#I’m actually disabled

[neurospicyyy]

• Fidgeting and stuttering do NOT always indicate that someone is nervous.

• Avoiding eye contact does NOT always mean someone is lying.

• Having a hard time focusing does NOT always mean someone is lazy.

• Carrying around a stuffed animal or blanket does NOT make someone childish.

• Poor motor skills is NOT a direct indication of intelligence.

Not everyone fits into your box. Deal with it.

#neurodivergent #adhd #neurospicy #neurodivergence #actually ocd #neurodiversity #neurosparkly #neurospicyyy #asd #autism #disabilities #disorders #ableism #tw ableism #makes me mad #mad #angry rant #annoyed #I’m mad :) #stuttering #motor skills #fidgeting #stimming #eye contact #lazy #comfort object #Eye contact is not a way to tell if someone’s lying #actually adhd #actually neurodivergent #social anxiety

[phleb0tomist]

tumblr users will have the most inaccessible, unreadable, low contrast, flashing carrd you can possibly imagine, with a dni full of insider acronyms with no translation and numerous link buttons labelled with cryptic captions, and then go ahead and put “ableists dni and kys!” on that carrd

#yeah i’m bitter about carrds becoming so hostile to disabled people #nobody with vision issues or photosensitivity or processing issues or epilepsy or memory issues could possibly read your carrd #small changes like proper colour contrast between background and text can make a world of difference in making your page accessible #even just spelling out the acronyms in your dni or mentioning WHERE a mysterious link will actually lead is so helpful #i see so many links that are just random literary quotes that turn out to lead to a mandatory dni. how would anyone know that?? #txt #accessibility #1000

[1980s-slasher-film]

Accommodations are not special, they’re not a leg up, they’re not a benefit. They’re not putting anyone ahead in the race, nor are they taking anything away from others.

They exist to put us on a level playing ground to everyone else, and nothing more.

#ngl this is half directed at the autistics using acess passes at theme parks #specially the ones that don’t actually need it #obviously you can utilize them if you actually need them #but I mean the people that say skipping lines is a ‘benefit of autism’ or whatever #I’m seeing it pop up again #and it’s pissing me offff #disabled #actually disabled #chronic illness #actually chronically ill #autism #actually autistic #adhd #actually adhd #arthritis #pots #pots syndrome #heds #hypermobile ehlers danlos #ehlers danlos syndrome

[doresworld]

Being disabled means experiencing something terrifying health wise, but being uncertain if it’s hospital worthy

#dores world 🌍 #disability #disabled #chronic illness #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #disabled life #actually disabled #chronic disability #my sugars went to 3.8 for the first time ever and I don’t know what to do #I mean had some carbs and sugar so I’m just waiting to see what that does and I guess I’ll go from there #diabetes #diabetic

[eggings]

happy disability pride month to anyone who has a disability from a condition that “usually isn’t a disability”. happy disability pride month to people with disabilities that aren’t often understood by able-bodied people. happy disability pride month to people who don’t have any official diagnosis yet. happy disability to people whose “labs look completely fine”. wishing you peace this july.

#first sentence is phrased a little weird but i’m mainly referring to adhd #and the amount that it is not taken seriously even when it majorly affects someone’s life #anyways sorry if i phrased anything bad these are all based on personal experiences #actually adhd #actually autistic #adhd #autism #ocd #pots #heds #fibromyalgia #disability pride month #chronic pain #sleep disorders

[alexei-home-fromthewar-at-last]

I think a fair number of (able-bodied) people don’t understand that cripple is a slur. It’s a slur. It’s offensive. Physically disabled people can reclaim it *if they want to*, but they don’t have to. They can be offended by it if they want to as well. Both are valid.

Also, you can reclaim it FOR YOURSELF! You don’t just get to call other people cripples because you decided to reclaim it. That’s personal. Saying “oh, I can say that because I’m physically disabled” only applies if you’re referring to YOURSELF that way. You do not get to tell other people in your community what they should and shouldn’t be comfortable with.

#pf course if you know someone is comfy with that term you can use it for them #but you need to know to explicitly ask #I feel like this is the same for the r-slur but people know it’s a slur they just don’t care #it doesn’t matter if I’m not calling actual mentally disabled people it yeah actually it does #alexei’s silly little thoughts #alexei’s silly little ✨chronic illness✨ #chronically ill #chronic illness #chronic pain #disablity #disabled #physically disabled

[nerdyenby]

Happy disability pride month everyone <3

Shoutout to my fellow people who

Didn’t realize their symptoms weren’t normal (I didn’t understand that people went through their days without feeling exhausted all the time until I was 20)

Flew under the radar because they function “well enough”

Aren’t good at communicating when they’re in pain and/or don’t know how to ask for support

Are still stuck in the endless cycle of doctor referrals

Still don’t have a name for what they experience

Hesitate to call themselves disabled, while also craving the validation of our pain that comes with that label

Feel like they don’t belong in this community. I promise you do. Your struggles are valid and you are always welcome here <3

#I’m diagnosed with vasovagal syncope as well as adhd mdd and gad #I also have chronic pain and something akin to chronic fatigue #disability pride month #actually disabled

[withasideofshakespeare]

#shakespeare #polls #woah! more Shakespeare polls?? #I’m in a very Shakespeare-y mood right now #as a neurodivergent queer and disabled person #my answer is all of the above #I might have to sit on this one actually #I *think* my answer is Edmund

[thatoneluckybee]

Going to break into your house with pots and pans and yell at you until you reframe your thinking of productivity to include more than just schoolwork or a salary or chores and the like.

Did you do a thing? Was there a positive result for you or someone else?

Congratulations, you did a Productivity!!!

You aren’t ALWAYS going to be able to have the energy to do what we consider traditionally productive. You won’t always have the motivation.

Yeah, maybe you could have spent two hours studying for that test instead of 15 minutes. Maybe you could have cleaned the kitchen instead of the dishes. And? That’s still something!

Productivity is doing things!! Did you eat food and drink water? You did something that helped your body work! Doodled in class? You made art! Even just posting theories and memes on tumblr dot com is a thing! You thought out the post, figured out how to organize it (even if you don’t realize you did that) and you made it! And now other people can see and you DID something and you should be proud!!!

Be proud of yourself or I am going to show up outside your window tonight and scream positive affirmations louder than a cat who has just discovered her food bowl is empty.

#ESPECIALLY if you are disabled or mentally ill or sick or neurodivergent or any of the like #For me with ADHD and oftentimes poor mental health I really struggle to be traditionally “productive” #And earlier today I was frustrated because I was having a difficult time finishing a school assignment. #But also? #I noticed and made a post about a parallel between comic panels. #I’m working on a long post analyzing specific quotes from Webtoon. #I got up and got a water bottle. #Is that not productive? #Does that not produce a result that I and others may enjoy? #y’all have GOT to acknowledge little victories because that took effort and THAT was productive and Im sosososososososososo proud of you!! #adhd #autism #neurodivergent #i dont know what all to tag this as so feel free to reblog with any tags you feel this applies to or apply to you in relation to this!! #productive #disability #actually autistic #actually adhd #rambles

[consider-your-potatoes-mashed]

Who the FUCK decided that insurance companies get to decide what’s medically necessary????????

#medically necessary #chronic pain #disabled #disability #actually disabled #chronic illness #physical disability #hypermobility #probably heds #probably Ehlers danlos syndrome #insurance #fuck insurance companies #i’m in so much pain #like walking is hard #braces #knee braces #just let me have my custom braces I’ve tried everything else

[rotteneldritchhorror]

One of my favourite things about being disabled is the excitement and happiness when you can do small things that others might find easy

It’s such simple joy to be able to make yourself a cup of tea for the first time (or the first time in a while!) or to just make a simple meal that you couldn’t before! Finally figuring out how to make something that doesn’t overwhelm you, etc etc

It’s a joy in the mundane that ableds need to learn from sometimes /lh

#I just made myself a cup of tea for the first time in a while and I’m proud of myself #even though it didn’t taste good and had to have someone else fix it for me #am still very proud of myself #disabled #disabilties #disability #physical disability #mental disability #autist #being autistic #autistic experiences #autistic #all the autism tags cause my experience is due to my autism #actually autistic #autistic spectrum #autism #autistic adult #autistic culture

[dumbasswithapen]

can we just listen to Disabled people when they say what accommodations they need??? Like it really isn’t that hard to just take someone’s word on what is best for their own body! Whether it’s more or less or different than what you deem they need it really isn’t your place to say!!!

Sometimes, people need more than they show! Especially if they’re used to being in pain all the time, then they won’t always display that discomfort.

Sometimes the accommodations someone needs are different than what you assume. A friend who struggles with noise sensitivity may ask for you to turn on a different type of music, instead of turning it down, and if that is what they express they need you don’t have to say “oh no I can just turn it down!” and ignore them saying that that isn’t necessary because your idea of noise sensitivity is different than their own experiences and needs.

And sometimes people need less than you try to provide! Or simply don’t want that accommodation at the time! And here’s the crazy part: this applies even if what they say to do could hurt them. Obviously this isn’t a rule for every situation*, but for some it absolutely is. If your friend wants to tag along for, say, a hike, and they have joint pain it isn’t your place to add in “oh no but they can’t do [the hike]! They’ll be in pain! We have to do something else to accommodate them!” If that person expressed a desire to go, especially if offered other options prior that wouldn’t hurt them, let them live. Let them do the thing that puts them in pain, because Disabled people don’t always want to be shoved into a little box of safety. Absolutely sometimes they do, and some might always want to, but if they don’t, then let them make their own choices for their body. Just as anyone else does. You go out and get drunk, even if it gives you a hangover. You go skating even if you’re shit at it and scratch up your knees a bunch. Just because someone is Disabled doesn’t mean that they can’t do the same thing and do that fun thing that hurts them.

I don’t know if I’m displaying my point how I want, so here’s my own example: I am allergic to the cold. Anything below 60 degrees (f) I get hives. Any water cooler than a fucking warm shower I get hives. My joints don’t do great when it’s cold out. This does not mean that when I say I want to go swimming, you can say “oh but you can’t you’ll get hives!” Or “no you can’t do that you’ll be in pain!” Because. I know that. I know that. I know my Disability better than anyone else can, and I can ask for accommodations I need. I am not a child to be wrapped in bubble wrap so I don’t get hurt. My body is my body and I can do with it what I want, and face the consequences. Likewise, just because I said I wanted to go swimming doesn’t mean that when I don’t want to go out and muck around in the snow it is anyone’s right to say “oh but you wanted to swim earlier, so obviously it isn’t that bad for you!” Or “oh it’s fine it’s not that cold! Just wear a sweater!” Because at that time I need and want different accommodations and that should be listened to and considered accordingly, as far as it can be in that situation.

Seriously. Just listen to us. We are in our own bodies. We know ourselves. It really isn’t that hard

*a situation where this point would be null is, for example, a situation where the person has been peer pressured into doing something, or one where you know the person well and know that the endurance of pain is a self-harming behavior

#disability #disabled #information #shi rambles #ableism #accommodation #cold urticaria #chronic pain #Like I get that my mom wants the best for me but I really know myself #If I avoided getting hives I’d be avoiding swimming at all. I’d not be having cold drinks or foods. I’d be not going outside #Even if I’m complaining about being in pain it doesnt mean that I don’t want to do the thing. It just means I don’t want to be in pain. #I know that won’t change but it’s not the change that matters it’s the expression of it #idk #actually disabled #ugh I don’t like wiriting that i feel like a fraud cuz im not disabled “enough” #It’s so fucking stupid I hate my brain

[derekhalesbian]

genuinely how i feel sometimes

#adhd #NOBODY TAKES IT SERIOUSLY EXCEPT PPL WHO ALSO STRUGGLE WITH IT ITS SO FRUSTRATING #kitty needs to chill #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #add #actually adhd #actually add #if i see one more person acting like adhd isn’t an actual debilitating neurological disability #i’m going to fucking scream and no one can stop me #i also would like to point out i said ‘ppl without adhd’ and not ‘neurotypicals’ for A Reason #bc i see some fellow neurodivergents acting like adhd is just…. not a thing #or not as ‘bad’ as other neurodivergencies #or maybe not as impactful would be a better term #and if you’re going to tag this as ‘me but with [other thing]’ please just make your own post

[gandalf-the-bean]

when you have chronic pain you just kinda get used to that spot hurting but when a NEW spot that’s not a Hurty spot starts to hurt and it’s like not even that bad but suddenly you can’t do anything cause the Wrong Spot is Hurting

#chronic pain #chronic issues #chronic illness #physical disability #disability #chronic disability #disabled #actually disabled #my chronic pain is my abdomen and headaches #right now a random part of my back is having minor pain #and i’m like what do i do #the jury system things

[manyminded]

this post goes out to my disabled people who have to exercise/can’t use mobility aids or else their disability will get worse. we are not betraying our own community by helping ourselves

#this post is mostly for myself. I’m not sure if I’m the only one who feels like this but I’m posting it anyway #disabled #disability #disability pride month #disabilities #disabled life #cripplepunk #cripple punk #physical disability #physically disabled #actually disabled #actuallydisabled #disabilties #disabled pride #disabled positivity

[fablesys]

#did memes #osdd memes #did system #osdd system #actually disabled #pots syndrome #hypermobile ehlers danlos #ehlers danlos syndrome #i’m disabled #chronically ill #pots memes #ehlers danlos problems #hidden disability