#this is what i needed today

[ohmygodthemuppets]

Hi its me again :)

The thought of teeth in drag couldn't leave my head and now I'm making a whole au around that one panel, so thank you for cursing me. A server mate picked out the name "Chelsea Cake" for Teeth's drag name in reference to his love for cheesecake so I thought you'd like to see how I expanded on the little design they gave him in that book. 💙

(Ps I'm making a dr pepper comic with this idea so ill probably slide in here again after I'm done ;] )

She ate, worked, boots the house down-

In all seriousness-this is everything-he also can't leave my head but I love love love that name correlation! (In the strip Sam called him "Professor Poundkey" and I honestly think that could be a drag name in itself) I would love to see where you would take this AU!!

And eek! more dr pepper!!! Can't wait to see it!!! 🫶🫶

#thank you so much for sending me this #this is what I needed today #ive literally just been staring at this drawing for the past 10 minutes #dr teeth #the muppets #muppets #art #dr teeth and the electric mayhem

[livelovecaliforniadreams]

Excuse me Hannah & Jason singing Shallow. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? DAMN!!!!

#this is what i needed today #god #tedbecca #ted x rebecca #hannah waddingham #jason sudeikis #ted lasso

[bunniebusiness]

I’m actively screaming and crying at this video

#newsies #the tears are in my eyes #this is what I needed today #tommy bracco #ben fankhauser

[jinchuls-moved]

tell me not to turn today's brainrot into a long ass slow burn series where i can just scream about neuvillette forever

#bee is feeding the rot #this is what i needed today #sweet nothings ˚‧⁺ ･ ˖ ·

[crusheswhimsandfancies]

Tomorrow’s Girls music video

#Rick being hella sexy in a music video #this is what I needed today #saw the video ages ago but needed to make the gifs #finally did it today #the rolled up sleeves #the way her hands slide down his tie #and he just looks down like he knows what’s coming #he is #music video #tomorrow’s girls #donald fagen #apparently they’re close friends #rick moranis #the kiss is so hot #I love how she goes right in for that juicy bottom lip #that’s what I’d do too

[mittenhater]

debbie and sheila bonding

#this is what i needed today

[love-toxin]

Ellie this is what I think of when i think of vampire babies with Eddie🥺 every single time🥺

https://youtu.be/x6_kB5nFUmQ

YOU'VE GOTTA BE KIDDING ME THIS IS THE CUTEST THING IVE EVER SEEN.....🥺

#itsrayyyyyyy #this is what i needed today #angel manhandling all her little bat babbies while they wait for daddy to come back with food 🥺 #bat!eddie munson #eddie munson #st 4 #stranger things #;links #anons

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[starwarjotta]

looking for someone on Tatooine

#commander cody #coday #cody day 2224 #codywan #tatooine husbands #looking for obi-wan obviously DUH #ARE YOU GUYS READY FOR CODAY???? #I've overdone myself and drawn THREE pieces for today like what???? #I did not think I'd get them all done but somehow I did #I'll post them all during this day with little gaps in between #cody my beloved #I gotta say #I've never drawn as good looking rocks as I did here #the ones Cody's sitting on like #THEY AREN'T EVEN THAT GOOD but I suck at any type of background shit so I'm so happy they look decent hahaha #I also live for scavenger/ rebel/ hobo -outfit Cody #and also that he still keeps some parts of his armor #just to be able to kick ppl and droids if the need arises ofc #I love Cody so much I'm so ready for today #star wars

[vsthepomegranate]

Born in Flames (1983)

by Lizzie Borden

#1980s movies #No Wave #Downtown NYC #Florynce Kennedy #free palestine #Gaza #Keffiyeh #intifada #civil rights #i said what i said #decolonization #I don't know who needs to hear this today but #palestine #Israel #israeli apartheid #ethnic cleansing #Vaporwave #Social Justice #supernatural #qsmp #mass effect #us politics #loki #one piece #taylor swift #the eras tour

[sleepysebris]

last minute predictions literally right before the special airs

#this popped into my brain today and I was out busy until 8pm #I NEEDED TO POST BEFORE IT AIRS BECAUSE. WHAT IF IM WRONG #im gonna wait for subs to watch it so #gonna go sleep and wake up and hope i can watch it hehe 😎 #miraculous ladybug #ml paris special #shadybug #claw noir #toxinelle #griffe noire #my ml comics

[jangmi-latte]

wait if he was a first year here and vil said he bulked up/grew bigger during the latest beanfest then...then what is this. is this not bulky enough what h..how big did he grow now that he's a third year..h-he grew bigger???? h-he gained more muscle now that he's older??? a-and he's still working out???? w-what do you mean wha..what i..i like...like he GREW BIGGER????????

BIGGER!??!??!??!?!!?!!??

#twisted wonderland #twst #pomefiore #rook hunt #i need to undomesticate him again vil we are not having this conversation today #YOU'RE JUST MAKING HIM BIGGER BY DOMESTICATING HIM #HIDING HIS BICEPS DID NOTHING HE'S JUST GONNA RIP IT OFF WITH ALL THAT MUSCLES #I DON'T EVEN WANNA THINK ABOUT HIS BACK MUSCLES #...fucK HOW HARD ARE HIS ABS NOW???????? #IS THIS WHY HIS DORM PANTS LOOK LIKE LEGGINGS TO HIM???? #I MEAN YEAH BUT THOSE ARE SUPPOSED TO BE LOOSE #ROOK THEY'RE SLACKS NOT LEGGINGS #OOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHH WHAT A TWINK OHHHHHH WOW HAHA WHAT NOW HUH

[obsob]

one thing u can count on me for is being normal about Some Guy

process under cut where u can see me losing my mind trying 2 figure out what i was doing in real time! :3

#mine #cats #original #i started colouring this last night and could NOT . get my brain to work #i like knew the vibes but i couldnt translate that into an actual physical colour palette AOAUGH #but i did kind of pop off w this one ngl. anyway #ive been listening to you cant do that podcast very good very funny hockey girls !! #i do need to listen to a boring white man podcast though so i can get . information . and not just who has been the most cunty nhl player #what else happened today. my tamagotchi evolved ! i love them so much #and i completed sm more crochet blanket! maybe i should post pictures of that bc its going to take years off my life i might as well get #sm clout for it

[bamsara]

Greasiest person alive in the ER rn and I'm telling you that if you have a 'car bag' (bag of change of clothes, makeup, toiletries, ect) go update that shit rn

ALSO GO UPDATE YOUR GO BAGS FOR TORNADOS AND OTHER NATURAL DISASTERS. This is your tumblr reminder. Put a bottle of water and ibeprofen in there too. Use a shopping plastic bag if you must

#sara shush #i need to find my post i made that talks about what should go in your 'go bags' and update it tbh #also the ER is not for me i am a caretaker today

[phantom-peachie]

hhhh,,, skyward sword,,

screams incoherently

#SKYSWORD NPCS SAVE ME #SAVE ME SKSW NPCSSS #I’ll maybe color these and post them on my art blog eventually #I think I went insane last night bc what is wrong with me this is sick #so many hcs i need to get on paper but alas I don’t want to #I just like sksw babies and found family #they just wanna be happyyy #but Hylia forbid these sky children live a peaceful existence #okay I have work today goodbye #skyward sword #the legend of zelda #legend of zelda #loz #tloz #sksw #zelda #link #zelink #groose #karane #pipit #skyward sword link #skyward sword zelda #skyward sword zelink #peachie scribbles

[chitinleg]

got him off-balance!

#my art #ds9 #star trek deep space nine #julian bashir #elim garak #garashir #watercolor #image desc in alt text #i normally post on mondays but. today im breaking my pattern! getting a little silly. getting a little wild. garashir jumpscare #“tumblr user chitinleg garak would neot easily let himself be swooped off his feet into a hug like that” yes i know BUT! #look at his expression. look at how his arms r pinned. he didnt let this happen LMAO julian just surprised him. grabby huggy human behavior #if you look really closely you can see the tiniest frown in the world on Garak's face. because he's like “EEP !” #cant see bashirs face at all in this only his body but i think we can all imagine that whatevers going thru his head. he needs this hug bad #ALSO. for anyone wondering what the fucked up shadow is that starts at the juncture of the teal sleeve-cap where its set into the armhole #the jumpsuits have a bit of a fold of extra fabric (called an Action Pleat) there which allows for a little more maneuverability of the bod #AND creates a really sleek and flat back panel #because you can see the fabric twists along the side arent grabbing the flat back fabric theyre grabbing the fabric folded beneath it #often times i think about drawing out a dissection of kiras first uniform and this voy era one for other artists to use. bc god knows #i struggled at first to find full body references #they like to shoot ds9 very close to peoples heads. and the camera is so blurry. they smeared butter on that thing. god bless