#this is why i hate gay marriage. :)

[familyabolisher]

do u have any recommendations for where i can learn about this “disintegration of the couple form”? because it sounds fascinating.

i mean it's more a logical corollary to family abolition than anything else—the cluster of behaviours by which we identify the normative couple form (monogamy, then to varying degrees: intent towards marriage, intent towards cohabitation/split incomes/financial interdependence, cisheterosexuality, and so on) are highly contingent properties which are imbued with significance only by the social apparatus which organises and sustains the family. it’s impossible to meaningfully talk about “marriage,” for example, as a practice independent of the social + legal conditions by which it comes into being; it provides crucial legal apparatus for the nuclear family unit and serves as a cudgel for coercion in maintaining it via its various mechanisms of entrapment, and ideologically reifies this notion of a sole lifelong partner with whom you raise a child or children and thus stabilise the distribution of your property and assets/fortify the white race/etc. aspiration towards marriage, even between couples which may not wholly fit the “normative” bill, arises from the significance ascribed to it via its position in the ideology of the family. if the family is gone, it stops being useful. even monogamous couples who are at a distance from the conventional marriage-kids-whatever continuum only have a framework by which they can meaningfully think of themselves as 'monogamous' and behave as such because of the ideological logics thrown behind sex, romance, and relationships in the first place.

that, obviously, doesn’t mean that nobody will ever be in what we currently term a ‘monogamous relationship,’ but that the centrality of the monogamous relationship in the cultural zeitgeist around sex + romance will be done away with. like, it simply stops being a useful or coherent concept at the point of family abolition. this is true of whatever language we use to talk about sexual relations—gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, butch, femme, to name a few, are all terms which have meaning in our discourse only due to the contingent conditions which give rise to them. when the material conditions change, the language we use to ascribe meaning changes with them.

#ask #funny 2 say when i'm in a monog relationship but me + mar are v much on the same page about this so #this is why i hate gay marriage. :)

[dennisboobs]

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#absolutely do not want to argue because i get where the post is coming from with but im gonna give some thots #re: dennis autism!!!! ok!!!!! #ive talked about it before but there is WAY more to him being autistic than just the buzzer noises. when i first watched that i was like #is THIS really why people hc him as autistic. :/ and i get it! i do! i think he has misophonia inherited from glenn personally #its actually why i captioned the noise sensitive den gifsets as that rather than just. autism. #but personally i see his scripted social interactions and i go. yeah. me. me fuckin too. #and his outbursts. which are VERY personally relatable to me #i have uh. basically the same triggers? very similar triggers at least #i think dennis' neurodivergency presents itself differently because of his upbringing and thats why a lot of ppl go ???? when you say. #'yea i think den's autistic actually' #and like i said i was absolutely like. what the hell are people talking about. he's not autistic #but uh. on rewatches? hm. #dennis quite literally masks almost 24/7 #charlie has no qualms about being perceived as like. weird. but dennis masks SO hard. SSSSSSOOOOO hard #i once saw a post like. charlie has boy autism and dennis has girl autism which honestly fucking hate that but its... kiiiind of true #ASD presents itself differently in adults depending on early social conditioning #mac fights gay marriage. group dates. new wheels. dee day. celebrity booze. all the big ones. all the hits. #look how he acts when he goes off script and is forced to speak off the cuff #the way glenn describes him as being very emotional but unable to adequately express his emotions too like. yeah. same. #theres so much more than the noise sensitivity #i could go on and on about how many fucking boxes he ticks but i honestly hate that shit. i know how autism works and that bitch is autisti #im going to refrain from commenting on the reasons why i feel charlie is more acceptably hced as autistic vs dennis because mmmmm but #dennis being 'hypersexual' (not about the sex. at all) and socially adept (has scripts/systems. charlie is more emotionally intelligent) #smells a lil stinky. smells a little bit like infantilization on charlie's part. #ada speaks #ok ill spare you guys. someday ill write a proper meta on this. ive talked about it before but.

[sqlmn]

OC RNG stuff.

-Lucinda is engaged to the oldest prince in a family of nine where there are 8 brothers and then the youngest is the only girl. She adores her future husband. -Ink Blot is a really dumb mage who acts as a street performer using fake magic despite being an actual mage. He just wants to be the center of attention. -Ruby and Luce are from the same plot (thank you RNG I love the dream wardens). They're part of different pairs and basically just patrol to keep dreams in check. Ruby and Luce also don't really meet each other in canon. Their routes don't overlap but they both interact with the main duo which is Colette and Marcus. (Ruby wants to beat Marcus up while Luce wants to kiss Marcus for what it matters.)

#i really love luce hes just so calm and collected in front of marcus and colette to try and look reliable #but hes actually one of the younger wardens who is made to replace his partner's old partner #so hes with sil and sil is just watching him for the first decade like why is he so awkward #when will he warm up to me or the other wardens he meets why is he always so tense #and then something happens and luce is sent into a panic because he learns that marcus used to laugh with sil and the retired warden #hes like ???? WHY DOES HE HATE ME ? WHAT DID I DO? and sil is like the guy is older than me and doesnt do change well #thats all there is to it he got used to my old partner and youre a wrench in the comfort zone hell get over it tho #and when marcus laughs for the first time in front of luce it is SO over for luce he would do anything for marcus #but then you get marcus who is telling colette i have to say things took an unexpected turn with sils partner #i went from fine with robert to being abandoned by robert to do you think luce is cute cause i think hes cute #and marcus is very much IM SO GAY which is fair cause colette is like MM YEAH SAME #and then you guys gotta realize i love my silly lil prince group where the oldest bro has a really cool future wife #and then the second oldest is like hey bro im stealing your wife for the afternoon and lucinda is like i see i see #and then the second oldest and lucinda just spend the entire afternoon dancing and shes happy to indulge him #then the third oldest is the original main one where he and the castle witch are on a mission to help another kingdom #but like the fact the oldest has an arranged marriage with a woman he loves #and the second youngest is in love with the son of two castle aids #who happens to be 40 and very worn out with stress from having to turn the second oldest down all the time #then the third oldest has a crush on a prince from the kingdom hes trying to help but the crush is on like an 18 year old #so the 2nd and 3rd oldest are constantly bickering over what the other sees in their crushes #anyway hi i love my ocs (gestures to them) #and ink was a really minor character in the plot bc it was mostly me paying attention to a dumbass vampire #and this thief who had to help the dumb vampire get home bc he has no sense of direction and had been abducted

[llycaons]

something else that kind of annoyed me abt that fic was jc making vomiting noises at gay pda. 'its just bc he hates his siblings showing affection in public' idc like growing the fuck up? that shit stops being even remotely acceptable when you're like. 14. I know a lot of authors are in their 20s/30s there is no excuse for that bullshit

#if my 19 yr old sibling did that it would be really awkward and nobody would find it endearing or funny #if my 17 yr old brother did it in RESPONSE to my sinling being gay I'd have to sit down and have a talk w him #idk why this is such a popular hc its painfully juvenile and extremely offputting. ntm genuinely homophobic #in the same way there's no acceptable reason to yell 'eww' at a gay marriage. like if you hate marriage or w/e? its still homophobic #fic authors. please stop this. or at least kick him out if he tries bf he has NOT earned that goodwill. please please please amen #ben I saw your reply but I have to go to bed ill respond tmrw! #ficblogging

[hasarjunadoneanythingwrong]

2day’s newest fgo reddit nonsense is someone thinking ritsuka being surprised and asking if they get bothered by people because she and kama are be publically dating in school is inaccurate bc, and I’m not making this up ‘they make a lot of gay anime and manga in Japan so why would they get harassed by anyone’

never mind the fact that same sex marriage is still illegal in Japan, or the fact that lesbian relationships in Japanese highschools are only tolerated under the assumption that girls will grow up out of them into mature, ‘proper’ heterosexual relationships to the point Japanese gay media literally addresses this topic- but don’t worry they have gay media so definitely they’re more accepting than america!

#getting some real ‘failed English class’ chucklefucks on this post #which I knew would happen but still #i also hate this particular redditor for a completely different reason so having them be intentionally thick on my comic was almost enough #to make me teleport straight to them to force feed them critical thinking abilites #like I literally explained every aspect of the joke to them and they STILL seemed to think the comic punchline was ‘fem mc doesn’t get #why girl is hitting on her’ THATS NOT THE POINT YOU DIPSHIT #STOP BEING A NUISANCE FOR 5 MIN AND GO BACK TO HIGH SCHOOL #BC CLEARLY THE FIRST TIME AROUND DIDNT DO MUCH FOR YOU #jpn is lit the only g7 country to still have same sex marriage be illegal #and obvs that’s only part of lgbt acceptance but it pretty cleary shows that they aren’t like. some gay utopia??? #neg post

[quillkiller]

teenist tiniest bit tired of the heterofication of gay marauders ships idk. to each their own but im… rolling my eyes a little

#theres more to life than marriage and kids #i do love a good kid fic #i love the idea of marriage #but weddings and surrogacy ? idk man why are we subscribing to heterosexual values and buying womens bodies #dont get me started on adoption 🧍 #i think its just as simple that im actively against surrogacy and adoptions #i want to be married one day but i dont want a wedding #WHY ARE WE TRYING TO BE APPROVED BY HETEROSEXUALS IDK……… #is this too controversial #i mean i am a man hating hairy dyke who actively goes against heterosexual values and ways of living #it does not interest me one bit #broaden your horizons!!!!! life is beautiful when you realise you’re gay and dont have to make yourself relatable or understood #’we can change the meaning of marriage from within’ nah it was built on heterosexual and christian values #<— does not apply for fostering children #thats beautiful if you mean to be a good guardian #there are worse things in life than not fitting in #wlw ships want to be mothers together❤️ #mlm ships want to adopt/buy a surrogate and get married❤️ #what if i killed myself

[callixton]

watching company as an aro person is like. watch someone definitely on the aro spectrum be told that he’s not complete by his friends and face his worst fears personified abt being unloveable bc of his inability to form a romantic connection for 2 hours until he breaks down

#the break down is like. positive and so cathartic but . god #i should hate it so much and yet i’ve basically never felt more seen #i have a lot of analysis abt why being alive is also Not about marriage or romantic connection specifically #the whole show is abt the isolation of trying to depend on one person for everything. it is not an indictment of marriage or commitment but #- it is fundamentally abt isolation around people you care abt #being alive is abt bobby opening himself up to the pain of vulnerability/honesty #also he’s aro gay so. you know #the thing is that the textual reading is much stronger for him being either aro OR gay but. he’s allowed to be both as a treat #ted talks #company

[marc--chilton]

hello sending an ask bc i cant reply from my saw blog somehow but regarding your last post yeS IT’s what drove me crazy about your fic it lives in my head rent free!!!!!

the wind is howling outside. is that you. oh my god i asked that and it stopped don't be embarrassed i love that

#ask #anonymous #okay my own personal idea of what just happened irl aside #IT DIDN'T EVEN MEAN TO COME OUT LIKE THAT BUT SHE #i refuse to believe alison would like. Hate them #separately or together. like she probably has some. thoughts but at worst it is disdain #but the marriage was in a bad way for a while and after a point you tend to check out to save yourself stress #the bitterness towards them for finding comfort and love in each other is short lived #bc the more she sees them the more whatever they have isn't something she wishes she and larry had back #it's something that they just. never had. #and then she's like.... why didn't we? so then she's just examining them like mice #like lawrence isn't falling over himself onto adam or vice versa like larry still is pretending #(for diana for appearances for himself?) #but alison is perceptive #how those gay people in the bathroom got me into the mind of alison gordon baffles me. i love it #idk i guess she just gets brushed off a little too much for me maybe. and spite is a great motivator

[zhuhongs]

i need more dramas abt lesbians just living life and having normal jobs....

#watching kinou nani tabeta and like. its good but im always sitting here with gay dramas like... why are there only gay men in this world #why does this story enforce heteronormativity even though its abt gay men... why do you never even allude to the fact that women can be #homosexuals too?? like idk. its like. such a strange feeling i often get. esp here. i feel like everyone acknowledge lgbt ppl here #i mean same sex marriage is legal. which is great. first in asia but yea . its just always. gay men and im here... closted woman... yea #i always feel the need to like men. i always feel like aesthetically men are attractive but i really cannot feel anything past that... #its just incredibly apparent to me living with these roommates and going to school and everyone just reinforcing heteronoemative ideals. #girls talking abt wanting a bf and to get married as the end goal and im here like ahahaha. yea. that will never happen. all my roommates #talk abt male idols and getting a bf and how ppl hit on them and im like ahaha thats great. can't relate on any level bc im gay and no one #here will ever find me attractive. and i dont want them to!! but its like. how do i talk to u 😔 very alienating #alothough i feel like every 7/11 i go to has a bitch cashier and i love it sm. i hope they all know i adore them. sorry i dint pick up my #stuff fast enough. i hate using paper money but i gotta #🐌.txt

[lycanthropicture]

terfs are literally the stupidest fucking people on the planet i swear to god. gender neutral language does not exclude women. are you fucking stupid. you sound so fucking dumb. and in fact you should die!

#gonna start referring to all marriage as ''straight marriage'' even when im talking abt things that affect gay ppl as well #bc most marriages are between straight ppl #and so by using sexuality-neutral language like ''marriage'' you are essentially saying straight ppl dont exist #do you realize how fucking dumb you sound you fucking morons you fucking complete idiots. #i hate you i hate you i hate you #why do you all have harry potter urls you fucking freaks #LMAOO #tw transphobia mention

[sleepysun]

I hate this novel

tHEY FUCKING KEEP MISSING EACH OTHER

AND THE MISCOMMUNICATION

ML PLEASE YOUR WINGMAN DEADASS GAVE YOU THE CHANCE WHY WOULD YOU FUCK IT UP LIKE THAT

#nana chats #spoilers #danmei #danmei novel #danmei spoilers #chinese novel #the rebirth of the general who always sees himself as a replacement #i mean i dont hate it but the utter frustration because they keep missing each other and dont say what they mean #theyre so cute but god i wanna throw them in a closet and force them to talk it out #aLSO FUCK THAT PRINCE #WHY THE FUCK WAS HE REBORN TOO??? #NOOOOOOO #THIS ISNT FAIR #i stg if he fucks up anything im dropping this novel #and the ml #basically refused a marriage because hes gay so valid #bUT TO SAY TO THE MC FACE THAT HE PROPOSED TO HIM TO PROVE IT EVEN THOUGH THATS NOT TRUE AND HES IN LOVE WITH HIM #YOU IDIOT #just say you love him

[cheesey-rice]

Hi, xenophobe

Take your drama-thirsty, imperialist-musical-loving ass back to TikTok, there's literally no reason for us to be speaking.

1. I am a blog with 93 followers, literally nothing I say matters in general.

2. You don't know me or follow me. Nothing I say or think matters to you.

3. From the DM you sent me, that I replied to when you sent it to me, you're reacting to something a Chinese person said to me, because they assumed I was white while discussing China and Taiwan.

4. I am literally a 2nd generation Taiwanese immigrant. This is not hard information to know about me. It's all over my blog. My title mentions that I'm mixed race.

If you actually cared about xenophobia you wouldn't be harassing a random guy from an immigrant family who was literally talking about the country his family immigrated from and got called xenophobic for putting something about Taiwan on a post about current events in China. This is clearly an issue that you know nothing about and frankly I'm offended you're pretending to care about it.

#My family literally immigrated from Taiwan. I was talking about Taiwan in the tags of a chinese person's post and they were #yelling at me for caring about Taiwan 'over' other asian countries because i mentioned how important gay marriage legalization there was to #me. gee. i wonder why a kid with family in taiwan would care about gay marriage in taiwan. must be a xenophobic white person who only cares #about taiwan because of US interests! #<- brilliant mental math of OP. which honestly fair bc i hate white people on the internet trying to get involved in my opinions about #taiwanese history/culture too. and its easy to assume everyone on the internet who's talking to you is white #especially when they just seem to be repeating the most recent thing they saw an asian person say regardless of context or nuance. like you

[glutenfree-rootbeer]

I find it kinda funny when i open up a comment section and theres a circle jerk happening to hate on California.

Its so funny to me. Its really transparent. I dont hate your state at all bro, i dont think about it, i dont live there. If you think this much about california in your free time bud, i think you got a lil crush on her

Now kiss and makeup. Say youre jealous instead. We can all read between the lines.

#i feel like its like people who are super against gay marriage like bro just say you internalized homophobia about yourself and went so far #in the closet that youre stuck now #just say you hate it because people are free to live the life you wish you could #if you really really believed in your own state you wouldnt be crying about someone elses #rant #shitpost #if you find yourself angry reading this #maybe ask yourself ‘why’

[neverendingford]

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#tag talk #watching Monuments Men. I express that I don't personally find value in old masters and classical art. #get accused of thinking old art is inherently worthless and no one should care about it #hello?? just because I don't value the same things you do doesn't mean I think no one is allowed to value it #I don't hold enough intrinsic value for human life to work in healthcare anymore but that doesn't mean I think no one should??? #I don't give a shit about writing my own stories and ideas but that doesn't mean I think we should shut down Ao3??? #I don't get the idea of marriage but that doesn't mean I think we should abolish marriage and civil unions??? #I don't personally get why anyone would sacrifice their life to protect anything Michaelangelo created but that's not my choice to make. #ugh. I hate that my expressing a lack of connection and understanding gets turned into some sort of bigoted claim about how things shouldbe #it's not like a “I don't get it so no one should be like that ever” #“well I'm not gay so no one should be” #I'm simply recognizing that the appeal to emotion of the movie is an appeal that misses for me because I don't have that emotion

[goodbyeapathy8]

I need people to stop glorifying the 4B movement in Korea, from a Western (white) perspective. Stop it. If you are blissfully unaware of this (having not been on TikTok) - in theory, it makes sense. No sex with men, no dating men, no child rearing with men, and no marriage with men. But. BUT. Feminists in Korea are problematic AF. I know this from both personal experience (having been on the receiving end of their ire online) and everything I've read about them, in Korean. I see all these white TikTokers (and even some in the Korean diaspora) fawning over how "we" in the US need this and, no. If your feminism is transphobic, hates gay men, hates men in general, that's not the feminism I'd endorse. Why is Korean feminism transphobic? In 2020, Korean feminists ACTIVELY CAMPAIGNED AGAINST a woman who was accepted to Sookmyung University. An all womens' university. But she was a woman, you say. What could be their problem? According to Korean feminists, they didn't want a "man" in their space. Because she is a trans woman. This is not unusual for Korean feminists. Having lived there for 5 years, to some extent, I understand their anger against misogyny. But if you are truly against the toxic patriarchy that exists in Korea, you must also help dismantle military conscription because that is where a lot of men become radicalized, bullied, etc etc and "grow up" to be the most toxic form of men seen on this earth. But Korean feminists don't give AF about that and in fact, I've read a lot of them express that it's good for men to suffer. Guess what? That view is internalized misogyny and toxic patriarchy, too. And I don't want to hear it about the movement being so "young". Korean women have stepped up to the plate before in our history. We are capable of better than this fucking nonsense. It's a bunch of transphobic, gay hating radicals that have hijacked what was supposed to be about social justice. WOMAD (link is to the Wikipedia article, not their site) and Megalia are the two sites they stem from. It is the most toxic group of people I've ever had the displeasure to encounter online. Any form of criticism is, at best, ignored and worst - I've been "called out" for being Korean-American, and therefore, to "butt out" of "Korean issues". Amongst other bullying I've personally received. And yes, not just on forums but on public articles that I've commented on.

I know it's a catchy title and it appeals in theory but please, please do not glorify these transphobes and TERFs. They don't deserve your attention.

#4B movement #Korean feminism #south korea #feminism #TERfism

[morallygay]

big cheating supporter btw <3 fucking tired of the idea that cheating is inherently bad. it’s literally just a neutral thing which’s morality can range from ‘understandable have a great day’ to ‘unacceptable and reprehensible’ completely depending on the context, and the entirely social and arbitrary cognitive decision that it’s inherently evil pisses me off

#i wonder if me being aro and gay has anything to do with this stance /sarcastic #also like literally just. women. in general #<- talking about loveless forced marriages #btw it should be OBVIOUS but the distinction bw ‘ok no problem ‘cheating’’ and ‘not ok cheating’ has nothing to do with #the people’s relationship (technical. status) #and everything to do simply with the people’s relationship (literal. interpersonal) #if it’s a genuinely CHOSEN commitment by both parties with mutual promises of love and trust and monogamy #then yeah that’s what bad cheating means. but unless i forgot smth if it’s literally anything else then it’s different #like the very reasons why cheating is wrong don’t apply. which is why i hate people seeing the very word as inherently wrong without #knowing why #moralgayness