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paperlunamoth · 1 year

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"No one is conflating gender with sex!"

Yes you are. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you would say you were "masculine to feminine" and not "male to female." If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be using the term "assigned male/female at birth" to decribe the gender assigned to a person because of their sex. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be pushing to have the words "male and female," which are the only terms we have to refer to sex specifically, redefined to mean "person who identifies as belonging to the masculine/feminine gender." If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't so consistently act as though masculinity is what makes someone male and femininity is what makes someone female. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be saying that transgender people need access opposite sex hormones. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be calling surgery to make your genitals more resemble those of the opposite sex gender confirmation surgery. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be bothered by your legal sex being different from your gender. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be demanding access to single sex spaces on the basis of your gender. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be upset when homosexual people don't want to sleep with you because of your sex and not your gender. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't consider sexual dysphoria to be part of being transgender. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you would be distinguishing between people who are transsexual and people who are transgender, and you would have invented a separate word by now for people who are both, instead of using "transgender" to mean both or either. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be pushing the idea that sex is nonbinary, arbitrary, debatable, and a social construct in order to make how people think about it more closely resemble how they think about gender. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then you wouldn't be claiming that gender identity is an innate and immutable part of a person's biology present at birth, just like sex, despite the fact that gender is a social construct and so by definition can't be inherent to a person based on their biological traits. If you weren't conflating gender with sex, then when you argue that some people have the brain of the opposite sex, and thus are neurologically a different sex from what they are physically, you'd be using that to legitimize transsexualism and not transgenderedness (and even if we could easily and reliably identify the sex of a person's brain, that should be assumed to tell us nothing about their gender identity, since sex and gender are different things, right?). If you didn't equate gender with sex, then you wouldn't go to such great lengths to obscure the fact that most binary-identifying transgender people are also transsexual, that they want to belong to the opposite sex and not just the opposite gender, and that they want to adopt the gender associated with the opposite sex specifically because it would make them feel more like they belong to that sex.

It doesn't how matter how often or how vehemently you claim otherwise, you absolutely do conflate gender with sex, and it is one of the main reasons we take issue with your ideology in the first place. Women around the world and throughout human history have fought and bled and died for the idea that femininity, or a "feminine essence," is not what defines what it means to be a woman, for the idea that people of the female sex are oppressed on the basis of their sex and deserve not to be oppressed on the basis of their sex, and you people spit and piss on their graves and call feminism "regressive" while waving a flag with pink stripes for girls and blue stripes for boys.

#transgender #gender #gender critical #feminism #radical feminism #radfem #radblr #rant

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talisidekick · 7 months

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I wanna talk about how transmen are sexualized.

Transmen aren't Femboys.

Transmen aren't Sissys.

Transmen aren't for your sexual pleasure.

Transmen are biological women who have dysphoria.

You cannot change sex, you can change gender presentation and how your gender is perceived.

-Sincerely A transguy tired of being sexualized and misinformation

When people go out of their way to say "all trans men are" or act like all trans mascs are a specific thing only, like a femboy, or a sissy, it's transphobic because it's debasing people to a kink and not recognizing that these can be aspects of a person, but not their entire personality. When someone treats a kink like the default for a type of person, it's offensive. Gay men got reasonably upset when people kept expecting and depicting them to be effeminate because it was rightfully offensive as fuck. We shouldn't be debasing people to sexual roles and stereotypical presentations grounded in bigotry. In your examples, that's transandrophobia. Beyond this, I will disagree with everything except your sign off.

Transgender men are not 'biological women'. They're men. Medically, commonly assigned female at birth (afab). I say "commonly" because intersex transgender men exist and the term 'afab' isn't all inclusive of the biological reality we're dealing with. The term "women" is a social term, not a medical one, that relates a person to experiences of womanhood and defines them as a woman by proxy. This is incorrect. Transgender men are men, period. If you're talking biology, use biology terms. Social terms belong in social contexts. Conflating the two aids no one and instead walks right into the rhetoric fascists like the so called "radfems" and "gender criticals" use to associate sex with gender as falsely inseparable terms.

Also, no again to "you cannot change sex". That is a falsity in the reality of modern science. We can make functional penises for transgender men, this is widely documented, and modern science has procedures that would allow an individual to no longer be accurately medically classified as "female" and even "male". One such procedure is called SRS or Sex Reassignment Surgery, sometimes referred to under a broader category of Gender Confirming Surgery or GCS that covers the creation or removal of primary and secondary sex characteristics. Now before we get on the "what do I mean by functional" train, I'm deliberately not including sperm production or egg production in this statement because if that's your argument that it's not 'functional' unless it can be used to reproduce, you're an asshole that just said sterile men aren't men, and post-menopausal women aren't women, and fuck you. Men and women aren't defined by their ability to reproduce. That's bioessentialist bullshit that can fuck right off, this ain't the fucking 1960's.

I'm being highly specific here because I want to be very clear that the terms we use have impact, they're meant to be used in certain contexts and conflating terms with eachother doesn't help us make the points that we're trying to here.

The real meat of this though is that these sexualizations as femboys and sissy's being default used on trans masculine people in general is deliberately denying transgender men and mascs their masculinity. If a transgender man or masc chooses to express themself in such a way, that's their choice. But it's a choice an individual is making, not a collective. It doesn't matter what a transgender man or masc looks like, it matters how they want to be treated, and denying them that treatment to force them into a sexual role they don't agree with is a big fucking baaaaaaaaaaad move. We talk about sexual liberation in being 2SLGBTQIA+, and defining ourselves our way, but doing this to trans mascs is just reflavouring homophobia to attack a different group. Fucking stop it. Let trans mascs and transgender men be masculine. Stop default coding them as feminine.

#trans #transgender #transandrophobia #lgbt+#lgbtq+#lgbtqia+#trans men #trans masc #non binary #talisidekick #talisidekick things

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vaspider · 2 years

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Transmedicalism is a plague upon all trans people and it must be stopped.

No, really.

Transmedicalism damages the rights and transitions of all trans people, even those who feel protected by it, and its adherents within the trans community do active damage to every single trans person by continuing to push it.

What is transmedicalism?

Transmedicalism is a belief founded upon the pathologizing white cisgender view of transgender/transsexual* existence.

Transmedicalists believe one or more of the following statements:

Without the experience of the medical phenomenon known as gender dysphoria, a person is not "truly transgender."

If one does not wish to medically transition, or to "fully medically transition", including hormone replacement therapy, name changes, and one or more surgeries, that person is not "truly transgender."

Non-binary identities are not transgender identities.

Cultural identities (such as two-spirit, tumtum, and others) are not transgender identities.

Transmedicalists are also known as transmeds or "truscum," a neologism which means "true transsexual scum." There is an unfortunate amount of overlap between the transmed community and the radfem community, with many transmeds believing that they are not "truly" their proper gender and accepting a second-class status within their gender.

So, starting from the understanding that transmedicalism as it is currently defined requires the belief in at least one of the above statements, why is being a transmed harmful even to people who follow the binary paths laid out by transmedicalism's most ardent adherents?

Transmedicalism allows cisgender doctors to define our experience.

Okay, let me start by saying that I understand that under the current health care system in the United States, a diagnosis is required in order for insurance to pay for medication and/or treatments, rather than treating medical interventions as "optional" or "cosmetic." This is a separate issue, to my mind, to seeing the transmedicalist line carried by the community end. Yes, the medical system is set up currently to see us fail; that doesn't mean that we need to carry that water for them.

The current medical view of transgender life is predicated upon the idea that our existence is based in pain. Basically, goes the cis thinking, every trans person would be cisgender if only we could manage it, but we just can't, because it's too painful. It's not that we're happier when our gender identities are confirmed, it's not that we live fuller and more complete lives, and definitely no one would ever choose our lives, because being trans is a shitty, hard life compared to being cis. Transition is a sort of "lifestyle of last resort."

Trans people are not "failed cisgender people", and that is the mindset which transmedicalism adopts. We are not one of many ways in which humanity expresses itself and what we are isn't a normal and natural way of being, says transmedicalism, but an aberrant way of being whose existence can only be tolerated simply because there is no other choice for us.

Uprooting the transmedicalist mindset means uprooting the mindset that we define ourselves by pain and allowing our community to define itself instead by the whole of our experience, including our pain, yes, but also including our joy. Trans liberation means the opportunity for kids to be raised without fear or shame about their gender, and what then? If we are ever to achieve true trans liberation, we cannot define ourselves solely by our pain, because that would mean that if we remove the societal sources of our pain, trans people would cease to meaningfully exist in that definition.

Transmedicalism as a philosophy therefore creates a trap which means trans existence will always be defined by its pain. And that? Sucks.

Transmedicalism means imposing a harmful "single true path" on all trans people.

If you've been around the trans community for more than 5 seconds, you know that there are uncountable different trans experiences. Transmedicalism, however, reinforces and underlines the "born this way" and "always knew" narratives, excluding those of us who didn't "always know" and those of us with fluid, complicated, or non-binary experiences. This is incredibly screwed up, especially for those of us who grew up before the advent of the modern internet, grew up in extremely conservative households, or simply changed or developed as we grew. Transmedicalism views a trans person as a static thing, one who "always knew" and "always suffered" from gender dysphoria, and that mindset forces a lot of us to lie or tell half-truths in order to receive support or medical treatment.

(read the entire thread, please.)

Even for those of us with binary trans experiences, pushing an idea that one must follow a single path which includes a set number of medical interventions means that a trans person may feel that they must receive these medical interventions -- whether or not they want them -- to be "really trans" or accepted by the community. To be clear, this should not be taken as me saying that the trans community is the source of this mindset or this belief: transmedicalism comes from outside the trans community, imposed upon us by the transphobic medical establishment and transphobic cisgender society, who view themselves as the arbiters of who is 'really trans' or not. If fault is to be laid at the feet of anyone for trans individuals who feel that they must receive medical intervention to be viewed as 'really trans', it must be laid at the feet of medical establishments, individual doctors, school systems, governments and other cisgender authorities who push this medical-intervention-necessary-or-else-not-trans model.

The decision on the appropriateness of any given medical intervention should be a decision made between an individual person, their parents if underage, and their doctor(s), and as with all other questions of bodily autonomy, should not be interfered with by governments, UK Twitter users with 10 accounts and the suffragette flag in their handle, or the writers of derivative wizard-school books.

Like, really, these standards are set up in order to diminish us and to "discourage people" from coming out as trans -- the harder it is to be 'really trans,' goes the thinking, the fewer of us will exist. It is an outright trans-exterminatory model which we really need to stop buying into as a community.

Transmedicalism as a philosophy pushes medical intervention which may not be appropriate or safe for a given individual.

Whether it's someone with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome for whom top surgery is not advisable, someone in a conservative area who can't live 'out' full-time and can't start hormone therapy, or someone who just isn't ready yet for whatever reason, transmedicalism imposes a script on trans people, and that one-size-fits-all approach simply isn't appropriate for anyone.

Let me repeat: nothing I say is or should be misconstrued as an argument for laws restricting transition by age, for interference in transition by outside forces, or any other such bullshit.

Likewise, even if we're just talking about binary trans people, a given intervention may not be appropriate or desired by a particular person. Transmedicalism pushes all manner of surgeries and medications, pushes the idea that if you don't do this, you're not trans, and that's not only simply not true but diametrically opposed to the truth of trans liberation. Trans liberation means the ability to experiment with gender and presentation, to begin or desist transition without fear, shame, or reprisal from within or without the community, and to recognize and focus on our joy as the central piece of our experience.

When you add in non-binary, genderfluid, and culturally-gendered people to the equation, it becomes glaringly obvious that a one-size-fits-all approach simply doesn't work.

Transmedicalism pushes the idea that desistence is a sign of not being "truly trans," or that transition was a "mistake" rather than a step along the way toward self-understanding.

I've seen this more than once -- someone transitions to a binary gender and then realizes that they're actually non-binary, or begins transition and then finds that they're in an unsafe situation for transition. (The majority of desisters/detransitioners stop transition due to lack of support, and retransition when they have better support or are able to move to a friendlier/safer situation.) Not only then do they have to deal with the incredibly complicated business of retransitioning, they have to then deal with people calling them a 'faker' or 'not really trans' or whatever else. It's not too different from the experiences of people who come out as gay or lesbian only later to realize that they're bisexual or pansexual, to be honest, with the same sort of social backlash.

We've got enough on our plates when it comes to dealing with our lives as trans people without trying to push the idea that desistence means you "were never trans" or "aren't truly trans." We don't need to do that to ourselves, to each other, or to someone who truly did experiment with gender and realize they were transgender. Trans liberation means the ability to experiment with gender is available to everyone, including those who later determine themselves to be cisgender.

Transmedicalism can be really tempting to trans people who do not have a lot of social support or who do not have contact with other, especially older, trans people -- look, it's scientific! look, you can't deny me this because otherwise I will die! -- and for a lot of binary trans people, following that single path of stereotypical medical interventions will not only provide relief from gender dysphoria but serve to give gender euphoria a wonderful garden in which to blossom. However, as a view of the community, it's absolute poison.

What is right for you need not be right for me: we understand this when it comes to other choices that people make with their bodies as a core tenet of feminist philosophy. One person's decision to have an abortion does not mean another person's decision to carry an unintended pregnancy to term is the 'wrong decision' and vice versa. We understand that a woman is not defined by motherhood or by carrying a child; we understand that a child-free life does not reflect poorly on those who choose to carry a child or to become a mother in another fashion. We understand that cis women who are unable to or do not want to carry children are not "unwomen," and that a single life path determined by natal biology and circumstance, imposed on women by the machinery of the cishetalloperipatriarchy, makes no sense. We understand that we do not require the approval of professionals for our plans for our body, and that we alone have -- ro should by all rights have, fuck you, Texas -- the sovereign ability to determine what we want our bodies to do.

Why, then, do we accept a philosophy within our communities which mandates a single defined path for transgender people and a single definition of transgender identity contingent upon approval from an often-hostile medical establishment which views our existence as a "life of last resort"?

Kinda bullshit, honestly.

*Sometimes viewed as outdated, the term transsexual is still used by many older trans people and has been recently reclaimed by some younger trans people. I include it in the name of greatest inclusivity of our community; there's no need for me to be exclusive while talking about how philosophies damage us.

#trans rights #trans rights are human rights #transmedicalism is bullshit #transmedicalism #transmedicalism tw #don't bother arguing in favor of transmedicalism #it's a bullshit philosophy #i will just block you byeeee

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religion-is-a-mental-illness · 5 months

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By: Aletha Adu

Published: Dec 7, 2023

Gender-affirming care for children could be considered “a new form of conversion therapy”, Kemi Badenoch has said.

The women and equalities minister made the claim as she confirmed plans to bring forward a bill to ban conversion practices, which seek to change or suppress someone’s sexual orientation or gender identity.

Research indicates about 7% of LGBT+ people have been offered or undergone such practices, and activists have been concerned about the scope of the ban since Theresa May first promised it in 2018.

Badenoch said the legislation had to address issues with gender-affirming care, which some critics argue is not the right approach for young people who are questioning their gender identity.

Badenoch addressed the case of Keira Bell, who began taking puberty blockers when she was 16 and then medically transitioned and had surgery to remove her breasts as an adult. She later regretted this and sued the Tavistock gender identity clinic where she had received treatment, arguing she had been too young to consent to treatment as a teenager. The court agreed but this ruling was overturned on appeal in 2021.

Badenoch told MPs: “Girls like Keira Bell who were rushed on to puberty blockers by the NHS, and had a double mastectomy, now regret the irreversible damage done to them. I believe this is a new form of conversion therapy”.

Clinicians working at the Tavistock clinic have previously told the Guardian that affirmative care does not have an inevitable outcome of transition. They have argued that instead it involves exploring and questioning a young person’s view of their identity.

Badenoch said doctors were “fearful of giving honest clinical advice to a child because if they do not automatically affirm and medicalise a child’s new gender they will be labelled transphobic, so whatever bill we do needs to address many of those issues and that is why we are going to publish a draft bill.”

She announced a “long overdue” update to a list of approved countries from which the UK will accept gender recognition certificates (GRCs).

Badenoch did not outline which countries would be removed, but her Labour counterpart, Anneliese Dodds, said while Germany remained and China had been added, “our closest Five Eyes allies” had been taken off. The Five Eyes alliance includes Australia, New Zealand, Canada and the US.

Badenoch told the Commons: “We are doing this because there are some countries and territories on the list who have made changes to their systems and would not now be considered to have similarly rigorous systems [for awarding GRCs] as the UK. Inadvertently allowing self-ID for obtaining GRCs is not government policy. It should not be possible for a person who does not satisfy the criteria for UK legal gender recognition to use the overseas routes to do so.”

Dodds questioned whether the changes to the list would have any diplomatic impact, and criticised the government’s delay on issuing guidance for schools on whether transgender children in England will be supported to socially transition at school. This could mean a school recognising the child using a different name and pronoun, or authorising the use of different toilets and facilities.

Applications for a gender recognition certificate can be made by someone if they are aged 18 or over, have been diagnosed with gender dysphoria in the UK, have lived in their affirmed gender for at least two years and plan to live in this gender for the rest of their life.

Dodds criticised Badenoch’s statement, saying there had been “no conversion practices ban, no commitment to make every strand of hate crime an aggravated offence despite a staggering rise in offences against LGBT+ people and no provision to schools of the guidance that has been promises repeatedly but not delivered”.

They have argued that instead it involves exploring and questioning a young person’s view of their identity.

We know this is unambiguously false, because radical genderists got upset that the Cass report advised adopting exploratory therapy, which the genderists deliberately mislabel as "conversion therapy" to warn people away from interfering in their mind-body duality mysticism ideology.

Here's a paper that makes exactly this claim:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36068009/

Abstract

Opposition to gender-affirmative approaches to care for transgender youths by some clinicians has recently begun to consolidate around "gender exploratory therapy" as a proposed alternative. Whereas gender-affirmative approaches follow the client's lead when it comes to gender, gender-exploratory therapy discourages gender affirmation in favor of exploring through talk therapy the potential pathological roots of youths' trans identities or gender dysphoria. Few detailed descriptions of the approach's parameters have been offered. In this article, I invite clinicians to reflect on gender-exploratory therapy through a series of questions. The questions are followed by an exploration of the strong conceptual and narrative similarities between gender-exploratory therapy and conversion practices. Finally, the ethical dimensions of gender-exploratory therapy are discussed from the lenses of therapeutic neutrality, patient-centered care, loving attention, and therapeutic alliance, suggesting that the approach may be unethical.

#Kemi Badenoch #Andrew Doyle #gay conversion therapy #conversion therapy #gender ideology #queer theory #anti gay #woke homophobia #gender identity #medical scandal #medical malpractice #religion is a mental illness

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hungercityhellhound · 1 year

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I have debated for months about posting this or not. It's very personal but I am actually TIRED of people calling me out and acting as if I didn't know what I was talking about.

I want to address something about my top surgery posts, specifically the people who insist I am exaggerating or not understanding when I say there was a “biased against single people receiving surgery” or continually saying that doctors weren't being biased or whatever. I wanted to elaborate a bit on my situation and experience, both so people understand and if someone else runs into this issue that they have the confidence to ensure they receive care.

(The rest of this deals with discrimination, medical procedures, and cancer discussion. Read at your own discretion.)

A bit of background first. I was comfortable binding and after more than a year talking with a therapist had come to the point where, for many reasons, I was not interested in surgical/medical aspects of transitioning. Around that time my mother developed aggressive, stage four cancer. It was determined that it was related to a genetic mutation, several really, so I went off and got genetic testing. I did not have the mutations my mother had but I do have two others related to breast cancer, one is a mutation that represents a higher risk than BRCA. I was scheduled to have a mammogram and breast MRI every year going forward. After one MRI determined I appeared to have the fibrous tissue that is known to be more likely to develop into cancer (plus the genetic markers, family history, and being over 40). With my geneticist, oncologist and therapist, we came to the conclusion that a full oncological breast removal with gender affirming closure would be the best course of action for my health and well being. I was given a plan that included what the oncologist would do, including 24-48 or 72 hours of hospital stay for post surgery medical testing by the oncology team. (No, that you need someone for the first 24 hours post surgery did not apply to me since I would be hospitalized)

Here's where things get to biased, when I was looking for a plastic surgeons. All of the surgeons I went to listed themselves as trans-friendly and having done gender confirming surgeries. I had one surgeon flat out refuse to do surgery on me until I had a husband or wife living with me. This person also continued to call me she and refer to me in ways aligned with a straight female instead of nonbinary or transgender. Two others that insisted I at least have a roommate. One of them told me I should move and find a roommate, get to know that roommate, then come back to 'discuss being treated'. Three surgeons told me to put off cancer surgery because I didn't have a partner or roommate that I knew well. Another surgeon was doing the exam in the consult and refused to touch me after I mentioned I was pre-cancerous as if I had the plague. They asked me to dress and leave because they would not work on me. This represented months of stressing that I might literally develop cancer before being treated for all the pre-cancerous issues.

Eventually, I did find a plastic surgeon with help of my breast oncologist. They were honest with me and we spent nearly two months prepping, and several consultations making sure I would be successful going through surgery while living alone. (Yes, I still had to have someone to drive me home and emergency contacts. I had all of those at the start of the process before any of my surgical consults) It included many of the physical and environmental things I listed. Weeks of diet and body strength preparation, as well as focusing on medication that I had taken in the past, where possible, to ensure less risk of that being problematic. This included pain medications which I have experience with from a severe back injury and more recently a knee injury.

Between my therapist, oncologist, plastic surgeon, and geneticist we had a full plan and prepared for this surgery. All kinds of notes in my chart about alterations to the surgery, like longer than usual drain tubes and bandaging choices for example, that would be easier for living alone. EVEN with all of this, sitting in pre-op I dealt with whispers of no one should be working on someone who lives alone. Despite all my contacts on my surgery paperwork.. probably being asked 8 times in my hour pre-op about my care and things about how I should be scared and not really do the surgery without being married/in a long term relationship. I got the same kind of thing from some people, not on my team of surgeons, post surgery while recovering in my hospital bed.

I ran into multiple barriers and refusal of CANCER TREATMENT aligned procedures because I lived alone or didn't have a partner. The gender confirming/top surgery aspects of my treatment were secondary to the cancer issues, even in my charts and paperwork. I did not mention the bias against single people on a whim but because it was truly problematic and led to about 6 month delay in cancer related treatment. I thank everything that I didn't develop actual cancer in that time I was looking for treatment. All I think about is what would have happened If I had been less persistent about demanding care and searching for someone who could give me the care I needed in the place I was in my life.

#Aarne is ranting #Discrimination and medical discussion #transition #medical discrimination #marital status discrimination #nonbinary

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melodyschaos · 1 year

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Papa, me want more Sapphire Polyweb

(Please, I'll bark if you want 🙏🙏🙏 (On god))

A/N: Ayo dw bestie I got you *shakes this post like a box of dog treats* Hmmm...y’know what? I’m gonna throw in my LGBTQ+ headcanons just because I think you guys are neat. You guys tell me what your headcanons are in the tags! I would LOVE to see them!

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The spider demons and Mayor had all been enjoying a rather peaceful afternoon. Even the Mayor wasn’t as cryptidly scary as usual. As so often happens when the day is quiet, an odd question was brought up by Y/N. “Would you guys love me if I came out as a different gender identity?”

Syntax looked up from his book with a raised eyebrow. “Y/N, I have said before I enjoy your eccentricities, but I have to ask where in the world this came from? Why would we discriminate against gender indentities.”

“I ‘unno, I just...I mean...I get that you’re a bunch of demons and a Mayor but...it kinda struck me that you never know.”

From her spot laying on the couch the Spider Queen’s head slowly lifted. “Honey, did...did we never tell you?”

“Tell me what?”

The Mayor let out a loud laugh. “How silly of me! And to think it never came up in conversation. Well, dear Y/N, please allow me to be the first. You face no discrimination because none of us truly fit the genders we were assigned at birth, you see.”

Y/N looked a bit confused. “Hang on- how did this never come up before now? What if I’d been misgendering you guys?”

The Spider Queen spoke first. “Tell you the truth I just didn’t think of it. What with bein’ a demoness and having the power to alter my appearance it doesn’t come up often...Syntax, Goliath, and I all underwent transition surgeries. Myself being transfeminine, of course.”

Y/N looked to the other two, who both nodded confirmation. Syntax said, “With the ability to manufacture robots that can forcefully turn humans into spider slaves, perfecting transitional procedures that were much more efficient was rather easy. And before you ask, though I did undergo surgery to appear more masculine I find that I best identify as a Neoboy...although I think Neoman sounds much better.”

Goliath chimed in, “I’m transmasc, Syntax said I must have gotten my testosterone from Silverback gorillas.”

“It must be true what with the absolute size of you.”

Before this could continue, Y/N turned to Huntsman who was cleaning his favorite throwing knife. “Do you feel comfortable sharing?”

He looked up from his work and shrugged. “Technically I was hatched a male, but I ‘unno...I don’t always feel like one, if that makes sense. I mean, I know I’m a man, but also I don’t feel attached to what people *say* being a man is like, and I feel more masculine than the feeling of...not. If that makes sense, After Syntax gave me several essays on identities, I figured out Demiboy fits me best.” The last sentence was said with a glare directed at Syntax, who paid him no heed.

“It was that or have you continue to be confused and frustrated, I would think you would thank me instead of being so grumpy.”

The Mayor cut between the two, stopping any argument that could arise. “And that leaves me! Of course I have always presented myself as a man, and I was born such, however...I have simply found that I much prefer the feeling of agender in comparison. I am not completely detached from having a gender, I believe a part of me is always masculine. For this reason I personally chose the label Libramasculine. So you see, dear Y/N, you would face no judgement here among us. And of course should you wish to question your gender we would be more than happy to assist you.”

Y/N gave them all a smile. “That’s reassuring to hear. I have been having some questions lately...I just haven’t figured out...y’know how to really explore that.”

The Spider Queen instantly got up from the couch. “If nothin’ else I say we start with clothes, it’d be better than sittin’ around. I’ll go dig in my closet, there has to be somethin’ closer for your size to try on...”

Y/N clapped their hands in excitement. “Fashion show! Fashion show!! I wanna try on all of you guys’s outfits!!!”

The Mayor laughed and rubbed Y/N’s head. “All I have is formal wear, but of course I will need assistance...” He turned to the three spiderlads with that terrifying smile. They all looked terrified but knew that if it was Y/N’s happiness on the line they would suffer through it...

Throughout the afternoon the most splendid of fashion shows were held, with Y/N getting to try on Huntsman’s jacket, Syntax’s coat, Spider Queen’s dresses, Goliath’s t-shirts (even if they were so big they could barely fit), and the Mayor’s suits and ties. All around a fun experience.

#lmk x reader #lmk sapphire polyweb #lmk sapphire polyweb x reader #lmk mayor x reader #lmk x reader polycule #lmk spider queen x reader #lmk syntax x reader #lmk huntsman x reader #lmk goliath x reader #lmk lgbtq+

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marley-manson · 1 year

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Finally rewatched GFA and lmao I wildly overestimated how much screen time was dedicated to BJ and Hawkeye’s relationship, oops. I think it’s bc 90% of what they did get was dysfunctional, and they got the Final Goodbye of Greatest Emotional Importance, so it stuck out in my mind.

This time around I still loved Hawkeye’s plot for the most part. Had my take that once he remembers he’s fine talking about it confirmed with the casual way he asks if it’s couch time when Sidney approaches during his letter-writing, as well as him bringing it up later on multiple times, jokingly and not jokingly with Sidney. His reluctance to talk about the bus and his deflection was clearly intended to be a major Something’s Really Wrong Here signal, satisfyingly righted after the revelation with his more casual, in-character willingness to admit to and talk about his mental breakdown.

I am not a huge fan of Sidney’s method of throwing people back into the traumatic war zone asap lmao, I actually misremembered that as the army’s doing, but nope it’s Sidney. I know that’s the psychological theory they’re working with so I take it in the spirit intended, but thematically it kinda sucks and uhhhhh Hawkeye quits surgery anyway so they failed to make it seem successful even if he did operate a few times first.

BJ really is a mess of a character lol, I honestly have no idea what they were doing with him in the finale other than scrambling to find something for him to do, and like half of what he does is let Hawkeye down one last time. Also the reason BJ didn’t leave a note is because he chose to be pressed for time so he could land in San Francisco instead of Seattle, which was Klinger’s first suggestion for his travel itinerary. Plus his refusal to say goodbye functionally states the reason he didn’t leave a note, ie his emotional constipation, which is a very pointed flaw in this episode especially so I don’t think having more time would’ve made a difference.

Also relatedly BJ’s “I just thought there might be something we wanted to say to each other” came across even worse this time around because Hawkeye’s “Look, I know how tough it is for you to say goodbye, so I’ll say it,” calls back to it. It really genuinely was BJ demonstrating his inability to emotionally connect with Hawkeye without Hawkeye doing it first and wanting Hawkeye to read his mind and offer a heartfelt outpouring of emotion without knowing he’s leaving and while in a cell in a mental hospital and right after BJ, who should have more sense than to talk about babies in front of him since he was purportedly on that bus too, triggered him. Evil evil scene for BJ. Also probably my favourite scene in the ep, because I love Hawkeye’s rant so much.

“Would you hold me in your arms or would you let me lie there and bleed?” still works as a commentary on their whole dynamic, but lmao it really does come completely out of left field in the scene itself, Hawkeye went from 0 to 100 in like 2 seconds. It makes sense as an extension of the way BJ left the hospital and then left without a note too, as Hawkeye expressing how he feels about that after stewing for a while, but yeah the actual scene still made me go ‘well that escalated quickly.’ And BJ’s “you don’t even have a cold” response, just totally and probably willfully missing the point, gj guy.

BJ getting drunk and joking about running off with someone during the goodbye party is a bizarre choice lol, and I can see why people want to take it as an oblique confession re Hawkeye because at least it’s meaningful that way and not just making BJ’s scene there a dumb awkward joke. The other way it’s meaningful is if it’s a Sign of BJ’s impending domestic doom ofc, though I’m on the fence about intent there.

Hawkeye’s “I can’t say I loved you all either... but I loved as many of you as I could,” is such a good Hawkeye summation lol, in the jokey, flirty way intended, in the non-gendered way that’s probably unintended, and in a true-on-a-deeper-level way too.

Soon Lee was disappointing honestly. I thought she might have more personality here than in the last ep, but nah. The only moment she had where she showed any kind of personality was her line about wanting to see Klinger in a dress. That was a great joke though lol. I’m curious what she’s like in AfterMASH, but not enough to watch any of it. I do love Klinger staying in Korea for the irony, and I LOVE that it really is the same wedding dress from season 3.

Charles and Margaret were more entertaining than I remembered, I really enjoyed them rehashing old arguments here. I totally forgot that Margaret mentioned wanting to work in a stateside hospital at the very start of the episode before getting all the letters from her father. Definitely doubling down on my belief that she’s not retiring from the military at all, but rather just working at a military hospital. Love her speech to the nurses best.

Mixed feelings on the Charles and musicians plot. It’s fitting, but perhaps not solely in the way intended lol, in that it’s always always always Charles finding sympathy and attachment to someone only after they appeal to one of his pet interests or the sympathies he already has. He really doesn’t change that much - he gets friendlier with some of the other characters, and he reveals more complex and endearing sides of himself, but he doesn’t really grow lol, and once you notice that he only ever starts to care after he projects his interests on someone those moments get a little less endearing. I think he’s still a fantastically written, fun, and genuinely pretty interesting character, but he never quite achieves likeability on a personal level. But hey, maybe that is intended.

Mulcahy’s plot was honestly a little annoying lol, like, dude you made it worse by refusing medical help and keeping it a secret for the sake of like... one more week with the orphans? I do think it was appropriate that he managed to keep his hearing loss hidden though, because it mirrors the way he tended to miss jokes and references throughout the show, and I dig that angle. Also I love his little crisis of faith and the implication that there is no greater purpose or reason, shit just happens in a war zone.

What else... idk lightning round:

- loved everyone cheering for Hawkeye after he drives the tank to the garbage heap except everyone who was in the OR with him who are all concerned.

- also loved Hawkeye driving a tank into a garbage pile just as a piece of symbolism

- love everyone going back to work after peace is declared, that just sums up the show right there, perfect note

- still fucking hate that salute for Potter. it’s fitting, I understand why it’s there, it’s the most appropriate goodbye for Potter, I still hate it.

- that said I do love the like, 20 minutes worth of goodbyes lol. it honestly worked great, pacing, order, each individual exchange, the goodbye party speeches, all pretty damn solid.

- I did not remember that BJ got that motorcycle bc he just took it when the Chinese musicians surrendered lmao. love him driving Hawkeye up to the helicopter pad in it though as a call back to Yalu Brick Road and Blood and Guts w/ Hawkeye acquiescing for once.

- I think it was a mistake to include the forest fire. I know it happened irl, hence why they incorporated it, but like it adds absolutely nothing but an awkward continuity error where it switches from night to afternoon even though they should’ve been bugging out before that, and a melancholy moment where Potter looks at the burned up support poles, which sucks because that’s not a fond home for them. Like come on, if the 4077 burned down in season 3 the MCs would’ve roasted hot dogs over the coals. Also the military march verson of the theme playing during the bug out scene... yeesh.

- but yeah overall solid finale, pretty much what you need after 11 seasons, gj everyone.

#mash #marley on mash #mash s11 #ship hb #also i just got the aftermash/aftermath pun... still an awful show title but marginally less awful now

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I just woke up from one of the sweetest dreams I’ve ever had. In it, I saw one of the most lovely women I’ve ever met to date! There was also a portion of the dream where I met a really nice Samoan boy from where I’m from back in Compton. He was cute, funny and very concerned with my well being. It was a really sweet dream, but now I’m left feeling a certain type of way. I’ve recently adopted this mindset that we fight to find things that make our lives make sense because we were born with so many opposites against our natural soul’s rhythm. To explain this further, I believe I was supposed to be born a girl. That doesn’t mean I’m not supposed to be a feminine boy in this life, but I think I would’ve been more comfortable with the attention I get, the feelings I have for the same (opposite in this case) sex and just so much more if I was a girl. I remember at the early age of 4 or 5 when my Mom flat out asked if I wanted to be a girl and I said “yes!” Recent events have shown that she’s never forgotten that day and has even been secretly rooting for me to start transitioning, but that’s not what I meant back then. What I meant at that age wasn’t that I was uncomfortable in the body I was born in and wanted to dress like a girl, what I meant was I wanted to be *respected* like a girl in my daily life. My desire to be treated like a girl was never fueled by self-hate or gender confusion (no matter how the other kids and adults made it seem), but rather the desire to change society’s embedded expectations on gender itself. “If you want to be treated like a girl, look like one!” That’s what I’d expect to hear from someone I’d try explaining this to but even that proves a dangerous point. If I transitioned, that wouldn’t make me a girl, that would make me a boy who got surgery to pass in society as a girl and that within itself says a lot of things that I simply do not stand for. There’s definitely a term in before the stage of trans-ness which in my case, happens to be feminine male. I think this label needs to be respected for what it is because I’ve fought for too long and too loud to be heard with this voice (high, soft AND GIRLY AS FUCK) and strutted too fucking hard in this body to not be respected as a human being (a FEMININE-MALE Human Being) with emotions. In recent years, The World’s outcry to people who *”struggle”* to accept their identity, not because they’re uncomfortable within themselves, but uncomfortable with the parameters society has set to be recognized for what you know in your soul to be your truth.*TO ME*, transitioning will always be code for: go through a bunch of surgeries (excessive pain) to prove to the world why you, a Man, deserves to be recognized as a She in public. Instead of this gender-redefining moment that’s meant to be celebrated while the world secretly covets the fact that it made you confirm something that is already confirmed by the Law of Nature WITHOUT harmful surgery. This is also assuming that the people who would be calling you She believe in all good things for everyone ever which simply is never the case, so the pronouns people call me don’t really matter any fucking way. At my default position, I’m going to be defensive in all matter when it comes to stuff like this because I feel like I’m one of the only ones who can see something like this coming, ONLY because of my personal experiences in life. So I’m always gonna be defensive of my gay children, boys OR girls! Anyway, in closing, gender, sexuality are all personal, private matters that shouldn’t always be in everyday conversation. Especially when the people around you are incapable of receiving what’s on your heart about it because they have never and will never know this everyday battle 😄🙂

#a biiiig vent sesh!#I’m sharing a lot of things that are on my heart so please don’t call me some dumb shit like a transphobe 😑

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shaftking · 1 year

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This is gonna be a messy post bc I’m writing it between essays and I just wanna get my thoughts out but.

Puberty blockers just are not it. The first step if a child thinks they’re trans should be social transition and therapy to assure that they are well adjusted and able to return to their living as their birth sex if they decide that’s what they want. Hormone blockers aren’t really well understood from what I’ve read and seen. We don’t know the effect of stopping puberty long term, but we can easily assume that halting a major process like that cannot have positive outcomes. Puberty doesn’t just cause secondary sex characteristics, it causes growth spurts and bone growth and the development of the brain. In the case of MTFs, if they want bottom surgery later in life they are likely to not have grown enough tissue to do so if they do not go through male puberty. There have been connections with bone density problems and other health issues for both MTF and FTMs taking puberty blockers from childhood. I’m someone who thinks that there are grey area cases where teens may be able to go on HRT, but they aren’t the norm and I’m not gonna pretend like they are. People can and do transition happily and healthily as adults and we shouldn’t be fearmongering that the only way to successfully transition it to start as soon as someone has an inkling they might be trans.

And how would someone know they don’t want to be a man or a woman if they don’t at least go through puberty? That’s when most gender dysphoria starts, because of the presence of puberty. And you can’t take back halting puberty, if a kid says they’re trans and they are given puberty blockers and then decide that they weren’t actually trans the body doesn’t just pick up where it left off.

Like there is just so many questionable implications to putting a child on puberty blockers that it is just baffling to me every time I see some poor parent on a trans forum looking for advice with how to help their kid who may be trans getting the advice of “affirmation and puberty blockers” instead of “social transition and neutral therapy.” And these same people will wonder why there are so many detransitioners when they recommend shit like this that will put kids on a path that begins with stopping the very process that confirms if a kids feelings about their gender is legitimate gender dysphoria or simply something they will grow out of.

Anyways I guess this is all to say I do not support kids medically transitioning for obvious reasons and I don’t support puberty blockers.

Radfems who touch this post get put in the wood chipper.

#personal #trans kids

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womenfrommars · 2 years

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okay sorry to do this, I won’t send anymore asks but I want to respond to the person who replied to the ask I sent (I’m anon who said radfems are turning away women). You can delete this if you don’t want drama, i don’t mind.

you said your goal is to peak women, not recruit them. peak them on trans issues? on issues of gender roles? on abortion? on homophobia? on racism? on porn? on capitalism? many women do “peak” on one or two or even three of these issues and yet if they don’t believe in every single one of your beliefs to the T you attack them, just like the admin of this blog, who is gencritfem and not radfem.

I’ve lurked around the radfem community long enough to see that your longtime goal isn’t to “peak” women on certain issues (that’s short term), you want them to agree with most to all of radfem points. maybe you have negative stigma surrounding “recruitment”, I wasn’t meaning that as anything negative. I was criticizing behavior.

And I didn’t say you all were trying to recruit Christian women, I specially acknowledged how there’s a mutual agreement that Christians can’t be radfems. I said other women who ARENT Christian. I’ve seen women who still agree with radfem theory calling themselves “ex radfems” because of the behavior.

to the admin, perhaps the reason you’re being attacked is because the lack of reading comprehension that prevails in all sections of tumblr. anyway, the only reason I even saw the reply is because I was looking at your blog again to see other posts you’ve made. As a BIPOC, I didn’t see anything racist, so I don’t know why they’re accusing you. It’s really reminiscent of how the libfems and that side of politics see someone say one thing wrong and accuse all their past words as being bad too. I don’t know of many women who are gender critical feminists yet not radical feminists, so now I want to look into that version of feminism to see what all that entails.

I think a lot of women call themselves ''radical feminists'' just because they are gender critical and anti-porn. Those views are indeed part of radical feminism, but radical feminism encompasses much more than that. It's a known issue that a lot of women online self-identify as radical feminists without properly researching radical feminist literature beforehand. On Tumblr, I think very few women here have actually read any at all. I tend to assume most haven't read a lot, if I'm completely honest.

I haven't read a lot myself either, but then again I don't call myself a radical feminist nor do I speak on radical feminist literature as if I'm very familiar with it. A few times people have made assumptions about me. People are telling me I shouldn't call myself a radfem, presuming I do that in the first place. A few have also assumed I must be attracted to women based on the fact I am a gender critical feminist (?) which is hilarious because it confirms the TRA logic that ''TERF'' = lesbian. I would much rather that people judge my views based on their merit instead of the degree to which they adhere to radical feminism.

A lot of people also invent ''extras'' to radical feminism. Most famously a few on here said that radical feminism opposes ''fatphobia''. Fetch me one radical feminist author who said this. ''Fatphobia'' is just modern liberal feminism, I'm afraid. Dworkin herself passed away from complications related to obesity and even had weight loss surgery, I think

The accusations of myself being racist are related to discourse from my old blog, to which I no longer have access seeing as it was deleted. It relates to a discourse that was mostly given rise to, again, based on a lack of understanding, I think

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may 12

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Food insecurity in the U.S. may be worse than anyone thinks, study reveals More people are having trouble getting food on the table, according to a recent study. While food insecurity is a growing concern in the United States, the research suggests the number of people with limited access to food is actually higher than what official reports estimate.

Climate fanatics say there’s no room for personal choice if global warming is to be stopped: Everyone will need to decrease their standard of living by 75% – using force if necessary In the near future, everyone on earth – except the “elite,” of course – will have to drastically reduce their standard of living in order to save the planet from the devastating effects of warm weather, according to the BBC.

‘Trans kids’ prescribed MORE anti-psychotic meds after beginning gender transition than before: study A 2021 study of military youth has revealed that not only were minors with severe mental illness allowed to embark upon experimental medical sex changes, but also that prescriptions for anti-psychotic drugs actually increased after hormonal interventions were initiated, reports Fox News.

REVEALED: DOJ official says Biden admin ‘rolling over’ on allowing trans-identified males to impregnate females in women’s prisons A psychologist with Merrick Garland’s Justice Department has confirmed that biologically male inmates who claim to be women and transfer into women’s prisons are purposefully impregnating female inmates. The inmates have an ulterior motive, which is then to bring suit against the US government to create “million dollar babies,” and taxpayers are on the hook for it.

Pfizer “vaccine” trial data shows alarming outcomes for pregnant women; they knew all along A preprint paper published this month, shows that IgG4 antibodies are present in the umbilical cord blood of infants born to vaccinated mothers, highlighting a theoretical risk to newborns of an ineffective response to Covid infection. This highlights just how many unknowns we are dealing with when it comes to assessing what will be the long-term outcomes of mRNA vaccination.

WHO ends the Covid Hoax with the biggest Lie of All The WHO figure of 20 million deaths is based on absurd, false figures whereby patients who died after a positive (but useless) PCR test were listed as having died of covid-19 even if they had no symptoms of covid-19 and had died in a car crash, been run over by a bus or had died of heart disease. Governments around the world have admitted that figures were exaggerated. In some countries, hospitals were bribed to over-diagnose covid-19.

Globalists Are Murdering Children To Double Down On Depopulation The stories over at Substack the last several days from numerous different authors are absolutely alarming and tell a story that must be told considering the mainstream media won’t touch these with a 50-foot pole and instead, are helping the anti-America terrorists/squatters sitting in the White House, Congress and the Pentagon wage a deadly war upon the American people, now aimed at your children and mine.

Hollywood Elites Hold ‘Drag Isn’t Dangerous’ Telethon To Hit Back Against New Wave Of Anti-Grooming Laws Designed To Protect Young Children Actress Charlize Theron issued a warning to opponents of the LGBTQ community Sunday night during the ‘Drag Isn’t Dangerous’ fundraising telethon.

Transgender surgeries linked to horrific and often fatal infections: “I now live in a painful body that no longer belongs to me” The Journal of Pediatric and Adolescent Gynecology published a study recently about a formerly healthy 18-year-old boy who underwent a ghastly and barbaric transgender “affirmation” surgery that resulted in his death.

1 in 4 Canadians Agree With Euthanizing the Poor Leftist policies start out seemingly reasonable and compassionate before they become totally monstrous. Initially, there are sympathetic test cases, they started out with arguing that raped 12-year-olds should be able to get an abortion, and then before you know, it’s partial-birth abortion for bored celebrities. Euthanasia was supposed to help those with fatal illnesses suffering a great deal of pain. And then, in typical fashion, it morphed into killing teenagers and the depressed.

FDA Approves First Pill Containing Human Feces Patients needing a fecal microbiota transplant for recurrent Clostridioides difficile (C. diff) infections now have the option of getting stool in pill form.

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I don't mean to be rude but I don't think you know anything about why people are criticising the current trans healthcare model if you think it's because they dislike trans people. It's not even about being gender critical. It frustrated me to no end that people areaccusing people of "peddling lies" about transition when it's trans activism that is the reason why so many children have been harmed by completely unnecessary medicalisation. You know what would have helped? Not affirming kids behind their parents' backs. Providing kids with actual therapy before medicalising. Not teaching young kids postmodernist ideologies that confuse them about their bodies and lead them to believe they can actually change sex. Not sacking or piling on to every professional - endocrinologists, safeguarding specialists, therapists, psychiatrists, surgeons, teachers - who questions this. But these are all things that trans activism has supported. Every harm that has befallen detransitioners is the fault of WPATH, Stonewall, Mermaids, and every other shitty org that pushed these policies

I agree with a lot of why you are saying. To be clear, I’m not shaming someone who has detransitioned for speaking on their experiences. I’m mainly wary of the tags surrounding this post on tumblr, not the contents of the tweet itself. This post, despite being under #trans, is also under lots of “gender critical” tags, which I believe to be a problem.

But there is one thing that the twitter user says that does bother me: “The delusional fantasy that you can change your gender.” Maybe the twitter user misspoke and meant to say sex instead of gender, but even if they did mean sex, it’s still a straw-man idea of what trans organizations advocate for or what trans people expect from medical transition. And if they DID mean gender, then the twitter user has a flawed understanding of the modern use of the word “gender” or far worse, believes being trans isn’t a real thing.

I agree with you that gender confirming surgery (though maybe not the cosmetic ones) should be treated just as any other serious, invasive surgery would be, and that we should be careful about this especially with children. Though I don’t see the harm in raising children with a different idea of what gender is than what we grew up with. The way society treats gender has changed and so should the way we raise children. I will say that I don’t know which postmodern ideology you’re referring to so I can’t speak to your concerns in that department. And the organizations you’ve listed aren’t perfect, and yes, I suppose it’s possible that they’ve caused harm. But they’ve also saved lives, so don’t discount them completely.

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azurowle · 3 years

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@dworkinsdaughter okay I’m making a separate post to address this bullshit but I’ll say it right up front, because your response to me only confirms it:

You are not talking TO me. You are talking AT me. Your rhetoric is based on the presumption that our vaginas and breasts will be enough for us to relate to one another, rather than trying to engage me in good faith, on my own terms, as an individual. It’s lazy and it’s little wonder why trans masculine people are not fans of you.

If you relate to the fact the environment is the issue,

I don’t.

It doesn’t take a master literary critic to understand where you were going with that. It was trite and cliche. I just don’t relate to it.

Understanding a metaphor and relating to it are not the same thing.

you have to understand your conclusions are wrong.

The irony of you telling me this is just…something else. The absolute audacity.

The hatred directed towards the female body you have decided to internalise and allow to consume you emotionally.

Did you just ignore the “I’m more ambivalent or even positive towards my body since I started transition and HRT” in my last post?

To the point where I’m in no real hurry to get my top surgery done?

It’s truly sad.

You are calling the fact that I am more mentally stable and happier than I’ve ever been “sad.”

The radical feminist philosophy places the blame where it belongs - outside of your body.

The radical feminist philosophy does not give two shits about trans men or trans masculine people, at least not beyond those who are gender critical.

If it did, it would elevate our voices when we talk about the unique obstacles and struggles we face, and would do everything it could to include us in struggles for reproductive justice.

Instead we get blamed for when OB/GYNs treat us like garbage or even refuse to treat us entirely. We get blamed when insurance denies us coverage for essential treatment because we have an “M” on our documentation. We get told to suck it up and deal with it.

We get called fujoshi, traitors, “pedophilic autoandrophiles,” and delusional.

You don’t see me as a person. You see me as a text to deconstruct and analyze, a prisoner to be liberated, and someone you know personally based on whatever universal experiences you think we have simply based on our vagina and breasts.

It is not your body that is wrong.

Your metric for harm is skewed. Tell me, which would you rather have - a “healthy body” belonging to someone who is suicidal and miserable in it and self-harming and drinking to cope? Or someone who is transitioning who is finally at peace with themselves?

It is harm for you and the people around you to medicate and pathologise a perfectly working healthy body

Making assumptions about my friends, family, and support team is…pretty out of line to be perfectly honest.

You as a female found this world excruciating towards women and decided you could escape by means of transition.

And what do you know of my personal life and experiences?

What do you know of me beyond words on a screen?

You don’t.

You are wrong.

I’ll accept the consequences of that if that’s the case, but I’ll be going on three years in November since my first T shot and I wouldn’t change a thing.

The truth will bite you

It’s taking it’s sweet time. Which is fine by me.

and radical feminists are trying to prevent you from further self harm that you cannot undo.

So tell me, what do detransitioners think of the TERFs that claim to be the only ones to support them calling their bodies “mutilated?”

We love you enough to tell you the truth.

You don’t even fucking know me.

You love some sort of platonic idealized archetype of me, based on nothing but my breasts and vagina and words on a screen. You love me as a victim - as someone that needs to be saved, as someone who you can fantasize about detransitioning and recruiting.

You don’t even try to engage with me as an individual. If I even went into my story would you even fucking listen, in good faith, without applying your ideology to my experience?

I’m pretty sure you’d nitpick every single part of my trauma instead to show me why I’m not really trans, just a lost delusional lesbian.

And you have the audacity to say you love me?

Fuck. You.

There is no escape.

This is what caused my suicide attempt when I still thought I was faking being trans.

Your body was never the problem.

No, it wasn’t. The disconnect between my physical reality and my sense of self was what causes the distress.

HRT saved my life and has objectively made my life better.

Gender critical ideology left me with no mental health assistance, no support, and no hope.

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Also since I'm on the topic heres my akatsuki gender/sexuality headcanons. Under a readmore bc it's long as hell.

• Nagato/Pein - nonbinary gay (they/it/he)

Idk I've just always seen them as nonbinary. I think they've known since they were a kid. Also I wouldn't be surprised at one point he had a crush on Yahiko. But at this point he's too caught up in everything to even consider getting a partner. I like to think it was the first one to come out in the ame trio.

• Yahiko - cis bi (he/him)

Cool guys like him are always bisexual like cmon. Was always very supportive of Nagato and Konan being trans.

• Konan - nonbinary/demigirl lesbian (she/her)

I go back and forth on whether she's nb or demigirl but she's def a lesbian. I think it took her a while to figure it out but was relieved when Nagato and Yahiko supported her. Same as Nagato, she's too caught up in everything, although I'm sure she sometimes sits and wishes she had a gf.

• Zetsu - bigender (they/it)

White Zetsu is nonbinary (a little feminine leaning but not transfem) and Black Zetsu is agender. I don't want to think about them fucking.

• Kakuzu - agender gay (he/him)

He's too old to give a shit at this point. He's too cunty for a partner and no one seems worth his time to him.

• Hidan - cis?? bi (he/him)

Idk he's also known he was gay for a while but he was the kind of gay kid that was like "yeah I'm gay what about it?". I say he's cis??? bc when he was younger/first joined I feel like when asked for his pronouns he would've been like "the boy ones" but now that he's been around different ppl with different genders, when asked abt his gender he's probably like "whatever". Since he's from a smaller village I'm sure there's little education abt lgbt things and people so he's learned more being in the akatsuki.

• Sasori - nonbinary gay (he/they/it/doesn't rly care)

Look at him and tell me he isn't transgender. He literally took his body and turned into a puppet. Again, I feel like he's also known he was gay/trans since he was pretty young, but he kept it to himself instead. Knowing Chiyo, she probably isn't as accepting and Sasori knew, so he just. Didn't formally come out. Once he left Suna he went all out ofc.

• Deidara - trans gay guy (he/they)

For Deidara I think it took him a while to figure out he was gay/trans. I like to think that while he was figuring it out, he identified as bi, and when he realized he just wasn't into girls like that, he fully embraced being gay. At the same time he was also figuring out his gender. I think when he got recruited into the akatsuki, he had been on T for a little while and had either gotten top surgery right before he joined or right after. He was just a baby gay/trans when he was recruited. I don't think he formally came out to his village. When he left he was still figuring shit out. I think him being attracted to Itachi confirmed he was into men.

• Itachi - transmasc nb gay (he/they)

Itachi also took a while to figure out his gender/sexuality. He never felt like a girl but didn't know being trans was even an option until he joined the anbu and was around Kakashi and Tenzo (who I also both hc as trans). He was like "no way" and talked to Shisui about it, and was the 1st one who he came out to. He was accepting and supportive of course. He then like. Explained and "came out" to Sasuke, who was rly young and didn't quite understand fully, but was happy to have a big brother. And then for a while he thought about coming out to his parents, he was hesitant but did it anyways. Mikoto was taken aback but accepted it, but Fugaku was less accepting. Not full on "get out of my house" disowning transphobe, but he just was even more distant. He probably told Itachi to not tell anyone else outside their immediate family. So there came even more repression for Itachi.

After the massacre he decided to finally go on T. He kind of held off on getting top surgery, since he was getting more sick he didn't know what would happen. But he has a naturally smaller chest anyway so he didn't rly mind.

The gay thing I think was much more recent/took him longer to figure out. I genuinely think he realized he liked men when he met Deidara. Idk he just seems like the kind of guy to not think about partners bc he was preoccupied with a bunch of shit. He was probably like "oh I'm gay" and thats it.

• Kisame - trans bi (he/him)

I go back and forth on whether he's trans or cis but I rlyyy like the idea of him being trans. The thought of Itachi having an older trans person to look up to is rly cute. He's had bottom surgery. Idk that much about kiri but I'm sure they like. Don't care if you're lgbt. As long as you can prove yourself as a fighter you're good.

• Obito - cis bi (he/him)

He's bisexual bc he's obsessed with Rin and Kakashi.

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TERF misinformation going around - and why it’s wrong.

So I got some advice from @terf-tips (Satire account DW), @tifs-against-terfs and @uncanny-tranny so I’m gonna follow that advice.

So this is an ultra condensed version because I know super long posts can be pr intimidating, lets get to the point. Anon sends in repulsive ask to a TERF blog, I came across the ask while scrolling and found a TERF in the replies. TERF says that dysphoria is 100% social. I provide reasons why it isn’t. TERF then claims that transitioning never treats or helps dysphoria basically ever (while using some extremely transphobic phrasing mind you.) I was like “WTF no??” and gave resources, and told them to prove their claim. TERF made a post that for one didn’t even try proving their initial claim, and for another used incredibly dishonest tactics to try and prove it. I wrote a super substantial post debunking it. The problem? TERF turned off replies so no one could see my debunk, and it’s currently catching on in radfem communities. That’s alright though, because I don’t want to give any more exposure to TERF OP, so here I am.

Study 1 mentioned: “Proof” that being trans was a social contagion, IE “Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria” (If someone ever brings this up, laugh of them because they obviously see scientific research as a joke) -Research conductor did not interview the actual children, they interviewed the parents instead -The parents were all contacted through gender critical and radfem websites only, creating a huge selection bias -Research conductor’s work wasn’t removed due to “Trans activists”, they were kicked out of academia for being a shit researcher.

Study 2 mentioned: Swedish study analyzing long term effects of SRS -Study compared post SRS trans people to the general population which is not proportional or accurate and messes with the data’s findings -Study acknowledges that they did not correct for this and that the data is skewed -Study does not call for the end of transition, but rather that trans people should have also have other resources available to them for their mental health -The researchers themselves saw TERFs using this study as a way to discredit transition and made a public statement that their data should not be taken this way

Study 3 mentioned: not a study, an article from The Guardian from 2004 -Article too old to be considered accurate anymore -Data was even older and analyzed by a single professor -Data only shows that the older studies weren’t organized well and that the data was inconclusive, nothing along the lines condemning transition

Study 4 mentioned: TERF OP “cites” a report from 2014 -Just shows a screenshot of a conclusion which references the study -Didn’t list the actual study itself, nor the report which referenced it -TERF OP is likely lying and obscuring data -Shown conclusion itself just said that data was inconclusive

Study 5 mentioned: 2016 report on the medical status of trans people from the Obama Administration, TERF OP framed it as looking at all trans medical care -Only looked at the results of SRS -Only looked at trans people 65+ and on medicare -Once again, data was only inconclusive

If you see any of these studies used at all by TERFs, ignore them, they are complete bunk. TERF OP finishes their post with a long ramble about how they’re only trying to help trans people. My message to anyone who is trans or supports trans people is this: no. They are lying. TERFs absolutely do not care about you or your well being at all, if they did they wouldn’t be TERFs. They only want to make you think they care about you. Memorize this, if you are trans, or hell even just GNC, TERFs are not on your side, and they never will be. They may not explicitly say it, but they are fundamentally against your existence. Remember this and take it to heart.

Below the cut here I have in depth sources about the benefit of medically transitioning, and screenshots of the original debunk. Transitioning helps trans people, this is not up for debate. You don’t have to but I encourage you to reblog this to help stop the spread of misinformation. Take care and stay safe y’all.

TRANSITIONING HELPS TRANS PEOPLE:

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/ -ENORMOUS meta-meta-analysis on transgender people and the effect gender transition has on their mental health -Of 56 studies, 52 indicated transitioning has a positive effect on the mental health of transgender people and 4 indicated it had mixed or no results. -ZERO studies indicated gender transitioning has negative results

https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/134/4/696 -Longitudinal study on the effectiveness of puberty suppression & sex reassignment surgery on trans individuals in improving mental outcomes -Unambiguously positive results - results indicate puberty suppression, support of medical professionals & SRS have markedly beneficial outcomes to trans individuals’ mental health and productivity.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1365-2265.2009.03625.x -Meta-analysis of studies concerning individuals who underwent sex reassignment surgery -80% of individuals reported significant improvement in dysphoria -78% of individuals reported significant improvement in psychological symptoms -72% of individuals reported significant improvement in sexual function

https://www.jaacap.org/article/S0890-8567%2816%2931941-4/fulltext -Children who socially transition report levels of depression and anxiety which closely match levels reported by cisgender children, indicating social transition massively decreases the risk factor of both.

https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2015-03/tes-sdc030615.php -“A new study has confirmed that transgender youth often have mental health problems and that their depression and anxiety improve greatly with recognition and treatment of gender dysphoria”

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6223813/ -Longitudinal study which indicates transgender people have a lower quality of life than the general population. -However, that quality of life raises dramatically with ‘Gender Affirming Treatment’, the nature of which is detailed extensively in-text.

SCREENSHOTS OF OG POST DEBUNKING TERF (WARNING, EXTREMELY LONG READ): https://ibb.co/Rg6sP2g (Part 1) https://ibb.co/3hdgQVS (Part 2) https://ibb.co/8gTqWjk (Part 3) https://ibb.co/XCJTPDc (Part 4) https://ibb.co/7JyJM22 (Part 5)

#trans #transgender #trans discourse #tw trans discourse #tw suicice #studies #science #research #misinformation #fuck off terfs #lgbt #no terfs allowed #terfs dni #terfs do not fucking interact

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