Full honesty this ask from last February has done so much for my mental health lmao. Having a bad dysphoria day; voice compliment from stranger february 20th is there.
Thank you anonymous hero. Its really dumb that this morsel of kindness sustains me so much, but I never replied to the ask because I want it to always be there, in my ask box.
Can your singing voice get better when you’re 29 years old? Not that I have a good voice but I felt it sounded better than it did a few years ago... with no training whatsoever I mean
You can make your voice sound much deeper or higher without actually altering your pitch in the slightest (and thus reducing your risk of straining your voice by pushing the limits of your range)!
There are a few ways, and obviously this is not comprehensive and I Am Not A Voice Teacher (which is why I didn't say protip, I'm not a pro), but I was a (mostly) girl who got cast in male roles a lot, and this is how I did it and how the technique can be applied in the opposite direction.
The further back in your throat you speak from, the deeper your voice will sound, and the further towards the front your face you speak from, the higher it will sound! This can be tricky to get down at first, but the more you do it the easier it gets.
The best way I can think to illustrate it is to hum "mmmm" or "nnnn", and pay attention to where the sound is resonating from. Feel it buzzing in your nasal area. Do the same thing with "Lllll" or "Rrrr"— the vibrations change location, closer to your soft palate.
With practice, it gets easier to adjust with other sounds, and you're less likely to hurt yourself than if you try to hit pitches your vocal chords aren't shaped to hit.
The most important part, above all else: if it hurts, stop.
my top bit of advice going into the new year: compliment people. especially strangers. literally everyone you interact with if you can. when you buy coffee in the morning compliment the barista's tattoos. when you're chatting with a coworker tell them that by the way you like their outfit. always find something they've chosen to do on purpose. nail polish, jewellery, tattoos, hair colour/style, statement accessory, outfit, etc are all good bets. things people hope will be noticed. things that aren't too personal so it doesn't make them uncomfortable (eg probably not their physical features). i've gotten into the habit of scanning everyone i talk to for something about them that i think is cool so i can tell them. it's a great habit because it makes me notice people and realise just how many neat little details there are in people's presentation of themselves that might pass me by if i wasn't paying attention. and it brings out so much joy. you'd be surprised how much it disarms people to receive an unexpected compliment from someone they don't know. it is the most sincere smile you will see all day long. it feels nice to make people happy but it also means you win the social interaction. establish dominance by complimenting a stranger's earrings and disappearing into the fog
can i say something. for years i thought the joke of the song short skirt/long jacket by cake was that he wanted a woman who was hung like a horse. like i thought when he says jacket it was a last-second fakeout because he very obviously meant to say cock. and the rest of the things in the song were just her personality and interests. which were secondary to her awesome penis