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Gut feeling, all good and fine until you feel like throwing up.

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How I Gaslight myself into getting better through wangxian?

When I'm feeling depressed and an imposter,

I remember Wei Wuxian who is always hungry for knowledge and being kind and standing up for his beliefs no matter where, always wanting to make change for better, all with the stuff that happened to him we all remember, he always stepped forward with a smile giving what he didn't own for himself, shrugging off the bitterness and pain to allow more space in his heart.

When there's inner conflict or anxiousness bubbling, when I lack reason and resolution, when shame of my past mistakes leave me locked in my bones.

I remember Wangji who made mistakes not knowing better, who lost and yet chose to stand up anyways, to learn again despite knowing he's not coming back (we're glad he did), who honoured his love and himself by choosing to live , not because life's been kind to him or it was easier but because it wasn't, instead he tried to make life kinder for juniors. He didn't drown in his mistakes but used it as an opportunity to grow into the person he can approve himself of, for the lost love who will never be able to witness that. ( if not for the resurrection that happened)

Their surroundings were muddy but they emerged like a lotus, the world was burning but winter brought its sooth.

They lived and found each other, not because situation or emotions let them, but because they wanted to, they chose to make the best of what's left and now look at what they made for themselves and together.

So, what's stopping me from making a better life for myself despite, despite.

#they made individual choices #with same virtue #they found each other after finding themselves #They might be fictional but someone thought about their existence and made it happen #Hope doesn't have to be tethered in reality #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mdzs #wei wuxian #mdzs wei wuxian #mo dao zu shi #mxtx #wei ying #lan wangji

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To all the guys who are quite bitter, upset and exhausted of worrying about getting falsely accused in gyms, We understand.

And i hope it also allowed you a small insight of this exhausting and unfair deal where you have to be wary of the 'whole basket' because of few 'bad' apples.

Just in case, next time you wonder why so many women feel the same way almost everywhere.

#nonfiction #non fandom

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Istg if i hear anyone call "Jiang Yanli" foolish or weak you're gonna catch some hands.

She, after many ups and downs married the love of her life only for him to be murdered by her adopted brother (what she heard with no knowledge of circumstance, ofc who in Jin clan would tell her 'oh, we planned to kill your brother and it accidentally went off track, sorry about that and your loss') and giving up her life to save him, the said murderer of her husband who left her child fatherless without a shred of doubt or hesitation, my god even leaving behind her child in care of her brother and people who'll love him in her steed,

Why?

Because she trusts him and knows that no matter what happens, even when he's walking dark path, even though many people fear him, he's still her little xianxian in heart who will never deliberately hurt her. She loves him and listen carefully, she trusts his love for her.

Something Jiang cheng wasn't able to do.

Both Jiang Yanli and Jiang cheng lost their parents and home but greatly different way of dealing with it. She understood that the circumstances were to blame, nothing was unavoidable with the simmering cruelty of Wen and their power play,

I'm not assuming she never felt hopeless or angry even, but she knew better to not let it out on one's who are not to be blamed, especially on loved one's afterall it's war, there's only loss no gain. Words hurt (observed by watching her mother) and lack of them too (her father).

It's not like she lacked voice which is pretty clear when she stood up for Wei Ying but she did her best to use it wisely.

In the end everyone lost but most importantly everyone tried, and until the end of time she tried to forgive and trust what was left of her family.

You don't call someone who wears their heart on their sleeve, weak.

In the end no one could precisely predict what the right thing would have been for anyone to do, when even a single change in reaction of character would have taken story to a different path but even if things didn't end well, we can appreciate that she did what she believed to be right, she left fond memories even after her death, and maybe reunited with her love in after life.

In this trio of sibling, they all got the ending they deserved except Yanli and it's fine, MDZS was a tragedy to begin with.

She made a difference and maybe just maybe, she's happy wherever she is, because just like Wei Ying, she lived her life with no regrets.

#mdzs #mdzs wei wuxian #wei wuxian #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mo dao zu shi #jiang yanli #Yanli #atleast she tried #mdzs tragedy

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It's season we play crab with tap water.

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Wen Qing as ghost general.

It's alright, even my heart fluttered but imagine how different the plot would get, ohhh and golden core reveal scene, and how she'll be able to save more lives with her medicine and knowledge (because she'll live, kinda ), how it'll politically make it difficult for people to fear and hate the ghost general who treats people as well, the possibilities are endless.

Maybe they'll get a grip to shut up Jin clan because their sect leader is dying of illness (shush) and they need their help because she's best in her job (even if her corpse fingers are stiff to perform surgery, her knowledge is priceless), and the hundred hole curse thing as well, like she successfully performed a one of it's first and only golden core transfer surgery with her own knowledge alone in unsuitable environment, she's a mad woman. Damn.

All this would be difficult to attempt in canon because her life would very much be in mortal danger but as a ghost general, she can easily hand ass back roasted. Her knowledge and strength in exchange of her life (she burns to death, maybe the Jin clan were fearful of Wei Ying finding her corpse and turning her into a fierce corpse as well and how bad it would get for them because they acknowledge her talent and fierce personality)

Wen Ning would be eternal cinnamon roll who'll get to have memories with A-Yuan and maybe life would be a bit kinder to him with feared ghost general also well known doctor as old sis and the most powerful yilling patriarch keeping him safe from war, ofc few things can't be avoided but the possibilities.

#grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mdzs #wei wuxian #mdzs wei wuxian #mxtx #wei ying #founder of diabolism #lan wangji #yiling laozu #wen ning #wen qing #golden core reveal #i'm simping

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Fiction is a waste of time, you learn nothing from it

And you sigh heavily yet again over ignorance of another fool, so you sit back and wonder which personality would best suit to deal with this, ranging from Lan Jingyi to Xue yang.

#wei wuxian #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mdzs #founder of diabolism #lan sizhui #mdzs lan zhan #lan zhan #hanguang jun #wei ying #mdzs wei wuxian #xue yang #lan jingyi #mxtx #mxtx fandom #original

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If Wei Ying consider or threatens eating you then you are his family, for example bunnies, A-Yuan (little radish) and— Lan Wangji sksksksksk

If you feel threatened for your life atleast once in really comical way then Lan Zhan loves you, for example Xuanwu cave where he bit Wei Ying (the turtle beast can't even compare to fear of gods Lan Wangji put in Wei Ying with a single bite), A-Yuan drowing in mountain of bunnies.

In the end, being object of their affection is to prepare sleeping with one eye open.

#Sizhui is used to it now and who bets that even he have picked the same from his dad's) #yiling laozu #wei wuxian #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mdzs #mo dao zu shi #lan wangji #wei ying #lan sizhui #a yuan #bunnies #mxtx fandom #mxtx #wangxian #wangxian and their deadly love #uwu #bunny

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Wei Ying definitely considered Jiang Yanli as his role model when he first came to Jiangs.

#yiling laozu #wei wuxian #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mdzs #jiang sect #jiang clan #jiang yanli #founder of diabolism #mdzs wei wuxian #jiang siblings #role model #older sister

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Wei Wuxian really pulled Lan wangji's forehead ribbon undone and excused it as a habit of pulling pigtails.

As if this isn't the first kindergarten sign of wanting attention from your crush.

#mdzs #founder of diabolism #wei wuxian #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #canon #lan wangji #lan zhan #mxtx #mxtx fandom #mdzs wei wuxian #mo dao su zhi #wei ying #wangxian #lwj x wwx #mdzs lan zhan #mdzs lwj #novel #lwj #wwx

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Treat others the same way you'll accept being treated yourself.

#quotes #life #lifestyle #quoteoftheday #love quote #way of life #belief #uwu #art #hear me out #9 pm thought #thoughts #spilled thoughts #stay blessed #poetry #literature #original

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When a person finds a safe space after years of surviving in traumatic environment, that's when they are most vulnerable as the past catches up while the mind struggles to get used to the peace.

Wei Wuxian, with his contagious laugh and bright presence, who grew up in dangers of streets, abusive household of Jiangs and burial mound,who never shed a tear for himself, constantly worrying about others and fixing problems surrounding him with an easy smile even when death is the price,

Breaking into muffled sobs every night after screaming himself awake, shaking and curling into himself while Hanguang-Jun holds him close, warms his icy feet and tips of fingers all while humming their song until he falls back asleep, only to remember nothing about it next day as he smiles again, facing the world holding his safe place, his home.

Hanguang-Jun watch with softness in his eyes as Wei Ying falls back asleep with a small smile and tear stained face to their song as if lulled back into a good dream, using his sleeve to wipe the traces of another heavy night, leaving behind traces of beginning of healing.

#mdzs #mo dao su zhi #wei wuxian #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #lan wangji #hanguang jun #yiling laozu #prompt #hurt/comfort #jiang sect #mxtx fandom #mxtx #nightmare #trauma #mdzs wei wuxian #wei ying

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I've never bothered to think about Andrew Tate before in my life until his arrest, making me curious about so many supporting him even with allegation of "Human trafficking" so I watched few of his videos and stumbled on one where he said,

"Women claim to hate me but when asked why? Or how it's misogynist, they are speechless" (not in exact words but you got the point)

It's interesting because even I'll agree, I couldn't string my words together on spot but the thing is his comments like "men can cheat with multiple partners but a women can't or it's immoral" or " if i have responsibility over her, then i must have a degree of authority" or even better " you can't be responsible for something that doesn't listen to you. You can't be responsible for a dog that doesn't obey you, or a child if it doesn't obey you, or a women that doesn't obey you"

Being a women, it's mad hilarious rather than enraging.

A living proof that a guy can also fall under "Toxic feminist" label as easily based on his general way he addresses women, though it makes me feel a sort of melancholic fondness for him on the other side,

He sounds lonely and disappointed with women, and feels like the obligation of a relationship with a women is purely a responsibility which he's humouring only for his "needs" in return of taking responsibility of her "needs"

So he wants authority over them, because how else would you feel a child arguing with you all the time when it's your responsibility to take care of them and you clearly don't have emotional attachment good enough.

You'd want them to obey if they want your care (physical, materialistic etc), Like I'm not saying everyone would feel that way but you can't deny, some would and will agree and it's alright. Just imagine having to take care of your nephew who always mess your room when they visit every month.

He's a guy who have no idea what in the world it is to love, all his relationship advice and stuff is for "Friends with benefit" or very casual dating, and may i add 'only for his needs and his partners benefit' because he's a hot shot, he's got money and influence and safety so what else could a girl want!?!

His fault is to categorise all women in this category, to spread his experience as if everyone who want to treat women as responsible adult in the world is a fool, people who are deprived of good relationship or have been heartbroken and haven't moved on are most prone and he's feeding off that, "see, this is what happens. You are like this because you're to blame to think she'd want anything from you except money or your face and if you provide it then it's your reward to have authority over her"

Like, a pretty good time a failed relationship comes from personal flaw that's not endearing after the high of relationship fades for either of the partner which is mostly rectifiable but it's okay, we are young and make mistakes and sometimes you truly don't deserve it because your partner was the one who used you as a rebound or played with your feelings and that's on them and their consciousness,

Let's just forget about Andrew Tate, let's talk about you and how you are dealing with it.

Are you really gonna give up on goodness just because of one of many bad experience in your life, if that's the case then you'd better not say or comment "not all men" when someone is sharing their experience because then you are being a hypocrite.

I'm not saying all women are angels or not make mistakes or always accept their mistakes, or only want book fairytale from relationship but not all women just like not every man is an entitled asshole or assaults with an emotional built-in of 3 months old.

If you're doing relationship for money and looks and in return treating or getting treated as easily replaceable or not worth understanding and communicating and are fine with it then understandable and you do you if it works for you,

But if you come around claiming that this is how world works and there's nothing like deep respectful relationship then kindly pull your ass out of your rectum and consider a cozy therapy with all the money you don't know where to spend or talk to your friends and open yourself to understanding,

We are humans with instinct and critical thinking, use them wisely depending on situation and don't flinch away from taking responsibility.

I'll conclude with saying that in my opinion, the reason why so many couldn't answer why he's wrong in saying that is because, we know this is true to some extent but generalizing it like only your experience matters is where the problem starts, you are free to not believe in love but you don't have to call it fake.

Hence, ladies and gentlemen,

"Not all men"

"Not all women"

PS: if you disagree with me it's alright, you may let me know and we can have a healthy conversation that may give me more insight and correct my ignorance (that's why I'm sharing my thoughts) but don't come with b.s whining, you may scroll past.

#personal opinion #andrew tate #not all men #not all women #chivalry is not dead #constructive criticism is welcomed #feminist #this was longer than i anticipated #relationship