#THERE ARE SO MANY EXAMPLES

[petrichormore]

I think the thing about q!Bad is that you cannot ask him to trust you. You cannot stand in front of him and list all the reasons why he should make himself vulnerable to you. You cannot hold your kindness to him over his head. He will not trust you. He will trust you less.

Never demand your share. The only thing safe for a demon is that which is both unasked for and freely given.

And if it is unasked for, and if it is freely given - he will give it. But give him time in return.

#this is why q!forever is trusted less than q!Aypierre despite the. erm. the thing. the elephant in the room #there are so many examples #qsmp #qsmp badboyhalo #q!badboyhalo

[chinashio16]

This show is really smart for the way it deals with censorship. It is a BL but a very censored one yet they don't shy away from showing us how much Wu Bi and Su Yu love each other (the kind of love that makes you raise eyebrows and wonder). They also drop not very subtle hints about the true nature of their relationship behind the censored curtain.

We’re hopefully all aware that this is their censored kiss, right?

And also this is supposed to tell us that they’re sexually active 

There’s also a reason why Wu Bi was making up excuses why Duo Duo can’t sleep with them.

*cough cough* “our bed”

Interesting why none of this matters when it’s just the two of them, right?

Wu Bi loves Duo Duo but there’s not chance in hell he’s gonna allow her to sleep with them. Su Yu also didn’t absolutely comment on Wu Bi taking sleeping Duo Duo away lmao. 

#there are so many examples #but just pointing out those three from the recent two episodes #stay with me #stay with me the series

[thresholdbb]

Feel like we need a definitive ranking of characters meeting different versions of themselves

#you already know my top answer #there are so many examples #it's just a good ass trope #I'd put it in a poll but we all know this is the wormhole website and not the lost in the delta quadrant website #(affectionate) #the notes spawned a new post whoops #going to let that one simmer for a bit #how many alt Janeways are there? I tallied them in the notes of a post a while back

[z0uz]

love is watching the dubbed version of a series you want to watch in its original version because you're watching it with your partner who's too dyslexic to only rely on subtitles

#there are so many examples #but the most recent one is david tennant in ahsoka #like. he played a fucking droid. #you don’t even see his face and i have to not hear his voice?? #and THAT is love

[ifys]

I think we were born to share, experience and create art together.

#just watched a video of people dancing dabke while brazillians danced with the same beat but each group was doing their own thing #and everyone was having such a good time taking turns to share their culture #and also the goncharov thing where we are all creating and telling stories togheter #and when people from all over the world sing a song togheter because we all know the lyrics #just the joy that art can bring us regardless of our backgrounds #how we are all here on a platform that we use to share how different pieces of media have impacted us and we can discuss it with someone #that lives all the way across the globe #i don't know man i just think art is neat #art #I'm rambling i guess #and also when i cry looking at a painting that also made someone else cry hundreds of years ago #there are so many examples #it is late and i am emotional

[bereft-of-frogs]

There’s that post that’s like ‘everyone should get into a tiny niche fandom at least once’ fully agree, that was really fun -- but I would like to add that everyone should get into a fandom where their opinions run counter to major fanon because it really teaches you about sticking to your guns and trusting your interpretation of the text without having to rely on peer validation

because WHAT are people talking about sometimes

#aka: genuinely sometimes I think I live in a parallel universe and simply watched/read different things #full disclosure it does make you feel like a killjoy sometimes #because often times these fanons will be presented in a silly jokey manner #'oh so silly isn't this character so funny this is just my silly little headcanon' #and it's like yes yes lol lol but ok look me in the eyes and tell me you know that this is #at best only one interpretation of many and at worst simply not supported by the text at all #please tell me you know that #or in one specific example such a ubiquitous joke that is literally a significant theme of the work and i feel like SUCH a killjoy #being like 'ok yes very funny.....you know that was a major theme right?? tell me you know that'

[transmascissues]

pinnochio! 🫵🤣 you will never be a real boy!

i mean pinnochio did become a real boy. that was a pretty significant part of the story. i understand that you’re just being transphobic but pinnochio did very much become a real boy.

#this is so silly to me on so many levels. like how did you expect me to be genuinely hurt by this #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

[cemeterything]

i think my favourite horror trope is what i like to call "it gets better before it gets worse". the evil is seemingly defeated. the worst is apparently over. it was tough, and maybe you didn't all make it out in one piece, but you made it. except that you didn't. you're still infected, still marked. you bring the horror with you wherever you go. and there's no timeframe after which you can say you're safe with any certainty. it might lie dormant for years, just waiting for you to turn your back to it long enough to let it find you again. it knows your scent, now. it can hunt you down wherever you go.

#🐉 #i cant really list examples because so many horror narratives make use of this #tma utilised it really well in a narratively aware sense with the whole catch and release tactic the entities had going on

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[fisheofviolence]

i fucking LOVE creating things with my friends!!! let's talk about our ocs and put them in situations!! let's make a song together or share our writing!! let's connect on a meaningful and artistic level!!!

#very much about ocs you know how it is #but there's so many other examples i just. love Creating with the people i care about #oc stuff

[locusfandomtime]

you know shit is getting real when a hermit is trying to solve a problem and it cuts to them in a call with cubfan and etho

#most recent example is hypno. but this has happened so many times. that was just the point i realised this was a pattern #locus fandom time #hermitcraft #hermitblr #ethoslab #cubfan135 #and the suggested solutions are always either tnt or oddly specific game mechanic you’ve never heard of before

[calumsash]

sometimes a song is good because you saw it on a fan edit for your favorite ship like ten years ago

#here let me give you some examples #angel with a shotgun for destiel #dark horse for sterek #brother (by. matt corby) for stucky #armor (by. landon austin) for bellarke #war of hearts for malec #so so many yk?????? #i cannot listen to those songs without thinking of a specific vid for them yk #maya talks

[bicheetopuff]

I guess it’s this kids birthday so I’m gonna remind you what character development can do to a mf

He deserves to be happy

#bakudeku #bnha #bkdk #bakugou katsuki #bnha spoilers #mha #boku no hero academia #my hero academia #I had so many other examples #I literally spent an hour trying to narrow down all the panels to just ten #I’m also posting a fic later but I still have to edit so I thought I’d post something incase I don’t get the fic done today oops

[thresholdbb]

I’m gonna need a wide shot every time two characters are intimately whispering to each other in a public place (like on the bridge) just so we can see what everyone else is seeing

#~they both have to fit in the frame~ NO THEY WANT EACH OTHER SUPER BAD #there are so many examples #remember kids eye to eye eye to mouth eye to eye contact means the character wants to make out #if they flick their eyes down they’re thinking about it is what I’m saying #this is about voyager but also all the other Star Trek shows too #this is about JC but could be about soooo many other ships

[bumpereatspants]

at some point in life you realize the best way to solve a love triangle is to make them polyamorous and you never look back

#kandreil #yoohankim #karlnapity #aftg #orv #I cant think of more rn but #like theres so many examples #the witcher #the raven cycle #bllk #blue lock #anyways #kevandreil #royjamiekeeley #operation true love #senpai is an otokonoko #senpai wa otokonoko #txt

[gejnialnie]

hi I don't think this duo gets enough love, so here are my fave screenshots of Raph and Leo mirroring each other! :D

+bonus:

look at this frame! don't their poses look similar, even though they're in totally different places?? well, there's a simple reason for it! we can see raph in the driver seat, his left hand on the wheel, while the other one's searching for someting, it's symbolising his active role as leader, while leo stands alongside him, his left hand on a handhold while he gestures with the other, showing him being less active and more of a passive presence, but he's ready on his feet, it's symbolising his potential as raph's co-leader but also him not yet being ready, still gripping the safety rails instead of the driving wheel-

(nah i'm kidding- like, was it just artists drawing similar poses in one scene? oh yeah most definitively! will that stop me from over-analysing? nope! :D this basically wrote itself!)

#there're so many examples of them mirroring each other and im sure i don't have em all!! #don't you think it's interesting every time leo and raph team up they end up in similar poses/expressions A LOT?? because i do!! #writers and animators really said they're co-leaders from the start 🤧 #i mean theres probably a lot of duos trios etc where theyre in the same/similar position but. well. im biased. #also can we talk how they are the only ones to canonically mind-meld?? can we please do that??? ITS REALLY IMPORTANT #brothers of all time ;;;;;;;; #raph is leo's favorite i will die on this hill btw! #rottmnt #rise leo #rise raph #magnet duo #long post