#contributing in classes | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

mental-health-advice · 1 year

Note

Hi I hope you're well. Idk who else to talk to and I haven't actually gone to a therapist yet but I know I have some sort of social anxiety because it affects my daily life. I barely participate in discussions during my classes and when I do, I overthink what I'm going to say and end up going off topic, not like how I rehearsed it in my head. I start to hate myself after I talk in class because I hate the way I speak (I'm really really bad at thinking on the spot and mumble a lot so it makes me self conscious). Sometimes the prof tells me she can't hear me and it makes me even more anxious and I feel guilty because I'm not contributing to the class well, while my classmates can contribute freely, without any worries, and are able to articulate their ideas perfectly. I feel like it'll just be a downward spiral from here because I'm only continuing my studies because my parents have high expectations for me. They think I'm capable of getting a great job because of my education and my organization skills but I get anxious just thinking about it because I know for a fact that I'd never do well in a job interview no matter how much I practice (even if I practice it still wouldn't go how I planned). They think I'm their only hope because my two elder brothers didn't finish their studies, and one also has some mental health issues (he speak to a therapist on the phone for help). I on the other hand, I know I need to go to therapy but I don't think my parents think anything is wrong with me. Plus, I feel like I'd just be a burden on them because they're already struggling as it is (we're not really that well off) and I've seen how my family treats my brother as a burden as well for having mental health issues) so I don't think I'll ever get the help I want. I also feel like a burden on my close friends because some of them also have some mental health issues and so bringing up my own struggles will make it seem as though I'm disregarding theirs. It's just too much and it's gotten to the point where I have trouble sleeping because my brain doesn't stay quiet and I have too many thoughts running through my head :(

Hey there,

I too had struggles when I was at uni with actively participating in class discussions and sharing my own thoughts and ideas on topics that were brought up, so you are definitely not alone in that aspect.

I think when it comes to speaking up and contributing to class discussions, it’s more of a confidence thing and so the more you do it, the better and more comfortable you will feel in doing it. You did mention though that you try to talk in class but that you are never satisfied or happy in the way you talk/ feeling as though you don’t get your point across well enough despite practicing and rehearsing it in your head first. Firstly, I think it’s great that you are at least giving it a go and trying, you would be surprised at how many people will just sit back in the background and stay quiet.

I am wondering if before talking in class you can first write down points that you want to talk about and next to each point writing a bit about each. Doing this may help you to stay on point and remind yourself what you are trying to discuss and get out talking wise in your classes. Just an idea! Something else you could try is speaking to your professor and letting them know that you struggling with talking in class and that it makes you feel really self-conscious when they say they cannot hear you. You never know but they may also have some pointers on how you can talk more in classes! I’m sure that they have had past students who have struggled with the same or similar things as you when it comes to speaking in class.

I also want to quickly mentioned that it’s not really fair on your parents to put all this pressure on you for being the only one out of your siblings to get into uni and continue in your studies. I too can relate to this as my eldest sister wanted to be a paramedic but didn’t get the grades to go to uni to further in her studies and my brother chose a trade and so again didn’t go to uni but then somehow, shy me got accepted? Yes it’s super cool that you got in and get to study in your chosen fields but at the same time it has to be because you want to do this, not others wanting this for you but because you want it for yourself. And whilst it’s true that you may get a better job from going to uni, you can still get a decent job of your choice without a degree. My sister is a great example of this as she never made it to uni but now has a great job at an emergency services call centre where she is able to directly help others still (just not in the field). And me, well I had to drop out of uni due to my mental health impacting on my studies but I again am doing what I love even though it’s mostly volunteer based stuff. So for example I love both working with animals and helping others and offering them support where I can. I now volunteer for an animal rescue group with getting funding and am also a foster carer for cats/ kittens and to help me fulfill my desires to help others, I volunteer when I can here at MHA. I guess what I am trying to say is that getting a degree isn’t everything. You need to be happy and really want this, even if what you really want isn’t following your parent’s dreams for you.

And in regards to feeling as though you won’t be any good at job interviews, just try to focus on the here and now right now. We never know what the future may have in store for us so there is no point in worrying or stressing about all the what ifs when they haven’t even happened as yet!

I know it can be really hard in confiding in friends about your own struggles when you know they have their own stuff going on as well. It’s more than OK to let friends into your world though and they may even be able to offer you some advice and support themselves. You will not be disregarding their own mental health stuff, actually, one thing that I have found helpful in my own mental health recovery is that sometimes it can really help to help others or even just to listen to them when times are tough or just for things in general. It can help give the other person a break from their own struggles and head and that can be really helpful at times for both you and them! And if you are worried about saying too much to your friends about your own situation, then just let them know to tell you if it’s getting to be too much. It’s OK for them to say stop, just like it’s OK for you to tell them to stop if them talking to you is becoming too overwhelming.

It can be really tough when we know we need that extra help and support but feel as though by speaking up we will be a burden to others. And whilst I do not know your family’s personal situation there are ways that you can receive the help and support and at a low cost or for free. For example, you can always speak to a counsellor from either a helpline or on web counselling which is free, or you can check out your local community mental health services and see if they can help you and support you in any way or even just referring you on to someone else. There is hope out there and yes, your parents may not be accepting that you need help and support too, but even the most successful people need help and support sometimes!

I really hope that this has helped a bit and please do let us know if we can help to support you in any other way!

I’m thinking of you and hope that you are going well!

Take care,

Lauren

#mha-lauren #advice #advice blog #mental health advice #anonymous #contributing in classes #speaking to professor #higher education #getting a job #job interviews #friends #confiding in friends #getting help

0 notes

cinnamoontopography · 4 months

Text

I think not being overly nice to regressive women in comfy, first world countries is the way to go tbh. Like, they are not going to listen to common sense advice, nor are they going to react well to you trying to save them. When they complain about feminism keeping them from being SAHMs and putting them in the workplace, you actually need to remind them that the reason they don't have the life they want is because a rich, generous man does not want them. If they desperately want to be at home they need to lower their standards, learn to coupon, and live a more humble life or clock in to afford the salon treatments/Sephora/Target/Amazon shopping sprees. I don't particularly care to tell women to lower their standards, but it is the truth for if they want to leave the workforce like they claim they want to sooo badly. It is not a tragedy that they won't be like rich socialite women who become content creators and show off their overconsumption. There is not a time and place on the planet before this where the people lower on the pyramid could do a nothing-ass office job in air-conditioning and get such a buffet of instant gratification everywhere, and this has caused some women to lose their sense of perspective and reality.

#*.cin #feminism needs to be meaner idgaf #enough with the 5000 disclaimers and essays acknowleding how the da evils of capitalism contribute to this attitude #yeah its a part of the story but how many actual working class women yap this flavor of regressive nonsense?

162 notes · View notes

jeonghan-yoons · 1 year

Photo

jeonghan : 손오공 mv behind

582 notes · View notes

einno-arko · 1 year

Text

(I wanna tag @my-secret-shame cause you inspired me to make these 😭)

1K notes · View notes

zvaigzdelasas · 3 months

Text

"You say I'm not a Marxist? I'll have you know I have a PhD in Marxism bet you feel pretty silly now huh"

#marxism phd class 101: shoulda done smth that will actually help you meaningfully contribute to the party w like concrete skills or money

76 notes · View notes

firstkillers · 10 months

Text

Anyways this whole submarine thing has proven that people on this site aren’t actually able to commit to eating the rich.

#oh no there is a 19 year old on there #he’s a little itty bitty kid who has no thoughts of his own #so he signed a legal document that said you could die in this thing #fuck that #he’s 19 rich kid #he knows exactly what he's doing #they made their decisions to go into that death tube to go to a mass grave of working class and immigrants #these billionaires have contributed to the climate crisis #the so called kid #would have one day also have become another rich person sucking the life out of the world #so fuck him and fuck the rest of them #let the sea take their souls #it is their retribution for the souls of immigrants and working people they have taken #oceangate #titan #titanic

175 notes · View notes

chaikajpeg · 6 months

Text

here's my contribution to the "library wars" fandom of five people

reference photos:

someone's wedding photography (couldn't find the set): http://www.k-meng.com/go-c102.htm

"Station 19"

#my art #1) i only watched the anime so this might be OOC but i want to imagine them this way and you can't stop me #2) i saw manga fans complain about the anime designs but i definitely like the anime ones more. i prefer realism to shoujo #3) i watched the anime bc i had to learn new vocabulary for my japanese class but oh god i just COULDN'T remember +#+ the word “library”. so i googled “toshokan” on MAL and found this anime and decided to watch 5 minutes just for the laughs. haha.........#4) the setting is ridiculously unrealistic but i liked the characters enough to feel the urge to draw them #(female lead being taller definitely contributed to that lol)#toshokan sensou #library wars #kasahara iku #atsushi dojo

73 notes · View notes

latimeria-fell-from-heaven · 23 days

Text

guess who's stuck in a group project where no one is even really doing SHIT and now i have to probably do the whole thing by myself (◉‿◉) so the reason why i'm barely even writing anymore is bc of my two 8 week courses, sorry about that <33

#lati speaks #i already emailed the professor and she said that if none of them contribute then i can leave their name out of the document #like only TWO of them joined the groupme but they haven't really said much but i'll still give them credit for AT LEAST trying ig #this is a technical writing class btw it's one of those “pitch a project to us!” projects i'm doing and i chose art therapy #and now i'm suffering from allergies so my stress is through the roof and i'm gonna throw a brick at one of these bitches istg

44 notes · View notes

trans-cuchulainn · 3 months

Text

a nuance to the uni/school thing is also i think that like... for most humanities subjects in the uk you mainly won't have "classes" in the form of lessons (languages i think would be a key exception here), you'll have lectures which are a one-way thing and then seminars which are more discussion based and involve reading/prep work beforehand, and at some unis you'll have smaller group tutorials or supervisions

but like. the pedagogical culture is a bit different i think? it is much less like school and more heavily reliant on independent learning. you might only have a handful of contact hours a week and everything else is you in a library doing the reading or whatever; you're not gonna have a lot of short assignments and quizzes so much as, like, a bunch of research essays (how many will vary heavily by course and institution) so it's more like Doing Research than doing Homework the way you would at school, even early on in undergrad

and this is partly due to specialising earlier rather than having gen ed courses so you've got a much narrower range of modules to be doing yunno

(this doesn't apply to like, stem subjects. they've got labs and shit. god knows what they're doing over there.)

#my undergrad institution was deeply atypical since we had weekly essays but zero graded coursework #so EVERYTHING relied on end of year exams and the weekly essays didn't contribute to your marks at all #they were just a learning exercise and the discussion part was a big part of it #but that is not how most unis are structured for undergrad #the only time i ever had anything i would call 'homework' like assignments would be language classes #but i still probably wouldn't call it that except tongue in cheek #bc all the work is at home

45 notes · View notes

bonefall · 7 months

Note

Tbh the whole 'bloodclan bans families and hates Cat God' thing really reminds me of the anti communist bullshit I was fed in highschool history class.

Every day I count my lucky stars that I got educated in a well-funded school in a blue state. My teachers were shockingly good in hindsight, I didn't get half of the same propaganda some of my friends in other states got.

#One of the coolest things that we did in my high school history class was #My teacher actually taught us the dawn of the soviet union and the rise of stalinism #AND THEN pulled out a book they had to read in their college course!#Which taught the SAME story from the other side. Exactly as a teenager in the soviet union would learn the story #It blew my third eye RIGHT open #And I think it became downright formative because I've never been able to look at the concept of history lessons the same way #Both the American story and the Soviet story framed their home nations as the righteous entity #And I guess the narrative concept of 'framing' had never felt SO REAL before #Same events just described differently... how much can change from wording #And later that year when I learned about the american whiskey rebellion I thought of a farmer uprising in the soviet union #Yknow. Thinking about it. I wonder if this at all contributed to why I made the Educator role...#Tomorrow's history is today's politics lads. Don't forget that.#And they will laminate the shit and the mud along with the truth.#Bone babble

84 notes · View notes

mystic-warriors · 1 month

Note

Excuse me, Mystic, could we please have some handsome Whispers please

It's not my fault, they asked

#im so glad to be able to do my part and contribute to this community #this is what you wanted isnt it #yokai watch #yo kai watch #yokai watch whisper #art #yo kai watch whisper #youkai watch #youkai watch whisper #tumblr sexyman #i stopped doing my math currently IN CLASS just to draw this

39 notes · View notes

storeboughtbrand · 2 years

Text

Mav: Guys...I just want to know. I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed.

*silence*

Mav: Smart choice, I was lying. *looks around the circle consisting of Rooster, Bob, Phoenix, Hangman, Payback, and Fanboy. Then he looks up at the break room to stare at Halo, Fritz, Coyote, Omaha, Yale, and Harvard. The other group stares back instead of hiding* So...no one wants to fess up?

Mav: Okay..I see how it is. *turns to look at Rooster* You know anything?

Rooster: Nope, I had no part in this Mav-

Mav: Bullshit, I can see the corner of mustache twitching, it only does that when you're hiding something from me.

Rooster: *checks to see if it's true but realizes he fell for the trick* Shit!

Mav: No part of this, my ass. The longer this takes, the worse the punishment's gonna be. *narrows his eyes at Rooster before whipping his attention to Fanboy* How bout you, Fanboy? Got something to tell me?

Fanboy: *avoids Mav's eyes to look at the others. Phoenix makes a zip-it motion. Hangman mouthes, "you better fucking not."* I don't know anything either, Captain.

Mav: *squints harder* So....I guess Cyclone's office randomly decided to redecorate itself overnight?

Hangman: *because the man can't help himself* Cyclone may have finally decided to spruce up the place.

Mav: *zeroes in on Jake* Really?! He decided to replace every single picture in his office spontaneously...with shirtless pictures of young me!?

Hangman: I mean, you were a hot young twink back then, Pops. Can't really blame the admiral.

*Everyone except Mav facepalms*

Mav: *sighs while muttering you cannot kill your child, you need 12 to make a full dozen* Given the withstanding silence, I'm going to make an educated guess and say it was a group effort. *the group starts to protest* which I do respect. I'm glad to see you each have each other's back. That being said, speak now or forever hold your piece.

*Everyone remains silent, though there are a lot of shifting eyes and suspicious looks traded.*

Mav: Then....you leave me no choice...*pauses dramatically to make eye contact with everyone* you are all banned from my house for an entire week-.

Everyone: WHAT THE FUCK!

*violent banging on a window can be heard from the break room and Mav looks up. Halo and Harvard are both holding up pieces of paper with the words "HELL NO!" & "YOU CAN'T DO THIS US!" angrily scribbled on each respectfully*

Mav: Hush! All of you! You all did something wrong and now you have to deal with the consequences of your actions - No, stop it, all of you, those eyes are not going to work on me.

Phoenix: Sir, hypothetically speaking, *Mav raises his eyebrow* if we were the ones to put up those pictures instead of Admiral Simpson, I would think you would find it funny too.

Mav: Oh, don't worry, Phe, I burst out laughing and couldn't stop for 10 minutes straight when I walked into his office. In fact, I almost passed out from lack of oxygen.

Phoenix: Then why-

Mav: My problem with all of this is that he won't give the photos back.

*stunned silence*

Bob: I-I'm sorry, sir, did you just say-

Mav: I said what I said. Cyclone won't give the photos back.

Rooster: *whispers what the fuckkkkk* Okay, well.... we can steal them back for you...

Mav: Nope, there is no redemption round for any of you. *he cocks his hip and points to everyone, including the people upstairs* Now, thanks to all of you ......I have no choice but to seduce Cyclone to get them back.

....

Daggers.exe has stopped working

Rooster: *faints but Fanboy catches him, but they both collapse on the ground*

Payback: *chokes on his spit and starts up a coughing fit*

Hangman, Phoenix, and Bob: *all have varying glazed looks of horror, with Jake's being the most horrified*

Payback: *in a raspy voice* S-Sir, you must be joking!

Mav: *with the most serious look they had ever seen* Did I stutter?

Hangman: What the hell..there's no reason for you to do so *mutters why would you even* we can sneak into his office after hours -

Mav: And risk more of Cyclone's wrath? I don't think so, Lieutenant.

Fanboy: *still on the ground holding the downed Rooster, lightly tapping his face to wake up* Sir, Why is it so important that you get those photos back?

Mav: Why is it so important? Why is it so important!? I'll tell you why it's so important! It's because there are only a handful of copies of those photos, those being included!

Hangman: *whispers* why do you even have-

Mav: And they were all Christmas gifts to specific people!

Hangman: *proceeds to faint just like Rooster, taking Payback down with him.*

Mav: *continues ranting* I don't know how you kids were able to get your hands on those photos, but now someone is missing their photos and I'm not keen on remaking them anytime soon. So, if you would all excuse me, I have to call my husband and explain to him why I need him to bring me my special change of clothes. *turns on his heel and struts away, missing Phoenix and Bob turning green with horror*

*He gets all the way to the Hanger but is stopped by Hondo and Warlock*

Hondo: Ugh *glances at the group of traumatized aviators, foaming at the mouth* Mav? What was all that about?

Mav: *gets that Look on his face* that, my friend, was the sound of 75 bucks making its way into my pocket.