she looks at the girlies she's effortlessly rizzed

none of y'all have rizz goodness gracious bye in my head all of you are either cute or scary gremlins

i get called a bajillion nicknames irl idek atp?? but here i really really like it when ria calls me enna i just find it so so cute but i also like it when people call me vie!! it's short and simple and also kind of humorous bc c'est la vie. ps. i die of joy when ppl still call me vera from time to time tyvm it's like being reminded of my roots AS FOR PET NAMES!! i once got called kitten and it made me promptly hurl it was insane just insane it felt like an out of body exp. i love it when my friends call me girlie tho it makes me feel like such a girly pop. one of my friends calls me her honey and it's saur heartwarming. as for giving....... i like to call people my child lmao they could be older than me idc all of my friends are first and foremost my children. other than that i can't really call anyone anything else it's so awkward for me to give any sort of affection lol

im in love with natsume hyuga from gakuen alice idk if y'all know but me personally oof that black cat oof oof i used to burn with a passion for him. also chat noir from miraculous... im sensing a theme here. also jeong guwon bc he's an ass babygirl that i find super duper annoying but also sth about him being so big and protective like GIRLIESSSSS. although im always ALWAYS reserved for han seojun and han seojun only.

i never had a real online crush so no. really admired? yeah lots

never thought about that yet hold on i feel so ashamed as a self proclaimed the most hopeless romantic!! canon in D— just kidding. probably soft piano versions to romantic iu songs hehe

never felt it, but probably ending scene by iu bc i cry every time

SAURRRR MANY i have to create a list bc im an avid romantic genre listener omgomg

i haven't seen them in a while im sorry i can't pick ;-; @atrirose @boyfhee @yrhome @niningz @blueprint-han @cotccotc off the top of my head?? love your mobile themes muah muah i haven't seen your webs so i can't say much about them but im sure they're great!!

always a sucker for deep red and the old money aes. even had individual themes for both!! and i love when ppl dress preppy but i can't pull it off :(

I LOVE ANYTHING CHOCOLATE !! AND COFFEE !! opera cake, tiramisu, brownies, profiteroles, etc etc!!

#ii. ( pt ) —! asks #anon #jail time for me bc i should've answered this sooner anon i apologize soooo deeply

[nozunhinged]

Noz vs. reality vs. fiction

As I have experienced my very first unhinged, real person character crush in the form of Boeing aka Mond Tanutchai, I would like to digress into the topic of fiction vs. reality (mainly for myself 🤓).

The carnal desire Boeing awakened in me was absolutely UNMATCHED, nothing I've ever experienced before. I mean, look at him????

I have been an unhinged simp for 2D characters since my teenage years and all my fantasies also lived in this world. It was a separation easy to make and I have to admit I never really knew how to be a fan of irl people, be it actors, singers or whatever their profession.

And then Boeing happened. This man took my moral compass and smashed it until I felt like nothing was left of it. The unhinged in my blog name finally reached its final form. It was a trip.

For the first time I found myself reading all the information about the actor the internet has to offer.

But as it turns out, Mond Tanutchai as a person, as the actor he's existing in this world — does nothing for me. That 1. shows how good he is at his profession and 2. that my carnal desire exists for Boeing and Boeing only.

And this is where it gets interesting.

Where do I choose to draw the line between fiction and reality in the future? Am I now fan of Mond because he plays Boeing so well or am I a fan of Mond because he's playing Boeing in general? Will both options blur the line between the two and and make me want to start to look for traits of Boeing in Mond? Am I even able to separate both of them completely?

This is so extremely interesting to go through right now, because I feel that is the core of the whole reality vs fiction discussion.

Even if I might be able to separate the two — it's so easy to cross that line. To dehumanize this very human being and make them what I want them to be. Fanservice is the perfect example for that and I'm happy in doesn't exist for Only Friends.

It's also kind of scary and I don't know how to move further yet.

And just to be clear: this isn't meant to criticize any form of fandom experience.

I just really like taking a step back to look at how my fairly new fandom life is playing out :)

#noz learns about fandom #only friends the series #ofts #only friends boeing #mond tanutchai #fandom culture #fandom

[isoobie]

10 QUESTIONS FOR U - valentines edition

favorite color of roses?

favorite flowers?

you can send a love letter to anyone. fictional/idols/celebs. who?

which idols have the best rizz?

most rizzful mutual?

favorite petnames/nicknames? giving or recieving?

fictional characters you're in love with?

have you ever had an online crush?

songs that you want to play at your wedding?

fav breakup songs?

fav love-themed kpop song?

mutual with beautiful themes?

pink vs red ? coquette vs old money / preppy?

favorite sweets?

DRINK WATER + YOU ARE LOVED <3

woah thank you lovely for these :D

pink i love anything pink

tulips

heeseung

heejake and my baefy yunjin

probably @sjyuns @boyfhee & @seongclb

i love saying baefy and love but i love receiving babe, my fave and sweetheart

i actually came prepared with a list you guys are not ready for this hehehe: go eunhyeok from operation true love, jo cheong from my lucky strike, baek siyoon from dreaming freedom, nam doyun from act like you love me, yuhan ( white haired guy ) from muse on fame, gyeol from my reason to die and jaeha from our secret alliance :D

yes ONLY ONCE he liked twice and stayc ..

hmmm i can’t choose but maybe jimmy brown song

don’t listen to/know any 😭😭

criminal love and not for sale r the only ones i know :P

@okwonyo @boyfhee @joomiu @okwons @wonryllis

pink & coquette are literally my whole aesthetic my irls call me coquette on a daily basis at this point

anything with chocolate idc whats w the chocolate i just need chocolate

#🗯️ .. 𝗶-msg! #game𝘀 .. ✷

[skiesandrainforest]

what do you mean by “all characters are grown up” in your art?

Hello, I am tired of having to explain myself to everyone one by one :(

In short words: since I was a teenager artist, I loved drawing south park characters, but never liked having to draw literally kids doing extreme stuff like "dark humor", riding motorcycles, handleling fire, etc etc... so I always drawn them grown up. please PLEASE look at my art on instagram, I usually post more there and there's a HUGE difference between my kids/teenage art vs adult art. The anatomies are totally different to start off. When I draw kids/teenage I rather draw cute things. When I illustrate characters that are doing extreme stuff like riding bulls, getting an extreme crush on or dating, I rather make my characters grown up, because fictional adults can handle those fictional moments.

I PLEASE BEG beg you personally to please look up my art, see the huge difference between my art focused on kids/teenagers vs adults.

And PLEASE please I don't feel well to keep explaining to everyone :( I frel very heaft broken since that online harrasment on Twitter, I felt guilty of things that I wasn't suppose to feel giilty about, I always loved 90s humor from Cartoon Network, my inspiration comes from there.

I am trying to draw, but I feel like a harsh feeling inside my chest everytime, because I feel afraid again to get judged.

I am sorry if I haven't defended myself. I was too in shock, depressed and paralyzed. I am dealing with triggering things on irl and seeing my happy place torn down really left me a "homeless" feeling inside. Rottmnt was the only thing I basically lived for and got distracted in this cute little fantasy world I was happy about.

Now if you think drawing grown up characters is sexualizing them, well you're wrong. You don't need to make fake rumors of "borderline fetishes" or weird things. I wasn't sexualizing my fanart. I draw nsfw stuff, but is clearly I just draw my own OC's or my friends ones. I know my purpuses when I draw fanart and let me clear that I only want to make comedy and funny things to brighten up someone's day who enjoys the charactes so much as I do.

They've made me a horrible impression of me, I feel ashamed some people met me because of that drama and I want to personally apologize everyone one by one.

I am not going to lie, I feel very very heartbroken, but despite all those rotten moments, there was still lots of support and love. I THANK YOU so much guys, with tears, seriously!!! ❤

So PLEASEE anons on tumblr, I don't want more questions that I have to explain myself this way, because is awkward and makes me feel attacked like what happened on twitter :( maybe I could answer much sweeter in the future after the adrenaline inside me leaves, but I am not going to lie, I felt attacked reading this question, even it doesn't have a second intentiom behind it.

[localfraudster]

Did this for fun and IM. A. GENIUSSS FOR VTK /j

Anyways so if they say that the festival of corruption/match with Gadam vs Captaons is on the 15th November and Cassian did that bc his exams were the next day, which would be the 16th of November. CSATS irl Korea is on the third week/Thursday of November, and vtk is mostly 21st century.

So here are the years vtk could fit into:

If we take a look at the usage of phones in vtk, they mostly use modern touchscreen mobile phones, and during the 2000s, they weren't in full use by the public, so we can rule out 2000 and 2006.

The years that vtk could be set in is from 2017-2034. This is just a rough estimation as

Vtk is not the same world as ours, it is fictional

Me ruling out 2000s may be incorrect

This is just an estimation and as of the moment I'm writing this, we do not know how far our society may change in the future so the way people dress in vtk could be from our recent years.

Let's just assume vtk is set in 2017/2023,

Cassian (Gangu), the bullies, Minyeong, Naeun, Yuri, Uchan, Rick, Raul, the psyker trainees who barged into Gadam vilzone, Driver, Red Eye, Crow, Black Hand, Crush, Double Blade, literally majority of the villains would be like gen z

Cassian Lee, Jeff, Tuppence, Jiseon, Daewung would all be millenials

Don King would be Gen X, same goes for the card villain guy and blue serpent I think? They all look old.

This is just a hypothesis and it isn't confirmed, and I made this just for fun so don't take this seriously.

#vtk #villain to kill #villaintokill #villaintokilltheory #theory #just a hypothesis

[hollyhomburg]

personally i think someone accessing namjoons home address and phone number doesn’t compare to a fan joking about giving him a hickey,

also this is not like a dig at you, i just genuinely can’t really understand and maybe you could explain- why are hickey jokes so outrageous but smut headcanons and stuff are fine? (again, purely asking because i cant understand n maybe you have an explanation)

i think the separation is that smut and things in the written sphere are like obviously completely fictional- and thats what makes it okay and different from jokes about namjoon's hickey. purely because the former underminds what namjoon the person wants and the first just talks about namjoon the charecter in an authors eye.

like while there are certainly some y/n reader insert fanfics that lean into the fanservice and delusional aspect of it- i don't think the vast majority of the people who write fanfic legitimately think the events in the story happened in physicality. how many fics have you seen where like yoongi's a tentacle monster and jimin's a hapless victim? like no one thinks that shit is real. just because i write a fic where jungkook has bunny ears doesn't mean he's actually a hybrid or that hybrids exist. People aren't going to confuse reality here.

but when we argue about what the boys actually say and if they're really lying to us- that is involving the real namjoon in a different way than fiction is. it's not fictional and it's not done with his wishes in mind. like i don't understand why people are so committed to not beliving him.

to bring this back to fanfiction, like i don't know if namjoon has a big dick or not, the same way i don't know how big joel in the last of us is- but the nature of fiction is that it is always speculative. if namjoon irl said "i have a big dick" and we said "no i think you have a small dick" that would be INFINITELY more problematic. it's real people vs fictional people. the version of namjoon that i write about doesn't exist, the one people make hickey jokes about does and his privacy is being violated to sate the need to know about his private life.

making jokes about namjoon's hickey is not specultive fiction, it's speculative reality, it's questioning namjoon the person not namjoon the character. and you can't not admit that the joking back and forth creates this dynamic between people who are possessive of them and people who aren't. there is a certain sense of one up man ship where people are like "i'm going to prove it to you that he actually is dating" "finally all the crazy fans can go away now that he's come out with a hickey," "namjoon is getting it all you people can go stfu" (all things ive seen on twitter tbh)

i feel like this dynamic is a result of the misogyny that female fans are treated with- like according to the media we're all stereotyped as teenagers who have crushes on people who will never know we exist. and certain fans have different reactions to it. One is to completely reject the idea of army being possessive over them and hunt down the people who do or in stalkers case- hunting down namjoon to expose his private life, either to sell to the media to prove he is in a relationship. or to sell it to the sassengs who want to confirm or deny the existence and nature of his private time.

there is nothing revolutionary about not believing that namjoon's bruise is a bruise- the only thing that tells me about you is that you don't believe namjoon and have his best interest at heart.

it comes down to what are we willing to do to prove what we believe is real, which is why personally- i think we should only accept info about irl bts's private life from them, and ignore any other 'hints' that we may get until they're confirmed. as far as i'm concerned, i belive bts. they don't want to talk about their relationships? then for all of my concerns i don't care about it. i won't wonder, i won't go looking at jungkook's gym to find out if he ever comes with anyone, i won't go to an art museum in the hopes that namjoon might be there. i certainly wouldn't book a train ticket or purchase information. if they want to shout from the roof tops about how much they love a girl they met in a coffee shop? i will gush with them.

speculation about their private lives and information about their private lives should be given to us fans on their terms and in their timeframe. Not because someone stalks them. it comes down to respecting a boundary.

bts have never set the boundary that they didn't want fanfiction made about them- in the case of hyyh and the bts world game- they outright encouraged fictional fan driven content- even the highlight reels are representative of this- beautiful pictures of fiction that fan creators can take and mold.

on the other hand they've certainly created a boundary about their private lives and what they're willing to share with us. they don't want us to speculate about it because it only causes shit like this.

long rant over; TLDR- fanfiction's are fictional for a reason, saying namjoon is lying is not fiction. believe bts and what they say or don't say about their private lives and move on.

[jonesyjonesyjonesy]

ok so this is weird but i felt like you would maybe understand me and i needed to rant. so i'm in my 20s, and i've always been attracted to older men, old rockstars, fictional characters, famous people, you know the stuff. when i was younger it was more normal cause why would i crush on a 16 yr old boy right? i've had a relationship and a few flirts but nothing actually real happened. fast forward to my 20s, i start to actually have feeling for people in my age group. but anytime i have the massive crush on someone i can never get them to crush on me back. and i'm like, social, have hobbies - you know, i'm not like i'm isolating myself from people. i don't know how to say this without sounding weird but i don't think i'm particularly unattractive either. i mean i'm no VS model but you don't need to be that to experience love, right? each time i get my hopes high up about finally my crush/s liking me back it never happens, i get over them and go back to my old ways - obsessively crushing on rockstars and famous people. making playlists and pinterest boards for people i'll probably never even meet in real life. and it makes me feel like such a loser because i'm a grown ass adult. people my age get married and have babies. and i'm not one of those people who believe fandoms are for teens only but at this point it's not even that much about the art for me anymore, it's purely romantic and sexual. i'm pretty certain it's a coping mechanism for the lack of intimacy and sexuality in my life. i've basically wasted my young years without experiencing teenage love and turns out my 20s aren't different either. i feel like i'm the only person in the world who's in this situation and at this point i feel like i'm just not meant to experience romance of any kind. i'll just spend my life yearning for people i'll only get to touch in my dreams and that's it. sorry i just needed to get this off my chest, i hope you're having a good day x

Oh my dear...the 20s are a truly horrible time. I'm in late stage twenties and i'm only starting to really love life. 27 was my turning point.

The great thing about our blorbos is that they'll always love us back even if they don't actually know us. It's the Almost Famous of it all.

The truth is, these obsessions can coexist with our irl romantic life. But I understand the pain of wanting to have that chance at romance and it not feeling like it loves you back.

You're doing great. I bet you're beautiful. And people who are already getting married and having kids, that's their journey. I sometimes get jealous, particularly of women who already have kids because I want to be a mother so badly but I also know I'm not ready.

I'm sure there are people who look at you and think, wow what I would do with all that freedom.

i'm pretty certain it's a coping mechanism for the lack of intimacy and sexuality in my life. i've basically wasted my young years without experiencing teenage love and turns out my 20s aren't different either. i feel like i'm the only person in the world who's in this situation and at this point i feel like i'm just not meant to experience romance of any kind.

I can guarantee you're not the only one feeling this way. There's actually a sociological thing happening where people are avoiding relationships, especially women because now we aren't going to fucking settle for emotionally unintelligent men (assuming you're looking to be in a het relationship).

I am sure people will see this post and be like damn yeah that's me too. I wasn't in my first relationship until I was 22 and that was only a year and a half. I've dated so fucking much on dating apps and been miserable over. I've just gotten into my first relationship in almost five years because I just couldn't suffer fools.

You're stronger than you know. I know how isolating it can feel.

The joke about dating and crushes is you can't use the notion that "insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result". You have to keep that hope alive, have to keep showing up and having an open heart.

I've been rejected so many times. But I've learned over the years actually it's not a me problem. It's a them problem. You are wonderful in so many ways, anon (I just know it). You just haven't found the person that is ready for that. All it takes is one.

Don't give up. My asks are always open. Sweet bean, I love you!

#anon #ask #send love to anon #i know what it's like to be in the shit like that

[objectlovingobject]

hi can I ask? do non objectum people get like “EEEE that’s my baby/boy/girl theyre mine!!! They’re talking about them !! I love them!!” whenever u see people with or talking about your object (fictional or irl) bc idk if it’s a hyperfix but u know when wirh crushes people get giddy *kicks legs* “flustered” almost… that’s me with this (fictional) object! but idk if that’s something people who aren’t objectum can get or notttt? like does that mean it’s ok to use the obj label? idk what to call this kind of attachment to an object like what kind of attraction this is so confusing! where’s the line between liking/admiring an object vs attraction in an objectum way? I’m talking about a fictional weapon btw. how do u also know when u find a person interacting w an object attractive vs the object itself :/ ah do u have any input?

I will be real this was a bit hard for me to read but i will try to answer as best i can!

Personally, as someone who is objectum and ficto, i get a little giddy when i see ppls talking abt my objects(like. I used to watch reviews of the pc model that vance(my significant object) is) ^^ i feel like its possible to be obj for a fictional object! Just like how non osor ppl can be attracted to fictional humans ^^ im not sure if i was much help though aha~

:3 feel free to send a follow up if you need to!

#objectum #osor #posic #answered #anon

[shywhitemoose]

Tag Game to Better Know You

Thank you for the tag @jmobiwanspadawan  🤎

It’s been a long time since I’ve done one of these, and it was a nice distraction :)

What book are you currently reading?

Oh dear, not off to a great start. No books at the moment 😩

What’s your favourite movie you saw in theatres this year?

I.. can’t remember the last time I was in a movie theatre?

What do you usually wear?

Most days: jeans, t-shirt, compression socks, fidget necklace, sneakers or birkenstocks. When I go to the office I wear a slightly nicer version of that :)

How tall are you?

5′5″ on an ambitious day

What’s your star sign? Do you share a birthday with a celebrity or a historical event?

Cancer. Famous birthday buddies? Nelson Mandela 💛

Do you go by your name or a nickname?

IRL, my name. On tumblr, a nice mix.

Did you grow up to become what you wanted to be when you were a child?

Oh gosh. I wanted to be so many things. Mother and environmental scientist were not on the list, but here I am 🤷‍♀️  I suppose I did want to be an artist, which technically I am? I just don’t like doing it for money, ha. I also wanted to be, in no particular order of preference: zookeeper, surgeon, finishing carpenter, beach bum, baker, professional bowler, tornado chaser, math teacher, lifetime peace corp volunteer, long distance trucker, firefighter.

Are you in a relationship? If not, who is your crush if you have one?

It’s complicated, but effectively, no. And no crushes aside from fictional characters and a Swedish curler I’ve never met lol

What’s something you’re good at vs. something you’re bad at?

I’m a decent artist and a terrible singer. A good baker and a mess of a public speaker.

Dogs or cats?

Both please!! I only have cats at the moment due to family preferences, but I love both. All animals, in fact. They are all so neat! 🐈🐕‍🦺🐍🕷🐇🐄🐿🦥🐳🐓🦉🦌

If you draw/write, or create in any way, what’s your favourite picture/favourite line/favourite etc. from something you created this year?

Hmm.. if we’re talking within the last year, probably the hands (Don’t Let Go). Took me ages to finish and it might actually be my favorite of any piece I’ve completed in digital medium.

For writing.. maybe this lil bit of A Plea from the Lost to the Found?

Anakin shifted again, lifted his head, and their eyes met. “Why?”

Here, staring directly into the missing half of his soul, Obi-Wan could only offer honesty. “Because I loved his father.”

They were so close. Obi-Wan could ­hear Anakin’s breath. He could feel it tangle, warm and humid, in his whiskers. For one mad moment he thought he caught Anakin glancing down to his lips, and a bizarre pang of hope shot through his lungs.

He quietly corrected himself.

“Because I love his father.”

Ok but also something more lighthearted maybe? This exchange from Out of Place still brings me a lot of joy:

“Well that’s an odd name for a galaxy.”

Anakin scoffed back, mildly offended on the Milky Way’s behalf. “Well what’s yours called?”

“I…” The man’s brow furrowed. Adorably. “Well it doesn’t have a name. It’s always just been The Galaxy.”

“Huh.” This was getting absurd. “Seems a bit pretentious, don’t you think?”

“Well—”

“If you’re from another galaxy, care to tell me how you speak English?”

“Is that what you call it here?”

“Is that what we call what here?”

“Galactic basic.”

Anakin nearly rolled his eyes. Of course. “Uh, yeah. English is what we call it.”

“Huh. Well yes, I suppose that is a bit of a mystery, isn’t it?”

“So where is this…Galaxy of yours, exactly? How did you manage to find your way out of it?”

“Oh, far, far away, I imagine. I was on a diplomatic mission to Alderaan when something pulled me from hyperspace and… well, frankly I don’t recall much after that. Until I woke up and found myself careening toward your planet, that is.”

“Huh.”

“Huh, indeed. Now. What do I call you?”

“Um, an earthling?”

Obi-Wan smiled at that, teeth gleaming. “Your name.”

What’s something you’d like to create content for?

Nothing new, just my favorite two space monks!

What’s something you’re currently obsessed with?

Gardening. Obikin.

What’s something you were excited about that turned out to be disappointing this year?

winter (we had ONE lousy snow flurry, it lasted maybe 10 minutes)

What’s a hidden talent of yours?

Er, i don’t know? I can drive a stick shift? Do handstands? I have a serious knack for spotting four-leaf clovers? (They aren’t lucky, for the record.)

Are you religious?

Not so much, no. Science, nature, and art are my holy trinity :)

What’s something you wish to have at this moment?

A week alone in a cabin in the woods

No pressure tags: @forcearama @temple-mistress @thetorontokid @mischievouschan4 @pathetic-lifeform @sopherfly @obikinetic and anyone else who wants to do it (but tag me if you do so I can read it!)

#tag game #personal

[redheadbigshoes]

so i heard someone say that lesbians who are attracted to unattainable men, so like celebs or fictional characters, aren’t really lesbians. what’s your opinion on that because it doesn’t make much sense to me. i’m trying to figure myself out but i mean i still got fictional crushes on men or celeb crushes but i’m like ehhhhhh when it comes to real attainable men so i didn’t think it counted but apparently to some it does??

I think only liking unattainable men can be a sign that you’re a lesbian, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are one. Sometimes where you live really just have shitty men and those are the only ones you’ve interacted with so it really is possible that you don’t like real life men because of that.

I think one of the differences is that when it comes to lesbians “being attracted” to fictional men they’re only “attracted” to them because they are not attainable and because they create very unrealistic personalities for those men that don’t really exist in men irl.

As someone who used to think I was bi because of that “attraction” to fictional men and male celebrities, one of the reasons why I’d think I was attracted to them was because I couldn’t really tell the difference between finding men attractive vs actually being attracted to them. I was never attracted to those men I was simply recognizing their beauty.

Considering all that, after I figured out I was actually a lesbian, whatever I “felt” for those unattainable men completely disappeared. I think this is also the key to differentiate lesbians and bi sapphics. I’d say if someone was bi that attraction to those unattainable men would never disappear.

I personally don’t think it’s a good idea only trying to figure out your sexuality by trying to understand whether that attraction to those fictional men is real or not, I’d also try to question other things in your life (whether that is the guys you tried dating or the guys irl that you think you had a crush on).

Here’s some links of tags that contain posts that could help you figure out your sexuality:

#source: patronsaintoflesbians - videos related with comphet and other lesbian experiences.

#lesbian experiences - some experiences I went through that are related with my sexuality.

#stephanie answers #anon #long post

[cookiesandbiscuits]

About the Baker: Additional Information

Hi, it's me, your resident baker girl! This post are for those who want to interact with me/want to be moots and wish to know what my interests are!

And so, here we are!

BASIC PERSONAL INFO:

Name: Cookie or Cass (pick whichever you're comfortable with)

Age: 18

Pronouns: She/Her

Likes: chilly weather, books, sweets, sea, music, starry skies, DUCKS!, cats, foxes, forests, hot anime guys/fictional characters

Dislikes: COCKROACHES, garlic, hot weather, annoying noises

INTERESTS:

1. Anime:

- Yumeiro Patisserie

- Toilet Bound Hanako-kun

- Kamisama Kiss

- Cardcaptor Sakura

- Sleepy Princess in the Demon Castle

- Gugure! Kokkuri-san

- Hell Girl

- Studio Ghibli movies

2. Manga:

- Toilet Bound Hanako-kun

- Mairimashita! Iruma-kun

- Ouran High School Host Club

- Kamisama Kiss

- Sleepy Princess in the Demon Castle

3. Mobile Games:

- Obey Me!

- Ikemen Vampire

- Twisted Wonderland

- Cats Are Liquid

4. Webtoon (there's a LOT ^^;)

- I'm the Grim Reaper

- Siren's Lament

- Eaternal Nocturnal

- Regina Rena: To The Unforgiven

- Lore Olympus

- I'm the Queen in This Life

- The Remarried Empress

- Surviving Romance

- See You in My 19th Life

- Omniscient Reader

- The Guy Upstairs

5. K-drama/Shows:

- Goblin

- Hotel del Luna

- I'm Not a Robot

- Queen Charlotte: A Bridgerton Story

- The Lost Recipe

- Maria Clara at Ibarra

6. Cartoons

- Miraculous Tales of Ladybug and Cat Noir

- Star Vs. The Forces of Evil

- The Owl House

- Amphibia

- Gravity Falls

- Steven Universe

7. Movie Genres:

- Horror/Thriller

- Adventure/Fantasy

- Romance

- Comedy

- Mystery

8. Science, esp. Astronomy, Geology, Biology, Paleontology

9. History!!

10. Arts & Crafts, and Interior Design

FAVORITE CHARACTERS <3333 (not in specific order)

Lucifer (Obey Me!) - Luci!! The love of my life, my starlight, the apple of my eye... My No. 1 husbando (⁠*⁠＾⁠3⁠＾⁠)⁠/⁠～⁠♡

Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart (Ikemen Vampire) - Mo-Mo!! My lovely prickly pear!! Comes VERY close to Luci when it comes to my levels of simping

Solomon (Obey Me!) - funky magic man!! A guy I would probably have a crush on irl #1

Floyd Leech (Twisted Wonderland) - My tackle hug buddy!! We're a chaos-incarnate when combined >:3

Azul Ashengrotto (Twisted Wonderland) - A guy I would probably have a crush on irl #2

Riddle Rosehearts (Twisted Wonderland) - The character who made me interested in TWST. Also a guy who I'd probably have a love-hate relationship with irl.

Teru Minamoto (Toilet Bound Hanako-kun) - I would defend this guy from his haters!

Tsuchigomori (Toilet Bound Hanako-kun) - He's nice :D

Yako (Toilet Bound Hanako-kun) - A QUEEN! Also very goofy

Joker (Kaitou Joker) - First anime crush but would annoy the hell out of me irl. My darling toebeans.

Howl Jenkins Pendragon (Howl's Moving Castle) - a crushable handsome wizard in the movie, a goofy magic man in the book

Rena Rubel (Regina Rena: To The Unforgiven) - ANOTHER QUEEN!! My TWST Yuusona Elyssabeth Alcyone is based on her

Kalego Naberius (Mairimashita! Iruma-kun) - My secret manga husbando (have you seen him in the manga?? He's hot >///<)

Tomoe (Kamisama Kiss) - I can't believe I forgot to add him here. Malewife material fr.

Arthur Conan Doyle (Ikemen Vampire) - 🥹😘❤️❤️❤️ He's so... he's so... ❤️❤️❤️ I love him so much AAAAAAA!!! Also someone who's VERY close to Luci when it comes to the amount of simping I did over him. Very stinky at first but he'll grow on you. A very very sweet (and traumatized) guy. I would love to marry and take care of him.

Dazai Osamu (Bungo Stray Dogs) - Scared the hell out of me the first time I saw him from Auburn's post. A silly, goofy, and unhinged guy.

#personal!! #a cookie lore?!?! #self introduction

[night-dark-woods]

ok so the d2 national coming out day bgs (with the exception of saint) have been bugging me for a BIT but i finally put my finger on Why beyond an overall personal dislike of word-of-god confirmations for characters identities.

please note i am approaching this from a METAtextual perspective: these characters are fake they do not exist irl to have these sexualities irl, therefore it does not MATTER if they *could* have these identities or if these experiences/traits *could* belong to real people with these identities. i am not saying anything about the validity of these traits for Real Life People.

it matters to me why BUNGIE, who created them and decides how they will be used to interface with the fandom & how they will be described, chose to use these labels for these characters, and this is why:

saint: no problem here, literally just a fuck you to homophobic gamer bros who still insist he and osiris are friends. totally great and fine. happy for all the gay grandpa enjoyers!

cloudstrider: of fucking course the post-human / gmo human / technologically enhanced human is nb. of fucking course. (also. why no trans bg. i suppose we have no canon art of micah but STILL).

drifter: beyond any bi vs pan discourse, the decision to specifically label drifter, who is the like, outside of society weirdo who spends the most time interfacing with various aliens and iirc is implied to have had relations with aliens At One Point, as the pan one is. Okay.

eramis: while i agree shes a lesbian (note the icon ive had since. before beyond light released i believe???), of all the female characters who prioritize relationships with women (ikora w/ eris & chalco, ana w/ her canon girlfriend, petra w/ mara, among others im sure im forgetting bc there are SO many gay people in this game) to confirm as a lesbian its the one thats a) a villain b) very much NOT gamerbait or interesting at all to gamer bros, so is a "safe" character to make a dyke since it isnt "stealing" the video game crush for a huge number of gamer bros. speaking of:

mara: of FUCKING course. the skinny conventionally hot white girl whose entire visual design SCREAMS gamerbait, who ONLY has meaningful relationships (both romantic and platonic) with women, with the exception of her brother*, who textually is ONLY interested in women, is confirmed as bi. again. this is not anything about the experiences or validity of irl bi people- a relationship history does not define your sexuality for REAL people. but the narrative DOES for fictional characters, and the decision of bungie to confirm that *The* gamerbait character (on par only with cayde for a different audience), who textually only cares about women, Actually Likes Men Too, Don't Worry! pisses me off.

*she and shaxx are MOURNING HER DEAD GIRLFRIEND, that they both care about. others smarter and more knowledgeable than i have critiqued that mess, i dont need to rehash it.

#my posts #i will not put this in the main tag. im not dealing w that. nor do i care that much. BUT. this has been eating at me. #i dont Think it should find its way in there. i didnt include any full words that would make that happen i think.