Just a lonely tower of shadows. Here I hide away from the world and plan my plans in secret. What will be seen when they are revealed to the world? Nobody knows, least of all me.
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I’ve trashed two of my blogs thus far, and wiped this one of all but 15 posts. I don’t have an alternate home in mind to replace tumblr specifically, but if I find an alternate at some point in the future, I’ll share the link on my DA account (Wodahseht there as well.)
Almost added more panels to meme, but this works. :D
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Commission for @wodahseht
Thank you for being so patient and kind. I know it was a very long time coming. I hope it turned out how you wanted~ or close to XD
Our WildeHopps in Zooptopia, hallowed be your ship. Your kisses come, your wedding done, on screen as it is in fanfics. Give us this day our daily fanart, and forgive us our edits, as we also have forgiven our critics. And lead us always into temptation, and deliver us the smut. Amen.
My father is a therapist and deals with this a lot. People come in and expect him to just “fix them” without effort on their part. And even the ones that are willing to work get frustrated at the time it takes.
Once I passed him an analogy he could use: Walk to the bottom of a hill, then turn around and walk back up. Which one took longer? Which one was harder?
It takes time getting to a particular mental state, and it’s far easier to stay where you are than to move to a different one. If you picture the hill as fairly steep with loose patches and obstacles in the way that can block and trip you up, then think of the therapist as a guide that can point out the safe path and can keep you motivated by letting you know how far you’ve come and how close you are to where you’re trying to go.
Another one:
Think of a ladder inside of a well. Some time ago you climbed down the ladder and got stuck in the dark and can’t find your way out (depression). Finally help comes in the form of a rescuer with a lamp (therapist) and they bring you to the ladder (counselling, lifestyle changes, and/or medication) and start leading you out. But it’s a long ladder, and the farther you go the more tired you get and the harder it seems to move forward, and the light at the top never seems to be getting closer. So you decide to stop climbing, maybe even let go of the ladder (stop the homework, self-improvement work, and/or meds). What’s going to happen? You’re going to get stuck where you are, or fall back to the bottom and hit it harder than before (backslides so often end up resulting in worse situation than the start *especially* if you stop taking meds cold-turkey. {{{PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE never stop taking depression meds because “they aren’t working”. Talk to your provider/doctor and if they really aren’t helping they can help you get off them safely.}}})
Anyway, whole point is: Both directions take time. Took time going down, will take time coming back up. The therapist will try to help you get to the top as fast as you are able to safely go, but it won’t be easy, it won’t be instant, and they can’t “fix you” - just show you the way to help yourself. And show you how to avoid falling back down once you *do* manage to get yourself up.
And unfortunately, therapists (at least places my dad has worked in the past) don’t usually see their individual clients more than once every month or two - every couple weeks at best. That’s why the homework is so important - they can’t be there all the time, so they are trying to equip you to improve and care for yourself. Then they can help you with the things you’re having trouble with and help refine the tools as you go along.
Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
A very key thing to note in that first gif: that reaction was at speed of instinct - there was no time to *think*. They instantly and instinctively reached out for each other.
Police training is about grinding trained response into level of instinct, so it makes sense from Judy on that front, but that’s not what’s happening with Nick. This may have been before the big wall comes down, but she’s already been slowly crumbling those foundations all through this.
From the start he saw his own crushed dreams in her, and - while that triggered the angry/sarcastic response of trying to tear her down - he can’t help but feel that connection. I believe that somewhere deep inside he *wanted* her to succeed despite him because it might mean he still had a chance. (While the other part of him wanted her to fail so he could say “See, it’s not my fault I failed. The system is rigged.”)
If you pay attention, after Judy wins over Mr. Big (and we get to see Nick’s shocked face) his attitude toward her changes *there*. The skycar ride may be where it can be acknowledged, but it already changed. Proof can be seen in the fact he didn’t jump into the skycar during chase, then turn to help her in. He wanted to get her in *first*.
And that is why his instinct was to reach for her - because by that point he believed in her.