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I have a lot of issues just kind of reconciling if i'm okay to express what happened to me due to being a trans girl who was being groomed to do things online for a trans and cis msn when i was 12-15 as well as being in a relationship with someone 5 years older than me at 14, cause i was desperate to not be alone. theres the added layer of none of it ever being local that makes me feel i dont have the right to complain too, another thing that makes it hard to get it out. idk

Oh I’m so sorry tumblr didn’t give me the notification for this!

But yes you can absolutely alright expressing that so long as you feel safe to, if you want to talk in private about it I’m here to listen but just over anon is ok too! I’m so sorry that happened to you, I know my experience isn’t exactly the same but I know how horrible this stuff feels and I hope you’ve been able to heal somewhat, I’m here for you friend!

#Sorry for the late response apparently this was sent 8 days ago #but I'm just seeing this today! #Anonymous

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Google how do I make myself unfuckable and scary so my father doesn't try anything

#vent #negative #csa tw #incest tw #rape tw #god sorry this is horrible but im so scared lol #i need places to vent brp #im so scared i cant stop him no matter what i try he just keeps grooming me and he obviously has a goal in mind #but if he tries anything he knows id report it id ruin his life so if he tried it hed have to fucking murder me after #what if he does it i dont want to die im so scared jesus fucking christ i just want to not die #this is hell this is hell this is hell #what did i ever fucking do to deserve thsi nightmare oh god please someome save me

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If God was real or dreams came true my father would be dead

But he's still here and so am I

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Sexual abuse has never made anyone stronger or better and if you say things happen for a reason I'm taking a baseball bat to your knees

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"It all gets better when you turn 18" and other lies that people told me

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Just in case anyone needed to know, you're not allowed to have mental illness as an abuse survivor (which wouldn't you know it causes mental illness)

If you're suspected of being suicidal parents can justify acts of physical abuse (restraint, taking away comfort objects or even necessities) as well as other types of abuse (screaming, manipulation)

Abusers will hold the need for therapy or help over their victims

If you're suicidal seriously or you are suspected of being about to lash out at others you can be admitted into a psyche ward from there your abusers are very easily able to manipulate your situation. In case of parents they might even be able to strip you of all your rights (see: Britney Spears)

And are you physically disabled? Well good fucking luck now shelters are inaccessible and your abuser(s) can take full advantage over your disability because no abled people give a single shit and will not check in on you.

Calling a hotline? Sorry they can only help people who will A) be believed by the police B) are able bodies and mentally sound enough to escape on their own with no support (and who have the money and/or transportation to do so)

So that's not a lot of people who are actually getting out and staying safe.

The people who want to help rarely have the ability to and the people who have the ability to help either don't care if you live or die or are your abusers themselves.

I just need people to fucking understand this pandemic of abuse in society and how no matter how many "it gets better"s and how many abuse or suicide hotlines you share it's not doing shit for the people who need it most.

I'm in the worst time of my life right now I'm terrified out of my mind every day and I'm dealing with multiple unchecked incredibly dangerous (to myself not others) mental illnesses and it's a goddamn struggle to stay alive. I exhausted every option went to every hotline tried everything just like I was told I should and it still did nothing for me. And it won't. And I have no idea how this is going to end bc when you are in these situations there's no such thing as safety and tomorrow is a foreign concept.

Just please for the love of god start caring about abuse survivors we're dying over here and no one gives a fuck and I'm so tired of it.

#vent #abuse tw #suicide tw #ask to tag

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Adding to that last part actually

If you say kill all pedophiles you better be

Condemning anti-anti/proshippers for encouraging pedophilia in the media and grooming minors in fandom spaces (it has never been nor will ever be "petty fandom drama" when ppl frequently get hurt by that group)

Not interacting with (and putting them on your DNI) cgl (a kink literally sexualizing pedophilia and incest) blogs and having no tolerance including daddy jokes or whatever which trigger people often

Being critical of media that sexualizes minors or makes light of pedophilia or adds it into the story for shock value

Stop supporting celebrities and public figures accused of pedophilia unless fully and without a doubt proven innocent (yes even if they're Lgbt+ or some of the ppl condemning them happen to be bad none of that is proof.)

Stop arguing with survivors whether or not something "counts" (I.e "it only counts if the kid is under 12", it was only a 2-5 year age gap so it's fine", etc.)

Stop censoring csa survivors talking about their struggles and trauma (so long as it's in an appropriate space) and saying it's the same as normal nsfw discussions (which takes any opportunities minors have to get help.recovering away until they turn 18)

i think it’s good for all of us to learn (myself included!) that momentary thrill of moral superiority shouldn’t guide our activism but like. genuine care for other people. all cops are bastards yes but what sort of language are you using when you talk about prisoners? we all want the socialism but have you helped your roommates with chores? when’s the last time you helped someone in your community? in your general living space? mood okay, kill all pedophiles … do you really care about victims of sexual assault and want to warn people about a predator or are you looking for the Zing of telling people off with little care to how your words may affect them ….?

#like ppl are so fucking disgustingly negligent with these things #that seeing 'kill all pedophiles' fills.me with rage #bc none of you give am everloving fucking damn what pedophilia actually looks like on a day to day basis #and it's sickening

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Y’all treat CSA like some ugly secret that the victims have to keep quiet about unless with a therapist and hide with all their fucking life and then wonder why no one ever does anything to help survivors

Like yeah of course no one gives a shit because no one is fucking allowed to TALK about it. What the fuck did you THINK is going to happen when you completely silence survivors of something?

[ok to rb]

#csa #grooming #cocsa #csa survivor

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#<3 #reblog #trauma mention

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“but the age of consent in other countries is…”

#pedophilia tw #YEAH #also age of consent literally means consenting to. other minors if ur a minor afaik #so the fact laws can be immoral aside #that argument isnt even accurate

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it’s going to be okay. it doesn’t feel like it, but you’ve survived everything life has thrown at you.

#positivity #recovery

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me realizing that even if I get a therapist they’ll never in a million years acknowledge im a victim bc it was a non sexual relationship online with a 19-20 year old which was only 4-5 years older than me

#pedophilia tw #grooming tw #negative #sorry for all the vent posting I'm trying so hard to be a positivity blog bc there's basically none but im #just. so. tired.

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I think more than anything it just feels hopeless to be a survivor?

Because it’s like yeah that trauma is over the abuser is gone and I have ptsd. All of that I can process, when you have ptsd you avoid triggers you give yourself time to piece things back together and you learn to love again and feel loved again.

That’s all great and you start to get into that excitement for recovery and then...

4 years later you’re doing worse than you did at the start.

Why?

Because your trigger is found in every fandom space, every social media, every friend group, everything you ever indulge in for the rest of your life, pedophilia WILL be joked about, glorified, excused away, and you will be berated for being sensitive to it.

There’s literally no way for me to avoid these triggers because pedophilia culture has pierced our society so fucking deep. How long do I have to wait before people stop making excuses at me when I try to protect myself and/or others? How many years do I have to go through before I stop getting all these emotional wounds piling up because no one gives a shit about it and about what happened?

And hell I’d argue rather than my abuser specifically (although he was of course to fucking blame) I also fell victim to our society as a whole for allowing it, for never educating me on staying safe, for making excuses and being lenient on what “counts” as pedophilia.

Society failed me and it will continue to fail me for the rest of my life and that’s a fucking hard pill to swallow because I keep waiting for the day I get better, waiting for the day that everything feels okay again, but that was robbed from me by assholes who don’t want to inconvenience themselves with the effort of unlearning pedophilia culture and stand up for me.

#negative #long post #vent #it just fucking hurts ok #I want so fucking bad to be over this and to recover #if society wasn't collectively so fucking horrible about this #I could have been recovered by now and doing alright for myself but #I can't #and I likely never will because the only way for me not to be affected by it #is to be numb to it and I can't afford to do that because then no one is fucking doing anything to cause change #there's just #so much wrong with society I want to cry how are we ever gonna get better #when this has always been a problem #i just dont know anymore #im so tired

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#aesthetic #positive #medical tw

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#aesthetic #positive #this blog can use some recovery aesthetics nhl #*ngl

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please tell me i’m not the only one feeling this rn

#covid-19 #covidquarantine #self isolation #abuse tw #neglect tw #im just so fucking tired #of seeing everyone freak out over this #when it's been my whole life and no one who has had the chance to has ever cared to help me

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All you wanna do is

Give a trigger warning because there's explicitly mentioned pedophilia in this song/play and no matter how good it might be there are survivors who will have a panic attack at best if they aren't warned please guys what do I have to do to get you to boost these posts I'm making please care about other people and boost this

[Six tm blogs reblog this challenge]

#six the musical #six #all you wanna do #please just spread this #i do not care if it doesnt suit your blog #or makes you feel guilty cause of cancel culture #literally all i am asking is you warn ppl #so they can choose whether or not they want to listen/watch it #pedophilia mention #pedophilia tw #im so fucking tired please