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derangedroyalfae · 3 years

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Sunday, April 18, 2021 - 10:00pm

{mostly taken from a conversation with my best friend, Jem - there were some bits that I thought were worded well}

Royal (2:26 PM): Sometimes I think about taking antidepressants again if only to numb the pain. And then I remember how it made me too numb and to everything, so then I think about drinking or doing edibles, but then it still sounds awful and could possibly amplify those feelings (as alcohol usually does make me feel more upset). And that’s sometimes why self-harm becomes a substitute, because it ether distracts from those feelings or even makes you feel like your receiving punishment for whatever you’re upset about. But I know self-harm turns into a loop of guilt and shame and worrying about worrying others.

Jem (2:27 PM): I haven't heard the same about edibles that I hear about alcohol

Or marijuana in general I suppose

Royal (2:28 PM): Weed scares me. Like I’m worried I’ll have a reaction because whenever people smoke or cook it around me, I get super sick feeling. I also know Kitty had a bad reaction to edibles, like gave her ultra anxiety and hallucinations or something like that.

Jem (2:29 PM): Ah, gotcha I myself am allergic so I can't say I've tried it myself either

Royal (2:29 PM): I think I might be allergic and I don’t wanna find out the hard way

When people smoke/cook it around me, I get nauseous and a headache

Jem (2:32 PM): Yeah, I used to have two roommates that both smoked weed in our tiny apartment I used to have near constant headache until I moved out the next year

Royal (2:33 PM): I wish I could just remove those negative feelings I have: anger, sadness, jealousy, dysphoria, etc Put them somewhere far away so I wouldn’t have to deal with them, and wouldn’t have to hurt others because of them

(I tend to use dysphoria for myself as an in general term, not just with gender dysphoria, btw)

Jem (2:34 PM): Aah, yeah, I get you

Royal (2:38 PM): But even though I’m scared I’ll have a bad reaction, I’m mighty tempted to ask Hummingbird if I can try one of her edible gummies rn...

Jem (2:41 PM): I wonder if there's a way to try it in a safe/monitored way

Royal (2:41 PM): Well, if I do just one gummy

With their supervision

So if I have a bad reaction, they can watch over me or drive me to the urgent care

I love how it’s called urgent care but usually has like an hour or longer wait

Jem (2:43 PM): Ah yeah, that'd be the best way to do it Keep the phone handy too

Royal (2:45 PM): Hey, at the very least, doesn’t look like it has any interactions with my cholesterol medication

Jem (2:46 PM): That's good to know

Royal (2:50 PM): I don’t think I’ll actually follow through with it or anything, just my mind thinking of solutions

I’m feeling calmer now anyway

For now

{And then proceeded to draw this (it’s an idea I’ve had this idea for a long time now, especially since the first time I experienced extreme jealousy with Capy, but never had the courage to follow through since I’ve never done inking and rarely traditional colour, but I finally worked up the motivation to try, and honestly, it’s perfect timing as it was therapeutic to draw)}:

Royal (8:09 PM): Random question, I’m curious your thoughts on this: do you think it’s insensitive to joke about getting with other people when you’re in a relationship, especially/at least in front of your partner (at least if the two of you haven’t established a non-monogamous relationship), and even more so if you know your partner is dealing with jealousy issues?

Jem (8:12 PM): I’d think so, yeah

It's definitely odd

Unless it's like, I donno, a celebrity or something

But even then, it'd make me wonder why someone would say that if they knew already their partner was having issues

Royal (8:12 PM): Like someone they know/knew or met in the past, but 100% out of the picture now

So it’s def not a celeb

Jem (8:14 PM): Yeah then even without the jealousy issues, unless that's some sort of pre-established shared humor, it's kinda weird

Royal (8:15 PM): K, I was curious what you’d think

I agree with that too, it just feels really insensitive, at least if you’re monogamous

{Whilst I never told Jem what it was about, it has to do with something similar that had happened earlier today - though I am not technically in a monogamous relationship, so the above can’t fully apply to me. But to explain this better, I’ll have to jump back to something that happened in December 2020.

Capybara had told me about how there was this really attractive lecturer he met in the past whom if I remember correctly, spoke Greek, so his friend got him a Greek dictionary to help him try to impress her, but he never really ran into her again. I had made a comment that you know, guess it worked out for the better because then we would have never become a thing should he have actually succeeded in getting with her. And he made a joke that wasn’t the case or a joke that brushed off what I said as almost nothing. I knew he was joking, but it was kinda a really emotional time for everyone and I’m still even to this day working through my newfound romantic/sexual jealousy issues, so I took it kinda harsh at first and then eventually told him that same night how that kinda made me feel shitty.

Well, today, we were gaming with one of his friends (super great, hardworking, and nice lad) that we often play Sea of Thieves with and it turns out that was the same friend who got him the Greek dictionary, so it somehow got brought up in conversation…and just…they were joking that Capybara was Odysseus and this other woman was Odysseus’s wife and they’d find each other again one day. I can’t remember which character they assigned the friend but they were saying I could be one of the gods, and I’ll be honest, didn’t handle that situation the best, so I made a off hand comment of something like, “Guess I can be Athena or Aphrodite since they’re the jealous types, guess that works pretty well.” Don’t know if they picked up the hint. I don’t know if they were at all thinking about how this was something awkward for me, cuz I’m pretty sure the friend is aware that I’m dating Capy and is supposed to assume we’re monogamous as Capybara doesn’t really feel comfortable letting his friends or family know I have other partners. It just also happened to be a sore topic for me, cuz when Capy made that joke, even though I knew it was nothing more than a joke, it made me feel like nothing and replaceable, which I already see myself as.

Just to kinda let Capybara know that I’d prefer the topic to be dropped, I messaged him privately: “So I just remembered, it was you talking about that Greek dictionary thing to impress that girl and making a joke that like, meeting me wasn’t for the better cuz she’s still out there that kinda made me feel like shit even though it was a joke”

To which he responded with: “she's a lecturer my dude 😂 she's like in her 40's - don't worry”

And I replied with: “No I know, but it was more of the joke that followed that rubbed me wrong. At the time”

And he just sent these two emoji’s in response: 😧 😕

Immediately after our messages, as we had still been playing, he went dead silent and so I noticed this (not sure if the friend did at first) and I at first just tried to silently apologize in DM, cuz I hadn’t meant to upset him, but he still remained silent. So shortly after, I asked if we should call it quits even though it was early. I felt so guilty and I immediately sent him more apology messages and even an apology voice memo, but I assumed he turned his phone off by that point.

Once again, my jealousy got the best of me and I hurt the person I love most in the world and made a fun time involving friends go awkward. I was having a good early afternoon/late morning with him at first, and then I ruined it because I couldn’t keep my mouth shut and my jealousy under control. I’m such an asshole.}

Royal (8:22 PM): Off topic, but still on the issue of jealousy, I feel like when I have jealousy issues myself at the point I’m at, it’s like a double headed snake due to me being in a polyamorous relationship - one head are just the pre-established toxic/venomous things that come with jealousy and the other head is the guilt and shame of feeling I have no right to be jealous when I have two other partners myself thus making me feel hypocritical (and being ignorant of any potential jealousy from other partners)

It feels like those two snake heads could eat me alive with just a few bites each if I let them in

It’s such a viscous cycle and honestly, the basic head of jealousy is enough of a problem that turns my stomach, but the second head just makes me want to surrender to the earth

Jem (8:28 PM): I get you It's a lot

Emotions are hard

Royal (8:28 PM): Especially when they revolve around something or someone you already have such an emotional attachment with

And then those feelings, like feelings of jealousy, only end up making you hurt the ones you love

Making them feel guilty or annoyed or like you don’t trust them or something

Jem (8:31 PM): Tbh, as someone who generally struggles with a lot of jealousy type issues, I get that (not necessarily romantic jealousy even, but just there's undercurrents of it that are always there and present in every relationship)

I don't think it's something that can ever be fully dealt with and just I guess has to be accepted and worked around At least for me

Royal (8:33 PM): And it makes you wonder if you truly care for those if you’re so easily jealous of them, since they tell you that shouldn’t feel that way if you really love someone, that you should be able to love them blindly and trust them, and it’s not like I don’t trust, but I feel so easily discardable by those who I could never even fathom of turning my back on

Royal (8:34 PM): Honestly, I’ve even felt some jealousy toward you in the past - not romantically - but it was something I worked on

Jem (8:34 PM): What if I were to say same though haha

Royal (8:34 PM): You seemed to be doing so well with you VN and you picked up art so fast

Jem (8:35): Aah for me it's always revolving around

My need for attention tbh

Royal (8:35 PM): But I told myself, “you just need to keep trying. Feeling negatively toward someone success is selfish and gets you nowhere. Improve yourself and you can also feel that success. He’s not succeeding to hurt you in anyway - you should be happy for him.”

Or like, probably not those exact words, but ya know, that idea

Royal (8:36 PM): Yeah, I understand that too, especially growing up in a family of 6

That kinda happened the other day with Kitty (whom at this point my feelings are pretty platonic) - for over a week now I’ve been telling the girls about a game (For the King) I’ve been interested in playing with them, and the other day, Hummingbird went on a social distancing date with Crystal, so I asked Kitty if she’d like to play with me since it’d be just the two of us and she agreed. However, she had a headache, so we thought it’d be best if she napped first and if she felt better later on then we could play. When she woke up, Lapis hit her up for some gaming and Kitty decided to game with her instead and forgot she agreed to game with me...

Jem (8:41 PM): Ah, that kinda thing really sticks with me

Royal (8:41 PM): And so I’m just getting to a point where I feel like I should just stop asking them if they wanna game with me, because it’s not the first time something like this has happened (at least they don’t follow through, not a matter of them deciding to do something with someone else)

Like, I made the Murder Beans server so Capybara and Kitty (and Hummingbird if she ever decided to get Among Us) could game with my friends in the CSR Creations server, and that was back in fall...the girls never joined a game even when showing express interest and saying they would

Kitty also once went and bought Lapis like the whole Halo Master Chief Collection for Lapis cuz she was broke and wanted it, and the proceeded to play it with her and Hummingbird...and like...I also would have liked to have played Halo with them if given the opportunity, but I was never asked

Sheezus, don’t even get me started in my family and how invisible they made me feel

But yeah, I’m at a point with the girls that I don’t think it’s even worth bothering to ask anymore, at least about gaming

Hummingbird’s confusion and migraines are also coming back, so she has a legit medical excuse and I can’t really bother her about it

Jem (8:48 PM): I get you, yeah

All of those things would really bother me too They have in the past

I remember when I first joined UCSD, I started hanging out often with the girls that lived around me in the dorms And we all started watching Orphan Black together

And then I literally had no idea when they finished the show because after the first couple sessions they forgot to invite me

Royal (8:51 PM): Oof, yeah, that’d bother me too, or at least tell me how they felt about me in my mind

I don’t think with my jealousy, it’s a matter of not trusting my partner or friends or whomever, it’s just a matter of feeling such low self-worth that I feel easy to discard, and when I get brushed to the side or have someone joking along the lines as how dating me wasn’t for the better when someone else is out there, it furthers those feelings I have about myself, those feelings of self-worth and how I’m replaceable or not worth shit

Jem (8:54 PM): I get you I know mine stems from feeling forgettable

Royal (8:54 PM): I know I’m an annoying person, I know I can be a lot and emotionally draining, I know I can be hypersensitive - so I know it feels like it’d be better to be rid of that sort of force if you can find someone better who doesn’t make you feel the way I’d do

(In response to feeling forgettable) Yeah

If you remove the fun hair, piercings, and tattoo, I’m actually quite a boring person

And I’m quite isolated. If you don’t include my partners, there’s only really two people who come to mind that I’d consider close friends that I can talk to: you and someone else (you’ve never met her)

I’m getting to a point where I have a hard time talking to the girls due to the guilt I feel about me more or less wanting to be platonic with them, and then Hummingbird is constantly having a medical crisis and I’d feel bad burdening her further

So really, I’m isolated down to two people, primarily you, + Capybara, and yeah, that’s my own fault

I feel easily exhausted by my other options at this point, where I feel like I can only take Candy in small doses (which feels really hypocritical of me) and my other VA friends or gaming friends, I don’t know if I’m close enough to have those kinds of conversations with, especially the VA friends since I tend to be their boss

For the most part, the other people I’d sometimes talk about these issues with are on servers that are primarily dead, so it feels awkward to hop back in only to bitch about my life

Besides, I hate seeming like I’m only spewing forth toxicity and negative emotions over and over again

Which I worry I do too much with you as is

#mood journal #mood #depression #jealousy #envy #guilt #shame #polyamory #nonmonogamy #non monogamy #monogamy #love

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clearcorona · 5 years

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tell my mama // dabi x fem!reader

First songfic! Hope this is good. You guys really are the sweetest! I also fully stand by the whole "Dabi is a Todoroki" theory, so that's going to be used in this as well. This is really long and I wasn't expecting it to be. I'm just going to post this now and then I'll add a second part if I ever feel inspired. I'm so sorry if it's bad!

On the first day of class

You walked into the room

Just a hot little thing, with a bad attitude

And I knew, I knew

I knew you were trouble baby

I was saved by the bell

Couldn't wait to get home and tell my mama

'Bout this boy I don't know

Yeah I knew, I knew

I knew it was complicated

•

You smiled as you spoke to your small friend group during homeroom.

"(Y/N), you should come to the mall with us this weekend!" your friend, Rika, said and you smiled.

"I'll have to see what I have planned. I don't think I'm doing anything, but my mom may make me run last minute errands," you said and Rika pouted.

"Come on, you can't ditch us again. We'll miss-" she was cut off when the teacher stepped into the room, everyone scrambling to sit in their seats.

"Alright, class. Open your books to page forty-six. We'll be starting from there," he said.

About halfway through the class, the door opened and in walked a redhead with bright blue eyes.

"Woah... He's pretty hot, right, (Y/N)?" Rika whispered as she leaned over in her seat. You rolled your eyes playfully in return, shaking your head.

"You must be Touya Todoroki. You're late," you heard your teacher say.

"I know," the redhead replied and decided to sit in the empty seat behind you. You could practically feel your teacher's frustration, but he brushed it off and went back to teaching.

Later that day, you felt a tap on your shoulder and turned around to face the one and only Touya Todoroki. The word had spread that he was the son of the legendary Endeavor, the number two pro hero after All Might. To be honest, you were jealous. You knew he had to have had a strong quirk.

"Wanna ditch with me later?" he asked with a smirk. You raised your eyebrow, knowing your mother would kill you if she found out you skipped school.

"I-" you started, but was interrupted by the sound of the bell signalling the start of the lunch break. "I have to go."

"Alright. Later, kitten."

"I'm back!" you called out as you stepped into your house.

"How was school, sweetheart?" your mom called out and you sighed, following the sound of her voice to the kitchen.

"It was... Interesting, to say the least."

"Interesting? How so?"

"We got a new transfer student. People say he's one of the pro hero Endeavor's kids."

"Seriously?"

"Yeah. I don't know much about him, he's kind of mysterious. He doesn't really talk to many people, either."

"Why don't you try becoming friends with him?"

"I mean... I could try. Not sure how well it'd work out. He seems like the type to use girls."

"If he is, you know how to defend yourself."

•

Boy I know you're dangerous

You're not the one I'm supposed to love

But this is more than just a crush, tonight

So I'm gonna tell my mama about ya

•

"Watch this," you said and used your quirk, manipulating the water to form a rising phoenix. He smirked and pulled you onto his lap, making you lose concentration and drop the water back into the lake. "Touya!"

"Shhhh... Just let me hold you for a little while, doll," he whispered as his arms wrapped around your waist as he nuzzled his face in the crook of your neck. You knew you shouldn't be falling for him. He nearly got arrested beating a guy to a pulp after he saw him making you uncomfortable.

There were plenty of other things that gave you reasons to stay away, but you couldn't. You were drawn to him like a magnet. Despite the things he had done, you felt safe in his arms, protected.

There was also the fact that he repeatedly skipped school and never told you where he was going, leaving you to be a worried mess.

Your mother definitely knew you were with someone and practically begged you to tell her what he was like. You managed to be as vague as possible without raising any flags, knowing if she truly knew what Touya was like, she wouldn't let you see him anymore.

A few days after the day you two spent at the lake, Touya Todoroki was pronounced missing, leaving you devastated.

•

Locked myself in my room

Called you up on the phone

Don't know why I hung up, soon as you said hello

When it's true, it's true

You got me trippin' baby

That night I couldn't sleep

Rolled around in my bed

'Cause the boy of dreams, is a nightmare instead

And it's true, it's true

That nobody tried to save me

•

Ever since the day Touya went missing, you were a mess. Nothing was ever the same for you. Everything was dull and boring. You were holed up in your room once again, bundled up under the covers.

It had been a whole year since he had been missing. Wasn't his family worried? Why hadn't his father tried to look for him?

You reached out and grabbed your phone, looking through your contacts. There it was, Touya's contact information staring right back at you. Knowing you had nothing left to lose, you decided to call the number.

You pressed the phone to your ear, knowing it probably wasn't going to be him. If he were alive, why wouldn't he try to contact you? The dial tone stopped as someone answered.

"Hello?" you heard a deep voice say. Your eyes widened and you panicked, pulling the phone away from your ear and hanging up. Your heart raced in your chest, having recognized the voice. Tears welled up in your eyes and you jumped as your phone rang. You hesitated before answering it.

"Who the hell gave you this number?" he hissed and you bit your lip. He had never sounded so menacing towards you.

"Touya," you whispered, swallowing the lump in your throat as tears rolled down your cheeks.

"(Y/N)? Dammit... Why did you have to call? Listen, doll, I'll call you later and explain everything," he said and sighed.

"No, you bastard. I deserve an explanation in person," you hissed and he hesitated.

"Look, kitten, I really don't think that's a good idea."

"Don't you dare call me that after you abandoned me! We're meeting by the lake at midnight. You know which one." You hung up the phone and covered your face with your hands. He was alive. He was okay. As much as your tried to focus on that, your relief only changed into fury. You couldn't wait to punch that smug smirk off of his face.

You were anxious as you got dressed to see Touya. Why hadn't he tried to talk to you for this past year? Had he found someone else? Your heart ached at the thought and you shook your head, taking a deep breath. You pulled on a warm jacket before climbing out of the window to sneak out of the house.

The weather was getting colder and although you were mad, you knew Touya radiated warmth and you always loved being by his side whenever it was cold out.

It was a short walk to the hidden lake you two had found a year ago, that was now frozen over. You noticed a tall figure standing there, barely wearing any clothes to protect himself from the cold.

"Touya?" you called out softly, holding yourself back. You wouldn't jump into his arms like this was a happy reunion. You were mad at him, you reminded yourself.

"I go by Dabi now," he said and turned around to face you. In the light of the moon, you saw who he had become. His hair was no longer the bright fiery red you had grown used to running your fingers through, instead it being as dark as the feathers on a raven. Parts of his body we're burned and held together by surgical staples. His bright blue eyes still burned in the moonlight.

"What happened to you?" you whispered and he kept his distance, not wanting to scare you by moving forward.

"It's a long story, kitten. I didn't want you to see me like this. It's disappointing, right?" he asked and you looked up at him. You wouldn't exactly say that. You had always thought he was handsome and he still was despite these massive changes.

"What's disappointing is the fact that you just vanished without telling me," you answered harshly and he sighed, rubbing the back of his neck. "Why the hell couldn't you tell me where you were going, Touya?"

"It's Dabi," he corrected and shook his head. "And I didn't want to get you involved."

"Get me involved? Well, it's too late now, so don't even think about getting rid of me."

"Still as stubborn as always. It was something I used to love about you, but now it's just a pain in the ass. I know you'll hate me once you figure out what I do." He sat down in the grass, that had frosted over. Despite the cold weather, no snow had fallen yet.

"And what makes you say that?"

"Weren't you even the least bit scared when we were dating before?"

"Not really. Why?"

"I'm a villian, (Y/N)."

"Oh. Uh, okay."

"Okay? That's all you have to say?"

"What do you mean? What else am I supposed to say? I'm not afraid of you. I could never be you were always so gentle with me." You made yourself comfortable on his lap and his arms almost immediately went around you. "I don't care if you've changed. I don't care if you're a villian."

"There's more you want to say, isn't there? What's on your mind, doll?"

"My mom kinda can't find out. About you being a villian and all. She'd probably think you were brainwashing me or something. She knows I was dating someone before, but I don't know. I can't just hide the fact that I have a boyfriend from her."

"(Y/N), I'm always careful not to be caught. There hasn't been anything on the news about me. Of course, other villains know, but not the general public." He was glad she didn't ask about his crimes, knowing you'd run off if he told you that he had actually killed people.

"Okay, good." You two sat in silence for a while, you leaning back against Dabi's chest as you looked up at the sky. "Hey, does this mean that we're dating again?"

"That depends. Do you want to date me again, doll?"

"Do you really have to ask?" You turned around in his lap so you were facing him, your (e/c) eyes staring up at into his blue ones that twinkled in the moonlight. You smiled to yourself.

God, how Dabi had missed that smile. In that moment, everything was perfect and he didn't want to change a thing.

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