#honestly my mum is the best

[daltonobsession]

How to annoy my mum:

Show her a picture of Ma Dalton from her comics and say “Haha look that’s you!”. For example: sneezing loudly, always having her special handbag with her, doting on her favourite cat and so on :)

#the daltons #lucky luke #les dalton #lucky luke daltons #Ma dalton #honestly my mum is the best

[islanddboyy]

hate when my dad calls me kiddo. love when my coach calls me kid

#my coach is the best father figure ive ever had #and ive had 3 so far #the one first was nice but i was so young when he and my mum broke up that i dont really have many memories of him #and so he hasnt really had a lasting influence on me #but i know he tried to be a father to me and ill always appreciate that #the second gave me fucking ptsd after he and my mum got into a heated fight one time #but aside from that he was nice but just a big kid and not really a role model imo #then theres my coach #the kindest man alive to me and my friend who are both sorely lacking in father figures #he is always looking out for us and being such a good person we can turn to #always motivating us and just being what a parent should be #we joke we were his practice kids #honestly love him so much #but yea im calculating how many years my dad has left to live at the rate hes going (heavy smoker and alcoholic) #and im hoping i never lose this relationship i have with my coach because hes just an incredible person to have in my life #anywhooo #idk why i went off like that #way to infodump on innocent people just trying to scroll #im the person in the car at the drive thru and whoever is unlucky enough to read this is the cashier or whatever

[nebulouscoffee]

... well it's that time of the year already. If anyone's got a Star Trek ask I'd love a distraction <3

#was really hoping the new year could be a reset ugh #but this last week Alone has been so tragic #this lovely man who used to be the watchman at my school died #he wasn't even that old #he's been around as long as I can remember... he used to remember all our names & chat with all our parents & grandparents & now he's gone #just out of the blue #& then this girl I literally played with as a kid just randomly got this massive brain bleed out of nowhere #she's YOUNG like she's only a handful of years older than me she's literally still in her 20s I think. she has a newborn baby #now she's in critical care and we don't even know if she'll make it. she's my mum's best friend's daughter we literally hung out #idk this is messing me up a bit... like #it's insane how anything can just happen it's insane how little time we have it's insane #cw death #(I don't have many followers but if anyone wants me to start tagging these vent posts anything else pls do say so lol) #(I honestly thought I'd made the last of them) #(but unfortunately people I know just! keep! dying! & I can't really complain like this anywhere else. sorry)

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

I was actually having a pretty good day until just now :/

#i reread and made notes for two solid hours! 15k of words! #i went for a walk and got ransom a toy and stocked up on chocolate (my excuse is that sometimes when i'm feeling awful eating a bit of #chocolate helps lol and this stuff was 50% off) and generally had a good walk! #and i had a bath. first bath of the season! and i read like hafl of out of hte silent planet while i was bathing and it was wonderful! #mum made the BEST ginger pudding today! #so like. i've had a great day today! #so many blessings! #and now i just feel awful because i ate something and i wanna throw up and i mustn't #been struggling more with dealin w eating lately too at times and in the last week have been deviating from what the dietitian's been #encouraging me (variety) bc i couldn't deal with it #but today was a good day! a great day! and now i feel terrible for no apparent reason #yay me :/ #puddleglum hours #personal #incidentally am SO grateful for the job that requires me to wear short sleeves bc i know that by now i would've harmed deep enough to scar #on my arms as well if i hadn't had the knowledge that the next day id have to be at work w that. the reason this is coming up rn is #bc SURPRISE i rlly wanna harm #and i CAN'T my mother found my knife. honestly even having it htere whether or not i used it felt like it gave me an option even if i #didn't take it. it was a comfort. and now it feels awful not having it esp as idk when i'll get it back and also even worse my parents #litcherally gave me that knife for my last birthday. i don't know how mum feels about that #but yeah i just. i want to do smth drastic so bad #and i CAN'T #tw sh #i don't even know why #ugh

[cheeriochat]

Today on what the hell am I talking about with my friends:

The Demon reproduction process, and by extension, possible Vergil asexual reproduction?????? Um, I don't know how this started to be honest, but if anyone wants an in depth analysis of what we discussed do not ask I won't give it to you.

#other topics discussed in this conversation: #demon prince dante and nero #flatworms #and miraculous conception #im now calling my best friend flatworm freak because she keeps talking about them #honestly im surprised her mum didnt pull over (we were driving at the time) and kick us out #we determined that normal demons probably reproduce asexually through mitosis or something #normal reproduction with eggs was also a popular choice but because my friend hates me she brought up vergil again and i shut the idea down #IMMEDIATELY #umm sorry for inflicting psychic damage on you #devil may cry #dmc

[dangerliesbeforeyou]

cant bleieve the beatles tribute band i went to didnt perform several of my favs but they DID perform oblabloodydi 1000 dead 30,000 injured

#personal #it was like a personal affront to me personally i m so mad #the reast of teh show was was amazing tho lol #one of the best parts was honestly seeing my mum dance and sing along like a lunatic lol :')

[roychewtoy]

bleaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaughhhhhhh

#sorry just pissing thoughts. talkin abt scran and weight nd that so. #just feel like two lines movin parallel with each other but not touchin when i think abt my body #be me. goes to doctors with questions abt breast reduction. doctor says losing weight would be needed #later in life. lowest weight ive ever been at. therapist says honestly just eat whatever as long as ur gettin food in u #worst ive been mentally but best i felt abt my chest #gets recommended to gender clinic. doesnt go cause where im at in my head #3 yrs on. today. put weight back on generally feelin more confident. but also puts weight on chest #mum says if u want top surgery u probably need to lose weight #MAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAN #i dont want to be unhealthy underweight just to feel solid abt my chest come onnnnmaaaaaaaan #sits down and stares at wall #okay ok #wbatever

[a-lady-in-shining-armour]

I am just not having as much fun on this website anymore. I used to enjoy all the really interesting articles and studies that people would share and discuss, but that’s really dropped off. I lot of the normal women on here used to drop some great common sense content about everyday things like the ‘second shift’ and the expectations of being gender conforming etc that once you notice you see it everywhere. Now most radblr bloggers are as terminally online as any bun-gender person and everything is interpreted in bad faith with overly emotional call outs peppered with emotive buzzwords.

I’m so sick of logging on to see such out of touch takes as ‘expecting me to ever be in a public space with a baby is misogyny’ and the sequel ‘criticising abstinence only sex education is homophobic’.

Some of you need a reality check so here it is:

You are not an activist (necessarily obviously that might be your day job) you are a tumblr blogger engaging in social media for entertainment.

Most of you are not wise sages educating young grasshoppers girls about how having a baby might effect their career (no shit Sherlock) or that domestic violence can exist in heterosexual relationships (is it their first day on earth?). This is basic common knowledge especially for women interested in feminism, you really are preaching to the converted on this topic and it’s annoying as hell when you act like we might not have ever thought about it. Most of us are successful adult women, we know at least the basics about the risks of motherhood and marriage (often first hand) and it’s offensive for some random stranger to tell us that they (and only they) have all the right answers to some of the biggest issues in world for women. Basically, we are all peers here and not one of you has any real authority over anyone else.

The decision whether to have a long term relationship with a man and/or have children (and who you do this with) is The most serious and important decision in most woman’s lives. This is so commonly acknowledged that I have talked about it with my Mum, my Grandma, my sister, my friends, and even some work colleagues. It’s the focus of so many fiction and non fiction books, and in my opinion female anxiety about these choices that disproportionately effect women is why the entire romance genre exists! Our teachers had discussions about it in class and I remember wondering if I really wanted children when I grew up as young as 12. Such an important decision is something that is not taken lightly by any woman (feminist or not) and will never be decided on the advice from online strangers. It’s especially galling that some of the most condescending and demanding bloggers on this topic also post things that reveal that they are young and lack life experience. Obviously that doesn’t mean they’re wrong, but it definitely means they have no right to talk down to women old enough to be their mothers that often have firsthand experience with what to them is political theory.

The risks of heterosexual relationships are well known, I mean who the fuck has never heard of domestic violence by adolescence? If a woman interested enough in gender critical or radical feminism to blog about it in her spare time decides to enter an intimate relationship with a man and/or have children with him it won’t be because she’s ignorant about domestic violence or how hard child rearing can be. I trust myself and other women to make hard choices and manage risks in our own lives.

It is entirely possible for individuals to know and understand the same information and still make different choices. Someone disagreeing with you or making different decisions does not necessarily mean that one of you is right and the other one is stupid. That style of black and white thinking is unhelpful and untrue, people’s opinions and decisions depend on the individual circumstances of their life, about which you know next to nothing. It’s beyond time to retire the smug ‘I always know best’ attitude and acknowledge the shades of grey.

#feminism #gender critical #I typed this on my phone while cooking dinner so it’s a little repetitive #but I’m sick of being talked down to by young adults and people living sheltered isolated lives #life is short and it sucks a big chunk of the time and people do they best they can with what they have #drop the condescension and mind your own business #of all the people in my life I might give the power to command me not one of them is on tumblr (ok it’s just my mum) #so many of you still think social media=social justice and honestly you need to grow up

[shutuperce]

was gonna make some kind of alignment chart with the teams in stranger things s2 chapter 9 (the gate) and then i realised...

steve & the party 

joyce, jonathan, will, & nancy

hopper & el

it’s literally all just parents with their children wtf

#before u come at me abt nancy technically she could be seen as joyce's daughter in law #hop is el's dad 100% #and we all know steve is a great mum #love some parent / child bonding #also this is joyce's girlboss era #not to say she wasn't a girlboss already but now she's owning it #ik there's a lot of s2 slander but i honestly love it #i mean murray is introduced #we get domestic el and hopper #and el's punk era #max mayfield my badass love #literally screaming crying laughing over her threatening billy and driving the car #she's the best #OH and steve / dustin bonding ofc #steve character development #bob the brain who was in the way of jopper but i loved him anyway #i knew he didn't survive so i chose to like him while he was around #like y'all give s2 the appreciation it deserves #stranger things #st #st s2 #stranger things season two #stranger things s2 #stranger things 2 #st season 2 #eleven #max mayfield #steve harrington #jane hopper #el hopper

[jackredfieldwasmyjacob]

SAN CUCUFATO I LOVE YOU YOU'RE MY FAVOURITE SAINT I'M GONNA PRAY TO YOU EVERYDAY

#my mum and i have been searching for my degree titles all morning #after giving up my mum tied a knot to san cucufato #we tried once more to look for it i had an epiphany and we found it #i'm not religious but san cucufato man... this shit works #love my monolatristic cultural religion <3 #honestly saints are the best thing about catholicism they remind me a lot of polytheistic religions and that's very sexy of them

[formari]

today is darvey’s third anniversary and i have been seeing so many adorable edits over twitter and i’d like to cry over them tonight

#season eight #suits tv #suits #darvey #honestly they’re the best tv couple #and that’s just the truth #noone can top them #not even merder SORRY #and that’s from a grey’s fan #i’m long over greys but not suits <3 #harvey and donna are my mum and dad #yknow to replace my own ones #i hope they’re living their best life in seattle #with besties mike and rachel <33 #happy anniversary darvey ❤️

[lighthouseborna]

thinking about how badly you have to scare him for it but scaring him so badly his fight swaps to flight and he would actually seek to be protected wow

#;;;;;;;;;;so hard. to even. #man SO hard to even get him there and right now there is only one place i can see it happening but man!!! #like the nuance is also. Many people have Henry's back and blind spots and that is always true and always his preference even #but it's not. he doesn't do Behind people very well you know like #he is the steps-between-dangers-and-loved-ones-guy that's who/how he is #and his loved ones are people who would like. be next to him or behind him or etc. but like that's the #(Hetty is a ''stands behind his shoulder unconventially armed'' type it's why they are best friends) #(Bashir is sometimes hiding sometimes back to back with him depending on the context it's why they (gestures)) #[[[oh yes hi i am also thinking about my OCs lol]]]] #Henry stands between danger and his loved ones. #but rn i am thinking about. who would Henry let stand between him and danger (or even step behind them) and what would it take #for him to do that that is what I'm thinking about #when he was very little it was mum mum stood between Henry and the scary things but that. very quickly stopped being how it was #and he Very Quickly started leaping out from behind her to Cause Problems honestly #Carina doesn't wait for him to let her btw she just decides which fights are Hers Actually and then Does It #i do think. he is still willing to step behind Jack? it's not. #it's really not a general thing and it still. you still have to scare him very very badly but I think if he was going to...... #i think if he was going to duck and make himself small it would be behind jack. yes. i think jack. #and i think. it's hard to say but i think there's ;;; he'll have to unpack it but a willingness to be Little once will is back exists i thi #think* which would also include. stepping behind yes

[caruliaa]

why the actualy fuck did i listen to a song from godaam dear even hanson. and why is it actually making me feel kindof bad about myself.

#like listen . i have not and obviously would not trick a family into thinking i was their son who killed himselfs best friend #but also some of the things that the mother sings in the first verse reminds me of stuff my mum has said to guilt trip me #whenever id somewhat critique her so um. ANYWAY IGNORING THAT. #i remembered the reason im listening to it is bc im remembering the insane amnt of good for you sander sides animatics #all specifcally aimed at virgil ?? like it was janus remus and the orange side at virgil #and i watched them sm despite fully disagreing w the idea that virgil did smth wrong by leaving the dark sides #honestly makes me wish this was the timeline were i made the good 4 u animatic idea i had #even tho thats v differnet from all the good for you animatics lol #but i still find it kinda funny on of the many good for you animatics being a totally different song nad subject matter #anyway. #flappy rambles

[skyriderwednesday]

Very glad my mother was distracted by convincing me to go ask a question about a job vacancy and I didn't have to fumble to try and explain One Piece to her as a result of a collaboration with Lush...

#very very glad of that cos i honestly don't even understand the concept of one piece beyond??? #pirates??? #they want to be the best pirates???? #maybe?????? #fruit is important??????? #i got away with just ''anime is weird idk'' #anyway i asked the job vacancy question and scanned a qr code to sign up for job alerts and didn't have to explain one piece to my mum so--

[ziskandra]

papyrus ⇢ if you put your ‘on repeat’ playlist on shuffle, what’s the first song that comes up? what do you like about it / associate it with?

twisted palm tree ⇢ do you have a fictional villain you shouldn’t people say you'd like but you feel kinda meh about love regardless? (adjusted because most of your favs are fictional villains that Fandom says you shouldn't like)

papyrus: hilariously every song in my spotify on repeat playlist atm is from my meresino playlist. anyway the first that came up when I shuffled was rabbit hole by aviva

i swear I have whole AViVA albums on this playlist oops, listen this flavour of dark pop just works so well for them.

and as for why this song in particular:

I could say I'll take you

I could say I'll make you

But underneath all I plan to do, to do is break you

You could be my breakthrough

Watching demons wait 'til

I leave you, and they can initi-niti-nitiate you

[…]

I will always wait for you

I'll always be waiting

I will always follow you

'Cause you cannot escape me

Need I say more?

twisted palm tree: firstly can I just how much I love how that you had to twist this because loving villains I shouldn’t is basically my entire brand 🥲

It actually took me a while to think of a character that people assume I love that I don’t really have strong feelings about, and in the end the only answer I could come up with is Bellatrix Lestrange from HP (with the caveat that I don’t know how the fandom portrays her bc I don’t seek out content about her).

The reason I usually love villains is that I find them relatable — either because they remind me of the worst parts of myself, or because they remind me of people I’ve encountered irl, and I like deconstructing what makes people capable of such cruelty through the safer space of fiction because it makes me a) less vulnerable to manipulation irl and b) more sympathetic to people who I wouldn’t see eye-to-eye with. I think growing up as a Young Undiagnosed Autistic, I’ve always been mystified by the concept of being cruel on purpose, and I’ve always wanted to understand it more, and the reasons behind it (even if the reason is as simple as ‘maintaining the status quo because the person in power wishes to remain so’)

Anyway, yeah, I don’t find Bellatrix interesting for the same reasons I don’t find Voldemort interesting, but my favourite HP characters nonetheless are pretty revelatory about me: Dolores Umbridge, Rita Skeeter, Petunia Dursley … I am much more interested in analysing the type of cruelty I am more likely to encounter irl!

get to know me ask game

#asha answers #as a kid i was obsessed with umbridge to the point i dressed as her for book week #so nothing about me has really changed #except no-one called me an abuse apologist back then #honestly not to get too deep on main #but a part of the reason i’m fascinated by female villains in particular is because i did grow up with an abusive mother #and the coping mechanism that worked the best was humanising her #and it took me a long time for me to even acknowledge she was abusive #like it makes me feel uncomfortable to say now even tho she was even physically abusive towards me! #like the emotional abuse was worse but usually people recognise physical abuse more easily #so yeah it fucks me right off when people call randos on the internet abuse apologists because god forbid #anyone want to explore their own abuse in a safe space #a huge part of my healing was reconciling my own trauma was acknowledging my childhood abuse #and reconciling it with the fact i still wanted to repair my relationship with my mum #and that I HAD A CHOICE about whether to reconcile or not #and that I can love who she is now (after years of her own healing) #and still acknowledge that she Fucked Me Up #anyway agency is very important to me for obvious reasons #and if someone tells me i shouldn’t do something I wanna do it more oops #asha’s villain manifesto #mxkelsifer

[aw-bean-s]

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#When you cry because you're ugly but you've literally always been ugly #✌️✌️✌️ #Listen I KNOW this is a lame as post but I need to express this SOMEWHERE because anyone irl will get mad or weird abt it #And I got kicked out of fucking therapy so #Here #Here is what I have #But yah I'm ugly and proms today and I spent an hour and a fucking half past midnight trying to get my hair brushed and dry #Only to find out my dye job is patchy and spotty and ugly as all hell #But I can't tell anyone that because mum helped me! #So she'll get upset and angry and cry and be all 'i did my best' when I KNOW she did and I'm grateful #Not her fault my hair sucks and I'm too ugly to pull off patchy hair #God I just. I'm gonna be in a room with a bunch of ppl I either don't know that well or don't like #And I have it on good authority at least some of em think I'm a bitch #I just. I don't wanna go. But it was eight five stupid fucking dollars that couldve gone to something USEFUL like shoes that don't break #But my friends organised the prom so I gotta fuckin go to the stupid bland expensive party #And they wanna all go get ready at this (really nice honestly) girls house that I've never been to and everybody knew the plan before me #But also all of my friends have been so busy and all hanging out with each other without me that I don't even wanna go! #Like I don't even have the appeal of 'hang out with friends and laugh about how bad it is' OR ' #'get ready in the comfort of my own home because I'm insecure as all hell and the thought of putting makeup on in front of evryone makes me #Want to vomit my guys out' #Specially since there's this one friend we have that. He's fine. Kinda. Idk he makes me uncomfy sometimes because he's so fucking judgy #Didn't even fully realise till this year what a judgy bitch he is but hey always fun to learn new things about the people you care about! #He always gives me weird side eyes when I wear makeup #I already feel insecure enough mate I'm just trying to look presentable enough that at the 'party but full of stupid cameras' #I won't be getting made fun of the week afterwards because they post allllll the photos online #Kill me #Kill me kill me kill me #God I wanna throw up #But instead I will go to bed