#and a safe journey home

[pingo1387]

i can’t really articulate why atm but it sometimes bothers me that every positive and/or mentoring relationship btwn two fictional characters, unrelated by blood, where there is at least a few years age gap, is labeled by this site as a parent-child relationship

#i was thinking about an anime i love where at one point the main character (a man in his 30s) rescues a boy (10 y/o or so)… #…from an abusive home #and despite his efforts to leave the boy in a safe orphanage or w someone he trusts due to his own personal dangerous journey… #…the boy insists on following him throughout the story #and! here’s the thing: the boy specifically calls the man his friend #never ‘he’s like a father to me’ or any other familial relationship #always ‘he’s my friend’ #likewise the man cares about the boy and only tries to leave him when he’s sure he’ll be safe in his current position #but at no point do we get the sense he considers the boy like a child to him #and like i said idk why the constant familialfication of non-hostile non-romantic age gap relationships bothers me #and don’t get me wrong i do it too. *looks at r/ob/in + ch/op/per and fr/an/ky + us/o/pp from one piece* #i just. i don’t know #maybe when i’m more awake i can explain myself better #okay to rb #just to be clear im not advocating for romance/shipping here. shouldn’t have to say that but you never know

[steelycunt]

r/s do fuck all for valentines btw. actually no remus buys sirius the fancy biscuits at the supermarket instead of store-brand and they get out of bed at one p.m. to make pasta. if they happen to walk past the valentines aisle they'll buy each other cards and then sit across from each other on the sofa while they write in them. when they're little baby guys at school sirius might throw a paper aeroplane at the back of remus' head during class but he'll also throw one at james and peter as a cover-up. whatever

#they do not go out for a fancy dinner they are too busy having sex. sirius might buy remus a book he's after #remus will add sirius' valentines card to his ever growing collection of makeshit bookmarks and they will kiss on the mouth #thanks folks you've been great have a safe journey home & gnight #r/s

[christiandomme]

Internalized gaslighting

I have a young adult that lives in my household. We’ll call her C. She is getting ready to leave for graduate school. She lives with my spouse and I because her family of origin is not a sustainable environment for her to live in. 

When she shares stories of what it was like to have emotionally immature parents with mental struggles that they refused to seek help for, I can clearly see the connection between her current struggles with thriving and the environment that they created. 

But her parents never beat her and they provided food and shelter and they didn’t even scream at her. And we live in a society that has a very narrow definition of what constitutes child maltreatment. 

She frequently struggles with self-recrimination and doubt of whether it was “really all in her head” or if she is “just sensitive” and is she really is allowed to feel so terrible because what if what they did “wasn’t that bad?”

And we had a minor break through conversation recently that I want to share with you. 

For background, I come from a functional family with two involved parents that acknowledged my needs and frequently expressed their care for me in both my love languages and their own and they advocated for me in a world that didn’t fit me easily. 

No parents are perfect but they did pretty well with their challenging (aka undiagnosed neurodivergent) kid. 

Here is what I asked C: If you had a time machine and ended up as an adult in your own childhood- would you rescue younger you? Did baby you or teen you need a rescuer? Would you just smack your parents upside the head with a parenting book or would you kidnap yourself and raise them away from your family? 

Put aside the needs of your siblings or if time traveling you could get a job - how tempted are you to remove yourself from your environment?

Cause here’s the thing: I would be zero percent tempted to remove myself. I’d give my parents notes from their own future selves about things they want to do better and I would help them be more trauma informed to be better foster parents for my younger sister then I would hop back in my time machine and go have adventures.

That is real. There are families that kids don’t need to be saved from. 

Some of you reading this are cycle breakers and you are providing that kind of home for your kids.

But if you would look at little you and know that they deserved better and would want to rescue yourself, you are not wrong or weak to be hurt or to still be struggling with those emotional wounds years later. 

#internalized gaslighting #even parents doing their best doesn't always mean they could do enough to give you a safe and secure home #they can love you and you can have positive memories AND you can acknowledge that you were hurt or harmed #I saw a post earlier that reminded me of this and I wanted to share in case this is a helpful reminder for anyone else #a child does not have to earn care #little you deserved sufficient care #and grown up you is not wrong to still grieve that or suffer from that #healing is a journey #healing is a full time job #parenting #abuse #and it doesn't just happen to kids! #family can still be harmful when you are grown! #and you shouldn't have to toughen up - they need to straighten up and figure out how to be non harmful #this is obviously a complex issue and a single thought experiment does not solve it #really real life #get to know me #chosen family #emotional wellness

[tenspontaneite]

Is there really any better feeling than the sheer relief of the end of a big social engagement when you can slam the door on the rest of the world and shed your hideously uncomfortable clothes and attack your face with hygiene to get the beautification gunk off and stand in the shower feeling the beneficent will of the universe in the warm water that washes the hairspray sins away

#life of sponty #look i realise this is extremely afab leaning but you know what there's a reason for that #and i was chanting oh god oh fuck oh god over and over again #from the moment i yeeted that fucking clothing to the end of crawling newly cleansed and unsuffering into bed #god fuck #tomorrow is also going to be An Ordeal because long journey #but!! i will be home!! at the end of it! fuck yes please aghhhh #okay so that aside i looked fucking excellent today but also #at what cost #there is a reason i wear makeup approximately once every three years and i was reminded very keenly of that today #fuck that noise honestly #shitpost #man i hope no one at this wedding had covid lol or we'll all get it for sure #there was a shit ton of hugging and sharing of fairly enclosed space #I'll be wearing a mask for my whole journey tomorrow so with luck #even if I've caught it and am infectious tomorrow I'll be keeping other people safe from me #i have all my vaccines and shit but that's no guarantee. rip

[angelguk]

jockjk angst prompt..... jk and oc are out somewhere and run into one of his old flings and oc feels some type of way because jk and old fling seem to have a good relationship still.... hehe jealous oc and jk trying to make her understand that HES ALL ABOUT HER NOW 🤬🤬... maybe this happened like early in their relationship so it starts a petty fight

oh this is almost what i just pretty much wrote but from jks perspective. in fact honestly i think this would be one of the main things they both feel :/ about but nobody says anything for a long tie until one drunken night where they argue in the middle of the road and oc goes home crying

#bumps in their journey!!!!! a very valid angst prompt #because each of them being like.......well....what did u see in them!!!!! that took u forever to see in me!!!! when i was always around!!!! #that fear and doubt that eats away at then quietly #i think jk would start the argument he's got a bad temperament #and oc would try and keep the peace which would piss him off even more #until they end up arguing right there on the road going home #and then oc stomps off and goes home alone but jk even tho #he's mad and annoyed at what his gf is implying he ends up trailing after her to make sure she gets home safe #ughhhhh #ask #anon #au: jock!jaykay

[sweetest-devotion]

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#hs3 speculation #interesting take #it's kinda unrelated but i'm actually very very curious to see how harry employed his empathy to write about characters he portrayed like #tom burgess. #how he resonates with him and the things it made him feel.. etc etc.. #like he said it himself in the dazed interview how he used to go home brimming with inspiration after filming. #so i really wanna see harry diving into that and expressing all of his home related feelings of love and wisdom etc.. #cause imo harry has always been very personal subjective lyricist so i wanna see him being also subjective but in a different light. #that's mostly coming from falling in love.. finding security in someone.. and blooming and growing into himself and his identity more. #oh HS3 you're gonna be a fun heavy journey indeed. #BUT ALSO MUSICALLY GODDD YOU KNOW ME I'M DYING TO GET NEW HARRY MUSIC #praying for it to BE a crazy lovely depressing in between the folds classic psych folk rock album #also pop because of course #cause like.. #hs1 was like the initial establishing base #hs2 was the not needing to play it all safe anymore but still focusing on the spotlight and being radio friendly type of album #sooo hs3 is like purely just harry..?? with of course everything needed to maintain its success

[aurore-parle-de-ses-idees]

ah. yeah no that's big sad about rangers time

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#18/63(4) #bad! times! #i have in fact very much considered seeing britou and co before pelargir #it was mostly 'est is two steps from zapping britou back to his caves the entire time' #man even if none of the others in the company knew exactly which ones were responsible for the deaths on the forsaken road #they still know that whole chunk of ghosts is here now after one more journey/ox and the dragon #how do you sleep easily (or maybe at all) after that? #esp with the existence of the ruthless dead #who prove there's really not all that much besides hope of peace to keep the shades from murdering all or most of them #fun times in the sad about rangers tag #unrelated my ears are still ringing and my cat is chasing her tail #wait edit: #also consider/ed: rangers fleeing the shire and sarn ford heading for saeradan's #bc it's as safe as anywhere else can be in bree vs nazgûl #and some sort of ranger home base is going to Feel safe(ish) #many thoughts about hotel saeradan actually #or perhaps this version i should differentiate as hotel sarc-adan

[thoughts-of-alaina]

Marvel Pride Day 15.

[I've been a bit busy for the past few day and unable to get to this so there's a bit]

10: Were any of the Marvel characters your sexual awakening? Who?

Since I'm an asexual I never had a sexual awakening more so a lack thereof.

11: What is a queer headcanon you don't actually headcanon but would be funny?

Howard Stark as Bi merely for a crack ship idea I had a few days ago. Which I posted here.

12: Do you have any fun ways of celebrating pride that relate to Marvel? What are they?

Sadly not, I live in a rather homophobic home so it's best to keep under the radar.

13: What storylines/arcs do you relate to because of your queerness?

In recent years Loki story arc in Thor 1. I've always related to this story arc since I first saw it when I was a little girl. It took on a whole new meaning since I rewatch the movie a year or two ago.

It begins with when Loki is first touched by a Jotun.

When I finally recognize I was queer I was in pure shock, disbelief, and denial. I whisper a panic, "no" to myself.

Loki: Am I cursed?

I asked myself these same questions. Am I cursed? Am I an abomination?

Than I asked these questions to God.

Follow by my religous beliefs shattering.

Covid happened around this time and I was able to leave my church.

My religous belief is still a mess. I don't know what I believe in anymore. You could say I'm having own identity crisis ;)

14: Do you ever feel like you project your sexuality on a character and question if you actually headcanon it or are just desperate for representation? If so, who?

I almost always never try to project myself onto a character in question. Still there's always an exceptions to a rule. I may have projected myself onto Wanda and Vision a bit with my asexuality.

15: Has there ever been a character(s) that you adored for a long time, and then you realized you were queer, and you realized that was why you liked that character so much? If so, which character(s)?

Nebula.

She is so easy to interpret as an aroace. That it's more difficult to prove that she isn't.

Her arc is about overcoming the trauma she suffers/ed from by her adopted abusive "father" Thanos and becoming her own person. Who loves her sister and doesn't need anybody else. Who needs romance and sex when you have your sister?

I also relate to having a rocky relationship with my sibling because of my [abusive?] father. Yes our fall out was caused by an actual fight than insulting each other as well. We held grudges. Tried to get the other in trouble. It was a mess.

We eventually talked about it. We gotten over the past, and we love each other. I would to kill my past self for my past brother. Yeah I see my brother and I a lot in Gamora and Nebula.

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#marvel pride #marvel #also happy pride month #This came out a bit late #A bit about my queer journey #my whole family thinks I'm aroace #which is accepted in my household they just don't know the name #But I'm really panace #so I'm faking being aro which I hate #the things I have to do to be safe in homophobic home

[arthurflecc]

♡ artily moodboard ♡

“Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” 

#EMMYYYYYYYY #HAPPY JOKERVERSARY #♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ #god bless the day you decided to watch this movie!!!! #I love artily SO MUCH #actual OTP #reading about it everyday is one of my favorite things to do #the way you love him truly warms my heart #that quote is perfect for you because there's so much of arthur in you and of you in arthur #I wish arthur had met you and in a way he did! #his home is your heart and I can't imagine a safer place for him #I know I feel 100% safe with you #you'd make each other so happy I KNOW that #the kindness you offer us all everyday is what I wish arthur had had #he loves every detail of you and you completely #I'm so grateful you allow me to be part of your journey with him #it's like I'm watching arthur and you getting the love you both deserve and it makes me SO happy #also I'm a huge arkily fan #you brought arkhur TO LIFE #like I said before #you took his depth and explored it beyond the movie #you are his one and only #artily #sweet-nothings04

[peacesmovingcabaret]

I’m bored send me some anons! Pretty please!!!!!

#riding back home #long drive #was a safe journey thankfully

[pyrrhicmessiah]

@lunelios​​ said :    ⛸️  from ben    //    winter & holiday starters.

well,    that dinner had been an...   experience.   his family is an interesting mix of personalities;   although interesting is putting it nicely.   observing their dynamic is sort of like being unable to tear one’s eyes from a car wreck on the side of the road.   the tension between his divorced parents would have been enough to make anyone uncomfortable,   but his hippie uncle was actually more grating on her nerves.   thankfully,   as a third party,   she was only minimally involved in most of the conversations.   most of the time she’d just tried to provide ben with some emotional support,   even if she was just his fake girlfriend.   apparently they’d been pestering him about bringing someone home for a while now,   and after meeting them all,   she couldn’t blame him for finally caving and just doing something to alleviate the pressure.   but when the tension had reached a boiling point during supper and his uncle had suggested they try some deep breathing exercises,   she’d had to temper her urge to throw something at him.   instead,   she’d simply informed everyone they were foregoing dessert because they had reservations at the local ice rink.   there was some protest,   but she didn’t really care if they thought she was rude or not,   ben clearly needed a break.   and if his uncle really did try to make her do some deep breathing exercises,   she could not be held responsible for her outburst.

so here they are at the ice rink,   which thankfully did have an open group skate.   ben had offered to just drive her home,   but she’d insisted that they actually go out to the rink.   we should at least get some pictures to show we were actually ice skating,   she’d said.   she really just didn’t want to leave him to stew in his own thoughts after that tense episode,   what kind of fake girlfriend would she be if she didn’t at least try to lift his spirits a bit?   “   fair warning,   i might have to hold your hand out there because i’ve only ever done this once and it didn’t end well then,   so i doubt i’ve improved much.   ”   maybe her falling on her ass could at least prompt a smile from him.   she finishes lacing up her rented skates and slowly pushes herself into a standing position,   wobbling slightly as she balances on the sharp edge of the blades.   her approach to the actual ice is laughably slow as she tries not to snap one of her ankles,   and she hesitates at the entrance,   waiting for him to go out first before she makes a total fool of herself and wipes out in the first two seconds.

#lunelios #&. I TRIED TO BE THE GOOD GUY ( ic interaction. ) #&. THERE IS SOMETHING MOON SOAKED AND DAWN FLAVOURED ABOUT HER ( v. modern / college. ) #&. I DOUBT YOU CAN HEAR ME ON THIS PIECE OF CRAP RADIO ( answered ask. ) #&. ALL OF THESE STARS WILL GUIDE US HOME ( dynamic: ben solo / clarke. ) #&. SAFE PASSAGE ON THE JOURNEY ( para. )

[welcome-to-green-hills]

Are ya ready for pride month baby?! Also here in Mexico were making cute little flags :3

I am. I don’t know what I’m doing, but I support the LGBTQAI+ community.

Urf is a place where you’re meant to be free. You’re free to be the person that you are destined to be in Green Hills. This is a safe home. People hear do not care if you’re black or white, gay or straight, trans or cis, you are you.

You get to be you here. That is something that is never taken away here. Express your true colors. You’ve earned them. It’s okay to be your true self here.

#Sonic asks #I’m gonna show my support! #(You are safe here). #(I do not care of the color of your skin nor your sexuality). #(This is a home-away-from-home). #(You can be who and what you aspire to be in life here until you are ready for the real world). #(If you know who you are and are not out yet with others... I still support you). #(You are you). #(You have every right to be you). #(You are safe here to be YOU). #(And I am proud of you. ALL of you... for discovering yourself/still on that journey). #(I support the LGBTQAI+ community). #(I support Black Lives. Black Lives DO Matter). #(You are safe here. I promiss). #(Stay safe everyone). #(You matter❤️)

[thefuturelawyer]

29th March 2020

Day 1

Hello everyone! I know I haven't been posting for a while but this year has been crazy, even before Covid-19. I participated in 4 different moot court competitions and had to deal with 10 different lectures. But as you can guess and as most of you are I am under quarentine right now. This means I am no longer in Istanbul but at my hometown, in my parents' house. Unfortunately most of my things, including my passport, are in my dorm in Istanbul which gives me anxiety because travel between cities is banned right now. And god only know when will I be able to go and get them.

But, during this time at home I decided to do a productivity challange. I am not going to put a time limit on it but I will try to be productive every single day. There is a possibility my internships will be cancelled this summer therefore I have to strengthen my CV as much as I can from home. This means a lot of online classes, MOOCs and anything I can do.

If you guys are in the same situation or just bored or anxious just let me know. We gan get through this horrible times together.

And remember stay at home, stay healthy and try not to let negative thoughts and anxiety win!

#thefuturelawyer #studyblr #lawblr #quarentine #hello #i am back #study time #productive #productivity challange #journey #notes #hometown #covidー19 #stay home #stay safe #stay healthy #it will get better #we will get through this

[wyverwithy]

Journey is one of those games where the moment I hear the soundtrack I immediately want to burst into tears

#.txt #i go long stretches of time forgetting its existence #and then something or other will remind me and my brain will be like: ah! home! safe!! comfort!! #i need to play journey again. i need to make another nameless friend #it's been a long time since i drew a heart in the snow for a companion for whom i have grown affection for despite never uttering words #and also cry because i don't want to walk into the mountain and say goodbye to them. which happens every single time

[mysterychasing]

today  consisted  of  me  surprisingly  holding  myself  back  from  telling  this  middle  aged  white  lady  off  bc  she  approached  the  día  de  los  muertos  section @ michaels  calling  them  decorations  and  she’ll  use  them  for  christmas ...  and  like  i  practice  this  holiday  for  my  grandmother  its  just  so  ignorant  and  sad  for  others  to  not  acknowledge  the  culture  behind  it ??? 

#* DAVID ROSE IS A MOOD . (( ooc )) #it can be understandable for some ppl bc marketing in a lot of stores and ignorant halloween costumes but its like #día de los muertos isn't even like openly halloween ?? #its literally how we express welcoming our loved ones back to our homes from the afterlife to spend time with us #hence day of the dead #31st - nov 2nd ?? #our ofrenda is slowly building and i constantly think about if people who call the articles and such being sold even know about any of it .. #it just makes me mad bc she was like oooh lets get a bunch of these skulls for our porch like #we give offerings to our loved ones who passed ?? with altars of their photos and food and drink so their journey home is safe ... it just #makes me so mad when ppl just see things for día de lost muertos and think halloween decorations #...... like #rant i suppose #tbd

[reflectingiridescent]

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#sometimes I question if the you I loved was projected #because so much of you was him #for the majority of the time I knew you #and then I figure that it doesn’t matter #whatever piece of you I loved I loved #it doesn’t come with limits #safe journey home friend