#'squick' is even worse

[nowhere302]

I'm sorry I know this makes me one of the Annoying Youths but I fucking hate baby talk fandom speak. the word "whump" makes me want to puke

#'squick' is even worse #every time i see a post saying we should bring this vernacular back i'm like dear fucking god no #i was online for the tail end of that and it was just as embarrassing to me then #🎤 mic check

[toytulini]

would be cool this yr to do like first aid training maybe?

#toy txt post #hope i can. get an opportunity to do that. not sure when. the horrors and inability to commit to things u see #but i think i should do that #at some point. altho i feel like i will almost certainly have to do CPR training? and like. like it seems like useful knowledge. and like. #i should know it and maybe im the worst person in existence for this but im a bit of a germaphobe and scared of covid and im not taking my #mask off so like. feels like. that is pretty mutually exclusive with CPR unless thereve been advancements im not aware of? #like would i be able to carry around some sort of billows but for human lungs to do that instead of my mouth? idk. this has in fact been #a legitimate hurdle to me wanting to pursue first aid training. sorry. genuinely dont know how to reconcile that and maybe! in a crisis #situation id overcome it to save a person. genuinely do not know. sorry im like a selfish horrible bitch tho and i cant see myself #doing CPR and am icked by the idea of even learning it. i know now they make those things to put on someones mouth but its still like. #that doesnt do anything against respiratory shit...idk. like is it worse to not pursue any of this at all to avoid the ethical quandry of #not wanting to deal with CPR even as a concept bc im a stupid baby squicked out by lip touching? or is it worse to do first aid and learn #like everything except CPR so i could still theoretically help in some cases that arent necessarily CPR. idk. im sure im just a Bad Person #for this and hate to even admit it. i think i should at least try to find a stop the bleed course or smth ig

[jacqcrisis]

Hi hi

Something you hate to see in smut. Something you love to see in smut?

Hate: untagged kinks that I'm not into. Nothing ruins a fic faster than when the characters are getting into it and someone starts sucking toes or piss happens or one of them calls the other 'daddy' for no fucking reason and it pops up like jumpscare in the middle of the scene. If you are putting daddy anywhere in that fic for any reason other than someone addressing their paternal figure with said word or as a joke, then I need a heads up in the tags so I can make an informed decision by clinking that link please and thank you.

Love: when the author is unashamed and having fun and into it. When they turn that smut scene into poetry where the actions described are both literal and metaphorical. It can be the littlest details that just make a smut fic scrumptious that are hard to describe but wowzers do they stick with me.

#jacq answers #idk what was going on #but at one point daddy was getting dropped like the hot new kink #and i was left aghast and confused cause i DID NOT get that memo #its not even a squick for me like i will get down bad for a pairing #and cross myself before reading a fic with the kink in it and i just kinda gloss over the parts im not into #but jeezy creezy i would like to know its coming #the piss or feet jumpscare is notably worse but the daddy thing used to happen all. The. TIME.

[fandom-hoarder]

"Dubcon! because there's alcohol involved but i do my best to make it clear everyone is on board" stahhhhhp you're ruining iiitttt😭

#reader problems #im v picky rn #it was very explicitly consented actually 😭😭😭😭😭😭 #you're killin me smalls #they even talked about how much they had to drink #yes i could've backed out this was my choice i just HAD to see for myself😔 #it could've been worse but it WAS worse than expected as far as too-much-consent squick goes lmfao

[sprouting-nonsense]

why is houseplant reddit so insane about bugs. just let them do their thing dude...

#theyre like. every time you bring plants inside for the winter apply these 3000 pesticides #like brother just. dont do any pesticides. bugs are a natural part of plant ownership. #your pests will balance themselves. you are providing food for a tiny micro ecosystem. #legit the MOST i do is water + hydrogen peroxide for compressed soils and if fungus gnats get bad #but i only did that last year and nothing yet this year #and ive had a few spiders chilling up in corners or in the plants themselves #ive had a ladybug who ive seen twice a month apart so she's got something to hunt! #but yet ive only had to squish a mealybug or two #i get that like a lot of people are squicked or even triggered by bugs but. pesticides will make it worse than if you just leave it be. #you just gotta start personifying them. they're little guys! they do in fact have unique quirks and habits! #like man brother. centipedes do actually squick ME out but i still let them be when i transfered a monstera some months back

[justalittlebluetiefling]

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#i think the stranger things fandom is the worst i've seen in regards to keeping shit out of tags that doesn't belong there #like #i will just rely on my dash to give me the content i want #because they're too busy arguing about ships #i mean this is worse than the 100 fandom was with that shit #i get being invested in your ship and also being squicked by a ship #but this is like a whole new level of being shitty to each other #if i was even considering participating in st fandom stuff #well i'm not because this is enough to turn me off to it

[comatose--overdose]

Wait. Wait wait wait wait wait. Nightwing exists in the Arkhamverse. So why the FUCK is Barbara with TIM?!

#I'm not even a dickbabs shipper but ITS BETTER THAN T*MBABS #what the fuck?!?! #playing Arkham knight #yes i know i'm late #i don't really ship Babs with any of the batboys because she's more like Bruce's neice or little sister to me #but I can tolerate her being with Dick #the others it just squicks me out #and I thought J*ybabs was my notp #T*mbabs is WORSE

[spock-smokes-weed]

Crazy how two characters can have a 15 year age gap, met when one of them was 9, one saying that the other character is like a father to him, and the other’s last words to him were “you were my brother”

But YET it’s still the second most popular ship if we’re going by AO3 metrics. Y’all are sickos. 

#hate tag #anakin in every scene in attack of the clones: obi-wan is like a father to me a brother he raised me #freaks: this is romantic right???? #i hate when ppl ship mentor/mentee relationship it’s squicks me out on every level #it’s even worse when the mentor LITERALLY RAISED THEM FROM CHILDHOOD #I would be weirded out if a 38 yo wanted to date a 22 yo #but I’d be even more freaked out if he’d been his legal guardian since he was NINE #I hate everyone one of you go into the shame corner so I can execute you by firing squad

[radioactivelight]

literally about to fall asleep when I’m struck with the most intense itching at my one burn scar in years! why!

#it’s not even the same spot that usually gets me #it’s the way worse one #because it’s on a seam of where my skin graft was done #and that squicks me out on top of being painful

[we-re-always-alright]

Burnt my dominant hand making a cherry clafoutis when I went to put the pre-heated pan back into the oven. Went to pull the pan out with my non-dominant hand and burnt my dominant hand (again) trying to stabilize the pan. The good news is that it looks tremendous

#don’t worry #they’re like 1st/2nd degree burns #barely even blistering #I could show the burns they’re small but not sure if folks get squicked by burns #and I took one of those ultra ibuprofen from my auntie sherry’s knee surgery and WHOO #feeling fine now #and I got my piercing resized to a smaller stud #honestly could be worse #thoughts? thoughts

[unladielike]

( i honestly can’t help but laugh whenever i discover an anti has me hardblocked... and these antis spread misinformation about pr/o-shippers too, that it’s just like trash taking itself out.

but honestly, you don’t necessarily have to have problematic ships in order to be a pr/o-shipper - you just have to not condone harassment over ships. and yeah, while i won’t deny most pr/o-shippers in the rpc tend to ship inc/est or minor/adult ships, the fact antis have to resort to spreading misinformation to make them self seem morally superior is so damn hilarious to me.

honestly, i wouldn’t be surprised if people would assume i’m a pr/o-shipper too despite the fact i actually agree with them in/cest and minor/adult ships are gross - i just do not appreciate seeing people witch hunt others or hurl death threats at people consensually writing things they don’t like, regardless of how i might feel about the topics they are writing about, because at the end of the day, real people matter more than fictional lines on paper.

seriously, it costs $0 to just block/unfollow/blacklist and mind your own business. plus, all this moral outrage people have towards supposed ‘p/edophilia’ is performative af. like, if you care about csa victims so much, then why are you exerting so much of your energy on being mad at fictional characters being abused when you could help out actual victims of csa/grooming in real life??

i dunno, man... i just feel like these people need to touch grass or something, because they do more slacktivism than actual writing. i mean, maybe it’s just me, but i personally do not get how you could not be tired, calling out people for shipping crimes or being angry all the time, when all i wanna do when i come back home from work is scream about characters and maybe write self-indulgent shit.

...TO THAT END, I DO NOT HAVE THE SPOONS TO CARE ABOUT WHAT GROSS SHIT OTHER PEOPLE ARE DOING, because it doesn’t concern me. honestly, i wouldn’t say i ‘support’ it, but it’s more like i acknowledge that people are always gonna write weird shit regardless, so i’ll simply ignore it and move on, because for me, it’s not healthy or productive to my mental health, focusing on things i hate. )

#shipping discourse tw #⸾ ❖︎ ⸾ ( OUT OF ) ⤹ •• 𝕗𝕒𝕟𝕗𝕚𝕔𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟. #[ ngl i can't believe 'don't harass other over ships' is still a controversial take in 2022 ] #[ the worst part is... this wouldn't even be the first time people wrongly assumed i shipped problematic stuff ] #[ but you know a person's vibes are rancid when they feel like it's their duty to call out shit to make the rpc 'a better place' ] #[ when really... they're only making things WORSE ] #[ and listen i get being squicked out by things in fiction ] #[ but there's a point when it gets to be too much ] #[ if you're telling another human being behind the screen to k/ill themselves ] #[ like... you're not being edgy anymore YOU'RE JUST BEING AN ASSHOLE ] #[ and i don't know about you but i would personally not want to be responsible for another person's death ] #[ or their mental health deteriorating even though i might personally hate their guts ] #[ because guess what... it's called being an actual human being?? ] #-[ and when you resort to throwing a temper tantrum on the dash... you just look foolish ] #[ ESPECIALLY if it's not instances of ooc racism or transphobia you're angry about but fictional things ] #[ and if by pointing this out makes people will unfollow/block me I DO NOT CARE ] #[ cause i don't want to be mutuals with people who would justify sending others death threats or threatening others with violence ] #[ over shipping crimes anyways ] #[ Y'ALL ARE UGLY AND I DON'T WANT YOU IN MY SPACE ] #[ anyways tldr?? pro-ship is not synonymous with 'problematic shipping' and if you describe it as such you're being disingenuous FULL STOP ]

[munch-mumbles]

its been over five years since i blacked out and landed flat on my face and busted my teeth and theyre STILL FUCKED UP!!!!!!!! like the chipped ones got fixed but one of my front ones got completely knocked out of place and never healed right and TO THIS DAY it still gets sore easily if i bite directly on things with it too much THIS FUCKING SUCKS ASS

#FEELING BITTER. why did my spanish teacher think it was a good idea to show her students matadors being gored and horribly injured by bulls #like that fucked me up in so many ways. most tangibly my bad tooth. #but i think that also switched some levers in my head and gave me my current problems with certain brands of gore #its better now with time but i still get squicked out by the smallest most particular things while other types of arguably worse gore are #fine #thanks mrs whatever for freaking me out so bad i passed out and caught myself against the floor with my front teeth #IM SO MAD RIGHT NOW #her deciding to use shock value to convince us bullfighting is bad is going to affect me for the rest of my life #i still vividly remember a pic of a guy who was being dragged around by a horn stabbed up through the soft part of his jaw #were you Trying to like. traumatize us cause i dont know i think it worked #ive had problems passing out when i think too hard about certain types of injury ever since #ive gotten better with time but also not really bc it almost happened again like a month ago #at work #whatever. rolls over WHATEVER i dont even care (cares)

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for having a fart sound app on my phone?

🦄💨🌈 (almost compulsory emoji code)

So this thing happened about a year or so ago.

I went to the bathroom at work only to find one of the stalls blocked by another lady talking on the phone.

Which is kind of a pet peeve and a squick for me.

Like, idk. Having someone listening over someone else's) phone feels uncommon to me. But I'm not going to police people on that kind of level. That would be even worse.

However, it just so happened that while I was sitting on the throne, I let one rip. And I mean, RIP. Almost comically long and thanks to the bowl it was extra loud.

The lady on the phone immediately complained like "eeewww, gross 🤢 rude"

It was entirely unplanned but I thought the result was hilarious. I mean, if it grossed her out to hear ppl doing their business next to her while she's on the phone, then maybe she shouldn't go to the bathroom to talk in the first place?

(also I get a certain amount of shyness with regards to being perceived in the bathroom. I have it, too. It's actually part of my "problem")

This situation isn't my question and tbh if you vote me the AH for this scene, I'm not going to take you serious.

The question comes now:

I've come into a similar situation a few days ago but with no sound coming from my rear end.

And so I thought to myself "well, there's probably an app for that, maybe I should get one"

So here is my question: do you think I would be the AH for using the app for this specific purpose? I have it already but as of writing this ask I haven't been in any situation to use it, though it's not exactly uncommon for people to hide in the bathroom for a chat on the phone.

And I know it's kind of immature. That is also not my question.

So Tumblr, without further ado, please tell me: am I the (justified) AH for having an app ready to remind people what the bathroom at work is actually meant for?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[olderthannetfic]

Have been having such a time lately trying to commit to this fic im writing because it's. Incredibly cathartic and is the start of me finally starting to explore the concepts im ashamed of being fascinated by.

Mpreg jokes have become so ubiquitous that it feels like people just roll their eyes or look at me like im a weirdo for trying to take the idea seriously? not just as a physical reality for the m getting pregged in question, but also as an Emotional reality for the character. Pregnancy and pregnant characters are still treated So fucking weirdly in General, and. i understand people having a trigger related to it, thats not what im talking about ofc, but at the same time its like. Its Pregnancy. Its how Life happens. And men irl Can and DO get pregnant. Even men that dont "look like" they would enjoy it. It's always "dont pigeon hole effeminate men as bottoms/omegas/subs!!" Until someone comes out and actually wants to see and read about The Most Stereotypical Guy to ever Dude experiencing 1.) what it means to be a vessel for life, and 2.) How that changes the way people will treat him.

Bc! as soon as i bring it up, no matter how tactfully and Chaste i try to be about it, the atmosphere in the conversation always Shifts, and there's this feeling that everyone just wants me to shut up and stop being a pervert because the mere premise makes them uncomfortable. Like im sorry thinking about men in fiction undergoing women's lived reality gives me a way to articulated an understanding of what it means to be capable of having a child (all the good, bad, and ugly parts of it) that is still not otherwise allowed in Polite Discussion irl, even in the closest of relationships??

Ill keep writing it for sure but like. The shame is rearing its head and im trying to fight it my getting Mad at the pervasive (and probably just perceived) puritanical judgements dished out my the rest of the world, instead.

Why is the idea of pregnancy never taken seriously. Why is it always shoved in a corner to be ignored till it Happens and its Forced into relevance. And then why is it treated as pointless or worse just straight up Bad if it isn't "done right"/arousingly/humorously while being relevant, either on the character's part Or the author's?

It's getting better more and more with time but im just. Wracking my brain about it today. I cant stop thinking about it, its all i want to talk about, but even In my nicest and most opem circles i can feel people pulling away, and all i can think is its because im doing it to the Wrong character (major macho man villian with a Lot of daddydom themed xreaders...) or something. and its so hard not to let myself get discouraged 👽

--

A lot of my fandom circles act like that, and it's because all pregnancy is somewhere between a massive squick and massively boring to them.

I find pregnancy more interesting now that I've experienced it, but I was definitely like "Why would anyone ever talk to me about this?" before, and it wasn't about picking the wrong character.

Some things are just unpopular with some audiences. Try not to get too discouraged.

[bonefall]

Do you have any plans for BB!Nightcloud's relationships beyond Crowfeather? Her divorcing him and marrying Leafpool isn't... feasible, unfortunately, but it would be the funniest possible thing she could do. Are there any WindClan cats she could wife/husband/spouse up while giving Crow the well-deserved finger?

I want her to have some friends, but the cornerstone of her character is that unfortunately she is quite lonely.

She doesn't want to be like Hillrunner. Hillrunner taught her about fear, she taught her to always have a backup plan, she taught her to watch her tone, her actions, the amount of space she was occupying at any moment. She taught her not to trust.

She doesn't want to be like Hillrunner. She lost a mother she doesn't remember to Crookedstar and Nightstar. She lost her Mi to TigerClan. She lost her sister to BloodClan. She lost her rebellion leader to StarClan's fury.

She doesn't want to be like Hillrunner. How do you not be like Hillrunner? What does it look like to be unlike her?

Keeping friends is difficult. It feels like everyone is just tolerating her. Nightcloud doesn't know the right things to say, or if they even like her or if they're just pretending. Crowfeather makes this worse; try to be genuine with him and he'll turn that against you. Argue too much and he'll accuse her of not listening. You can't play fair with unfair people.

Breezekit makes sense. This is the first time anything has felt easy since Tawnyfur died.

So I don't know if romance is really in the cards for her. She would like it, wants it, but Crowfeather has soured it badly. What she really needs is some friends.

I have a few interesting ones in mind;

Whitewater of ShadowClan: she is the secret parent of Harespring and Kestrelflight with Mudclaw, I think it's interesting if her and Night were close-ish as rebels, but now, looking at each other... brings up complicated feelings. Maybe Nightcloud can request to mentor Harepaw.

Addersong: A kit that Tallstar saved while he was a warrior, grew up into a happy and joyful adult. He was Nightcloud's mentor, but joins the Elder's den sometime after arriving at the Lake. I feel like he should always be someone Night can turn to.

Willowclaw: Background warrior who's getting a boost because WindClan needs more going on. Fellow fantastic warrior who likes to spar with her. Maybe when Nightcloud is out of the relationship with Crowfeather she starts actively trying to hang out with Willow, who's kind of secretive.

(Note: Leafpool x Nightcloud is one of my very harmless squicks. I mean no judgement to others, I know it's popular with other Nightcloud fans, but I strongly dislike it so it's never going to be considered in any way for BB.)

#better bones au #BB!Nightcloud

[the-heartlines]

i am really pissed off today and want to take a moment to rant about holier than thou antis and their fucking dumbassery.

on twitter, i received a ton of harassment (about my age mostly lol cuz you know once you turn 30 you're immediately considered elderly and need to join a nursing home 💀💀💀) and some anonymous death threats on my curious cat in the last WEEK—all over shipping ghoulcy, including one rpf walt/ella twt, & for writing ghoulcy dead dove & daddaughter incest fics. not blacking out names because fuck that shit. you reap what you sow.

there's a ton of negative qrts on those twts and thankfully my fellow shippers and moots have been extra supportive, but i am so sick and tired of the antis and their ability to not separate fact from fiction.

i am fucking sick and tired of the same antis shipping things like jackieshauna (which i ship immensely by the way!) and other ships (villanelle x eve and hannigram come to mind) and having this mentality that if you ship other toxic fucked up ships in a dead dove way, you're a "*insert buzzword here* (including pedo, rape apologist, pornsick addicted freak) who needs to be locked up. also kys!"' these assholes care more about the fictional fake made up characters than an actual human being this vitriol is being thrown at and im so disgusted and disappointed with each passing year, seeing this conservative, puritanical form of mentality take shape and get worse and worse...and i don't know what the fuck to do about it and am scared for the future generations who are dealing with this absolute disgraceful nonsense because no one and i mean NO ONE should be telling anyone to kill themselves over any damn fictional ship!

anyways, i had to rant about this because it's been BUGGING me because i have gotten a lot of vitriol from hotd stans for other ships i like and see potential in. and it's so awful that any kind of shipper deals with this at all. and we need to call these fuckers out and un-normalize this behavior before it gets even worse for the future generations. and it's crazy and baffling that this needs to be said but here i go anyways:

writing or creating or consuming any kind of dead dove content, doesn't mean you condone it in real life. it doesn't make you a rape apologist, a pedophile, or a porn sick addicted freak. people have been doing this shit since the beginning of time and if this shit squick you out, makes you uncomfortable, you need to block/mute/dni/ignore with this kinda content, keep your mouth shut, or gtfo. because it never gives you the right to treat an actual human being lower than dirt and wish death upon them.

#rant #ghoulcy #fallout fandom #fandom #antis #personal