#'how to HURT a narcissist'

[kaleidoscopic-quiddity]

once i stop being mad over the inherent ableism and demonization of cluster b traits, those ‘how to destroy a narcissist’ posts/tiktoks/articles always crack me tf up because idk about any other ppl with npd but whenever someone attempts to drag down my self esteem my instinctual response is to internally double down on my sense of superiority

#'how to HURT a narcissist' #<- /actualy just reinforces my egomania/ #narcissistic personality disorder #npd hours #og post // #fine to rb #like obviously i do listen to and accept genuine critism #i esp try to make an effort if ppl tell me im rude/innapropriate/upsetting/etc bc perhaps surprisingly i dont actually want to be an asshole #but like when ppl just try to tear me down bc they dont like that im overconfident/dont give a shit about their opinions #all it actually does is just feed into my grandosity #like. whoops ig?? #'youre so full of yourself. youre not better than me. who do you think you are?' #well i think im someone whos not a little bitch in the very least lmao

[crabussy]

I LOVE AND APPRECIATE MY FRIENDS WITH NPD 👊👊👊👊👊👊💥💥💥 OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#npd #narcassistic personality disorder #one of my best friends has npd and he gets SO MUCH SHIT CONSTANTLY #I can’t imagine how exhausting it must be #yeah. it’s one of the coolest guys I know and I hate how much misinformation narcissism is subject to #I'd recommend researching the disorder and asking your npd loved ones how you can help them manage their disorder!! #god warning it is so hard to find information on npd that isn’t ‘my EVIL narcissist friend and how I isolated and hurt them #as punishment for their disorder!!’ #Id suggest asking people who have npd about their experiences #seriously. god I believed the stigma before I got a friend with npd and it’s so so wrong #yeah. unfollow me right fucking now if you believe that narcassists are inherently abusive and evil and unable to have good relationships #STOP DEMONISING DISORDERS

[grinchwrapsupreme]

OUGH thinking about Phillip Morgan's hands as a defining feature of his character.... Phillip tightening the rope that kills Kenneth with his hands... Brandon gently pulling the gloves off of Phillip's hands... Phillip playing the piano with his hands... Phillip opening the champagne bottle for Brandon with his hands... Phillip breaking the glass with his hands... Phillip cutting getting cut on the stem and spreading blood on his hands... Phillip getting his fortune read by his hands... Phillip grabbing and aiming the gun with his hands... "these hands will bring you great fame"

#rope 1948 #phillip morgan #sometimes rope just hits you #was thinking again about how phillip always does the actual physical work when it comes to him and brandon #and how brandon pulling the gloves off for him was a momentary reversal #too early in the movie to realize what a reversal it actually was #actually i would kill for a gifset of all the times brandon deferred to phillip because it wasn't many but it was so so real #like when phillip tells him to turn the light off and he does #or any time brandon looks cowed by phillip #because the fact that brandon actually truly cared about phillip was so strange and so touching #his whole act dropping for a second every time he was worried about or offended by phillip #like babe you are a narcissistic murderer who LOVES to be uppity and superior #and yet you drop every pretense when you see phillip is hurt #remember when brandon told phillip to stop drinking and phillip snapped at him #and brandon actually backed down instantly? #i do #and i think about it constantly #their dynamic was sooooooo so interesting #...maybe I need to watch rope again

[chronicallynarcissistic]

How to hurt a narcissist!

praise them and give them tons of money !!!

#actually npd #npd #cluster b #actually narcissistic #how to make a narcissist crash #how to hurt a narcissist #narc abuse #empath

[foolishnpd]

if I'm told to stop doing something for any reason I will respect it because I am a very niceys person but also I will be seething and pissed for the next hour about it because like, don't tell me what to do??? I should have free reign to do what I want ugh

#lilyroaring #npd safe #actually narcissistic #but I listen because I'm so so nice #I am so respectful omg does everyone see how nice I am #I may internally break down and have many homicidal urges upon being told no #but it's fine I can respect that <333333333 #the pain of logic and emotions clashing is so bad #like wow I know I suck #but I continue to feel. bad. #like a stupid #a dummy #a silly even #well it's what you do that matters ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #I can scream cry internally about everything whenever I want #and it hurts nobody but myself

[pageofheartdj]

Some ableist: *uses npd terms to spread stigma and hate about the disorder*

PwNPD: Hey this harms the community that is already constantly attacked.

Some ableist: OMG SHUT THE FUCK UP NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOUR SELFISH ASS YOUR EYES LITERALLY TURN BLACK BECAUSE YOU LOVE HURTING PEOPLE!!!

#words mean shit #yaknow if there is a pd that is called narcissistic personality disorder #and the word narcissism #people WILL connect the two #and they WILL direct their hatred towards people with npd that has nothing to do with anything #how come every other mentally ill person is allowed to be offended over bad words #but if pwnpd is offended than of COURSE its because they are Selfish and Evil #go on use r-word see how it has nothing to do with anyone and doesnt hurt anyone! #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #'just change the name of pd' #Just stop using the word!! #you have PLENTY of synonims #also #psychopathy was renamed into aspd #yet psychopath is still used as an insult #which still connects to pwaspd #wonder why ableists don't stop attacking mentally ill people with offensive words just because their disorder was renamed

[makkie-is-screaming]

fighting with my brother because he’s using retard as an insult n I just can’t stand that

#I had a teachers who’s daughter was mentally retarded n he heard a student use it as an insult in was almost in tears #explaining how much it hurts people and what mental retardation actually is etc etc #n ever since I just get pissed if when people use it as an insult #Same way after interacting w so many people w npd on here I get pissed when people say “narcissistic abuse” or use narcissistic as an insul #It not an insult n I will punch ur teeth in #Screaming

[whumpshaped]

cant stop thinking abt that reply to bram's post abt the abusive cluster b parents so just know if u were abused like that, first of all, samesies and it gave me cluster b pds as a result, second of all, i promise no one whos calling for understanding of cluster b ppl is invalidating ur experiences. if u feel like they ARE, i sincerely hope u realise u dont have to have a medical explanation for why others suck. if ur parents sucked, u can just say that, and its freeing, and focusing on behavioural patterns instead of diagnoses (which u most likely dont have access to when it comes to strangers) will allow u to weed out actual bad ppl and keep urself safe(er)

#i understand its easy and comfortable to latch onto labels especially when it comes to parents #i did it #then i was diagnosed w the same shit #that was my turning point i think #when i realised we have the same shit and yet i am actively working very hard to be kind and compassionate #i dont go out of my way to be mean #at some point u have to realise that some ppl r just evil and mean spirited #and pds arent indicative of how self aware or kind or polite or compassionate someone is #i'd argue most of us put in SO much work to know ourselves and our potentially harmful behavioural patterns #way more than a neurotypical who never bothered to look inward for even a second #'these stereotypes dont come from nothing' #no shit! my dad called me both borderline and narcissist as insults AND I TURNED OUT TO HAVE BOTH #but let me tell u smth #most of my symptoms? are fucking survival mechanisms i learned as a child to avoid getting hurt. because thats what the brain does. #u know what else didnt come from thin air? sayings like hurt people hurt people #plus my victim complex allows me to write banger complaint letters now so theres that #look around u and be very comfortable w the fact that ur probably surrounded by a bunch of cluster b ppl that u adore #bc we're just ppl too #and ur doing urself a disservice trying to spot us #cluster b ppl can be evil ppl just as neurotypicals but they can also be ur friend who struggles w insecurities and is a huge ppl pleaser #bc they read the ableist posts too and they know everyone in the mainstream world thinks theyre evil #and when if u told them 'well my cluster b parents were abusive' in a less accusatory tone #maybe theyd look u in the eye w compassion and say 'yea i know how that feels and im here for u'

[craycraybluejay]

Me if I ever get a really bad psychotic episode and think my friend is a hulking scary monster so hit them with a chair: whoops, had a psychotic aggression moment after being psychotic this past month. Might want to find a better way to keep myself and other ppl safe in case it happens again

Some people: no!111!!1!! That's just regular aggression!!!1!1 stop talking bad about psychotics!!1!!!!! It was ur fully lucid and self aware choice to hit ur friend with a chair!!1!!!! Literally there's no such thing as psychotic aggression1!!!!1! Kys op!!

#narcissistic abuse #discourse #mental illness #actually psychotic #actually schizospec #literally yes mental disorders can drive u to do bad or stupid things. why do you think people seek help for them. #because theyre sad sometimes? #even low grade depression or anxiety can make you suicidal. and being suicidal can make you careless and stupid bc u stop caring ab shit #so like. maybe stop pretending mental disorders cant drive u to harm ppl and start addressing how to stay safe #and make sure others r safe around u #me if i say i got mad jealous bc of adhd related rsd and was mean about it bc adhd related impulsivity #people: OH NO UR SAYING THAT ADHD MAKES PPL ASSHOLES GO DIE RN #literally. go away. mental illness is an illness and not a quirk. bad shit happens. people do bad shit to themselves and others driven by #disordered behaviour and thought patterns #and you know what helps prevent this? talking about it honestly and spreading awareness so we can all get the kind of help and coping skills #that we need. so those who need meds or therapy can. so ppl can realize #'hey i felt super offended over this thing someone did that wasnt about me and hurt them! thats a pattern for me!' #'maybe i should talk about it with a therapist that specializes in stuff like that or try to use calming coping methods- #to calm myself down when i get really angry and see if it's worth hurting someone over!' #please take a moment to reflect #who are you helping by denying the disordered nature of mental illness

[strawberrybabydog]

narcissists: i deserve good things. i am a person

every "diagnosed" narcissist on tiktok: yeah im actually diagnosed and all of us are terrible people. i'd know im diagnosed btw. yeah im actually extremely abusive just like everyone else with what im diagnosed with which is narcissism aka narcissistic personality disorder which im diagnosed with thats how i know we're all evil because of my diagnosis

#mental health professionals #every tiktok user delete the app challenge level impossible ! #words cannot begin to express how sick and tired i am of on tiktok talk about narcissistic abuse #as if its even real which it obviously isnt like hello #imagine if ppl started saying borderline abuse that doesnt even make sense #like just say emotional trauma just say emotional abuse theres 0 reason to pathologize it this way #just hurts real narcissists #not dog #mild feelings #narcissistic abuse mention #<for actual narcissists who dont want to see sanism #on sanism #sanism

[clownaura]

i know that narcissistic behavior is bad and that narcissistic people can be bad people, and i know that people can have narcissistic tendencies and not have narcissistic personality disorder, but wow there’s been a lot of people calling narcissists straight up evil? and it feels weird to me

like my mom has narcissistic tendencies, but she is in no way evil..even if she’s aware of what she’s doing. i feel this way even after she’s manipulated me and hijacked my plans in the past (and processed it all)

maybe it’s a misunderstanding of mental illness? either way it just rubs me the wrong way how so many people are so quick to label people evil without understanding…

#again…i’m very aware that narc behavior hurts people and can be harmful #i’m just a bit confused i guess #i also think people will see someone being selfish and immediately label them narcissistic #idt that’s how that works #maybe i’m wrong though idk #personal

[foolishnpd]

i have been CONSISTENTLY posting on my art blog for YEARS and i'm not even a quarter as popular as some other artists' untagged first posts

at what fucking point does my effort make me worthwhile, what on earth am i doing wrong, don't I deserve more attention by now-?

"oh just post consistently and you'll eventually build an audience who loves you" how about you kill yourself <3 because clearly nobody likes my stupid art, they'd rather give their attention to those undeserving ungrateful artists instead

#lilyroaring #actually npd #actually narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b vent #vent post #art community #literally doesn't matter what platform i use #even if i suck up to the algorithms and post only my best #i get NOTHING #I'll always fucking despise other artists #uwu sorry if i'm not being a good sport about it #popularity isn't everything <3 #how about I just get what I'm owed by now instead -_- #I dump my efforts into the void and get nothing back #it's so easy for someone in that position to say it doesn't matter and you shouldn't want ti #but it really feels like my talents and effort just go unappreciated. not just in art. but in everything I do really #and after years and years of that. it fucking HURTS #thinking back. my first time considering suicide was because my art wasn't good enough #those people don't appreciate their privilege with thousands fawning over everything they make #while I pour my heart and soul into it only to want to off myself when I get nothing back over and over and over and over and over and

[luckquartzed]

What type of Love are you according to the Ancient Greeks?

Agape [ love for everyone ]

This simply means ' love ' in Ancient Greek . However , according to Christian theology , this is the highest shape of love to possess . Agape is the most selfless form of the eight , offering sympathy & unconditional support to those around you . If I had to guess , you are a virtuous person who puts others before yourself .

tagged by : @gemkun

tagging : @prodigls @barxlupin @raytm @starspurn @vulpesly @spadilled @theladymuses

#{ DASH GAMES } NEVER TURN DOWN A CHALLENGE #I actually disagreed with this in the beginning & even when I changed my answers to the second most Aven-like I still got this result #but the more I think about it the more it fits #Sunday himself says that Aventurine is a generous person & even though he has his own motives behind the scenes it seems like it? #he gives his room to the TB he tries to throw money at anyone & everyone wants in an attempt to be their friend #he could be flirting when he calls Ratio or Sunday attractive but he could also just be the sort to give compliments freely #& based on how kind he was to Kakavasha before realizing who he was ? he also likes / is kind to children #I don’t really believe the idea that you HAVE to love yourself in order to be able to love other people #‘oh but he nearly dropped a coin massacre on Penacony’ he knew Acheron would stop him #I don’t think he ever intended to HURT anybody except himself #I also think about how he called his abuser ‘insane’ for wanting to pit him against the other slaves #& how he seems to view himself as a monster / still feel guilty for what he had to do to survive based on his thoughts while hallucinating #he only wanted to die if it meant he could be reunited with his family #he risked his own life as a child to get back a necklace that was important to his sister #fuck. he really is agape isn’t he? lmaoooo #well now I’m sad #the narcissistic egomaniac gambler is all just a mask

[alostlittleriverlotus]

minor mention of rape/rapists/sa mention, ableism as well

Literally STOP COMPARING NPD AND NARCISSISTS TO RAPISTS

Like I've not seen it much, but THATS MORE THAN ENOUGH

Rape is a fucking traumatizing act!!! A personality disorder/person with personality disorder is NOTHING LIKE THAT!!!!! The fact narc abuse people make this comparison is so dangerous and harmful!!!

Sincerely

A fucking victim/survivor of csa AND a narcissist.

#actually narcissistic #surviving narcissism #narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #npd #npd safe #ableism #cw ableism #tw sa mention #Y'all are literally so effing gross for comparing npd and “narcissistic abusers” to rapists and murderers #You are actually so disgusting if you do that and it's so dangerous and wrong #How fucking dare you #Yes I'm in an emotional state I hate fucking seeing this shit #Don't you ever fucking compare a personality disorder to murder and rape #Ableists stfu #fuck ableism #Also saying that we need to be picked up in a mental institute to prevent us hurting others #Actually stfu #Yes I'm upset it's disgusting to compare a rapist and murderer to a literal trauma victim with a personality disorder #It doesn't matter if your abuser did or didn't have npd #Fixating on the narcissism/npd will do nothing to actually help #It doesn't matter what disorders an abuser has at all #fuck anyone who believes this bs

[daz4i]

repeating the mantra of "it's okay to be selfish as long as you don't hurt anyone it's okay that you're having selfish thoughts as long as you don't start fights or take away from other people it's okay thought crime isn't real and you try so hard to not hurt anyone and keeping it as thoughts only you're doing okay it's okay to be selfish as long as you don't behave selfishly" to keep going these days fr

#i wish i wasn't such a narcissist i wish i didn't really kiss the mirror when i'm on my own oh god i'm gonna die alone. etc #i think i'm doing okay i think i at least minimize the amount of hurt i may inflict on others. esp compared to how i used to be #still can't help but feel guilty tho. why can't i have the right emotions for situations. i hate it here (my brain)

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

[cw: anti-NPD ableism, fictional child death, gore.]

you know. i can't believe it didn't quite click for me until now, but i knew there was a piece of the ableism puzzle missing with ivan, and i just realized that along with the audhd/dyslexia stuff he is a really violently hateful depiction of NPD.

pwNPD are all evil, stupid abusers who will only ever accomplish anything by riding others' coattails; anyone who believes they have worth or deserve love only thinks that because they're fooling themselves and denying reality, at the expense of the reasonable people who actually deserve the love and approval they're hogging; it's funny, satisfying, and their just deserts to take them down a peg by intentionally insulting and humiliating them; and you should cheer for their gruesome, frankly dehumanizing deaths. very awesome and cool

#lorien legacies #ivanick shu-ra #LL crit tag #benafflecksmoking.png #the ride never ends #ableism cw #abuse cw #proceeds to write up a Long Tag Rant about this to go in a reblog lmao #but yeah i'm just like. there's a Lot to unpack here but jesus i hate 'how to hurt a narcissist' bullshit so much #people will claim pwNPD are evil abusive monsters #and then eagerly look forward to the opportunity to engage in tailored; calculated emotional sadism toward them #like they're waiting for christmas morning #even the most harmless possible depictions of People Who Think a Little Too Highly of Themselves are treated as Revolting and Evil #and you can always; always see the SO WE HAVE TO GLEEFULLY PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE AS PUNISHMENT coming #and the more Actually Bad Things they have the character do as an excuse for the hateful treatment the worse it gets #i'm hashtag tired man #(also re: the dehumanization thing; i say that because decapitation is something that tends to lean toward being portrayed that way) #(because Head Gone) #(the biggest exception to this is when the focus is specifically on the person's face) #(ivan's head is not entirely severed; but that kind of focus does not feel present) #(so. lmao) #gore cw #decapitation cw #death cw #child death cw #LL tag