Being reminded once again that a lot of people have fucking sleeper cell agent triggers that make them instantly fail to see the human being in front of them, regardless of any personal history they have or any rapport. instantly, that person is an Enemy that cannot be reasoned with. Permanent fight or flight.
And that instead of this being seen as, you know, a rather maladaptive attitude to bring to your relationships that will permanently strip you of the capacity to experience full love and companionship, there is a dominant strain of thinking that this is a reasonable, righteous, moral good.
That a "boundary" looks like building an impenetrable wall that nobody can see but you; That conversation, negotiation, and collaboration aren't just avoided--They're treated with contempt. The very notion of trying to understand why another human being that you care about may suddenly act in an unpleasant or even monstrous way is spat upon and trampled underfoot. Complete abandonment is considered a first line of defense rather than a last resort.
I think we all need to do our best to get over this kind of thinking. And I don't mean that we should be push-overs; In actuality, moving away from this kind of rigid "boundary" often means advocating for yourself and fighting for what you think is right. I think we all deserve friends and allies who can compassionately challenge us when we adopt ways of thinking and behaving that hurt others without immediately assuming the worst.
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Old man yaoi this and old man yaoi that WHERE is my old yuri movies????
God forbid women get older and remain sexual beings.
Regardless of quality, the following films are about middle aged and elderly lesbian/bi/trans women (not all of these revolve around romance btw, many are documentaries):
Silent Pioneers (Short 1985), doc.
Nitrate Kisses (1992), doc.
Forbidden Love (1992), doc.
Last Call at Maud’s (1993), doc.
Not Just Passing Through (1994), doc
Tender Fictions (1996), Barbara Hammer's autobiography.
Murder and murder (1996), middle aged not elderly.
Late Bloomers (1996)
Between Two Women (2000)
Hand on the Pulse (2002), doc.
The Hours (2002)
My Mother Likes Women (2002)
Ruthie and Connie: Every Room in the House (2002), doc
Sunset Story (2003), doc
No Secret Anymore: The Times of Del Martin & Phyllis Lyon (2003), doc.
The Page Turner (2006)
Finn’s Girl (2007)
Ten More Good Years (2007), doc
Black./Womyn. (2008), doc
A Place to Live: The Story of Triangle Square (2008), doc
Hannah Free (2009)
A Horse Is Not a Metaphor (2009), doc
Edie & Thea: A Very Long Engagement (2009), doc
For 80 Days (2010)
The Owls (2010)
Gigola (2010)
Cloudbirst (2011)
Gen Silent (2011), doc
Out Late (2011), doc
Les Invisibles (2012), doc.
Mommy Is Coming (2012)
A Perfect Ending (2012)
Vic + Flo Saw a Bear (2013)
Tru love (2013)
The Passage of Time (2013), doc
Rebel Menopause (2014), doc
Before the Last Curtain Falls (2014), doc
Advanced Style (2014)
Female Masculinity Appreciation Society (2014), doc
Kate Bornstein Is a Queer & Pleasant Danger (2014), doc
Freeheld (2015)
Grandma (2015)
MAJOR! (2015), doc about Miss Major Griffin-Gracy
Stuff (2015)
Black Mirror: San Junipero (2016). Everyone has seen this one, I know.
The Pearl (2016), doc
Etage X (Short 2016)
The Personal Things (short 2016), animation about Miss Major Griffin-Gracy
Marguerite (2017)
Chavela (2017), a doc about Chavela Vargas.
Wild Nights With Emily (2018)
The Favourite (2018)
Happy Ending (2018)
The Heiresses (2018)
Love Letter Rescue Squad (2018), doc
A Great Ride (2018), doc
Obscuro Barroco (2018)
Monica – Loose on a Cruise (2018), doc
Two of Us (2019). A fave of mine. Deeply humanistic and touching.
Time & Again (2019)
Madame (2019), doc
So My Grandma’s a Lesbian! (2019)
Uferfrauen - Lesbian Life and Love in the GDR (2019), doc.
The Archivettes (2019)
A Month of Single Frames (2019)
Forgotten Roads (2020), doc
Naomi Replansky at 100 (2020), doc
T11 Incomplete (2020)
The Aerialist (2020)
Mama Gloria (2020), doc, Gloria Allen's story.
Rebel Dykes (2021), doc.
The Affair (2021)
A Secret Love (2020), doc.
Surviving the Silence (2020), doc.
The Mistress (2020)
Your Mother’s Comfort (2020), doc about Indianara Siqueira.
A Wild Patience Has Taken Me Here (2021), middle aged not elderly.
Genderation (2021), doc.
Nelly & Nadine (2022), doc about two women that fell in love in a concentration camp.
Sweetling (2022), doc.
All the Beauty and the Bloodshed (2022), doc about Nan Goldin.
Nyad (2023)
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[...]
Jimmi Simpson Has A Disappointing Update About A Return In Psych The Movie 4, But Promises "Mary Will Never Die"
Simpson also discussed the possibility of reprising his role as Mary Lightly in the fourth Psych movie. Although Mary died during the television series' fourth season, he has returned a number of times. Simpson reprised Mary Lightly in a dream sequence in both Psych: The Movie and Psych 2: Lassie Comes Home. Simpson also explained why he has returned to Psych so many times, even after his death.
Jimmi Simpson: Yeah, I don't think so. But here's the thing. James Roday is my ride or die. James Rodriguez is my ride or die. Half the times early on, the reason why Mary kept coming back is, I don't know, early on I needed health insurance. James was like, Well, I'll come up with a reason why Mary's back, and so I'll always be a part of Psych that will not be the last one. He's always throwing ideas at me of, What about this? What about this? And I'm always like, yes, yes, yes. Mary will never die. Don't worry.
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