#I’m not as bad at talking to ppl as I think or as I was told I was a child

[mattodore]

this is matthew and he thinks sex is disgusting

#he would never ask someone to smack him in the face as hard as they can he thinks that's SICK !!! #river dipping #matthias evanoff #echthroi #ts4 #the sideburns levitating an inch off his head lmfaoooooo #the result of me being pissed that i didn't have a single alpha hair that looked good on him bc he's fucked up and blond #this is the only hair that looks okay on him but the blond swatches don't come close to his actual hair color #alpha hairs have theeeeee most fucked up hairlines it's impossible finding one that isn't ridiculously low on his forehead #i’d have to move his features and face in general down for most of them 😐 #i want to give theo alpha hair so bad but can’t bc matthias fucks everything up like always 🙄 #anyway. this is me being like hey. i’m still alive sorry i’m currently deeply obsessed with the passenger 2023 dir. by carter smith #my avpd is also being so so silly and i’m having trouble talking to ppl w/o thinking i should die so 💕 #sorry abt the lack of. like. anything. i will be normal again eventually #really i should just force myself outta the isolation spiral by answering messages at least #only i think i’d sound disingenuous and off so. shrugs #but yeah…….. smash btw

[my-castles-crumbling]

I have a problem Cas… I think im in love. 

Okay so, there’s this girl. We’ve been best friends like 5 years. I mean i’ve always- okay I don’t know how to explain this. 

I’m basically a fan-fiction come to fucking life. 

So i’m Demisexual, and last year I decided to come out to my family. I don’t know if other Demi ppl have preferences of gender, but I don’t. Honestly labels confuse me. I’m not sure if technically i’m Biromantic and Demisexual but hey, the point is- and what I explained to my family- that i’d be open to dating anyone. 

Basically i was telling them I wasn’t straight. (Obviously Demisexual is also about sexual activities and people and stuff but I wasn’t gonna try and explain to my parents that I don’t really get attracted to random ppl- cause they don’t get it- and I didn’t want to accidentally start talking abt sex). 

So anyway, they were not happy. Have you watched Brooklyn Nine-Nine? There’s this clip where the character Rosa comes out as Bi and her parents are like “That’s okay, since you can still date a man and marry a man and be normal” and they were like that for me (i’m a girl in case that wasn’t obvious- so they wanted me to date a man).

And I didn’t really care to be honest. I had an equal level of straight friends to queer friends, I felt suitably in both worlds. I truly love my family. They’ve always been good to me. But they did imply if I did end up with a girl, they wouldn’t want to meet/know her.

Not to mention the religious trauma. I spent a shit ton of time listening to ppl tell me that same-sex marriage and relationships are a “sin”. Hell- there was this one rlly lovely women at church when I was like 9, but she got kicked out when they congregation found out she was a lesbian. (Okay- not kicked out but like bullied into leaving).

So it was fine for me to accept that I could potentially date a women since i’ve never felt immediate attraction to anyone, it never felt totally real. 

BUT NOW I HAVE A PROBLEM. So my best friend (who is also a girl) of 5 years. She’s amazing. She’s literally the funniest person i’ve ever met, she’s so generous and has helped me so much, and she’s just adorable. She’s like fucking sunshine. And ngl, I don’t often like people who are so cheery all the time because it feels fake and I like people around me to be honest. 

But she just, she has this way of finding the beauty in the stupidest things and it’s so cute. We got splashed by a car the other day, drenched both our outfits, and instead of being mad, she got all excited and had us do a photoshoot in our crazy soaked clothes, and then got all excited that we could cuddle under a duvet and watch a movie with snacks once we got home cause apparently that’s the only acceptable thing people can do after being covered in water (which is exactly what we did).

And she’s not unreasonably happy, you know? Like when people try to cheer people up at bad times and make everyone more sad, she’s not like that. Whenever i’m upset, or mad, she’ll doodle these cute little flowers on coloured paper and write things she loves about the world on the back of them, and once i’m done ranting abt how annoying the world is, she’ll give it to me and smile. She has the best smile.

I have this jar, I write the date on them and put the paper in the jar. 

We’ve been best friends five years, she started doing that like four years ago and i’ve had the jar pretty much from the start. 

It’s always been easy to be around her. We sort of knew each other for like a year, and then I blinked, and we were best friends. I read all the books she gives me even though the plot is super cheesy cause she loves talking about them, I learnt how to bake all her favourite snacks her mum made, cause she’s pretty far from home and honestly a tragic baker. And she cooks dinner (don’t ask how she can’t bake to save her life but is the most incredible cook, it’s unbelievably ridiculous) for us a lot, she learnt to make my fav food. 

We technically live together, we’re at the final year of uni (maybe not tho depending on our next courses, I dunno) so we’ve been living together this year, but before that, I basically spent most of my time around her place anyway.

So yeah, we’re friends. But I realised a few months ago that i’m pretty, definitely, in love with her. I think i’ve felt like this for about a year and it just hadn’t quite clicked yet. 

(I had this awful day and came back to our place to see her genuinely painting our wall a different colour of white. She paints as a hobby and accidentally splatter a ton of blue paint on the wall and freaked out and tried buying white paint to cover it when it wouldn’t wash of and she was sat on the floor with white paint all over her and the wall still blue. 

She told me the story and I burst out laughing. I explained you often need white primer first, to cover the blue, and then to buy the correct shade of white, since ours was sort of chill white and she’d bought bright white. 

It’s the type of thing that would’ve annoyed me so much at the end of such a tough day, but because it was her, I just found it adorable. That’s when it clicked, I love her. She noticed I was tired immediately and felt bad cause she realised i’d had a bad day. I said this cheered me up, cause it did. Then we made dinner together and spent the night reading on the sofa with music on. 

We went to the shop the next day to get the correct stuff and luckily our wall is back to looking almost exactly the same). 

So yeah, I love her. Plus like, being demi, I don’t usually find ppl attractive… I mean i’ve always known she’s aesthetically pleasing, she has good fashion sense and stuff, but like, I tend to view all people as the same sort of level of attractive. BUT NOW ITS LIKE- SHES FUCKING BEAUTIFUL. It’s kind of annoyingly actually. How is everyone not spending all day gazing at her eyes. They’re fucking caramel, like a book character. She says they’re brown but she’s wrong. In dull lighting they seem brown but they’re like dark orange (amber i guess) with little hues of green, but in the sun they’re really bright and caramel and warm. 

She’s a lesbian btw. So theoretically I’ve got a shot. Also, i’ve always been good at reading people and I know she’s had like a small crush on me at least twice in our friendship. You can tell sometimes. 

But recently, it’s been a wreck. I’m so distracted cause i’m in love with her I can’t think, and my friends keep telling me she loves me back but I can’t keep my head on straight long enough to try and tell. 

But. If I do get my head out of my ass and tell her and she does end up wanting to date me, what the fuck am I supposed to do then. Cause if it does work out, i’m pretty sure it’ll last. 

My parents never totally liked her (they probably saw this coming- but I think in the homophobic, all queer ppl date each other, way and not the, they’re meant to be together, way) and if ended up having to tell them i’m actually dating a women, they’d be pissed. 

I always thought i’d end up with man, since it’s easier. No religious guilt about that. But I can put aside my own brains stupidity for her. But I can’t change my parents. But aside from this, they’re literally amazing. But I also know them and I truly don’t think they’ll change.

All my friends having been saying me and her should’ve been dating this entire time. I don’t know, I like to think now would be kinda perfect. I always knew she was gonna be in my life forever, I guess I just got so used to imagining myself with a man I forgot she was an option? That I could be with her romantically forever. You know, assuming she wants to date me.

(We’ll see about that. I’m really not sure. But i’m totally shit at keeping my own secrets so i’m planning to tell her soon if not just for the sake of my own sanity. All my friends say she’ll reciprocate, if she doesn’t, then I guess i’ll go from there, she’s not the type to be weird or bothered that we live together despite it. And if she does… then I have to decide what to do next. My other best friend is literally always right when it comes to our friends dating lives, and she has faith we’ll end up together, so we’ll see I guess) 

But if she does. If she does I’ll have to get into it with my family. I don’t want to lie to them. And I know I shouldn’t judge, but I honestly don’t think they’ll change their minds. I think they’ll say I can come visit whenever, but not bringing my partner. And I won’t want that. And we’ll all argue.  

I never liked knowing my parents didn’t accept this side of me, but I guess I never considered it would be an actual problem i’d have to deal with someday. 

I spend a lot of my time trying to figure myself out. I haven’t had the easiest path in life. But with her, it’s so easy. It’s easier to understand what I like, it’s easier to talk about things, and I fully trust her not to be weird. Or leave. Or get mad for nothing. I don’t have to walk on eggshells around her. I trust her. We don’t argue much. We have, what she calls, three different type of arguments. 

One, “bad mood argues”. She finds it so hilarious that it rhymes. You have to say it with the syllables. Bad-Mood Ar-Gues. We have these cookies in the freezer that we make every month. If one of us is having a bad day, we cook a few cookies to eat and I bought this dumb fridge magnet of a cookie to put on the fridge to signify it’s a cookie worthy bad day. 

Another one is “justifiable anger”. That doesn’t happen much. When we first met, she had this tendency to not tell me when I did something that upset her, and it’d spiral, and i’d be mad she wasn’t talking about why she was mad. So we have a rule to always talk about problems, even the little things. For example, her yelling into the phone to her family for hours while i’m trying to study- she has planned days now, so I can go to the library or she can go out if necessary, or keep the convo below 45 min, her mums like half deaf so she does have to shout, but it’s also VERY loud. Basically we comprise. And make sure no anger builds up.

The third type of argument is, what our friends call, “married idiots”. As in, she shouldn’t use the siri talk thingy while driving cause it never understands what she’s trying to say and so I get jumbled texts that mean nothing and then she thinks she’s told me something she hasn’t told me. She’s nearly understanding that one 🤦‍♀️ And you know, the classic colour of something argument (it’s purple- she’s wrong).  

Anyway. I forgot my point. Oh yeah, everything’s easier with her. I feel comfortable. If i’m being totally honest… i’m pretty sure if I ask her out, she’ll say yes. Like 80% sure. Im just scared to fuck this up, and cause family problems. Cause yeah, she’s worth the drama, but also, it’s her that’ll be being insulted right? She very likely won’t be allowed in my house. I don’t want this to ruin what we already have. 

So yeah. That. I could really do with some advice ❤️

Hi <3

If you do not ask this girl out, I will physically pass away.

Like...I'm not usually so pushy with asks, but you're describing a relationship, hon. This is a relationship. I'm not sure if you follow me because of the Marauders, but you two are literally Wolfstar, And I'm shipping the two of you so hard right now.

If, for some insane reason, she turns you down, it's because she doesn't realize she's in love with you, too.

As far as your family...again, I'm going to be more blunt that usual. You're going to have to face their lack of acceptance for you at some point. It's absolutely shit that they don't accept you, but like...don't let that stop you from being with this girl. Because even if you put off their feelings now, you'll have to deal with it someday, and then you might miss out on an amazing girl.

Please update me. I need updates. I am so invested. I am DYING for updates.

God, I'm rereading all the things you wrote and I'm kicking and giggling. You two are ridiculously adorable. Please kiss her already (with consent).

I'm naming you purple anon. Please write back.

#ask #asks #ask cas #purple anon

[why-the-heck-not]

🥺🥺 I’ve been going to the gym during the day this autumn instead of the morning. Today went during the morning like I used to, and the cleaner greeted me and said that he thought I had quit bc hadn’t seen me around, and if everything’s good and that made my day

#i go through life always thinking I affect nothing & no one so things like these baffle me but in a very good way #like I am a human person alongside other ppl after all #i feel lowkey bad tho bc I could’ve been leas awkward and say ’’thanks’’ etc. but I wasn’t expecting to be talking to anyone #also he spoke english so the language barrier bc sure I know english like pretty alright but talking in it is different #but anyways; i love my gym and if I ever move I’m going to be honestly sad about having to switch (bc currently it seems very chill place & #don’t get that gym anxiety anymore bc I’ve been going there for like a year) #november 2023 #2023

[leonardalphachurch]

i think something that fucks me up about south haters is like. she’s. a villain. and she’s a minor villain but. “she killed north!” okay even if this was uncomplicatedly true she. she’s the bad guy. she does. villainous actions. like you NEVER see this much vitriol towards wyoming for killing york or the meta for. y’know. being the one who actually killed north. it’s just like. really interesting that you can understand villain characters acting villainous when they’re men but hold a different standard when it comes to women huh.

#rvb #south #agent south dakota #i’m not talking about ppl who think any character who does anything wrong in media is bad #or like. ppl who have personal reasons to have distaste for south. i don’t care about you. #i am talking about the swathes of people who hold no hate for or actively even LOVE characters like felix or wash but think of south as a #backstabbing bitch

[tokidokifish]

it’s just so funny to hear the “garashir is unhealthy” discourse as the big dumb baby i am, who actually doesn’t much care to seek out toxic relationships and balks on reading fanfics that are even tagged with bittersweet ending. i am a vanilla wafer of a fandom girlie and i fuckin LOVE garashir bc i think it’s a genuinely healthy relationship built on mutual respect and affection, and buddy what else do you even NEED??

#star trek #ds9 #garashir #garak/bashir #honestly i think a lotta the ppl who think of garashir as unhealthy #think it’s unhealthy because they cannot conceptualize a character like garak - #a liar; a spy; a man who will kill with *very* little prompting - #also being able to sincerely care about someone #garak is a ‘’bad man’’ #therefore any relationship he has is ‘’bad’’ #no matter how sincerely he approaches it #also please note when i say vanilla i’m not talking abt smut bc i fuckin LOVE all the weird exo smut this fandom presents #we truly have it all ❤️

[froqpi-art]

new gen lore according to twitter (sorry wish i had a better source haha)

according to japanese fans, in the extra information in vol. 27, gen seems to have?? a rare condition in which the organs are reversed (visceral inversion).

#according to wikipedia it doesn’t actually affect the body much except perhaps cardiac issues #which may explain why he always seems out of shape haha #also ppl r saying the senku found out when gen got attacked my magma #also that petrification basically saved him (so does that mean his health was bad?) #but idk if that’s from the vol 27 info or fan speculation #if his health WAS bad ppl say that may be why he likes junk food so much #cuz he didn’t care if he knew he didn’t have a full healthy life #anyways things to think about #i hope we can get a good source/translation soon! #plz correct me if i’m wrong! #i haven’t seen ppl talk about it on tumblr so i thought i should bring over the info #dr stone #not art

[sofarsogoodsowhat]

AUUUUGHHHHH MY HEAD HURTS SO BAD

#face #new stupid hat!!!!! #i had so much fucking fun. my boyfriend ended up going with me and staying the whole time :) he wasn’t sure if he’d be able to #we both got drunk i got really stoned we both talked to the dudes from the second band for a WHILE and got cheap leather from em #cuz their singer makes leather like cuffs and collars n that kinda shit #AND THEIR LEATHER IS SOURCED FROM A FUCKING REZ. ITS FUCKING INSANE ITS SO COOL #but also their singer was looking at my tattoos and was like HOW OLD ARE YOU??? and he looks like he’s around my moms age #so that made me feel really fucking good abt my tattoos . #they’re the band that had the heavy metal parking lot shirt #also!!!! talked to the guitarist from the first band outside (i want him BAD) and he got all excited when i said i loved his solos and their #set was fucking crazy and he gave me a couple stickers and then when me and my bf’s bf were talking to the singer from the second band #the guitarist from the first one comes over and starts talking to me again and says he likes my shirt and then he was like yeah man i saw #you out there and i was like damn this seems like the kinda guy that’ll love this set i fucking hope he does I think i’m in love with him. #listen to takacs (columbus based??) + razorblade (pittsburgh) #apparently ppl at thrash shows like my tattoos! i need 2 look into the local thrash scene more

[majoringinsarcasm]

“I hate people who mindlessly praise RWBY and deny any of its awful writing choices”

I have no idea what circles you’re in that have people like this. I won’t deny they exist bc I’m certain they do, but I’ve seen so many ppl who love RWBY with all their hearts talk about multiple things across the volumes they didn’t like or wish had happens differently or where a scene was weak or where the pacing was off. Especially after people politely explained issues they had with V9 while still throughly enjoying the volume as a whole.

Again I’m not denying the existence of mindless praise but I have to ask WHO you’re coming across who In Earnest and not as a joke say the show is 100% Perfect For Real. Bc in the 10 years I’ve been watching the show I have not seen those people. Which maybe means I’m lucky?

But I feel like RWBY specially gets so much hate and shade and ppl talk about “bad writing” every other episode for the past six volumes like. Bruh if it’s THAT bad HOW are you still watching? There’s thinking it’s bad and hoping it’ll get better and then there’s hate watching and being confused why people seem to love a thing you hate and that doesn’t sound fun At All

#rwby #when the show ends SO many ppl are gonna make SO many videos about how it’s awful and how could it last so long #and I know objectively bad and boring shows can last really long times #but the happiness and hype so many ppl have when we get new news about it #also even if it IS a bad show which I disagree with #ppl can like bad shows I’m sorry you don’t like it or no longer like it I really am #but ppl are allowed to praise the good parts #not every fan wants to dwell on the parts they are upset with that doesn’t mean they are ignoring them #if you can sit through a 45 minute video where sownonw ONLY talks about the bad parts good for you #I’m here for the fun and the magic and the joy I can analyze on my own what didn’t work for me #not posting it online doesn’t mean I don’t think it and not seeing any hate doesn’t mean ppl think it’s perfect plz relax it’s been Years #at this point just watch sownthing else if after all this time you still don’t like it or can’t get back into it

[alangdorf]

Sorryyyy for dropping off the face of the earth; got kinda shy after that last post but mostly I’ve just been writing though I cannot guarantee that any of that will ever be finished (also I’m very insecure about my writing AAAH). Figure I might as well post the valentines I had done (like two months late lol); interestingly this turned into more of a hand lettering exercise than I was expecting lol

#len’en #yabusame houlen #suzumi kuzu #tsubakura enraku #haiji senri #art #digital #there was one more but I’m not confident it’s like. funny? and I have stuff I’d eant to change abt it #and these four have pretty good comedic timing as a set so I’ll just leave well enough alone #also had plans for a Kuroji and uhhh Xeno a but those haven’t panned out #you’ll have to excuse me I’ve been going off the rails and also have not fixed the meds situation (I’m completely out atm) #started like four fics; yes they are all suzutsuba and there is. so much sex (not described/on screen but STILL) #didn’t manage to stay away from Hamal Cine Bad End either jfhshsjfb #too nervous abt talking yo pol rn to leave comments but zaranthropy if you’re reading this I owe you my life #also I think I said I was inspired on something by dissociation constant and then when chapter 2 came out I relized it was something I had #completely misinterpreted but I’m too embarrassed to actually go and check lol…… #*talking to ppl sorry I had to turn off my autocorrect cause it was being compeltely unreasonable #OH YEAH also this Haiji design was a little bit inspired by a redesign of them from uhhhhhhh who was it. idk most of their blog is gone but #I’ll go check my likes #anyway I like how they tuned out also that joke came to me several days after valentine’s and gave me the idea for this whole thing #edit: can’t find the post anymore for some reason but I think yhe name was like chiosu or something? #did somebody go delete their blog while I wasn’t looking

[cullens-babe]

ANOTHER QUESTION TO THE FANDOM IM SO SORRY:

Solas’s outfit. What are the green things he wears?? Stockings?? Leggings?? Pants??? I’m talking about the beige sweater with the wolf jaw necklace. His like casual outfit, you know???

I’m writing a different fic, literally so sad and in character depth for my lavellan, and I have to describe his outfit and I am STRUGGLING.

#dragon age #dragon age inquisition #solavellan #solas x lavellan #lavellan x solas #help me PLEASE. IM SO SORRY FOR ANOTHER POST BUT I JUST #can’t describe it properly. or at least I think I’m not. I just want to check so ppl know what I’m talking about #I’m so bad at describing outfits bc I have almost no idea what right words describe clothes #I read so many fics describing their clothes yet I forget each time I start my own fic like??? #somethings wrong but I can’t figure it out lol #anyway thank you 🙏 😭.

[pollyanna-nana]

Look. I know some people are going to want to mail a pipe bomb to my house for three houses discoursing again in 2023-almost-2024 but can we please, for the sake of my goddamn sanity, agree that Edelgard waging war for any reason was objectively bad. “Well it was to oppose the church-“ Starting a war is bad. “The other countries didn’t give in so she had to-“ Starting a war is bad. “Well there was nothing else she could have done-“ Starting. A. War. Is. Bad. There is no possible justification on this planet for doing so that makes it a remotely okay thing to do. It is not a “necessary evil” and I hope people don’t take this mindset into actual real life conflicts happening right now as we speak. Yes she’s hot and cool and interesting but if I see one more person genuinely saying she was 100% correct I’m going to eat glass on live TV.

#Polly rants #three houses #fire emblem #three houses discourse #edelgard von hresvelg #edelgard discourse #for filtering #like I think she’s a really cool character but oh my GOD #I know most people only say these things to fuck with others and like more power to you I dislike ppl saying ‘you’re a bad person for liking #this problematic character’ as the next #and to be clear I am NOT talking about you #I am talking about the ppl I see who I am terrified genuinely don’t think what El did was bad and like #MASSIVE YIKES #anyway normal El fans I’m holding hands with u as a Dimi fan and skipping and frolicking in the flowers enjoying how tragic our chars are

[fridayiminlovemp3]

do i believe that taylor and karlie kissed at the 1975 concert in 2014 … well that’s one secret i’ll never tell xoxo

#crazy to see so many ppl talking about taylor and matty allegedly hooking up in 2014 and NOT bring up kissgate . #like how do you either not know or not care #like girl miss kloss is at the centre of the matty taylor lore how do u not care #omg matty looked at taylor while singing fallingforyou and pointed at her girl and she was too busy cuddling karlie to even notice .. #i’m not a kaylor on GOD but i just don’t understand how you can talk about matty and taylor and not even bring her up #i do think they had a really intense friendship and a massive friendship failing out which is actually more interesting to me than them #secretly dating #but also i don’t know any of these people #all i know is that i don’t trust that british man and his bad teeth and i think karlie is a maniac for going to the eras tour just to sit #in the nosebleeds and see taylor rerelease 1989 from miles away knowing that a decade ago she was the first person to ever hear that album #😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 #MENTAL ILLNESS #her doing that is way more insane than matty healy eating raw meat on stage and playing tiktoks #behind every deranged man there is a more deranged woman #that’s the thesis statement here #taylor swift #mari.txt

[autistic-katara]

u ever see a mildly iffy post and look at the comments and just think “wow, everyone here is so fucking unpleasant in their own special way”

#comments on a post abt i/p stuff nd no one can grasp the concept of it not being 1000% black and white #it’s possible for both groups to be indigenous to palestine and it’s possible for both groups to not be able to “return to where they came #from” #as yk from what i know it’s pretty impossible to leave gaza at all and also most israelis r refugees from really bad antisemitism or r #descended from them #and also its possible to talk abt hamas and antisemitism w/o denying the genocide going on and vice versa #and its really fucking easy to not dehumanise regular israelis/jews and palestinians/arabs #like it’s so very easy to not do that #innocent palestinians don’t deserve to die bcz of the actions of hamas #innocent israelis don’t deserve to die bcz of the actions of the idf #and neither deserve to be displaced (probably into unsafe conditions) bcz u don’t think they’re indigenous enough #so many of u act like either palestine is just a country of antisemitic terrorists or israel’s full of fascist soulless militants #both r incredibly xenophobic (and racist or antisemitic to be more specific abt it) #idk i’m just so tired of ur ability to not be normal abt this while there r people dying #i would say “it’s online discourse ppl r just like that” except this is very much bleeding into real life and existed before the internet #long before the internet #so it does very much affect real life so idk just be better please #sorry tangent in the tags #ryan shut the fuck up #antisemitism #racism

[apotelesmaa]

I trust like 5 ppl with tsukasa takes tbh the rest of you are on thin ice (to be charitable) bc the tumblr mutuals get him and the based writers get him but that’s Literally It everyone else is talking abt a character who does not exist. I should not be going to bat for a character i don’t stan and yet here I am. Bc u all do NOT understand tsukasa tenma and someone has to be a hater about it.

#emu and nene stan forced to talk abt ruikasa bc ppl have bad takes. heartbreaking. #i like talking abt ruikasa I just also like emunene more and think ruikasa fans should die #me 🤝 sakitenmaenjoyer 🤝 select few mutuals/writers : only good takes #the rest of u? brother u can just die. #I’m too busy going to bat for emu and nene but I will still go to bat for rui and Tsukasa bc U ALL DONT GET THEM. AUGH.

[dreamertrilogys]

going into instagram comments is crazy it’s like seeing into a (much MUCH) worse alternate reality like You ppl live such unfathomably terrible lives to me….

#aside from the general everything they’re just so boring and miserable. Btw #sorry it’s just i’ve had insta on my phone lately (unfortunately i can’t delete it until the party ☹️) & every SINGLE time i see some sort o #reel and i’m like HA yknow what i think? and then everyone in the comments is saying the complete opposite thing #every single time without fail #the other day i saw a reel where a bartender dumped all the leftover stuff from the thing (idk what it’s called) into a cup and every1 in #the comments was like ugh yucky disgusting / yk ppl put even grosser stuff in their mouths like genitals. besides if it’s cleaned regularly #enough it should be fine / that’s a big IF. meanwhile i’m like Yum jungle juice 😋 #also one time i saw ppl talking abt how they sleep in binders at sleepovers COME ON reddit is free transtape exists. please #<- these r like the worst examples ever but it’s ok #also like the insane casual misogyny. it’s so bad out here guys #.txt #ppl arguing in the comments like ‘that’s like 2k calories’ / ‘why r u being negative besides it’s only like 300 at max’ / ‘it’s not #negativity’ GUYS. WHAT THE FUCK. CALORIES ARE GOOD I <3 ENERGY???? YOUR BODY ALSO LOVES ENERGY. COME ON. BUTTER 4 LYFE BITCH #OH AND ONE TIME someone made vanilla extract and the comments were all panicked muslims like oh no im rethinking all my vanilla extract #buying GUYS do you or do you not eat bread. great now figure out the alcohol content of fermented yeast vs a drop of ethanol in a cake (that #is being baked anyway!)

[worms-in-my-brain]

“Kill all men” (and variations) isn’t feminist.

The goal of feminism is not to reverse the gender hierarchy. The goal of feminism is not to eradicate half the population.

The goal of feminism is gender equality.

If you legitimately believe that men, as a group, are uniformly and unequivocally bad just on the basis of their identity, something they cannot control, and that, due to that, they cannot be trusted, ever? If you believe that only women are trustworthy or good and men and inherently bad, then you do not believe in some of the very basic foundations of gender equality.

And like. The belief that women are inherently trustworthy and good is also bad. Like, I kinda thought it was common sense that putting somebody up on a pedestal is bad because it has one of two possibilities: a) the possibility to set them up for failure (because no person is perfect, always good and pure, and everyone makes mistakes), and b) the possibility to provide abusers with shields; if you believe women don’t abuse people, even if it’s not an explicit belief, guess what you’re more vulnerable for?

And these thought patterns aren’t just anti-feminist. They’re pretty bad for multigender people, too. I’m genderfluid, but on average I am usually somewhat a man and somewhat a woman, just in varying degrees. So when you say that all men are evil, am I to assume you think people like me are, too? If yes, that seems pretty cold-hearted. I am not benefiting from the patriarchy; I am intersex and transfemasc. I am androgynous in a visibly trans way. In a misogynists’ mind, I’m not a man or a woman, I’m a thing. If no… why make an exception for me? It feels like you’re erasing my identity as a man— just because I am a woman does mean I am not a man.

If what you mean when you talk about these things is that men have to be aware of their societal position with respect to the patriarchy and vigilant for unconstructed misogyny? Then say that. Don’t say you wish men would die, don’t make fun of gay men and bi women’s attraction to men, don’t say vile shit about trans men just because you think it’s ‘punching down.’

#idk what to tag this tbh #it wrote it while thinking about how I feel when I’m being perceived as a woman #and somebody treats me like I’m this good pure angel #because it’s actually infuriating and yeah it’s sexist as hell #I want my capacity to be my own person acknowledged #what if I don’t want to be pure #and yeah I know it’s positive and I also don’t want to be a bad person #I just want to exist without assumptions being shoved down my throat constantly #and it’s bs that this shit is framed as feminist cause its NOT #also really not fun when I’m seen as a man for ppl to act like I’m evil #and btw in both contexts im specifically talking about like leftists who were #on the surface #accepting of diverse identities #so its not like this happens only with bigots or TERFs or whatever #this happens with ‘feminists’ and ‘trans-positive’ ppl all the time