#WE DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS

[lapis-lazuliie]

how was it queerbaiting? Chas was openly gay. plus Joe never said he was straight. he just said he was married. bisexuality exists.

joe was straight; he'd been with a woman for years, and outright tells chas that he's marrying another woman very soon. he hated chas, and admitted to him that he "did things he wasn't proud of" with him to earn his love and trust. suggesting he's bisexual just makes this more gross, so thanks anon

#we deserve better than this #anonymous #ask #tlw

[magsinhiding]

My mood currently is deeply angry about climate change and US healthcare, alternating with fantasies of seizing every health insurer’s money or hostile takeover of BP and then divesting of all fossil fuels at once to cope. And binging all the Bridgerton novels on audiobook. And repeat. No wonder I haven’t wanted to leave my apartment this weekend.

Please enjoy two photos of my cats who are living their best lives.

#I think I’m pretty good at not thinking about upsetting things when there’s nothing I can do #but between that new oceans report and the fresh hell that is women’s maternal care post roe v wade #I am ANGRY #we deserve better than this #Oscar did enjoy this weekend though it was a 24/7 snuggle fest

[cardassiansunrise]

i cannot bring myself to delete the original twitter thread of my fotc fic but like,, i also cannot just have it at large on my profile, unpinned. the Dilemma

if editing tweets was allowed beyond the 30min after posting window, the solution would be so simple. alas, musk hates gays who can’t type

#we deserve better than this #y’all know i’ll share the ao3 link on this blog though #bc i respect you here #personal log

[thattimdrakeguy]

I’m gonna sound like a prick, but I genuinely find the fact that Tim’s big queer reveal going the way it has to be insulting. Like I keep trying to put nicer ways to say it. But honestly in the end I just find it fucking insulting how Bernard has been reduced to a fucking stereotype in every story but Travis Moore’s addition. And having Tim’s relationship with him be talked about in a way that almost feels like he used him to figure it out, while talking about his ex in a way that comes across like they’re talking down Bernard’s relationship with Tim to a level that doesn’t matter as much as his past romance for the sake of a ship rather than natural development given other things is also insulting.

Like I never flat out say it much anymore, but the main reason I harp on what Bernard looks like is because I cannot believe that no one is fucking bothered by the Bat-Family’s queer representation being partly a pre-conceived character being shrunk into the stereotype of a twink. And past that, barely ever show up in the majority of the stories supposedly about their relationship. I'm at a point where I wonder why they even bothered using Bernard. It's practically not even him besides bizarrely the guy who isn't writing Tim's ongoing story. That hurts.

I don’t damn feel represented. I feel like I’m being talked down to. Like the second story not having him was weird enough, but him being a background item to the stories, like set decoration or a plot device, to two stories in a row by the same writer just feels condescending.

The ship is held up by fans who went out of their way to learn more about Bernard, while we only have one freaking short story about them in the comics. And he's barely in that too!

It’s been MONTHS now. How come we can barely reach bare minimum?

#and i hate hate hate hate hate saying it cuz i know people love it and i really dont wanna take it away from them #its why i never outright say it #But just realizing how little they matter when it meant so much to me is feeling like its killing me #LIKE IT WAS SO EXCITING DESPITE CERTAIN THINGS #and ut has some of the most consistently amusing next posts in the fandom #But dammit I just cant stand how the actual comics handle it #WE DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS #like this isnt just typical me not liking certain things #Im actually just offended #Breadcrumbs for over half a year??? #like r u fucking serious that is crazy #AND FOR FUCKS SALE WHY DOES HE LOOK SO STEREOTYPICAL #he looks like Babs gay friend in that awful Killing Joke adaptation for fucks sake #ITS THE SAME HAIR #He already existedand they draw Tim draw Tim so damn well #its so onpoint #Why can only Travis Moore draw his signature expressions HIS vibe #HOW DID HE WRITE THE BEST REPRESENTATION #COMPARED TO THE MAIN WRITER #that is wack #And I get the whole Steph was his ex #But fucks sake not everything needs to be dictated by the fandom #We are missing out on heartfelt genuine emotion for empty HUSKS that look sweet on the outside #and i know its at least a bit selfish #again i dont want to take it away from ANYONE #But for me its devastating cuz of how I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW it cpuld be so much better

[inthecityofgoodabode]

January 2023: Tyre Nichols

It is a sad time in The City. If you don’t know about Tyre Nichols’s murder, here is some local reporting. My heart goes out to Mr. Nichols’s family & friends. This moment should be about them & Mr. Nichol’s but I know some people will make a talking point out of the fact that the 5 police officers involved are African-American in an attempt to absolve all officers of racist bias. 

The reality is that policing in America has its roots in systemic racism & white supremacy. Anyone trained in such a system will be corrupted regardless of background & intentions. Add to that, the fact that giving human beings power over their fellow human beings has always led to corruption & abuse. The United States has, with few exceptions, responded to the symptoms of its systemic racism & economic inequality by increasing spending on law enforcement rather than spending that money on programs that would address some of those disparities and, in turn, alleviate the symptoms. I don’t know about elsewhere in the world but, in the United States, the police are trained to see the citizenry, who pay the taxes that employ & insure them, as potential criminals & they treat us accordingly. I say that as someone who, simply because of his skin tone, has survived encounters with law enforcement that have left other men & women dead. For a reality check, the local police academy takes 21 weeks to complete but, in order to get a license to do natural hair in Tennessee requires no less that 300 hours. Let that sink in, the girl doing your locs had more hours of training than the cop on the street with a gun.  

I’ve said this before but I once thought the kind of social justice I talked about would be some antiquated thing that young people would simply look at me about & say in a reassuring, although slightly patronizing, way, “Sure, pops. Everyone know that these days.” On subjects like this, I wish I had outlived any usefulness I might have. I would rather be a relic than relevant. 

#tyre nichols #memphis #systemic racism #the city #life in the united states #life in memphis #economic inequality #we deserve better than this #tennessee #natural hair #locs

[agathaharkness-simp]

currently balling because of the cancellation of warrior nun

#i cant stop crying #it hurts so much #god i hate netflix #fuck u netflix #fuck netflix #we deserve better than this #absolute bullshit #avatrice #sister beatrice #ava silva #warrior nun

[wellfckidk]

im pretty sure our country has suffered enough

we have suffered enough

we don't need to keep on suffering

GET IT TOGETHER PHILIPPINES

#halalan2022 #GISING PILIPINAS #WE CAN DO BETTER THAN THIS #WE DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS

[livingasaghost]

i feel like johanna mason being like "they can't hurt me, there's no one left i love" except it's capitalism taking away my favorite shows and making shittier movies and ruining the music industry with tiktok and just overall stealing true joy and expression from every part of the entertainment industry

#for the love of god make it stop #we deserve better than this #personal

[hazzasultimatekiwi]

there is no shirt for my residency 😭

#this is discrimination at its peak #we deserve better than this #hslot austin

[inkskinned]

you were raised in comparison.

it wasn't always obvious (well. except for the times that it was), but you internalized it young. you had to eat what you didn't like, other people are going hungry, and you should be grateful. you had to suck it up and walk on the twisted ankle, it wasn't broken, you were just being a baby. you were never actually suffering, people obviously had it worse than you did.

you had a roof over your head - imagine! with the way you behaved, with how you talked back to your parents? you're lucky they didn't kick you out on your ass. they had friends who had to deal with that. hell, you have friends who had to deal with that. and how dare you imply your father isn't there for you - just because he doesn't ever actually talk to you and just because he's completely emotionally checked out of your life doesn't mean you're not fucking lucky. think about your cousins, who don't even get to speak to their dad. so what if yours has a mean streak; is aggressive and rude. at least you have a father to be rude to you.

you really think you're hurting? you were raised in a home! you had access to clean water! you never so much as came close to experiencing a real problem. sure, okay. you have this "mental illness" thing, but teenagers are always depressed, right. it's a phase, you'll move on with your life.

what do you mean you feel burnt out at work. what do you mean you mean you never "formed healthy coping mechanisms?" we raised you better than that. you were supposed to just shoulder through things. to hold yourself to high expectations. "burning out" is for people with real jobs and real stress. burnout is for people who have sick kids and people who have high-paying jobs and people who are actually experiencing something difficult. recently you almost cried because you couldn't find your fucking car keys. you just have lost your sense of gratitude, and honestly, we're kind of hurt. we tell you we love you, isn't that enough? if you want us to stick around, you need to be better about proving it. you need to shut up about how your mental health is ruined.

it could be worse! what if you were actually experiencing executive dysfunction. if you were really actually sick, would you even be able to look at things on the internet about it? you just spend too much time on webMD. you just like to freak yourself out and feel like you belong to something. you just like playing the victim. this is always how you have been - you've always been so fucking dramatic. you have no idea how good you have it - you're too fucking sensitive.

you were like, maybe too good of a kid. unwilling to make a real fuss. and the whole time - the little points, the little validations - they went unnoticed. it isn't that you were looking for love, specifically - more like you'd just wanted any one person to actually listen. that was all you'd really need. you just needed to be witnessed. it wasn't that you couldn't withstand the burden, but you did want to know that anyone was watching. these days, you are so accustomed to the idea of comparison - you don't even think you belong in your own communities. someone always fits better than you do. you're always the outlier. they made these places safe, and then you go in, and you are just not... quite the same way that would actually-fit.

you watch the little white ocean of your numbness lap at your ankles. the tide has been coming in for a while, you need to do something about it. what you want to do is take a nap. what you want to do is develop some kind of time machine - it's not like you want your life to stop, not completely, but it would really nice if you could just get everything to freeze, just for a little while, just until you're finished resting. but at least you're not the worst you've been. at least you have anything. you're so fucking lucky. do you have any concept of the amount of global suffering?

a little ant dies at the side of your kitchen sink. you look at its strange chitinous body and think - if you could just somehow convince yourself it is enough, it will finally be enough and you can be happy. no changes will have to be made. you just need to remember what you could lose. what is still precious to you.

you can't stop staring at the ant. you could be an ant instead of a person, that is how lucky you are. it's just - you didn't know the name of the ant, did you. it's just - ants spend their whole life working, and never complain. never pull the car over to weep.

it's just - when it died, it curled up into a tight little ball.

something kind of uncomfortable: you do that when you sleep.

#writeblr #warm up #my dad was actively doing bad shit to us and we STILL were told we were lucky . and to a point i do think im lucky #i just think also there's somethin to be said about like. how about we stop using comparison to dismiss ppls individual struggles #yes there are people who have no perspective. for the reference tho having perspective actually made me really unwilling to get help #for what was a serious and debilitating mental health issue. bc i thought i didnt DESERVE IT #and i would rather have 600 ppl who aren't THAT bad get help and get heard and get seen #than make any 1 kid. do the math that i did: look at the world that is dying and the people who are hurting and say #''oh. okay. others have it worse. they are probably better people than i am. i am being unreasonable. i cannot ask for help #i am not good. i am taking too much space. i am not worth saving.'' #bc our WHOLE lives we are taught a scarcity mindset - that you can 'steal' from someone. so that instead of changing a system that doesn't #actually offer fair support to everyone #we put the impetus on the individual to just... demand less. #and here's something - there are probably ppl who think i DIDNT deserve to get help #bc i DID have it better than other people #and something about that is ... so sickening. bc i think all of us in some way at some point WILL need help. #we were supposed to make communities. we were supposed to offer our hands. we were supposed to raise the barn #instead we said: it could be worse. now handle it yourself

[enby-axels]

the sapphic flag is so ugly, im sorry

#it needs a redesign asap #we deserve better than this

[reasonsforhope]

Hey adults: Why do you like being an adult? What do you like about your life?

A couple weeks ago I told the kids at my work that "Being an adult is pretty nice, actually," and they looked shocked, laughed incredulously, and told me I was the first person they'd ever heard say that

So clearly we adults need to talk about this way more often

The past few years have been hard for a lot of people, me included. Covid sucked. I lost three relatives and three pets in one year. Right after lockdown ended, I got badly injured, and ended up housebound for six months and (much more) disabled for two years, and that sucked too.

And you know what? Literally all of that was easier and better than being a teenager.

I like being an adult. I like my life. Even when it's hard, it's mine, and I am building to the best of my ability the a life that I want to live.

I talked about a lot of why being an adult is something worth looking forward to in my last post, so right now I'll simply say this:

I love actually knowing who I am now. I love that I learned and am learning what I want and need. I love that I have independence and autonomy and don't get treated like a kid. I love the fact that I'm the one who gets to decide want I want to do and what I need. I also love that I'm learning to sew. I love that I've had pet rats, and next will have a pet cat. I love that I got top surgery. I love the way I've decorated my room. I love traveling to visit and crash and even just hang out and do work with my friends, when I can. I love that I started reading good news every day, and that I actually have hope for the future, and that I started this blog and have been able to help give so many other people hope, too.

So, here's a call to action for my fellow adults: comment or reply or tag what you like about being an adult. What you love about your life.

Let's give some kids some reasons for hope.

#hope #not news #life #life advice #growing up #teenagers #adulthood #adulting #hopepunk #hope posting #hopeposting #also feel free to put your age to help make things feel more concrete and real #and make it clear that “being an adult is good” isn't just limited to your early twenties #in fact it's often better after your early twenties #I'm around 30 personally #I hope this post sounds poetic rather than pretentious lol #that last bit in particular had me going “hmm is this too much” #but actually I think that we dismiss hope and happiness too often #hope deserves to not always have to be serious but I think hope also deserves all the seriousness and gravitas that we can give it

[gunstellations]

In the world I love

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In a different world

#vanitas no carte #vanoé #doomed yaoi save me...save me doomed yaoi #play on the opening song + visual sequence + the fact that vanitas could only ever be happy in an alternate universe also #+ the other fun little fact we learn about him from episode one #i have complex feelings about this anime #its pretty damn fucking good #but im a leeeeetle iffy about the way it developed the female characters.....they had potential and i was actually excited to #to see some good solid female characters even the respective romances with their l/i's felt good at the start #not jeanne obv. they fucked up a perfectly good woman and her whole dynamic with v could have gone sooo well without the reall #really forced flirting behaviour.... i liked the more serious relationship they had it made me actually not hate what they had at the start #but yknow. whatever. sorry about going off about another ship on this but im just....i love jeanne a lot. i wish they didnt do her so dirty #my girl deserves better than this asshole #you want white/black dynamics??? let her get married to domi and then we can talk #i enjoy this show and i enjoy vanoe a lot #very yuriyaoi if you ask me #my art

[floating--goblin]

you know what hill i'll die on? terzo is not the sluttiest emeritus

I mean sure, he's the most dramatic and the most outspoken about sex, and he gave us Mummy Dust which is its own discussion-- but I sincerely don't see him, in his private life, being so promiscuous. Like out of all of them, I'm the most certain Terzo would be either monogamous or have a few regular partners at most, but I don't think he'd be big on casual flings. Frankly I don't even see him having sex that much at this point, he seems more attached to it as a concept than an actual activity he regularly engages in.

You know who's the inverse of that, though? The one Tobias himself calls a pervert? Secondo. There's your whore. I know he looks big and mean and authoritary but let's be honest, half of Infestissumam is about ritual sex and he's out in Vegas on the regular with more women than he can reliably satisfy. He says it himself that he became Papa because "he likes a sexy beat". THERE'S THE EMERITUS WHORE, AND I'M CERTAIN OF IT

#the band ghost #i'm not trying to be like. puritanical by saying this #far from it #it's just like #i feel terzo is often stereotyped as hypersexual #and i feel like that's because he's for lack of a better word the most queer-coded papa #i just don't think he should be THE slutty emeritus yknow? because when i think about him i think of other things #he's the greatest showman among all of them and the way he grew disillusioned with the world is tragic #he's the only one (so far) to have gotten a grammy #he's the first to treat his ghouls like proper friends #the only time we see sister imperator actually afraid is when he shows up #like there's SO MUCH and obviously i'm not saying or even thinking that a character's sexuality is less important than other features #all the papas encourage a celebration of sexuality #i'm just saying i feel like people stop at that. and don't look at terzo any deeper #and that's tragic because he's a HELL of a character #and when you look at the bigger picture i'm sorry but i just can't think he fucks as much as secondo. sorry #give mr worldwide the recognition he deserves ok #and also give terzo proper characterization!!

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

My rendition of @tempo-takoyaki's DTIYS!

Congrats on the milestones! And to everyone else, please go check out their 'Drawing TGCF (except I haven't read the books)' series!

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #svsss #tgcf #wei wuxian #shen qingqiu #xie lian #better drawn mdzs #(Vaguely??? I think SQQ came out handsome enough to put him in my special gallery) #Showing up to submit this less than 3 days before the DTIYS ends is filling me with a bit of anxiety but it is done! #Initially I was going to do a descending level of realism/detail but noses make me nervous still. One day I'll get there. #The irony is that I was planning on drawing something to celebrate tempo finishing season 1 of their series only to find this DTIYS! #*and* it was their birthday recently. I am compelled to lift them into the air and shout their praises. #What a genuinely kind person with an art style I want to bite into like a crunchy apple!!! The *range* is incredible! #Also their xie lian is probably one of my favourite interpretations. So done with everything but not misanthropic. #Remembers everything and lets other's spin in circles with their lies for the sheer chaos of it all. Teases relentlessly. Deeply sad. #Give it a read! They are planning on continuing on so now is a great time to catch up! #Thanks for hosting this fun art challenge Tempo! We all appreciate you deeply B*) #I hope you have a better year in 2024 - you truly deserve the best.

[victorie552]

My hot take is that Maedhros and Maglor would not be all that suprised that Silmarils burned them - they know what they did.

But. They would, completely irrationally, be suprised that Silmarils burned their brother.

#they each believe that the other one is a better person than them #and obviously not deserving of burning unlike them #you would think they know better #so did they #yet here we are #they are so unwell about each other #maedhros #maglor #silmarils #silmarillion #silm