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It's much less can as it is have to. Like yeah we can obviously but to a degree that also gives the impression it's a choice. We can because we have to, it's not optional.

When someone has a chronic illness or is disabled and can't work, they say a few common things.

It must be nice to sit around all day/sleep all day.

I wish I could sit around all day and not work.

I wish I could sleep all the time.

They don't want to sleep as much as we have to. They'd feel sick and sluggish.

They don't want to sit around the house all day not doing anything. They'd be bored out of their fucking skull.

It's so unbelievably fucking frustrating, but there's a fundamental lack of understanding.

They liken our lives to a vacation, imagining that it's fun and relaxing and we can do whatever fun things we want to all the time.

In reality, it should be likened to an extended hospital stay. You can't do anything and you feel like shit.

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Please stop using disabilities you don't have as comparisons.

I saw a video trying to explain that autistic people don't make eye contact because it can be painful for them (good, this is true) and telling them to "just do it anyway" is ridiculous, saying "you wouldn't tell a wheelchair user to "just walk, its better for you" so don't tell autistic people to just make eye contact".

But people do. They do all the time. It's well documented that doctors will withhold their ok for patients to get a wheelchair (which is needed unless you're paying out of pocket, because insurance and most public disability services like the NDIS need proof from a doctor). I've known people who can hardly walk and are having to fight because the doctor still insists it better for them to walk, even if it's painful and sevearly limiting their quality of life.

Then in the comments, someone pointed out that people do say that to wheelchair users (good, this is true) but then continued on by saying "unless you just don't have legs" which is just as bad as the origonal.

I had to fight to get my first wheelchair as a double leg amputee, and every wheelchair since then I've had to justify not wanting the "better option" (prosthetics) to the government so they'll approve me for the funding. Doctors and even strangers too, all want to know why I'm not walking, why I'm not using prosthetics all the time. When I go on trips with my family I'm told to "just walk" so they don't have to pack my wheelchair. at my own graduation from university I was chastised by the organisers for not bringing my prosthetics (because wearing them was exceptionally painful back then and i hadnt worn them in nearly 3 months. I had asked before if this would be ok. they knew) because the venue was accessible but not the part of the venue the graduates were in. On the topic of university they also put my class in the only non-wheelchair accessible room and held meetings i was expected to take part in, in the non-accessible lunch room. When I complained, I was told to just use my legs for a few minutes so I could get into my classes. Being an amputee with no legs didn't shield me from these experiences either, it often made it worse.

I have all 3 of the disabilities mentioned (autistic, wheelchair user, amputee). If you don't have the disability you're using for a comparison, don't use it. Please

#disability #disabled

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#taylor swift #ts ttpd #ttpd era #taylor swift ttpd #ttpd #the tortured poets department #the anthology #music #songs #favorite songs #poll #polls #music poll

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#taylor swift #ts ttpd #ttpd era #taylor swift ttpd #ttpd #the tortured poets department #music poll #the anthology #music #songs #favorite songs #poll #polls

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#taylor swift #ts ttpd #ttpd era #taylor swift ttpd #ttpd #the tortured poets department #music #songs #favorite songs #poll #polls #music poll

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I just found out that my husband does not have an internal narrative/monologue/dialogue/whatever. Since I do have that, my brain is absolutely melting. So I'm curious.

If you don't, or don't think you do, imagine talking to yourself, but without doing it verbally.

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#poll #polls #tumblr poll #tumblr polls #internal monologue #internal dialogue #brain things #mental health #psychology #maybe? #I'm not even sure what to tag this

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I just thought of something:

Can you imagine how fucking relieved Joe must have been when/if he listened to The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived?

#taylor swift ttpd #taylor swift #ts ttpd #ttpd #ttpd era #the tortured poets department #the smallest man who ever lived #joe alwyn

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"My face was gray but you wouldn't admit that we were sick."

To

"And I'm just getting color back into my face."

#taylor swift #ttpd #taylor swift ttpd #ttpd era #ts ttpd #ttpd spoilers #the tortured poets department #midnights #you're losing me #so long london #taylor swift lyrics #lyric parallels #ts lyrics #taylor swift lyric parallels

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The people saying that TTPD is so boring because it "sounds just like midnights" are absolutely wild to me because how dare an artist make more than one album that's the sane style.

Oh, wait....

#taylor swift #ts ttpd #ttpd era #taylor swift ttpd #ttpd #the tortured poets department #the haters are really having to reach aren't they? #wah she's doing the same thing that almost every other artist does! #wah she found a style she likes! #fuck off

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👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

When someone has a chronic illness or is disabled and can't work, they say a few common things.

It must be nice to sit around all day/sleep all day.

I wish I could sit around all day and not work.

I wish I could sleep all the time.

They don't want to sleep as much as we have to. They'd feel sick and sluggish.

They don't want to sit around the house all day not doing anything. They'd be bored out of their fucking skull.

It's so unbelievably fucking frustrating, but there's a fundamental lack of understanding.

They liken our lives to a vacation, imagining that it's fun and relaxing and we can do whatever fun things we want to all the time.

In reality, it should be likened to an extended hospital stay. You can't do anything and you feel like shit.

#disability #ableism #chronic illness #chronic pain #chronic disability #chronically ill #chronically disabled #disabled #disabilities #invisible disability #physical disability #disabilties #chronic fatigue syndrome #cfs #cfs/me #me/cfs #myalgic encephalomyelitis

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Taylor Swift - Who's Afraid of Little Old Me?

#taylor swift #taylor swift ttpd #ttpd taylor swift #ttpd era #ts ttpd #ttpd spoilers #ttpd #the tortured poets department #who's afraid of little old me? #edit #my edit #taylor swift lyrics #ts11 #ts11 lyrics

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THIS IS SO HARD

1. Who's Afraid of Little Old Me?

2. The Prophecy

3. Cassandra

Honorable mentions:

Down Bad

Florida!!!

I Can Do It With A Broken Heart

reblog with your top 3 songs from ttpd

I'll go first, 1. I can go with a broken heart 2. So long london 3. Who's afraid of little old me?

#taylor swift #ttpd #ts ttpd #ttpd era #ttpd taylor swift #taylor swift ttpd #the tortured poets department

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YES I was hoping so much that someone else felt this comparison too. For me it's:

I wanna snarl and show you just how disturbed this has made me

You wouldn't last an hour in the asylum where they raised me

Cause most of my childhood was abusive, and that's had such a massive effect on me as a person but it's impossibly rare that I allow people to see the full extent of how badly it fucked me up.

Nobody sees it, because it's bad and its indecent and it makes people uncomfortable but it's like... the foundation of my being was formed in a toxic, fucked up environment.

“i was tame i was gentle till the circus life made me mean / don’t you worry folks we took out all her teeth” “i want to snarl and show you just how disturbed this has made me” “cause you lured me and you hurt me and you taught me / you caged me and then you called me crazy / i am what i am cause you trained me”

i know everyone’s talking about how “who’s afraid of little old me?” is about criticism from the public, but considering i am not a celebrity, my mind immediately went to being in an abusive environment. your abusers getting upset when you fight back but it’s like you made me this way!! the gaslighting into making you believe you’re the worst person ever because you actually have broken down and can’t take it anymore. i only know exactly how to be submissive as well as fight back because your abuse has taught me how to respond to you. and once you have left that environment the amount of anger you feel and how you want to cause turbulence to the ones who have hurt you because it’s like all the trauma and abuse has created a vengeance streak within you. like ugh i could cry!! taylor you’re incredible i love you <3

#who’s afraid of little old me? #ttpd #the tortured poets department #taylor swift

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It'd be really nice if all the people bitching about the album and saying it sucks could use a single tag that can be blocked.

I'd love to be able to scroll and be happy with other people who feel the same way than see a shit ton of posts about how it's terrible and she's an awful person and... ugh.

It'd be fantastic if we could just separate the two crowds.

#taylor swift #ttpd #the tortured poets department #i can't be the only one #on either side

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thanK you aIMee might actually be the funniest, most sagittarius thing taylor swift has ever done. she’s like “i’m clinically insane over this dude and everyone hates him someone lock me up” and “this other dude is too sad, doesnt want to marry me, and stole my youth whatever”

but kim k? fuck you kim k. just in case you forgot.

#taylor swift #ttpd #the tortured poets department #the anthology #thanK you aIMee