#generationaldifferences

[relationshipg2uide]

When Love Ages Apart: Why Age Gap Relationships Don't Work

Uncover why age gap relationships don't work. Learn about the benefits and drawbacks, including cultural expectations and emotional compatibility. Find your happy ending at any age!

#agegaplove #AgeGapRelationships #intergenerationallove #lastingloveispossible #lovehasnoage #financiallysavvyrelationships #RelationshipDynamics #EmotionalIntimacy #Relationships #RelationshipSustainability #GenerationalDifferences #relationshipadvice #datingadvice

[laine-lulu]

BLOG POST #8

Blog Post 8 - Originally Noted on April 11th, 2023:

Blog post 8 is where I wanted to shine light on how older generations to younger generations react to one another. I compared this from Boomers to Gen Z, though honestly I think this can be seen through any generation looking against one another. 

I included two quotes from page 92 of Sula in which this helps explain the idea below:

“Well don’t let your mouth start nothing that your ass can’t stand. When you gone to get married? You need to have some babies. It’ll settle you.”

“I don’t want to make somebody else. I want to make myself.”

These quotes are being told to one another, in another generation. I think this is important because it shows us the difference between not only the characters in this book, but in reality. Today we are told often by Boomers that we need to be married, to have children, and that if we don’t we are often selfish. Though today, we are starting to realize we don’t need to be married, we don’t need to have a man run our household or even have one partner over the other, and we don’t have to have kids. Rather than being selfish, I think the younger generation would be considered more independent. 

I think though, probably in the time Boomers were our age, they also had differences with older generations to them at the time. Though, as I said earlier it goes back to differences in generations pinning each other to their ways, rather than just Boomers and Gen Z.

One last thing is, I like the quote stating they do not want to make somebody else, but rather themselves. I think it again relates to separating a person from decisions and statuses. People can just be people without having to get a title of wife, partner, mother, father, they are themselves first. I think also if you are not making yourself, then those titles are just a title, not an adjective to describe you. Like yes, you could be a mom, but did you become one because you wanted to or because older generations were telling you, you have to? This could link us down a deeper rabbit hole then to how individuals in real life have their own character development with drastic change, but I’ll leave that up to the ones reading to seek their own answers to that.

#Sula #Boomers #GenZ #GenerationalDifference #Blog Post 8

[ecoamerica]

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The American Climate Leadership Awards 2024 broadcast recording is now available on ecoAmerica's YouTube channel for viewers to be inspired by active climate leaders. Watch to find out which finalist received the $50,000 grand prize! Hosted by Vanessa Hauc and featuring Bill McKibben and Katharine Hayhoe!

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[officiallyholistic]

What's something your children have that you didn't have growing up?

#ParentingPerspective#NextGenWonders#GenerationalDifferences#ParentingInsights#ChildhoodContrasts#GrowingUpToday#NewGenerationGadgets#ParentingReflections#ModernChildhood#FamilyTimes

#mental wellbeing #self talk #parenting

[heartencasedingold]

LoL I love these videos. Also at this point I need an arranged marriage. 😭🥺

[ravingsofamadsoutherner]

Normal is Just a Setting but the Knob on my Dryer is Broken

Normal is Just a Setting but the Knob on my Dryer is Broken #Blog #Blogging #Bloggers #GenerationalDifferences #SocietalNorms #CulturalNorms #Normal #Abnormal #Resistance #Change

“A ‘normal person’ is what is left after society has squeezed out all unconventional opinions and aspirations out of a human being.”― Mokokoma Mokhonoana I just read a plea for normalcy. The plea had to do with the way a certain youth had chosen to dress. Was it her purple hair or her nose stud that set you off? “Why can’t they be like we were?” Because they live in a different world, and we…

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[fatgirlsguidetodating]

Blog: Almost 40.

I’ve never been one for posting particularly introspective blog entries publicly. It’s not that I don’t contemplate things, or even write about them, but for the most part those meandering musings are confined only to my phone’s notes app- my most used app behind Facebook. And on those rare occasions that I *do* publicly blog about them I usually keep it on a relatively superficial level as I don’t necessarily like opening up my mind (and insecurities) to strangers.

But I’m turning 40 in less than a month and I think this is the catalyst that’s prompted a lot more thought about things than I’d ordinarily give them. I’d always considered 40 old but, as I approach it, I don’t *feel* old. And my family and friends would be rather quick to point out I don’t act it either. I always thought by 40 I would be much further along in life than I am. That I’d have a good job, a nice husband, a nice house, kids, that whole suburban dream. But... I haven’t.

And I started thinking if I’m a ball of mixed emotions about turning 40 maybe there’s other women- and men for that matter- who are feeling the exact same way so perhaps if I’m to break my self imposed cocoon of privacy around my innermost thoughts now might be the perfect time to give it a shot. So, with that being said, here goes nothing...

Here’s the thing: I remember my Mum’s 40th. I had just turned 10. I was sitting outside with my cousins, all of similar ages, and we were making fun of what we considered to be the appalling music taste our respective parents had. I even remember the leather pants Mum was wearing. She claims to have forgotten them but I think she’s faking that despite her bad memory. It didn’t even occur to me for a millisecond that my 40th wouldn’t be spent in a similar fashion. I just assumed life would follow the same path most women’s lives had followed for generations (with one caveat- I was planning to be the first one to go to uni): I’d find a job, I’d find a husband, we’d buy a house with a white picket fence, and we’d have 2.5 kids and a dog. And that all of that would be well and truly achieved by the time I turned 40. Just like it had been for my mum, and her mum before her, and hers before her. It was just the way things went, you know?

And then life happened. There’s a line in “Beautiful Boy” one of the John Lennon songs that I love that says “life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans” and it couldn’t be any truer in the 21st century than It was when it was written in 1980. (It’s a cruel twist of fate that it was written not long before he died and released after his death.)

For me “life” was all about my health, or lack thereof. I’ve mentioned the back issues before and the many hospital visits, and the 70 plus back ops. In essence this put things on hold: work, getting a home of my own, finding a guy (hard when you are always in and out of hospital and have problems losing weight) and having kids. So as I approach 40 without those things I’m not necessarily looking forward to it the way many do. (Plus if I get one “over the hill” card the person giving it to me shall be in a body bag.)

One thing I noticed when researching this blog post was Google searches about turning 40 seemed to concentrate on two things: what your health would be like post 40 and life as a Mum. Well what about those of us who are single and childless? Are we invisible? This didn’t particularly help with my mixed emotions about this supposed great milestone.

And it seems I’m not alone. Dr. Nancy Oreilly wrote about women’s aging anxiety that regardless of how you feel towards turning 40 you’ll still do what everyone does at this juncture and take stock of your life thus far. Things like “what have you done with your life? Are you the person you intended to be and are you living the life you want?” (1.)

In Lisa Bono’s interview with author Glynnis MacNicol about her book “No one tells you this” for the Sydney Morning Herald about life as a single 40 year old woman MacNicol admits she approached her 40th with “so much dread and shame" because she didn't have what she was "supposed" to have - a husband and a kid or two.... (because) we don't understand how to talk about women's lives as fulfilling unless we incorporate babies or weddings.” (2.)

Meredith Goldberg, in her article about age being just a number posed the question that if indeed age was just a number why was she feeling so apprehensive? Was it because she felt “like (she) had not accomplished enough in (her) 40 years on earth?” (3.) After all she hadn’t gotten married, hadn’t had kids, didn’t have another advanced degree.

Interestingly studies over the last decade or so have shown that the start of middle age (which, much to my chagrin given my belief I’m still like a much younger woman, is considered to be 40) often correlates with the time when people are the least happy, have the lowest levels of life satisfaction and highest levels of anxiety. A study at the University of Warwick and Dartmouth College attributed this to the facts that at this stage “adults are often faced with the pressures of raising children and looking after aging parents while simultaneously dealing with mounting financial and career pressures.“ (4)

Is it all too late for me- and other women turning 40 without a child- though? This is one of the most common thoughts going round and round in my head as I approach 40. I mean we all know about the whole ticking biological clock right? Even when I was doing my first postrgrad degree at 24, working part time, still single, still living at home, I still thought well there’s plenty of time. At 28 when I was finishing with postgrad, working full time but still single I *still* thought well there’s still a fair bit of time. At 33 it changed to well I guess there’s still time if I get a bit of a hurry on now. And now, at 39, single and childless, I think well maybe it’s too late now.

In her article about turning 40 whilst single and childless Bethany Jenkins wrote that it’s not only common but practically universal for a woman to expect and long for children, “to bring new life into the world; to put her hand on her belly as her baby grows; to wonder whether the newborn will have her or her beloved’s eyes; to hear “mom” not as a word uttered by her own voice to her own mother but as a call from her child’s voice for her.” (5) MacNicol in her book echoes that saying “as women, we’re taught to expect our stories to turn to marriage and children at a certain point in time (namely, before 40.)” (6)

Robin Deutsch, a psychologist and associate professor at William James College in Newton also points out that women reaching 40 tend to be more confident, have more wisdom and make better choices. (4) (Does she even know me?) But when you really think about it the whole “life begins at 40” theory has some merit. Julia Child didn’t publish her first cookbook until she was almost 50. Vera Wang didn’t start her fashion career until 40.

The fact that these women have the same feelings surrounding turning 40 whilst single and childless gives me some comfort. There’s a quote from Jung that I remember from philosophy at uni. He said that life begins at 40 and until then you’re just doing research. And maybe I’ve got to look at the positives in my current circumstances? One big upside I see is freedom. I plan to travel and return to uni to study something I’m passionate about and it’s doubtful I could do this had my life taken that path I was so sure it would.

So does this mean that the formula that my mum and all my ancestors followed, that unsaid life plan of when to get married, buy a home and have kids, is a thing of the past? We know women have children later these days. In fact the median age for a first kid these days is 30.6 as per the ABS reports

From the 1950s to mid 1970s, the fertility rates of women aged 20–24 and 25–29 were patently higher than that of all other age groups. Since then, the fertility rates for women in their 20s have been steadily declining whilst rates of those aged in their 30s have mostly increased since the early 1980s. Since 2000, the fertility rate of women in their early 30s has been higher than all other groups. It’s not just that women are having babies later but also the birth rate has declined. In 1950 the birth rate was 23.124. Its predicted 2020 will be at 12.561. (ABS yearly reports.)

We know women have children later these days, preferring to be settled and to have done the things they thought they’d not be able to do after before becoming a parent. Compared to our mothers, our grandmothers and so on we have more choices and not every woman’s first goal in life is having a child. (8)

The differences between say baby boomers and millennials are striking. It’s not just the fact that they settle down later but there are also other factors that mean by the time we turn 40 we may not have all the things our ancestors have but there are other priorities we have. For instance more women go to university now than they did when my Mum was turning 40. And after spending the time, work and money to get a degree it’s only natural that it follows that they want to get more out of their careers. Whilst baby boomers are more driven by loyalty, often staying at the same company for years, millennials are more interested in achieving more, whether that’s at the same company or not. (9) My father, for example, worked for the same company his entire life. He could have gone to many others with the knowledge he’d accumulated but he liked his job and he was happy there so it didn’t even really occur to him in more than a passing thought.

Then you look at things like buying a home. It’s ironic given that pay has increased that millennials are putting home ownership off longer than previous generations. Whilst people of my parents generation were content with a “starter home” these days more and more first home buyers want a bigger home, with bigger and better appliances, closer to the city than the suburbs etc. Research has found that rather than jump straight into a mortgage millennials look at travel, and spending their pay on things like Ubers and Lyfts, coffee, gadgets, clothes, and live entertainment and sports. (9)

Marriage is also something we do later. Consider the fact that whilst almost “50% of baby boomers were married between the ages of 18 to 32... a mere 26% of millennials are married in the same age range.” (9)

The fact that so many other women have the same feelings surrounding turning 40 whilst single and childless gives me some comfort. There’s a quote from Jung that I remember from philosophy at uni. He said that life begins at 40 and until then you’re just doing research. And maybe I’ve got to look at the positives in my current circumstances? One big upside I see is freedom. In the next 12 months I plan to travel and return to uni to study something I’m passionate about and it’s doubtful I could do this had my life taken that path I was so sure it would.

In an article published on mindbodygreen.com the writer spoke about how well-meaning friends had been asking her did she not want to have kids, did she not want to get married, etc, and she was quick to say that this can actually be the “most celebrated time of your life (and to) consider yourself blessed and enjoy the freedom.” (10) She listed some of the things to celebrate about turning 40 whilst single and childless. Like me travel was up there on her list as was the time to Perdue your passions. She also mentioned “(the) opportunity to nurture your friendships and relationships with family...(and that) the dating pool is large in your 40’s (given) a large majority of our population is divorced... there are so many

social media dating sites and social events in every major city... (and) you know what you're looking for.” (10)

So maybe instead of worrying about why I’m not where I wanted to be turning 40, worrying that it’s too late, worrying that my friends are further along than I am, I should be embracing it. The future is mine. I’ve just got to find a way to embrace it.

Fatgirl.

Sources:

1.) https://www.drnancyoreilly.com/40-2/

2.) https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/no-one-tells-you-life-as-a-40-year-old-single-woman-can-be-like-this-20180717-p4zs16.html

3.) https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1140197/anxious-about-turning-40/amp/

4.) https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2017/06/01/seriously-now-what-traumatic-about-turning/UVnbdmxVvLSzwoB8Yo4wGP/story.html%3foutputType=amp

5.) https://ifstudies.org/blog/reflections-on-turning-40-while-single-and-childless

6.) https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wellandgood.com/good-advice/single-at-40-glynnis-macnicol-interview/amp/

7.) https://aifs.gov.au/facts-and-figures/births-in-australia

8.) https://www.mamamia.com.au/average-age-to-have-kids/

9.) https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.businessinsider.com/difference-millennials-baby-boomers-2019-4%3famp

10.) https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.mindbodygreen.com/articles/so-im-single-40-and-childless-now-what--10631

#dating #40 #almost40 #emotions #babyboomers #generationx #generationy #millenials #single #childless #worry #freedom #travel #university #howtocope #generationaldifferences #aging #anxiety #aginganxiety

[ineedyouherebabe]

Come see me present my research tomorrow morning, in the new science center, at 9:30am! I'm so excited and proud to be ending my senior year on such a good note! Open to the public! 😊🎉 #research #rallsymposium #tattoos #stopthestigma #generationaldifferences (at North Central College)

#stopthestigma #generationaldifferences #rallsymposium #research #tattoos

[pan-the-mischievous]

Going through our VHS’s we found an old tape of Babar: King of the Elephants and I’m watching it with my sister and she’s gotten really into it(which I love since I loved babar as a kid) but the tape is kinda corrupted so it’s blacked out at this one point and idk if we can fix it and she’s super stressed

#im trying to explain #that you cant just fix vhs tapes #thats not how it works #were only six years apart #but the generationaldifference is immemze #pants here

[itsnicetomake]

Knitting scarves. In recent years my mum prefers bright 'sunny' colours. Me- I'm still expressing my inner 'goth'. My mum is wearing her falls alarm on her left arm, me - I'm wearing my #fitbit2 #dementiacare #dementia #alzheimers #therapeuticknitting #crochet ##craftingtogether #wellbeing #dementiadiaries #generationaldifferences #windrushgeneration https://www.instagram.com/p/Bpep_CZnm2M/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=14ou9n8y9bab4

#fitbit2 #dementiacare #dementia #alzheimers #therapeuticknitting #crochet #craftingtogether #wellbeing #dementiadiaries #generationaldifferences #windrushgeneration

[fantastictacofire-blog]

Mom ok...whatever. Let’s just agree to disagree.

Have you ever been in a debate with an older adult but never came to a common ground so you just agreed to disagree? Like many other people, I have these debates with my mother quite frequently. It is most likely due to the era in which she was born, the baby boomer generation. Most things that seem adventurous and brave to me are fearful of my mother. I think that this is due to the difference in generation. In the Baby Boomers Audience Insight guide, it states that “first impressions are more difficult to reverse than for younger adults.” Meaning that once a person has a preconceived notion about something it is often very hard to convince them otherwise.

This concept is constantly revealed to me when my mom and I are discussing traveling, especially if there has been a tragedy. I was planning to study abroad for one summer in a European country. This was around the time of the terrorist attacks in London. When the bombing happened, my mom told me NO! Yes, I know her intuition led her to say no to protect me and to provide safety for me. However, I cannot live with fear and think that something will happen to me. This mindset is most likely contributed to the fearless attitude that my generation possesses.

Examples of these generational differences make it important to know the audience that you are targeting. When creating a new policy or new idea, it might be harder for older generations to accept change. Whereas, younger adults or even teens adapt to change more easily. In this clip from the Ellen show, two of the audience members show some of those generational differences between #boomersvsmillennials and this gives some insight into what is important for each generation.

#pubh340 #boomervsmillenial #generationaldifferences

[ecoamerica]

Watch the American Climate Leadership Awards 2024 now: https://youtu.be/bWiW4Rp8vF0?feature=shared

The American Climate Leadership Awards 2024 broadcast recording is now available on ecoAmerica's YouTube channel for viewers to be inspired by active climate leaders. Watch to find out which finalist received the $50,000 grand prize! Hosted by Vanessa Hauc and featuring Bill McKibben and Katharine Hayhoe!

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[leslieannesullivan]

A kid drew this in the letter to Santa guestbook #generationaldifferences (at Hotel Viking)

#generationaldifferences

[water-runs]

Grandpa's in one room watching James Bond. I'm in the other watching The L Wors

#generationaldifferences #feminist #vs #patriarchy

[itsamahonsworld]

Five things I wish my dad understood, but know he never will

Generational differences, stubbornness, selective hearing. Call it what you want. Whatever it is, I've come to the realization that no matter how much of a broken record I allow myself to be, some things will really really really never change.

1. When you hit ‘reply all’ on an email, everyone can see the thing that you think you’re only writing back to the individual who sent you the email.  Under no circumstances should you hit ‘reply all.’  Ever.  I’m serious.

2. The joke you make at every holiday dinner about your three kids from two different wives being three nights’ work: Mom doesn’t like it. Your three kids aren’t crazy about it either.  And while we’re on the subject, an eye roll does not mean, “Please tell it again.”

3. You could have emailed me that article about ‘financial literacy’ instead of saving it for three weeks, losing it twice, finding it again with a little bit of food on it, and giving it to me as a small newspaper clipping the next time we went out to dinner with a bunch of people.

4. I know you know all about my birth control and how many times I’ve switched it and other things typical dads probably don't know about their daughters, but jokes about the pill and casual sex are awkward in private. When you make one in front of a third party, it makes me want to die.

5. The icon on your iPhone that says ‘Messages’…that is where you go to read your messages.  It’s honestly that easy. Are you messing with me? 

#lists #family #dad #dads #generationaldifferences #technologically challenged #birth control #reply all #selective hearing #fyi