#you start a job you start meeting people

[naturally-dazed]

where's the erase bpd from brain button i need it

#im literally only ok when i never ever ever do anything self activating #its getting old my dude #you start a job you start meeting people #people want you to be social bc god forbid you arent #you want to focus on work but then work means you gotta worry about relationships now #then everything gets on your nerves and u get depressed for a year #you try to get close to family for an hour you spend a week recovering from the shitty memories popping up 100x per second #just want to sit on this couch forever ngl

[unforth]

@esper-aroon has enabled me, so here let me scream at y'all about The Imperial Uncle.

Okay, so I recently read The Imperial Uncle (Huang Shu) by Da Feng Gua Guo from Peach Flower House and I really loved it??? It's first person pov, mlm, about the Emperor's uncle Jing Chengjun, who is mistrusted by everyone simply because of who his parents were and his position, and so he's basically given up on trying to convince people that he's actually a nice, decent person without ulterior motives. He's super trapped by his position, and there's so much he can't say and do, and he's also a hopeless romantic, like, from his own mouth all he really wants is to sleep beside and wake up next to someone who actually gives a shit about him, and even that is basically out of reach in his life. Like, the book starts with his wife (who he has never once had sex with) storming into a meeting he's having and announcing he's a cuckold and she's pregnant.

But also, this poor bastard really thinks he knows what's going on and his very smart. Very unreliable narrator. He's actually kinda a hilarious, impulsive himbo. But the TL:DR is that his loneliness and isolation and the extent to which he's politically trapped routinely lead him to make absolutely terrible decisions.

E. Danglar's translation is absolutely gorgeous, too, and... idk, if you love political plots, melodramatic idiot main characters, a dose of pining, and a slow burn that eventually pays off, come take a look??? (some people think it's a love triangle??? idk, I never really got that vibe, I never felt it was really in doubt which of the two potential dudes he'd end up with, but maybe I only feel that way because I got it right, lmao).

Anyway, I can't stop thinking about how these two idiots end up finally finding each other and getting together, and I have an entire AU in my head (a modern corporate one) and part of another (canon divergent from like a decade before the book starts), and I just want people to love this book as much as I did and scream with me about it.

#unforth rambles #da feng gua guo #the imperial uncle #huang shu #the first au is jing chengjun and li ransi meet and have a fling during a vacation #and then find out that they work for the same company #hijinks ensue #the other is an au that starts with what if jing chengjun's father had actually been accused and convicted of treason #whether he was guilty or not #and his family was sentenced to death #but because jing chengjun is a youth he is instead made into a eunuch and forced into servitude to the imperial family #i know it's a stretch that someone of his stature would be treated that way instead of killed or sold off as a slave #i just don't care #anyway he's given awful jobs at first and they leave him weak and sickly but eventually it because clear he really isn't a threat #and he's allowed to help raise the princes in the next generation including the crown prince #and he also gets to know the other young people around the palace but as a subservient slightly older person #instead of as their elder of higher rank #and then liu tongyi is like okay so everyone thinks you're useless do you want to be a spy for me and help me uncover treason #and he's like FUCK YEAH #and love unfolds from there ofc

[malinaa]

i said it once and i’ll say it again happy place is pwmov’s spiritual successor

#it’s part and parcel of being an Emily Henry Book as well but the foundations are similar fr #starting off the book w some sort of established relationship that teetered off because the main mmc was insecure about his place in the fmc #’s life. the love that’s preemptively built in their dynamics… the loneliness both harriet and poppy carry. the way alex and wyn would do #anything to help them with. their willingness to uproot their life for their s/o as long as she really wants it #poppy and harriet’s dissatisfaction w their jobs. the way both alex and wyn think they weren’t even alive before they met poppy/harriet #sometimes it feels like I didn’t even exist before that. like you invented me 🤝 i thought i made you. just by wishing #<- LIKE CMONNNNNNNNNN #lit #people we meet on vacation #happy place #emily henry #text #tais toi lys #THE WAY BOTH HARRIET AND POPPY HAVE TO WRESTLE WITH *THEIR* OWN WANTS. THEY HAVE TO FIGURE IT OUT THEMSELVES AND DEAR GOD IT’S MAKING ME ILL #*

[orcelito]

Opening the local bubble tea store absolutely livid and shaking in rage and upset bc my bitch ass boss is too concerned about us sitting on the job to order the tea bags I requested Two Fucking Weeks Ago (it only takes like 4 or 5 days to ship) and so we're out and I had to hand wash the 1 reusable bag to make black tea and I have to strain the free floating tea leaves from the cold brew and I just KNOWWWW he's going to have something more to bitch about because he always does

Last straw on the camel's back, etc etc, I want to put in my two weeks notice by the end of this week. That's a goal for myself.

#speculation nation #i currently dont have a job lined up but im going to start applying Today #because i cant take this anymore. i cant fucking take this anymore. #i feel like im about to shatter from the strain of hos chokehold #8 years total under his thumb and for What? he doesnt appreciate me. he doesnt value me. #he's an asshole this place sucks and it makes me so sad because i really do care about the people here #but i cant. i cant fucking do it anymore. #im really glad im alone on shift rn bc ha ha ha. ill put up the mask for customers but i am #genuinely shaking rn. im so upset. #this being after he complained Again about people sitting on the job during the meeting last night like #shut UPPPP I DONT CAAAARE #YOU TRY WORKING WITH CHRONIC PAIN AND FATIGUE AND A JOB THAT DOESNT GIVE GENUINE BREAKS #'oh if you need to take a break then do it but just dont sit down on the job“ #WHEN DO YOU THINK I COULD TAKE MY BREAK? IM WORKING ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!+ #and when im.not working alone im working with trainees so i still cant leave the store unattended #im sick of him.im so sick of him and im THIIIIIIIIIS close to just breaking down here and now #i hate him i hate him i hate him i hate him i HATE HIM #negative/ #sorry for the vent i just feel like.im about to blow up and everyone's busy so ic cant. vent properly #im not even done opening bc im too busy freaking out and pacing and being angry #and hes gonna watch me sitting here thru the cameras and be like Ho Hum Look at you immediately doing what i said not to #like fucking STOP!!!! WATCHING US!!!!!!! YOU FUCKING CREEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #IM SO SICK OF HIM WATCHING US THROUGH THE CAMERAS. HE HAS NO TRUST IN ME DOING MY JOB #0 value for me as a person or employee 0 value for my to this day dedication to this company #i want to send my heel through those front windows. watch them shatter. wreck the whole place #because fuck this place and fuck him #i wontttt bc i dont wanna go to jail lol but the temptation is there. i fucking hate his guts. #im going to put in my 2 weeks by the end of this week. im going to start applying to places Today. just fucking watch me.

[littlecutiexox]

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#your number one priority as an employer should be making sure your employees are happy and work is being done #how do people think its okay to start a meeting with ‘due to everyones paycheck not being certain next month’ #like #fuck #thanks thats not putting any anxiety on to me at all #they started going on about redundancy #i think you don’t qualify for redundancy unless youve been there for 15 years #the oldest member of the team has been there for 5/6 years max #how is everyone in the team not meant to freak out exactly? #people have rent to pay #sorry besties im freaking out #mega sucks too because i was massively enjoying this job and finally found myself excelling expectations #like really i live month to month and i am not the only one #how are we meant to live? #i better start applying to jobs #this makes it soo much worse that i refused the other job offer i had 2 months ago because i was most likely going to get promoted soon here #noww theyre most likely shutting the entire business down #sheeeesh #update i was wrong #redundancy pay is if youve been employed for more than 2 years #so thats 4/9 team members that can get redundancy pay #ive only been there 8 months #but at least others can get redundancy pay for a couple of weeks

[whentherewerebicycles]

question: when you're starting a new job, what do you most want out of your first week of onboarding? what's most helpful for you to know/understand upfront? also... what's not helpful? tell me your onboarding nightmare stories too lol

#i honestly do not ever think i've had a positive onboarding experience #in my entire professional life #i guess for me a lot of my early-job anxieties are around expectations and 'rules' #like i want to know what time i'm supposed to be there and what time i'm allowed to leave and what the dress code is #and how the hybrid schedule works #so i don't make dumb mistakes right away #i also think i want to be involved in the real work as early as possible #like i don't have to be DOING anything yet but i want to be watching people do things and shadowing in meetings #so i can start to develop a sense of who's who and what the actual work of the office/workplace looks like #and also because i really value getting a feel for personalities as early as possible lol i want to know what the vibes are #hmm and also maybe most importantly #i feel like in any new situation i need a very loose conceptual framework to hold the new information being given to me #otherwise it's just random pieces of info you know? like it's helpful when someone is actively helping me fit information into a frame #like they're saying 'here's the HUGE picture - now let's zoom in and start looking at this one corner of it - and as we add new corners #i'll actively help you fill in the connective tissue that holds these different parts of the big picture together' #hmmm #my worst onboarding experiences have been when the person training me comes in and throws lots of #long complex extremely context-dependent documents or readings at me #and is like ok spend the week reading those and get back to me #and i'm like ?????????? #i have NO understanding of what my role is or how this organization functions #at this point it is not helpful for me to pass my eyes over tons of dense info without a guide to tell me what's important #i have no way of gauging of something is important or trivial and then i feel stressed like i have to learn ALL of it #even though i know that a huge portion of it will end up being not that relevant to my day-to-day job

[emblazons]

reading the nearly unanimously approved WGA strike announcement + the proposals/counter proposals between them and Alliance of Motion Picture and Television Producers (AMPTP), knowing damn well I not only have friends who write for the major networks insulting them with this “gig economy” undermining their union, but that every single writer on the ST staff listed on the official WGA roster…and we sure as hell aren’t getting that season until 2025 now:

#like….dude I know writing for S5 started last august but we literally know they write scenes AS THEY FILM too which isn’t allowed now #they’re also EPs on that show and their whole writers room is now on strike #which means they’re honor bound to wait for the strike to be done to ask for anything incomplete as of this moment #and with a FINAL SEASON? ☠️☠️☠️ #I will take a 2026 release even if it means we don’t get shit tv like the 2007 iteration of this oh my GOD #but also….pay your fucking writers dude. you make lucrative amounts of money #the added cost of meeting their demands is like. $450M total??? #thats literally one blockbuster movie to keep the whole of your entertainment machine going like #PAY PEOPLE FOR THEIR WORK! #and stop acting like wanting healthcare and job security is ridiculous! #Anyway. a n y w a y lmao #the me tag #st crew #stranger things

[girlscience]

played swtor one time with a stranger who invited me to a group (after accidentally stealing their dataport they had to destroy and giving them the next one): this is my meet-cute

#swtor #i have NEVER played a video game with a stranger before. it scares me. i don't understand how that social interaction works #but i felt so bad and awkward and like i couldn't say no #but it turned out fine!! we jumped at each other and did a few quests #and then i said i had to get off cause it was late and thanks for playing with me #idk if they saw it cause they didn't say anything back but hopefully they didn't think i just abandoned them like a dick #but now i'm like what if i met someone on swtor and we started playing together and never really talked much #but we played together for months and then we started messaging a little bit while playing like good job! and let's do this quest! #and do you want to do this heroic? and stuff like that and it morphed into a little more talking and eventually exchanging contact info #and then we fell in love? and we played video games together and did star wars cosplay together and idk what they would do for a job #(but i'm sure it would be neat and cool!!) and we could support each others dreams and shit and we could meet irl and kiss #and we could have a star wars rp and watch shows together and lots of other stuff #(ignore most of that is about star wars. i am obsessed currently i can't help it) #it would be cute and fun and i would like it and people would be like how did you meet?? and i could say star wars mmo lol

[anotherpapercut]

happy may day y'all remember that if you want to unionize your work place (and you absolutely should), the first step is getting familiar with your coworkers. one of the most important stages of forming a union is having conversations about the possibility of unionizing and what people want from a union in your workplace. you can't do this if you don't know them well enough to talk to them

#start to subtly implant the idea! try to find out about nearby unions in your field #or look for union stuff on the news #one of my biggest ins with a lot of different people has been 'have you heard about all the Starbucks unionizing?' #then the first library in missouri unionized and that became a great way to start conversations #also you must‚ and i cannot stress this enough‚ MUST be willing to put in the work #i have a part time job and a full time job and i give up an hour of my week to attend meetings #i have conversations with as many people as possible at work and outside of work when necessary #and im in pretty constant communication with the other organizers #our biggest obstable is that very few people will put in the work. weve been doing this for over 2 years now #and were like finally about 15 yesses from being ready to go public. after TWO YEARS #because people are ready to complain but unwilling to do anything to fix the problems

[13eyond13]

Sometimes I still think about how sweet it was when that anon checked on me last year when I was posting overly dark jokes. Thank you whoever you were, that was kind

#i am so much better now but last year was a bad one for me #there was a time in the fall where i literally couldn't get out of bed just because it felt pointless #anyway my mom also forced me to make a doctors appointment and luckily my doctor is super kind and got me on a good medication #but it also was just from stuff like losing my job struggling in school and going through the hurricane etc #im just so glad that i was pushed through that by concerned folks because im enjoying life much better now and that wasnt that long ago #anyway if you're struggling badly right now pls know its not hopeless #reach out for the help youre given and try to see yourself as worth it to fight for #take it little steps at a time #celebrate the small victories like having a shower or taking a walk or answering a call #the best thing for me other than the doctor was just finding ways to be around other people more #instead of feeling defeated i had to think of ways i could fix the loneliness that was affecting me so much #i had to get proactive like i started volunteering and started a book club etc #also i just made myself be very honest with the friends i already had about my struggles and it helps with feeling closer to them #and less alone in it all #because its not that uncommon to have those kinds of struggles and it helps other people open up about their own or just know how you are #the hardest things to do were the most rewarding things in the end #volunteering gave me a reason to get out of the house meeting new people and trying new things and feeling good about myself and #i had to remind myself that i was able to offer things of value and that other people like having me around actually #like the book club is something my friend group looks forward to so much and made new friends through and i started that! #even though i was nervous about it and didnt know if theyd like it at all #other people need you just as much as you need them and thats the truth bby #p

[birdmenanime]

Can you believe that the 2nd most important person to the story BARELY had ANY screen time of his blackout. WE SAW HIS BLACKOUT 3 WHOLE TIMES. NOT ENOUGH FOR ME TO DISSECT HIS GAY TRAUMATIZED BRAIN!

#pacing around the room crawling on all fours admiring the yellow wallpaper #we know it’s a bug we know his parents were entemologists we KNOW #that his parents jobs uprooted him from a young age and never had him learn social skills we KNOW that the job in south america #cost them their lives and caused Takayama to become what he is and we KNOW that certain bugs can fly and #that bugs are misunderstood. most people see bugs and freak out and you have to be patient and learn to like them #Takayamas blackouts always take up space and are ‘unsightly’ or mutated in some way #they’re impulsive and headstrong and lean with force and logic not heart #one of the bugs chanted ‘kill’ like it was the only word it knew. all Takayama ever did was fight and kill the trauma inside of him #and NEVER addressed it. kill the emotions kill the trauma kill the guilt #the second blackout was a mosquito a creature that takes blood and can cause malaria #the eyes VERY IMPORTANT were the same eye rings as to which seraphs get #tosses everything on the floor and madly trying to scramble up a connection #anyways. Takayama has done everything he could intentionally or not to kill anything human within him. he doesn’t know what hes doing or #who or what he is and it’s scary. he fails to save people over and over and he thinks he’s unsalvagable. #the real reason he reached out to the bird club was because he was lonely. so crushingly lonely. he can fight and kick the trauma #all he wants but at the end of the day hes the same kid he was the day his parents died and he became a seraphim #and maybe that’s why the third blackout is when he was about to finally meet eva. she is the only proof that he is real #eva is the only proof that takayama was once a kid. the only reminder #eva and Takayama’s relationship is weird but to me it I would say to Takayama Eva is like a mother to him #and eva used him from the start. #idk Takayama makes me lose my mind. have u ever considered how takayama #views himself as a bug. and the fact that bugs have never bothered karasuma #karasuma knows what Takayama is like but Karasuma has seen all of Takayama and still loves him #anyways how are YOU guys I wrote this while in horrible stomach pain. #birdmen #takayama sou

[the-eclectic-wonderer]

For the assumption ask game! Like you said in your ask to me, it's pretty hard to come up with something, especially something based purely on your fics, because we've talked about so much already 😂 but let's see...

I'm not sure how to explain this properly, but I think music ties into the way you love people? In a sense that you probably have a song for everyone you care about — and you'd treasure it forever if someone burned a CD especially for you

And I'm pretty sure you have a keen sense for the way people speak — in a sense that I *think* you pick up on people's little speech quirks very quickly and have a great time with it!

Oooh! These are both very interesting and insightful observations -- and both of them are correct!

I think music ties into the way I experience the world in general -- and that includes the people I love, yes! I definitely have at least one song/singer/even genre I associate to each important person in my life -- and sometimes even to recent friends or acquaintances. I also do this with characters and stories I love, but that's a bit more common, I believe 😂 oh, if someone were to burn a CD especially for me I'd propose marriage right then and there, ngl :')

I think you're spot on about the second assumption too, although it feels like something that should be confirmed from an outside source. I know I tend to pick up on accents very quickly -- whenever I spend even half an hour with someone who has a different accent than mine, I end up speaking just like them for a quite a while! 😂 it's not an intentional thing, just a thing I do, and it has been pointed out to me several times! Speech patterns and quirks fall into the same umbrella for me -- I pick them up easily and remember them well. And whenever I think about it, I have a lot of fun picking them apart and figuring out which phrases and cadences make someone sound like themselves :)

Kudos to you for your great insight! I'm kind of surprised these things can be picked up from my writing 😂 you're very observant! And thanks for sending your assumptions, this game is a lot of fun!

#hats off to you! i hadn't even taken these things into account when thinking of 'things about me' #but they're both very true! well done! #ngl the mere *idea* of someone making a playlist/cd for me is. i think i'd start crying immediately lmao!! #it's such a sweet thoughtful gesture! i always treasure things my friends make for me -- but a cd would be really special! #im taking your second assumption to mean that im good at reproducing the way characters speak? :) #if so that also doubles as a great compliment! thank you! #the most egregious episode of someone telling me about the accents thing was at the last job interview for my current job lmao #one of my current bosses thought i came from his same region of italy because of my accent and was *shocked* to find that wasn't the case #but i simply had some colleagues that came from those parts at the time and i'd picked up on *their* accent :') #i actually try to be mindful of this tendency when i'm meeting new people because i always fear i'll seem weird or uncanny if i pick up on #speech quirks too quickly #but it's a lot of fun! #thank you again for the ask. this is a really fun game!! #personal

[posletsvet]

So—

Being eighteen was great, can't wait to see what being nineteen will show!!

#no but truly #18th was the best year of my life so far #despite the insane levels of stress and torturous academic workload that going through the finals was #i started talking to people after years of proper communication with only my sister #for a brief while I was even brave enough to share my thoughts with the world #it was delightful #i made friends on my own which is something I've never been able to do before #i met you guys #my dearly beloved mutuals!!!! <33 #i made art and started feeling something about it again #i created so much I didn't even think I was capable of something like that #me and my friends created entire worlds in our minds #as well as loads of characters which i love dearly!! #i mean it's not really mine to call my achievement but it feels so incredibly special to be a part of something like that #i reignited genuine interest inside of myself towards life and even picked up a couple of new special interests #i read and watched so many great stories #oh yeah I finished school so good riddance to that part of my life hehe #i enrolled into one of the best universities in the country which still feels insanely unreal #took a gap year #me and my sister travelled on our own and were able to finally meet our internet friends which is the flaking best thing in the world #worked two jobs with an occasional third one to save up a bit #i'll be moving out of my home city this year which scares the shit out of me but is still so so amazing #there were and still are tragedies around me that split my heart in half with fury and despair #and I feel unfairly privileged to be granted so much joy in my own life #so yeah it's been one hell of a year #sorry for getting so insufferably emotional but I love all this so unbelievably much #i love you all folks :')

[freebooter4ever]

A friend called and something he said is nagging at the self-hating part of my mind....

I just...when im working i always use the excuse of 'im too busy to date' and when im unemployed im always too ashamed and depressed/worthless to date. That doesnt leave any moments TO date?

#Journal shit #I have to confess that a huge change in my thinking recently happened while volunteering #To explain why i was avaiable to volunteer on mondays now i had to tell them that i lost my job #And they didnt even blink #Just treated me normally or like they were excited because now it meant i got to help out even more and its just so fun being there #That once a month wasnt enough #They didnt judge me or suddenly act like i was a social pariah #i dunno this city is 90% fucked up people will DROP you as a friend immediately if you lose your job as if unemployment is contagious #Anyway i started feeling like maybe meeting people when i had time and wasnt working 24/7 wouldnt be so bad

[everymadara]

Chapter 623

#naruto #madara #madara uchiha #uchiha madara #hashirama flashback #+ hashirama #baby Madara... baby Madara...... *sobs* #yes baby you're really strong and talented we know and we love you #Also ''and cover many weaknesses''. On all levels except literal Madara is going into any situation he encounters holding a rifle and #wearing an iron-plated hazmat suit. #The fact that he grows so powerful he begins not to need it much anymore probably contributes to how full of himself he is lol. #You're a ninja which is a job in which you have to be so exceedingly careful and guarded at all times and he's deeply internalized this. An #he's also so powerful he can often afford to throw caution to the wind more often than most people he meets. I'd start thinking I was God #too tbh. #I'm being so much wordier in the tags of these flashbacks than I've ever been in most of the blog lmao #It's so much easier though bc it's easier to have takes about Madara while he's still in development than to talk about what he's like at #his final stage. Madara revived in the War Arc is just a natural conclusion of everything that's started here and I find it more fun to tal #about the ''how he got there'' rather than the ''there''.

[adashofniallandasprinkleoflunacy]

work today was fucking terrible

#they put me back into the regular rotation and Jesus fucking Christ it’s like I’m learning to do everything again from scratch #and that bitch brought a team of leader from her store in Cali and they’re changing everything and they’re forcing ppl #to do two person tasks alone #and they’re constantly on our asses micromanaging everything we do #so everyone was so behind bc news flash asshole u can’t expect us to be as fast and efficient as you are when you’ve been doing this #for 15 years and most of us haven’t even been doing this for a single year #that’s like forcing a first grader to do college chem #and i overheard a convo between my lead and one of the new ones and he said that whoever doesn’t meet their standards #is getting their hours cut so they’re basically forcing us to quit if you can’t function to their insane standard #and I’m so rusty after 3 months of just doing prep that I was just behind the whole time from the second I started #I need to find a new job now!! all the other girls are looking too like this is ridiculous #we’re not robots we’re people #I want to d word